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Open relationships?
Understanding Open Relationships and Emotional Boundaries
Open relationships involve consensual non-monogamy where partners agree to romantic or sexual connections outside their primary relationship. Boundaries vary but often include clear communication, emotional honesty, and respecting each other's limits. Being in love with more than one person is possible, but establishing boundaries is key to maintaining trust and harmony.
I can't see myself doing this.
I wouldn't call myself jealous, my moon is too whatever for that. But taurus ven makes me super possessive.
That being said, never say never right? Cause its easy to be all HELL NO. But if your with someone for 10/20+ years maybe this is a concept worth exploring. But for right now....hell no LOL.
Never. Taurus Moon possessiveness and Libra Sun craving for partner's attention.
He. Is. Mine.
MINE!!!!!
No I wouldn't be able to handle an open relationship. I'm fascinated by ppl that can handle it .. Pisces moon, libra mars, Aqua Venus
Posted by SofiaV87
No I wouldn't be able to handle an open relationship. I'm fascinated by ppl that can handle it .. Pisces moon, libra mars, Aqua Venus
Same! Totally fascinated. Honestly, this dude has a Pisces moon. I see him getting hurt.
Posted by heliumfiasco
Would you you be willing to be in an open relationship? I've thought about this a lot lately. Recently my *almost* Astro twin started an open relationship with a woman who has been married for 15 years. Her and her husband were friends with the dude I was dating for about a year, I guess it was her husband who suggested it. She was the Astro twins date to a wedding this weekend. They were all over each other, making out on social media... her husband liking the pics!!!! To me I'm like "wtf is going on here".... but a part of me feels like perhaps if you kill the ego this could be an ideal situation. But the biggest part is wondering where you draw the line with emotions? Can you be in love with more than one person? How long are you allowed to maintain a relationship with someone outside of your marriage? I thought this idea was a purely sexual one.... but that doesn't seem to be the case.What's your Venus/ moon/ mars? What is your take on this? Have you ever been in an open relationship? What boundaries, if any, did you have?
I'm definitely exploring the poly life. I am slowly falling in love with someone that's taken and she and I have such an open relationship in communicating what we feel. Her man doesn't know however on my end I'm keeping my eyes open to other prospects to have 2 women I share my time and attention with.
I doubt I can take a person seriously if we are in an open relationship. Open relationship to me means free reign on anyone your loins desire, and I don't work that way in a serious relationship.
A polyamorous type relationship is possible with me though. However, only under very certain circumstances, but it's certain boundaries that make a relationship poly in the first place, and it would take a very compatible partner.
Something weird to add is that I have also noticed that with girls I am attracted to, some of them I would be willing to share and others I would not. I'm not quite sure what that's about. I can definitely say that if applicable, the thought of my partner getting off with someone else turns me on like crazy, but it might be safer to stick to the fantasy than the reality.
Posted by heliumfiasco
Would you you be willing to be in an open relationship? I've thought about this a lot lately. Recently my *almost* Astro twin started an open relationship with a woman who has been married for 15 years. Her and her husband were friends with the dude I was dating for about a year, I guess it was her husband who suggested it. She was the Astro twins date to a wedding this weekend. They were all over each other, making out on social media... her husband liking the pics!!!! To me I'm like "wtf is going on here".... but a part of me feels like perhaps if you kill the ego this could be an ideal situation. But the biggest part is wondering where you draw the line with emotions? Can you be in love with more than one person? How long are you allowed to maintain a relationship with someone outside of your marriage? I thought this idea was a purely sexual one.... but that doesn't seem to be the case.What's your Venus/ moon/ mars? What is your take on this? Have you ever been in an open relationship? What boundaries, if any, did you have?
I'm definitely exploring the poly life. I am slowly falling in love with someone that's taken and she and I have such an open relationship in communicating what we feel. Her man doesn't know however on my end I'm keeping my eyes open to other prospects to have 2 women I share my time and attention with.
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A poly relationship and an open relationship are 2 different things altogether. Open relationships have a lot more in common with swingers than with poly couples.
