Asking for money owed??

Is it rude to remind someone they owe you money?

Is it rude to not pay the money back?

I was supposed to get paid back in July and haven't heard a peep from the person.

What is the proper way to gently remind someone that they need to pay up?







*****Update******** She ended up messaging me telling me she forgot about it and that I should've reminded her once the first pay back day passed. She will be venmoing me the money today. 🙂

Never give money out, that you need back.

HOWEVER, I am a bitch enough to do some petty ass shit. I got a dude that still owes me $ 400 that I loaned him to keep his car from getting repo'ed when he was out of a job. Anytime I see him post on facebook about buying some shit, I say some fucked up shit.

Post: Just booked my vacation to Hawaii with (girlfriend's name)

Response: Glad the 400 bucks you still owe me went to getting you a nice tan for that Dad bod you got.

His response: I am still broke, she paid for it.

Response: Good to know I am not the only person you mooch off of.

Post: Ugh, I have so many bills.

Response: I know you do, cause I paid for some of them.

Rinse and Repeat. I don't need the money back, but that won't stop me from being a bitch. I just know never to help this dude out ever again. Though my bitchiness has gotten me $ 200 of the original $ 600 he borrowed back, so it does have an affect on him.

Posted by tiziani

Just bring it up repeatedly until they pay.

It's awkward but the only way that I've seen works.

Other than that I agree with Nikki that it's way less awkward to just gift money and kiss it goodbye than lend it and expect it back.

I agree with this

I never expect money back. Of course, it would be nice to be given it back but I would never loan it out if I needed it or expected it back, especially with a friend.

No it’s not rude at all!

But if you loan $ $ to friends and family you have to assume you’ll never see it again 🤷‍♀️

Posted by RooSagicorn

No it’s not rude to remind them & yes it’s not to pay on time.

I’d just ask what the status is on them paying you back is.

This is actually a great way to ask! Thanks!

Posted by nikkistar

Never give money out, that you need back.

HOWEVER, I am a bitch enough to do some petty ass shit. I got a dude that still owes me $ 400 that I loaned him to keep his car from getting repo'ed when he was out of a job. Anytime I see him post on facebook about buying some shit, I say some fucked up shit.

Post: Just booked my vacation to Hawaii with (girlfriend's name)

Response: Glad the 400 bucks you still owe me went to getting you a nice tan for that Dad bod you got.

His response: I am still broke, she paid for it.

Response: Good to know I am not the only person you mooch off of.

Post: Ugh, I have so many bills.

Response: I know you do, cause I paid for some of them.

Rinse and Repeat. I don't need the money back, but that won't stop me from being a bitch. I just know never to help this dude out ever again. Though my bitchiness has gotten me $ 200 of the original $ 600 he borrowed back, so it does have an affect on him.

I didn't let her borrow money. We went on a trip together in June and she was supposed to pay for her half. I don't loan money for this exact reason. It can ruin friendships. 😢

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Posted by nikkistar

Never give money out, that you need back.

HOWEVER, I am a bitch enough to do some petty ass shit. I got a dude that still owes me $ 400 that I loaned him to keep his car from getting repo'ed when he was out of a job. Anytime I see him post on facebook about buying some shit, I say some fucked up shit.

Post: Just booked my vacation to Hawaii with (girlfriend's name)

Response: Glad the 400 bucks you still owe me went to getting you a nice tan for that Dad bod you got.

His response: I am still broke, she paid for it.

Response: Good to know I am not the only person you mooch off of.

Post: Ugh, I have so many bills.

Response: I know you do, cause I paid for some of them.

Rinse and Repeat. I don't need the money back, but that won't stop me from being a bitch. I just know never to help this dude out ever again. Though my bitchiness has gotten me $ 200 of the original $ 600 he borrowed back, so it does have an affect on him.

I didn't let her borrow money. We went on a trip together in June and she was supposed to pay for her half. I don't loan money for this exact reason. It can ruin friendships. 😢

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No lie, I wouldn't have even paid for her half before. LOL

Posted by tiziani

Just bring it up repeatedly until they pay.

