New Libra (Page 2)

THat would be B.O.B.

what sucks is that i was fine up until that email, you know having fun with him. he's a nice guy, very courteous and thoughtful. but now he just doesn't know what an over analyzer i am!

Not the same. Masturbation does very little for me. I have to surrender and that is hard to do when you masturbate.

A threesome with a BOB and a guy, is a whole other thing, then again it is about surrender.

sigh!

I hope I meet my guy soon. This whole not knowing where the next shag is coming from thing is starting to grate.

Men probably are not all that complicated. We give them way too muh credit...

They get their little boxers in a twist.

My take is that he likes you but is playing cool cause he doesn't want to seem to eager especially since you said you didn't know what you wanted.

Just go! Have fun! Laugh! Enjoy yourself!

Who cares where it is going? There is another Libra train on the tracks if this one gets derailed.

🙂

I think we underestemate them. They have all this ... I'm not good enough, I don't make enough money, who am I? I have things to prove to myself, I am not ready because I'm not the man I wanted to be crap going on.

Just sit there. Get naked. And give me some.

(Not that I am feeling a tad sexually aggressive at the moment. lol!)

I am sure I will be fine in a few days. In the meantime, I shop!

night girls!

HP - we will expect a report in the morning. 🙂

shop ... and bake cookies.

:/

Well I bought myself flowers on my way home this evening...

Am not expecting any confessions tomorrow. And won't be sending any either...

I get the feeling that you are on his mind constantly since your last get together and he wants to express that but is doing a really good job of playing it cool as not to come on to strong too soon. He is putting his feelers out there. Probably hoping that you will respond with your answers to the issues he is dealing with.

The whole "I feel this way about this."

"yeah, me too, but I kinda like you."

type of thing. He is coaxing you into giving him a little more insight than he currently has.

Here's my response to his email:

Oh I haven't really considered them dates either. I mean, the way I see it, we've been hanging out. I think we have a handful of things in common, and we're the same age - and that is rare for me. I can tell you're still healing from your break-up and I have been told that I just have a certain charm about me that puts people at ease. As far as the blue jeans and converse attire - not a big deal to me. I'd rather someone be comfortable in their skin and clothes around me than counting the minutes to get home and change into something they're most comfortable in. Besides, you can't wear a suit to a baseball game, right?? I guess it didn't phase me what you wore. My brother and my dad always wore baseball caps and I guess I'm so used to the sight, that it's fine with me. When I'm at my house, I am super super casual. Sometimes I will go to the grocery store in my lounge pants. I'm about comfort. But I can and do like to play dress up. Keeps my femininity in check. Every girls wants to look and feel pretty. My weakness is Bath and Body Works. I need to stop spending money there. HA!

Opening doors is nice, but it can't ALWAYS be done. I'm not so prissy that I'm going to stand on the passenger side door and wait for the door to be opened for me. I don't think I'm that high maintenance. It's nice occassionally for it to be done - a reminder that chivalry is not dead. My dad will still do it for my mom - not all the time, but still enough for my mom to feel appreciated. We don't need it all the time - just enough to know that chivalry is still alive, you know? So don't worry about not opening the door for me. I didn't even give that a thought.

was i vague or did i give too much info or was it what he was fishing for?

HP, I'd keep him guessing more. And, yes, Libra, guys are not that complicated but may be more complicated than you think!

(Do I have you guessing?).

of course

I would be careful about going into that much detail over e-mail in the future. If the two of you are casually chatting, he would be able to tell by your tone of voice, body language, etc. that casual chat is all this is. In a e-mail, people make up tone of voice and body language and can read WAY more into it than what is there.

Why I, like you, hate texting by the way!

ok, i'm home. it was a nice dinner.

oh no you don't! Details Missy!!!

it was just dinner.

but what did you have? did you flirt? what did he say? what did you say? was there any "touching"? Show us on the doll where the nice man touched you?

🙂

HP, spill it!!!

LS, you are clearly insane!!! LOL!!! Show us where the nice man touched you?

hee hee!

i'm laughing here!

he took me to this place where the waitresses know him by name. he goes there for lunch at least twice a week. We both had a nice strong alcoholic drink. He wanted to pay for dinner again, but I told him that we should split it this time. he said "I'll let you this time. I am just enjoying getting out and having someone to get out with".

maybe i was a bit buzzed but it seemed that he was leaning into my body language. I read somewhere that when people are attracted to one another, they mirror that person. I would lean in and he would in. I would tilt my head and he'd tilt his head.

we stayed and talked and ate for almost 2 and a half hours. I made him laugh, so that's a good thing.

no touching, no hugging. i'm not sure if he feels that. and I'm not the one to initiate hugs. but we did get close to his car for a bit. i told him goodnight and to be careful. i didn't park near him; in fact i parked around the corner from him. by the time he realized that i was at my car opening it. I opened my car door and turned around and saw him standing at the corner, waiting to make sure I got to my car ok.

i don't know...i think he's just enjoying getting out and that's it.

I dunno. Can go either way.

If you like him *that way* let him pay!!! Men KNOW what that means. t

Hell, when I was mad at my ex at dinner, he could tell because I put money on the table. He knew, "I F'ed Up" and got to work fixing things. Damn, I miss having a partner.