Posted by heliumfiasco
Would you you be willing to be in an open relationship? I've thought about this a lot lately. Recently my *almost* Astro twin started an open relationship with a woman who has been married for 15 years. Her and her husband were friends with the dude I was dating for about a year, I guess it was her husband who suggested it. She was the Astro twins date to a wedding this weekend. They were all over each other, making out on social media... her husband liking the pics!!!! To me I'm like "wtf is going on here".... but a part of me feels like perhaps if you kill the ego this could be an ideal situation. But the biggest part is wondering where you draw the line with emotions? Can you be in love with more than one person? How long are you allowed to maintain a relationship with someone outside of your marriage? I thought this idea was a purely sexual one.... but that doesn't seem to be the case.What's your Venus/ moon/ mars? What is your take on this? Have you ever been in an open relationship? What boundaries, if any, did you have?
If something is purely sexual, then it's an open relationship. On the other hand, a poly relationship involves not only sexual aspects but other aspects of a serious romantic relationship as well.
My last poly relationship was 7 years ago. It was short-lived though, because the other party was new to the life style and her partner hadn't been totally honest with her (we found out later).
This wasn't my first poly relationship, and I'd previously been in an open relationship as well.
I am kind of past that stage in my life, mostly because I feel it takes a lot of work and communication needs to be crystal clear all the time. If things are good, they really good. But if they go bad, they can become really, really bad.
Will I ever consider an open relationship again? Absolutely not.
A poly relationship? Highly unlikely but it would depend on whether or not my partner and I want that, and our own reasons behind wanting that. We have to come to a consensus, nothing less.
Boundaries? No other relationships, sexual or otherwise, outside of the arrangement. Communication has to flow freely and all parties need to be clear about what they want and need. These are the group boundaries. Personal boundaries vary depending on the individuals involved.
Aries Venus/Scorpio moon/Cancer mars
It's good that the distinction was made in this thread about open vs poly.
I knew someone who used the correct term to describe what he was open to -- polyamorous -- and someone he was getting to know told him that she was okay with that too. They got romantically involved, then much later he found out that she had several partners including him that she hadn't mentioned. She was surprised that he was upset by that because she had misunderstood, thinking that polyamorous meant open.That, along with a few other problems, broke up their relationship.
pisces sun, virgo moon and aries venus
When I was 17 i was in an open relationship with a scorpio sun for a few months. I've always admired the idea as I find it quite free and fun. But in saying that, I do get overly jealous and the open relationship soon became exclusive because neither of us could handle the others being promiscuous.
As long as I'm the queen bee?
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Nah! Not even then!Whom am I kidding ?
Posted by Teena
As long as I'm the queen bee?.
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Maybe
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In a poly relationship that is possible.
There is a hierarchy involved e.g. primary partners and secondary partners.
Posted by Teena
As long as I'm the queen bee?.
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Maybe
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In a poly relationship that is possible.
There is a hierarchy involved e.g. primary partners and secondary partners.
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Yeah poly was exactly what I was thinking too when I was typing that ?
I like to think of the differences in open relationship and poly relationship as such:
An open relationship is like partnership in a house with a revolving door.
A poly relationship is like a partnership in a house with a regular door - those who dare enter, enter at their own peril.
Posted by Teena
As long as I'm the queen bee?.
.
.
Maybe
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In a poly relationship that is possible.
There is a hierarchy involved e.g. primary partners and secondary partners.
Yeah poly was exactly what I was thinking too when I was typing that ?
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I was always the secondary partner lol. My partners were always the queen bees, with the other person as the primary partner.
But this is the thing -
The dynamics of poly relationships can be very complex at times. A lot of people get into it without knowing what they're getting themselves into.
Posted by Teena
As long as I'm the queen bee?.
.
.
Maybe
.
.
In a poly relationship that is possible.
There is a hierarchy involved e.g. primary partners and secondary partners.
Yeah poly was exactly what I was thinking too when I was typing that ?
I was always the secondary partner lol. My partners were always the queen bees, with the other person as the primary partner.
But this is the thing -
The dynamics of poly relationships can be very complex at times. A lot of people get into it without knowing what they're getting themselves into.
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Lol! I totally get that. I won't talk about in a relationship kinda scenario, but in any other kinda relationship I shared with people in general, I'm just used to being this primary person. I don't know how I'd take it or behave like not being that person. While I don't have problem with them sharing good bond with other people (that doesn't make me jealous), I just probably should know that I'm the one they always want to come back to at the end of the day n people always did.
Yeah I understand how it can be complex in the relationships. How well did you deal with them? Any bad experiences?
Posted by tiziani
And some of the breakup stories on poly forums 😐Seems more gut-wrenching than anything.
