Libralady1970
@Libralady1970
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Ignoring an Aquarius man
Bad idea.
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
Posted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
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Posted by sultrykittyI don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to mePosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
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Posted by Libralady1970Have you guys talked about this? Seems to me he should be made aware of how this is affecting you. I'm sure that regardless of the reasons he would want to know.Posted by sultrykittyI don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to mePosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
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Posted by sultrykittyI haven't come out and said " where have you been? " "why don't you contact me?" etc etc because I feel as though that would bother him lol but i have said things along those lines in a non chalant manner to gage his response..not focusing on his actions, but telling him how I feel when someone treats me as an option but wants me to treat them as a priority ....Posted by Libralady1970Have you guys talked about this? Seems to me he should be made aware of how this is affecting you. I'm sure that regardless of the reasons he would want to know.Posted by sultrykittyI don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to mePosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
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Basically, his response is, if I don't like that someone hasn't responded to me or doesn't make an effort, that's an emotional problem on my end, my own insecurity.
Or he'll disappear for the rest of the day lol
He keeps insisting that he wants to be with me, but there's a huge lack of consideration lately
Posted by Libralady1970Posted by sultrykittyI haven't come out and said " where have you been? " "why don't you contact me?" etc etc because I feel as though that would bother him lol but u have said things along those lines in a non chalant manner to gage his response..not focusing on his actions, but telling him how I feel when someone treats me as an option but wants me to treat them as a priority ....Posted by Libralady1970Have you guys talked about this? Seems to me he should be made aware of how this is affecting you. I'm sure that regardless of the reasons he would want to know.Posted by sultrykittyI don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to mePosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
Basically, his response is, if I don't like that someone hasn't responded to me or doesn't make an effort, that's an emotional problem on my end, my own insecurity.
Or he'll disappear for the rest of the day lol
He keeps insisting that he wants to be with me, but there's a huge lack of consideration lately
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....basically if his actions are effecting me, that's my own personal problem and subconsciously I must feel like I'm lacking something or I wouldn't care
Posted by Libralady1970Well this could be where the rubber hits the road. You can't continue feeling like an afterthought and it sounds like you're giving him plenty of space.Posted by sultrykittyI haven't come out and said " where have you been? " "why don't you contact me?" etc etc because I feel as though that would bother him lol but i have said things along those lines in a non chalant manner to gage his response..not focusing on his actions, but telling him how I feel when someone treats me as an option but wants me to treat them as a priority ....Posted by Libralady1970Have you guys talked about this? Seems to me he should be made aware of how this is affecting you. I'm sure that regardless of the reasons he would want to know.Posted by sultrykittyI don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to mePosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
Basically, his response is, if I don't like that someone hasn't responded to me or doesn't make an effort, that's an emotional problem on my end, my own insecurity.
Or he'll disappear for the rest of the day lol
He keeps insisting that he wants to be with me, but there's a huge lack of consideration lately
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You might have to get him a little uncomfortable in order to see what's really going on with him.
Don't beat around the bush, just let him know that you want him to initiate contact more often so that you feel like what he's telling you and how he's acting seem consistent. You don't have to be confrontational or try to lay a guilt trip, just matter-of-factly let him know how you feel and what he needs to do differently to make you happy.
If he storms off it's because he knows you're right.
Posted by sultrykittyPosted by Libralady1970Well this could be where the rubber hits the road. You can't continue feeling like an afterthought and it sounds like you're giving him plenty of space.Posted by sultrykittyI haven't come out and said " where have you been? " "why don't you contact me?" etc etc because I feel as though that would bother him lol but i have said things along those lines in a non chalant manner to gage his response..not focusing on his actions, but telling him how I feel when someone treats me as an option but wants me to treat them as a priority ....Posted by Libralady1970Have you guys talked about this? Seems to me he should be made aware of how this is affecting you. I'm sure that regardless of the reasons he would want to know.Posted by sultrykittyI don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to mePosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
Basically, his response is, if I don't like that someone hasn't responded to me or doesn't make an effort, that's an emotional problem on my end, my own insecurity.
Or he'll disappear for the rest of the day lol
He keeps insisting that he wants to be with me, but there's a huge lack of consideration lately
You might have to get him a little uncomfortable in order to see what's really going on with him.
Don't beat around the bush, just let him know that you want him to initiate contact more often so that you feel like what he's telling you and how he's acting seem consistent. You don't have to be confrontational or try to lay a guilt trip, just matter-of-factly let him know how you feel amd what he needs to so differently to make you happy.
If he storms off it's because he knows you're right.
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Will give it a try. Thank you
Posted by sultrykittyThis exactly, the aquas in my life are like this. They like their space and tend to get lost in their heads to the point where relationships are put on the back burner. I don't recommend pulling mind games like ignoring them and all that, it'll backfire.
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
Unfortunately I can't see bringing this up to him ending very well, although I also can't justify ignoring how I feel just to keep the peace. Feeling very alone in this relationship right now..... That's not OK for anyone. Thanks for your insight everyone
Posted by Koniuchaa—Posted by AerialViewLove it. Say bad idea then just walk away lol
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Posted by tiziani
Do you guys just not spend time with each other... unless we're talking about an LDR. Didn't really understand why it was about contacting one another.
