Emotional abuse intervention (Page 2)

Sorry @Whorpio for helping to derail this thread....will shut up now lol 😐

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I did that once. I saw a man hit his wife in a parking lot. I yanked him out of his truck and put a good whooping on him.

The woman who got hit started hitting me and defending that asshole.

I’ve learned to not intervene in others business

That's what usually happens more often than not. They'll use you as the scapegoat to reconcile until the cycle is perhaps broken in the future. You did the right thing even though you got no credit for it.

I don’t care about credit. However, there are already the haters pouring in with what I SHOULD have done.

I'm not a "hater" for disagreeing with you. Don't be a snowflake.

Why would you even comment on how a man dealt with another man?

You had a knee jerk reaction to a woman getting hurt....you acted from a place of kindness and whatever the result was, you wanted to help her. To my mind you were being a man....

That’s the one thing in life that I just can’t avoid. There’s no tolerance towards hitting women or children

And i admire that very much! 🙂

I admire how afterwards he was mad he didn't get praised and said from now on he'll just let it happen. Impressive!

I admire how he jumped in to help the woman, as he would a child......i cannot really fault that, despite what happened afterwards...

I'm surprised you advocate violence. I have a violent streak, but I know it's wrong when I act on it.

I have never lifted a finger nor am an advocate of violence, but if someone was in danger of being hurt or killed, there may be a place for it, as in if i saw someone coming at my son and i had the chance to be "violent" to save him.....in a heartbeat i would

Now that is hardly an advocate of violence for violence sake

Okay. But there is a specific example we're talking about, and you praised it. He saw a man hit a woman (not try to kill her, not continue hitting her, just hit her) and so he went and dragged that man out of his vehicle and beat him up. For all he knows that man went home and took out his humiliation and rage on the woman and her kids and who knows who else.

That is just conjecture....i don't know what happened afterwards. I do hate violence and have no violent streak in me only i am brave to speak out (not fists or knives). If i did, i would seek therapy for it.....

So i think ssupes was coming from a good place and like i said it was a knee jerk reaction....he could have just driven by, turned the head away and pretended not to see *it's not my problem* kind of mentality. Where i live everyone helps each other but i think for reasons, life isn't geared up this way any longer...

I still think he was doing something out of care for the woman? I get his fire.....which i know, as you say can have repercussions, but i do understand it, whether right or wrong....

Right but washing your hands of what happens to the woman is another side of the "it's not my problem" mentality.

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But not something he may have control of?

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I did that once. I saw a man hit his wife in a parking lot. I yanked him out of his truck and put a good whooping on him.

The woman who got hit started hitting me and defending that asshole.

I’ve learned to not intervene in others business

That's what usually happens more often than not. They'll use you as the scapegoat to reconcile until the cycle is perhaps broken in the future. You did the right thing even though you got no credit for it.

I don’t care about credit. However, there are already the haters pouring in with what I SHOULD have done.

I'm not a "hater" for disagreeing with you. Don't be a snowflake.

Why would you even comment on how a man dealt with another man?

You had a knee jerk reaction to a woman getting hurt....you acted from a place of kindness and whatever the result was, you wanted to help her. To my mind you were being a man....

That’s the one thing in life that I just can’t avoid. There’s no tolerance towards hitting women or children

And i admire that very much! 🙂

I admire how afterwards he was mad he didn't get praised and said from now on he'll just let it happen. Impressive!

I admire how he jumped in to help the woman, as he would a child......i cannot really fault that, despite what happened afterwards...

I'm surprised you advocate violence. I have a violent streak, but I know it's wrong when I act on it.

I have never lifted a finger nor am an advocate of violence, but if someone was in danger of being hurt or killed, there may be a place for it, as in if i saw someone coming at my son and i had the chance to be "violent" to save him.....in a heartbeat i would

Now that is hardly an advocate of violence for violence sake

Okay. But there is a specific example we're talking about, and you praised it. He saw a man hit a woman (not try to kill her, not continue hitting her, just hit her) and so he went and dragged that man out of his vehicle and beat him up. For all he knows that man went home and took out his humiliation and rage on the woman and her kids and who knows who else.

