@saggurl88
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Is it weird that I.....
Yes.
I never remember anybodies name anyway....
Posted by WhatIsWrongWithMeSame as me
Lol well with your user name, I guess I am weird!
Posted by _DazedYes.
Whatever Rick!
Posted by WhatIsWrongWithMePosted by saggurl88Posted by WhatIsWrongWithMeSame as me
Lol well with your user name, I guess I am weird!
I’d rather be that than those ingratiating types who give everyone a nickname
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lol. Yes, Very true! It's so much easier without saying a name.
Posted by WeedsI never remember anybodies name anyway....
I'm the same way lol As soon as I'm introduced, it goes right out of my head!
Posted by saggurl88Posted by WhatIsWrongWithMePosted by saggurl88Posted by WhatIsWrongWithMeSame as me
Lol well with your user name, I guess I am weird!
I’d rather be that than those ingratiating types who give everyone a nickname
lol. Yes, Very true! It's so much easier without saying a name.
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What do you think others like you, call you instead of your name?
Posted by _DazedPosted by saggurl88Posted by WhatIsWrongWithMePosted by saggurl88Posted by WhatIsWrongWithMeSame as me
Lol well with your user name, I guess I am weird!
I’d rather be that than those ingratiating types who give everyone a nickname
lol. Yes, Very true! It's so much easier without saying a name.
What do you think others like you, call you instead of your name?
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Usually they just call me "babe"
Posted by saggurl88don't call people by their name?
Like EVER.
Even when dating or just texting a person, I always stick with "hey" When someone calls me by my name, it sounds so foreign and proper to me and I don't understand why they are using it. Like I'm in some type of trouble or something.
When having casual conversations, I will say your friend with the red car- even though I know their name.
At work, I just address the person I'm talking to by standing directly in front of them.
It seems like I'm being too personal and vulnerable by using an actual name, so I choose not to.
Is this weird?
Hey how are you?
Posted by _DazedPosted by saggurl88Posted by WhatIsWrongWithMePosted by saggurl88Posted by WhatIsWrongWithMeSame as me
Lol well with your user name, I guess I am weird!
I’d rather be that than those ingratiating types who give everyone a nickname
lol. Yes, Very true! It's so much easier without saying a name.
What do you think others like you, call you instead of your name?
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for her? BEWBZ LOL
Posted by saggurl88don't call people by their name?
Like EVER.
Even when dating or just texting a person, I always stick with "hey" When someone calls me by my name, it sounds so foreign and proper to me and I don't understand why they are using it. Like I'm in some type of trouble or something.
When having casual conversations, I will say your friend with the red car- even though I know their name.
At work, I just address the person I'm talking to by standing directly in front of them.
It seems like I'm being too personal and vulnerable by using an actual name, so I choose not to.
Is this weird?
Haha! This is exactly me. No you’re not weird 🙃
Posted by AerialViewPosted by saggurl88don't call people by their name?
Like EVER.
Even when dating or just texting a person, I always stick with "hey" When someone calls me by my name, it sounds so foreign and proper to me and I don't understand why they are using it. Like I'm in some type of trouble or something.
When having casual conversations, I will say your friend with the red car- even though I know their name.
At work, I just address the person I'm talking to by standing directly in front of them.
It seems like I'm being too personal and vulnerable by using an actual name, so I choose not to.
Is this weird?
Hey how are you?
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Hey Aerial!
I’m doing well. Just same old, same old lol.
Hope everything is cool with you! Long time no “see” 🤓😎
How have you been?
It’s so warm to use the name when talk to people, you know?
Posted by HaruukaIt’s so warm to use the name when talk to people, you know?
For water signs maybe :p
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by HaruukaIt’s so warm to use the name when talk to people, you know?
For water signs maybe :p
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I’m water dominant sooo 🙂
It’s warmer to use peoples’ names. I noticed when I moved here how much people remembered and used names during conversations
I really like it, saggurl88 🙂
Posted by HaruukaPosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by HaruukaIt’s so warm to use the name when talk to people, you know?
