Im afraid of commitment - Anyone else who share the same trait?

I've had several relationships but when I saw that things started to get too serious, I just (unconsciously) sabotage them all...Now, paying attention to this pattern in my current relationship, there is nothing that justify my move but deep down I get a needy of a fresh start.

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Aries - SUN (11th)

Taurus - VENUS (12th)

Gemini - MARS (1st)

Posted by Redbull
Yeah I guess. But that just goes with other things that go into my being the single type. I need space, dont like stress or worrying about what somebody is doing, dont like arguing, feeling the need to call, etc. Got my hands full with my own affairs, have a lot to do, money is tight it just is a fit for me to be single. Im real cautious about committing myself too.

We have a lot in common...What are your personal placements?

I have a problem with commitment in general. I actually wouldn't say commitment, I'd say my probz are with expectations. When a person is expecting something, there's always a chance that whatever it is won't work out...and I don't want to be the person who disapoints people left and right, although I'm aware that this is probably all counter-intuitive...lol.

Whatevs. I don't even like making plans in advance because I'm not sure I wanna be locked into doing it when the time comes around. I know it's something I should work on..

Posted by UnicornSag
I can completely relate to it...I can be completely loyal and faithful to a person I'm with but I just can't stand any limitations...and it doesn't affect only relationships, but everything in life, jobs and everything else...I just can't stand expectations that's it basically

You said it better than I did!

Nope! I'm READY for a commitment. "Soon, real soon!" 😉

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Posted by CuddleBug88
I have a problem with commitment in general. I actually wouldn't say commitment, I'd say my probz are with expectations. When a person is expecting something, there's always a chance that whatever it is won't work out...and I don't want to be the person who disapoints people left and right, although I'm aware that this is probably all counter-intuitive...lol.

Whatevs. I don't even like making plans in advance because I'm not sure I wanna be locked into doing it when the time comes around. I know it's something I should work on..

I have that “problem” too. I hate planning 😝 I just need to go with the flow... but that is how I am and I don’t want to change it, so not that much of a problem for me 😄

Posted by pisceswoman123

Posted by CuddleBug88
I have a problem with commitment in general. I actually wouldn't say commitment, I'd say my probz are with expectations. When a person is expecting something, there's always a chance that whatever it is won't work out...and I don't want to be the person who disapoints people left and right, although I'm aware that this is probably all counter-intuitive...lol.

Whatevs. I don't even like making plans in advance because I'm not sure I wanna be locked into doing it when the time comes around. I know it's something I should work on..

I have that “problem” too. I hate planning 😝 I just need to go with the flow... but that is how I am and I don’t want to change it, so not that much of a problem for me 😄

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I tend to think of a million different viewpoints and that's why I may feel 'bad' about not being good with planning and follow through and blah blah...I can see it from so many other perspectives than my own and that makes me feel bad when I prob shouldn't.

Yessssss 100%

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Scorpio- SUN (8th house)

Scorpio- VENUS (8th house)

Sagittarius- MARS (9th house)

Posted by raad182
I've had several relationships but when I saw that things started to get too serious, I just (unconsciously) sabotage them all...Now, paying attention to this pattern in my current relationship, there is nothing that justify my move but deep down I get a needy of a fresh start.

Saggitarius - DSC

Aries - SUN (11th)

Taurus - VENUS (12th)

Gemini - MARS (1st)

very interesting planet-mix.... what are you interested in a female? how your relationships usually start? was there any common thing between your ex-girlfriends, or were they all different types?

Posted by CuddleBug88

Posted by pisceswoman123

Posted by CuddleBug88
I have a problem with commitment in general. I actually wouldn't say commitment, I'd say my probz are with expectations. When a person is expecting something, there's always a chance that whatever it is won't work out...and I don't want to be the person who disapoints people left and right, although I'm aware that this is probably all counter-intuitive...lol.

Whatevs. I don't even like making plans in advance because I'm not sure I wanna be locked into doing it when the time comes around. I know it's something I should work on..

I have that “problem” too. I hate planning 😝 I just need to go with the flow... but that is how I am and I don’t want to change it, so not that much of a problem for me 😄

I tend to think of a million different viewpoints and that's why I may feel 'bad' about not being good with planning and follow through and blah blah...I can see it from so many other perspectives than my own and that makes me feel bad when I prob shouldn't.

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😄 That must be so tiring. Nah, I am quite relaxed about it 😄

Instead of thinking of things as a life sentence, commitment, marriage, forever. Think of it as a day by day.

um nope. never have been. i'm ALWAYS EAGER to be committed to someone, wasn't always lucky but i found my gold.

maybe you feel like you dont deserve someone, try and wonder why? and look at where your psychology of why you dont want to commit comes from.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Instead of thinking of things as a life sentence, commitment, marriage, forever. Think of it as a day by day.

that kind of thinking, "life sentence with someone" and forever" are actually awesome.

esp. if you got a good man/good woman. ect.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by LadyNeptune
Instead of thinking of things as a life sentence, commitment, marriage, forever. Think of it as a day by day.

that kind of thinking, "life sentence with someone" and forever" are actually awesome.

esp. if you got a good man/good woman. ect.

