@Haruuka
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Posted by Saint_Andslove fatigue
True
Every one needs alone time. Only unhealthy individuals do not appreciate or respect that. I was recently completely smothered for years. Not like I didnt express my need for alone time either, it was rather ignored for years now. And now, after all of this time, I have built up such resentment of that. Now all I want is to get away and be alone. Its rather sad. If I were allowed to miss him, things might not have ended. My needs and feelings were simply never validated, which is very selfish. I think every one needs time alone to reflect and just be sometimes. In my case, he gets that time but I do not. And when pointed out, it was dismissed. Yet I am holding him back somehow?!?! Ive told him I am not the one trying to keep him here, far from!! Idk. I question if it was ever really love I felt for him, or if it was just a codependency that bonded us originally....
Posted by AbbyNormalEvery one needs alone time. Only unhealthy individuals do not appreciate or respect that. I was recently completely smothered for years. Not like I didnt express my need for alone time either, it was rather ignored for years now. And now, after all of this time, I have built up such resentment of that. Now all I want is to get away and be alone. Its rather sad. If I were allowed to miss him, things might not have ended. My needs and feelings were simply never validated, which is very selfish. I think every one needs time alone to reflect and just be sometimes. In my case, he gets that time but I do not. And when pointed out, it was dismissed. Yet I am holding him back somehow?!?! Ive told him I am not the one trying to keep him here, far from!! Idk. I question if it was ever really love I felt for him, or if it was just a codependency that bonded us originally....
Sorry to hear that appy😔❤️
I completely understand what you’re saying, ah gemini moon nature, I think I cannot live without me time, so I got it.
Sometimes I feel like he always wanna keep me around, or even when I’m not around, he will make sure that I’m thinking about him (he will use everything he can do, to make sure that I cannot do anything without him
Sometimes he gets really dramatic about it, because I’m really busy woman, and can’t act like teenager.
Posted by PhoenixStormMaybe you’re just introverted?
I need my space sometimes too, even if I love someone.
True, I’m so introverted😅
But I need space every day, a lot of space or I will start to suffer.
Posted by BumblebebePosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?
Insecure. Not truly feeling good around the person.
Im taking guesses.
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No, I really feel good when I’m with him
Everything about him makes me feel so happy, I love kissing him and stuff lol
I’m so in love tbh
But I cannot do that without (me time) and he don’t understand
Posted by BumblebebePosted by HaruukaPosted by BumblebebePosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?
Insecure. Not truly feeling good around the person.
Im taking guesses.
No, I really feel good when I’m with him
Everything about him makes me feel so happy, I love kissing him and stuff lol
I’m so in love tbh
But I cannot do that without (me time) and he don’t understand
Are you in counseling?
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No
When I was married, my ex wanted to do everything w me. It was overwhelming. Even my siblings were tired of seeing him everytime I went to visit them. That was 12 years ago. One thing that I find VERY unattractive, is a clingy, needy, insecure man. And trust, clinginess is related to insecurity.
I'm an introverted-extrovert. But before we are 'types', we're individuals. Even in marriage. It's okay to create space, recharge, and engage in self-care. People who simply don't understand that are small-minded, selfish and insecure to an extent. Nothing attractive about any of that.
It means you are not codependent and not afraid to be alone
You don't need to worry about that or get counselling, it's a healthy balance of your time.
Xx
Hmm. I'm currently at a destination wedding with tons of family but I have separated from the pack.
Sometimes I just dont want anyone in my energy field. I want to do me and only me. I dont care to listen to any stories or updates. I dont care. I only care about me.
It's okay to be selfish.
Posted by DMVHmm. I'm currently at a destination wedding with tons of family but I have separated from the pack.
Sometimes I just dont want anyone in my energy field. I want to do me and only me. I dont care to listen to any stories or updates. I dont care. I only care about me.
It's okay to be selfish.
Agree
I think it's normal to want time alone...
it means you're a mutable
Posted by sweetpea2977When I was married, my ex wanted to do everything w me. It was overwhelming. Even my siblings were tired of seeing him everytime I went to visit them. That was 12 years ago. One thing that I find VERY unattractive, is a clingy, needy, insecure man. And trust, clinginess is related to insecurity.
