
Why are libras always confused?





Posted by GoooberI think this is the main issue, they don't want anyone unhappy that's why they always change their minds and are confused about how to approach things. Do you find this particularly frustrating because you're a decisive Aries, did you fight with your dad a lot growing up?
Well, when my dad does it , its usually because he doesn't want to choose sides. He wants everybody to be happy and choosing is going to leave someone unhappy. That's just one kind of scenario...



Posted by LibralulaI understand but my friend came to me for advice. She was asking for it. I feel like a lot of libras do this, not just her. They have to be told something a million times before they actually listen. Now I'm just venting.
Normally the best way to handle situations is so this end result is a peaceful one if not, fair.
I don't really like criticism nor do I seek advice too often because at the end of the day I will do what I feel is best. And if I make a mistake it's on me. Yes I overthink and analyze. But this isn't personality disorder this is looking at all possible choices and outcomes. Things most people don't stop to think about... sometimes it's useful sometimes it does more harm than good. There's always a risk.



Posted by mysteriousTaurusYeah, I can recall a few instances where I pressured my dad to make descions and he was very hesitant and silent about it (confused me since I knew the right descions to make). He kinda freezes up in situations like that. When he does finally make the descions like (for instance), just siding with my mom, he's not happy about it. He tries to compromise a lot too. Also, libras don't enjoy being disliked so that could also play a part in their indecisiveness. Poor Libras.Posted by GoooberI think this is the main issue, they don't want anyone unhappy that's why they always change their minds and are confused about how to approach things. Do you find this particularly frustrating because you're a decisive Aries, did you fight with your dad a lot growing up?
Well, when my dad does it , its usually because he doesn't want to choose sides. He wants everybody to be happy and choosing is going to leave someone unhappy. That's just one kind of scenario...
I had a very very long talk with my female libra friend about her issue with the cancer, he's very into her and I basically told her that she needs to have a serious talk with him about her not feeling the same way towards him before she really hurts him. The whole time I was giving her genuine advice, she was agreeing with me! But when she saw him, she didn't tell him anything that we talked about! I was so shocked, disappointed, and frustrated.i told her if she doesn't do it now she's going to end up doing it eventually so might as well just do it now and get it over with.
Why do libras do this? They say they're going to do something and they end up not doing it.. how can someone's emotions change so suddenly? Is this a personalty disorder?click to expand

Posted by Goooberpoor Gooober's dad indeed 😢Posted by mysteriousTaurusYeah, I can recall a few instances where I pressured my dad to make descions and he was very hesitant and silent about it (confused me since I knew the right descions to make). He kinda freezes up in situations like that. When he does finally make the descions like (for instance), just siding with my mom, he's not happy about it. He tries to compromise a lot too. Also, libras don't enjoy being disliked so that could also play a part in their indecisiveness. Poor Libras.Posted by GoooberI think this is the main issue, they don't want anyone unhappy that's why they always change their minds and are confused about how to approach things. Do you find this particularly frustrating because you're a decisive Aries, did you fight with your dad a lot growing up?
Well, when my dad does it , its usually because he doesn't want to choose sides. He wants everybody to be happy and choosing is going to leave someone unhappy. That's just one kind of scenario...
I had a very very long talk with my female libra friend about her issue with the cancer, he's very into her and I basically told her that she needs to have a serious talk with him about her not feeling the same way towards him before she really hurts him. The whole time I was giving her genuine advice, she was agreeing with me! But when she saw him, she didn't tell him anything that we talked about! I was so shocked, disappointed, and frustrated.i told her if she doesn't do it now she's going to end up doing it eventually so might as well just do it now and get it over with.
Why do libras do this? They say they're going to do something and they end up not doing it.. how can someone's emotions change so suddenly? Is this a personalty disorder?click to expand

