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What do Cap guys do when they go MIA then come back?
probably just going about their business and thinking about things ...
I'd like to know the answer also! 😉
I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)
& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!
I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'
BUT anyways,
What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways... 😉
I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)
& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!
I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'
BUT anyways,
What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways... 😉
Posted by CandicornI like your name! Caps have the best usernames on here. No contest.
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Posted by poison_ivy
I'd like to know the answer also! 😉
I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)
& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!
I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'
BUT anyways,
What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways... 😉
Definitely get cold feet when falling hard. Makes us twitchy. We don't know what to do with it, because it just kind of hits us and we're like fuck. Makes us weird because then we acknowledge we are vulnerable. Very frightening. If you can make it through the weird stage though of the on off silence and stick it out, we'll warm up and boom passion.
Umm after a fight? You might have hurt their feelings. This basically rips rugs out from under us so we start thinking about it from all views. Is it really me? Is it them? Can I live with changing this something about myself to please them? Work , sleep a lot if you've depressed us. Push all our feelings on our friends asking what they think. Once we feel collected , hi what's up?
Posted by RindarooExactly... Freaking out to not get hurt. But when you express to them that you won't hurt them like their last.. they don't really speak on it.. It's all mental with them.. & it can be frustrating but.. what can you do.. An unemotional man isn't gonna pour his emotions out all at once.. I guess you wait for the bits and pieces each time.. -__-Posted by poison_ivyCold feet or freaking out cuz they are going to get hurt again? talking to others & me calling him on it in my case ? Refusing to deal with it. I don't know maybe thinking...
I'd like to know the answer also! 😉
I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)
& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!
I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'
BUT anyways,
What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways... 😉click to expand
Posted by MissLadyIceQueenThanks for this! It helps.. You have no idea.. 🙂Posted by poison_ivy
I'd like to know the answer also! 😉
I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)
& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!
I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'
BUT anyways,
What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways... 😉
Definitely get cold feet when falling hard. Makes us twitchy. We don't know what to do with it, because it just kind of hits us and we're like fuck. Makes us weird because then we acknowledge we are vulnerable. Very frightening. If you can make it through the weird stage though of the on off silence and stick it out, we'll warm up and boom passion.
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The silent stages scare me.. But he's sooooooooo loving towards me.. When I return the "love" he goes missing for a few days.. I've been sticking it out and he comes back to check on me.. & then gets back to work mode.. & silence.. My Scorpio intuition can kinda read him and I've said this before:
The person they are falling in love with is like an "alien" to them.. It's weird because that feeling is something they aren't used to.. Unemotional ppl, don't do emotions.. SO when they feel the very thing that they "DON'T DO" it's like "oh fuck!"
I also think caps are EXTREMELY Afraid of getting hurt.. They are very gaurded in that aspect while they are insuring you won't "hurt them" in the end.. I mean most of your goals are to succeed at everything you put your mind to.. SO experiencing a moment of loving someone and they break your heart.. You move on telling yourself that it won't happen again.. Meet someone who interest you & in your mind the likelihood of you putting yourself through that again is rare.. BUT then it happens again, you fall for someone again.. and you get scared.. Then I think you put yourself more into your work to not think about it.. It affects us tho.
How do we get you to be more expressive without forcing it? I never force him to be or do anything he is uncomfortable doing.. I just want him to know that I'm here, always.. that I care, & I'm not gonna do him the way his ex did him.
My Sea-Goat is either writing, painting, working on his garden, doing music, creating figure models, sewing, working, or binge watching his favorite shows.
Posted by RindarooAww, I can listen to songs all day, ones that are based on my mood at the moment.. and when I hear songs that remind me of my cap, I get all emotional.... hahah! That's a scorpio for you!Posted by poison_ivyWhat to do when I'm also freaking out? The emotional rollercoaster Omg. Hurt people hurt others & boy it hurt. The good thing is he didn't actually see anyone else. But the last week we didn't see each other & he stopped reaching out. First time I did he said he wasn't sure if I wanted him to. The second time he told me it feels like forever since he's seen me & asked me to come over to snuggle and sleep with him (not for sex) his fav part is the intimacy actually.. it was freaking 1130 pm I said no. It was too late. He did admit to being distant sometimes, having a wall & doing things cuz of being hurt. That's something I guess. I knew all that lol. Also said no excuses & then was afraid I didn't want to talk to him? Well I've gone back & forth on what to do? Run away or come back & work through it. Damn Sag sun, I always run when I'm feeling like this but somehow I'm reaching out to him. And a lot of freaking crying!!! Ugh my aqua moon hates that! Lol my Scorpio daughter plays me freaking music so I'll feel my feelings ? Then I was hysterical and trying to keep it together. Boy I guess the emotion should tell me something.. I have to figure out how to be there to try & work through this without feeling like I'm being walked on. ?Posted by RindarooExactly... Freaking out to not get hurt. But when you express to them that you won't hurt them like their last.. they don't really speak on it.. It's all mental with them.. & it can be frustrating but.. what can you do.. An unemotional man isn't gonna pour his emotions out all at once.. I guess you wait for the bits and pieces each time.. -__-Posted by poison_ivyCold feet or freaking out cuz they are going to get hurt again? talking to others & me calling him on it in my case ? Refusing to deal with it. I don't know maybe thinking...
I'd like to know the answer also! 😉
I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)
& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!
I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'
BUT anyways,
What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways... 😉
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Anyway, I get you! Trust me.. It's indeed an emotional roller coaster. You have to coast through this with ease..
Think about this..
Maybe it's okay to think the way they (caps) do.. Logically think about what he has done to show you that he is in it with you like you are with him.
It's not much, but sometimes I go through Me and my caps old messages to each other, look at text, Saved Marco Polo videos, Listen to his voicemail (yes I save them! HA!) etc.. & you can tell through actions, words, etc that he really does care.. & wants this as bad as me.. Just harder for him to be emotional like me.
