I shouted at my Aquarius man and I think I've lost him:(

I'm a Leo woman on the casp with Cancer! I'vr been dating my Aqua for three months. He has been good to me, always make an effort to ensure I'm happy, in turn I give him his space... he recently took me away and introduced me to his long time friend and always updates me on his movements. We spent an evening/ half a day together on Saturday. We went to the museum and came back had a nap,I woke up hungry and asked if he wanted anything his response and I quote ' I'm off for dinner with my friends!' I was taken aback! But didn't say anything, instead I packed my stuff and went home, on the way I sent him a voice note stating he should have told me earlier, I would have gone home & done other things! I basically said we need to have a talk and I will call him the following day. I called him the next day and without prompt as per usual he told me who he met, where they went et al.... I proceeded in letting him in a calm collected way that he hurt me buy arranging to meet with his friends while he was spending time with me - he didn't seem to get the logic and I flipped??told him he was highly intelligent, yet he was dancing around the issue...cut a long story short we ended the conversation peacefully laughing and joking. However.... he didn't contact me at all until I contacted him on Tuesday to ask for advice on my business. He didn't ask how I was which he normally does but answered my question. I've not heard from him since.... I'm worried I've pushed him away as he usually messages me everyday or every other day... what shall I do, has he left me?

Posted by Vageenka
You are such a Leo diva! lol

"I WANTZ ALL UR TIMEZ ND ATTENTIONZ ?"

Just call him and apologize for acting so dramatic and leaving. Tell him you felt taken back and that you're sorry.

Then let HIM contact you. If he wants to continue playing the ignoring game and being a sour puss then let him. You did all that you could to make things right and were forthright and honest.

He will get over it soon.

I like this.

Besides. .. OP is a LEO, and we act very similarly

though for different reasons.

I think he was inconsiderate of your time, OP

but I'm fairly certain he doesn't see it like that.

U said your peace , he will come back to u .. Some space is needed .. When he comes back , let him contact u , listen to whatever he's telling u about his day ..tell him about your day .. Next time u chill just remind him to communicate with u more .. Me being Venus Aqua, I can't stand when I feel smothered & I absolutely need my space .. Don't take it the wrong way

Update- He contacted me yesterday after 2 days of silence as I just gave him his space and acted as if nothing happened - I'm ok with that! After all I said my peace on Sunday, so I will not harsh it out again.You are all right I do owe him an apology for one or two things I said! I was a bit dramatic, but I was hurt! I have to say I've learned my lesson I will never come between him and his friends ever again.

He certainly doesn't see how inconsiderate he was with my time. However, I'm certain he will make an effort to try and change, he usually tries to make changes if he thinks he has hurt me.

His birthday is coming up on the 29th...I was thinking of getting him a day of flying lessons as a way of apology and bday present as he is purchasing a small plane!!! He randomly brought it up on saturday during breakfast and asked what I thought about it! Lately he tends to just randomly bring up things that he is doing.... is this normal— ( He is my first Aqua, so all this is new to me) Also he is off skiing for his bday, he asked me to go with him and his friends and I told him I could not afford it as I have just started my business. At first he said we would work something out... when I approached him again, and told him I need to stay and work he acted as if he was ok with it but I could tell he was pissed, which I found odd is this normal too?

Hm I also have a hard time with being confronted with my wrongs.. but its so important! A little advice for the next time you feel mistreated. Instead of "why did u bla blabla thats sucks bla bla bla" tell him "baby could you please inform me next time when you have other plans so I can go about my own stuff? A simple yes is enough. "

That way you stated your expectations and it's done with a simple "yes". If he doesnt live by his word u can screw his ass next time.