Link?
I'll try and find the one that shook me later but I know it was on polyamory.com (seems like too obvious an address I know)
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It was a story about how they started out happy, cheery, toasting drinks over lunch and the couple that initiated the 4-way seemed really happy, like nothing could shake them. So the other couple thought screw it, why not?
Then gradually it turned into one wife had more feelings for how her secondary partner looked at her, treated her where her primary partner couldn't even really perform for his secondary partner and started taking it out on everyone. Until it ended with him crying upstairs in his room, just a real gut wrenching read I wasn't prepared for. Both relationships were in tatters by the end of it and the woman was seriously pleading with the forum about how to fix it with all 3 of them.
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Wow!! How cool
Posted by tiziani
And some of the breakup stories on poly forums 😐Seems more gut-wrenching than anything.
Link?
I'll try and find the one that shook me later but I know it was on polyamory.com (seems like too obvious an address I know)
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It was a story about how they started out happy, cheery, toasting drinks over lunch and the couple that initiated the 4-way seemed really happy, like nothing could shake them. So the other couple thought screw it, why not?
Then gradually it turned into one wife had more feelings for how her secondary partner looked at her, treated her where her primary partner couldn't even really perform for his secondary partner and started taking it out on everyone. Until it ended with him crying upstairs in his room, just a real gut wrenching read I wasn't prepared for. Both relationships were in tatters by the end of it and the woman was seriously pleading with the forum about how to fix it with all 3 of them.
Wow!! How cool
You mean the forum? Lol
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Nah..the story... I was being sarcastic ?
Nope, not for me. If I ever decided to be in an open relationship, it would be solely physical. It would mean that I don't care enough about the person to be serious with them.
Posted by Chuckcem
Nope, not for me. If I ever decided to be in an open relationship, it would be solely physical. It would mean that I don't care enough about the person to be serious with them.
Sigh.
An open relationship IS purely physical/sexual.
Once feelings/emotions are involved it can no longer be considered an open relationship.
Posted by tiziani
And some of the breakup stories on poly forums 😐Seems more gut-wrenching than anything.
Link?
I'll try and find the one that shook me later but I know it was on polyamory.com (seems like too obvious an address I know)
-
It was a story about how they started out happy, cheery, toasting drinks over lunch and the couple that initiated the 4-way seemed really happy, like nothing could shake them. So the other couple thought screw it, why not?
Then gradually it turned into one wife had more feelings for how her secondary partner looked at her, treated her where her primary partner couldn't even really perform for his secondary partner and started taking it out on everyone. Until it ended with him crying upstairs in his room, just a real gut wrenching read I wasn't prepared for. Both relationships were in tatters by the end of it and the woman was seriously pleading with the forum about how to fix it with all 3 of them.
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It's a hot mess once the miscommunication sets in. The big killer though is when 1 partner isn't being honest with himself/herself and makes everyone else believe he/she is ok with the arrangement.
Posted by Teena
As long as I'm the queen bee?.
.
.
Maybe
.
.
In a poly relationship that is possible.
There is a hierarchy involved e.g. primary partners and secondary partners.
Yeah poly was exactly what I was thinking too when I was typing that ?
I was always the secondary partner lol. My partners were always the queen bees, with the other person as the primary partner.
But this is the thing -
The dynamics of poly relationships can be very complex at times. A lot of people get into it without knowing what they're getting themselves into.
Lol! I totally get that. I won't talk about in a relationship kinda scenario, but in any other kinda relationship I shared with people in general, I'm just used to being this primary person. I don't know how I'd take it or behave like not being that person. While I don't have problem with them sharing good bond with other people (that doesn't make me jealous), I just probably should know that I'm the one they always want to come back to at the end of the day n people always did.
Yeah I understand how it can be complex in the relationships. How well did you deal with them? Any bad experiences?
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I deal with them by talking issues out (not screaming them out). Trying to figure out possible solutions, basically keeping all channels open.
in the last poly relationship, there were 2 major reasons why it ended.
1) the male partner wasn't entirely happy with the arrangement because I refused a 3some session once. This truth only came out towards the end of the relationship. I liked the guy, but not enough to engage in a 3some.
2) I was beginning to feel drained by the relationship. The primary relationship (my ex and her male partner) was having lots of issues coming to the surface, mostly control issues.
