The Lady Scorpio
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Dating Anxiety, Worth It ?
Everyone is depressed and has one or another type of anxiety on here. It's like the insane asylum's all over the world got lax with the internet access rules for patients.
I just got too fond of being single
Am pretty confident with men, so .....
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Am pretty confident with men, so .....
😋
Posted by nanoMarriage is not on my mind, in fact that is the last thing that I would contemplate. A marriage proposal, would create another whole different level of anxiety that I would not want to even contemplate. Said no once already, and ran. Next time, I might end up simply just running away altogether. 😆
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
The mere unknown, of yes or now. That abyss, I rather someone be upfront. Yes, or no. Be done with it, so I could move on to the next candidate.
However, dating rarely ever works that way. 😐
Posted by MyStarsShineAs am I, however sometimes a woman wants a bit of fun in the bedroom as well (as a Stinger woman, change the want to a need). 😆
I just got too fond of being single
Am pretty confident with men, so .....
😋
Consistently, having to throw a bait out there into the ocean for casual fishes, is tiring and exhausting.
Posted by SeleukosHah, and since we last spoke of it. Have you managed to hit a target yet ?
Nah, I'll stick to my stone throwing method.
Pass me your bucket of stones. I need some too, might as well give it a go.
Now that I think of it, will you be my target practice ? 😆
Posted by ImpulsvSheer utter torture, I would fare better if I threw myself off a cliff.Posted by nanoWE KNOW this
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
And we don’t go liking everyone
It’s when we like them that it’s torturous
Any blow Joe’s n I don’t care I’m fine
The early stages are no fun for scorpio if we like themclick to expand
My issue, once in a relationship. I become utterly blasé (ironic as that may be). 😆
Posted by nanoTrust me, it always begins that way, exactly as you describe. However, a few dates in, and if the person seems favourable or pursues quite generously. We often switch, and can not switch back.
I don't get anxiety over dating and I don't think that other people should either. Dating is really fun.
One time my sister got so bent out of shape and upset by ONE date not working that she deleted her profile for 3 years. What the fuck? Did that really hurt so bad that the one date you went on wasn't your exact "forever person"?
I don't understand this anxiety supposedly associated with dating. Why does it have to be that way? Why can't you just go on a date and enjoy yourself with no expectation, and see where it goes? It either works out or it doesn't, and it likely won't. You just have to accept and come to peace with that. Then it will work out more in your favor.... your vibe will be more positive, and you will become more attractive.
We Stingers are black or white, if I had your capability I would trade it for anything. Trust me, I would.
Posted by nanoYes, I ran from a marriage proposal before. It was from someone before the Virgent, a Water Bearer gent. It was a very romantic proposal, at a castle. His father was there, my good friend at the time was there as well. I felt dreadful for having had to say no, and ran, but I knew it was not time, nor was he the man I would want to spend eternity with.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou ran from a marriage proposal? Was that with the virgo guy you were with for a long time?Posted by nanoMarriage is not on my mind, in fact that is the last thing that I would contemplate. A marriage proposal, would create another whole different level of anxiety that I would not want to even contemplate. Said no once already, and ran. Next time, I might end up simply just running away altogether. 😆
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
The mere unknown, of yes or now. That abyss, I rather someone be upfront. Yes, or no. Be done with it, so I could move on to the next candidate.
However, dating rarely ever works that way. 😐
Have you tried different methods of delivery? I hear all the time women on dxp and irl complain of men playing games or not being upfront, but I have never experienced that. I weed out toolbags before ever meeting in person so I don't have to deal with that type of shit. I also don't go for the chiseled model types who would likely behave that way. So maybe that's why I avoid these types all together.
What kind of men/women are you interested in? Do you find that women play up ambiguity in dating more than men?click to expand
Ah, the blatantly awful bastards (yes, including beautiful model-esque ones) are easy to weed out of course. I would spot them from a mile away, and do not entertain them. The ones that get under my skin, are good men, that are interested, but either have baggage still yet to work through, or they have something in their life that prevents them from wanting to commit, at the moment. Be it their careers, financial situation, locale, etc. Not because they were not open, or vulnerable, often times they were with me. However, the one thing they are not honest about, was their decision process. They want it, but am uncertain.
Do I cut out all the good men, that are still deciding ?
Sometimes, by the time they come back. I have already moved on.
Hmm, I do not have a type. Anyone who is not stoic, and could express themselves easily. Who is not afraid to be open and vulnerable from the get go, blunt and honest. Good conversationalist, and enjoys a sarcastic sense of humour.
Yes, I do find potential female dates even more ambiguous than men. In fact, they are often even more frustrating to figure out. Unless, they tell me what they want. I have to take it as a no, from the get go.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... x
Everytime..... x
@nano, I suppose it also comes from the disappointment of getting to know all these good men. They open up, become vulnerable, I learn about their past and history. Then they are indecisive.
The reality is this, even if and when you are ready. Most others, may not be.
That I think is what hits home the hardest.
The reality is this, even if and when you are ready. Most others, may not be.
That I think is what hits home the hardest.
Posted by RooSagicornPutting yourself out there often equates to rejection.
I actually think it’s all worth it. Even the bad experiences. It’s how you grow. I think the anxiety comes from mixed messages for me. Wellbeing scared about repeating patterns too.
Dating is a lot different now than it was before I was with my ex, and figuring out who is serious and who isn’t is sometimes tough, or if it’s where you need to be. But hell, it’s all your path and you have to keep walking forward. It’s all good. A lesson, fun times, or sometimes we find a special someone. 🙂 having peace is good from time to time too. Sometimes we need to recharge.
At least, even though I know I was not clingy nor needy. When someone cannot reciprocate, it somehow leaves me feeling embarrassed for having tried.
Posted by KityyyyyyyUntil the heart becomes wary and bruised purple, through experience.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... x
Posted by nanoWe could manage to do this, but eventually you must give yourself over. There is that tipping point, I feel as if every time I tip. I am always rewarded with turd. Trust me, we Stingers are good at being aloof. Yet, when we are, men think we are not interested. The ones that only care about us when we are aloof, almost always run when we give in.Posted by ImpulsvI don't even think that ya'll know if you like someone a lot of the time. Many times that I have witnessed, it's too premature to even tell before you run them off with the whole full speed ahead thing. Then you create this picture in your head of them, you crave and want it and obsess about it, but it's not even based in reality whatsoever. That dude will fail your idyllic perception of him 10/10 times if you only gave him time to show you.Posted by nanoWE KNOW this
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
And we don’t go liking everyone
It’s when we like them that it’s torturous
Any blow Joe’s n I don’t care I’m fine
The early stages are no fun for scorpio if we like them
If you could just give it a little more time with a little more self control, and a lot less imagination, you'd be golden because all the intelligence and charm is there to get what you want.
Btw the "you" in this post is a rhetorical and intangible you. Not you specifically, if that wasn't clear.click to expand
Hold off, and we get mistaken for lacking interesting.
