@TheLadyScorpio
13 Years10,000+ Posts
Lessons you have learned recently - What are they ?
beer makes you fat, vine, not so much ๐
Life is always made better with a fine bottle of wine. ๐
Honesty is the best policy, and to hold your tongue only when it really matters. Politeness is wasted on people who don't deserve it.
Hit everyone with the hardcore truth, it's the only way we're gonna get out of this retarded Age of Butthurt Political Correctness.
1. Pride comes before fall. Direct your ego towards positivity and self fulfillment and not competition.
2. Leave the past in the past.
3. Vulnerability is a strength.
4. Be honest with what you want and not what you think will get you to win.
I am happy that you are gaining more wisdom from your experiences ๐
You are dealing with things well, lady ๐
That is so kind of you to say so @AneemA04. Although the truth is, the healing process is far uglier than what I share on here. However, at least I do try to write about some of the positives and the negatives. Both sides of the journey to recovery.
In the least, so others who are going through heartache as well could hopefully learn something, or gather strength from my own experiences. If sharing my lessons, could help another man or woman, get through what they are going through right now. Then, that would make me happy.
People are far too often afraid to embrace their human aspects, trying to put up a facade when faced with pain. I still get those dreadful lows, moments of longing, and wishing to reach out to him but I do not. Being defensive about our own flaws makes it harder to heal. Though showing others that it is ok to fall, and to fail. Perhaps, even if a bit idealistic, that it will help others.
My Lessons -
Learning to say no to lovely gents, and potential dates. To be honest enough with myself to know that I need to be alone. To reacquaint with my single self, contentment in going on solo adventures. Realising it is better to be alone, than lonely with someone. To be brave enough to acknowledge the fact that you are trying to find happiness within, not with another.
To know that failures happen, and that it is more than ok should relationships and commitments fail. That I do not need to be the perfect woman, or the perfect SO. Be who you need to be. There is no shame in failing, disappointments happen.
What lessons to be had and learned this September.
Tell me yours. ๐
Only for all of that to fly out of the window, when you next obsess over the next victi... *coughs* bloke...
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Goat, as a Stinger woman I am more fixed than you are. Nice try testing my resolve. ๐
My Lessons -
Learning to say no to lovely gents, and potential dates. To be honest enough with myself to know that I need to be alone. To reacquaint with my single self, contentment in going on solo adventures. Realising it is better to be alone, than lonely with someone. To be brave enough to acknowledge the fact that you are trying to find happiness within, not with another.
To know that failures happen, and that it is more than ok should relationships and commitments fail. That I do not need to be the perfect woman, or the perfect SO. Be who you need to be. There is no shame in failing, disappointments happen.
What lessons to be had and learned this September.
Tell me yours. ๐
Only for all of that to fly out of the window, when you next obsess over the next victi... *coughs* bloke...
Goat, I am more fixed than you are as a Stinger woman. Nice try testing my resolve. ๐
Hopefully, you won't delete this thread, so I can remind you of your former self, several weeks (or will it be days?) ago...
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You are reminding me of exactly why I love / hate the Goat placements in my Goat heavy Water Bearer. ๐
Is there no other sign you would love to pester ?
It is unlike you @Gobby to stick to one sun sign or user to dangle and play with. Why, I am breaking a record here. ๐
@Gobby, in fact you are even more faithful that my followers.
Ever since my return, you have followed me unto every thread that I have created. I never knew Goats to be that obsessive, but I suppose that is the charm of a Stinger woman. You could not resist, I see. ๐
My Lessons -
Learning to say no to lovely gents, and potential dates. To be honest enough with myself to know that I need to be alone. To reacquaint with my single self, contentment in going on solo adventures. Realising it is better to be alone, than lonely with someone. To be brave enough to acknowledge the fact that you are trying to find happiness within, not with another.
To know that failures happen, and that it is more than ok should relationships and commitments fail. That I do not need to be the perfect woman, or the perfect SO. Be who you need to be. There is no shame in failing, disappointments happen.
