Sleeping around men vs women (Page 3)

Posted by Nala13
Just out of curiousty and because I want to know what people think..

What is an unacceptable # of partners at let's say at 30 years of age?

Meaning anything over this # is unacceptable by your personal standards.

If you have no number and could not care if your partner male or female had 100 previous "encounters" then say that too.

if a woman is over 30 and slept with 15+ guys,then you're a trifling whore & i bet your vagina is loose & farty

now with that being said..i may still have a relationship with you depending on how you carry yourself,because i understand a lot of women may have just been young & dumb..but i'd still view you as a whore deep down

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
I don't know about how you ladies feel but I don't like a man who's been around with MANY women.

Why exactly? 🙂

Interested in a women's perspective since most women seem to be cool with it.

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There are many reasons. His self respect, the way he controls himself, how he holds out for that special woman and so on. Not shallow? I don't know that many women who are cool with a guy who sleeps around a lot.

🙂

Remember, when sleeping with someone, you are sleeping with them and all the partners they've had??_ gross.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Remember, when sleeping with someone, you are sleeping with them and all the partners they've had??_ gross.

That is such a load of crap. It's not like a woman walks around carrying ten penises up her coochie all day long or like dudes constantly live covered in vajay juice. As long as everybody is disease free and plays safe so that they can stay that way there's no reason to expect everyone's past lovers to come running into the bedroom naked and swinging pillows.

I don't ask my partners for a number because I know it'll make me see them differently if the number was pretty high. I don't want to know. I'm still curious, though.

15 it too many imo for a 30-year-old. I know people who've been with 30+ partners, though & they're not even 30 themselves.

My gemini friend was telling me about all these guys in her past & I was secretly judging her tbh. One night stands, fwbs, living-in situations with men at her grandmother's house (with her gm also there), etc. It was all too distasteful for me.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Remember, when sleeping with someone, you are sleeping with them and all the partners they've had??_ gross.

Only if they:
1) haven't had a shower lately
2) picked up an STD along the way
3) are having a group orgy

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Remember, when sleeping with someone, you are sleeping with them and all the partners they've had??_ gross.

That is such a load of crap. It's not like a woman walks around carrying ten penises up her coochie all day long or like dudes constantly live covered in vajay juice. As long as everybody is disease free and plays safe so that they can stay that way there's no reason to expect everyone's past lovers to come running into the bedroom naked and swinging pillows.

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A load of crap for you.

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Posted by Nala13
Just out of curiousty and because I want to know what people think..

What is an unacceptable # of partners at let's say at 30 years of age?

Meaning anything over this # is unacceptable by your personal standards.

If you have no number and could not care if your partner male or female had 100 previous "encounters" then say that too.

if a woman is over 30 and slept with 15+ guys,then you're a trifling whore & i bet your vagina is loose & farty

now with that being said..i may still have a relationship with you depending on how you carry yourself,because i understand a lot of women may have just been young & dumb..but i'd still view you as a whore deep down

So what's the point of being in a relationship with her if you view her as a "justlikeme" deep down?

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i can't help it..its like a automatic label that must be stamped upon you..when i was 16,i asked a girl(who was 16 too)who i was going out with that question, and when she said "8"..*shudders*..i was disgusted & damn near didn't want to deal with her anymore,luckily she had a grown woman's ass & it helped me get over it 🙂

but ever since then, i've never asked the question again

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Remember, when sleeping with someone, you are sleeping with them and all the partners they've had??_ gross.

That is such a load of crap. It's not like a woman walks around carrying ten penises up her coochie all day long or like dudes constantly live covered in vajay juice. As long as everybody is disease free and plays safe so that they can stay that way there's no reason to expect everyone's past lovers to come running into the bedroom naked and swinging pillows.

HPV is a tricky one though.

It also depends on people's view of spirituality, what people fear and how they view death.

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Thank you. I do believe we shouldn't give of ourselves to just anyone for many different reasons.

Don't you feel that when you share something with someone you leave something behind? I know, it's too deep??_ but think about that for a second.

Posted by xcake

HPV is a tricky one though.

It also depends on people's view of spirituality, what people fear and how they view death.

I agree that HPV and many other diseases are tricky which is why we can't stress the importance of using protection and safe sex practices enough.