Go forward, and we get distant or disappeared on.
😐
Posted by RooSagicornI do take them as lessons, why else would I be able to spot bastards a mile away.Posted by TheLadyScorpioWell you need to think about it as lessons and what you have learned and not put up with that again. To take responsibility for yourself and know you deserve better and are worthy. Not everyone is right for you, or the right situation. It’s hard to see that sometimes. But believe me, it’s the best way to look at things. I’ve been married twice and just had a failed relationship. It’s not always about you even though it may feel like rejection.Posted by RooSagicornPutting yourself out there often equates to rejection.
I actually think it’s all worth it. Even the bad experiences. It’s how you grow. I think the anxiety comes from mixed messages for me. Wellbeing scared about repeating patterns too.
Dating is a lot different now than it was before I was with my ex, and figuring out who is serious and who isn’t is sometimes tough, or if it’s where you need to be. But hell, it’s all your path and you have to keep walking forward. It’s all good. A lesson, fun times, or sometimes we find a special someone. 🙂 having peace is good from time to time too. Sometimes we need to recharge.
At least, even though I know I was not clingy nor needy. When someone cannot reciprocate, it somehow leaves me feeling embarrassed for having tried.click to expand
Yes, I have no regrets and know my own sense of worth. My love, deserves a man who wants it. Yet, it still does not eradicate the disappointment. You are right though, it is not about me, nor is it my fault. Yet, why does it almost always feels like it is ?
I suppose because I love people, in general. I love learning about people, what makes them who they are, and easily fall in love with people, their stories, their past, who they have become etc.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioIf I had a dollar for each bruise, I'd be a gazillionaire......Posted by KityyyyyyyUntil the heart becomes wary and bruised purple, through experience.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... xclick to expand
I refuse to let rejection and loss define me.... Purely out of spite.....
Just let a little light in, amidst the cracks, if you can.... 🤗
Posted by nanoYou are right, yet on the other hand I understand their 'excuses' because I too have given them to men before, and actually meant it. Perhaps, that is why it makes it even harder for me. Your perspective, will allow me to rethink things.Posted by TheLadyScorpioOkay, I see what you are saying. A part of me wants to say that good men or not, there is no good time to ever be prepared for a relationship, and the career and financial situations, etc, sounds like an excuse. A part of me knows that a man will trudge through hell and high water, regardless of his situation to be with a woman he wants to be with. I've also been on the receiving end of the excuses with 1 man, "Oh I'm focusing on my career and I will be moving abroad soon." They word it in a way that you have to accept it or else look like a psycho. It sounded good and admirable on paper... until he pursued a LDR with a different woman in Israel...he was moving to Russia 😆 Nahhh from that point on, I realized all the career and money and distance shit is all an excuse.Posted by nanoYes, I ran from a marriage proposal before. It was from someone before the Virgent, a Water Bearer gent. It was a very romantic proposal, at a castle. His father was there, my good friend at the time was there as well. I felt dreadful for having had to say no, and ran, but I knew it was not time, nor was he the man I would want to spend eternity with.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou ran from a marriage proposal? Was that with the virgo guy you were with for a long time?Posted by nanoMarriage is not on my mind, in fact that is the last thing that I would contemplate. A marriage proposal, would create another whole different level of anxiety that I would not want to even contemplate. Said no once already, and ran. Next time, I might end up simply just running away altogether. 😆
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
The mere unknown, of yes or now. That abyss, I rather someone be upfront. Yes, or no. Be done with it, so I could move on to the next candidate.
However, dating rarely ever works that way. 😐
Have you tried different methods of delivery? I hear all the time women on dxp and irl complain of men playing games or not being upfront, but I have never experienced that. I weed out toolbags before ever meeting in person so I don't have to deal with that type of shit. I also don't go for the chiseled model types who would likely behave that way. So maybe that's why I avoid these types all together.
What kind of men/women are you interested in? Do you find that women play up ambiguity in dating more than men?
Ah, the blatantly awful bastards (yes, including beautiful model-esque ones) are easy to weed out of course. I would spot them from a mile away, and do not entertain them. The ones that get under my skin, are good men, that are interested, but either have baggage still yet to work through, or they have something in their life that prevents them from wanting to commit, at the moment. Be it their careers, financial situation, locale, etc. Not because they were not open, or vulnerable, often times they were with me. However, the one thing they are not honest about, was their decision process. They want it, but am uncertain.
Do I cut out all the good men, that are still deciding ?
Sometimes, by the time they come back. I have already moved on.
Hmm, I do not have a type. Anyone who is not stoic, and could express themselves easily. Who is not afraid to be open and vulnerable from the get go, blunt and honest. Good conversationalist, and enjoys a sarcastic sense of humour.
Yes, I do find potential female dates even more ambiguous than men. In fact, they are often even more frustrating to figure out. Unless, they tell me what they want. I have to take it as a no, from the get go.
You deserve to be with a person who doesn't use excuses. Maybe some of them are genuinely good men and maybe their situations are also genuine and temporary. But you won't ever know that to be the case unless you waited for them. And that's a risk....I know that as you age, life becomes more complicated. There's kids and wives and ex wives, shared homes and whatnot. Thankfully I haven't had to deal with these types of situations.click to expand
I am already at that age, where some have already divorced, failed marriages / engagements, left over baggage from other women, have children, etc. The men going forward that I meet, will not have any less of such 'complicated' life issues. The older I get, the more fruitless it seems. 😐
Excuse me, for sounding as if I have given up hope but it may simply be frustration getting to me. It will pass. 😆
Posted by KityyyyyyyI am about to toss my heart into the La Seine and be done with it.Posted by TheLadyScorpioIf I had a dollar for each bruise, I'd be a gazillionaire......Posted by KityyyyyyyUntil the heart becomes wary and bruised purple, through experience.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... x
I refuse to let rejection and loss define me.... Purely out of spite.....
Just let a little light in, amidst the cracks, if you can.... 🤗click to expand
If it resurfaces, and a gentleman will care to save it. Then so be it. 😆
Find your self a fixed mars sign 😝
Posted by RooSagicornThank you for your kind words, I somehow really needed to hear it, it warms me and puts a smile on my face. It made me realise I am not insane for putting my heart out there.Posted by TheLadyScorpioIt feels like it because you were invested and put your heart out there. To me, that s a good thing to be able to. Some people get jaded and can’t. Some people think they want to & then freak the hell out ( my ex boyfriend). So me, I’m a little more hesitant because I need you to prove to me you’re really here. But that’s okay too. We are who all our experiences make us into, and help walk our path to something better. I still completely believe this. The right person will really be there for you. 🙂Posted by RooSagicornI do take them as lessons, why else would I be able to spot bastards a mile away.Posted by TheLadyScorpioWell you need to think about it as lessons and what you have learned and not put up with that again. To take responsibility for yourself and know you deserve better and are worthy. Not everyone is right for you, or the right situation. It’s hard to see that sometimes. But believe me, it’s the best way to look at things. I’ve been married twice and just had a failed relationship. It’s not always about you even though it may feel like rejection.Posted by RooSagicornPutting yourself out there often equates to rejection.