It's awkward but the only way that I've seen works.

Other than that I agree with Nikki that it's way less awkward to just gift money and kiss it goodbye than lend it and expect it back.

I would never be able to do this! 😆 It's too embarrassing for both people involved lol

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Posted by nikkistar

Never give money out, that you need back.

HOWEVER, I am a bitch enough to do some petty ass shit. I got a dude that still owes me $ 400 that I loaned him to keep his car from getting repo'ed when he was out of a job. Anytime I see him post on facebook about buying some shit, I say some fucked up shit.

Post: Just booked my vacation to Hawaii with (girlfriend's name)

Response: Glad the 400 bucks you still owe me went to getting you a nice tan for that Dad bod you got.

His response: I am still broke, she paid for it.

Response: Good to know I am not the only person you mooch off of.

Post: Ugh, I have so many bills.

Response: I know you do, cause I paid for some of them.

Rinse and Repeat. I don't need the money back, but that won't stop me from being a bitch. I just know never to help this dude out ever again. Though my bitchiness has gotten me $ 200 of the original $ 600 he borrowed back, so it does have an affect on him.

I didn't let her borrow money. We went on a trip together in June and she was supposed to pay for her half. I don't loan money for this exact reason. It can ruin friendships. 😢

No lie, I wouldn't have even paid for her half before. LOL

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It usually works out fine. They just venmo me, it's never been an issue before. This will be the last trip I go on with her though. It's not about the money but the principle. 😢

I actually think that's why she feels she doesn't have to pay me back, cause she knows how much I make. smh

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Posted by tiziani

Just bring it up repeatedly until they pay.

It's awkward but the only way that I've seen works.

Other than that I agree with Nikki that it's way less awkward to just gift money and kiss it goodbye than lend it and expect it back.

I would never be able to do this! 😆 It's too embarrassing for both people involved lol

I saw a Taurus do it successfully lol

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I sent a message and she hasn't even responded yet lol I have a bad feeling about this lol

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Posted by nikkistar

Never give money out, that you need back.

HOWEVER, I am a bitch enough to do some petty ass shit. I got a dude that still owes me $ 400 that I loaned him to keep his car from getting repo'ed when he was out of a job. Anytime I see him post on facebook about buying some shit, I say some fucked up shit.

Post: Just booked my vacation to Hawaii with (girlfriend's name)

Response: Glad the 400 bucks you still owe me went to getting you a nice tan for that Dad bod you got.

His response: I am still broke, she paid for it.

Response: Good to know I am not the only person you mooch off of.

Post: Ugh, I have so many bills.

Response: I know you do, cause I paid for some of them.

Rinse and Repeat. I don't need the money back, but that won't stop me from being a bitch. I just know never to help this dude out ever again. Though my bitchiness has gotten me $ 200 of the original $ 600 he borrowed back, so it does have an affect on him.

I didn't let her borrow money. We went on a trip together in June and she was supposed to pay for her half. I don't loan money for this exact reason. It can ruin friendships. 😢

No lie, I wouldn't have even paid for her half before. LOL

It usually works out fine. They just venmo me, it's never been an issue before. This will be the last trip I go on with her though. It's not about the money but the principle. 😢

I actually think that's why she feels she doesn't have to pay me back, cause she knows how much I make. smh

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If she is one of "those", then, I suggest you just remember who she is, like I said in my first statement. It's almost weird, how some people, have a weird sense of entitlement to your money, right?

I suggest bombarding her with memes and gifs of "Where's my money?"

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Posted by nikkistar

Never give money out, that you need back.

HOWEVER, I am a bitch enough to do some petty ass shit. I got a dude that still owes me $ 400 that I loaned him to keep his car from getting repo'ed when he was out of a job. Anytime I see him post on facebook about buying some shit, I say some fucked up shit.

Post: Just booked my vacation to Hawaii with (girlfriend's name)

Response: Glad the 400 bucks you still owe me went to getting you a nice tan for that Dad bod you got.

His response: I am still broke, she paid for it.