What lessons to be had and learned this September.
Tell me yours. ๐
Only for all of that to fly out of the window, when you next obsess over the next victi... *coughs* bloke...
Goat, I am more fixed than you are as a Stinger woman. Nice try testing my resolve. ๐
Hopefully, you won't delete this thread, so I can remind you of your former self, several weeks (or will it be days?) ago...
You are reminding me of exactly why I love / hate the Goat placements in my Goat heavy Water Bearer. ๐
Is there no other sign you would love to pester ?
It is unlike you @Gobby to stick to one sun sign or user to dangle and play with. Why, I am breaking a record here. ๐
You're the one starting all the threads, which is very rare for you. Besides, there's not much else to comment on here ATM.
And, no, you haven't broken the record. Far from it...
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Why, have you been stalking me ? ๐
I am sure there is plenty more fun for you to be had in all those other threads being refreshed on the front page. Surely there must be something to distract you, especially if I had not broken the record. Go find that record holder, and pester him / her.
@Gobby, in fact you are even more faithful that my followers.
Ever since my return, you have followed me unto every thread that I have created. I never knew Goats to be that obsessive, but I suppose that is the charm of a Stinger woman. You could not resist, I see. ๐
*smh*
Whatever makes you happy.
You really have the home page to thank for my attention...
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Oh what would I do without your attention, dear @Gobby.
The answer - a bloody hell of a whole lot. ๐
Though it was sweet and kind of you, you should be flattered that I keep you from boredom with my threads. ๐
Learned I donโt need the tittle as long as I get better pay
There is personal freedom to be had in that lesson. To realise, what is more important and where the priorities lie.
Thank you for sharing that, Impulsv. ๐
I can choose myself even when my emotions are screaming & I just want them to stop.
Distraction just postpones the inevitable & possibly makes more problems
There is a reason for everything
Itโs okay to think about yourself in a selfish way. Cuz no one else is going to take care of you.
Self care is how you take your power back.
No truer words said, and the realisation of those things is powerful.
RooSagicorn, I am really glad that you are taking your life back into your own hands. ๐
i know.
what you can do today, don't bother, do it tomorrow.
Hmm MissKrabs, is that procrastination or a 'learn to let go and let live' mentality ?
If I don't discipline myself properly, there won't be any result. ยฏ\_(ใ)_/ยฏ
A very Stinger mentality to go about doing things, and very true peachy.
How do you keep yourself focused and not diverge from that path of discipline ?
@Black-Mamba - Is your Leo Moon available for rent ? ๐
Never trust a fart...
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Never trust a fart...
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The deadliest ones make no sound. The Silent Annihilation. ๐
@Black-Mamba - Is your Leo Moon available for rent ? ๐
Yes sure. 4.99 $ an hour
My Leo moon is keeping me single-superficial thing
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Normally I would negotiate, but if it is as effective as all that.
Then I will take it, for an hour.
Cannot have you making a successful business out of this.
That is what DXP armchair therapists are for. ๐
Time. We always assume that things are going to take longer than they take yet when we don't do them and years have gone by, you look back and think, well why didn't i do this in that time, and just complete it.
that's how i feel about not pursuing my masters in Physician Assistant, Psychology, or an MBA
its just a few years and you tell yourself, i can't suffer through 2-3 years of this, getting the requirements
and you find that you already have wasted 5 years, 7 years, 10 years, 15 years
time...manage it well or it will manage you
Is that a lesson or a regret ?
To not give up, but consider redirecting efforts. That sometimes things don't go as planned because it may not be a part of your intended path at large.
German "dating" culture is differs significantly from the majority of the world.
In what way?
Also I used to think and believe that Love meant accepting people for who they are. Their imperfections etc. Second chances.
Not the case.
Everyone deserves the best of everyone.
The 1st TIME.
Whether it be your crush, your boss, a stranger..
Everyone deserves the best, the 1st time.
I have 100% control of what I feed my mind, body, soul.