I actually think it’s all worth it. Even the bad experiences. It’s how you grow. I think the anxiety comes from mixed messages for me. Wellbeing scared about repeating patterns too.
Dating is a lot different now than it was before I was with my ex, and figuring out who is serious and who isn’t is sometimes tough, or if it’s where you need to be. But hell, it’s all your path and you have to keep walking forward. It’s all good. A lesson, fun times, or sometimes we find a special someone. 🙂 having peace is good from time to time too. Sometimes we need to recharge.
At least, even though I know I was not clingy nor needy. When someone cannot reciprocate, it somehow leaves me feeling embarrassed for having tried.
Yes, I have no regrets and know my own sense of worth. My love, deserves a man who wants it. Yet, it still does not eradicate the disappointment. You are right though, it is not about me, nor is it my fault. Yet, why does it almost always feels like it is ?
I suppose because I love people, in general. I love learning about people, what makes them who they are, and easily fall in love with people, their stories, their past, who they have become etc.click to expand
I have been that jaded person, once upon a time in my past. Having come out of that, learning to feel and wear my heart on my sleeve, took a lot of work and time. That courage gets downtrodden at times, unfortunately.
Posted by MoonbutterThe Ram gent, I am / was speaking to has a fixed mars sign. Yet it is still very uncertain. 😐
Find your self a fixed mars sign 😝
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by KityyyyyyyI am about to toss my heart into the La Seine and be done with it.Posted by TheLadyScorpioIf I had a dollar for each bruise, I'd be a gazillionaire......Posted by KityyyyyyyUntil the heart becomes wary and bruised purple, through experience.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... x
I refuse to let rejection and loss define me.... Purely out of spite.....
Just let a little light in, amidst the cracks, if you can.... 🤗
If it resurfaces, and a gentleman will care to save it. Then so be it. 😆click to expand
Nawwwwwww c'mon, dont be like that.... Have a look at what I've just gone through ladeeeeeee . ...
If I'm in, you're in hokaaaay?.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Posted by nanoI will trade with you, care to ? 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioYea, I have seen this said and have talked to a few scorpio women in great detail pm over the years here... I am not at all envious of this. I have been very lucky in love in my 28 years of life thus far. But don't worry... everything comes full circle and I fail in other areas which rank higher in importance to me. Such as currently, money or career. Find me a professionally successful scorpio who fails in her romantic pursuits and I'll trade her places 1000 times over.Posted by nanoWe could manage to do this, but eventually you must give yourself over. There is that tipping point, I feel as if every time I tip. I am always rewarded with turd. Trust me, we Stingers are good at being aloof. Yet, when we are, men think we are not interested. The ones that only care about us when we are aloof, almost always run when we give in.Posted by ImpulsvI don't even think that ya'll know if you like someone a lot of the time. Many times that I have witnessed, it's too premature to even tell before you run them off with the whole full speed ahead thing. Then you create this picture in your head of them, you crave and want it and obsess about it, but it's not even based in reality whatsoever. That dude will fail your idyllic perception of him 10/10 times if you only gave him time to show you.Posted by nanoWE KNOW this
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
And we don’t go liking everyone
It’s when we like them that it’s torturous
Any blow Joe’s n I don’t care I’m fine
The early stages are no fun for scorpio if we like them
If you could just give it a little more time with a little more self control, and a lot less imagination, you'd be golden because all the intelligence and charm is there to get what you want.
Btw the "you" in this post is a rhetorical and intangible you. Not you specifically, if that wasn't clear.
Hold off, and we get mistaken for lacking interesting.
Go forward, and we get distant or disappeared on.
😐click to expand
Posted by KityyyyyyySo you want to go for a dive into La Seine as well ? 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by KityyyyyyyI am about to toss my heart into the La Seine and be done with it.Posted by TheLadyScorpioIf I had a dollar for each bruise, I'd be a gazillionaire......Posted by KityyyyyyyUntil the heart becomes wary and bruised purple, through experience.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... x
I refuse to let rejection and loss define me.... Purely out of spite.....
Just let a little light in, amidst the cracks, if you can.... 🤗
If it resurfaces, and a gentleman will care to save it. Then so be it. 😆
Nawwwwwww c'mon, dont be like that.... Have a look at what I've just gone through ladeeeeeee . ...
If I'm in, you're in hokaaaay?.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣click to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpioDo they do gondolas per chance🤔🤣Posted by KityyyyyyySo you want to go for a dive into La Seine as well ? 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by KityyyyyyyI am about to toss my heart into the La Seine and be done with it.Posted by TheLadyScorpioIf I had a dollar for each bruise, I'd be a gazillionaire......Posted by KityyyyyyyUntil the heart becomes wary and bruised purple, through experience.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... x
I refuse to let rejection and loss define me.... Purely out of spite.....
Just let a little light in, amidst the cracks, if you can.... 🤗
If it resurfaces, and a gentleman will care to save it. Then so be it. 😆
Nawwwwwww c'mon, dont be like that.... Have a look at what I've just gone through ladeeeeeee . ...
If I'm in, you're in hokaaaay?.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣click to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpioDo they do gondolas per chance🤔🤣Posted by KityyyyyyySo you want to go for a dive into La Seine as well ? 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by KityyyyyyyI am about to toss my heart into the La Seine and be done with it.Posted by TheLadyScorpioIf I had a dollar for each bruise, I'd be a gazillionaire......Posted by KityyyyyyyUntil the heart becomes wary and bruised purple, through experience.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... x
I refuse to let rejection and loss define me.... Purely out of spite.....
Just let a little light in, amidst the cracks, if you can.... 🤗
If it resurfaces, and a gentleman will care to save it. Then so be it. 😆
Nawwwwwww c'mon, dont be like that.... Have a look at what I've just gone through ladeeeeeee . ...
If I'm in, you're in hokaaaay?.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣click to expand
Posted by KityyyyyyyNo chance in Italy, an Italian gent would be bound to jump in to save you.Posted by TheLadyScorpioDo they do gondolas per chance🤔🤣Posted by KityyyyyyySo you want to go for a dive into La Seine as well ? 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by KityyyyyyyI am about to toss my heart into the La Seine and be done with it.Posted by TheLadyScorpioIf I had a dollar for each bruise, I'd be a gazillionaire......Posted by KityyyyyyyUntil the heart becomes wary and bruised purple, through experience.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... x
I refuse to let rejection and loss define me.... Purely out of spite.....
Just let a little light in, amidst the cracks, if you can.... 🤗
If it resurfaces, and a gentleman will care to save it. Then so be it. 😆
Nawwwwwww c'mon, dont be like that.... Have a look at what I've just gone through ladeeeeeee . ...
