Libra man question

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I have been with a libra man for 11 months, on and off. He ended it with me a few days ago. I had no say, just had to accept it was over and when I tried to talk with him he just got angry and won't speak with me face to face until I left and he started texting me. I notice the cycles because he ends it with me and then comes back into my life not long after. What I don't understand is why he has gotten so angry at me when I left because I had no other choice and he made that clear as he was so angry and just kept saying it's over and then threw it in my face. Why do some libra men keep ending it with you and then try to work it out again. He has told me so many times in our relationship to take care and then he comes back. I want to move on with my life because I am a good person and don't deserve to be treated that way, but my intuition is telling me he will be back again. Is this a libra trait?
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I have never betrayed him, nor disrespected him and spoke to him nastily the way he has to me. I'm so loyal and caring. We had issues in our relationship, like normal couples do. He just breaks up with me and then comes back into my life. I don't understand this continual cycle.

I asked him if he loved me and he said not anymore, but then goes on to say he has love and respect for me—? Confused!!!! He said mean things and then when we have got back together he has said he was just angry and didn't mean any of it.

I honestly didn't do anything to make him feel awful or disrespected. Is he going to come back or finally leave me to be?
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Posted by Celestrial1
I have been with a libra man for 11 months, on and off. He ended it with me a few days ago. I had no say, just had to accept it was over and when I tried to talk with him he just got angry and won't speak with me face to face until I left and he started texting me. I notice the cycles because he ends it with me and then comes back into my life not long after. What I don't understand is why he has gotten so angry at me when I left because I had no other choice and he made that clear as he was so angry and just kept saying it's over and then threw it in my face. Why do some libra men keep ending it with you and then try to work it out again. He has told me so many times in our relationship to take care and then he comes back. I want to move on with my life because I am a good person and don't deserve to be treated that way, but my intuition is telling me he will be back again. Is this a libra trait?
Definitely not female, but possibly for the males. My ex virgo/libra used to do this ALL the time (mid 40s) I told him don't do this it will only chip away at my confidence in the relationship and one day it really will be over-the inevitable happened. Very happy with my Aries, never utters a word of "ending it" and all this bs. Little tiff's are a natural part of relationships, and he treats it so.
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I have never betrayed him, nor disrespected him and spoke to him nastily the way he has to me. I'm so loyal and caring. We had issues in our relationship, like normal couples do. He just breaks up with me and then comes back into my life. I don't understand this continual cycle.

I asked him if he loved me and he said not anymore, but then goes on to say he has love and respect for me—? Confused!!!! He said mean things and then when we have got back together he has said he was just angry and didn't mean any of it.

I honestly didn't do anything to make him feel awful or disrespected. Is he going to come back or finally leave me to be?
Seriously sounds the exact same as him. He'll be back as long as you are there, I personally couldnt handle the constant questioning that fact myself when I was in it. Now as an outsider I can see he was going nowhere.
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Sigh. I'm going to admit to this. I broke up with my partner more times than I could count. Looking back it was because I really wasn't truly committed. I had one foot constantly out the door.

Things would get a bit shit and that was it, I couldn't handle it. Then after a few days I realised how rash I had been and yes, came crawling back.

Then one day I did it again, and I really disappointed my partner with my behaviour. I don't think I fully grasped the effect my flakey, wishy-washy, frankly shitty behaviour was having on him. Stupid to say, but I didn't appreciate how much I had toyed with his feelings and let him down.

After that last time, I vowed I would never do that again and I haven't.

With that said, there was never any harsh words, they was never any yelling, or any disrespect. In comparison, it sounds like this guy can go fuck himself with that sort of behaviour.

He knows he can get away with shit like that because you allow it to when you keep taking him back.
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how would you guys suggest a libra change this cycle? we’re always weighing things. and when the scales are tipped we want to dispose of the problem. then they even out, we change our minds, and go back.
not sure - but life isn't a bowl of fng cherries every day - sometimes you can add some vodka to the cherries and sometimes you drown in that big bowl - but if overall you are on the path you want to be on, then you are good to go - if you are not on the path you want to be on - that is a problem and you shouldn't be in a relationship and/or messing with someone else's head - that being said, I agree in that the other person allows this to happen and therefore enables you which is not a good thing as well

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how would you guys suggest a libra change this cycle? we’re always weighing things. and when the scales are tipped we want to dispose of the problem. then they even out, we change our minds, and go back.
Because you have grass greener syndrome
omg that is so true about the Libra
Where do you pick up this impression?