Response: Good to know I am not the only person you mooch off of.

Post: Ugh, I have so many bills.

Response: I know you do, cause I paid for some of them.

Rinse and Repeat. I don't need the money back, but that won't stop me from being a bitch. I just know never to help this dude out ever again. Though my bitchiness has gotten me $ 200 of the original $ 600 he borrowed back, so it does have an affect on him.

I didn't let her borrow money. We went on a trip together in June and she was supposed to pay for her half. I don't loan money for this exact reason. It can ruin friendships. 😢

No lie, I wouldn't have even paid for her half before. LOL

It usually works out fine. They just venmo me, it's never been an issue before. This will be the last trip I go on with her though. It's not about the money but the principle. 😢

I actually think that's why she feels she doesn't have to pay me back, cause she knows how much I make. smh

If she is one of "those", then, I suggest you just remember who she is, like I said in my first statement. It's almost weird, how some people, have a weird sense of entitlement to your money, right?

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I know, I don't get it.

I didn't even know she would be like this. I'll wait it out and see whats going on. I work 7 days a week so I can afford to travel whenever I want. I work very hard for my money just so I can play hard.

Posted by nikkistar

I suggest bombarding her with memes and gifs of "Where's my money?"

THE MEMES ARE HILARIOUS!!!!!!!! 😆 😆 Passive aggressive is right up my alley too! 😆

out of sight, out of mind, so always stop by and collect in person if you can....threaten with your body language only....be subtle though, especially first visit....

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Posted by tiziani

Just bring it up repeatedly until they pay.

It's awkward but the only way that I've seen works.

Other than that I agree with Nikki that it's way less awkward to just gift money and kiss it goodbye than lend it and expect it back.

I would never be able to do this! 😆 It's too embarrassing for both people involved lol

I saw a Taurus do it successfully lol

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Posted by nikkistar

Never give money out, that you need back.

HOWEVER, I am a bitch enough to do some petty ass shit. I got a dude that still owes me $ 400 that I loaned him to keep his car from getting repo'ed when he was out of a job. Anytime I see him post on facebook about buying some shit, I say some fucked up shit.

Post: Just booked my vacation to Hawaii with (girlfriend's name)

Response: Glad the 400 bucks you still owe me went to getting you a nice tan for that Dad bod you got.

His response: I am still broke, she paid for it.

Response: Good to know I am not the only person you mooch off of.

Post: Ugh, I have so many bills.

Response: I know you do, cause I paid for some of them.

Rinse and Repeat. I don't need the money back, but that won't stop me from being a bitch. I just know never to help this dude out ever again. Though my bitchiness has gotten me $ 200 of the original $ 600 he borrowed back, so it does have an affect on him.

I didn't let her borrow money. We went on a trip together in June and she was supposed to pay for her half. I don't loan money for this exact reason. It can ruin friendships. 😢

No lie, I wouldn't have even paid for her half before. LOL

It usually works out fine. They just venmo me, it's never been an issue before. This will be the last trip I go on with her though. It's not about the money but the principle. 😢

I actually think that's why she feels she doesn't have to pay me back, cause she knows how much I make. smh

If she is one of "those", then, I suggest you just remember who she is, like I said in my first statement. It's almost weird, how some people, have a weird sense of entitlement to your money, right?

I know, I don't get it.

I didn't even know she would be like this. I'll wait it out and see whats going on. I work 7 days a week so I can afford to travel whenever I want. I work very hard for my money just so I can play hard.

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it tells me what kind of a person they are - if it is a close friend and they need it of course I give it - but a trip ? that she agreed to go and pay her half for ? no

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Posted by nikkistar

Never give money out, that you need back.

HOWEVER, I am a bitch enough to do some petty ass shit. I got a dude that still owes me $ 400 that I loaned him to keep his car from getting repo'ed when he was out of a job. Anytime I see him post on facebook about buying some shit, I say some fucked up shit.

Post: Just booked my vacation to Hawaii with (girlfriend's name)

Response: Glad the 400 bucks you still owe me went to getting you a nice tan for that Dad bod you got.