If I'm in, you're in hokaaaay?.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣click to expand
Your chances of a dive or a swim, would be gone. 😆
Posted by RooSagicornIt makes perfect sense.Posted by TheLadyScorpioI understand completely. I’ve been there too. I was married for 17 years & came out of it very shut down. It’s like opening of a rose bud. So sometimes it’s still hard, but all that pain means I’m open & it’s a good thing🙂 I’d rather have that than being shut down. I’m much happier this way even though sometimes I’m sad.. if that makes sense.Posted by RooSagicornThank you for your kind words, I somehow really needed to hear it, it warms me and puts a smile on my face. It made me realise I am not insane for putting my heart out there.Posted by TheLadyScorpioIt feels like it because you were invested and put your heart out there. To me, that s a good thing to be able to. Some people get jaded and can’t. Some people think they want to & then freak the hell out ( my ex boyfriend). So me, I’m a little more hesitant because I need you to prove to me you’re really here. But that’s okay too. We are who all our experiences make us into, and help walk our path to something better. I still completely believe this. The right person will really be there for you. 🙂Posted by RooSagicornI do take them as lessons, why else would I be able to spot bastards a mile away.Posted by TheLadyScorpioWell you need to think about it as lessons and what you have learned and not put up with that again. To take responsibility for yourself and know you deserve better and are worthy. Not everyone is right for you, or the right situation. It’s hard to see that sometimes. But believe me, it’s the best way to look at things. I’ve been married twice and just had a failed relationship. It’s not always about you even though it may feel like rejection.Posted by RooSagicornPutting yourself out there often equates to rejection.
I actually think it’s all worth it. Even the bad experiences. It’s how you grow. I think the anxiety comes from mixed messages for me. Wellbeing scared about repeating patterns too.
Dating is a lot different now than it was before I was with my ex, and figuring out who is serious and who isn’t is sometimes tough, or if it’s where you need to be. But hell, it’s all your path and you have to keep walking forward. It’s all good. A lesson, fun times, or sometimes we find a special someone. 🙂 having peace is good from time to time too. Sometimes we need to recharge.
At least, even though I know I was not clingy nor needy. When someone cannot reciprocate, it somehow leaves me feeling embarrassed for having tried.
Yes, I have no regrets and know my own sense of worth. My love, deserves a man who wants it. Yet, it still does not eradicate the disappointment. You are right though, it is not about me, nor is it my fault. Yet, why does it almost always feels like it is ?
I suppose because I love people, in general. I love learning about people, what makes them who they are, and easily fall in love with people, their stories, their past, who they have become etc.
I have been that jaded person, once upon a time in my past. Having come out of that, learning to feel and wear my heart on my sleeve, took a lot of work and time. That courage gets downtrodden at times, unfortunately.click to expand
Yes, looking back. Though being closed off, meant I was safe, protected, and distant from potential individuals. Yet, it almost always meant I could never be vulnerable, or intimate with others. None of the connections made, ever meant anything, because I was not fully there.
Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MoonbutterThe Ram gent, I am / was speaking to has a fixed mars sign. Yet, it is still very uncertain. 😐
Find your self a fixed mars sign 😝
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I see... what’s his moon?
Posted by MoonbutterMerman Moon / Bull MarsPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MoonbutterThe Ram gent, I am / was speaking to has a fixed mars sign. Yet, it is still very uncertain. 😐
Find your self a fixed mars sign 😝
I see... what’s his moon?click to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpioI was in one in the year 1990 in Venice..... Soooooooo dreamy....... Shawoon...... 😏Posted by KityyyyyyyNo chance in Italy, an Italian gent would be bound to jump in to save you.Posted by TheLadyScorpioDo they do gondolas per chance🤔🤣Posted by KityyyyyyySo you want to go for a dive into La Seine as well ? 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by KityyyyyyyI am about to toss my heart into the La Seine and be done with it.Posted by TheLadyScorpioIf I had a dollar for each bruise, I'd be a gazillionaire......Posted by KityyyyyyyUntil the heart becomes wary and bruised purple, through experience.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... x
I refuse to let rejection and loss define me.... Purely out of spite.....
Just let a little light in, amidst the cracks, if you can.... 🤗
If it resurfaces, and a gentleman will care to save it. Then so be it. 😆
Nawwwwwww c'mon, dont be like that.... Have a look at what I've just gone through ladeeeeeee . ...
If I'm in, you're in hokaaaay?.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Your chances of a dive or a swim, would be gone. 😆click to expand
Posted by nanoI think it’s our Gemini airheadeness!
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
What to wear in a date? Who cares!
Does anyone guaranteed he is going to be Prince in tax?
And suresie...as long as you go to a nice place and he pays for the food and you are home safe - why go crazy?
Of course locking yourself up in a room and do nothing is fun but...only after you married! Lmao
Posted by KityyyyyyyPerhaps, it is time for you to go back again. Find yourself an Italian gent, they love women (unfortunately, that means you and all women that walks pass as well). 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioI was in one in the year 1990 in Venice..... Soooooooo dreamy....... Shawoon...... 😏Posted by KityyyyyyyNo chance in Italy, an Italian gent would be bound to jump in to save you.Posted by TheLadyScorpioDo they do gondolas per chance🤔🤣Posted by KityyyyyyySo you want to go for a dive into La Seine as well ? 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by KityyyyyyyI am about to toss my heart into the La Seine and be done with it.Posted by TheLadyScorpioIf I had a dollar for each bruise, I'd be a gazillionaire......Posted by KityyyyyyyUntil the heart becomes wary and bruised purple, through experience.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... x
I refuse to let rejection and loss define me.... Purely out of spite.....
Just let a little light in, amidst the cracks, if you can.... 🤗
If it resurfaces, and a gentleman will care to save it. Then so be it. 😆
Nawwwwwww c'mon, dont be like that.... Have a look at what I've just gone through ladeeeeeee . ...