Trust me, I know why you feel the way you do. I get weary when my cap gets distant. His silence sometimes means nothing at all, & it's just one thing they are use to doing. It's in a caps nature. They need space. & I've been told by other caps that they don't necessarily pay attention to the "ghosting" and sometimes they don't even know how it affects other ppl. Sometimes they need a person to keep it real with them.. Be direct. Let them know what they do so they are aware and can fix it.. Nobody would know their wrongs, if no one tells them.. If it's the other way around, a Capricorn would tell us in a heartbeat.. Without second guessing themselves.. For me, I don't like to repeat myself over & over.. It's almost like beating a dead horse.. Pointless in my eyes.. So what works for them, could work for us too.. Silence, speaks volumes and maybe we can take that time to focus on ourselves and our goals.. Because while we're panicking trust that they are doing what they need to do.. without a care in the world.. lol. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure we run across their mind.. which is why alot of caps need REASSURANCE that we're still there.. Kinda like how your cap thinks you're done etc.. Maybe you aren't telling him enough.
There have been times I thought my cap didn't want to be with me, and when I questioned him, he didn't know where I was coming from.. For example:
I told my cap in the beginning when I began to feel neglect.. That I didn't feel like I was in a relationship at all.. & that if he's gonna waste my time to just leave me alone.. His response was that he didn't feel any different about the relationship... That he understands why I would feel the way I do BUT that his silence is not intentional and he doesn't want me to think he's ignoring me on purpose, he's just busy.. he wants me just as much as I want him..
I say all this to say, dig deeper. Has he REALLY given you any reason to doubt him..? I think unless a Cap boldly comes to you and says they are done, then keep pushing forward, remain loyal to him, patient understanding, BUT do you.. & I guarantee, it will get easier to deal with.. & you both will be rewarded in the end.
Whatever you do, don't run.. They are thinking the same as us sometimes they just may not bring it all up.. You need to find a free moment.. NO DISTRACTIONS>> Just you and him. & Talk. Don't leave things open ended, love.
...speaking to myself also dear.. 🙂
I have a sag Venus and a lot of times my first instinct is to run away from issues to avoid getting hurt.. So I understand your Sag sun ways.. lol & I'm a Scorpio sun so trust me.. I do the crying through all this time.. Nothing wrong with letting those emotions out.. We're human.. But try to stick through this.
I'm rooting for you two! Hugs!! 🙂
Posted by MissLadyIceQueenGIIIRLLL! What a help!
Umm after a fight? You might have hurt their feelings. This basically rips rugs out from under us so we start thinking about it from all views. Is it really me? Is it them? Can I live with changing this something about myself to please them? Work , sleep a lot if you've depressed us. Push all our feelings on our friends asking what they think. Once we feel collected , hi what's up?
My cap once told me, after a BIG argument that he doesn't talk to ppl about his business but if he did, they'd say I was wrong..
Few weeks later..
We're hanging out at a bar, me and his cousin (best friend) are on the sideline chatting and I'm like "Your cousin was mad at me for a bit and ignoring me.. His friend says "I know, he told me everything.. you were wrong" LOL! I glance at my cap with a smirk.. Then in my mind I'm thinking: this mutha-effer said he doesn't tell his biz blah blah blah.. LOL! But anyway, your "bolded" point must be true because he took his issues to his bud vs coming to me and laying it all on me.. & when he did come out of his hiding, it was if we NEVER argued. O_O
weirdos. lls!
Posted by nanobyteThis was refreshing to read. Especially the "sometimes for a long time" part. They certainly do require their time to recuperate.
Moping/Wallowing/AND most importantly, being productive and taking care of business. Keeping their mind off it during the day and being as productive as possible, but letting their mind revisit it at night. They need this time alone to recuperate and caps need to step back, sometimes for a long time, to think and to gain perspective.
It's funny. I have 2 male cap friends that I have known for years. I can go weeks without talking to them just fine. When I talk to them again, it's like as if time hasn't gone by. Still don't know either of them 110% like I do with my other best friends that I know so much about, but I know enough to where I want them in my life forever. They are great friends. Somehow if its a cap guy that I'm liking more than just a friend, much harder for me to want to give them space but I put on a good poker face like it doesn't phase me and will just keep myself busy with my own work and life. Deep down inside, I'll just be missing his good company.
Posted by Gob_ShiteWelp! My answer is even less relevant because I didn't even realize they mean "where does he go after a fight between us?"Posted by SunMoonStars
I saw another thread that was asking about why Caps kind of panic after a fight and the ensuing silence at the 3-4 week mark. Then he comes back.
News to me...
*shrugs*
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Harrumph! When will I learn to assume the worst with these threads?
Posted by poison_ivyThis is the constant battle I have with myself....how do you let them know and reassure them you care and will be by their side through everything without hitting them with even more emotions while they are in their heads or taking time....yet not look like you are punishing them for this time they need? Being in a LDR makes it even more intense at times. Must be balancing it as he is always checking in on me each day one way or another ☺️Posted by MissLadyIceQueenThanks for this! It helps.. You have no idea.. 🙂Posted by poison_ivy
I'd like to know the answer also! 😉
I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)
& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!
I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'
BUT anyways,
What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways... 😉
Definitely get cold feet when falling hard. Makes us twitchy. We don't know what to do with it, because it just kind of hits us and we're like fuck. Makes us weird because then we acknowledge we are vulnerable. Very frightening. If you can make it through the weird stage though of the on off silence and stick it out, we'll warm up and boom passion.
The silent stages scare me.. But he's sooooooooo loving towards me.. When I return the "love" he goes missing for a few days.. I've been sticking it out and he comes back to check on me.. & then gets back to work mode.. & silence.. My Scorpio intuition can kinda read him and I've said this before:
The person they are falling in love with is like an "alien" to them.. It's weird because that feeling is something they aren't used to.. Unemotional ppl, don't do emotions.. SO when they feel the very thing that they "DON'T DO" it's like "oh fuck!"
I also think caps are EXTREMELY Afraid of getting hurt.. They are very gaurded in that aspect while they are insuring you won't "hurt them" in the end.. I mean most of your goals are to succeed at everything you put your mind to.. SO experiencing a moment of loving someone and they break your heart.. You move on telling yourself that it won't happen again.. Meet someone who interest you & in your mind the likelihood of you putting yourself through that again is rare.. BUT then it happens again, you fall for someone again.. and you get scared.. Then I think you put yourself more into your work to not think about it.. It affects us tho.