That is just conjecture....i don't know what happened afterwards. I do hate violence and have no violent streak in me only i am brave to speak out (not fists or knives). If i did, i would seek therapy for it.....

So i think ssupes was coming from a good place and like i said it was a knee jerk reaction....he could have just driven by, turned the head away and pretended not to see *it's not my problem* kind of mentality. Where i live everyone helps each other but i think for reasons, life isn't geared up this way any longer...

I still think he was doing something out of care for the woman? I get his fire.....which i know, as you say can have repercussions, but i do understand it, whether right or wrong....

Right but washing your hands of what happens to the woman is another side of the "it's not my problem" mentality.

But not something he may have control of?

I don't know what to say.

It's as if you're worried about people taking the "it's not my problem" approach and you're justifying it at the same time.

This is why people warn rent-a-heroes not to get involved unless they have follow through.

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How could he follow through if the moron dragged the woman back into the car and drove off...other than a car reported to the police (if he was lucky enough to see the reg), what else could he do?

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I did that once. I saw a man hit his wife in a parking lot. I yanked him out of his truck and put a good whooping on him.

The woman who got hit started hitting me and defending that asshole.

I’ve learned to not intervene in others business

That's what usually happens more often than not. They'll use you as the scapegoat to reconcile until the cycle is perhaps broken in the future. You did the right thing even though you got no credit for it.

I don’t care about credit. However, there are already the haters pouring in with what I SHOULD have done.

I'm not a "hater" for disagreeing with you. Don't be a snowflake.

Why would you even comment on how a man dealt with another man?

You had a knee jerk reaction to a woman getting hurt....you acted from a place of kindness and whatever the result was, you wanted to help her. To my mind you were being a man....

That’s the one thing in life that I just can’t avoid. There’s no tolerance towards hitting women or children

And i admire that very much! 🙂

I admire how afterwards he was mad he didn't get praised and said from now on he'll just let it happen. Impressive!

I admire how he jumped in to help the woman, as he would a child......i cannot really fault that, despite what happened afterwards...

I'm surprised you advocate violence. I have a violent streak, but I know it's wrong when I act on it.

I have never lifted a finger nor am an advocate of violence, but if someone was in danger of being hurt or killed, there may be a place for it, as in if i saw someone coming at my son and i had the chance to be "violent" to save him.....in a heartbeat i would

Now that is hardly an advocate of violence for violence sake

Okay. But there is a specific example we're talking about, and you praised it. He saw a man hit a woman (not try to kill her, not continue hitting her, just hit her) and so he went and dragged that man out of his vehicle and beat him up. For all he knows that man went home and took out his humiliation and rage on the woman and her kids and who knows who else.

That is just conjecture....i don't know what happened afterwards. I do hate violence and have no violent streak in me only i am brave to speak out (not fists or knives). If i did, i would seek therapy for it.....

So i think ssupes was coming from a good place and like i said it was a knee jerk reaction....he could have just driven by, turned the head away and pretended not to see *it's not my problem* kind of mentality. Where i live everyone helps each other but i think for reasons, life isn't geared up this way any longer...

I still think he was doing something out of care for the woman? I get his fire.....which i know, as you say can have repercussions, but i do understand it, whether right or wrong....

Right but washing your hands of what happens to the woman is another side of the "it's not my problem" mentality.

But not something he may have control of?

I don't know what to say.

It's as if you're worried about people taking the "it's not my problem" approach and you're justifying it at the same time.

This is why people warn rent-a-heroes not to get involved unless they have follow through.

How could he follow through if the moron dragged the woman back into the car and drove off...other than a car reported to the police (if he was lucky enough to see the reg), what else could he do?

There's nothing he can do now except hope he didn't make it worse.