I'm an introverted-extrovert. But before we are 'types', we're individuals. Even in marriage. It's okay to create space, recharge, and engage in self-care. People who simply don't understand that are small-minded, selfish and insecure to an extent. Nothing attractive about any of that.
Oh, that’s sucks, I mean he even go with you when u visit your family😓
You’re right about this, Me time is so important 🙏🏻
Posted by MyStarsShineIt means you are not codependent and not afraid to be alone
You don't need to worry about that or get counselling, it's a healthy balance of your time.
Xx
Yeah😃
I always loved your energy Star, so peaceful 🌿❤️
Posted by HaruukaPosted by sweetpea2977When I was married, my ex wanted to do everything w me. It was overwhelming. Even my siblings were tired of seeing him everytime I went to visit them. That was 12 years ago. One thing that I find VERY unattractive, is a clingy, needy, insecure man. And trust, clinginess is related to insecurity.
I'm an introverted-extrovert. But before we are 'types', we're individuals. Even in marriage. It's okay to create space, recharge, and engage in self-care. People who simply don't understand that are small-minded, selfish and insecure to an extent. Nothing attractive about any of that.
Oh, that’s sucks, I mean he even go with you when u visit your family😓
You’re right about this, Me time is so important 🙏🏻
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It sucked but good riddance. He was overall, just too much work 🤦 Me-time is extremely important indeed.
Posted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Sounds like me. 🙆♀️
No matter how much I'm into someone.. I need space... I think it's my venus. I 🖤 to keep the magic going for as long as it can so...
I want/love him *part time.
Part-time dating, independent love relationship:
That's meeeee..
Posted by peaceandtranquility_96Posted by PhoenixStormMaybe you’re just introverted?
I need my space sometimes too, even if I love someone.
Yes! This is so me! Sometimes, I would rather just lay next to someone in dead silence than go out to dinner and have a conversation with them 😂
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Oh my god, this is so meeee 😭🙏🏻❤️
Posted by BasorexiaPosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Sounds like me. 🙆♀️
No matter how much I'm into someone.. I need space... I think it's my venus. I 🖤 to keep the magic going for as long as it can so...
I want/love him *part time.
Part-time dating, independent love relationship:
That's meeeee..
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Yeah, I love going walking alone
Sometimes going out alone too
I can’t handle doing everything together tbh🤷🏻♀️🙊
Posted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?
It means you need and appreciate your time and your space. I'm like this. Has nothing to do with the other person
Posted by BumblebebePosted by HaruukaPosted by BumblebebePosted by jaymens933Posted by BumblebebePosted by HaruukaPosted by BumblebebePosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?
Insecure. Not truly feeling good around the person.
Im taking guesses.
No, I really feel good when I’m with him
Everything about him makes me feel so happy, I love kissing him and stuff lol
I’m so in love tbh
But I cannot do that without (me time) and he don’t understand
Are you in counseling?
yo bumblebebe stfu
No.
Yes, go away.
Only trying to help...therapy works.
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Thank you
Posted by enfant_terriblePosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?
It means you need and appreciate your time and your space. I'm like this. Has nothing to do with the other person
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So, when the other person is kind of clingy, what you do about that?
I’m talking about cancer venus here😔
Posted by HaruukaPosted by enfant_terriblePosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?
It means you need and appreciate your time and your space. I'm like this. Has nothing to do with the other person
So, when the other person is kind of clingy, what you do about that?
I’m talking about cancer venus here😔
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Lol I'm actually Cancer Venus, still need space and self-time though. All ppl can manage to be away from eachother, even clingy ppl, but clinginess is due to insecurities i think.
Posted by enfant_terriblePosted by HaruukaPosted by enfant_terriblePosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?
It means you need and appreciate your time and your space. I'm like this. Has nothing to do with the other person
So, when the other person is kind of clingy, what you do about that?
I’m talking about cancer venus here😔
Lol I'm actually Cancer Venus, still need space and self-time though. All ppl can manage to be away from eachother, even clingy ppl, but clinginess is due to insecurities i think.
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Haa! 🙉 sorry I thought you’re just cancer moon (:
Yeah, it’s very healthy for couples to have (me-time).