Posted by Teena
As long as I'm the queen bee?.
.
.
Maybe
.
.
In a poly relationship that is possible.
There is a hierarchy involved e.g. primary partners and secondary partners.
Yeah poly was exactly what I was thinking too when I was typing that ?
I was always the secondary partner lol. My partners were always the queen bees, with the other person as the primary partner.
But this is the thing -
The dynamics of poly relationships can be very complex at times. A lot of people get into it without knowing what they're getting themselves into.
Lol! I totally get that. I won't talk about in a relationship kinda scenario, but in any other kinda relationship I shared with people in general, I'm just used to being this primary person. I don't know how I'd take it or behave like not being that person. While I don't have problem with them sharing good bond with other people (that doesn't make me jealous), I just probably should know that I'm the one they always want to come back to at the end of the day n people always did.
Yeah I understand how it can be complex in the relationships. How well did you deal with them? Any bad experiences?
I deal with them by talking issues out (not screaming them out). Trying to figure out possible solutions, basically keeping all channels open.
in the last poly relationship, there were 2 major reasons why it ended.
1) the male partner wasn't entirely happy with the arrangement because I refused a 3some session once. This truth only came out towards the end of the relationship. I liked the guy, but not enough to engage in a 3some.
2) I was beginning to feel drained by the relationship. The primary relationship (my ex and her male partner) was having lots of issues coming to the surface, mostly control issues.
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"I deal with them by talking issues out (not screaming them out). Trying to figure out possible solutions, basically keeping all channels open"
I think this is how every relationship should be dealt with.
Thanks for sharing ?
Posted by tiziani
And some of the breakup stories on poly forums 😐Seems more gut-wrenching than anything.
Link?
I'll try and find the one that shook me later but I know it was on polyamory.com (seems like too obvious an address I know)
-
It was a story about how they started out happy, cheery, toasting drinks over lunch and the couple that initiated the 4-way seemed really happy, like nothing could shake them. So the other couple thought screw it, why not?
Then gradually it turned into one wife had more feelings for how her secondary partner looked at her, treated her where her primary partner couldn't even really perform for his secondary partner and started taking it out on everyone. Until it ended with him crying upstairs in his room, just a real gut wrenching read I wasn't prepared for. Both relationships were in tatters by the end of it and the woman was seriously pleading with the forum about how to fix it with all 3 of them.
It's a hot mess once the miscommunication sets in. The big killer though is when 1 partner isn't being honest with himself/herself and makes everyone else believe he/she is ok with the arrangement
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This!!
Posted by heliumfiasco
Would you you be willing to be in an open relationship? I've thought about this a lot lately. Recently my *almost* Astro twin started an open relationship with a woman who has been married for 15 years. Her and her husband were friends with the dude I was dating for about a year, I guess it was her husband who suggested it. She was the Astro twins date to a wedding this weekend. They were all over each other, making out on social media... her husband liking the pics!!!! To me I'm like "wtf is going on here".... but a part of me feels like perhaps if you kill the ego this could be an ideal situation. But the biggest part is wondering where you draw the line with emotions? Can you be in love with more than one person? How long are you allowed to maintain a relationship with someone outside of your marriage? I thought this idea was a purely sexual one.... but that doesn't seem to be the case.What's your Venus/ moon/ mars? What is your take on this? Have you ever been in an open relationship? What boundaries, if any, did you have?
I'm definitely exploring the poly life. I am slowly falling in love with someone that's taken and she and I have such an open relationship in communicating what we feel. Her man doesn't know however on my end I'm keeping my eyes open to other prospects to have 2 women I share my time and attention with.
A poly relationship and an open relationship are 2 different things altogether. Open relationships have a lot more in common with swingers than with poly couples.
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You're right. I just am not experienced in using the terms properly. I wonder if this is Poly or Open. I was told open. They both have several lovers... mostly their friends. Which i think could get complicated. But apparently hasn't. My friend Emma told me the married couple is like insanely happy. I just didnt understand her going away for the weekend, in very intimate videos...making out, braiding the dudes hair, holding hands. Id assume that is too emotional. To me I MIGHT in PERFECT scenarios be able to handle casual sex flings. My main issue would absolutely be the fear of emotional intimacy on my partners part.
I can't see myself being in an open relationship. I'm not jealous nor possessive, but I am a little territorial. I am also greedy with what's mine, so my man's D is MY D lol.