How do we get you to be more expressive without forcing it? I never force him to be or do anything he is uncomfortable doing.. I just want him to know that I'm here, always.. that I care, & I'm not gonna do him the way his ex did him.click to expand
Posted by MiscorpionExactly mama! You hit the nail on the head. Im also in a LDR so it is a lot harder and takes a lot more work. I don't wanna drown him w emotions when he's in his mode, taking his time.. but sticking by him, letting him lead some, makes a hell of a difference.. I've become more patient through the course of knowing him and as intense as ppl know us Scorpios are, that's saying a lot to actually get better with this. Caps seem extremely strong... they carry the weight of the world on their shoulders well.. most are very nonchalant. But they have feelings like we do. They're human. They just express in a way that's to their liking. & Its not fair to punish them about who or how they are.. just is what it is. Some ppl can deal some can't but to each its own. I think its worth it ..Posted by poison_ivyThis is the constant battle I have with myself....how do you let them know and reassure them you care and will be by their side through everything without hitting them with even more emotions while they are in their heads or taking time....yet not look like you are punishing them for this time they need? Being in a LDR makes it even more intense at times. Must be balancing it as he is always checking in on me each day one way or another ☺️Posted by MissLadyIceQueenThanks for this! It helps.. You have no idea.. 🙂Posted by poison_ivy
I'd like to know the answer also! 😉
I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)
& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!
I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'
BUT anyways,
What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways... 😉
Definitely get cold feet when falling hard. Makes us twitchy. We don't know what to do with it, because it just kind of hits us and we're like fuck. Makes us weird because then we acknowledge we are vulnerable. Very frightening. If you can make it through the weird stage though of the on off silence and stick it out, we'll warm up and boom passion.
The silent stages scare me.. But he's sooooooooo loving towards me.. When I return the "love" he goes missing for a few days.. I've been sticking it out and he comes back to check on me.. & then gets back to work mode.. & silence.. My Scorpio intuition can kinda read him and I've said this before:
The person they are falling in love with is like an "alien" to them.. It's weird because that feeling is something they aren't used to.. Unemotional ppl, don't do emotions.. SO when they feel the very thing that they "DON'T DO" it's like "oh fuck!"
I also think caps are EXTREMELY Afraid of getting hurt.. They are very gaurded in that aspect while they are insuring you won't "hurt them" in the end.. I mean most of your goals are to succeed at everything you put your mind to.. SO experiencing a moment of loving someone and they break your heart.. You move on telling yourself that it won't happen again.. Meet someone who interest you & in your mind the likelihood of you putting yourself through that again is rare.. BUT then it happens again, you fall for someone again.. and you get scared.. Then I think you put yourself more into your work to not think about it.. It affects us tho.
How do we get you to be more expressive without forcing it? I never force him to be or do anything he is uncomfortable doing.. I just want him to know that I'm here, always.. that I care, & I'm not gonna do him the way his ex did him.click to expand
I always say caps and Scorp couples are my fave. Not being biased at all.. but they are the Power Couple. Once the get over the bump in the road that is communication they will have something so intense and magical. Helping each other grow for the better.
Sorry folks, my poorly worded question on this one caused a few head scratches.
Thanks for all the contributions!
Mine said he used "every second to":
- get used to a new job
- recover, regroup, reassess
- recuperate
- plan future goals
This leads me to another topic that I'll create, would love your input there too 🙂
Thanks for all the contributions!
Mine said he used "every second to":
- get used to a new job
- recover, regroup, reassess
- recuperate
- plan future goals
This leads me to another topic that I'll create, would love your input there too 🙂
What do male cats do when they go awol for a few days??
Posted by poison_ivyWe only tell it to our best friends . We don't blast our business to everyone all over social media or anything like that. We think it's tacky.Posted by MissLadyIceQueenGIIIRLLL! What a help!
Umm after a fight? You might have hurt their feelings. This basically rips rugs out from under us so we start thinking about it from all views. Is it really me? Is it them? Can I live with changing this something about myself to please them? Work , sleep a lot if you've depressed us. Push all our feelings on our friends asking what they think. Once we feel collected , hi what's up?
My cap once told me, after a BIG argument that he doesn't talk to ppl about his business but if he did, they'd say I was wrong..
Few weeks later..
We're hanging out at a bar, me and his cousin (best friend) are on the sideline chatting and I'm like "Your cousin was mad at me for a bit and ignoring me.. His friend says "I know, he told me everything.. you were wrong" LOL! I glance at my cap with a smirk.. Then in my mind I'm thinking: this mutha-effer said he doesn't tell his biz blah blah blah.. LOL! But anyway, your "bolded" point must be true because he took his issues to his bud vs coming to me and laying it all on me.. & when he did come out of his hiding, it was if we NEVER argued. O_O
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Posted by @RindarooYes, I understand, hon. As I said, I love like a sag (venus).. So if I'm falling hard and things start to worry me.. I usually start to act standoffish. To avoid hurt. So I can see how an interest can get the wrong impression from me.. Like how your cap thinks you're "done".. I believe all caps need pure reassurance just to be sure.. I need to get better too.. A lot of what I share and advise here, I take heed myself. Every relationship, no matter the zodiac takes work. Some work easier for others.. But for a cap, it does take some time.
Thank you 🙂 This helps. He needs a lot of reassurance & I'm not very good at that. I know that's part of why this happened (him thinking I was done). I guess I need to get better at it.
Well my issue was putting myself out there & having him go off talking to others acting like he was looking for my replacement 2 weeks after he said I love you—i know I hurt him since I didn't say it back then or for a month even. I was finally able to get him almost back to normal & was trying to put myself more out there & then I just freaked out. I hadn't said anything about suspicions or mixed messages. I am glad I did put everything out there though it was festering inside me. So maybe this needed to happen for us to continue on. Sounds crazy being that it almost ended us. But I've learned you have to be willing to lose someone in order to keep them & have a good relationship. Not saying anything makes it worse actually.