His response: I am still broke, she paid for it.

Response: Good to know I am not the only person you mooch off of.

Post: Ugh, I have so many bills.

Response: I know you do, cause I paid for some of them.

Rinse and Repeat. I don't need the money back, but that won't stop me from being a bitch. I just know never to help this dude out ever again. Though my bitchiness has gotten me $ 200 of the original $ 600 he borrowed back, so it does have an affect on him.

I didn't let her borrow money. We went on a trip together in June and she was supposed to pay for her half. I don't loan money for this exact reason. It can ruin friendships. 😢

No lie, I wouldn't have even paid for her half before. LOL

It usually works out fine. They just venmo me, it's never been an issue before. This will be the last trip I go on with her though. It's not about the money but the principle. 😢

I actually think that's why she feels she doesn't have to pay me back, cause she knows how much I make. smh

If she is one of "those", then, I suggest you just remember who she is, like I said in my first statement. It's almost weird, how some people, have a weird sense of entitlement to your money, right?

I know, I don't get it.

I didn't even know she would be like this. I'll wait it out and see whats going on. I work 7 days a week so I can afford to travel whenever I want. I work very hard for my money just so I can play hard.

it tells me what kind of a person they are - if it is a close friend and they need it of course I give it - but a trip ? that she agreed to go and pay her half for ? no

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Exactly, It's odd. But at least now I know. I learn lessons pretty fast with this type of thing. People can only take advantage of me once.

Posted by Metatron

out of sight, out of mind, so always stop by and collect in person if you can....threaten with your body language only....be subtle though, especially first visit....

OMG! This is so cute!!! 😆

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lol

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Posted by nikkistar

Never give money out, that you need back.

HOWEVER, I am a bitch enough to do some petty ass shit. I got a dude that still owes me $ 400 that I loaned him to keep his car from getting repo'ed when he was out of a job. Anytime I see him post on facebook about buying some shit, I say some fucked up shit.

Post: Just booked my vacation to Hawaii with (girlfriend's name)

Response: Glad the 400 bucks you still owe me went to getting you a nice tan for that Dad bod you got.

His response: I am still broke, she paid for it.

Response: Good to know I am not the only person you mooch off of.

Post: Ugh, I have so many bills.

Response: I know you do, cause I paid for some of them.

Rinse and Repeat. I don't need the money back, but that won't stop me from being a bitch. I just know never to help this dude out ever again. Though my bitchiness has gotten me $ 200 of the original $ 600 he borrowed back, so it does have an affect on him.

I didn't let her borrow money. We went on a trip together in June and she was supposed to pay for her half. I don't loan money for this exact reason. It can ruin friendships. 😢

No lie, I wouldn't have even paid for her half before. LOL

It usually works out fine. They just venmo me, it's never been an issue before. This will be the last trip I go on with her though. It's not about the money but the principle. 😢

I actually think that's why she feels she doesn't have to pay me back, cause she knows how much I make. smh

If she is one of "those", then, I suggest you just remember who she is, like I said in my first statement. It's almost weird, how some people, have a weird sense of entitlement to your money, right?

I know, I don't get it.

I didn't even know she would be like this. I'll wait it out and see whats going on. I work 7 days a week so I can afford to travel whenever I want. I work very hard for my money just so I can play hard.

it tells me what kind of a person they are - if it is a close friend and they need it of course I give it - but a trip ? that she agreed to go and pay her half for ? no

Exactly, It's odd. But at least now I know. I learn lessons pretty fast with this type of thing. People can only take advantage of me once.

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yeah me too - and it is odd - cause I think - really ? like she knew the deal up front so she can't say she didn't - then she ain't gonna say nothing at all to you like Ima tryin' or he's half or something but nuthing ? I work hard for my green so it has to expect respect when someone asks to borrow - and I'm a very giving person to my close friends so it's not like I'm a miser lol

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Posted by nikkistar

Never give money out, that you need back.

HOWEVER, I am a bitch enough to do some petty ass shit. I got a dude that still owes me $ 400 that I loaned him to keep his car from getting repo'ed when he was out of a job. Anytime I see him post on facebook about buying some shit, I say some fucked up shit.