But next time, put his feelings aside and put the woman's life first for a change.

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That's fair enough

I think we are talking about fire acting quickly here....it can be impulsive, but as I said coming from a good place....saw it many times with my dad...

What would you have done tiz?

@alexscaries what would your Aries sun and Venus have done in this situation?

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I say, if it's your own family, then yes, it's your business to do something.

What it the victim/yo momma doesn’t see it as abuse, and takes accountability for the way your dad is treating her? Like she apologizes to him instead of him apologizing to her?

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Then try your best to help anyway, but if she still doesn't see it, there is nothing much you can do except walk away.

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@alexscaries what would your Aries sun and Venus have done in this situation?

Ouch. Thanks for bringing me into this😾 although I like you value my opinion😺

Depends on my age as a teenager probably ignore it as I had my own stuff to deal with.

As an adult, my father is dead, but speaking hypothetically. I would confront him in private and respectfully. One thing which is important is to hear the other perspective, it could be down to stress or other causes and while never an excuse it is important for me to understand. With stuff like that I play it slow before I act, 🦂🌛

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Your Aries sun wouldn't go off on one then, even though it throws cups?

😀

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I say, if it's your own family, then yes, it's your business to do something.

What it the victim/yo momma doesn’t see it as abuse, and takes accountability for the way your dad is treating her? Like she apologizes to him instead of him apologizing to her?

Then try your best to help anyway, but if she still doesn't see it, there is nothing much you can do except walk away.

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That's all she can do in reality....

Some people get stuck in the abuse situation and choose to stay....very hard for their kids to witness though..

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If you saw a man verbally/emotionally abusing his wife, would you interfere?

What if this man was your own father, and the wife was your mother? Is it your business to tell him to cut it out?

I don't think it's any of your business. Just stay the hell away. Don't interfere and make a fool of yourself in the end.

Snowflake "it's not my problem" mentality...

If everyone could just behave like this and mind their own business, this world would be a happy place.

this world is not a happy because good people stand by and let bad people get away with things.

I think you're playing devil's advocate for attention.

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All I can say is that, in this world the "devil" needs an advocate too.

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I broke up a fight in a pub between an old fella and young one....there were kids running around and i stood between them and told them to get outside

They did

I was raised by a brave Aries father who taught me well 🔥👍

Criminal tendencies.

Courage....

dude's trolling

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Lol you are too late

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If you saw a man verbally/emotionally abusing his wife, would you interfere?

What if this man was your own father, and the wife was your mother? Is it your business to tell him to cut it out?

First instinct is HELL YES.

But if he is abusive, stepping in may cause some backlash and have him project it back unto her when your not around. Which kinda defeats your intention to begin with.

Plus is there really anything you could say/do to get him to stop?

The person you should be pulling to the side is his wife. Tell her to know her value. Help her financially, emotionally, whatevs to break away from the abuser.

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If you saw a man verbally/emotionally abusing his wife, would you interfere?

What if this man was your own father, and the wife was your mother? Is it your business to tell him to cut it out?

I don't think it's any of your business. Just stay the hell away. Don't interfere and make a fool of yourself in the end.

Snowflake "it's not my problem" mentality...

If everyone could just behave like this and mind their own business, this world would be a happy place.

this world is not a happy because good people stand by and let bad people get away with things.

I think you're playing devil's advocate for attention.

All I can say is that, in this world the "devil" needs an advocate too.

you're stupid

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And I would accept that if only you were intelligent enough.

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@blvckphvse

My father wrote a book and the copy he gave to me, he'd written on the inside cover

"To my daughter (name), may you always fight the good fight against injustice

All my love

Dad x"

Such a brave, strong man....such a great legacy of courage he left to me....❤️

Love him

X

Wow, that is such a great keepsake to have!! I see your parents raised you the same way mine raised me!! 😄

What is your Dads Sun sign?

Aries and Moon in Sag!! Haha......F I R E....and i have Aries rising 🙂

And yours?