He misses me so that's a good sign, after not much contact in a week. I don't know about this just waiting for them thing & having them not address the issue but be all okay things are fine now. I suppose part of my problem is that 2 years ago I did 7 months of intense therapy which basically was opening up all my layers and removing the hurt that existed there. That's a very hard thing to do. Also, I avoided my inner feelings ( so aqua moon) and wouldn't face them because I had so much pain in the past. I tend to panic, or say the 13 yo in me does and tries to protect the adult me.. shut down or run away or sabotage. Yikes. Probably why this hit me so hard. I do have tools on how to calm myself down so I don't do stupid things. Lol. So I suppose using those tools will help if I can remember at the time. The thing is these emotions are so right there since I've learned how to face them after a lifetime of hiding from them. But this is my first real relationship where I've had to deal with those big emotions since my divorce 5 years ago & the therapy. One other but he wasn't local so didn't see him much. So you add my Cap issues & mine together, no wonder we are struggling! But it's a huge connection too. Apparently we both aren't willing to give up even when we're being like this. It would be nice if he had tools too!!! Lol
Anyway. I sent him a text this morning that I really did want to come by last night but I was just too tired & had no gas in my car!! But that I did want to see him just so he knew. 🙂 Oh & last night he asked twice lol.. he said he would be thinking & dreaming of me. ❤️ So I guess that means he does think about me lol.
I have a cap that I've been friends with for about 9-10 years and he's NEVER had a girlfriend. he hasn't really found someone that gets him.. He's played around and said he'll marry me, but I think it's because I get him.. Me & my cap friend can go for weeks, months days at a time without speaking and then when we chat after a long time has passed, we vibe like no time went missing at all.. He's even told me he loves me etc. & I love him too.. My cappy dad, always has issues with women.. They don't understand him.. Work comes first but as we know, women need time.. so oftentimes my dad's women feel unappreciated and they eventually leave him.. Or he gets tire of the nagging and he walks away. He wants someone that will nurture him, stick by his side, and understand his desire for working hard.. My dad is actually in the middle of his THIRD divorce because his wife says she's tired of the neglect. hmm.. figures.. My dad never intentionally tried to neglect his wife.. He says he tries so hard to please her, to make time, but nothing is ever good enough.. He believes that he has to work to take care of his fam.. and in his mind, if he doesn't do it, no one will.. My cap boyfriend and my dad are similar in many ways.. So I always joke and say I'm dating my dad.. tee hee hee!
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This statement you made:
But I've learned you have to be willing to lose someone in order to keep them & have a good relationship. Not saying anything makes it worse actually.
I agree.. In this case, you have to be willing to put yourself out there.. & as long as you know that YOU laid everything out on the table for your mate, you won't feel like you left things unsaid. Gives you a greater peace of mind if things don't work.. Saying nothing AT ALL, leaves things open ended and you'll never have peace or the closure that's needed to move on. Not saying it's a talk to leave him but to be vulnerable?! If he's not, he won't. Maybe he's not comfortable with doing that yet. But take the lead in that.. He will appreciate it.
The waiting ... is definitely the hardest part. But they have to process it. In due time they always come around if they truly care.
You took a step and told him that you really wanted to see him.. He was probably pleased to hear that you wanted to even tho your circumstance didn't allow that to proceed, he cared.. & Said he'd think and dream of you... That says a lot coming from men like them.. Take heed to the "little" things they do or say.. Sometimes to us, we don't notice simplicity, but coming from them, those things speak volumes!
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Posted by MissLadyIceQueenI understand..Posted by poison_ivyWe only tell it to our best friends . We don't blast our business to everyone all over social media or anything like that. We think it's tacky.Posted by MissLadyIceQueenGIIIRLLL! What a help!
Umm after a fight? You might have hurt their feelings. This basically rips rugs out from under us so we start thinking about it from all views. Is it really me? Is it them? Can I live with changing this something about myself to please them? Work , sleep a lot if you've depressed us. Push all our feelings on our friends asking what they think. Once we feel collected , hi what's up?
My cap once told me, after a BIG argument that he doesn't talk to ppl about his business but if he did, they'd say I was wrong..
Few weeks later..
We're hanging out at a bar, me and his cousin (best friend) are on the sideline chatting and I'm like "Your cousin was mad at me for a bit and ignoring me.. His friend says "I know, he told me everything.. you were wrong" LOL! I glance at my cap with a smirk.. Then in my mind I'm thinking: this mutha-effer said he doesn't tell his biz blah blah blah.. LOL! But anyway, your "bolded" point must be true because he took his issues to his bud vs coming to me and laying it all on me.. & when he did come out of his hiding, it was if we NEVER argued. O_O
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Attention seekers do that. Not my cup 'a tea.. -__-
Posted by poison_ivyPosted by MissLadyIceQueenI understand..Posted by poison_ivyWe only tell it to our best friends . We don't blast our business to everyone all over social media or anything like that. We think it's tacky.Posted by MissLadyIceQueenGIIIRLLL! What a help!
Umm after a fight? You might have hurt their feelings. This basically rips rugs out from under us so we start thinking about it from all views. Is it really me? Is it them? Can I live with changing this something about myself to please them? Work , sleep a lot if you've depressed us. Push all our feelings on our friends asking what they think. Once we feel collected , hi what's up?
My cap once told me, after a BIG argument that he doesn't talk to ppl about his business but if he did, they'd say I was wrong..
Few weeks later..
We're hanging out at a bar, me and his cousin (best friend) are on the sideline chatting and I'm like "Your cousin was mad at me for a bit and ignoring me.. His friend says "I know, he told me everything.. you were wrong" LOL! I glance at my cap with a smirk.. Then in my mind I'm thinking: this mutha-effer said he doesn't tell his biz blah blah blah.. LOL! But anyway, your "bolded" point must be true because he took his issues to his bud vs coming to me and laying it all on me.. & when he did come out of his hiding, it was if we NEVER argued. O_O
weirdos. lls!
Attention seekers do that. Not my cup 'a tea.. -__-click to expand
Exactly. We also hate rehashing old arguments (at least I do) . We like our relationships to be good. Dwelling on negatives is draining. Fix it and move on. Because when we forgive someone it's forgiven. We kind of expect the same.
Posted by MiscorpionPosted by poison_ivyThis is the constant battle I have with myself....how do you let them know and reassure them you care and will be by their side through everything without hitting them with even more emotions while they are in their heads or taking time....yet not look like you are punishing them for this time they need? Being in a LDR makes it even more intense at times. Must be balancing it as he is always checking in on me each day one way or another ☺️Posted by MissLadyIceQueenThanks for this! It helps.. You have no idea.. 🙂Posted by poison_ivy
I'd like to know the answer also! 😉
I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)
& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!