Yes LDR, we do spend time together although not on a regular basis. We're about 1 HR distance, so it's not entirely difficult to see each other, although on work days when our schedules don't match up, it can be a hassle, so just wait for the days we get a good amount of time together.
How long have you two been in this relationship?
Of course now isn't the right time to have this conversation because the vibe is a little off. But after you take it upon yourself to rekindle the relationship with some sort of interesting gesture like suggested above, maybe you can talk about moving closer to each other.
But only is it makes sense for the relationship.
And I get what you're doing. Yes it can still be seen as playing games. But your reasoning for this post originally sounds like you were trying to get a reaction out of him
Of course now isn't the right time to have this conversation because the vibe is a little off. But after you take it upon yourself to rekindle the relationship with some sort of interesting gesture like suggested above, maybe you can talk about moving closer to each other.
But only is it makes sense for the relationship.
And I get what you're doing. Yes it can still be seen as playing games. But your reasoning for this post originally sounds like you were trying to get a reaction out of him
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How long have you two been in this relationship?
Of course now isn't the right time to have this conversation because the vibe is a little off. But after you take it upon yourself to rekindle the relationship with some sort of interesting gesture like suggested above, maybe you can talk about moving closer to each other.
But only is it makes sense for the relationship.
And I get what you're doing. Yes it can still be seen as playing games. But your reasoning for this post originally sounds like you were trying to get a reaction out of him
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Posted by sultrykittyIf he storms off it's because he knows you are right... lol.. good old stubborn Aqua... and don't follow, he will come back around with a changed attitude.. graduallyPosted by Libralady1970Well this could be where the rubber hits the road. You can't continue feeling like an afterthought and it sounds like you're giving him plenty of space.Posted by sultrykittyI haven't come out and said " where have you been? " "why don't you contact me?" etc etc because I feel as though that would bother him lol but i have said things along those lines in a non chalant manner to gage his response..not focusing on his actions, but telling him how I feel when someone treats me as an option but wants me to treat them as a priority ....Posted by Libralady1970Have you guys talked about this? Seems to me he should be made aware of how this is affecting you. I'm sure that regardless of the reasons he would want to know.Posted by sultrykittyI don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to mePosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
Basically, his response is, if I don't like that someone hasn't responded to me or doesn't make an effort, that's an emotional problem on my end, my own insecurity.
Or he'll disappear for the rest of the day lol
He keeps insisting that he wants to be with me, but there's a huge lack of consideration lately
You might have to get him a little uncomfortable in order to see what's really going on with him.
Don't beat around the bush, just let him know that you want him to initiate contact more often so that you feel like what he's telling you and how he's acting seem consistent. You don't have to be confrontational or try to lay a guilt trip, just matter-of-factly let him know how you feel and what he needs to do differently to make you happy.
If he storms off it's because he knows you're right.
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Posted by Geminiforever23Great advice !! What's your exs mars?Posted by Libralady1970Ha. I had that problem early on with my aqua ex. I told him directly what I wanted though. I guess the Leo moon played a part in this. I told him that it is important for me to see his text early in the morning when I wake up so I know that he thought of me at the start of his day. At first he got upset why I would never text him first but he realized what I meant. Since then, I rarely text him first. He would be the one to do so. The result in a way is good for him because:Posted by sultrykittyPosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
I don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to me
- He felt like a man in the situation where he does some lifting in thw relationship
- He felt valued because I explained to him why his text is important to me
As well, I told him that it wont take one hour to just say "morning babe x" so yeah thats him initiating a text early in the morning for 4 years. Of course there will be cases like when i travel or when we are in different time zones, i dont notice who texts first but when we sre in the same place, he does it.click to expand
Posted by Geminiforever23Posted by tizianiOn top of what I mentioned esrlier, I did this too. He had a tendency to be so busy so with no oarticular schedule to see me. I demanded I have Wednesday evenings. So he can work hard from Monday- Tuesday, I dont care. Wednesday he has to come home esrly because its date night and we have dinner together, have sex and watch a movie before bed. Thursday and Friday he can go drinking with his mates or whatever. Including weekends, he can spend it the way he wants. It just always ends up being spent with me or his son. It was much easier. Wednesday is mine. Unless its a life and death situation.Posted by Libralady1970Ok, well I sound like a broken record when it comes to LDRs but my view is always have a date to meet up next, have something to look forward to.Posted by tiziani
Do you guys just not spend time with each other... unless we're talking about an LDR. Didn't really understand why it was about contacting one another.
Yes LDR, we do spend time together although not on a regular basis. We're about 1 HR distance, so it's not entirely difficult to see each other, although on work days when our schedules don't match up, it can be a hassle, so just wait for the days we get a good amount of time together.
Without that, talking is just talking.
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Hahaha life or death situation! It's funny, we kind of help them set their routines lol... help them create the consistency in their life a little...
same situation with me with my aqua. my friend give me an advice to ignore him and he will running after me and its happen. i ignore him dont text him for one or 2 days and he text me like crazy. at the end he asking me if I want to break up as i didnt rrply his text and he try to.makes me feel guilty. mind games just start.
than I explain why I did that. than he said sorry and he will.make it better. let see if he really keep his words.
than I explain why I did that. than he said sorry and he will.make it better. let see if he really keep his words.