Posted by tiziani
I agree with APC, apart from the gross part. I've had enough metaphysical experiences and witnessed them to believe it has merit.

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Care to elaborate?

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Don't you feel that when you share something with someone you leave something behind? I know, it's too deep??_ but think about that for a second.

I leave behind what are hopefully pleasant memories and a phone number in case they want a repeat episode. Maybe some hair and DNA traces.

I think I'm too Virgo for the turn this thread has taken.

I think hetero sex puts both man and women is gross boat??_..statistically they have more STDs that gay folk " tee hee hee a hee hee" dirty breeders 😕

Posted by xcake

Condoms are not full proof with HPV, not to say that they are useless.

Nothing is foolproof unless you want to advocate for abstinence only, and even that can get ruined under some unfortunate circumstances. People should also being getting regular screenings, specifically requesting checks for diseases like HPV or any others that they are concerned about if they aren't automatically listed.

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Posted by Nala13
Just out of curiousty and because I want to know what people think..

What is an unacceptable # of partners at let's say at 30 years of age?

Meaning anything over this # is unacceptable by your personal standards.

If you have no number and could not care if your partner male or female had 100 previous "encounters" then say that too.

if a woman is over 30 and slept with 15+ guys,then you're a trifling whore & i bet your vagina is loose & farty

now with that being said..i may still have a relationship with you depending on how you carry yourself,because i understand a lot of women may have just been young & dumb..but i'd still view you as a whore deep down

So what's the point of being in a relationship with her if you view her as a "justlikeme" deep down?

i can't help it..its like a automatic label that must be stamped upon you..when i was 16,i asked a girl(who was 16 too)who i was going out with that question, and when she said "8"..*shudders*..i was disgusted & damn near didn't want to deal with her anymore,luckily she had a grown woman's ass & it helped me get over it 🙂

but ever since then, i've never asked the question again

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LMAO @ the arse comment. And how many have you been with at 16?

Speaking for myself, I cannot stand extreme feminists. I've seen a lot of chicks go crazy if a guy dares to open the door for them..flying into a fit of "You think I'm beneath you? I am woman, I am strong, hear me roar"

If I was the guy...I'd GTFO asap.

Courtesy on both sides means a lot in the bigger picture. Men want to provide and protect their women, why any rational woman would be against that is a mystery to me.

Let's leave the whole feminism act for our careers, not for our relationships.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Don't you feel that when you share something with someone you leave something behind? I know, it's too deep??_ but think about that for a second.

I leave behind what are hopefully pleasant memories and a phone number in case they want a repeat episode. Maybe some hair and DNA traces.

I think I'm too Virgo for the turn this thread has taken.

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LOL

I was on a totally different level??_

You leave part of yourself behind, it chips away at your core, your soul. I believe the sharing of oneself is sacred.

Posted by tiziani

Well I've spent a lot of time this last half year talking to health professionals about people who feel possessed by dark spirits, energy (surprising how many psychiatric wards believe in alternative health btw) and most of the discussion made a link between this and having low boundaries in the physical world in terms of what you let into your body.

To be fair, this wasn't limited to sex but also other experiences/substances that can turn into insidious behaviour and abuse like alcohol, drugs etc.

For myself personally I only have sex to go on and I certainly have felt I've picked up behavioural traits for partners. Hard to put it into tangible examples though.

Sorry, I had to reread that a second because at first it sounded like you were comparing sexual intercourse to a gateway for demonic possession and I had a flashback of my high school sex ed class.

Anyway, as someone who regularly prays to an invisible deity that ignores her and a woman that claimed to have conceived a demigod immaculately, I'm no one to refute another's spiritual beliefs. I was, personally, mostly taught that fear was the primary factor which left one open to invading forces, fear itself being the absence of faith in God. It would interesting to hear from some of these people how that relates.

Posted by Damnata
Speaking for myself, I cannot stand extreme feminists. I've seen a lot of chicks go crazy if a guy dares to open the door for them..flying into a fit of "You think I'm beneath you? I am woman, I am strong, hear me roar"

If I was the guy...I'd GTFO asap.

Courtesy on both sides means a lot in the bigger picture. Men want to provide and protect their women, why any rational woman would be against that is a mystery to me.