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Not for someone who fears commitment *points at thread title

Absolutely not. I love only being with one person. Or myself.

Only two or more people was fun to me in my college days 😂 And I had alot of time on my hands.

Now that I'm building a real foundation I'm looking for extreme stability.



Only until age 25 I didn't want to commit to anything or anyone. I left a few good guys bcz of that.... Still no regrets

Neh.... lack of quality partners.

I'm scared of being blind as fuck.

Posted by Smidge
I dunno that I'm afraid of it, I just push people away.

But our sun, Venus and mars are the same. 😜

Go cheer him up.

What's in your 7th house? Is Uranus there?

I’m afrajd of not being good enough ... therefore it makes me afraid of commitment since I’m afraid they’ll leave cuz I’m not good enough

Yikes

Commitment is a part of life my DxP brothers and sisters, we commit to getting up breathing and going about life so why should we gripe about committing to the expectations of life ?

I feel yougirl I’m the same. Free soul. There’s a good song im listening to at the moment - too good at goodbyes- it really relates well with people who have trouble with commitment or secure attachment style . Been betrayed too much, might as well just keep my heart safe to myself..

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Posted by raad182
I've had several relationships but when I saw that things started to get too serious, I just (unconsciously) sabotage them all...Now, paying attention to this pattern in my current relationship, there is nothing that justify my move but deep down I get a needy of a fresh start.

Saggitarius - DSC

Aries - SUN (11th)

Taurus - VENUS (12th)

Gemini - MARS (1st)

very interesting planet-mix.... what are you interested in a female? how your relationships usually start? was there any common thing between your ex-girlfriends, or were they all different types?

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what are you interested in a female?

I won't lie...beauty, healthy, fitness types with a sense of adventure and a philosophical view of life and lots of passion and intensity.



how your relationships usually start?

Often they just did break up or were about to break up and I've meet them in random situations (street, college, course, bars, office)



was there any common thing between your ex-girlfriends, or were they all different types?

All of them have pets and are caring towards stray dogs, dream about being a mother, like to talk a lot, small travels and eating...

I would say all of them are a mix of 3rd/6th/12th houses... I have Gemini ASC and Mars/Moon in the 6th/Venus in the 12th.

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Posted by Redbull
Yeah I guess. But that just goes with other things that go into my being the single type. I need space, dont like stress or worrying about what somebody is doing, dont like arguing, feeling the need to call, etc. Got my hands full with my own affairs, have a lot to do, money is tight it just is a fit for me to be single. Im real cautious about committing myself too.

We have a lot in common...What are your personal placements?

Same venus. I think, and i dont know how accurate this is, but as far as committment its like I dont want to committ to a possibly stressful situation all willy nilly. So it contributes to me being more cautious and patient and staying out of it. It is also not a problem to be single like its comfortable. Taurus Venus too Also Im Aquarius moon so that probably contributes to my free type of outlook.

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I would say its more the Aquarius feeling...Venus in Taurus like commitment and to focus on one person at time...Taurus is fixed, so It will stick as long as possible or until the relationship still working

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Posted by raad182
I've had several relationships but when I saw that things started to get too serious, I just (unconsciously) sabotage them all...Now, paying attention to this pattern in my current relationship, there is nothing that justify my move but deep down I get a needy of a fresh start.

Saggitarius - DSC

Aries - SUN (11th)

Taurus - VENUS (12th)

Gemini - MARS (1st)

you re still young i would say

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not so much

Posted by aquarius_man

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Posted by raad182
I've had several relationships but when I saw that things started to get too serious, I just (unconsciously) sabotage them all...Now, paying attention to this pattern in my current relationship, there is nothing that justify my move but deep down I get a needy of a fresh start.

Saggitarius - DSC

Aries - SUN (11th)

Taurus - VENUS (12th)

Gemini - MARS (1st)

you re still young i would say

not so much

younger than 30, you come off as that. but blame it on your aries sun, anyway

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I would blame my Gemini Mars

No But I am afraid of ..you have made your bed now lie in it.

I am afraid of making bad choices.

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Posted by raad182
I've had several relationships but when I saw that things started to get too serious, I just (unconsciously) sabotage them all...Now, paying attention to this pattern in my current relationship, there is nothing that justify my move but deep down I get a needy of a fresh start.

Saggitarius - DSC

Aries - SUN (11th)

Taurus - VENUS (12th)

Gemini - MARS (1st)

you re still young i would say

not so much

younger than 30, you come off as that. but blame it on your aries sun, anyway

I would blame my Gemini Mars

that too. but blame your aries sun first. and you ARE younger than 30. men only grow up after 30. look at me, im all grown up now. women get crazy/ independent/ discover who they are / what they want at around 28

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yeah, a lot of people say this...Don't make any regretable decision until your Saturn return.

Posted by tiziani
Just better for me to focus on the now. I have been that person thinking too far ahead, and been with on the end of it from others too. It brings too much anxiety and excuses arising from anxiety.

Its been almost 3 months since I've started to meditate and Im getting better at living in the moment. I thought this was all hype but really Works.