If I'm in, you're in hokaaaay?.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Your chances of a dive or a swim, would be gone. 😆click to expand
Posted by nanoAt this rate, partner in crime to face life with. Depending on how stable our finances and careers are, I would be flexible in regards to settling down and starting a family. It would really depend on the potential person, and how I see our lives mesh.Posted by TheLadyScorpioAre you looking to settle down and potentially start a family? Or just looking for a partner in crime to face life with?Posted by nanoYou are right, yet on the other hand I understand their 'excuses' because I too have given them to men before, and actually meant it. Perhaps, that is why it makes it even harder for me. Your perspective, will allow me to rethink things.Posted by TheLadyScorpioOkay, I see what you are saying. A part of me wants to say that good men or not, there is no good time to ever be prepared for a relationship, and the career and financial situations, etc, sounds like an excuse. A part of me knows that a man will trudge through hell and high water, regardless of his situation to be with a woman he wants to be with. I've also been on the receiving end of the excuses with 1 man, "Oh I'm focusing on my career and I will be moving abroad soon." They word it in a way that you have to accept it or else look like a psycho. It sounded good and admirable on paper... until he pursued a LDR with a different woman in Israel...he was moving to Russia 😆 Nahhh from that point on, I realized all the career and money and distance shit is all an excuse.Posted by nanoYes, I ran from a marriage proposal before. It was from someone before the Virgent, a Water Bearer gent. It was a very romantic proposal, at a castle. His father was there, my good friend at the time was there as well. I felt dreadful for having had to say no, and ran, but I knew it was not time, nor was he the man I would want to spend eternity with.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou ran from a marriage proposal? Was that with the virgo guy you were with for a long time?Posted by nanoMarriage is not on my mind, in fact that is the last thing that I would contemplate. A marriage proposal, would create another whole different level of anxiety that I would not want to even contemplate. Said no once already, and ran. Next time, I might end up simply just running away altogether. 😆
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
The mere unknown, of yes or now. That abyss, I rather someone be upfront. Yes, or no. Be done with it, so I could move on to the next candidate.
However, dating rarely ever works that way. 😐
Have you tried different methods of delivery? I hear all the time women on dxp and irl complain of men playing games or not being upfront, but I have never experienced that. I weed out toolbags before ever meeting in person so I don't have to deal with that type of shit. I also don't go for the chiseled model types who would likely behave that way. So maybe that's why I avoid these types all together.
What kind of men/women are you interested in? Do you find that women play up ambiguity in dating more than men?
Ah, the blatantly awful bastards (yes, including beautiful model-esque ones) are easy to weed out of course. I would spot them from a mile away, and do not entertain them. The ones that get under my skin, are good men, that are interested, but either have baggage still yet to work through, or they have something in their life that prevents them from wanting to commit, at the moment. Be it their careers, financial situation, locale, etc. Not because they were not open, or vulnerable, often times they were with me. However, the one thing they are not honest about, was their decision process. They want it, but am uncertain.
Do I cut out all the good men, that are still deciding ?
Sometimes, by the time they come back. I have already moved on.
Hmm, I do not have a type. Anyone who is not stoic, and could express themselves easily. Who is not afraid to be open and vulnerable from the get go, blunt and honest. Good conversationalist, and enjoys a sarcastic sense of humour.
Yes, I do find potential female dates even more ambiguous than men. In fact, they are often even more frustrating to figure out. Unless, they tell me what they want. I have to take it as a no, from the get go.
You deserve to be with a person who doesn't use excuses. Maybe some of them are genuinely good men and maybe their situations are also genuine and temporary. But you won't ever know that to be the case unless you waited for them. And that's a risk....I know that as you age, life becomes more complicated. There's kids and wives and ex wives, shared homes and whatnot. Thankfully I haven't had to deal with these types of situations.
I am already at that age, where some have already divorced, failed marriages / engagements, left over baggage from other women, have children, etc. The men going forward that I meet, will not have any less of such 'complicated' life issues. The older I get, the more fruitless it seems. 😐
Excuse me, for sounding as if I have given up hope but it may simply be frustration getting to me. It will pass. 😆
Are you in England? I feel like European men are superior to American men in many ways.click to expand
Granted, I believe there are a great many incredible American men (as we are generalising here). From my past experiences, they were consistently a culture shock to me. Looking forward, I am not quite certain I would like to be with another again.
The Ram I am / was entertaining is a Spaniard, so we shall see. If it pans out that is, he was the one to open up from the get go. Sharing everything about himself, I know of his career, family, past, history, loves, heartbreaks, childhood, future, ambitions etc. Frankly, it overwhelmed me since I have never had this happen to me before. For a man to be this way, so I chose to tip, and now ... sigh.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioMaybe.... 🤣🤣🤣🤣Posted by KityyyyyyyPerhaps, it is time for you to go back again. Find yourself an Italian gent, they love women (unfortunately, that means you and all women that walks pass as well). 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioI was in one in the year 1990 in Venice..... Soooooooo dreamy....... Shawoon...... 😏Posted by KityyyyyyyNo chance in Italy, an Italian gent would be bound to jump in to save you.Posted by TheLadyScorpioDo they do gondolas per chance🤔🤣Posted by KityyyyyyySo you want to go for a dive into La Seine as well ? 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by KityyyyyyyI am about to toss my heart into the La Seine and be done with it.Posted by TheLadyScorpioIf I had a dollar for each bruise, I'd be a gazillionaire......Posted by KityyyyyyyUntil the heart becomes wary and bruised purple, through experience.
CHOOSE 💜
Everytime..... x
I refuse to let rejection and loss define me.... Purely out of spite.....
Just let a little light in, amidst the cracks, if you can.... 🤗
If it resurfaces, and a gentleman will care to save it. Then so be it. 😆
Nawwwwwww c'mon, dont be like that.... Have a look at what I've just gone through ladeeeeeee . ...
If I'm in, you're in hokaaaay?.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Your chances of a dive or a swim, would be gone. 😆click to expand
Even seeing people post pics of their socializing on fb every other day gives social anxiety. Like how can you constantly try to dress up/look good mingle with room full people like there is nothing else to do in life. Well for an introvert there is nothing else to do in life also haha so that is something different, but constantly trying to keep up appearances sounds exhausting.
Posted by nanoMaybe that is the mentality I should walk about with. Give it a go, put myself out there, and have no regrets. Yet, internally, expecting that they will say no, that they will not be ready, and that it will fail.Posted by GemitatiI actually assume it's going to fail, and my main goal is to just have fun with it. Why do I assume it will fail? ....Well if you think about it, what are the chances every date is going to end in a serious relationship? Slim to none lol.Posted by nanoI think it’s our Gemini airheadeness!
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
What to wear in a date? Who cares!
Does anyone guaranteed he is going to be Prince in tax?
And suresie...as long as you go to a nice place and he pays for the food and you are home safe - why go crazy?
Of course locking yourself up in a room and do nothing is fun but...only after you married! Lmao
My "modern day" dates, however numerous, resulted in nothing substantial and I ended up connecting with men in the weirdest ways imaginable. Life is weird. A game we play, and then we die. No reason to get so bent out of shape about anything, though it's easier said than done.click to expand
Then, it could only go up from there. It could not get worse, when you have the lowest of expectations of them.
Expect the very worst outcome. 😆
Posted by SpaceBirdI should hope that is the case, I am holding out for that miraculous moment to happen. 😆
You shouldn't be anxious with the right person. I think so for me anyway ..something is not right if i am.
