cappiegirl
@cappiegirl
8 Years
Comments: 0 · Posts: 52 · Topics: 7
How do you guys battle unrequited love?
You've already tolled him your feelings?
Thank you all for the support. Yes I told him before about my feelings, had post here few weeks ago about it and it went all wrong as he denied his feelings (even there were obvious) for whatever reason but he insisted we remain friends. I withdrew myself but he keeps reaching out ... to say hi, to comment in group chat on my activities, then this week he made a point of trying to help me with something. He is so confusing, I am trying to keep emotional distance to protect myself. It really sucks.
Gurl you need to have backup on backup on backup. Get you a rebound, and a rebound for your rebound. It's not complicated.
@whorpio lol it would make sense but not everyone is wired that way but thanks for the suggestion
Posted by cappiegirl
@whorpio lol it would make sense but not everyone is wired that way but thanks for the suggestion
I like your vibe ? Sorry I can't be much help, but I do sympathize for your situation 😢 I hope you get clarity and are able to move on.
You can go for a long gut-busting run
Or you can drink 12 beers in an afternoon
Or just sit quietly and feel your heart burn. And burn
I think it's just time. And distractions
Hopefully meet someone new 🙂
Or you can drink 12 beers in an afternoon
Or just sit quietly and feel your heart burn. And burn
I think it's just time. And distractions
Hopefully meet someone new 🙂
Be emotionally strong. I know it is difficult but that is what is required here. It will help you in your future. Obviously it will be painful initially but trust me it will be worth it :-)
Posted by cappiegirlFirst, I feel for you. I went through this recently and wish the experience on no one.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
Second, what worked for me was to focus on bettering myself- career-wise- spiritually- emotionally- etc. Doing this kept me very busy (i.e. distracted) and the benefit was, months later, I had new accomplishments, new experiences and new memories to build from.
Third, know that this will take time-- and whatever time it takes you is OK. This is your healing process- not someone else. Don't judge yourself based on some other persons timeline.
Fourth, don't forget to forgive yourself.
I know it seems like "better" is a long way away but you will get there.
I truly wish you the best.
@ringofsaturn... yes i agree, but he keep reaching out to me either directly (deleted his number but didnt block it) or via common friends to "be friends" as I am such an amazing women and he doesnt want to lose me in his own words. wtf. Cannot really move city unfortunately.
He is also capricorn so he should know that this is just selfish from his side, if you dont like me let me go not trying to keep me around.
Anyway thank you all for the support and for letting me vent. I will get through this, we cappies are unbreakable I just need to strengthen my resistance and distance myself complete so i can move on.
He is also capricorn so he should know that this is just selfish from his side, if you dont like me let me go not trying to keep me around.
Anyway thank you all for the support and for letting me vent. I will get through this, we cappies are unbreakable I just need to strengthen my resistance and distance myself complete so i can move on.
Posted by cappiegirlStrategy is to find someone else, and quickly.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
Posted by cappiegirlWhat an ass! Have you explained to him that friendship is not your thing?
@ringofsaturn... yes i agree, but he keep reaching out to me either directly (deleted his number but didnt block it) or via common friends to "be friends" as I am such an amazing women and he doesnt want to lose me in his own words. wtf. Cannot really move city unfortunately.
He is also capricorn so he should know that this is just selfish from his side, if you dont like me let me go not trying to keep me around.
Anyway thank you all for the support and for letting me vent. I will get through this, we cappies are unbreakable I just need to strengthen my resistance and distance myself complete so i can move on.
If you did - then he is an ass. Selfish one!
How can you like such a creep? Forget him! I know...❤️
After a lengthy period of sobbing myself to sleep and struggling to find the motivation to get out of bed for a couple of weeks, I eventually tell myself how lame I'm being and start focusing on my work or hobbies.
Accomplishing any goal you may have is the fast lane to forgetting him. Just do you. Make yourself feel good.
Accomplishing any goal you may have is the fast lane to forgetting him. Just do you. Make yourself feel good.
For me, it's work, housework, exercise, and wine - in that order.
@daron76 and @EarthyLeo thanks for sharing your experience. Upwards and onwards.. cappies are never defeated it's just temporary set back.