I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'
BUT anyways,
What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways... 😉
Definitely get cold feet when falling hard. Makes us twitchy. We don't know what to do with it, because it just kind of hits us and we're like fuck. Makes us weird because then we acknowledge we are vulnerable. Very frightening. If you can make it through the weird stage though of the on off silence and stick it out, we'll warm up and boom passion.
The silent stages scare me.. But he's sooooooooo loving towards me.. When I return the "love" he goes missing for a few days.. I've been sticking it out and he comes back to check on me.. & then gets back to work mode.. & silence.. My Scorpio intuition can kinda read him and I've said this before:
The person they are falling in love with is like an "alien" to them.. It's weird because that feeling is something they aren't used to.. Unemotional ppl, don't do emotions.. SO when they feel the very thing that they "DON'T DO" it's like "oh fuck!"
I also think caps are EXTREMELY Afraid of getting hurt.. They are very gaurded in that aspect while they are insuring you won't "hurt them" in the end.. I mean most of your goals are to succeed at everything you put your mind to.. SO experiencing a moment of loving someone and they break your heart.. You move on telling yourself that it won't happen again.. Meet someone who interest you & in your mind the likelihood of you putting yourself through that again is rare.. BUT then it happens again, you fall for someone again.. and you get scared.. Then I think you put yourself more into your work to not think about it.. It affects us tho.
How do we get you to be more expressive without forcing it? I never force him to be or do anything he is uncomfortable doing.. I just want him to know that I'm here, always.. that I care, & I'm not gonna do him the way his ex did him.click to expand
I send him stick figure stories on sticky notes and leave them under his mouse on his desk.
Posted by MissLadyIceQueenThanks for this, good to know!!Posted by poison_ivyPosted by MissLadyIceQueenI understand..Posted by poison_ivyWe only tell it to our best friends . We don't blast our business to everyone all over social media or anything like that. We think it's tacky.Posted by MissLadyIceQueenGIIIRLLL! What a help!
Umm after a fight? You might have hurt their feelings. This basically rips rugs out from under us so we start thinking about it from all views. Is it really me? Is it them? Can I live with changing this something about myself to please them? Work , sleep a lot if you've depressed us. Push all our feelings on our friends asking what they think. Once we feel collected , hi what's up?
My cap once told me, after a BIG argument that he doesn't talk to ppl about his business but if he did, they'd say I was wrong..
Few weeks later..
We're hanging out at a bar, me and his cousin (best friend) are on the sideline chatting and I'm like "Your cousin was mad at me for a bit and ignoring me.. His friend says "I know, he told me everything.. you were wrong" LOL! I glance at my cap with a smirk.. Then in my mind I'm thinking: this mutha-effer said he doesn't tell his biz blah blah blah.. LOL! But anyway, your "bolded" point must be true because he took his issues to his bud vs coming to me and laying it all on me.. & when he did come out of his hiding, it was if we NEVER argued. O_O
weirdos. lls!
Attention seekers do that. Not my cup 'a tea.. -__-
Exactly. We also hate rehashing old arguments (at least I do) . We like our relationships to be good. Dwelling on negatives is draining. Fix it and move on. Because when we forgive someone it's forgiven. We kind of expect the same.
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My cap doesn't like to argue at all.. He rather avoid them.. Which is why he goes silent during issues after he's said his part and when he comes back, he's moved on from the matter ALL together..
Posted by poison_ivyPosted by MissLadyIceQueenThanks for this, good to know!!Posted by poison_ivyPosted by MissLadyIceQueenI understand..Posted by poison_ivyWe only tell it to our best friends . We don't blast our business to everyone all over social media or anything like that. We think it's tacky.Posted by MissLadyIceQueenGIIIRLLL! What a help!
Umm after a fight? You might have hurt their feelings. This basically rips rugs out from under us so we start thinking about it from all views. Is it really me? Is it them? Can I live with changing this something about myself to please them? Work , sleep a lot if you've depressed us. Push all our feelings on our friends asking what they think. Once we feel collected , hi what's up?
My cap once told me, after a BIG argument that he doesn't talk to ppl about his business but if he did, they'd say I was wrong..
Few weeks later..
We're hanging out at a bar, me and his cousin (best friend) are on the sideline chatting and I'm like "Your cousin was mad at me for a bit and ignoring me.. His friend says "I know, he told me everything.. you were wrong" LOL! I glance at my cap with a smirk.. Then in my mind I'm thinking: this mutha-effer said he doesn't tell his biz blah blah blah.. LOL! But anyway, your "bolded" point must be true because he took his issues to his bud vs coming to me and laying it all on me.. & when he did come out of his hiding, it was if we NEVER argued. O_O
weirdos. lls!
Attention seekers do that. Not my cup 'a tea.. -__-
Exactly. We also hate rehashing old arguments (at least I do) . We like our relationships to be good. Dwelling on negatives is draining. Fix it and move on. Because when we forgive someone it's forgiven. We kind of expect the same.
My cap doesn't like to argue at all.. He rather avoid them.. Which is why he goes silent during issues after he's said his part and when he comes back, he's moved on from the matter ALL together..click to expand
That's us, and so glad I could help! Feel free to pm me or ask me anything on here if you ever need more clarity or info to work with. Good luck with your guy!
Posted by MissLadyIceQueenI appreciate that! And I will! ☺️ Thanks so much, I need the luck!Posted by poison_ivyPosted by MissLadyIceQueenThanks for this, good to know!!Posted by poison_ivyPosted by MissLadyIceQueenI understand..Posted by poison_ivyWe only tell it to our best friends . We don't blast our business to everyone all over social media or anything like that. We think it's tacky.Posted by MissLadyIceQueenGIIIRLLL! What a help!
Umm after a fight? You might have hurt their feelings. This basically rips rugs out from under us so we start thinking about it from all views. Is it really me? Is it them? Can I live with changing this something about myself to please them? Work , sleep a lot if you've depressed us. Push all our feelings on our friends asking what they think. Once we feel collected , hi what's up?
My cap once told me, after a BIG argument that he doesn't talk to ppl about his business but if he did, they'd say I was wrong..
Few weeks later..