Posted by nanoThe Ram Gent ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioWhat happened now?Posted by nanoAt this rate, partner in crime to face life with. Depending on how stable our finances and careers are, I would be flexible in regards to settling down and starting a family. It would really depend on the potential person, and how I see our lives mesh.Posted by TheLadyScorpioAre you looking to settle down and potentially start a family? Or just looking for a partner in crime to face life with?Posted by nanoYou are right, yet on the other hand I understand their 'excuses' because I too have given them to men before, and actually meant it. Perhaps, that is why it makes it even harder for me. Your perspective, will allow me to rethink things.Posted by TheLadyScorpioOkay, I see what you are saying. A part of me wants to say that good men or not, there is no good time to ever be prepared for a relationship, and the career and financial situations, etc, sounds like an excuse. A part of me knows that a man will trudge through hell and high water, regardless of his situation to be with a woman he wants to be with. I've also been on the receiving end of the excuses with 1 man, "Oh I'm focusing on my career and I will be moving abroad soon." They word it in a way that you have to accept it or else look like a psycho. It sounded good and admirable on paper... until he pursued a LDR with a different woman in Israel...he was moving to Russia 😆 Nahhh from that point on, I realized all the career and money and distance shit is all an excuse.Posted by nanoYes, I ran from a marriage proposal before. It was from someone before the Virgent, a Water Bearer gent. It was a very romantic proposal, at a castle. His father was there, my good friend at the time was there as well. I felt dreadful for having had to say no, and ran, but I knew it was not time, nor was he the man I would want to spend eternity with.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou ran from a marriage proposal? Was that with the virgo guy you were with for a long time?Posted by nanoMarriage is not on my mind, in fact that is the last thing that I would contemplate. A marriage proposal, would create another whole different level of anxiety that I would not want to even contemplate. Said no once already, and ran. Next time, I might end up simply just running away altogether. 😆
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
The mere unknown, of yes or now. That abyss, I rather someone be upfront. Yes, or no. Be done with it, so I could move on to the next candidate.
However, dating rarely ever works that way. 😐
Have you tried different methods of delivery? I hear all the time women on dxp and irl complain of men playing games or not being upfront, but I have never experienced that. I weed out toolbags before ever meeting in person so I don't have to deal with that type of shit. I also don't go for the chiseled model types who would likely behave that way. So maybe that's why I avoid these types all together.
What kind of men/women are you interested in? Do you find that women play up ambiguity in dating more than men?
Ah, the blatantly awful bastards (yes, including beautiful model-esque ones) are easy to weed out of course. I would spot them from a mile away, and do not entertain them. The ones that get under my skin, are good men, that are interested, but either have baggage still yet to work through, or they have something in their life that prevents them from wanting to commit, at the moment. Be it their careers, financial situation, locale, etc. Not because they were not open, or vulnerable, often times they were with me. However, the one thing they are not honest about, was their decision process. They want it, but am uncertain.
Do I cut out all the good men, that are still deciding ?
Sometimes, by the time they come back. I have already moved on.
Hmm, I do not have a type. Anyone who is not stoic, and could express themselves easily. Who is not afraid to be open and vulnerable from the get go, blunt and honest. Good conversationalist, and enjoys a sarcastic sense of humour.
Yes, I do find potential female dates even more ambiguous than men. In fact, they are often even more frustrating to figure out. Unless, they tell me what they want. I have to take it as a no, from the get go.
You deserve to be with a person who doesn't use excuses. Maybe some of them are genuinely good men and maybe their situations are also genuine and temporary. But you won't ever know that to be the case unless you waited for them. And that's a risk....I know that as you age, life becomes more complicated. There's kids and wives and ex wives, shared homes and whatnot. Thankfully I haven't had to deal with these types of situations.
I am already at that age, where some have already divorced, failed marriages / engagements, left over baggage from other women, have children, etc. The men going forward that I meet, will not have any less of such 'complicated' life issues. The older I get, the more fruitless it seems. 😐
Excuse me, for sounding as if I have given up hope but it may simply be frustration getting to me. It will pass. 😆
Are you in England? I feel like European men are superior to American men in many ways.
Granted, I believe there are a great many incredible American men (as we are generalising here). From my past experiences, they were consistently a culture shock to me. Looking forward, I am not quite certain I would like to be with another again.
The Ram I am / was entertaining is a Spaniard, so we shall see. If it pans out that is, he was the one to open up from the get go. Sharing everything about himself, I know of his career, family, past, history, loves, heartbreaks, childhood, future, ambitions etc. Frankly, it overwhelmed me since I have never had this happen to me before. For a man to be this way, so I chose to tip, and now ... sigh.click to expand
Once I tipped, as in became less aloof, opened up, became as vulnerable as he is. At the beginning, he was very eager in initiating, messaging etc. Now, he is no longer as immediately responsive as before.
However, he seemed to either have cooled off or seemingly a bit distant now. Before, nothing got in his way, not even work. He would chase. At the moment, still responsive, but the enthusiasm level seems a bit lowered. As if he took a step back.
Did he do so to reevaluate or did he lose interest ?
Bloody hell, I could hardly tell.
Posted by nanoYou right! And dressing ‘right’ has nothing to do with outcome of the date! I have date wearing scrubs!Posted by GemitatiI actually assume it's going to fail, and my main goal is to just have fun with it. Why do I assume it will fail? ....Well if you think about it, what are the chances every date is going to end in a serious relationship? Slim to none lol.Posted by nanoI think it’s our Gemini airheadeness!
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
What to wear in a date? Who cares!
Does anyone guaranteed he is going to be Prince in tax?
And suresie...as long as you go to a nice place and he pays for the food and you are home safe - why go crazy?
Of course locking yourself up in a room and do nothing is fun but...only after you married! Lmao
My "modern day" dates, however numerous, resulted in nothing substantial and I ended up connecting with men in the weirdest ways imaginable. Life is weird. A game we play, and then we die. No reason to get so bent out of shape about anything, though it's easier said than done.click to expand
Once it failed. I was rejected by 5’4” man! In cowboy boots! Lmao
@nano
@Seleukos
I am sorry to hear that you both got winded and have to lie down in bed.
Get well soon, to the both of you.
@Seleukos
I am sorry to hear that you both got winded and have to lie down in bed.
Get well soon, to the both of you.
Posted by GemitatiI needed that image, hah. 😆Posted by nanoYou right! And dressing ‘right’ has nothing to do with outcome of the date! I have date wearing scrubs!Posted by GemitatiI actually assume it's going to fail, and my main goal is to just have fun with it. Why do I assume it will fail? ....Well if you think about it, what are the chances every date is going to end in a serious relationship? Slim to none lol.Posted by nanoI think it’s our Gemini airheadeness!
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
What to wear in a date? Who cares!
Does anyone guaranteed he is going to be Prince in tax?
And suresie...as long as you go to a nice place and he pays for the food and you are home safe - why go crazy?
Of course locking yourself up in a room and do nothing is fun but...only after you married! Lmao
My "modern day" dates, however numerous, resulted in nothing substantial and I ended up connecting with men in the weirdest ways imaginable. Life is weird. A game we play, and then we die. No reason to get so bent out of shape about anything, though it's easier said than done.
Once it failed. I was rejected by 5’4” man! In cowboy boots! Lmao
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Absolutely not.