It sounds like a mouse and cat play. Aquas like consistency. I never questioned my Aqua's desires to see me or like me. I understood he is shy and prefers to be contacted, so I did it. But he will always initiate dates or visits. I only kept the "door" open. They need assurance to know they are accepted.
Posted by Geminiforever23This was gold to me! Thanks for the advice! worked like a charm!! 😉
I demanded I have Wednesday evenings. So he can work hard from Monday- Tuesday, I dont care. Wednesday he has to come home early because its date night and we have dinner together, have sex and watch a movie before bed. Thursday and Friday he can go drinking with his mates or whatever. Including weekends, he can spend it the way he wants. It just always ends up being spent with me or his son. It was much easier. Wednesday is mine. Unless its a life and death situation.
its so hard for me to figure out aqua man @compy or maybe i am the one which is stupid. sometimes i feel alone likes i dont have any boyfriend.
These MOFOS are very hard to deal with. Let him come around. Do not initiate anything. Let him text you or call you.
Update if anyone is curious.....
I decided to back off, make no contact but still be myself should he say hello ....
2 days later he did. He was attentive and charming affectionate etc. He initiated me... The next day he was gone again.... Next day... Gone yet again. Sent a friendly hello. He responded, but didn't show any interest in actual conversation. I tried one more time to ask a question and he Didn't reply for the rest of the day, although said good night hours later.
Following day 5 minutes of conversation , I initiated....
Following day, no communication at all.
This morning I sent him a good morning.... Nothing
He sat online pretty consistently
I sent him a text around 10am, still no response. Yet he's been online again quite consistently....
Actions speak louder than words and I have given myself until the weekend has passed to see what happens.. If we are still in this same place, I will be leaving as I feel extremely disrespected and disregarded at the moment
(The text i sent.....
Hey honey.. Just wanted to send you a message about something thats been bothering me abit, figure it's better to state it then act like its nonexistent. It would mean a lot to me if you reached out a little more. I feel as though the only way we ever communicate is if I approach you. I haven't seen much initiation towards me for quite some time now and it can make a person feel somewhat disregarded or alone in a relationship. That said I do hope your day is going good ? )
For now. I sit hear listening to the screaming of his silence lol
I decided to back off, make no contact but still be myself should he say hello ....
2 days later he did. He was attentive and charming affectionate etc. He initiated me... The next day he was gone again.... Next day... Gone yet again. Sent a friendly hello. He responded, but didn't show any interest in actual conversation. I tried one more time to ask a question and he Didn't reply for the rest of the day, although said good night hours later.
Following day 5 minutes of conversation , I initiated....
Following day, no communication at all.
This morning I sent him a good morning.... Nothing
He sat online pretty consistently
I sent him a text around 10am, still no response. Yet he's been online again quite consistently....
Actions speak louder than words and I have given myself until the weekend has passed to see what happens.. If we are still in this same place, I will be leaving as I feel extremely disrespected and disregarded at the moment
(The text i sent.....
Hey honey.. Just wanted to send you a message about something thats been bothering me abit, figure it's better to state it then act like its nonexistent. It would mean a lot to me if you reached out a little more. I feel as though the only way we ever communicate is if I approach you. I haven't seen much initiation towards me for quite some time now and it can make a person feel somewhat disregarded or alone in a relationship. That said I do hope your day is going good ? )
For now. I sit hear listening to the screaming of his silence lol
Well, after sending him THAT text, you have to wait quite a bit! You are actually telling him that you are seriously bothered by who he is and what he does, so you question him as an individual and you as a couple. You won't get an immediate answer. It requires some processing from his part. He will either fix it, which I don't think so, Aquas hate to being told what to do, or get even colder. It would have been better to address the issue during one meeting, not online.
As sensitive as he might be, this is a serious matter. I never did this to my Aqua. I let him be, made sure I was never too intrusive, didn't bother too much if he won't answer, but never expressed discontent. I only asked him face to face if there was something wrong with him or if he was in any way displeased. It turned out that he was feeling too low and retreated into his shell. The longest no contact was for one week and on his request (also for processing). And this was in the beginning. After one week I sent an elaborate "hello" and we resumed communication and of course we met during the weekend.
If you don't want to go on being public here, you can always PM me.
As sensitive as he might be, this is a serious matter. I never did this to my Aqua. I let him be, made sure I was never too intrusive, didn't bother too much if he won't answer, but never expressed discontent. I only asked him face to face if there was something wrong with him or if he was in any way displeased. It turned out that he was feeling too low and retreated into his shell. The longest no contact was for one week and on his request (also for processing). And this was in the beginning. After one week I sent an elaborate "hello" and we resumed communication and of course we met during the weekend.
If you don't want to go on being public here, you can always PM me.