Spend your time wisely.
Watching exactly what I watch on social media or TV has a huge impact on my psyche.
Food has an effect.
People have an effect.
I used to not care bout what I watched or listened 2 but I changed my viewing and listening diet and it has made a huge difference.
Time. We always assume that things are going to take longer than they take yet when we don't do them and years have gone by, you look back and think, well why didn't i do this in that time, and just complete it.
that's how i feel about not pursuing my masters in Physician Assistant, Psychology, or an MBA
its just a few years and you tell yourself, i can't suffer through 2-3 years of this, getting the requirements
and you find that you already have wasted 5 years, 7 years, 10 years, 15 years
time...manage it well or it will manage you
Agreed.
Also I used to think and believe that Love meant accepting people for who they are. Their imperfections etc. Second chances.
Not the case.
Everyone deserves the best of everyone.
The 1st TIME.
Whether it be your crush, your boss, a stranger..
Everyone deserves the best, the 1st time.
Yes DMV, I could not agree more.
That maybe itโs me.
I have issues with men and people in general. I have no friends or family and Iโm alone. I meet people who have no respect for me and itโs getting worse now that I know what I will or wonโt deal with. I have to heal the part of me that attracts these type of people. Iโm learning how to heal and not just avoiding people and isolating myself only to repeat the same mistakes.
German "dating" culture is differs significantly from the majority of the world.
In what way?
In general I'd say it seems to be a lot more down to earth, with less expectations or definitions.
Two people just spend some time together or talk and if it feels good it progresses and keeps progressing or will meet it's ending point.
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Sounds more straightforward
I wonder who invented the complicated dating scene......the USA maybe?
Iโm a Taurus, I never learn my lesson, just make more excuses.
๐That people are human and flawed and not to expect too much from them..
๐That the power of letting go is invaluable to happiness
๐That it's really the simple things in life that bring joy and contentment
๐That people are human and flawed and not to expect too much from them..
๐That the power of letting go is invaluable to happiness
๐That it's really the simple things in life that bring joy and contentment
So you're saying letting go could be disruptive to your happiness? Like if you don't really wanna let go but you try to anyway?
๐That people are human and flawed and not to expect too much from them..
๐That the power of letting go is invaluable to happiness
๐That it's really the simple things in life that bring joy and contentment
So you're saying letting go could be disruptive to your happiness? Like if you don't really wanna let go but you try to anyway?
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When I let go I remind myself that it's not about me and because I love that person, despite the initial difficulty, I eventually feel happy
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Also I used to think and believe that Love meant accepting people for who they are. Their imperfections etc. Second chances.
Not the case.
Everyone deserves the best of everyone.
The 1st TIME.
Whether it be your crush, your boss, a stranger..
Everyone deserves the best, the 1st time.
Is there ever an "external reason" you as a scorpio moon would abandon a connection? External mining not directly related to someone's character. Or things out of their control. Your friends not liking him, you mother not liking him, he's aging badly but keeping it as in shape as possible, his job is forcing him to relocate to another city and he's asking you to come with him? LEt's say he developed a disease and couldn't function as adventurously as he used to--
I've learnt that truthfully I can't do everything by myself and even if my body can't feel it it does and will shutdown if I work for days on end with no rest to the point it almost became fatal.
I've learnt that my daughter has taken after me so bless her soul, I didn't want to be me so big yikes there lmao.
That also having really long hair suits me but a pain in the arse to maintain.
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My Lessons -
Learning to say no to lovely gents, and potential dates. To be honest enough with myself to know that I need to be alone. To reacquaint with my single self, contentment in going on solo adventures. Realising it is better to be alone, than lonely with someone. To be brave enough to acknowledge the fact that you are trying to find happiness within, not with another.
To know that failures happen, and that it is more than ok should relationships and commitments fail. That I do not need to be the perfect woman, or the perfect SO. Be who you need to be. There is no shame in failing, disappointments happen.
What lessons to be had and learned this September.
Tell me yours. ๐