Aires, Moon in Virgo! Somehow I knew your Dad was going to be an Aries too.. just had a feeling 😄

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Well there you go......🔥 in the belly....😀

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If you saw a man verbally/emotionally abusing his wife, would you interfere?

What if this man was your own father, and the wife was your mother? Is it your business to tell him to cut it out?

I'd be way more likely to intervene if it was my own parents. Wouldn't even think twice. I tend to stick my nose in when I see someone being mistreated, no matter who they are, but when it comes to my family, I am much more fierce. I have actually intervened for my parents before and it worked out well. (it was my Mom being too hard on my Dad though)

Strong backbone 👍

I don't like to see my family (or anyone) hurting, but especially the ones I love. I will do anything in my power to right a wrong whether it's my wrong or not. I love my parents and I just want them to be happy, sometimes even parents need a mediator from time to time after spending so many years together, haha. When it comes to family, I don't know many as fierce as myself and I don't give up.

Beautiful, brave, loyal woman.....your parents did a great job (((❤️)))

And I have and will always live by every word you spoke....would die for those I love 😘

I have them to thank for EVERYTHING! They mean the world to me, but you understand that one ❤️

Your post actually moved me to tears 😥. That fierce protective love is what is lacking at times today..

😘

Awww, that makes my heart so happy!! I have come to find that there are many, many people who do not have the sort of families that we do.. not the kind even worth protecting. I feel so very fortunate to have the family that I do, the kind that makes me want to fiercely protect them, the kind that raised me to be the person that I am today. I feel very sorry for those who do not have a loving, supportive family.. I know first hand what kind of difference that makes in ones life and I feel so truly blessed to have the family that I do.

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❤️

i would probably interfere and ask the lady is she's okay, and if she likes give her the women help line phone number even if she refuses help.

because i've seen this in my own family, and i'd hate to not be the one who just lets it happen even if its not my business

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@alexscaries what would your Aries sun and Venus have done in this situation?

Ouch. Thanks for bringing me into this😾 although I like you value my opinion😺

Depends on my age as a teenager probably ignore it as I had my own stuff to deal with.

As an adult, my father is dead, but speaking hypothetically. I would confront him in private and respectfully. One thing which is important is to hear the other perspective, it could be down to stress or other causes and while never an excuse it is important for me to understand. With stuff like that I play it slow before I act, 🦂🌛

Your Aries sun wouldn't go off on one then, even though it throws cups?

😀

I'm actually restrained in some ways. The cups belonged to me! ☕

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Haha

Virgo rising is quite modest and retiring.....

What happens if it's someone else cup? 😳

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i would probably interfere and ask the lady is she's okay, and if she likes give her the women help line phone number even if she refuses help.

because i've seen this in my own family, and i'd hate to not be the one who just lets it happen even if its not my business

You are too small for that. Go to sleep.

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i would probably interfere and ask the lady is she's okay, and if she likes give her the women help line phone number even if she refuses help.

because i've seen this in my own family, and i'd hate to not be the one who just lets it happen even if its not my business

You are too small for that. Go to sleep.

Have you ever been told you are too small? Maybe by an 18 year old. The truth hurts my man.

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I wish someone would. I miss being 18.

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i would probably interfere and ask the lady is she's okay, and if she likes give her the women help line phone number even if she refuses help.

because i've seen this in my own family, and i'd hate to not be the one who just lets it happen even if its not my business

You are too small for that. Go to sleep.

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what do you mean and no it's only 4 o'clock.

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i would probably interfere and ask the lady is she's okay, and if she likes give her the women help line phone number even if she refuses help.

because i've seen this in my own family, and i'd hate to not be the one who just lets it happen even if its not my business

You are too small for that. Go to sleep.

what do you mean and no it's only 4 o'clock.

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Go to sleep or else you might get spanked later.