So you’re still with the cancer? The one who chased you so hard😆😅
Posted by maidenPosted by enfant_terriblePosted by HaruukaPosted by enfant_terriblePosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?
It means you need and appreciate your time and your space. I'm like this. Has nothing to do with the other person
So, when the other person is kind of clingy, what you do about that?
I’m talking about cancer venus here😔
Lol I'm actually Cancer Venus, still need space and self-time though. All ppl can manage to be away from eachother, even clingy ppl, but clinginess is due to insecurities i think.
Also cancer venus ^^^ I second this.
After reading this thread seems like maybe the other person has the problem and you're taking it on.
Is it that you need to find a way to tell them this?
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He is cancer venus in 4th house
He also hacked my phone to see if there is any other men, and he didn’t find anything 😓
The thing with him, he always think that I have other men, cuz a lot of men likes me, Now he stop it with asking about other men, but don’t like it when I’m away from him, will start to do things like guilt trip or stuff:/
Posted by HaruukaPosted by BasorexiaPosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Sounds like me. 🙆♀️
No matter how much I'm into someone.. I need space... I think it's my venus. I 🖤 to keep the magic going for as long as it can so...
I want/love him *part time.
Part-time dating, independent love relationship:
That's meeeee..
Yeah, I love going walking alone
Sometimes going out alone too
I can’t handle doing everything together tbh🤷🏻♀️🙊
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Same! 😊
I'm just wired different when it comes to that.
It's difficult for me to live with somebody else full time.
I get bored of the routine and I wanna be alone after awhile. I don't mind having my boyfriend over.. but not 24/7. That would be difficult.
Posted by maidenPosted by HaruukaPosted by maidenPosted by enfant_terriblePosted by HaruukaPosted by enfant_terriblePosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?
It means you need and appreciate your time and your space. I'm like this. Has nothing to do with the other person
So, when the other person is kind of clingy, what you do about that?
I’m talking about cancer venus here😔
Lol I'm actually Cancer Venus, still need space and self-time though. All ppl can manage to be away from eachother, even clingy ppl, but clinginess is due to insecurities i think.
Also cancer venus ^^^ I second this.
After reading this thread seems like maybe the other person has the problem and you're taking it on.
Is it that you need to find a way to tell them this?
He is cancer venus in 4th house
He also hacked my phone to see if there is any other men, and he didn’t find anything 😓
The thing with him, he always think that I have other men, cuz a lot of men likes me, Now he stop it with asking about other men, but don’t like it when I’m away from him, will start to do things like guilt trip or stuff:/
ugh. guilt trips. ugh..cancer placements.. ugh.
One thing about cancer placements is reassurance. Especially with EARTH placements who just get angry or frustrated
(you have any earth placements?) when cancer placements get a bit clingy (or guilt-trippy) they're just expressing hurt or fear, and all you need to do is come up with something gooey and sweet to say or do to reassure them that you love them 🙂
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Yeah, I’m aware of this, and always tell him sweet things, but I can’t do this every day lol
But yeah I will try to do this😃
Mmmmmm...I have saturn in capricorn, also neptune
And my sun and mercury both in 10th house, does that make a difference?
Posted by BasorexiaPosted by HaruukaPosted by BasorexiaPosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Sounds like me. 🙆♀️
No matter how much I'm into someone.. I need space... I think it's my venus. I 🖤 to keep the magic going for as long as it can so...
I want/love him *part time.
Part-time dating, independent love relationship:
That's meeeee..
Yeah, I love going walking alone
Sometimes going out alone too
I can’t handle doing everything together tbh🤷🏻♀️🙊
Same! 😊
I'm just wired different when it comes to that.
It's difficult for me to live with somebody else full time.
I get bored of the routine and I wanna be alone after awhile. I don't mind having my boyfriend over.. but not 24/7. That would be difficult.
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That’s why I don’t wanna get married
I will go crazy 🤣
Posted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShineIt means you are not codependent and not afraid to be alone
You don't need to worry about that or get counselling, it's a healthy balance of your time.
Xx
Yeah😃
I always loved your energy Star, so peaceful 🌿❤️
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❤️ Love yours too, sweetie
Is your man a Gemini with Sag moon?