Sure I'll send you a message. How do i lol nothing too familiar with that on here
Posted by saggurl88Omg you finally got the Aqua out of his shell! ?"Posted by Geminiforever23This was gold to me! Thanks for the advice! worked like a charm!! 😉
I demanded I have Wednesday evenings. So he can work hard from Monday- Tuesday, I dont care. Wednesday he has to come home early because its date night and we have dinner together, have sex and watch a movie before bed. Thursday and Friday he can go drinking with his mates or whatever. Including weekends, he can spend it the way he wants. It just always ends up being spent with me or his son. It was much easier. Wednesday is mine. Unless its a life and death situation.
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Update if anyone is curious.....
I decided to back off, make no contact but still be myself should he say hello ....
2 days later he did. He was attentive and charming affectionate etc. He initiated me... The next day he was gone again.... Next day... Gone yet again. Sent a friendly hello. He responded, but didn't show any interest in actual conversation. I tried one more time to ask a question and he Didn't reply for the rest of the day, although said good night hours later.
Following day 5 minutes of conversation , I initiated....
Following day, no communication at all.
This morning I sent him a good morning.... Nothing
He sat online pretty consistently
I sent him a text around 10am, still no response. Yet he's been online again quite consistently....
Actions speak louder than words and I have given myself until the weekend has passed to see what happens.. If we are still in this same place, I will be leaving as I feel extremely disrespected and disregarded at the moment
(The text i sent.....
Hey honey.. Just wanted to send you a message about something thats been bothering me abit, figure it's better to state it then act like its nonexistent. It would mean a lot to me if you reached out a little more. I feel as though the only way we ever communicate is if I approach you. I haven't seen much initiation towards me for quite some time now and it can make a person feel somewhat disregarded or alone in a relationship. That said I do hope your day is going good ? )
For now. I sit hear listening to the screaming of his silence lol
Mm.. best on your answer his action is very inconsistent. Not someone who is ready to be in a relationship or know what it takes to maintain one. it's obvious you are reading a lot into this and he isn't. Him ignoring your questions while being online constantly is. Not a good sign. If you are truly his girlfriend you should be put on the priority list. Even though Aqua doesn't seem to like being told what to do, straight forward is a much bettrrr approach. Or trying to understand them is a better approach... if it was me I would be asking.. * hey , I notice that you have been a little busy lately and when I don't hear a respond I feel a little hurt... I know and understand you do care about me but i feel a little disrespected. Can we please aim to have a better communication? . If you prefer for me to give you more space please let me know so I don't feel left hanging wondering what's going on, 🙂 have a great day! *
Aqua has no sense of time but that doesn't mean he shud be disrespecting u by not responding. Aqua or not, there's no excuse really.
Posted by saweetz1988I once asked my Aqua man if he responds quickly to messages. He said yes, even though he would do the opposite. I believe the internet era is overlooked. Our expectations are much more inflated because we believe the emotional response should be as instant as the internet connection. The mystery is gone. The time to build up feelings cannot be accelerated by the internet. There was a time when receiving a long hand written letter would keep you hooked up for months until meeting up again. We are trying to burn it too fast and forget to enjoy life and to harmonize it with our inner selves. There is no mystery in being hooked up online. Give space, allow some dreams and some desires to build up. Live low, live good, live deep.
Aqua has no sense of time but that doesn't mean he shud be disrespecting u by not responding. Aqua or not, there's no excuse really.
Posted by Libralady1970This sounds much like an ex boyfriend of mine that was also an aquarius!
Does it bother you being ignored?
Feeling like there is no effort coming from my boyfriend and starting to think this is unhealthy for our relationship.
He doesn't initiate conversation, use to all the time, now he responds and is sweet but makes no effort to keep conversation going and never says hello first. Talk about making your girlfriend feel alone in a relationship. I asked him if he still wants to be in the relationship, he stated he does, yet he seems like he could care less
My question, should I stop contacting him completely? Is this going to put a wedge between us? What is an Aquarius mans views when he's not being contacted at all by his girlfriend? How long should i ignore him for if I take this route? If he contacts me should I continue to remain silent, or respond in the typical time frame that I usually do? I'm not looking play games so please don't see it as that.... I'm just trying to get some clarity and have him persue me as he once did
When he got that way with me, I would draw away the focus from him to my social life. I started hanging out with my friends more/went to the gym and just did things that were good for me in general. Seeing what an active life I was leading without him made him very much more attracted to me, he saw how much fun I had and wanted to be a part of it again 🙂. So show your aquarius man that you're not dependent on his attention, that you have a life of your own! 🙂
Posted by compyYeah this is true. I do enjoy the phone call with Aqua better. It's nice to keep hand written things. Much more meaningful . Though I do appreciate texts throughout the dayxfor fun stimulation. I have moon in Aqua n mercury and venus in gem after all. 😉 esp with a baby it keeps my day going fast n entertaining coz I can't really get out hahahahaPosted by saweetz1988I once asked my Aqua man if he responds quickly to messages. He said yes, even though he would do the opposite. I believe the internet era is overlooked. Our expectations are much more inflated because we believe the emotional response should be as instant as the internet connection. The mystery is gone. The time to build up feelings cannot be accelerated by the internet. There was a time when receiving a long hand written letter would keep you hooked up for months until meeting up again. We are trying to burn it too fast and forget to enjoy life and to harmonize it with our inner selves. There is no mystery in being hooked up online. Give space, allow some dreams and some desires to build up. Live low, live good, live deep.