Let's leave the whole feminism act for our careers, not for our relationships.

LMAO +1 to that.

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Posted by Nala13
Just out of curiousty and because I want to know what people think..

What is an unacceptable # of partners at let's say at 30 years of age?

Meaning anything over this # is unacceptable by your personal standards.

If you have no number and could not care if your partner male or female had 100 previous "encounters" then say that too.

if a woman is over 30 and slept with 15+ guys,then you're a trifling whore & i bet your vagina is loose & farty

now with that being said..i may still have a relationship with you depending on how you carry yourself,because i understand a lot of women may have just been young & dumb..but i'd still view you as a whore deep down

So what's the point of being in a relationship with her if you view her as a "justlikeme" deep down?

i can't help it..its like a automatic label that must be stamped upon you..when i was 16,i asked a girl(who was 16 too)who i was going out with that question, and when she said "8"..*shudders*..i was disgusted & damn near didn't want to deal with her anymore,luckily she had a grown woman's ass & it helped me get over it 🙂

but ever since then, i've never asked the question again

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so did you make it 9?

Posted by xcake

So you'd rather not ask

exactly..i don't care to know about your past..just as long as your past doesn't involve anybody im friends with..but i may let that slide too depending on how much i like you

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LMAO @ the arse comment. And how many have you been with at 16?

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i don't remember,but it was under 8 which was probably another reason why i was so disgusted with her lol..but she really looked like a grown woman at the time so i know dudes was all over her

Posted by Damnata
Speaking for myself, I cannot stand extreme feminists. I've seen a lot of chicks go crazy if a guy dares to open the door for them..flying into a fit of "You think I'm beneath you? I am woman, I am strong, hear me roar"

If I was the guy...I'd GTFO asap.

Courtesy on both sides means a lot in the bigger picture. Men want to provide and protect their women, why any rational woman would be against that is a mystery to me.

Let's leave the whole feminism act for our careers, not for our relationships.

I love it when men open doors for me. It makes me feel really ladylike and feminine.
And it's a plus when they slap that ass as you walk through. 😛

Posted by tiziani

I could believe that definitely. Certainly I've seen when people isolate themselves from the ones they love, they become incredibly vulnerable to nefarious energy of all kinds. It's their decision to isolate though.


Anyway some of the professionals I've encountered were - for all their wisdom - still guilty of reckless and flawed behaviour themselves. Really petty stuff like stealing prescriptions for themselves to self-medicate, and they'd open up to me about this like it wasn't a problem. Just a means of getting by. All the faith in the world can be wasted, I guess.

Lol, faith doesn't save a person from being screwed up. We're all flawed beings in some way. Even the most innocent among us will tell a lie, be lead into temptation or have impure thoughts. That also doesn't mean that we can't help one another. Sometimes the best way to learn about ourselves and recognize our own sins is through witnessing those of others.

Isolation is a killer though. All kind of dark nasty thoughts can creep up in the darkness when you don't have anyone to fight them for.

Posted by xcake
Some people can only be helped if they truly want it, not in denial that they are flawed themselves.

Blame game/projection is the biggest challenge some people face, it prolongs suffering.

Agreed.

Posted by xcake
Fence sitting is the only way people can survive this chaos. I wonder how many people the fence will hold.

Lol!!!

The sign says:


Random OP wants this:


Yet DXPers do this:

Polygamy, now there's an interesting topic.

Posted by xcake
Yeah, a game of lasso is a common past time while sitting on the fence.

Lol!!!
Looks pretty normal down here in the lone star state. 🙂

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Posted by Nala13
Just out of curiousty and because I want to know what people think..

What is an unacceptable # of partners at let's say at 30 years of age?

Meaning anything over this # is unacceptable by your personal standards.

If you have no number and could not care if your partner male or female had 100 previous "encounters" then say that too.

if a woman is over 30 and slept with 15+ guys,then you're a trifling whore & i bet your vagina is loose & farty

now with that being said..i may still have a relationship with you depending on how you carry yourself,because i understand a lot of women may have just been young & dumb..but i'd still view you as a whore deep down

So what's the point of being in a relationship with her if you view her as a "justlikeme" deep down?

i can't help it..its like a automatic label that must be stamped upon you..when i was 16,i asked a girl(who was 16 too)who i was going out with that question, and when she said "8"..*shudders*..i was disgusted & damn near didn't want to deal with her anymore,luckily she had a grown woman's ass & it helped me get over it 🙂

but ever since then, i've never asked the question again

so did you make it 9?