Posted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Posted by cappiegirlIf it was the best connection ... It definitely wouldn't be unrequited .... There is never a equal exchange in unrequited love... One or the other is always taking... Codependent on the next... This is actually the worst kind of connection because it leads to obsessions ... And could possibly lead to mental depression or worse... Jail ... The best connection is the equal exchange ... You couldn't have possibly experienced this if it was unrequited ... You can get sex whipped though this is only thing that makes a person feel connected in these types of connections ... That is what feeds it... Not love... Unrequited love is lust based... To get over this... Love yourself by breaking obsessive ways... And you will attract true love... And I can tell ya ... It's nothing like unrequited ... Unrequited is toxic on many levels because it creates illusions of being in love
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said thatclick to expand
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when we go into the negative with ourselves. both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
been in love with man for more than 3 years i think i am still not over
him 😢
him 😢
Posted by cappiegirlI just bought an espresso machine .
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
Next week I'm going to learn how to brew beer at home .
I might take up an instrument , learn a new language and start to paint .
Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
click to expand
Really needed to read this.
Posted by AdreamuponwakingGood luck not to seeing THE FACE in espresso machine and not thinking of it while brewing...Posted by cappiegirlI just bought an espresso machine .
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
Next week I'm going to learn how to brew beer at home .
I might take up an instrument , learn a new language and start to paint .
click to expand
Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.click to expand
Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.click to expand
not sure what you mean but okay lol
Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsYou would only believe in this crap while young!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.
not sure what you mean but okay lol
click to expand
Life with love is more complicated and no one have an answer!
Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsYou would only believe in this crap while young!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.
not sure what you mean but okay lol
Life with love is more complicated and no one have an answer!
click to expand
Of course love is complicated because people are but what the dude said has some truth to it. I'm currently going through something like this.
Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsDudes know shit!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsYou would only believe in this crap while young!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.
not sure what you mean but okay lol
Life with love is more complicated and no one have an answer!
Of course love is complicated because people are but what the dude said has some truth to it. I'm currently going through something like this.
click to expand
Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsDudes know shit!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsYou would only believe in this crap while young!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.
not sure what you mean but okay lol
Life with love is more complicated and no one have an answer!
Of course love is complicated because people are but what the dude said has some truth to it. I'm currently going through something like this.
click to expand
lmao well damn
Posted by GemitatiIt's only complicated because you make it that way...notice I said YOU. You reap what you sow.Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsYou would only believe in this crap while young!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.
not sure what you mean but okay lol
Life with love is more complicated and no one have an answer!
click to expand
Posted by beautifulsoul74It's like saying - if you have mental condition - it's your fault!Posted by GemitatiIt's only complicated because you make it that way...notice I said YOU. You reap what you sow.Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsYou would only believe in this crap while young!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.
not sure what you mean but okay lol
Life with love is more complicated and no one have an answer!
click to expand
Sounds so much like what P-Angel would say...are you in training?
Posted by GemitatiI think it will help my dating life .Posted by AdreamuponwakingGood luck not to seeing THE FACE in espresso machine and not thinking of it while brewing...Posted by cappiegirlI just bought an espresso machine .
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
Next week I'm going to learn how to brew beer at home .
I might take up an instrument , learn a new language and start to paint .
click to expand
I plan on inviting people over to my cute apartment on a snowy or rainy day which is located in a quaint neighborhood ( think Greenwich village in NYC ) and making them an espresso drink with or without Japanese whiskey and fresh whipped cream .
They can enjoy it next to the fireplace and we can talk about books and life .
Posted by GemitatiIf I recall, aren't you the person who's married and has a side dude who's also married? And both your spouses don't know and this has been going on for years or something? Nobody made you get involved in this situation and it definitely isn't about love. You choose who you are and how react and respond. It's that simple.Posted by beautifulsoul74It's like saying - if you have mental condition - it's your fault!Posted by GemitatiIt's only complicated because you make it that way...notice I said YOU. You reap what you sow.Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsYou would only believe in this crap while young!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.
not sure what you mean but okay lol
Life with love is more complicated and no one have an answer!
Sounds so much like what P-Angel would say...are you in training?click to expand
The defense rests.
"Judge, I move to have this case dismissed on the grounds that the petitioner, Gemitati, lacks standing to lodge a complaint."
Posted by beautifulsoul74Your memory serves you well.Posted by GemitatiIf I recall, aren't you the person who's married and has a side dude who's also married? And both your spouses don't know and this has been going on for years or something? Nobody made you get involved in this situation and it definitely isn't about love. You choose who you are and how react and respond. It's that simple.Posted by beautifulsoul74It's like saying - if you have mental condition - it's your fault!Posted by GemitatiIt's only complicated because you make it that way...notice I said YOU. You reap what you sow.Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsYou would only believe in this crap while young!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.
not sure what you mean but okay lol
Life with love is more complicated and no one have an answer!
Sounds so much like what P-Angel would say...are you in training?
The defense rests.
"Judge, I move to have this case dismissed on the grounds that the petitioner, Gemitati, lacks standing to lodge a complaint."
click to expand
But...is my story relevant how?