🙂

So if you WANT to turn this into something, treat it like a date. Flirt. Let him pay. Ya know? Use your womanly charms.

If you want him to remain a friend, then treat him like a friend.

By treating it like a date, I mean flirt, play, be cute, fun, sexy. I DON'T mean big heavy tawks.

Friend just treat him like everyone else.

The fact that he stayed to make sure you got into your car bodes well. He wants to make sure yoou are okay and looked after. Excellent character.

"So if you WANT to turn this into something, treat it like a date. Flirt. Let him pay. Ya know? Use your womanly charms. "


That's what I'm basing it on. He sent that email yesterday stating that he hasn't seen what we've been doing as a date. so because of that, that's why I paid.

would you have done the same? his email was confusing.

I would have offered but let him pay.

He is confused. I think he isn't sure if you like him or *LIKE* him. He is kind of checking you out looking for green lights.

i don't know about that LS. i'm dwelling on that email. i pasted it on page 3 i believe and my response is on page 5.

he clearly says he hasn't been treating it like a date...and I've been perfectly fine with that....UNTIL HE MENTIONED THIS "I haven't turned on the date stuff yet"....lol

so since they're not dates to him or to me, then isn't fair to show him that i don't expect him to pay?

So you don't want them to be dates?

(I am a little sugar high on cookies at the moment.)

I want him to be straight. If he isn't seeing them as dates, then I'm cool with it. But if we're just hanging out as friends, then i'm going to treat him like friends. i don't expect my friends to pay for my dinner.

If he is interested, then he needs to be fair to me and tell me so I know how to react. I can be a lot like a Libra and mirror people myself, but I don't want someone to be wishy washy...oh wait, that's the Libra indecisiveness...you think that's playing a role?

I am actually going to have to voyage off to sleepyland.

Have good nights guys.

XOXOX

nite nite

I really think he likes you but doesn't want to make a fool of himself. You told him from day one you weren't looking for anything and you only had a handful of things in common ... those are kind of burns. Had you said, I like getting to know you and want to see where it goes ... whole other bag of oats.

I don't think you should run out and reassure him or anything. I think you just go with a casual ... I like you. Let's see where it goes attitude.

Takes the pressure off yet tells him you are game for it to progress if it does.

ahhh Libras ... we are so good at the middle road.

sleep well sweetie!

he just sent me an email 🙂

What did the email say?

It would be interesting to know what the email says. My advice? Right now? Just take your time. He's scoping you out.

the email pretty much said that he enjoyed the time, was surprised at how time flew by (we were there for over 2 hours), and he said i looked very nice (this time i wore my hair down - other times it's been pinned up).

he went onto say for maybe the 3rd time since sunday that he'd like to see a particular movie he hadn't seen in a long time. said that if i rented it he would bring the wine.

he said that i was a good person and it was nice for him to know that not all women are the antichrist afterall....

other stuff, but overall, he was just being courteous i think by following up to the dinner to let me know he had a good time.

"You told him from day one you weren't looking for anything and you only had a handful of things in common ... those are kind of burns. "


what do you mean "burns"?

burn means a burn ... kind of a put down, a slight, kind of like he is reaching for a cookie and you smacked his hand.

HEEEEE likesssss Uuuuuuuu!

No man writes within an hour of dinner to tell you how much they admire you and how beautiful you are just to be courteous.

Snap out of it woman!

*gives HP a shake*

You've got a live one!

HP, he likes you, just don't want to jump out there. You decide how you feel next.

BUT just keep doing what you are doing. It is obvious it is working.

If it ain't broken ......

Even if he talks about other women around me?

Depends on what he is saying about them.

I think just enjoy it for what it is. I think he likes you but you have to keep your expectations in check. I think relaitonships are all about managing your expectations.

I find that when Libra men feel comfortable with you they talk about anything. Including exes and past relationships... It never bothers me though and I don't take it as he isn't interested. My ex was the same way and so is my friend.

one comment that stands out is we were talking about flirting. i mentioned something about it, and he said "I try to flirt with these girls on Memorial, but they don't bite"
Memorial is a street in Houston.

He's indirect about some of the comments, but he's also not very direct about what he's thinking about me. Keeps me guessing. I don't like to guess.

We did go into details last night about a few things via email. He expressed some things that he missed. stuff like brushing a woman's hair, massaging, apparently he's an excellent artist/painter, loves to hug...he was opening up to me, but I wasn't sure how much I should open up to him, so the only thing I mentioned was that I like to hug, too.

Qs, he is very open about his divorce. really soon, too.

HP, another thing I have learned, that when they are comfortable with you and they are not comfortable to open up to most... They want someone to listen... I find that I know way more about my Libra friend than he knows about me. Remember in a way, they like talking about themselves. They love for you to listen and they won't shut down if they feel you are genuinely concerned. Open up only as much as you think you should about yourself. Let him spill beans all he wants. Just listen, big points. You may also find because he can open up to you, he will tell you all his problems. My libra friend makes it a point to call me when something is going on with him, including is break-up/make-up with the ex.