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i would probably interfere and ask the lady is she's okay, and if she likes give her the women help line phone number even if she refuses help.

because i've seen this in my own family, and i'd hate to not be the one who just lets it happen even if its not my business

You are too small for that. Go to sleep.

what do you mean and no it's only 4 o'clock.

Go to sleep or else you might get spanked later.

Post your face here fag

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Looks like you are impressed by my performance.

Lol, don't worry just be cool about it.

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i would probably interfere and ask the lady is she's okay, and if she likes give her the women help line phone number even if she refuses help.

because i've seen this in my own family, and i'd hate to not be the one who just lets it happen even if its not my business

You are too small for that. Go to sleep.

what do you mean and no it's only 4 o'clock.

Go to sleep or else you might get spanked later.

Post your face here fag

Looks like you are impressed by my performance.

Lol, don't worry just be cool about it.

> 30 years old+

> single

> -5/10

my impressions about you so far

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And you can't be more stupid.

At the least you could have done your homework properly.

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i would probably interfere and ask the lady is she's okay, and if she likes give her the women help line phone number even if she refuses help.

because i've seen this in my own family, and i'd hate to not be the one who just lets it happen even if its not my business

You are too small for that. Go to sleep.

what do you mean and no it's only 4 o'clock.

Go to sleep or else you might get spanked later.

Post your face here fag

Looks like you are impressed by my performance.

Lol, don't worry just be cool about it.

> 30 years old+

> single

> -5/10

my impressions about you so far

And you can't be more stupid.

At the least you could have done your homework properly.

> Butthurt about your ex cheating

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Son, go have a pizza, you aren't ready for the table yet .

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i would probably interfere and ask the lady is she's okay, and if she likes give her the women help line phone number even if she refuses help.

because i've seen this in my own family, and i'd hate to not be the one who just lets it happen even if its not my business

You are too small for that. Go to sleep.

what do you mean and no it's only 4 o'clock.

Go to sleep or else you might get spanked later.

Post your face here fag

Looks like you are impressed by my performance.

Lol, don't worry just be cool about it.

> 30 years old+

> single

> -5/10

my impressions about you so far

And you can't be more stupid.

At the least you could have done your homework properly.

> Butthurt about your ex cheating

Son, go have a pizza, you aren't ready for the table yet .

> socially awkward

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Nop, not impressed at all. You gonna grow as the dumb fuck that you are.

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i would probably interfere and ask the lady is she's okay, and if she likes give her the women help line phone number even if she refuses help.

because i've seen this in my own family, and i'd hate to not be the one who just lets it happen even if its not my business

You are too small for that. Go to sleep.

what do you mean and no it's only 4 o'clock.

Go to sleep or else you might get spanked later.

Post your face here fag

Looks like you are impressed by my performance.

Lol, don't worry just be cool about it.

> 30 years old+

> single

> -5/10

my impressions about you so far

And you can't be more stupid.

At the least you could have done your homework properly.

> Butthurt about your ex cheating

Son, go have a pizza, you aren't ready for the table yet .

> socially awkward

Nop, not impressed at all. You gonna grow as the dumb fuck that you are.

> Few to no friends

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Yes

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I did that once. I saw a man hit his wife in a parking lot. I yanked him out of his truck and put a good whooping on him.

The woman who got hit started hitting me and defending that asshole.

I’ve learned to not intervene in others business

That's what usually happens more often than not. They'll use you as the scapegoat to reconcile until the cycle is perhaps broken in the future. You did the right thing even though you got no credit for it.

I don’t care about credit. However, there are already the haters pouring in with what I SHOULD have done.

I'm not a "hater" for disagreeing with you. Don't be a snowflake.

Why would you even comment on how a man dealt with another man?

You had a knee jerk reaction to a woman getting hurt....you acted from a place of kindness and whatever the result was, you wanted to help her. To my mind you were being a man....

That’s the one thing in life that I just can’t avoid. There’s no tolerance towards hitting women or children

And i admire that very much! 🙂

I admire how afterwards he was mad he didn't get praised and said from now on he'll just let it happen. Impressive!