Aqua has no sense of time but that doesn't mean he shud be disrespecting u by not responding. Aqua or not, there's no excuse really.click to expand
Posted by compyThis Aqua also has lots of Pisces. I don't really take what he say or does at heart anymore he's so dreamy lol. A lot of stuff he doesn't even remember he said to me or did ... it's like he's in his la la land. There's no point getting worked up about it lol... but mine responds as soon as he can . Unless it's weekend then that's a different story lol.... I still don't think not getting a reply when you r holding a girlfriend title is something op shud b putting up with. Be straight b clear. If he likes u enough he will * try * to accomodate...Posted by saweetz1988I once asked my Aqua man if he responds quickly to messages. He said yes, even though he would do the opposite. I believe the internet era is overlooked. Our expectations are much more inflated because we believe the emotional response should be as instant as the internet connection. The mystery is gone. The time to build up feelings cannot be accelerated by the internet. There was a time when receiving a long hand written letter would keep you hooked up for months until meeting up again. We are trying to burn it too fast and forget to enjoy life and to harmonize it with our inner selves. There is no mystery in being hooked up online. Give space, allow some dreams and some desires to build up. Live low, live good, live deep.
Aqua has no sense of time but that doesn't mean he shud be disrespecting u by not responding. Aqua or not, there's no excuse really.click to expand
Posted by Libralady1970Thats called gaslighting, and it's what men do when they don't wanna take responsibility for their actions or hurting you... Soon he'll be calling you crazy.. I would seriously reconsider this relationship..Posted by Libralady1970Posted by sultrykittyI haven't come out and said " where have you been? " "why don't you contact me?" etc etc because I feel as though that would bother him lol but u have said things along those lines in a non chalant manner to gage his response..not focusing on his actions, but telling him how I feel when someone treats me as an option but wants me to treat them as a priority ....Posted by Libralady1970Have you guys talked about this? Seems to me he should be made aware of how this is affecting you. I'm sure that regardless of the reasons he would want to know.Posted by sultrykittyI don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to mePosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
Basically, his response is, if I don't like that someone hasn't responded to me or doesn't make an effort, that's an emotional problem on my end, my own insecurity.
Or he'll disappear for the rest of the day lol
He keeps insisting that he wants to be with me, but there's a huge lack of consideration lately
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Posted by scorpiosnowYes . they constantly test their partners purposely or unpurposely. They want their partners to be strong and independent . They want their partners to continuously grow. They r more attracted to people who know how to live life and not rely on them... show him your achievements he will come closer... they have a habit of Constantly testing people ESP their partners lol. Though they r not aware that their constant didsapesring acts make cause the anxiety within the partner which stop them from growing cos they spend too much time worrying of what is going on. Need to know how to break that barrier and shift the focus while dating Aqua lol... ( mynmoon in Aqua ) understands !!!Posted by Libralady1970This sounds much like an ex boyfriend of mine that was also an aquarius!
Does it bother you being ignored?
Feeling like there is no effort coming from my boyfriend and starting to think this is unhealthy for our relationship.
He doesn't initiate conversation, use to all the time, now he responds and is sweet but makes no effort to keep conversation going and never says hello first. Talk about making your girlfriend feel alone in a relationship. I asked him if he still wants to be in the relationship, he stated he does, yet he seems like he could care less
My question, should I stop contacting him completely? Is this going to put a wedge between us? What is an Aquarius mans views when he's not being contacted at all by his girlfriend? How long should i ignore him for if I take this route? If he contacts me should I continue to remain silent, or respond in the typical time frame that I usually do? I'm not looking play games so please don't see it as that.... I'm just trying to get some clarity and have him persue me as he once did
When he got that way with me, I would draw away the focus from him to my social life. I started hanging out with my friends more/went to the gym and just did things that were good for me in general. Seeing what an active life I was leading without him made him very much more attracted to me, he saw how much fun I had and wanted to be a part of it again 🙂. So show your aquarius man that you're not dependent on his attention, that you have a life of your own! 🙂
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Posted by boxcarmirntaPosted by Libralady1970Thats called gaslighting, and it's what men do when they don't wanna take responsibility for their actions or hurting you... Soon he'll be calling you crazy.. I would seriously reconsider this relationship..Posted by Libralady1970Posted by sultrykittyI haven't come out and said " where have you been? " "why don't you contact me?" etc etc because I feel as though that would bother him lol but u have said things along those lines in a non chalant manner to gage his response..not focusing on his actions, but telling him how I feel when someone treats me as an option but wants me to treat them as a priority ....Posted by Libralady1970Have you guys talked about this? Seems to me he should be made aware of how this is affecting you. I'm sure that regardless of the reasons he would want to know.Posted by sultrykittyI don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to mePosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
Basically, his response is, if I don't like that someone hasn't responded to me or doesn't make an effort, that's an emotional problem on my end, my own insecurity.