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShineIt means you are not codependent and not afraid to be alone
You don't need to worry about that or get counselling, it's a healthy balance of your time.
Xx
Yeah😃
I always loved your energy Star, so peaceful 🌿❤️
❤️ Love yours too, sweetie
Is your man a Gemini with Sag moon?
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Yeah, him 🤷🏻♀️
Posted by Jade_AlexanderSooo for me the energy between us was too intense
It wasn’t a negative exchange but I need to calibrate. I didn’t understand my heart chakra was going friggin nuts and it was overwhelming me. Mixed with his energy... just wow
Twin Flame stuff
I wanted to see him, be with him
Then I needed away, a break to breathe
I don’t believe in twin flame, only soulmates maybe
But I respect what you believe 🙏🏻
I know one thing for sure, that I tried to be with other men, and I couldn’t handle it, I know he is crazy and stupid and have very very dark past, but I don’t care anymore
A Sun / Moon opposition?
Posted by HaruukaPosted by maidenPosted by enfant_terriblePosted by HaruukaPosted by enfant_terriblePosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?
It means you need and appreciate your time and your space. I'm like this. Has nothing to do with the other person
So, when the other person is kind of clingy, what you do about that?
I’m talking about cancer venus here😔
Lol I'm actually Cancer Venus, still need space and self-time though. All ppl can manage to be away from eachother, even clingy ppl, but clinginess is due to insecurities i think.
Also cancer venus ^^^ I second this.
After reading this thread seems like maybe the other person has the problem and you're taking it on.
Is it that you need to find a way to tell them this?
He is cancer venus in 4th house
He also hacked my phone to see if there is any other men, and he didn’t find anything 😓
The thing with him, he always think that I have other men, cuz a lot of men likes me, Now he stop it with asking about other men, but don’t like it when I’m away from him, will start to do things like guilt trip or stuff:/
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😒 He sounds like a real prize. Yikes!
Posted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShineIt means you are not codependent and not afraid to be alone
You don't need to worry about that or get counselling, it's a healthy balance of your time.
Xx
Yeah😃
I always loved your energy Star, so peaceful 🌿❤️
❤️ Love yours too, sweetie
Is your man a Gemini with Sag moon?
Yeah, him 🤷🏻♀️
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How long ye been together?
😘
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShineIt means you are not codependent and not afraid to be alone
You don't need to worry about that or get counselling, it's a healthy balance of your time.
Xx
Yeah😃
I always loved your energy Star, so peaceful 🌿❤️
❤️ Love yours too, sweetie
Is your man a Gemini with Sag moon?
Yeah, him 🤷🏻♀️
How long ye been together?
😘
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2 years-off and on 😑
Posted by NemDeuxPosted by HaruukaHiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?
Sabotage .....
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Lol
Posted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShineIt means you are not codependent and not afraid to be alone
You don't need to worry about that or get counselling, it's a healthy balance of your time.
Xx
Yeah😃
I always loved your energy Star, so peaceful 🌿❤️
❤️ Love yours too, sweetie
Is your man a Gemini with Sag moon?
Yeah, him 🤷🏻♀️
How long ye been together?
😘
2 years-off and on 😑
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And he’s still guilt tripping you and not trusting you? 🙁
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by MyStarsShineIt means you are not codependent and not afraid to be alone
You don't need to worry about that or get counselling, it's a healthy balance of your time.
Xx
Yeah😃
I always loved your energy Star, so peaceful 🌿❤️
❤️ Love yours too, sweetie
Is your man a Gemini with Sag moon?
Yeah, him 🤷🏻♀️
How long ye been together?
😘
2 years-off and on 😑
And he’s still guilt tripping you and not trusting you? 🙁
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He don’t trust anyone tbh
But yeah still guilt tripping me and all, if I’m busy or something he will feel jealous and stuff 😓
And because I have great job, a lot of money, he start to ask me to create a job like mine for him too 🤷🏻♀️ I think you got what I’m talking about it.
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Hiii everybody
So what does it mean, when you love someone, love when you’re near them, but you don’t like it when you stay around them for too long
Like you just wanna be alone?
Or feel good when the conversation with them in the phone is finally over.
And you sure that you love them, but you wanna keep distance between you and them?