I admire how he jumped in to help the woman, as he would a child......i cannot really fault that, despite what happened afterwards...

I'm surprised you advocate violence. I have a violent streak, but I know it's wrong when I act on it.

I have never lifted a finger nor am an advocate of violence, but if someone was in danger of being hurt or killed, there may be a place for it, as in if i saw someone coming at my son and i had the chance to be "violent" to save him.....in a heartbeat i would

Now that is hardly an advocate of violence for violence sake

Okay. But there is a specific example we're talking about, and you praised it. He saw a man hit a woman (not try to kill her, not continue hitting her, just hit her) and so he went and dragged that man out of his vehicle and beat him up. For all he knows that man went home and took out his humiliation and rage on the woman and her kids and who knows who else.

That is just conjecture....i don't know what happened afterwards. I do hate violence and have no violent streak in me only i am brave to speak out (not fists or knives). If i did, i would seek therapy for it.....

So i think ssupes was coming from a good place and like i said it was a knee jerk reaction....he could have just driven by, turned the head away and pretended not to see *it's not my problem* kind of mentality. Where i live everyone helps each other but i think for reasons, life isn't geared up this way any longer...

I still think he was doing something out of care for the woman? I get his fire.....which i know, as you say can have repercussions, but i do understand it, whether right or wrong....

Right but washing your hands of what happens to the woman is another side of the "it's not my problem" mentality.

But not something he may have control of?

I don't know what to say.

It's as if you're worried about people taking the "it's not my problem" approach and you're justifying it at the same time.

This is why people warn rent-a-heroes not to get involved unless they have follow through.

How could he follow through if the moron dragged the woman back into the car and drove off...other than a car reported to the police (if he was lucky enough to see the reg), what else could he do?

There's nothing he can do now except hope he didn't make it worse.

But next time, put his feelings aside and put the woman's life first for a change.

I did put her life first. I took her place in his anger. Took the focus off of her and gave him a new focus. At the same time, a dose of his own medicine.

Anyone who won’t stand up for someone weaker is a piece of shit in my book.

You don't know what she's doing with her life today.

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Posted by Phantom_Limbo

@Whorpio you probably don't want to hear what I have to say, but since I haven't seen anyone address this, I'll go ahead and take my chances. My husband used to be verbally abusive to me. He didn't know he was, and I didn't recognize it as such either. There were a few brave people who pointed it out to me over the years, including a flight attendant on a flight one time when he got drunk and made me cry. Eventually, I saw it too, and part of that was remembering all the times people said something and told me it wasn't right. Once I decided it _was_ abuse of a kind, I decided I would never put up with it again, and that is when things started to change.

My point is you can't change things or rush it, but you can plant seeds that might grow for her later when she needs them.

Lol I worded my original post the way I did because I didn’t want you to come in and automatically take the side that’s against me.

I’ve been thinking about planting seeds too, but not sure how to do it discreetly. Like all I can think of is sending her an article about emotional abuse. Is that too straight forward?

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Ouch. Thanks for bringing me into this😾 although I like you value my opinion😺

Depends on my age as a teenager probably ignore it as I had my own stuff to deal with.

As an adult, my father is dead, but speaking hypothetically. I would confront him in private and respectfully. One thing which is important is to hear the other perspective, it could be down to stress or other causes and while never an excuse it is important for me to understand. With stuff like that I play it slow before I act, 🦂🌛

Yeah my sister told me to do it respectfully and privately too, and to approach it with curiosity instead of a “personal stake”.

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@alexscaries what would your Aries sun and Venus have done in this situation?

Ouch. Thanks for bringing me into this😾 although I like you value my opinion😺

Depends on my age as a teenager probably ignore it as I had my own stuff to deal with.