Post: Just booked my vacation to Hawaii with (girlfriend's name)

Response: Glad the 400 bucks you still owe me went to getting you a nice tan for that Dad bod you got.

His response: I am still broke, she paid for it.

Response: Good to know I am not the only person you mooch off of.

Post: Ugh, I have so many bills.

Response: I know you do, cause I paid for some of them.

Rinse and Repeat. I don't need the money back, but that won't stop me from being a bitch. I just know never to help this dude out ever again. Though my bitchiness has gotten me $ 200 of the original $ 600 he borrowed back, so it does have an affect on him.

I didn't let her borrow money. We went on a trip together in June and she was supposed to pay for her half. I don't loan money for this exact reason. It can ruin friendships. 😢

No lie, I wouldn't have even paid for her half before. LOL

It usually works out fine. They just venmo me, it's never been an issue before. This will be the last trip I go on with her though. It's not about the money but the principle. 😢

I actually think that's why she feels she doesn't have to pay me back, cause she knows how much I make. smh

If she is one of "those", then, I suggest you just remember who she is, like I said in my first statement. It's almost weird, how some people, have a weird sense of entitlement to your money, right?

I know, I don't get it.

I didn't even know she would be like this. I'll wait it out and see whats going on. I work 7 days a week so I can afford to travel whenever I want. I work very hard for my money just so I can play hard.

it tells me what kind of a person they are - if it is a close friend and they need it of course I give it - but a trip ? that she agreed to go and pay her half for ? no

Exactly, It's odd. But at least now I know. I learn lessons pretty fast with this type of thing. People can only take advantage of me once.

yeah me too - and it is odd - cause I think - really ? like she knew the deal up front so she can't say she didn't - then she ain't gonna say nothing at all to you like Ima tryin' or he's half or something but nuthing ? I work hard for my green so it has to expect respect when someone asks to borrow - and I'm a very giving person to my close friends so it's not like I'm a miser lol

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If a close friend needs money and I have it, I will give it with no expectations of getting it back. As long as it doesn't happen a lot. Small amounts though or if it's for food, like grocery shopping. I don't mind.

But when you actually say you will pay them back in July and I have't heard a peep from you but your kid comes over my house on a daily basis, It's an issue lol

How have I not seen her but her son stays playing video games and after school chilling on my couch? smh.

No it’s not rude of you to remind them, but it is awkward af and I understand why you feel weird about it ...

& yes they’re absolutely fucking rude for not paying you back on time 😡 that just pisses me off. It’s such a disrespect of your kindness and generosity. They didn’t forget, trust me. They’re just hoping you did. 🙄

I don’t typically lend money because it’s too much drama...but if I do decide to it’s not a loan in my mind and I don’t even expect to be paid back...it’s easier that way.

On the bright side...you have a perfect reason to never lend this person money again lol

They just made it really easy for you to say no

I should have read the responses before I posted - every one said it for me!

I’m so pissed for you omg lol

Let me at her

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I’m so pissed for you omg lol

Let me at her

LOL. She still hasn't even responded either.

yea i would never expect money back but ill be the first to pay you back, just dont expect things from people...

Posted by Gobby

When there's been a mutual agreement that someone will pay you back and they don't, that's a blatant display of disrespect (that's unless they're currently experiencing financial hardship AND have communicated this with you).

If the person is a friend, just be straight up and ask them if they're having any problems paying the money back. If they are, they should at least be willing to pay you back in instalments...

This is a great idea Gobby, Thanks. I will say this to her if she ever texts back 😢

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It depends on their circumstances and situation.

What happens if I throw in a grill and beer for a couple of brats? 😄

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I’m so pissed for you omg lol

Let me at her

LOL. She still hasn't even responded either.

When did you last contact her?

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A few hours ago, right before lunch.

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I’m so pissed for you omg lol

Let me at her

LOL. She still hasn't even responded either.

When did you last contact her?

A few hours ago, right before lunch.