Just want to pick? You are welcome!
Posted by GemitatiLol if you can't even phathom basic level personal responsibility when it comes to your own story and how it applies to your comments in this thread then there's no need in even carrying on the discussion🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74Your memory serves you well.Posted by GemitatiIf I recall, aren't you the person who's married and has a side dude who's also married? And both your spouses don't know and this has been going on for years or something? Nobody made you get involved in this situation and it definitely isn't about love. You choose who you are and how react and respond. It's that simple.Posted by beautifulsoul74It's like saying - if you have mental condition - it's your fault!Posted by GemitatiIt's only complicated because you make it that way...notice I said YOU. You reap what you sow.Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsYou would only believe in this crap while young!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.
not sure what you mean but okay lol
Life with love is more complicated and no one have an answer!
Sounds so much like what P-Angel would say...are you in training?
The defense rests.
"Judge, I move to have this case dismissed on the grounds that the petitioner, Gemitati, lacks standing to lodge a complaint."
But...is my story relevant how?
Just want to pick? You are welcome!
click to expand
Posted by beautifulsoul74So...stfu!!!Posted by GemitatiLol if you can't even phathom basic level personal responsibility when it comes to your own story and how it applies to your comments in this thread then there's no need in even carrying on the discussion🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74Your memory serves you well.Posted by GemitatiIf I recall, aren't you the person who's married and has a side dude who's also married? And both your spouses don't know and this has been going on for years or something? Nobody made you get involved in this situation and it definitely isn't about love. You choose who you are and how react and respond. It's that simple.Posted by beautifulsoul74It's like saying - if you have mental condition - it's your fault!Posted by GemitatiIt's only complicated because you make it that way...notice I said YOU. You reap what you sow.Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsYou would only believe in this crap while young!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_MarsIt's because you are 26...Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by ImpulsvThank you and we're not as bad as you think 🙂Posted by beautifulsoul74I'm going to send it out there in the universePosted by cappiegirlThe reason it hurts is that you're looking for reciprocation instead of loving because you can and not expecting anything back.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?
To be honest, this will bring a person's true intentions into focus. One's strategy shouldn't be to love in order to prove something or get something back. If you truly love someone, the only thing that matters is the time you share with them whether you end up together or not. Of course you don't let them mistreat you, but just love them and live. If it happens, it happens. I learned by experience.
Send me a wise sag like the above
ugh
I can't belive I said that
This is just something I realised about myself and how love works and to be honest there's really no deep mystery to it. Love and understanding are the same and not separate.
Often in these situations, I see people do things like cut contact, "work on themselves," etc and that goes back to my earlier comment. What is one's "intentions?" I'm not saying this about the OP but often we do this and it has a dual message. We do this to both "up our game" and to punish the other person for rejecting us...neither of which is actually about loving ourselves or them...it is ego. But when are going into the negative with ourselves and both people get hurt. If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy even if it's not without despite the investment we put into them. I know that is incredibly hard to do or understanding but once a person reaches the ability to do this, love flows like a river and they will see that the love they give comes back to them. It is just from other places. There's a lot more, but I'm just trying to keep it simple🙂
Really needed to read this.
not sure what you mean but okay lol
Life with love is more complicated and no one have an answer!
Sounds so much like what P-Angel would say...are you in training?
The defense rests.
"Judge, I move to have this case dismissed on the grounds that the petitioner, Gemitati, lacks standing to lodge a complaint."
But...is my story relevant how?
Just want to pick? You are welcome!
click to expand
—
Posted by rabidtalkerI DisagreePosted by cappiegirlStrategy is to find someone else, and quickly.
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?click to expand
@beautifulsoul74 I respect your opinion but the reality was that he felt exactly the same way otherwise he wouldnt make all the effort to keep me now or coming back to my life one way or another. For his own reasons he denied his feelings even there were right in front of us...
Capricorns can read people, we are very rarely wrong.
Capricorns can read people, we are very rarely wrong.
@caplove
Yes very weird, he just doesnt want to let me go. However it will be me letting him go so I dont block other people, like any cappie who really felt for someone we move on permanently but just need time to get to that point.
Yes very weird, he just doesnt want to let me go. However it will be me letting him go so I dont block other people, like any cappie who really felt for someone we move on permanently but just need time to get to that point.
Posted by cappiegirlAnd what exactly did he do wrong in this situation?
@beautifulsoul74 I respect your opinion but the reality was that he felt exactly the same way otherwise he wouldnt make all the effort to keep me now or coming back to my life one way or another. For his own reasons he denied his feelings even there were right in front of us...