Posted by Leolady23
I'm a Leo woman on the casp with Cancer! I'vr been dating my Aqua for three months. He has been good to me, always make an effort to ensure I'm happy, in turn I give him his space... he recently took me away and introduced me to his long time friend and always updates me on his movements. We spent an evening/ half a day together on Saturday. We went to the museum and came back had a nap,I woke up hungry and asked if he wanted anything his response and I quote ' I'm off for dinner with my friends!' I was taken aback! But didn't say anything, instead I packed my stuff and went home, on the way I sent him a voice note stating he should have told me earlier, I would have gone home & done other things! I basically said we need to have a talk and I will call him the following day. I called him the next day and without prompt as per usual he told me who he met, where they went et al.... I proceeded in letting him in a calm collected way that he hurt me buy arranging to meet with his friends while he was spending time with me - he didn't seem to get the logic and I flipped??told him he was highly intelligent, yet he was dancing around the issue...cut a long story short we ended the conversation peacefully laughing and joking. However.... he didn't contact me at all until I contacted him on Tuesday to ask for advice on my business. He didn't ask how I was which he normally does but answered my question. I've not heard from him since.... I'm worried I've pushed him away as he usually messages me everyday or every other day... what shall I do, has he left me?

In my experience ( I'm a Leo and I've dated two Aquarius men) Aquarius men don't like to be yelled at. But it seems as if they don't get the picture unless you do yell at them. I know that Leos and Aquarius' are suppose to be compatible, but with my experience, things didn't work out. With both of my relationships the Aquarius' men always wanted to hang out with their friends. I too like to hang with my friends but its too a certain extent. I would much rather spend time with the person I am dating, or in a relationship with. Plus it seemed as though their friends where much more important then me, and you know how us leos want all the attention on us. (Not bad attention, but the attention we crave from our loved ones.) Also it seems as if Aquarius' are always so damn "busy bodied", they always have to involve themselves in things and they can't every sit down and just chill out.

I think you should just apologize and let him have his space. Aquarius love to have their own space when they need to think about something, he will come to you.

Posted by Leolady23
Update- He contacted me yesterday after 2 days of silence as I just gave him his space and acted as if nothing happened - I'm ok with that! After all I said my peace on Sunday, so I will not harsh it out again.You are all right I do owe him an apology for one or two things I said! I was a bit dramatic, but I was hurt! I have to say I've learned my lesson I will never come between him and his friends ever again.



****** haha...noo, big nono... Whomever comes in between me and my friends is in trouble, we value our friends more than anything...

He certainly doesn't see how inconsiderate he was with my time. However, I'm certain he will make an effort to try and change, he usually tries to make changes if he thinks he has hurt me.

***This will sound harsh ***But we do not care about nobody elses time but ours. 😉

His birthday is coming up on the 29th...I was thinking of getting him a day of flying lessons as a way of apology and bday present as he is purchasing a small plane!!! He randomly brought it up on saturday during breakfast and asked what I thought about it! Lately he tends to just randomly bring up things that he is doing.... is this normal— ( He is my first Aqua, so all this is new to me) Also he is off skiing for his bday, he asked me to go with him and his friends and I told him I could not afford it as I have just started my business. At first he said we would work something out... when I approached him again, and told him I need to stay and work he acted as if he was ok with it but I could tell he was pissed, which I found odd is this normal too?

Yes, Idk if aqua men are different, I have never dated an aqua myself ** But there is something here that is REALLY!! REALLY!! IMPORTANT ** I will not bring a person to my friends unless Im really interested on having something serious w that person. If i bring you to my friends, is because you are important to me.

Another thing.. We will always tell you all our whereabouts, because we like you...And you dont have to worry about paying... When I invite someone, " I invited them " Im not asking them to pay ** Otherwise I would let them know im not covering for it. If he said we figure it out, he will most likely be paying.

If he got mad, is bc he already told his friends that you was coming with him and now he will feel all weird when they see him without you (we feel kind of embarrassed on situations like that, I know i do)

Ha! I've learnt so much about his character on here that I know I have pushed him too far this time!