We're hanging out at a bar, me and his cousin (best friend) are on the sideline chatting and I'm like "Your cousin was mad at me for a bit and ignoring me.. His friend says "I know, he told me everything.. you were wrong" LOL! I glance at my cap with a smirk.. Then in my mind I'm thinking: this mutha-effer said he doesn't tell his biz blah blah blah.. LOL! But anyway, your "bolded" point must be true because he took his issues to his bud vs coming to me and laying it all on me.. & when he did come out of his hiding, it was if we NEVER argued. O_O
weirdos. lls!
Attention seekers do that. Not my cup 'a tea.. -__-
Exactly. We also hate rehashing old arguments (at least I do) . We like our relationships to be good. Dwelling on negatives is draining. Fix it and move on. Because when we forgive someone it's forgiven. We kind of expect the same.
My cap doesn't like to argue at all.. He rather avoid them.. Which is why he goes silent during issues after he's said his part and when he comes back, he's moved on from the matter ALL together..
That's us, and so glad I could help! Feel free to pm me or ask me anything on here if you ever need more clarity or info to work with. Good luck with your guy!
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Posted by poison_ivyPosted by MissLadyIceQueenI appreciate that! And I will! ☺️ Thanks so much, I need the luck!Posted by poison_ivyPosted by MissLadyIceQueenThanks for this, good to know!!Posted by poison_ivyPosted by MissLadyIceQueenI understand..Posted by poison_ivyWe only tell it to our best friends . We don't blast our business to everyone all over social media or anything like that. We think it's tacky.Posted by MissLadyIceQueenGIIIRLLL! What a help!
Umm after a fight? You might have hurt their feelings. This basically rips rugs out from under us so we start thinking about it from all views. Is it really me? Is it them? Can I live with changing this something about myself to please them? Work , sleep a lot if you've depressed us. Push all our feelings on our friends asking what they think. Once we feel collected , hi what's up?
My cap once told me, after a BIG argument that he doesn't talk to ppl about his business but if he did, they'd say I was wrong..
Few weeks later..
We're hanging out at a bar, me and his cousin (best friend) are on the sideline chatting and I'm like "Your cousin was mad at me for a bit and ignoring me.. His friend says "I know, he told me everything.. you were wrong" LOL! I glance at my cap with a smirk.. Then in my mind I'm thinking: this mutha-effer said he doesn't tell his biz blah blah blah.. LOL! But anyway, your "bolded" point must be true because he took his issues to his bud vs coming to me and laying it all on me.. & when he did come out of his hiding, it was if we NEVER argued. O_O
weirdos. lls!
Attention seekers do that. Not my cup 'a tea.. -__-
Exactly. We also hate rehashing old arguments (at least I do) . We like our relationships to be good. Dwelling on negatives is draining. Fix it and move on. Because when we forgive someone it's forgiven. We kind of expect the same.
My cap doesn't like to argue at all.. He rather avoid them.. Which is why he goes silent during issues after he's said his part and when he comes back, he's moved on from the matter ALL together..
That's us, and so glad I could help! Feel free to pm me or ask me anything on here if you ever need more clarity or info to work with. Good luck with your guy!
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Anytime! Just your friendly neighborhood spiderman.
Posted by RindarooLOL! Working on Vacation! How do they do it!! LOL! NOPE not me.. Yes my dad needs his "soulmate".. My dad has a lot of Scorpio placements.. Maybe he needs a Scorpio woman.. He married my mom first who's a Taurus, second wife was a Cap and this last wife is a Taurus.. He has 3 girls.. 1 from each wife.. My youngest sister is 1 years old.. lol! I'm a Scorpio and both of my sisters are Caps.. The more we getting to fix our relationship the closer we are getting and he actually told me between me and my 21 yo sis, he gets along with me more.. figuress..Posted by poison_ivyWell maybe your dad would go better with another workaholic. My dad's second marriage was to another workaholic & they totally understood each other! They would go on vacation, take their computers & work side by side lol. Always cracked me up. Marriage lasted 20 years and until he passed. 🙂Posted by @RindarooYes, I understand, hon. As I said, I love like a sag (venus).. So if I'm falling hard and things start to worry me.. I usually start to act standoffish. To avoid hurt. So I can see how an interest can get the wrong impression from me.. Like how your cap thinks you're "done".. I believe all caps need pure reassurance just to be sure.. I need to get better too.. A lot of what I share and advise here, I take heed myself. Every relationship, no matter the zodiac takes work. Some work easier for others.. But for a cap, it does take some time.
Thank you 🙂 This helps. He needs a lot of reassurance & I'm not very good at that. I know that's part of why this happened (him thinking I was done). I guess I need to get better at it.
Well my issue was putting myself out there & having him go off talking to others acting like he was looking for my replacement 2 weeks after he said I love you—i know I hurt him since I didn't say it back then or for a month even. I was finally able to get him almost back to normal & was trying to put myself more out there & then I just freaked out. I hadn't said anything about suspicions or mixed messages. I am glad I did put everything out there though it was festering inside me. So maybe this needed to happen for us to continue on. Sounds crazy being that it almost ended us. But I've learned you have to be willing to lose someone in order to keep them & have a good relationship. Not saying anything makes it worse actually.
He misses me so that's a good sign, after not much contact in a week. I don't know about this just waiting for them thing & having them not address the issue but be all okay things are fine now. I suppose part of my problem is that 2 years ago I did 7 months of intense therapy which basically was opening up all my layers and removing the hurt that existed there. That's a very hard thing to do. Also, I avoided my inner feelings ( so aqua moon) and wouldn't face them because I had so much pain in the past. I tend to panic, or say the 13 yo in me does and tries to protect the adult me.. shut down or run away or sabotage. Yikes. Probably why this hit me so hard. I do have tools on how to calm myself down so I don't do stupid things. Lol. So I suppose using those tools will help if I can remember at the time. The thing is these emotions are so right there since I've learned how to face them after a lifetime of hiding from them. But this is my first real relationship where I've had to deal with those big emotions since my divorce 5 years ago & the therapy. One other but he wasn't local so didn't see him much. So you add my Cap issues & mine together, no wonder we are struggling! But it's a huge connection too. Apparently we both aren't willing to give up even when we're being like this. It would be nice if he had tools too!!! Lol
Anyway. I sent him a text this morning that I really did want to come by last night but I was just too tired & had no gas in my car!! But that I did want to see him just so he knew. 🙂 Oh & last night he asked twice lol.. he said he would be thinking & dreaming of me. ❤️ So I guess that means he does think about me lol.