Posted by KemetisinmeHaha. You're right, you're right.Posted by Goooberpoor Gooober's dad indeed 😢Posted by mysteriousTaurusYeah, I can recall a few instances where I pressured my dad to make descions and he was very hesitant and silent about it (confused me since I knew the right descions to make). He kinda freezes up in situations like that. When he does finally make the descions like (for instance), just siding with my mom, he's not happy about it. He tries to compromise a lot too. Also, libras don't enjoy being disliked so that could also play a part in their indecisiveness. Poor Libras.Posted by GoooberI think this is the main issue, they don't want anyone unhappy that's why they always change their minds and are confused about how to approach things. Do you find this particularly frustrating because you're a decisive Aries, did you fight with your dad a lot growing up?
Well, when my dad does it , its usually because he doesn't want to choose sides. He wants everybody to be happy and choosing is going to leave someone unhappy. That's just one kind of scenario...
I had a very very long talk with my female libra friend about her issue with the cancer, he's very into her and I basically told her that she needs to have a serious talk with him about her not feeling the same way towards him before she really hurts him. The whole time I was giving her genuine advice, she was agreeing with me! But when she saw him, she didn't tell him anything that we talked about! I was so shocked, disappointed, and frustrated.i told her if she doesn't do it now she's going to end up doing it eventually so might as well just do it now and get it over with.
Why do libras do this? They say they're going to do something and they end up not doing it.. how can someone's emotions change so suddenly? Is this a personalty disorder?
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Posted by Rambunctious76Absolutely. Its shocking because most of the time, theyre doing for others and not thinking twice about it. My dad gets in that mode every once in a blue moon.Posted by GoooberHave you witnessed the stubborn side of a Libra yet?Posted by mysteriousTaurusYeah, I can recall a few instances where I pressured my dad to make descions and he was very hesitant and silent about it (confused me since I knew the right descions to make). He kinda freezes up in situations like that. When he does finally make the descions like (for instance), just siding with my mom, he's not happy about it. He tries to compromise a lot too. Also, libras don't enjoy being disliked so that could also play a part in their indecisiveness. Poor Libras.Posted by GoooberI think this is the main issue, they don't want anyone unhappy that's why they always change their minds and are confused about how to approach things. Do you find this particularly frustrating because you're a decisive Aries, did you fight with your dad a lot growing up?
Well, when my dad does it , its usually because he doesn't want to choose sides. He wants everybody to be happy and choosing is going to leave someone unhappy. That's just one kind of scenario...
I had a very very long talk with my female libra friend about her issue with the cancer, he's very into her and I basically told her that she needs to have a serious talk with him about her not feeling the same way towards him before she really hurts him. The whole time I was giving her genuine advice, she was agreeing with me! But when she saw him, she didn't tell him anything that we talked about! I was so shocked, disappointed, and frustrated.i told her if she doesn't do it now she's going to end up doing it eventually so might as well just do it now and get it over with.
Why do libras do this? They say they're going to do something and they end up not doing it.. how can someone's emotions change so suddenly? Is this a personalty disorder?click to expand


Posted by mysteriousTaurusyou assume that by agreeing with you she had come to a decision. the reality was she is still weighing up the outcomes.Posted by GoooberI think this is the main issue, they don't want anyone unhappy that's why they always change their minds and are confused about how to approach things. Do you find this particularly frustrating because you're a decisive Aries, did you fight with your dad a lot growing up?
Well, when my dad does it , its usually because he doesn't want to choose sides. He wants everybody to be happy and choosing is going to leave someone unhappy. That's just one kind of scenario...
I had a very very long talk with my female libra friend about her issue with the cancer, he's very into her and I basically told her that she needs to have a serious talk with him about her not feeling the same way towards him before she really hurts him. The whole time I was giving her genuine advice, she was agreeing with me! But when she saw him, she didn't tell him anything that we talked about! I was so shocked, disappointed, and frustrated.i told her if she doesn't do it now she's going to end up doing it eventually so might as well just do it now and get it over with.
Why do libras do this? They say they're going to do something and they end up not doing it.. how can someone's emotions change so suddenly? Is this a personalty disorder?click to expand

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
I love libras, but making decisions is a life skill that people need to learn in order to survive and live a comfortable life. I'm just so confused right now.


Posted by ShrewdsharpOh god are you a ScorpioPosted by mysteriousTaurus
I love libras, but making decisions is a life skill that people need to learn in order to survive and live a comfortable life. I'm just so confused right now.
If you're not going to allow your friend the freedom to to follow her own internal guidance system then you don't sound like a very good friend. In fact you sound very controlling! Who are you to legislate her morality?
Your internal boundaries are so twisted you are internalizing her problem and making it YOUR problem.
Her values, & spiritual lessons are none of your business! you're not her therapist or her mother!
Sometimes friends out grow each other - distance yourself you're a grown woman! But in regards to deciding what lessons she needs to learn and telling her what to do you are violating her boundaries! You have no right to do that!click to expand


Posted by ShrewdsharpWhen my best friend willingly comes to me for advice I have every right to say whatever I want, and it's her right to take it or not. But don't tell me everything it's going to be pretty and dandy when it's not, she's potentially jeopardizing our circle of friends.Posted by mysteriousTaurus
I love libras, but making decisions is a life skill that people need to learn in order to survive and live a comfortable life. I'm just so confused right now.
If you're not going to allow your friend the freedom to to follow her own internal guidance system then you don't sound like a very good friend. In fact you sound very controlling! Who are you to legislate her morality?
Your internal boundaries are so twisted you are internalizing her problem and making it YOUR problem.
Her values, & spiritual lessons are none of your business! you're not her therapist or her mother!
Sometimes friends out grow each other - distance yourself you're a grown woman! But in regards to deciding what lessons she needs to learn and telling her what to do you are violating her boundaries! You have no right to do that!click to expand