Thank you all for your advice🙂

I went to his on Friday after he had a long day at work- He stressed how his project was taking a toll on him when we spoke in the afternoon and I re-assured him everything would be ok after all he was handling it? He then had work drinks, met two sets of friends separately and then met me ( let me add he mentioned he had to leave late morning, which I really appreciated him saying!) so you can imagine he just wanted the fun me around, instead I was moody and non- responsive and told him he could write a thesis about my ass and kitty! He got upset , but I won him around... I apologised for my behaviour and we carried on smoothly. We even discussed skiing again and he repeated how it's not too late for me to still come! So I figured I would surprise him and move a few meetings around and go on the Friday and spend the weekend with him and his friends!

Morning comes and everything was great, I got ready and left around 12pm (I took longer than expected) as I had my own plans. We agreed to spend the Sunday (today) together seeing we were both busy Saturday afternoon. I voice notes him later that evening apologising for my behaviour the night before and being late that morning - to which I got no response. Today I thin messaged late morning asking if he was still up for the art gallery - to which I got a response this evening stating 'Thanks baby, I will give it a miss. Enjoy anyways!'

It's fair to say I can just count my loses right?!

Update- He messaged saying he wants to have a chat!!

Gosh... what now! Aquarian men are hard work!

Probably wants to end it - usually when I send that to a person I usually want to break up with them

Posted by Leolady23
Probably wants to end it - usually when I send that to a person I usually want to break up with them

Are you serious? If so - he is a whimp. Not a man!

Well I'm assuming he wants to call it quits! He has been distant and earlier he asked how was doing... followed with 'can we please have a chat tomorrow evening?'

Usually when I send that to anyone I want to break it off!

No, it takes 100 breakups to actually break up with a aqua.

They are no quiters.

Posted by Leolady23
Well I'm assuming he wants to call it quits! He has been distant and earlier he asked how was doing... followed with 'can we please have a chat tomorrow evening?'

Usually when I send that to anyone I want to break it off!

Or maybe he wants to set some rules?

Text him during the day. Something nice and heartfelt.

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Posted by whatisthisallabout
No, it takes 100 breakups to actually break up with a aqua.

They are no quiters.

Exactly! We don't just quit so easily. We stick things through, to the point of being called patsys. Unless we're completely fed up...we don't give up on you...especially you Leos.

Quit being a debbie downer OP.

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So her sufferings just started? Lol

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Posted by Gemitati
So her sufferings just started? Lol

Yup! sorry OP welcome to a whole new world, full of loving, hate, tense arguments, followed by awesome tension relieving sex..... 🙂

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this is very true

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Posted by Gemitati
So her sufferings just started? Lol

Yup! sorry OP welcome to a whole new world, full of loving, hate, tense arguments, followed by awesome tension relieving sex..... 🙂

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Who is in sex duty tonight?

Please don't be P-Angel...?

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Posted by Leolady23
I'm a Leo woman on the casp with Cancer! I'vr been dating my Aqua for three months. He has been good to me, always make an effort to ensure I'm happy, in turn I give him his space... he recently took me away and introduced me to his long time friend and always updates me on his movements. We spent an evening/ half a day together on Saturday. We went to the museum and came back had a nap,I woke up hungry and asked if he wanted anything his response and I quote ' I'm off for dinner with my friends!' I was taken aback! But didn't say anything, instead I packed my stuff and went home, on the way I sent him a voice note stating he should have told me earlier, I would have gone home & done other things! I basically said we need to have a talk and I will call him the following day. I called him the next day and without prompt as per usual he told me who he met, where they went et al.... I proceeded in letting him in a calm collected way that he hurt me buy arranging to meet with his friends while he was spending time with me - he didn't seem to get the logic and I flipped??told him he was highly intelligent, yet he was dancing around the issue...cut a long story short we ended the conversation peacefully laughing and joking. However.... he didn't contact me at all until I contacted him on Tuesday to ask for advice on my business. He didn't ask how I was which he normally does but answered my question. I've not heard from him since.... I'm worried I've pushed him away as he usually messages me everyday or every other day... what shall I do, has he left me?