I have a cap that I've been friends with for about 9-10 years and he's NEVER had a girlfriend. he hasn't really found someone that gets him.. He's played around and said he'll marry me, but I think it's because I get him.. Me & my cap friend can go for weeks, months days at a time without speaking and then when we chat after a long time has passed, we vibe like no time went missing at all.. He's even told me he loves me etc. & I love him too.. My cappy dad, always has issues with women.. They don't understand him.. Work comes first but as we know, women need time.. so oftentimes my dad's women feel unappreciated and they eventually leave him.. Or he gets tire of the nagging and he walks away. He wants someone that will nurture him, stick by his side, and understand his desire for working hard.. My dad is actually in the middle of his THIRD divorce because his wife says she's tired of the neglect. hmm.. figures.. My dad never intentionally tried to neglect his wife.. He says he tries so hard to please her, to make time, but nothing is ever good enough.. He believes that he has to work to take care of his fam.. and in his mind, if he doesn't do it, no one will.. My cap boyfriend and my dad are similar in many ways.. So I always joke and say I'm dating my dad.. tee hee hee!
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This statement you made:
But I've learned you have to be willing to lose someone in order to keep them & have a good relationship. Not saying anything makes it worse actually.
I agree.. In this case, you have to be willing to put yourself out there.. & as long as you know that YOU laid everything out on the table for your mate, you won't feel like you left things unsaid. Gives you a greater peace of mind if things don't work.. Saying nothing AT ALL, leaves things open ended and you'll never have peace or the closure that's needed to move on. Not saying it's a talk to leave him but to be vulnerable?! If he's not, he won't. Maybe he's not comfortable with doing that yet. But take the lead in that.. He will appreciate it.
The waiting ... is definitely the hardest part. But they have to process it. In due time they always come around if they truly care.
You took a step and told him that you really wanted to see him.. He was probably pleased to hear that you wanted to even tho your circumstance didn't allow that to proceed, he cared.. & Said he'd think and dream of you... That says a lot coming from men like them.. Take heed to the "little" things they do or say.. Sometimes to us, we don't notice simplicity, but coming from them, those things speak volumes!
🙂
Well I have news!!! Yes he does care ❤️ He texted me after work yesterday & we ended up going on an overnight trip just the two of us for a little gambling! On the way up, we hashed it all out. Communicated finally! He denies talking to anyone else & says he only wants to see me. ? He was upset because of something else in my text and we had an argument about it, but finally came to an agreement. It seems the scare of losing me did something🙂 he was back to how he was pre- VR. Yay! He told me that he really didn't like not saying goodnight to me every night, that he didn't know how he'd react but he did not like it at all! He actually thanked me for being in his life. 🙂 and admitted to being scared and nervous. Also, I can't remember what he was saying, but in the middle of a sentence he says "I love you to death" but.. it was just part of the discussion, but wow I can only remember the "I love you to death" ?? So yep falling hard!! We agreed to talk things out when we are scared. I told him I get scared sometimes too..
I must say I didn't do too well letting him be MIA and silent. I reached out twice, each time after two days. Jeez!! But it turns out he just needed to be reassured I was there 🙂 so it was the right thing!! And that amount of time was enough for him to get he didnt want to lose me.click to expand
I'm happy to hear that! Awwwe! Melts my heart! YAY! Good! Hang in there hon! You guys are doing well.. All beef was from miscommunication on both sides..
I'm happy for you! 🙂
Posted by RindarooMan cap men are so funny! Damn He married 10 years, single 20 years.. Married again for 20. LAWDT! They are a different species.. LOL! So patient when it comes to the "heart" ..Posted by poison_ivyThanks!! Funny with your dad - wow 1 yr old. Well my dad was married to my mom 10 years, single 20, and married again for 20. Didn't get married again til he was sure. Very hurt by my mom. I've never run his chart but my mom is a Libra, my stepmom an Aries. My brother is an Aquarius & I'm a Sag. So hmmm im his favorite (according to stepmom) & Stepmom was SO much better for him than my mom. So he liked the fire signs & the spunk! Both my mom & brother are pretty manipulative. Don't know if that's an air sign thing but seems us fire signs were much more genuine & a little fiery. He'd get mad, but eventually he'd say ok, that's enough in a firm voice. I'd be ok, dad. Cuz ya just didn't push him when you heard that voice! I suppose that's useful with my Cap too 🙂 I know where the line is when I hear that tone of voice!!Posted by RindarooLOL! Working on Vacation! How do they do it!! LOL! NOPE not me.. Yes my dad needs his "soulmate".. My dad has a lot of Scorpio placements.. Maybe he needs a Scorpio woman.. He married my mom first who's a Taurus, second wife was a Cap and this last wife is a Taurus.. He has 3 girls.. 1 from each wife.. My youngest sister is 1 years old.. lol! I'm a Scorpio and both of my sisters are Caps.. The more we getting to fix our relationship the closer we are getting and he actually told me between me and my 21 yo sis, he gets along with me more.. figuress..Posted by poison_ivyWell maybe your dad would go better with another workaholic. My dad's second marriage was to another workaholic & they totally understood each other! They would go on vacation, take their computers & work side by side lol. Always cracked me up. Marriage lasted 20 years and until he passed. 🙂Posted by @RindarooYes, I understand, hon. As I said, I love like a sag (venus).. So if I'm falling hard and things start to worry me.. I usually start to act standoffish. To avoid hurt. So I can see how an interest can get the wrong impression from me.. Like how your cap thinks you're "done".. I believe all caps need pure reassurance just to be sure.. I need to get better too.. A lot of what I share and advise here, I take heed myself. Every relationship, no matter the zodiac takes work. Some work easier for others.. But for a cap, it does take some time.
Thank you 🙂 This helps. He needs a lot of reassurance & I'm not very good at that. I know that's part of why this happened (him thinking I was done). I guess I need to get better at it.
