Mixed signals

Me and the Gem text a little each day but sometimes they come across as cold/not bothered. We don't see each other more than a couple of times a week because we work different shift patterns. Today he said he missed me but it feels like he's not totally motivated to make plans with me.

I don't know if he's being serious or I'm over analysing, I've kinda pulled back a bit this week. I think he's noticed because the other night I had 6 messages and missed calls from him. I need more consistency!

What kinda consistency do you need. Specifically.

Like what is the exact number of calls/texts you need from him every day to keep the cray cray at bay.

I prefer quality, not quantity. I mean a decent meaningful message every couple of days would be fine instead of answering me only with an emoji face or seeming like it's an effort at all.

It sounds like you guys are in the initial stages of the relationship? Testing waters, feeling each other out? If that’s the case, then yeah the communication might be here and there. A Gemini might not be best for you then as they like more randomness and freedom.

We are in the early stages...and I'm so bored. He's a disappointing Gemini!

Some guys are just not interested in/good at messaging all the time. Why don't you call him once in a while? Spend some quality time instead of going nuts bc he isn't meaningful enough to you in a text message.

He's a gem. He's probably even more bored.

I'm Libra with a fire moon 🙂 Yeah, he always wants to see me but I'm always making the suggestions about what to do. It is quality time when it happens...I guess it's maybe that I struggle with the early days of relationships.

Hahah, I’ve had this problem, in person the Gemini was a sweet talker but over text he didn’t seem bothered, however it seems he’s at least told you he’s interested so I believe he is, just try to engage him a little more, like genuinely ask about his day and then surprise him a few days later and mention what he said before, “is it any better.” Etc as it showed you truly listened, either way I think he’s hooked 🙂.

We'll See I guess. I mean I'm not attached or anything yet so I'm not going to make a massive issue out if it. We might just naturally drift apart.

I'll agree about the chemistry being missing, but that comes from poor communication - especially when we hardly see each other. Other thing is, I give nowhere near 100% until I'm in a secure situation..I don't love for fun. So, for me the more you give the more I'll return. Give the minimal, expect the minimal.

Posted by Manana

I'll agree about the chemistry being missing, but that comes from poor communication - especially when we hardly see each other.

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We don't see each other more than a couple of times a week because we work different shift patterns.

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I'll agree about the chemistry being missing, but that comes from poor communication - especially when we hardly see each other. Other thing is, I give nowhere near 100% until I'm in a secure situation..I don't love for fun. So, for me the more you give the more I'll return. Give the minimal, expect the minimal.

Chemistry doesn’t have anything to do with communication though.... you either have Chemistry or you don’t. Communication is more about compatibility and if it’s such a struggle then maybe that’s a sign 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yeah, I like these opinions. I just don't want anyone else to have him 😐 I saw him last night..he turned up with one of his friends and basically acted as if i didn't exist for the first hour. Then he says "I know it's only been 5 days, but it feels like I haven't seen you for a month". And do you know what I noticed...we don't touch! Even if I try to be a little bit affectionate (in public) he doesn't reciprocate it at all.

This is a lesson I still haven't learned...how to communicate effectively. It stays in my head. I need to tell him that maybe we like each other but its not relationship material. The words just don't come out ☹

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Yeah, I like these opinions. I just don't want anyone else to have him 😐 I saw him last night..he turned up with one of his friends and basically acted as if i didn't exist for the first hour. Then he says "I know it's only been 5 days, but it feels like I haven't seen you for a month". And do you know what I noticed...we don't touch! Even if I try to be a little bit affectionate (in public) he doesn't reciprocate it at all.

This is a lesson I still haven't learned...how to communicate effectively. It stays in my head. I need to tell him that maybe we like each other but its not relationship material. The words just don't come out ☹

maybe he is hang up on his last girlfriend or on some other girl.... how long you 2 are seeing each other? how long he was in his last relationship or broken up with somebody?

I don't know..they split in July. He told me he liked her but he didn't love her, I can't remember how long they were together. We've only been seeing each other, maybe about 3 months now.

And he says things like "keep in touch" when we're going to do our own thing. I've actually just been reading some online articles about the importance of comminication in casual dating and I'm going to try and use it when i see him on Monday. Like "are you happy with the way things are going, do you need more/less than what we're doing?" Doesn't seem to heavy!

The dumping offence has been committed..bye bye Gemini 😏

gems require space. they start to feel suffocated or sense someone getting clingy and they bolt. with them its needed to take things light, at first especially, cause they have trouble staying in one consistent feel all of the time lol. just give it time and be chill, let him miss you, let him wonder about you.

They are like a wild Mustang. You got to go slow so you don’t spook them and show them you mean no harm. 😆 then when they finally let you pet them, you have to be sweet and make sure lots of back rubs. Do not assume you have this wild mustang yet, but if he starts following you around then you know you are half way there.

This is a process, every step takes patience and you have to be in control of you( let the Mustang feel as if he is free and deciding to be with you).

DO NOT ATTEMPT to CONTROL the MUSTANG!! He will surely bolt and most likely never return on his own. Talk sweetly and pet your Mustang and when he is ready then you can mount and ride him.

~ Gemini whisperer

I got the perfect song for you, luv. Try to chin up.



I tried your number at nine but to no avail

Tried again at eleven got sent straight to voicemail

You said you needed a calm quiet night alone

But that don't explain why you're not picking up the phone

Thought you wanted to make this work but you're sending me mixed signals

Darling, darling believe me

Know that no you don’t need me

Break up, you know it won’t please me

Sweetheart, let me down easy

Cut me loose, baby don't tease me

Oh Lord, let me down easy

Sending me mixed signals

Thanks guys! But I'm against going against my feelings and denying my sense of what's acceptable to appeal to any man. I accept that we just weren't a good match..nobody did anything wrong. He might need space, be a "mustang 😂 and that's all fine by me...but he'll never be my man!

There's no way he'll try and come back...he didn't take the opportunity he had so why ask for more?!!!!

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Thanks guys! But I'm against going against my feelings and denying my sense of what's acceptable to appeal to any man. I accept that we just weren't a good match..nobody did anything wrong. He might need space, be a "mustang 😂 and that's all fine by me...but he'll never be my man!

There's no way he'll try and come back...he didn't take the opportunity he had so why ask for more?!!!!

Exactly! Plenty more Wild Mustangs 😝

You know, now when I log into fb messenger he IMMEDIATELY logs off. Wtf?!

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You know, now when I log into fb messenger he IMMEDIATELY logs off. Wtf?!

“And when I opened up my eyes, I saw the sign”

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Posted by Manana

You know, now when I log into fb messenger he IMMEDIATELY logs off. Wtf?!

“And when I opened up my eyes, I saw the sign”

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What do you mean?! I know the song but it's a sign of Immaturity or hatred?!

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You know, now when I log into fb messenger he IMMEDIATELY logs off. Wtf?!

“And when I opened up my eyes, I saw the sign”

What do you mean?! I know the song but it's a sign of Immaturity or hatred?!

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Well you know, you saw the sign... he’s not interested.

HE IS!!!

Posted by Manana

HE IS!!!

Interested in playing games 🙄

You need to make it a challenge for him again. Youve probably laid too many cards on the table. Let him chase

Posted by Kaydawg

You need to make it a challenge for him again. Youve probably laid too many cards on the table. Let him chase

“Catch me if you can”

Posted by Kaydawg

You need to make it a challenge for him again. Youve probably laid too many cards on the table. Let him chase

Yeah, I'm not doing anything. Most likely he's over it anyway, that's what they say about Gems!