As an adult, my father is dead, but speaking hypothetically. I would confront him in private and respectfully. One thing which is important is to hear the other perspective, it could be down to stress or other causes and while never an excuse it is important for me to understand. With stuff like that I play it slow before I act, 🦂🌛

Your Aries sun wouldn't go off on one then, even though it throws cups?

😀

I'm actually restrained in some ways. The cups belonged to me! ☕

Haha

Virgo rising is quite modest and retiring.....

What happens if it's someone else cup? 😳

I actually bought new mugs out of my own money nice ones as well. My favourite was throwing all the plates and cutlery in the bin because nobody did the washing up. What a brat. 👼😈

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LOL

Try paper plates and plastic knives and forks..

Posted by gemNi

This story kinda reminds me of an incident with my six year old and her classmates from school were all gathered in the cubby area and one kid was asking mommy why her friends don't have dad's, the mom trying to explain why some kids don't have father's, didn't fully grasp it, in the child's own way of understanding made a comment to the mom that she didn't need a dad either and how she wanted to be like her friends. On a six year old this type of irrational behavior is understandable on a grown adult, nope.

I read all eleven pages and thought. I didn't read anything on the emotional abusive side not even in the comment "your trying to turn my kids against me" in context a lot of it sounds like jealously, hurt feelings from people too invested by their feelings that it's distorting their perception.

Just listening to Whorpio distorted views of mommy dearest

.. mommy an angel

.. mommy the greatest

.. mommy can do better

.. mommy can find a better man

.. mommy can do no wrong

.. love mommy

Dad's views are probably something like

.. what about me

.. no love for dad

.. I put in years to raise Whorpio too

Turn it around and take the grown jealous, hurt man out to eat or something just the two of you. Praise him for being dad, leave out discussing anything about mommy dearest. I'm saying this lovingly, grow up whorpio. Both parents put in equally to raising you neither one of them are "throw aways" consider your sister feelings too. Find the win-win, don't cut one out because your love for the other is more stronger. Think of this in a way of *potentially coming back to bite you should you ever end up with kids who conjure up irrationally, on the daily.

I read this and had a good chuckle cause my little, look a like Scorpio is a die hard team mommy (on the low) but even she knows not to take sides because the only winning side is both sides.

It’s ok to be jealous. It’s not okay to manipulate, gaslight, belittle and harass as a way to cope with that feeling.

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This story kinda reminds me of an incident with my six year old and her classmates from school were all gathered in the cubby area and one kid was asking mommy why her friends don't have dad's, the mom trying to explain why some kids don't have father's, didn't fully grasp it, in the child's own way of understanding made a comment to the mom that she didn't need a dad either and how she wanted to be like her friends. On a six year old this type of irrational behavior is understandable on a grown adult, nope.

I read all eleven pages and thought. I didn't read anything on the emotional abusive side not even in the comment "your trying to turn my kids against me" in context a lot of it sounds like jealously, hurt feelings from people too invested by their feelings that it's distorting their perception.

Just listening to Whorpio distorted views of mommy dearest

.. mommy an angel

.. mommy the greatest

.. mommy can do better

.. mommy can find a better man

.. mommy can do no wrong

.. love mommy

Dad's views are probably something like

.. what about me

.. no love for dad

.. I put in years to raise Whorpio too

Turn it around and take the grown jealous, hurt man out to eat or something just the two of you. Praise him for being dad, leave out discussing anything about mommy dearest. I'm saying this lovingly, grow up whorpio. Both parents put in equally to raising you neither one of them are "throw aways" consider your sister feelings too. Find the win-win, don't cut one out because your love for the other is more stronger. Think of this in a way of *potentially coming back to bite you should you ever end up with kids who conjure up irrationally, on the daily.

I read this and had a good chuckle cause my little, look a like Scorpio is a die hard team mommy (on the low) but even she knows not to take sides because the only winning side is both sides.

You don't know this but, OP is actually a daddy's girl. She loves her dad to bits and vice versa. She has a lot of love for him, despite what you might see in this scenario. So this situation between her parents was probably very confusing and disappointing to her.