For water signs maybe :p
I’m water dominant sooo 🙂
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Just noticed we used the same words
Water dom kindred spirits ❤️
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by HaruukaIt’s so warm to use the name when talk to people, you know?
For water signs maybe :p
I’m water dominant sooo 🙂
Just noticed we used the same words
Water dom kindred spirits ❤️
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Awwwwh 🥺❤️❤️
I always love you and your energy 🙏🏻
Posted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by HaruukaIt’s so warm to use the name when talk to people, you know?
For water signs maybe :p
I’m water dominant sooo 🙂
Just noticed we used the same words
Water dom kindred spirits ❤️
Awwwwh 🥺❤️❤️
I always love you and your energy 🙏🏻
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Love yours too dear Haruuka ❤️💜🌸
Yes it’s weird 😄
I don’t use them much because I am terrible at remembering them, but if I do remember it, I use it and it doesn’t make it more intimate for me
Why would people think using someone's name is intimate lol....?
Might be weird for those people that keep forgetting their name while having sex (the ones that keep asking... "what's my name?").
And you'll be like... "Hey!" ... "Hey!" .... Hey!" 😄
ok Rachel
Posted by bumboklattWell its interesting thinking your calling out their soul cause you call their name. Like some vodoo lol
lol. I think it makes ME feel vulnerable! Not the other way around. 😛
Posted by dilettante... do you not do it bc it feels too intimate?
Yes, it feels too personable for me.
Posted by alexscaries... not even during sex?
I think during sex is the only time a guy hears me say his name! 😆
Posted by MyStarsShineWhy would people think using someone's name is intimate lol....?
Not intimate in a sexual way, just in a way that makes you warm, like you said, and it gives the illusion that I like the person more then I do. I like creating distance instead. I don't want a person getting too comfortable with me.
I've never liked names (not even mine) let alone calling someone their own name. Always get a cringey feeling when having to do that. Kind of like scratching fingernails on a chalkboard.
I feel it's a limitation, a label, an injustice to the limitless greatness that each one of us as a soul represents.
I'm good remembering faces though which comes in handy!
Posted by saggurl88don't call people by their name?
Like EVER.
Even when dating or just texting a person, I always stick with "hey" When someone calls me by my name, it sounds so foreign and proper to me and I don't understand why they are using it. Like I'm in some type of trouble or something.
When having casual conversations, I will say your friend with the red car- even though I know their name.
At work, I just address the person I'm talking to by standing directly in front of them.
It seems like I'm being too personal and vulnerable by using an actual name, so I choose not to.
Is this weird?
I was like this until I met someone who used my name and I like it when they do it but not anyone else lol
Posted by alexscariesPosted by saggurl88Posted by alexscaries... not even during sex?
I think during sex is the only time a guy hears me say his name! 😆
Nothing wrong with saving it for a special occasion.
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My thoughts exactly!
Lol I do that but not consciously. Sometimes I'm so into the habit that I get anxious that I somehow have mixed up their name or that I will mispronounce it... So then I completely avoid saying it.
I was once friends with this girl in high school for weeks, hanging out everyday, before I realized I actually had forgotten her name. 😬
I have gotten better since then but names are still tricky for me. I tend to remember random facts about people before I remember their name.
Posted by tctaapok Rachel
Thanks Nancy!
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomI've never liked names (not even mine) let alone calling someone their own name. Always get a cringey feeling when having to do that. Kind of like scratching fingernails on a chalkboard.
I feel it's a limitation, a label, an injustice to the limitless greatness that each one of us as a soul represents.
I'm good remembering faces though which comes in handy!
Yes! I can see exactly where you're coming from! I never use my name either, but i guess it would be pretty weird talking about myself in third person 😛
I love your explanation of what a name represents! In a sense, it really is a limitation and fitting someone inside of their own little box, maybe that could be another reason why I don't use them. It's restricting, with no sense of freedom. Great point, and thanks for making me think about this from this perspective.