Or he'll disappear for the rest of the day lol
He keeps insisting that he wants to be with me, but there's a huge lack of consideration lately
....basically if his actions are effecting me, that's my own personal problem and subconsciously I must feel like I'm lacking something or I wouldn't careclick to expand
Aqua will never stop testing people but that's coz they want the best for you. Normally. I get his point but not replying is lack of respect. Not really a test lol
Posted by saweetz1988Telling her if she doesn't like what he does it's her fault is really fucked up.. He's totally inconsistent and clearly doesn't genuinely care how she feels. I feel bad for her. This is why i don't date aquas.Posted by boxcarmirntaPosted by Libralady1970Thats called gaslighting, and it's what men do when they don't wanna take responsibility for their actions or hurting you... Soon he'll be calling you crazy.. I would seriously reconsider this relationship..Posted by Libralady1970Posted by sultrykittyI haven't come out and said " where have you been? " "why don't you contact me?" etc etc because I feel as though that would bother him lol but u have said things along those lines in a non chalant manner to gage his response..not focusing on his actions, but telling him how I feel when someone treats me as an option but wants me to treat them as a priority ....Posted by Libralady1970Have you guys talked about this? Seems to me he should be made aware of how this is affecting you. I'm sure that regardless of the reasons he would want to know.Posted by sultrykittyI don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to mePosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
Basically, his response is, if I don't like that someone hasn't responded to me or doesn't make an effort, that's an emotional problem on my end, my own insecurity.
Or he'll disappear for the rest of the day lol
He keeps insisting that he wants to be with me, but there's a huge lack of consideration lately
....basically if his actions are effecting me, that's my own personal problem and subconsciously I must feel like I'm lacking something or I wouldn't care
Aqua will never stop testing people but that's coz they want the best for you. Normally. I get his point but not replying is lack of respect. Not really a test lol
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Posted by boxcarmirntaYes. I mean if the text doesn't involve a question then that's kind of ok. But if it doesn't n he doesn't reply while being online. That's horrible coz they r supposed to b in a relationship. In saying that Aqua is funny sometimes. They prefer superficial relationships than real so that's what he's doing. Most likely... shallow and easy .. less intimacy and pressurePosted by saweetz1988Telling her if she doesn't like what he does it's her fault is really fucked up.. He's totally inconsistent and clearly doesn't genuinely care how she feels. I feel bad for her. This is why i don't date aquas.Posted by boxcarmirntaPosted by Libralady1970Thats called gaslighting, and it's what men do when they don't wanna take responsibility for their actions or hurting you... Soon he'll be calling you crazy.. I would seriously reconsider this relationship..Posted by Libralady1970Posted by sultrykittyI haven't come out and said " where have you been? " "why don't you contact me?" etc etc because I feel as though that would bother him lol but u have said things along those lines in a non chalant manner to gage his response..not focusing on his actions, but telling him how I feel when someone treats me as an option but wants me to treat them as a priority ....Posted by Libralady1970Have you guys talked about this? Seems to me he should be made aware of how this is affecting you. I'm sure that regardless of the reasons he would want to know.Posted by sultrykittyI don't expect to get back into the initial phase of dating lol that seems unrealistic, just sick of ALWAYS being the first to say hello. I give him time and space, definitely an independent woman although the last 2 months he hasn't been the first to contact me once. That's bizarre to mePosted by Libralady1970Most likely, but I wouldn't necessarily count on ever getting back to the stage when everything was flirty and fun. They come in patches but never really consistent.Posted by sultrykitty
When they are comfortable with someone, there's a tendency to let the relationship stagnate. I've experienced it plenty.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for you; for them, it's like, "this relationship is set, done and dusted. We're good, so now I can focus on other things. "
It is up to us to sort of rekindle every now amd then, for our own sanity. Not theirs. It's sort of a sucky spot to he put in, but that's the unfortunate reality. If they don't respond to our efforts, then there is cause for concern.
Never ignore, unless you're prepared for what may come next. Because he probably won't respond the way another might to that tactic.
So if I was to not make initial contact for a conversation, and start waiting for him to say hello first, but respond as I typically do when he contacts me, would that maybe rekindle his desire that was once there?
Basically, his response is, if I don't like that someone hasn't responded to me or doesn't make an effort, that's an emotional problem on my end, my own insecurity.
Or he'll disappear for the rest of the day lol
He keeps insisting that he wants to be with me, but there's a huge lack of consideration lately
....basically if his actions are effecting me, that's my own personal problem and subconsciously I must feel like I'm lacking something or I wouldn't care
Aqua will never stop testing people but that's coz they want the best for you. Normally. I get his point but not replying is lack of respect. Not really a test lol
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Posted by saweetz1988No I just finally was able to make a schedule for seeing me instead if him always being busy. 😆Posted by saggurl88Omg you finally got the Aqua out of his shell! ?"Posted by Geminiforever23This was gold to me! Thanks for the advice! worked like a charm!! 😉
I demanded I have Wednesday evenings. So he can work hard from Monday- Tuesday, I dont care. Wednesday he has to come home early because its date night and we have dinner together, have sex and watch a movie before bed. Thursday and Friday he can go drinking with his mates or whatever. Including weekends, he can spend it the way he wants. It just always ends up being spent with me or his son. It was much easier. Wednesday is mine. Unless its a life and death situation.