Give her at least a couple of days, before drawing any conclusions. There is the tinniest possibility she could be trying to sort something out. However, don't hold your breath...

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All I have is time. It's been about 2 months now anyways, without me saying a word. I can wait a few more days. Thanks for the advice!

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I’m so pissed for you omg lol

Let me at her

LOL. She still hasn't even responded either.

When did you last contact her?

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I just noticed your profile picture fully. lol

The irony of me calling you a prude! 😆

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It depends on their circumstances and situation.

What happens if I throw in a grill and beer for a couple of brats? 😄

Do you want your money back or are you just satisfied with a pack of raw sausages ?😂

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😆 I'm about to cook those bicches!!

@Saggurl88

its always a tricky thing ... and sad really that you have to ask for the money back (your own money!) and it can taint the otherwise wonderful memories from the vacation..

she is maybe having a financial crises..... is she well off? if yes, no excuses...

but if not, maybe meet her for a drink and tell her: I dont want this money thing keep us apart... if you have a money crisis, we can sort it out later, what do you suggest?

maybe she will be grateful, maybe she has now money issues (school year starting, summer being financially demanding, etc), so talking about it in a kind understanding manner...

I know its not the money but the thing she didnt even acknowledged that she owes you the money.... but there is a real possibility she feels really awful and avoiding you and the question, because she just doesnt have the money now..... but I believe she had an awful time and is feeling guilty

she must be a nice person if you went with her for a holiday.... was she okey during the holiday? did you have a great time? how did you pay for food and drinks?

give her a chance and talk it thru over a drink

Posted by Pandora101

@Saggurl88

its always a tricky thing ... and sad really that you have to ask for the money back (your own money!) and it can taint the otherwise wonderful memories from the vacation..

she is maybe having a financial crises..... is she well off? if yes, no excuses...

but if not, maybe meet her for a drink and tell her: I dont want this money thing keep us apart... if you have a money crisis, we can sort it out later, what do you suggest?

maybe she will be grateful, maybe she has now money issues (school year starting, summer being financially demanding, etc), so talking about it in a kind understanding manner...

I know its not the money but the thing she didnt even acknowledged that she owes you the money.... but there is a real possibility she feels really awful and avoiding you and the question, because she just doesnt have the money now..... but I believe she had an awful time and is feeling guilty

she must be a nice person if you went with her for a holiday.... was she okey during the holiday? did you have a great time? how did you pay for food and drinks?

give her a chance and talk it thru over a drink

She was actually in a financial bind when we went, that's why I haven't brought it up yet. I just want a clear date or the truth of what's going on. The fact that she hasn't mentioned it at all, even though I haven't brought it up is just upsetting to me. It makes me feel like I've been duped.

I paid for a few things like food and drinks on the trip and wasn't asking for that money back. Just the car rental, gas and hotel costs. But I will wait and see if she responds.

I would rather chat in person but she may end up avoiding me altogether since she hasn't even bothered to text back. 😢

We'll see.

Thanks for all that you've written, I appreciate the contribution 🙂

@saggurl88

I understand its upsetting... I would feel the same

but I dont think she "havent even bothered" to text back..... I am nearly sure she wrote and deleted so many text messages, because she just doesnt know how to formulate it.... she feels awful, believe me

if his son is coming to yours daily, it must be really awkward for her to owe you money... I know that you are in the right here, so do, how you feel

but I am sure at the moment she is writing and rewriting and deleting text messages where she apologizes and explains and maybe cannot find the right words

or maybe she is just a user, you know her better

its awkward thats for sure 😢

I had a friend who I had this situation with, even around the same amount. She couldn't pay back the money, but I did have her agree to come clean my flat for a number of weekends as an alternative form of payment. Worked fine for me because I detest housecleaning.