Well my issue was putting myself out there & having him go off talking to others acting like he was looking for my replacement 2 weeks after he said I love you—i know I hurt him since I didn't say it back then or for a month even. I was finally able to get him almost back to normal & was trying to put myself more out there & then I just freaked out. I hadn't said anything about suspicions or mixed messages. I am glad I did put everything out there though it was festering inside me. So maybe this needed to happen for us to continue on. Sounds crazy being that it almost ended us. But I've learned you have to be willing to lose someone in order to keep them & have a good relationship. Not saying anything makes it worse actually.
He misses me so that's a good sign, after not much contact in a week. I don't know about this just waiting for them thing & having them not address the issue but be all okay things are fine now. I suppose part of my problem is that 2 years ago I did 7 months of intense therapy which basically was opening up all my layers and removing the hurt that existed there. That's a very hard thing to do. Also, I avoided my inner feelings ( so aqua moon) and wouldn't face them because I had so much pain in the past. I tend to panic, or say the 13 yo in me does and tries to protect the adult me.. shut down or run away or sabotage. Yikes. Probably why this hit me so hard. I do have tools on how to calm myself down so I don't do stupid things. Lol. So I suppose using those tools will help if I can remember at the time. The thing is these emotions are so right there since I've learned how to face them after a lifetime of hiding from them. But this is my first real relationship where I've had to deal with those big emotions since my divorce 5 years ago & the therapy. One other but he wasn't local so didn't see him much. So you add my Cap issues & mine together, no wonder we are struggling! But it's a huge connection too. Apparently we both aren't willing to give up even when we're being like this. It would be nice if he had tools too!!! Lol
Anyway. I sent him a text this morning that I really did want to come by last night but I was just too tired & had no gas in my car!! But that I did want to see him just so he knew. 🙂 Oh & last night he asked twice lol.. he said he would be thinking & dreaming of me. ❤️ So I guess that means he does think about me lol.
I have a cap that I've been friends with for about 9-10 years and he's NEVER had a girlfriend. he hasn't really found someone that gets him.. He's played around and said he'll marry me, but I think it's because I get him.. Me & my cap friend can go for weeks, months days at a time without speaking and then when we chat after a long time has passed, we vibe like no time went missing at all.. He's even told me he loves me etc. & I love him too.. My cappy dad, always has issues with women.. They don't understand him.. Work comes first but as we know, women need time.. so oftentimes my dad's women feel unappreciated and they eventually leave him.. Or he gets tire of the nagging and he walks away. He wants someone that will nurture him, stick by his side, and understand his desire for working hard.. My dad is actually in the middle of his THIRD divorce because his wife says she's tired of the neglect. hmm.. figures.. My dad never intentionally tried to neglect his wife.. He says he tries so hard to please her, to make time, but nothing is ever good enough.. He believes that he has to work to take care of his fam.. and in his mind, if he doesn't do it, no one will.. My cap boyfriend and my dad are similar in many ways.. So I always joke and say I'm dating my dad.. tee hee hee!
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This statement you made:
But I've learned you have to be willing to lose someone in order to keep them & have a good relationship. Not saying anything makes it worse actually.
I agree.. In this case, you have to be willing to put yourself out there.. & as long as you know that YOU laid everything out on the table for your mate, you won't feel like you left things unsaid. Gives you a greater peace of mind if things don't work.. Saying nothing AT ALL, leaves things open ended and you'll never have peace or the closure that's needed to move on. Not saying it's a talk to leave him but to be vulnerable?! If he's not, he won't. Maybe he's not comfortable with doing that yet. But take the lead in that.. He will appreciate it.
The waiting ... is definitely the hardest part. But they have to process it. In due time they always come around if they truly care.
You took a step and told him that you really wanted to see him.. He was probably pleased to hear that you wanted to even tho your circumstance didn't allow that to proceed, he cared.. & Said he'd think and dream of you... That says a lot coming from men like them.. Take heed to the "little" things they do or say.. Sometimes to us, we don't notice simplicity, but coming from them, those things speak volumes!
🙂
Well I have news!!! Yes he does care ❤️ He texted me after work yesterday & we ended up going on an overnight trip just the two of us for a little gambling! On the way up, we hashed it all out. Communicated finally! He denies talking to anyone else & says he only wants to see me. ? He was upset because of something else in my text and we had an argument about it, but finally came to an agreement. It seems the scare of losing me did something🙂 he was back to how he was pre- VR. Yay! He told me that he really didn't like not saying goodnight to me every night, that he didn't know how he'd react but he did not like it at all! He actually thanked me for being in his life. 🙂 and admitted to being scared and nervous. Also, I can't remember what he was saying, but in the middle of a sentence he says "I love you to death" but.. it was just part of the discussion, but wow I can only remember the "I love you to death" ?? So yep falling hard!! We agreed to talk things out when we are scared. I told him I get scared sometimes too..
I must say I didn't do too well letting him be MIA and silent. I reached out twice, each time after two days. Jeez!! But it turns out he just needed to be reassured I was there 🙂 so it was the right thing!! And that amount of time was enough for him to get he didnt want to lose me.
I'm happy to hear that! Awwwe! Melts my heart! YAY! Good! Hang in there hon! You guys are doing well.. All beef was from miscommunication on both sides..
I'm happy for you! 🙂
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Idk but my dad has never intimidated me.. I know when he's serious and when to take heed to what he says because he's very wise IMO. Been through alot.. But my dad is not scary to me.. Even when he puts on his "serious voice".. I just look at him like.. O_O.. "You done? " Never disrespect him tho.
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Hi. I met this cap guy online. I am a librian. We chatted for a few days and then met up for a cup of coffee. We liked each other's company and ended up spending 2 hrs chatting away. He asked me out on another date the very same evening. We ended up in be
Hey Everyone,
Sorry this is long, I just want to help my cappy so bad.
My cappy and I have been dating for 8 months, he's passionate, a hardworker, reserved, a gentlemen and has the biggest heart. Unfortunately I think some of these qualities have got
Hi, just need some advices on this Cap man I got to know just a month ago through Tinder app.
He seems to be looking for girls just for sexting. I refused to sext or send any pics yet he still continues to talk to me. He said that he is lonely and just
Okay so I have been seeing a Capricorn man and I'm really beginning to struggle with this because he is definitely moving too fast for me. He is telling me that he loves and jokes with his friends about marrying me. Now I really do like him but it scares
That made me curious to know what are these Cap guys doing during this time? Since they come back, I assume that they aren't fucking around, but who knows.
Any input on what these guys are doing??