Capricorns can read people, we are very rarely wrong.
Try and focus on the other things in your life. Personally I write a list of things I need to get done that week, hobbies I've been putting off etc, and then just take it day by day. I dont try bury the bad feelings when those emotions come up, but rather just let it sit there and let it come, dont try make excuses or hide it, just feel it for awhile and acknowledge it without feeding any negative stories into it. After doing that for awhile push forward with your day. Eventually the feeling will be less and less strong, but I wouldnt try and go for other guys yet. Try and improve yourself so that one day you can find someone as strong and confident as you will be.
What I've learned about unrequited love is that it never suffices.
So the pain you feel now is temporary but the joy you will feel when you meet someone who returns your love will be tremendous.
Hang in there, do yoga and reach out to friends. cyber hugs
So the pain you feel now is temporary but the joy you will feel when you meet someone who returns your love will be tremendous.
Hang in there, do yoga and reach out to friends. cyber hugs
Join the Conversation. Explore Yourself. Connect with Others.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account →Related Topics
How are all the Caps doing? Is the retrograde affecting you or you SO?
Mines gone AWOL this week :(
So my Cap got really drunk and told me that before he met me, he slept with a girl who picked him up at a bar. Problem is, she had a boyfriend (she told him) and he knowingly went ahead with it.
He said it was because he didn't really see a future wit
i cant believe people take caps so seriously.
somebody told him his knees was ashy.
https://www.instagram.com/p/BXbFFDVHjOB/?taken-by=dropolo
Is it popular opinion that Capricorns are insatiable, and any attempts in meeting their desires are oftentimes futile?
Can capricorns be psycho? Lol
someone really has me heated! All I can think about is finding out where they live so I can purchase a bag of donkey shit and have it delivered to their door.
Beuahahahahahga
The previous topic about it being hard to love a Cap hits the mark for me.
My Cap and I have been doing better lately, but his personality just makes it so hard for me to fall in love with him.
Example ---
We had plans to hang out this long wee
Me and this guy were in same class together for 4 weeks. then on the last day that we had class together, I asked for his FB, messaged him and sent him a funny video on FB (to which he laughed to), and since he was gonna go to Italy for a week I told him
Quick back story, I've known this cap man for a few years and weve always been flirty with one another like highschool kids with a secret crush. Hes 43, I'm 29. We began hanging out and eventually it led to some of the best sex I've ever had. The passion
There is a back story to all of this, but I'm trying to keep it brief. I guess my question is this:
Would a Capricorn man conceive of a child with a woman that he didn't love?
He said he's "interested and happy to give me an heir." I really need a C
More so then any Scorpio.
Guys unbelievable must share/ vent my anger at this cappie guy. We know each other for few months and are chats have intensified in last few weeks, spending time together sharing private info, he taking me for coffee (even when super busy at work), makes
Why people make it feels we are so hard to love? They're caught up in our natural self-composed traits and associate it control or constraints. And forgetting our soft, loving nature.
I have....well going through this makeup or breakup for good phase
do you think it's true that Capricorn generally ages backwards?
do you know any Capricorn(s) that look younger than they are...
what is about Saturn that makes them youthful? Did they find the fountain of youth?
Check out Susanna Hoffs, a couple
Guys just general question to all, do you think we have odd sense of humor? I guess it is hard to self-reflect but I know that I can sometimes say strange things which in my head sounded normal, only from people reaction I figured it wasn't.
Tonight I
My capricorn guy and me had a misunderstanding 3 weeks ago and suddenly he changed. He used to call me everyday on his way home and now he just call me before he goes to sleep. He used to text me like every 3-4 hours everyday just to check on me while bo
Found these series of articles accurate. I read mine and it was really good. Read the cap one here:
http://www.southfloridaastrologer.com/the-difference-between-capricorn-sun--moon.html
Do you agree or disagree?
So there's this guy I really like and when we met he was having problems with his gf at the time and broke up with her. We talked for a week and he decided to go back and try to make things work with her and dropped all contact with me but by that point I
I only know 2 Capricorns and they are awesome but we're not all that close anymore, but seriously... why does everyone on here like them? Give me reasons. I'm just curious.. Teach me young grasshoppa's ??
I recently started dating a Capricorn. When we're alone he is quiet, doesn't talk much about himself so I do most of the talking. However, when we're out with his friends he is very chatty, but he talks to his friends without even looking at me. Sometimes
Hi all,
I'd like to ask for a personal opinion on a veery strange capricorn I've been dating for 7 months now.
I am a Leo woman, 34, him Capricorn 46 born 22 December.
Since the begining we have rather strange relationship..if I can really call it th
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?