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@saggurl88

I understand its upsetting... I would feel the same

but I dont think she "havent even bothered" to text back..... I am nearly sure she wrote and deleted so many text messages, because she just doesnt know how to formulate it.... she feels awful, believe me

if his son is coming to yours daily, it must be really awkward for her to owe you money... I know that you are in the right here, so do, how you feel

but I am sure at the moment she is writing and rewriting and deleting text messages where she apologizes and explains and maybe cannot find the right words

or maybe she is just a user, you know her better

its awkward thats for sure 😢

You are such a cutie! I swear I need the Aqua gods to bless me with one of you for the rest of my life.

Thanks again. At this time I will just wait and see if she responds then go from there. 🙂

Posted by Marai

Plant a seed and water it from time to time. Keep reminding them every now and then if you really need/want the money back. You could ask the person to pay back in parts, so at least you're getting somewhere...

Fuck that, I get a little every time I won't know where that money went. I want it in big bills

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@saggurl88

I understand its upsetting... I would feel the same

but I dont think she "havent even bothered" to text back..... I am nearly sure she wrote and deleted so many text messages, because she just doesnt know how to formulate it.... she feels awful, believe me

if his son is coming to yours daily, it must be really awkward for her to owe you money... I know that you are in the right here, so do, how you feel

but I am sure at the moment she is writing and rewriting and deleting text messages where she apologizes and explains and maybe cannot find the right words

or maybe she is just a user, you know her better

its awkward thats for sure 😢

You are such a cutie! I swear I need the Aqua gods to bless me with one of you for the rest of my life.

Thanks again. At this time I will just wait and see if she responds then go from there. 🙂

You can't be serious... That bubbly, beautiful, soft imagining is a fairytale excuse for a guilty person who refuses to confront an issue by doing... NOTHING!!!!!!! UGH!!!

Really—

Aquas will have you feeling good about financing someone else's vacation and them sending you a picture of them throwing money down the sewer. You've been warned...

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You ever meet up with your Aqua for your birthday— Lol.

Pandora is an Aqua. My friend who isn’t paying up is an Aries. Lol.

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Posted by Marai

Plant a seed and water it from time to time. Keep reminding them every now and then if you really need/want the money back. You could ask the person to pay back in parts, so at least you're getting somewhere...

Fuck that, I get a little every time I won't know where that money went. I want it in big bills

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I prefer it that way too. I wasn’t nickel and diming when it was tome to pay. I don’t expect to be paid back like that. Just set a date and pay it all off. I don’t care if it’s in 6 months.

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Posted by Marai

Plant a seed and water it from time to time. Keep reminding them every now and then if you really need/want the money back. You could ask the person to pay back in parts, so at least you're getting somewhere...

Fuck that, I get a little every time I won't know where that money went. I want it in big bills

I prefer it that way too. I wasn’t nickel and diming when it was tome to pay. I don’t expect to be paid back like that. Just set a date and pay it all off. I don’t care if it’s in 6 months.

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Yeah put away a little from your paycheck every month and in 6 months you'll be able to pay me back in full. But of course, it may not as motivating as taking mah money 😒

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Never give money out, that you need back.

HOWEVER, I am a bitch enough to do some petty ass shit. I got a dude that still owes me $ 400 that I loaned him to keep his car from getting repo'ed when he was out of a job. Anytime I see him post on facebook about buying some shit, I say some fucked up shit.

Post: Just booked my vacation to Hawaii with (girlfriend's name)

Response: Glad the 400 bucks you still owe me went to getting you a nice tan for that Dad bod you got.

His response: I am still broke, she paid for it.

Response: Good to know I am not the only person you mooch off of.

Post: Ugh, I have so many bills.

Response: I know you do, cause I paid for some of them.

Rinse and Repeat. I don't need the money back, but that won't stop me from being a bitch. I just know never to help this dude out ever again. Though my bitchiness has gotten me $ 200 of the original $ 600 he borrowed back, so it does have an affect on him.

I didn't let her borrow money. We went on a trip together in June and she was supposed to pay for her half. I don't loan money for this exact reason. It can ruin friendships. 😢

No lie, I wouldn't have even paid for her half before. LOL

It usually works out fine. They just venmo me, it's never been an issue before. This will be the last trip I go on with her though. It's not about the money but the principle. 😢

I actually think that's why she feels she doesn't have to pay me back, cause she knows how much I make. smh

If she is one of "those", then, I suggest you just remember who she is, like I said in my first statement. It's almost weird, how some people, have a weird sense of entitlement to your money, right?