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Kinda of lol..we was at the beach, in the water,and i slip it up in her and got few pumps in, but it was too many people around

Posted by LilyTree
This is why I don't understand why polygamy (with restrictions) isn't legal in western society.

I knew I alway liked your way of thinking 🙂

Posted by WaterCup
I don't ask my partners for a number because I know it'll make me see them differently if the number was pretty high. I don't want to know. I'm still curious, though.

15 it too many imo for a 30-year-old. I know people who've been with 30+ partners, though & they're not even 30 themselves.

My gemini friend was telling me about all these guys in her past & I was secretly judging her tbh. One night stands, fwbs, living-in situations with men at her grandmother's house (with her gm also there), etc. It was all too distasteful for me.

OMG why do people like you even have sex than? Maybe you should of stayed a virgin and than married a virgin. Since thats your idea of acceptable.

Posted by Nemesis
let me guess, you are over 30, single & probably live in a cave ..... you were raised by your mother (single parent) household.

hot damn!
response of the year and we're still in january!

Posted by LilyTree
This is why I don't understand why polygamy (with restrictions) isn't legal in western society.

What is why?

*confused*

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Posted by LilyTree
This is why I don't understand why polygamy (with restrictions) isn't legal in western society.

What is why?

*confused*

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The idea that men inherently want/need to be with more than one woman...therefore, polygamy.

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Posted by WaterCup
I don't ask my partners for a number because I know it'll make me see them differently if the number was pretty high. I don't want to know. I'm still curious, though.

15 it too many imo for a 30-year-old. I know people who've been with 30+ partners, though & they're not even 30 themselves.

My gemini friend was telling me about all these guys in her past & I was secretly judging her tbh. One night stands, fwbs, living-in situations with men at her grandmother's house (with her gm also there), etc. It was all too distasteful for me.

OMG why do people like you even have sex than? Maybe you should of stayed a virgin and than married a virgin. Since thats your idea of acceptable.

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Excuse me? You live your life how you want to live & I'll live mine how I want to live it...with as few sexual partners as possible. Promiscuos people aren't void of judgment as well, they'll call you a prude or boring just because you don't want to sleep with some guy. I have restrictions for myself.

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Posted by WaterCup
I don't ask my partners for a number because I know it'll make me see them differently if the number was pretty high. I don't want to know. I'm still curious, though.

15 it too many imo for a 30-year-old. I know people who've been with 30+ partners, though & they're not even 30 themselves.

My gemini friend was telling me about all these guys in her past & I was secretly judging her tbh. One night stands, fwbs, living-in situations with men at her grandmother's house (with her gm also there), etc. It was all too distasteful for me.

OMG why do people like you even have sex than? Maybe you should of stayed a virgin and than married a virgin. Since thats your idea of acceptable.

What gives you the definition of sex, does it mean sleeping with everyone. Oh if you stay true to yourself you shouldn't even bother to have sex in the first place. You are doing the same thing when people call women who have indiscriminate sex sluts to people who don't virgins.

I don't think she said be a virgin and marry a virgin is the only thing that's acceptable.

We must separate sex from love, you know for some people sex is the act of love!!

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You said it better. Thank you. I don't know what being a virgin have to do with not sleeping around. Sex is a basic human right & I shouldn't have it just because I don't want to have it with half the male population in my town? Nah, I don't think so. I'll still have it & still continue to stick to MY standards/rules about it.

I believe that there must be many sexually "outgoing" women out there because I've noticed that men seem shocked when you turn them down sexually. One guy actually asked me where I'm from lol. As if refusing to have sex with him means I'm from some other place or planet lol. He said "You're so different". I know what he meant by that. It didn't stop him from trying, though. He kept trying & trying until I rudely told him to go try elswhere.

Hehe crotch rabies and sex cooties. Love it.


...WHY are there so many topics like this in the last week? Talk about beating a dead horse.