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Let's hope it works in the future too. Lol
@compy has right..
Actually she's not right, really. In a relationship it's give and take. To not bring to discussion important things like this that bother her and to only focus on keeping Aqua happy, is telling him that she can be walked all over. At the very least, their relationship won't progress and she'll be talking about this issue again 3 months from now.
Maybe she should have had this discussion in person and not through text, I agree with that. In person, they are forced to deal with it immediately or at least respond. By text he can easily disregard her and ignore the issue.
There's a big difference between accepting who people are at face value and accepting unacceptable behavior. If the Aqua cares for her as he says, he will need at some point to modify "who he is". We all do to to some degree, and asking for that is not pressuring someone to change nor is it something that shouldn't have to he done. We don't always recognize the needs of our partners until they tell us. People are who they are until someone inspires them to be different. Maybe for him it's her, maybe it's not. She has a right to ask for it, though. If he doesn't respond the way she needs him to, the relationship will naturally end.
Maybe she should have had this discussion in person and not through text, I agree with that. In person, they are forced to deal with it immediately or at least respond. By text he can easily disregard her and ignore the issue.
There's a big difference between accepting who people are at face value and accepting unacceptable behavior. If the Aqua cares for her as he says, he will need at some point to modify "who he is". We all do to to some degree, and asking for that is not pressuring someone to change nor is it something that shouldn't have to he done. We don't always recognize the needs of our partners until they tell us. People are who they are until someone inspires them to be different. Maybe for him it's her, maybe it's not. She has a right to ask for it, though. If he doesn't respond the way she needs him to, the relationship will naturally end.
Posted by saggurl88from what i know....it takes aqua while to stick to schedules...Posted by saweetz1988No I just finally was able to make a schedule for seeing me instead if him always being busy. 😆Posted by saggurl88Omg you finally got the Aqua out of his shell! ?"Posted by Geminiforever23This was gold to me! Thanks for the advice! worked like a charm!! 😉
I demanded I have Wednesday evenings. So he can work hard from Monday- Tuesday, I dont care. Wednesday he has to come home early because its date night and we have dinner together, have sex and watch a movie before bed. Thursday and Friday he can go drinking with his mates or whatever. Including weekends, he can spend it the way he wants. It just always ends up being spent with me or his son. It was much easier. Wednesday is mine. Unless its a life and death situation.
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Let's hope it works in the future too. Lol
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they don't have plans and anything that is set....can be disappointment on the other party.
they go with the flow..whatever they feel like...
n normally they will put friends first before relationships..esp in the beginning...
do you know his friends? or his circle of friends? try to bend in that way.
Posted by sultrykittyi agree. face to face is to best way to deal with aqua... 🙂
Actually she's not right, really. In a relationship it's give and take. To not bring to discussion important things like this that bother her and to only focus on keeping Aqua happy, is telling him that she can be walked all over. At the very least, their relationship won't progress and she'll be talking about this issue again 3 months from now.
Maybe she should have had this discussion in person and not through text, I agree with that. In person, they are forced to deal with it immediately or at least respond. By text he can easily disregard her and ignore the issue.
There's a big difference between accepting who people are at face value and accepting unacceptable behavior. If the Aqua cares for her as he says, he will need at some point to modify "who he is". We all do to to some degree, and asking for that is not pressuring someone to change nor is it something that shouldn't have to he done. We don't always recognize the needs of our partners until they tell us. People are who they are until someone inspires them to be different. Maybe for him it's her, maybe it's not. She has a right to ask for it, though. If he doesn't respond the way she needs him to, the relationship will naturally end.
they are more FOCUSED on you...
when distant..they got million things on their mind lol...its hard to get through.. unless you have them on the phone....
face to face is the best... 😄 i never have a problem face to face...always smoothly and work as a team
Posted by saweetz1988Nope we are still in the very beginning of things. I haven't met his friends at all. For some reason he's introduced a mutual friend of ours to a few people but not me. He keeps me hidden. He is talking about moving in and being my roomate though. So I guess that's a good sign. I told him I'm gonna need a roommate by Oct so we will see.Posted by saggurl88from what i know....it takes aqua while to stick to schedules...Posted by saweetz1988No I just finally was able to make a schedule for seeing me instead if him always being busy. 😆Posted by saggurl88Omg you finally got the Aqua out of his shell! ?"Posted by Geminiforever23This was gold to me! Thanks for the advice! worked like a charm!! 😉
I demanded I have Wednesday evenings. So he can work hard from Monday- Tuesday, I dont care. Wednesday he has to come home early because its date night and we have dinner together, have sex and watch a movie before bed. Thursday and Friday he can go drinking with his mates or whatever. Including weekends, he can spend it the way he wants. It just always ends up being spent with me or his son. It was much easier. Wednesday is mine. Unless its a life and death situation.