I know, I don't get it.

I didn't even know she would be like this. I'll wait it out and see whats going on. I work 7 days a week so I can afford to travel whenever I want. I work very hard for my money just so I can play hard.

it tells me what kind of a person they are - if it is a close friend and they need it of course I give it - but a trip ? that she agreed to go and pay her half for ? no

Exactly, It's odd. But at least now I know. I learn lessons pretty fast with this type of thing. People can only take advantage of me once.

yeah me too - and it is odd - cause I think - really ? like she knew the deal up front so she can't say she didn't - then she ain't gonna say nothing at all to you like Ima tryin' or he's half or something but nuthing ? I work hard for my green so it has to expect respect when someone asks to borrow - and I'm a very giving person to my close friends so it's not like I'm a miser lol

If a close friend needs money and I have it, I will give it with no expectations of getting it back. As long as it doesn't happen a lot. Small amounts though or if it's for food, like grocery shopping. I don't mind.

But when you actually say you will pay them back in July and I have't heard a peep from you but your kid comes over my house on a daily basis, It's an issue lol

How have I not seen her but her son stays playing video games and after school chilling on my couch? smh.

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so you're adopting her kids - jk - lol - she'll be trying to move in soon lol

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@saggurl88

I understand its upsetting... I would feel the same

but I dont think she "havent even bothered" to text back..... I am nearly sure she wrote and deleted so many text messages, because she just doesnt know how to formulate it.... she feels awful, believe me

if his son is coming to yours daily, it must be really awkward for her to owe you money... I know that you are in the right here, so do, how you feel

but I am sure at the moment she is writing and rewriting and deleting text messages where she apologizes and explains and maybe cannot find the right words

or maybe she is just a user, you know her better

its awkward thats for sure 😢

You are such a cutie! I swear I need the Aqua gods to bless me with one of you for the rest of my life.

Thanks again. At this time I will just wait and see if she responds then go from there. 🙂

You can't be serious... That bubbly, beautiful, soft imagining is a fairytale excuse for a guilty person who refuses to confront an issue by doing... NOTHING!!!!!!! UGH!!!

Really—

Aquas will have you feeling good about financing someone else's vacation and them sending you a picture of them throwing money down the sewer. You've been warned...

You ever meet up with your Aqua for your birthday— Lol.

Pandora is an Aqua. My friend who isn’t paying up is an Aries. Lol.

Nope... She ran. Thank goodness. She rescheduled again & I just decided to ignore her and enjoy myself. You should have been a REAL friend and warned me like I just did you. The moment you start imagining the world through their eyes, reality becomes a distant memory.

Did you just see how you were almost manipulated mentally?? I'm all for positivism it just holds no relevance here.

I'll tell you right now, an Aries is either paying you early or not at all. Ask any of them.

My Aqua ex had me feeling good about paying to get repossessed cars, chairs for a wedding, rent, etc. for her little Aries sister.. Ironic. Isn't it??

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GemCurio: "Nope... She ran. Thank goodness. She rescheduled again & I just decided to ignore her and enjoy myself. You should have been a REAL friend and warned me like I just did you. The moment you start imagining the world through their eyes, reality becomes a distant memory.

Did you just see how you were almost manipulated mentally?? I'm all for positivism it just holds no relevance here. "



no wonder she ran from that negativity

"mentally manipulated", hmmm 🙂

no offence please, just joking

@saggurl88 with Aries and money it can be tough... not good with planning their finances, just my experience... not because they would like to use people, but mainly they have so many impulsive actions and events, so finances suffer... she probably has debts elsewhere as well... 😢

how the holiday planning went? was it impulsive or well planned out?

unfortunately, I can somewhat agree (experience) with GemCurio, Aries I know either pay up or reciprocate immediately.... or avoid you, because they have so many debts, and feel definitely guilty, but the payment, hmm ... 😢