But to be honest I'm lonely as hell
But to be honest I'm lonely as hell
Posted by SeleukosWell, get back on tower watch then. Since I am feeling particularly generous and nice at the moment. I will even move your bed up there as well.Posted by TheLadyScorpioNo, but I haven't been watching.Posted by SeleukosHah, and since we last spoke of it. Have you managed to hit a target yet ?
Nah, I'll stick to my stone throwing method.
Pass me your bucket of stones. I need some too, might as well give it a go.
Now that I think of it, will you be my target practice ? 😆
The good thing about this is that I can give you back the bucket of rocks you gifted me once.
I be your practicing target for now though as I'm sickly lying in my bed.click to expand
I could hardly throw rocks at an unmoving, unmovable object such as a sickly you, why that would be dreadful of me (also that would make the worse of target practices).
How about this. We will share the bucket of rocks, if I miss, you help me take the next aim. Team work, shall we ?
Higher chances of survival, and success rates. 😆
Posted by nanoI am too old to play those denial games, perhaps when I was younger. It takes too much effort, time, and energy.Posted by TheLadyScorpioI wish I knew more about aries men... I know they are all about the chase and the resistence...I have a few experiences of my own. They chase for yeeeears. The more you tell them fuck off, the harder their dicks get. Weird creatures!Posted by nanoThe Ram Gent ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioWhat happened now?Posted by nanoAt this rate, partner in crime to face life with. Depending on how stable our finances and careers are, I would be flexible in regards to settling down and starting a family. It would really depend on the potential person, and how I see our lives mesh.Posted by TheLadyScorpioAre you looking to settle down and potentially start a family? Or just looking for a partner in crime to face life with?Posted by nanoYou are right, yet on the other hand I understand their 'excuses' because I too have given them to men before, and actually meant it. Perhaps, that is why it makes it even harder for me. Your perspective, will allow me to rethink things.Posted by TheLadyScorpioOkay, I see what you are saying. A part of me wants to say that good men or not, there is no good time to ever be prepared for a relationship, and the career and financial situations, etc, sounds like an excuse. A part of me knows that a man will trudge through hell and high water, regardless of his situation to be with a woman he wants to be with. I've also been on the receiving end of the excuses with 1 man, "Oh I'm focusing on my career and I will be moving abroad soon." They word it in a way that you have to accept it or else look like a psycho. It sounded good and admirable on paper... until he pursued a LDR with a different woman in Israel...he was moving to Russia 😆 Nahhh from that point on, I realized all the career and money and distance shit is all an excuse.Posted by nanoYes, I ran from a marriage proposal before. It was from someone before the Virgent, a Water Bearer gent. It was a very romantic proposal, at a castle. His father was there, my good friend at the time was there as well. I felt dreadful for having had to say no, and ran, but I knew it was not time, nor was he the man I would want to spend eternity with.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou ran from a marriage proposal? Was that with the virgo guy you were with for a long time?Posted by nanoMarriage is not on my mind, in fact that is the last thing that I would contemplate. A marriage proposal, would create another whole different level of anxiety that I would not want to even contemplate. Said no once already, and ran. Next time, I might end up simply just running away altogether. 😆
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
The mere unknown, of yes or now. That abyss, I rather someone be upfront. Yes, or no. Be done with it, so I could move on to the next candidate.
However, dating rarely ever works that way. 😐
Have you tried different methods of delivery? I hear all the time women on dxp and irl complain of men playing games or not being upfront, but I have never experienced that. I weed out toolbags before ever meeting in person so I don't have to deal with that type of shit. I also don't go for the chiseled model types who would likely behave that way. So maybe that's why I avoid these types all together.
What kind of men/women are you interested in? Do you find that women play up ambiguity in dating more than men?
Ah, the blatantly awful bastards (yes, including beautiful model-esque ones) are easy to weed out of course. I would spot them from a mile away, and do not entertain them. The ones that get under my skin, are good men, that are interested, but either have baggage still yet to work through, or they have something in their life that prevents them from wanting to commit, at the moment. Be it their careers, financial situation, locale, etc. Not because they were not open, or vulnerable, often times they were with me. However, the one thing they are not honest about, was their decision process. They want it, but am uncertain.
Do I cut out all the good men, that are still deciding ?
Sometimes, by the time they come back. I have already moved on.
Hmm, I do not have a type. Anyone who is not stoic, and could express themselves easily. Who is not afraid to be open and vulnerable from the get go, blunt and honest. Good conversationalist, and enjoys a sarcastic sense of humour.
Yes, I do find potential female dates even more ambiguous than men. In fact, they are often even more frustrating to figure out. Unless, they tell me what they want. I have to take it as a no, from the get go.
You deserve to be with a person who doesn't use excuses. Maybe some of them are genuinely good men and maybe their situations are also genuine and temporary. But you won't ever know that to be the case unless you waited for them. And that's a risk....I know that as you age, life becomes more complicated. There's kids and wives and ex wives, shared homes and whatnot. Thankfully I haven't had to deal with these types of situations.
I am already at that age, where some have already divorced, failed marriages / engagements, left over baggage from other women, have children, etc. The men going forward that I meet, will not have any less of such 'complicated' life issues. The older I get, the more fruitless it seems. 😐
Excuse me, for sounding as if I have given up hope but it may simply be frustration getting to me. It will pass. 😆
Are you in England? I feel like European men are superior to American men in many ways.
Granted, I believe there are a great many incredible American men (as we are generalising here). From my past experiences, they were consistently a culture shock to me. Looking forward, I am not quite certain I would like to be with another again.
The Ram I am / was entertaining is a Spaniard, so we shall see. If it pans out that is, he was the one to open up from the get go. Sharing everything about himself, I know of his career, family, past, history, loves, heartbreaks, childhood, future, ambitions etc. Frankly, it overwhelmed me since I have never had this happen to me before. For a man to be this way, so I chose to tip, and now ... sigh.
Once I tipped, as in became less aloof, opened up, became as vulnerable as he is. At the beginning, he was very eager in initiating, messaging etc. Now, he is no longer as immediately responsive as before.
However, he seemed to either have cooled off or seemingly a bit distant now. Before, nothing got in his way, not even work. He would chase. At the moment, still responsive, but the enthusiasm level seems a bit lowered. As if he took a step back.
Did he do so to reevaluate or did he lose interest ?
Bloody hell, I could hardly tell.
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Now, I prefer cutting to the chase. After all, if they only chase when you deny, eventually you must accept. Then they will be gone, is the result not the same ?