Posted by but_didyoudieI don't think its weird... i think there is a whole physiological strategy when using peoples names....
like you get lost and you need to call out their name... by that time your brain would have already registered the person's name otherwise you wouldn't be calling their name...
or you want to make someone feel closer to you or special... like when you need something and you look at a person's name tag and make the request more personal by adding in the name...
i think names are learned for the proper functioning of day to day activities.... so if that person's name is not required for your survival then your brain wont register their name. maybe that's an extreme example but i mean our brains can only hold so much information and we HAVE* to narrow things out to whatever helps us survive in our own* way. 🐣
This is why I don't like using names. I don't want the person feeling close to me.
Thanks for your thoughts on it. and yes it's true, I do have too much stored up top. So names aren't necessary for me, if I can shout out a "Hey you!" instead!
Posted by applecherrypieLol I do that but not consciously. Sometimes I'm so into the habit that I get anxious that I somehow have mixed up their name or that I will mispronounce it... So then I completely avoid saying it.
I was once friends with this girl in high school for weeks, hanging out everyday, before I realized I actually had forgotten her name. 😬
I have gotten better since then but names are still tricky for me. I tend to remember random facts about people before I remember their name.
lol. I don't forget names, I just never use them.
But that is pretty funny. How'd you ask her name again? That must've been awkward.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by applecherrypieLol I do that but not consciously. Sometimes I'm so into the habit that I get anxious that I somehow have mixed up their name or that I will mispronounce it... So then I completely avoid saying it.
I was once friends with this girl in high school for weeks, hanging out everyday, before I realized I actually had forgotten her name. 😬
I have gotten better since then but names are still tricky for me. I tend to remember random facts about people before I remember their name.
lol. I don't forget names, I just never use them.
But that is pretty funny. How'd you ask her name again? That must've been awkward.
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I was waiting desperately for someone else to say it lol.
Posted by applecherrypieLol I do that but not consciously. Sometimes I'm so into the habit that I get anxious that I somehow have mixed up their name or that I will mispronounce it... So then I completely avoid saying it.
I was once friends with this girl in high school for weeks, hanging out everyday, before I realized I actually had forgotten her name. 😬
I have gotten better since then but names are still tricky for me. I tend to remember random facts about people before I remember their name.
Hahaha I am the same
perhaps our ancestors were so into names because it gave them a sense of trust in that if they knew your extended family and they were good then you were assumed to be good - but to me that usually brings along a sense of entitlement of the person who is asking like they want to know too much of my business and I'm a private person so there you have that - too many nosey people - just too many people here on earth has changed the societal norms
basically I'm saying that we no longer need to feel shame when we just can't remember it all and well, fuck um if they don't like you
Posted by saggurl88Posted by AerialViewPosted by saggurl88don't call people by their name?
Like EVER.
Even when dating or just texting a person, I always stick with "hey" When someone calls me by my name, it sounds so foreign and proper to me and I don't understand why they are using it. Like I'm in some type of trouble or something.
When having casual conversations, I will say your friend with the red car- even though I know their name.
At work, I just address the person I'm talking to by standing directly in front of them.
It seems like I'm being too personal and vulnerable by using an actual name, so I choose not to.
Is this weird?
Hey how are you?
Hey Aerial!
I’m doing well. Just same old, same old lol.
Hope everything is cool with you! Long time no “see” 🤓😎
How have you been?
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I've been good hey thanks for checking on me hey 😂
Posted by AerialViewPosted by saggurl88Posted by AerialViewPosted by saggurl88don't call people by their name?
Like EVER.
Even when dating or just texting a person, I always stick with "hey" When someone calls me by my name, it sounds so foreign and proper to me and I don't understand why they are using it. Like I'm in some type of trouble or something.
When having casual conversations, I will say your friend with the red car- even though I know their name.
At work, I just address the person I'm talking to by standing directly in front of them.
It seems like I'm being too personal and vulnerable by using an actual name, so I choose not to.
Is this weird?
Hey how are you?
Hey Aerial!
