Should I or should I not move in with her?

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A friend of mine is under finacial constraints right now,she asked to move into my house which I share with my family.

She is my best friend,we've had our ups/ downs to which most of the downs she was ignoring me or pushing me away or accusing me of things I didn't do,..... the ups were great fun jolling around ,holidays and family dinner ,the likes

.....I stuck around.I have been there for her , she's been there for me.

When she had problems at her house I took her in for a good two weeks.To me it looked like she was happy and appreciated her stay,however later on she was busy telling people how she would never in her life live under the safe roof with me which was shocking to me since she/ or I think

she was pretending to be happy about the 2 weeks she spent with my family.

She promised to be good,and would baby sit for free,and would help with rent and all,not that I have rent problems or baby sitting problems.

I don't know what to do since she is also very aggressive when she doesn't get her way and can be very vengeful when she doesn't like something instead of talking it out.

should I or should I not?
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Posted by Mutabull
My closest female friends have been Taurus women. I love them but they can be serious cookiemonsteres. I was married to a Taurus too for a decade. Do yourself a favor and keep air and earth living in separate spaces, lol.
Yes Jaurus people can be very scary when they want to at times.And they even fight with their partners like it's some sort of a competition.
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Posted by Aquastic
A friend of mine is under finacial constraints right now,she asked to move into my house which I share with my family.



She is my best friend,we've had our ups/ downs to which most of the downs she was ignoring me or pushing me away or accusing me of things I didn't do,..... the ups were great fun jolling around ,holidays and family dinner ,the likes

.....I stuck around.I have been there for her , she's been there for me.



When she had problems at her house I took her in for a good two weeks.To me it looked like she was happy and appreciated her stay,however later on she was busy telling people how she would never in her life live under the safe roof with me which was shocking to me since she/ or I think

she was pretending to be happy about the 2 weeks she spent with my family.



She promised to be good,and would baby sit for free,and would help with rent and all,not that I have rent problems or baby sitting problems.



I don't know what to do since she is also very aggressive when she doesn't get her way and can be very vengeful when she doesn't like something instead of talking it out.



should I or should I not?
yeah do it.



she is also going to be helpful too. the only problem is your problem with her.

and she did say she would promise to be good. if she promised that means her word.

so she wants to make good. she knows that it's not her place and you are being helpful yourself.

good friends are hard to come by.





oh when she told others she would NEVER live under the same roof as u....

probably just her being in the moment and pissed lol

i do that too. lol but get over it easily. dont know if she's like that but i am ...i'm IN the moment kind of gal.
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Girl, bottom line..with earth people like that you're only worth as much as you can do for them. Which in this instance is quite a lot, they tend to value their home or lack of. And will say anything not to be denied a comfy place that they know from before and all the hassle of finding a new place won't happen.

One possible exception is that she was running her mouth out of embarrasment that she even had to go to a friend's house to stay in the first place. Or perhaps frustration when she observed your (private)life being so different than hers that it built resentment. I'm guessing this from the "we can't live under the same roof" that the rules of the household didn't really align with her ideals.

Still, ungrateful friend.
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Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Girl, bottom line..with earth people like that you're only worth as much as you can do for them. Which in this instance is quite a lot, they tend to value their home or lack of. And will say anything not to be denied a comfy place that they know from before and all the hassle of finding a new place won't happen.

One possible exception is that she was running her mouth out of embarrasment that she even had to go to a friend's house to stay in the first place. Or perhaps frustration when she observed your (private)life being so different than hers that it built resentment. I'm guessing this from the "we can't live under the same roof" that the rules of the household didn't really align with her ideals.

Still, ungrateful friend.
You broke it down very nicely hey, she is very pretentious and I can feel it, and I guess its because of the reasons you mentioned.

Plus I have a car , and she doesn't so I am very handy for her. And I heard the other day she was talking about a friend of hers whom she wanted to visit, and her reasons were ( " I am visit (her name) cause she has a house and a car ,so its going to be easy for me and my kids to move around")....and she is no longer friends with the person now.

For me that was really overwhelming cause I hate using people, or being used.
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A friend of mine is under finacial constraints right now,she asked to move into my house which I share with my family.

She is my best friend,we've had our ups/ downs to which most of the downs she was ignoring me or pushing me away or accusing me of things I didn't do,..... the ups were great fun jolling around ,holidays and family dinner ,the likes
.....I stuck around.I have been there for her , she's been there for me.

When she had problems at her house I took her in for a good two weeks.To me it looked like she was happy and appreciated her stay,however later on she was busy telling people how she would never in her life live under the safe roof with me which was shocking to me since she/ or I think
she was pretending to be happy about the 2 weeks she spent with my family.

She promised to be good,and would baby sit for free,and would help with rent and all,not that I have rent problems or baby sitting problems.

I don't know what to do since she is also very aggressive when she doesn't get her way and can be very vengeful when she doesn't like something instead of talking it out.

should I or should I not?

Nooooooooooooooooooo
Don't let her in ....
They aren't free minded and free moving like us ....
They are treetrunking serious all the time...always want things their way...if they don't get it, they will eventually show u by their behaviour...they are materialistic...so it seems u have nice home,people and car...which she is attracted to...
After some time u will get unnecessary tension...
Enjoying and partying wid them is good...but that too they are lame and boring in that...they cannot stand with us 😅
But as U care, U can help her to find home elsewhere ✌️ click to expand
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Yep she always complains about me ,saying:. " everything about you is too much",but whenever she's out with her friends she always wanna invite me in to join her in wherever she goes.This other time she went to a concert with one of her friend,but through out the entire concert she was sending me videos of how much fun she was having and only later she invited me to join them at the concert and she was gonna organize tickets for me and mybboyfriend,to which my boyfriend refused to join her at the concert ,......