Posted by nanoHis birthday is coming up soon. He kept mentioning it to me prior.Posted by TheLadyScorpioWell in my 2 situations with them, fuck off I do not like you, means fuck off I do not like you. It didn't mean to please be calling me a few times a year 4 years and beyond after we last spoke.Posted by nanoI am too old to play those denial games, perhaps when I was younger. It takes too much effort, time, and energy.Posted by TheLadyScorpioI wish I knew more about aries men... I know they are all about the chase and the resistence...I have a few experiences of my own. They chase for yeeeears. The more you tell them fuck off, the harder their dicks get. Weird creatures!Posted by nanoThe Ram Gent ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioWhat happened now?Posted by nanoAt this rate, partner in crime to face life with. Depending on how stable our finances and careers are, I would be flexible in regards to settling down and starting a family. It would really depend on the potential person, and how I see our lives mesh.Posted by TheLadyScorpioAre you looking to settle down and potentially start a family? Or just looking for a partner in crime to face life with?Posted by nanoYou are right, yet on the other hand I understand their 'excuses' because I too have given them to men before, and actually meant it. Perhaps, that is why it makes it even harder for me. Your perspective, will allow me to rethink things.Posted by TheLadyScorpioOkay, I see what you are saying. A part of me wants to say that good men or not, there is no good time to ever be prepared for a relationship, and the career and financial situations, etc, sounds like an excuse. A part of me knows that a man will trudge through hell and high water, regardless of his situation to be with a woman he wants to be with. I've also been on the receiving end of the excuses with 1 man, "Oh I'm focusing on my career and I will be moving abroad soon." They word it in a way that you have to accept it or else look like a psycho. It sounded good and admirable on paper... until he pursued a LDR with a different woman in Israel...he was moving to Russia 😆 Nahhh from that point on, I realized all the career and money and distance shit is all an excuse.Posted by nanoYes, I ran from a marriage proposal before. It was from someone before the Virgent, a Water Bearer gent. It was a very romantic proposal, at a castle. His father was there, my good friend at the time was there as well. I felt dreadful for having had to say no, and ran, but I knew it was not time, nor was he the man I would want to spend eternity with.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou ran from a marriage proposal? Was that with the virgo guy you were with for a long time?Posted by nanoMarriage is not on my mind, in fact that is the last thing that I would contemplate. A marriage proposal, would create another whole different level of anxiety that I would not want to even contemplate. Said no once already, and ran. Next time, I might end up simply just running away altogether. 😆
You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
The mere unknown, of yes or now. That abyss, I rather someone be upfront. Yes, or no. Be done with it, so I could move on to the next candidate.
However, dating rarely ever works that way. 😐
Have you tried different methods of delivery? I hear all the time women on dxp and irl complain of men playing games or not being upfront, but I have never experienced that. I weed out toolbags before ever meeting in person so I don't have to deal with that type of shit. I also don't go for the chiseled model types who would likely behave that way. So maybe that's why I avoid these types all together.
What kind of men/women are you interested in? Do you find that women play up ambiguity in dating more than men?
Ah, the blatantly awful bastards (yes, including beautiful model-esque ones) are easy to weed out of course. I would spot them from a mile away, and do not entertain them. The ones that get under my skin, are good men, that are interested, but either have baggage still yet to work through, or they have something in their life that prevents them from wanting to commit, at the moment. Be it their careers, financial situation, locale, etc. Not because they were not open, or vulnerable, often times they were with me. However, the one thing they are not honest about, was their decision process. They want it, but am uncertain.
Do I cut out all the good men, that are still deciding ?
Sometimes, by the time they come back. I have already moved on.
Hmm, I do not have a type. Anyone who is not stoic, and could express themselves easily. Who is not afraid to be open and vulnerable from the get go, blunt and honest. Good conversationalist, and enjoys a sarcastic sense of humour.
Yes, I do find potential female dates even more ambiguous than men. In fact, they are often even more frustrating to figure out. Unless, they tell me what they want. I have to take it as a no, from the get go.
You deserve to be with a person who doesn't use excuses. Maybe some of them are genuinely good men and maybe their situations are also genuine and temporary. But you won't ever know that to be the case unless you waited for them. And that's a risk....I know that as you age, life becomes more complicated. There's kids and wives and ex wives, shared homes and whatnot. Thankfully I haven't had to deal with these types of situations.
I am already at that age, where some have already divorced, failed marriages / engagements, left over baggage from other women, have children, etc. The men going forward that I meet, will not have any less of such 'complicated' life issues. The older I get, the more fruitless it seems. 😐
Excuse me, for sounding as if I have given up hope but it may simply be frustration getting to me. It will pass. 😆
Are you in England? I feel like European men are superior to American men in many ways.
Granted, I believe there are a great many incredible American men (as we are generalising here). From my past experiences, they were consistently a culture shock to me. Looking forward, I am not quite certain I would like to be with another again.
The Ram I am / was entertaining is a Spaniard, so we shall see. If it pans out that is, he was the one to open up from the get go. Sharing everything about himself, I know of his career, family, past, history, loves, heartbreaks, childhood, future, ambitions etc. Frankly, it overwhelmed me since I have never had this happen to me before. For a man to be this way, so I chose to tip, and now ... sigh.
Once I tipped, as in became less aloof, opened up, became as vulnerable as he is. At the beginning, he was very eager in initiating, messaging etc. Now, he is no longer as immediately responsive as before.
However, he seemed to either have cooled off or seemingly a bit distant now. Before, nothing got in his way, not even work. He would chase. At the moment, still responsive, but the enthusiasm level seems a bit lowered. As if he took a step back.
Did he do so to reevaluate or did he lose interest ?
Bloody hell, I could hardly tell.
Now, I prefer cutting to the chase. After all, if they only chase when you deny, eventually you must accept. Then they will be gone, is the result not the same ?
I don't know how it would have played out if I wanted to be with them! I can be rough around the edges at time, I think I could potentially fair nicely with one. Not for the weak of heart, imo.click to expand
However, I will give him time until after it. If nothing moves forward, he is off my list.
Games of any sort, is a waste of time. You would think Rams to desire, blunt and forwardness in a woman. Apparently not.
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You aren't the first scorpio with this mindset either. You're probably not gonna actually marry every person you go on a date with and that is okay. Ya'll need to chill lmao
Marriage is not on my mind, in fact that is the last thing that I would contemplate. A marriage proposal, would create another whole different level of anxiety that I would not want to even contemplate. Said no once already, and ran. Next time, I might end up simply just running away altogether.
The mere unknown, of yes or now. That abyss, I rather someone be upfront. Yes, or no. Be done with it, so I could move on to the next candidate.
However, dating rarely ever works that way. click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand
Dating doesn't cause anxiety for me, but it does create expectations... And it is work from my perspective. I don't understand people that have an easy, breezy approach to dating in the beginning stages. So I get you and wish I had a bit more airiness in my chart to impart a more light-hearted approach.
I'm not a stinger woman, but feel the stinger mars lends a seriousness about dating and mating to me as well. Have you tried an earth man with a scorpio mars or moon TLS?
After a failed marriage (Aries), failed living together situation (Leo), and numerous different scenarios I think the man I'm dating currently might be a true keeper. Unless he messes things up of course! So don't give up hope, and let it find you when it's supposed to...
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