Posted by mysteriousTaurusWhat are you, like 16? Jeopardizing your circle of friends? Newsflash: In adult world friendships and groups evolve, change, grow, disappear. It's absolutely not ok to be mad at her for HER choices in HER relationship. Grow up.Posted by ShrewdsharpWhen my best friend willingly comes to me for advice I have every right to say whatever I want, and it's her right to take it or not. But don't tell me everything it's going to be pretty and dandy when it's not, she's potentially jeopardizing our circle of friends.Posted by mysteriousTaurus
I love libras, but making decisions is a life skill that people need to learn in order to survive and live a comfortable life. I'm just so confused right now.
If you're not going to allow your friend the freedom to to follow her own internal guidance system then you don't sound like a very good friend. In fact you sound very controlling! Who are you to legislate her morality?
Your internal boundaries are so twisted you are internalizing her problem and making it YOUR problem.
Her values, & spiritual lessons are none of your business! you're not her therapist or her mother!
Sometimes friends out grow each other - distance yourself you're a grown woman! But in regards to deciding what lessons she needs to learn and telling her what to do you are violating her boundaries! You have no right to do that!click to expand

Posted by duchesslibroI'm thinking about others, not just myself. You must be one of the selfish libras. Don't expect you to understand.Posted by mysteriousTaurusWhat are you, like 16? Jeopardizing your circle of friends? Newsflash: In adult world friendships and groups evolve, change, grow, disappear. It's absolutely not ok to be mad at her for HER choices in HER relationship. Grow up.Posted by ShrewdsharpWhen my best friend willingly comes to me for advice I have every right to say whatever I want, and it's her right to take it or not. But don't tell me everything it's going to be pretty and dandy when it's not, she's potentially jeopardizing our circle of friends.Posted by mysteriousTaurus
I love libras, but making decisions is a life skill that people need to learn in order to survive and live a comfortable life. I'm just so confused right now.
If you're not going to allow your friend the freedom to to follow her own internal guidance system then you don't sound like a very good friend. In fact you sound very controlling! Who are you to legislate her morality?
Your internal boundaries are so twisted you are internalizing her problem and making it YOUR problem.
Her values, & spiritual lessons are none of your business! you're not her therapist or her mother!
Sometimes friends out grow each other - distance yourself you're a grown woman! But in regards to deciding what lessons she needs to learn and telling her what to do you are violating her boundaries! You have no right to do that!click to expand


Posted by tizianiAh, but If I remember correctly, his creator, Bob Kane was born on Oct, 21.Posted by CrabraYeah I really wanted Harvey Dent to be a Libra, he's perfect for the job. Unfortunately his official birthday makes him a Sag.
They are not confused. In fact, Libras are very swift to examine a situation and weigh the options/alternatives, consequences/benefits, etc. What you see as confusing really is an intricate process of determining the best course of action that everyone benefits from. And in some cases for darker Libras, where everyone loses.
The worse kind of situation you can put a Libra in is a win/lose. It is seriously a massive challenge for them. Lose/lose, win/win, all good; but the previous is a nightmare. Of course, most will prefer the win/win and a lot of the indecisiveness comes from trying to shape it so. Reluctantly, they will settle for lose/lose if it comes down to that.
Two-face/Harvey Dent from the Batman comics is the quintessential Libra. Fair to a fault; leaving his decision making to coin tosses.
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Posted by mysteriousTaurusshe probably thought she was going to take your advice when she said that to you...but then changed her mind.
I just feel bad for the cancer because he's my friend too and I don't want him to get hurt which he WILL
I'm not controlling, I gave her advice, she said she was gonna take it, she didnt, and I was disappointed because I don't want anything to happen to our circle of friends, we're very close.

Posted by jeaneYeah like why did I waste my time and breathe. I was talking for like an hour because she wanted to hear itPosted by mysteriousTaurusshe probably thought she was going to take your advice when she said that to you...but then changed her mind.
I just feel bad for the cancer because he's my friend too and I don't want him to get hurt which he WILL
I'm not controlling, I gave her advice, she said she was gonna take it, she didnt, and I was disappointed because I don't want anything to happen to our circle of friends, we're very close.click to expand

Posted by ElTigre25Aright buddy you should make the decision to calm down a little
@mysteriousTaurus I'm assuming when you wrote this you were in the mood to aggrandize something so petty. It's her life, why are you fretting over her decisions? She is an adult and you should render her free of your advice since you are beginning to sound like her mother. Is this going to affect you financially or something?
Why is this decision so important TO YOU?
Also, you all really need to leave this tired belief that Libras cannot make decisions. If that was the case, most Libras would be living at home in their parents 'never to be' guest room. I don't ask people for help for the simple reason; I'm lowkey as well as a loner. As far as the Libra you know, LET HER MAKE HER OWN DECIONS. I guarantee you she will still live to old age and have a healthy life. But will you? Worry about you first. I just cannot fathom caring that much for other people's decisions that do not impact our personal wellbeing.