My cap ex and I tried it (her suggestion) as our relo was ending and she thought I just needed to fuck other people. I was NEVER for it but agreed. We had a set of rules well "boundaries". Safe to say I crossed them all and ended up getting feelings for the other girl. So no I wouldn't do it again. Not a fan and I cannot handle or bare the thought of someone I love with someone else. FUCK THAT.
Gem Sun
Libra Moon
Cancer Venus
Ex is Cap sun
Aries Moon
Aqua Venus
Posted by heliumfiasco
Would you you be willing to be in an open relationship? I've thought about this a lot lately. Recently my *almost* Astro twin started an open relationship with a woman who has been married for 15 years. Her and her husband were friends with the dude I was dating for about a year, I guess it was her husband who suggested it. She was the Astro twins date to a wedding this weekend. They were all over each other, making out on social media... her husband liking the pics!!!! To me I'm like "wtf is going on here".... but a part of me feels like perhaps if you kill the ego this could be an ideal situation. But the biggest part is wondering where you draw the line with emotions? Can you be in love with more than one person? How long are you allowed to maintain a relationship with someone outside of your marriage? I thought this idea was a purely sexual one.... but that doesn't seem to be the case.What's your Venus/ moon/ mars? What is your take on this? Have you ever been in an open relationship? What boundaries, if any, did you have?
I'm definitely exploring the poly life. I am slowly falling in love with someone that's taken and she and I have such an open relationship in communicating what we feel. Her man doesn't know however on my end I'm keeping my eyes open to other prospects to have 2 women I share my time and attention with.
A poly relationship and an open relationship are 2 different things altogether. Open relationships have a lot more in common with swingers than with poly couples.
You're right. I just am not experienced in using the terms properly. I wonder if this is Poly or Open. I was told open. They both have several lovers... mostly their friends. Which i think could get complicated. But apparently hasn't. My friend Emma told me the married couple is like insanely happy. I just didnt understand her going away for the weekend, in very intimate videos...making out, braiding the dudes hair, holding hands. Id assume that is too emotional. To me I MIGHT in PERFECT scenarios be able to handle casual sex flings. My main issue would absolutely be the fear of emotional intimacy on my partners part.
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That's a pretty strong reason to not get into any sort of arrangement, open or poly.
Maybe it's really not for you?
Maybe it's just not the right time? Or the people involved are not the right ones (i.e. personality dynamics).
Plenty of reasons to not go in that direction.
nah, can't do it - never could, never will - just the way I'm built
I can do it ONLY IF my main S.O. is as equally into the idea as I am, as well as the other people I get involved with. But I just don't see this being a realistic possibility for the types I end up pursuing.
Posted by heliumfiasco
Would you you be willing to be in an open relationship? I've thought about this a lot lately. Recently my *almost* Astro twin started an open relationship with a woman who has been married for 15 years. Her and her husband were friends with the dude I was dating for about a year, I guess it was her husband who suggested it. She was the Astro twins date to a wedding this weekend. They were all over each other, making out on social media... her husband liking the pics!!!! To me I'm like "wtf is going on here".... but a part of me feels like perhaps if you kill the ego this could be an ideal situation. But the biggest part is wondering where you draw the line with emotions? Can you be in love with more than one person? How long are you allowed to maintain a relationship with someone outside of your marriage? I thought this idea was a purely sexual one.... but that doesn't seem to be the case.What's your Venus/ moon/ mars? What is your take on this? Have you ever been in an open relationship? What boundaries, if any, did you have?
I'm definitely exploring the poly life. I am slowly falling in love with someone that's taken and she and I have such an open relationship in communicating what we feel. Her man doesn't know however on my end I'm keeping my eyes open to other prospects to have 2 women I share my time and attention with.
A poly relationship and an open relationship are 2 different things altogether. Open relationships have a lot more in common with swingers than with poly couples.
You're right. I just am not experienced in using the terms properly. I wonder if this is Poly or Open. I was told open. They both have several lovers... mostly their friends. Which i think could get complicated. But apparently hasn't. My friend Emma told me the married couple is like insanely happy. I just didnt understand her going away for the weekend, in very intimate videos...making out, braiding the dudes hair, holding hands. Id assume that is too emotional. To me I MIGHT in PERFECT scenarios be able to handle casual sex flings. My main issue would absolutely be the fear of emotional intimacy on my partners part.