I’m doing well. Just same old, same old lol.
Hope everything is cool with you! Long time no “see” 🤓😎
How have you been?
I've been good hey thanks for checking on me hey 😂
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Sorry! I know I don't do it often! But I'm glad you're doing well! I know you always are! 😛
Posted by applecherrypiePosted by saggurl88Posted by applecherrypieLol I do that but not consciously. Sometimes I'm so into the habit that I get anxious that I somehow have mixed up their name or that I will mispronounce it... So then I completely avoid saying it.
I was once friends with this girl in high school for weeks, hanging out everyday, before I realized I actually had forgotten her name. 😬
I have gotten better since then but names are still tricky for me. I tend to remember random facts about people before I remember their name.
lol. I don't forget names, I just never use them.
But that is pretty funny. How'd you ask her name again? That must've been awkward.
I was waiting desperately for someone else to say it lol.
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Hahahaha! That's hilarious! 😆
Posted by saggurl88Posted by AerialViewPosted by saggurl88Posted by AerialViewPosted by saggurl88don't call people by their name?
Like EVER.
Even when dating or just texting a person, I always stick with "hey" When someone calls me by my name, it sounds so foreign and proper to me and I don't understand why they are using it. Like I'm in some type of trouble or something.
When having casual conversations, I will say your friend with the red car- even though I know their name.
At work, I just address the person I'm talking to by standing directly in front of them.
It seems like I'm being too personal and vulnerable by using an actual name, so I choose not to.
Is this weird?
Hey how are you?
Hey Aerial!
I’m doing well. Just same old, same old lol.
Hope everything is cool with you! Long time no “see” 🤓😎
How have you been?
I've been good hey thanks for checking on me hey 😂
Sorry! I know I don't do it often! But I'm glad you're doing well! I know you always are! 😛
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You're hilarious as always 😆
Posted by AerialViewPosted by saggurl88Posted by AerialViewPosted by saggurl88Posted by AerialViewPosted by saggurl88don't call people by their name?
Like EVER.
Even when dating or just texting a person, I always stick with "hey" When someone calls me by my name, it sounds so foreign and proper to me and I don't understand why they are using it. Like I'm in some type of trouble or something.
When having casual conversations, I will say your friend with the red car- even though I know their name.
At work, I just address the person I'm talking to by standing directly in front of them.
It seems like I'm being too personal and vulnerable by using an actual name, so I choose not to.
Is this weird?
Hey how are you?
Hey Aerial!
I’m doing well. Just same old, same old lol.
Hope everything is cool with you! Long time no “see” 🤓😎
How have you been?
I've been good hey thanks for checking on me hey 😂
Sorry! I know I don't do it often! But I'm glad you're doing well! I know you always are! 😛
You're hilarious as always 😆
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I'm glad you think so! You're not so bad yourself! 😄
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShineWhy would people think using someone's name is intimate lol....?
Not intimate in a sexual way, just in a way that makes you warm, like you said, and it gives the illusion that I like the person more then I do. I like creating distance instead. I don't want a person getting too comfortable with me.
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Oh right.....with men...i thought you meant everyone...friends, family, work colleagues etc...
Posted by bumboklattPosted by saggurl88Posted by bumboklattWell its interesting thinking your calling out their soul cause you call their name. Like some vodoo lol
lol. I think it makes ME feel vulnerable! Not the other way around. 😛
Thats very interesting. Maybe its your moon. Or venus
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Probably. I just don't like feeling vulnerable to strangers. They like to take advantage. I've learned that in life. 🙂
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don't call people by their name?
Like EVER.
Even when dating or just texting a person, I always stick with "hey" When someone calls me by my name, it sounds so foreign and proper to me and I don't understand why they are using it. Like I'm in some type of trouble or something.
When having casual conversations, I will say your friend with the red car- even though I know their name.
At work, I just address the person I'm talking to by standing directly in front of them.
It seems like I'm being too personal and vulnerable by using an actual name, so I choose not to.
Is this weird?