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Let's hope it works in the future too. Lol
they don't have plans and anything that is set....can be disappointment on the other party.
they go with the flow..whatever they feel like...
n normally they will put friends first before relationships..esp in the beginning...
do you know his friends? or his circle of friends? try to bend in that way.click to expand
Posted by sultrykittyThat's what I believe also. I have never had any serious "talks" via texts. Eventually only expressing opinions or feelings, but only for him to process, not to answer. The best interaction is live. And I can get plenty of it, fortunately. But never try to get an impulsive answer out of it. Allow him time to think well. And he will answer. The best lesson I have learned being so much time next to my Aqua? Cool down and be patient. Give and take. He takes emotional support, he gives the same. But on different terms, depending on personal needs. I would do it again any time.
Actually she's not right, really. In a relationship it's give and take. To not bring to discussion important things like this that bother her and to only focus on keeping Aqua happy, is telling him that she can be walked all over. At the very least, their relationship won't progress and she'll be talking about this issue again 3 months from now.
Maybe she should have had this discussion in person and not through text, I agree with that. In person, they are forced to deal with it immediately or at least respond. By text he can easily disregard her and ignore the issue.
There's a big difference between accepting who people are at face value and accepting unacceptable behavior. If the Aqua cares for her as he says, he will need at some point to modify "who he is". We all do to to some degree, and asking for that is not pressuring someone to change nor is it something that shouldn't have to he done. We don't always recognize the needs of our partners until they tell us. People are who they are until someone inspires them to be different. Maybe for him it's her, maybe it's not. She has a right to ask for it, though. If he doesn't respond the way she needs him to, the relationship will naturally end.
dating an aqua man has been described as hard work, but its not, its far from it! We simply like some time to ourselves, to unwind or think. I personally don't understand why others get so emotional about it?! We're not cheating in any way! we're very loyal (at least, the mature Aquarius' are) To be honest, ignoring us will only work temporarily, we're not going to try get in your "good books" - cause we simply don't care about being in there. Ignoring us can hurt us..for so long..then we move on (most of the time, quicker than the person expected) but its cause we don't seek acceptance, we don't need anyone's opinions or permission. And please don''t expect us to succumb to your actions/games! We're human beings just like you, and we'll always respect ourselves more than we respect others, therefor ignoring us will only work for so long until we realize we're better than that, and move on to someone else more worth our time.
We sorted things out.... my fella and eventually he came forward saying that I was correct with my worries he was having a bit of a mental freak-out and needed to reset in a sense. He didn't realize how much he was pushing me off until I had stated some facts and explained to him how it was perceived.
...a LDR relationship can definitely have its struggles.... A LDR with an Aqua man who doesn't communicate well through texting etc can lead for disaster if not taken care of efficiently ... But sorted it out.
I will continue to take things knew day at a time although feeling positive.... we had a good break through
...a LDR relationship can definitely have its struggles.... A LDR with an Aqua man who doesn't communicate well through texting etc can lead for disaster if not taken care of efficiently ... But sorted it out.
I will continue to take things knew day at a time although feeling positive.... we had a good break through
Posted by Libralady1970Listen, you're a Libra. Nothing beat syou when it comes to relationships and partnerships. Aquarians are by far one of the most selfish and narcisistic signs. You're sick that you have to be the one always contacting --- and you should be because a relationship should be 50/50 and you understand that better than anyone. He says that he loves you, maybe he does but his Aqua nature gets in your way. For him love is practical, non dramatic and...and...kind of nonexisting let's be honest. So here's some advice: Aquarians are like toddlers when it comes ot love and relationships, they need you to put boundaries and establish rules (for some reason) - eitherwise they will probe you and test you to see how far they can push. Your Libra mind has problems undertsanding this because you idealize love and for you it should be natural without the need of rules or boundaries, because if he really loved you he'd know those boundaries by heart , right 😆.So if you want to keep him around you better be straight to the point, lay the rules and don't back down. The problem will be: he'll see you as clingy when you ask him to at least call you once a month (Aquarians are the most tactless people on Earth). Don't mind that, Aquarians define clingy as anything that has more than two emotions in a year. You'r ebehave like a liquid and adapting to his needs -like Libras lovers do while he's being a typical Aquarius and being a "rock". DO you get my point? You're willing to adapt to him but he isn't to you! That says a lot!
Does it bother you being ignored?
Feeling like there is no effort coming from my boyfriend and starting to think this is unhealthy for our relationship.
He doesn't initiate conversation, use to all the time, now he responds and is sweet but makes no effort to keep conversation going and never says hello first. Talk about making your girlfriend feel alone in a relationship. I asked him if he still wants to be in the relationship, he stated he does, yet he seems like he could care less
My question, should I stop contacting him completely? Is this going to put a wedge between us? What is an Aquarius mans views when he's not being contacted at all by his girlfriend? How long should i ignore him for if I take this route? If he contacts me should I continue to remain silent, or respond in the typical time frame that I usually do? I'm not looking play games so please don't see it as that.... I'm just trying to get some clarity and have him persue me as he once did
Honestly, ignore him at all costs. He doesn't deserve you! Aquarians and Librans have tremendous connection, if there's a sign that can put Aquarius upside down and shake them is a Libra...but Aquas cannot fulfill Libra's love needs. He will not be able to make you happy 100% !
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