That's a pretty strong reason to not get into any sort of arrangement, open or poly.
Maybe it's really not for you?
Maybe it's just not the right time? Or the people involved are not the right ones (i.e. personality dynamics).
Plenty of reasons to not go in that direction.
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I dont see myself ever being comfortable. But, the idea intrigues me. The emotional intimacy would be too much.
What's your Venus/ moon/ mars?
Virgo, Pisces, Taurus
What is your take on this?
I think it's gross.
Psychological damage... he thinks she'll cheat
anyway-- this way, he controls it.
I guess.
Have you ever been in an open relationship?
No.
What boundaries, if any, did you have?
N/A
Posted by heliumfiasco
Would you you be willing to be in an open relationship? I've thought about this a lot lately. Recently my *almost* Astro twin started an open relationship with a woman who has been married for 15 years. Her and her husband were friends with the dude I was dating for about a year, I guess it was her husband who suggested it. She was the Astro twins date to a wedding this weekend. They were all over each other, making out on social media... her husband liking the pics!!!! To me I'm like "wtf is going on here".... but a part of me feels like perhaps if you kill the ego this could be an ideal situation. But the biggest part is wondering where you draw the line with emotions? Can you be in love with more than one person? How long are you allowed to maintain a relationship with someone outside of your marriage? I thought this idea was a purely sexual one.... but that doesn't seem to be the case.What's your Venus/ moon/ mars? What is your take on this? Have you ever been in an open relationship? What boundaries, if any, did you have?
Yea I could definitely be in a open relationship but if I am in an open relationship that means its based strictly on sex and I dont care THAT much about the girl to begin with, I just enjoy the sex
venus-scorpio
taurus moon
sag mars
I refuse to share someone I really like
Posted by heliumfiasco
Would you you be willing to be in an open relationship? I've thought about this a lot lately. Recently my *almost* Astro twin started an open relationship with a woman who has been married for 15 years. Her and her husband were friends with the dude I was dating for about a year, I guess it was her husband who suggested it. She was the Astro twins date to a wedding this weekend. They were all over each other, making out on social media... her husband liking the pics!!!! To me I'm like "wtf is going on here".... but a part of me feels like perhaps if you kill the ego this could be an ideal situation. But the biggest part is wondering where you draw the line with emotions? Can you be in love with more than one person? How long are you allowed to maintain a relationship with someone outside of your marriage? I thought this idea was a purely sexual one.... but that doesn't seem to be the case.What's your Venus/ moon/ mars? What is your take on this? Have you ever been in an open relationship? What boundaries, if any, did you have?
I'm definitely exploring the poly life. I am slowly falling in love with someone that's taken and she and I have such an open relationship in communicating what we feel. Her man doesn't know however on my end I'm keeping my eyes open to other prospects to have 2 women I share my time and attention with.
A poly relationship and an open relaitionship are 2 different things altogether. Open relationships have a lot more in common with swingers than with poly couples.
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Gotcha... well I'm more so just open then
Not my thing.
Sag moon
Sag Mars
Sag Venus
Yup, even with all that Sag, not even remotely interested. I don't share, what is mine , is mine lol
I ain't sharing shit. Lol
Posted by lesenfantterribles
i have been in 3 open relationships.the first 2 started out open & didn't work for longer than 4 months. the 3rd one was with my last boyfriend of 4.5 years. we went open after 3 years & it went great. i even became close friends with one of the gals he "dated". we only broke up bc i had to move for a job & he didnt want to come with me. we are still really close friends.
the older i get, the more & more open relationships sound nice to me. my ideal would be like an intimate FWB situation. a companion that can have physical relations with other people. i dont mind, as long as everyone is respectful of boundaries.
moon in libra 8th house
venus in cap 11th house
mars in aqua 12th house
How does/ did it work as far as emotions go? Sometimes you cant help but develop them. I'm wondering how that played out.
Suuuuurreee....i mean... It's.. Not like.. I'd be jealous or anything —
I can't. I don't like sharing.
Posted by tiziani
And some of the breakup stories on poly forums 😐Seems more gut-wrenching than anything.
Link?
I'll try and find the one that shook me later but I know it was on polyamory.com (seems like too obvious an address I know)
-
It was a story about how they started out happy, cheery, toasting drinks over lunch and the couple that initiated the 4-way seemed really happy, like nothing could shake them. So the other couple thought screw it, why not?