He needs space. Aquas go away every now and then naturally. So in this case, he really needs his space. Aquas are stubborn and need to be alone to deal with their emotions. They don't appreciate anyone trying to push them to do something and will be quick to disobey (We are the rebels)

Give him some time. If you pry or push, he'll stay away for longer.

If you let him have his freedom he will most likely come back with respect for you.

FREEDOM is the most important thing to us and we will detach from anyone who threatens that freedom. That includes trying to control us and out actions. Despite being a 'water-bearer' we can be selfish about doing what we want to do. And we also deeply value our friendships with people. No one can stand in the way of that.

I get where your coming from and I understand how it was portrayed as insensitive. But sometimes we just don't think about it. If something like that happens again then you two need to work on compromising.

You compromising your emotions and him compromising his consideration for you.

The quickest way to get rid of me is to attempt to control and therefore compromising my freedom.

I hope that helps!

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Hi,

I have different viewpoint here. I am a Libra and I need huge freedom and space too. But honestly, that will not apply to the ones I care most.

I will sacrifice my space to take care of my loved ones. And in my opinion, this is human traits, not relating to any zodiac sign at all

Ahh! Tbh I don't mind the love hate just don't give up.... I'm a fighter and I dislike quiters!

It was not my intention to hurt him - I've no excuse this time around.

I wish I was on sex duty he is off to Chambre so the chat will be via phone later?

Update - We never had that 'talk' all I got was a message saying 'Sorry baby I was out with a ship owner will try and speak with you later!' That was yesterday at 5am.... I've not heard anything since and I'm not going to chase him either!

I cannot with these hot and cold games... He is a 36 year old man... I mean make you mind up and just say whatever it is you need to say- GOSH!!

Leo and aqua aren't the best match. There needs to be alot of compromise on both ends to make it work.

Make sure your not doing all the bending. Cause one day you'll snap.

Sounds like he has a lot going on, a full life, and you are part of it but you don't feel like youre a big enough part of it. Why dont you just tell him that? Youd like to be acknowleged more. The best way to get an aqua to understand you is to get him into YOUR shoes. would he like it? He may not realize what hes doing upsets you.

Maybe he doesn't realise it!

So I decided not to go away with him and his friends for his birthday which is today. I cannot help think he is upset over that- I explained to him why I could not make it... and he didn't offer to assist with the finances, so it is what it is!

He returns this evening and I sent him a birthday message this afternoon-mind you we have not had a conversation in a couple of days..So I'm not too sure how the message will be received.



Why are you Aquas so difficult to work out?

I knew an Aqua man who chose to stay in the pubs boozing on Christmas day instead of spending it with his wife and two daughters

He didn't understand why she was pissed off and threw his dinner in the bin 😄

Lol

Aqua men, hey?

Been there

Done that

Posted by Leolady23
Maybe he doesn't realise it!

So I decided not to go away with him and his friends for his birthday which is today. I cannot help think he is upset over that- I explained to him why I could not make it... and he didn't offer to assist with the finances, so it is what it is!

He returns this evening and I sent him a birthday message this afternoon-mind you we have not had a conversation in a couple of days..So I'm not too sure how the message will be received.



Why are you Aquas so difficult to work out?

They're not difficult to work out at all...go study the sign

They are not designed to be in one to one intimate r.ships....they are ruled by the 11th house...groups, friends etc. They are wonderful rebels and humanitarians...why would they want to be tied down to one woman. It is against their nature

Aqua the mad scientist, not the ardent lover

Update - I guess we are done! He responded to my bday message and told me what time he would be back home... usually when he returns from a trip I go straight to his! I figured that would be the case this time around until he said let's meet next week instead, not tomorrow or the day after but NEXT WEEK! May I remind you today is his bday!!!!!

I think his message is crystal clear, if we are meant to be together why would you refuse to share your day with me!—

Good luck OP....I hope it all works out well for you

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