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well I shouldn't generalize because actually I was thinking about the Libra guy I date when I dated him a few years ago - he was so like that - even said it himself and kept shaking his head trying to figure out what to do - drove me crazy but this time around he's not like that

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how would you guys suggest a libra change this cycle? we’re always weighing things. and when the scales are tipped we want to dispose of the problem. then they even out, we change our minds, and go back.
Because you have grass greener syndrome
omg that is so true about the Libra
Where do you pick up this impression?


well I shouldn't generalize because actually I was thinking about the Libra guy I date when I dated him a few years ago - he was so like that - even said it himself and kept shaking his head trying to figure out what to do - drove me crazy but this time around he's not like that




That's understandable, I was asking out of curiosity not on the offensive. Mostly because the Taurus had the same impression of me or where my mind was at. Even on days I give near all if not all my time to my relationship, which is every day, I was asked about whether I want something elsewhere constantly.

From what you said it's different though, since he agreed with you about where his mind was back then.

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yes he totally understands how he is - he talks constantly - and I listen - intently - lol - no, we never spoke about it - this was all from observation but it was true because he said it himself and it came true - guess he learned something in that year I didn't speak to him and I didn't give in and go back right away because I was seeing that Scorpio for about 8 months

it sounds like something gave the Taurus the impression - and perhaps sometimes everyone seems indecisive to a Taurus at times - I know I can snap in a second when someone is trying to decide and there is a time crunch. Its like warp speed in my head and I decide instantly and more forward with the decision - not that I'm right 100% of the time but most often than not it works out
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I don't know what placement he has? I'm a cancer woman.

The hardest thing through all of this is I love the the person that is amazing, loving, caring and attentive inside of him and I loathe this nasty person that has just come about the last few months. I definitely feel like he will be back, because of the continual cycle but I'm weak against him and especially at the moment because I'm so hurt.

Does he actually want to be with me or does he use me as a comfort and lastly, will he definitely make contact with me again?
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Posted by Celestrial1
I don't know what placement he has? I'm a cancer woman.

The hardest thing through all of this is I love the the person that is amazing, loving, caring and attentive inside of him and I loathe this nasty person that has just come about the last few months. I definitely feel like he will be back, because of the continual cycle but I'm weak against him and especially at the moment because I'm so hurt.

Does he actually want to be with me or does he use me as a comfort and lastly, will he definitely make contact with me again?
Will he be back? Probably.

Does he use you as a comfort? At a guess and based on what you have said, my opinion is - no, he's abusing you for his own ego.

You're quickly beginning to sound like a battered wife.

I'm afraid although it is comfortable to do so, you can't compartmentalise his personality. He is who he shows himself to be. People will tell you what they are, it may be non verbal but when they do, believe them.

You're out. Be a good friend to yourself and stay out.
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Posted by Celestrial1
I have been with a libra man for 11 months, on and off. He ended it with me a few days ago. I had no say, just had to accept it was over and when I tried to talk with him he just got angry and won't speak with me face to face until I left and he started texting me. I notice the cycles because he ends it with me and then comes back into my life not long after. What I don't understand is why he has gotten so angry at me when I left because I had no other choice and he made that clear as he was so angry and just kept saying it's over and then threw it in my face. Why do some libra men keep ending it with you and then try to work it out again. He has told me so many times in our relationship to take care and then he comes back. I want to move on with my life because I am a good person and don't deserve to be treated that way, but my intuition is telling me he will be back again. Is this a libra trait?
Smells like borderline
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how would you guys suggest a libra change this cycle? we’re always weighing things. and when the scales are tipped we want to dispose of the problem. then they even out, we change our minds, and go back.
Because you have grass greener syndrome
I wonder where that comes from.
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I think (my theory) is that since libra is a sign that wants to be partnered up and hates to be alone, they sometimes settle. Its just to fill a void and to them that feeling doesn't last so they go looking else where or think the grass is greener. But then they come back because they want something that is familiar... until they find something better...
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how would you guys suggest a libra change this cycle? we’re always weighing things. and when the scales are tipped we want to dispose of the problem. then they even out, we change our minds, and go back.
Because you have grass greener syndrome
I wonder where that comes from.
I think (my theory) is that since libra is a sign that wants to be partnered up and hates to be alone, they sometimes settle. Its just to fill a void and to them that feeling doesn't last so they go looking else where or think the grass is greener. But then they come back because they want something that is familiar... until they find something better...
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#shipped
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He has messaged me and I've kept it amicable and straight to the point. Even his messages are indecisive. I'm just getting on with my life and I hope he will do the same and we can both heal. I have a gut feeling that he will keep trying to talk to me, some way or another
Don’t respond to his messages. Don’t always be there for him. You’re a cancer and people will walk all over you because you’re sweet, don’t let them. A little mystery will go a long way.
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He has messaged me and I've kept it amicable and straight to the point. Even his messages are indecisive. I'm just getting on with my life and I hope he will do the same and we can both heal. I have a gut feeling that he will keep trying to talk to me, some way or another
Don’t respond to his messages. Don’t always be there for him. You’re a cancer and people will walk all over you because you’re sweet, don’t let them. A little mystery will go a long way.
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I agree but I also know how difficult that is with a Libra