Then gradually it turned into one wife had more feelings for how her secondary partner looked at her, treated her where her primary partner couldn't even really perform for his secondary partner and started taking it out on everyone. Until it ended with him crying upstairs in his room, just a real gut wrenching read I wasn't prepared for. Both relationships were in tatters by the end of it and the woman was seriously pleading with the forum about how to fix it with all 3 of them.
It's a hot mess once the miscommunication sets in. The big killer though is when 1 partner isn't being honest with himself/herself and makes everyone else believe he/she is ok with the arrangement.
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Yeah the woman I'm seeing doesn't wanna know if I'm dating someone else. She tells me any and everything with the exception of sexual details. I told her I don't need to know that. But I tell her as much as I can.
Posted by NatureBoy
venus-scorpiotaurus moon
sag mars
R u 21? If no, what is your age. If yes, DTF?
Posted by justagirl
Not my thing.Sag moon
Sag Mars
Sag Venus
Yup, even with all that Sag, not even remotely interested. I don't share, what is mine , is mine lol
Would you want to be shared tho? (i.e. have room to sleep around)
Posted by SofiaV87
No I wouldn't be able to handle an open relationship. I'm fascinated by ppl that can handle it .. Pisces moon, libra mars, Aqua VenusSame! Totally fascinated. Honestly, this dude has a Pisces moon. I see him getting hurt.
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But it was his idea!
I would be fine with that. Instead of getting divorce and ending up alone - just live and let live! If any party getting serious - get divorce then and get married to that person you love. If not - at least when older you will take care of someone you know.
Posted by justagirl
Not my thing.Sag moon
Sag Mars
Sag Venus
Yup, even with all that Sag, not even remotely interested. I don't share, what is mine , is mine lol
Would you want to be shared tho? (i.e. have room to sleep around)
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No
Posted by SofiaV87
No I wouldn't be able to handle an open relationship. I'm fascinated by ppl that can handle it .. Pisces moon, libra mars, Aqua VenusSame! Totally fascinated. Honestly, this dude has a Pisces moon. I see him getting hurt.
But it was his idea!
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No! It was the girls husbands idea. This girl is gorgeous. She's a sag. she's a pretty well know IG photographer (like 120k followers) of occult themed shoots. I met her while we were hanging out. I genuinely hope it works! I'm just so intrigued by how it all works. Especially all of them hyping up the others relationships. It's gotta work for them. Been doing it 15 years. I just wondered if I'm a emotionally repressed or prudish for not understanding how it's possible. But I see I'm pretty normal!
I get the idea and actually find the idea pleasing. I just don't see how it doesn't end in disaster. You need a ton of really emotionally strong individuals. That's hard to find.
Posted by SofiaV87
No I wouldn't be able to handle an open relationship. I'm fascinated by ppl that can handle it .. Pisces moon, libra mars, Aqua VenusSame! Totally fascinated. Honestly, this dude has a Pisces moon. I see him getting hurt.
But it was his idea!
No! It was the girls husbands idea. This girl is gorgeous. She's a sag. she's a pretty well know IG photographer (like 120k followers) of occult themed shoots. I met her while we were hanging out. I genuinely hope it works! I'm just so intrigued by how it all works. Especially all of them hyping up the others relationships. It's gotta work for them. Been doing it 15 years. I just wondered if I'm a emotionally repressed or prudish for not understanding how it's possible. But I see I'm pretty normal!
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So you mean they are fooling with others AND having sex with each other?
Even I would say wow! That must be some set of mind!
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Would you you be willing to be in an open relationship? I've thought about this a lot lately. Recently my *almost* Astro twin started an open relationship with a woman who has been married for 15 years. Her and her husband were friends with the dude I was dating for about a year, I guess it was her husband who suggested it. She was the Astro twins date to a wedding this weekend. They were all over each other, making out on social media... her husband liking the pics!!!! To me I'm like "wtf is going on here".... but a part of me feels like perhaps if you kill the ego this could be an ideal situation. But the biggest part is wondering where you draw the line with emotions? Can you be in love with more than one person? How long are you allowed to maintain a relationship with someone outside of your marriage? I thought this idea was a purely sexual one.... but that doesn't seem to be the case.
What's your Venus/ moon/ mars? What is your take on this? Have you ever been in an open relationship? What boundaries, if any, did you have?