Posted by ElTigre25I'll leave it but thanks
@mysteriousTaurus no one is up in arms over you so you should really stop taking yourself serious. I gave you some advice, take it or leave.

Posted by SugarfootExactly right. Not gonna bother anymore lol still love her though
People always do what they want despite what makes sense. I feel the same with my cancer bff. And i know I've been that way too. You just have to detach yourself from other people's actions as much as you can because you have zero control of their life. I don't even give her advice anymore. It's a waste of my time. I just listen and commiserate. If she asked, I'd give her advice knowing that she may or may not use it.

Posted by ElTigre25I'm pretty sure I said this like 3 times, SHE came to ME for ADVICE. you're rude and annoying.Posted by mysteriousTaurusYou shouldn't have bothered to begin with. You've got to be a very annoying friend.Posted by SugarfootExactly right. Not gonna bother anymore lol still love her though
People always do what they want despite what makes sense. I feel the same with my cancer bff. And i know I've been that way too. You just have to detach yourself from other people's actions as much as you can because you have zero control of their life. I don't even give her advice anymore. It's a waste of my time. I just listen and commiserate. If she asked, I'd give her advice knowing that she may or may not use it.click to expand


Posted by ElTigre25I already said I wasn't going to take your useless imput. You're not needed here, with your biased rubbish.Posted by mysteriousTaurusAnd you were an enabler. Both parties need to take some accountability. Don't come acting like this wasn't preventable. She needs to learn to consult her own intuition to solve problems, and you need to mind your affairs more and hers less.Posted by ElTigre25I'm pretty sure I said this like 3 times, SHE came to ME for ADVICE. you're rude and annoying.Posted by mysteriousTaurusYou shouldn't have bothered to begin with. You've got to be a very annoying friend.Posted by SugarfootExactly right. Not gonna bother anymore lol still love her though
People always do what they want despite what makes sense. I feel the same with my cancer bff. And i know I've been that way too. You just have to detach yourself from other people's actions as much as you can because you have zero control of their life. I don't even give her advice anymore. It's a waste of my time. I just listen and commiserate. If she asked, I'd give her advice knowing that she may or may not use it.
You're legs must be tired from jumping to conclusions so much.click to expand


Posted by ElTigre25You're still confusedPosted by mysteriousTaurusLike every post about an individual who is unable to defend themselves isn't biased. No, you're not needed here. You asked why are Libras confused. You didn't ask "why are Libras confusing to me". The issue really isn't your problem.Posted by ElTigre25I already said I wasn't going to take your useless imput. You're not needed here, with your biased rubbish.Posted by mysteriousTaurusAnd you were an enabler. Both parties need to take some accountability. Don't come acting like this wasn't preventable. She needs to learn to consult her own intuition to solve problems, and you need to mind your affairs more and hers less.Posted by ElTigre25I'm pretty sure I said this like 3 times, SHE came to ME for ADVICE. you're rude and annoying.Posted by mysteriousTaurusYou shouldn't have bothered to begin with. You've got to be a very annoying friend.Posted by SugarfootExactly right. Not gonna bother anymore lol still love her though
People always do what they want despite what makes sense. I feel the same with my cancer bff. And i know I've been that way too. You just have to detach yourself from other people's actions as much as you can because you have zero control of their life. I don't even give her advice anymore. It's a waste of my time. I just listen and commiserate. If she asked, I'd give her advice knowing that she may or may not use it.
You're legs must be tired from jumping to conclusions so much.click to expand

Posted by jane84Lol yeah I second that my libra bff and I tell each other EVERYTHING
Taurus and Libra seem to talk to each other about everything. I have many Taurus female friends. I am a Libra. They love to tell me about every single relationship they are in or problem they have. I in turn share what's going on in my life. That's what our friendship is about. I'm there for her (which is often) and when I really need her (because I RARELY ask for help) she's there too.
If we disagree, which can be often haha, we agree to disagree and move on. She knows I'm going to do what I want in the end and I know she is going to do what she wants in the end. We are indeed both stubborn. As friends, we are great, I could never be with another Taurus though lol
Talk about not understanding each other or fulfilling each other's needs.
Still love the women though. Great friends when they are not being super stubborn.

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