
SelenaKyle
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Posted by Arkansassy
Also.. Contact Iowa senators and look into memorializimg Hwy 13 and use it to get texting/driving laws onto Iowa books.


Posted by nikkistar
For those of you who don't know. My boyfriend lost his father and sister in law, and his brother was injured severely last Saturday. The woman who hit them is a 61 year old grandmother that was texting and driving. Her negligence, caused her to drift over into oncoming traffic. She killed a father, and a 25 yr old newly wed wife.
We are processing as best as we can. But I am struggling with not wanting blood. I have people telling me that I should just forgive her, that she ruined her life. Asking me to have sympathy for her because "grandma". And I am sitting here, thinking these idiots and their bleeding hearts thinking of this "grandma" and not the family of the two people she killed.
I just want to say, fuck her, I hope she goes to prison. I don't care if she didn't mean to. I don't care about being sympathetic to her stupid ass. And I sure as hell am tired of all these people telling me to "forgive".


Posted by LaMadrina
Vengeance only belongs to God. The second you try anything you will find yourself reaping great trouble and granny still might be in the clear. It's hard, and I am extremely sorry for your loss. But please don't do anything to gain more trouble.
If you do decide to fight, definitely do it legally. Throw the book at her if you must. But don't harm her physically.


Posted by GuardianAnu
I wouldn't seek revenge, but I wouldn't let her off lightly either. I don't give a shit how old she is.


Posted by tiziani
That is disappointing that her immediate priority is to cover her own ass.

Posted by Arielle83
She’s up against manslaughter charge?

Posted by Arielle83Posted by nikkistarPosted by Arielle83
She’s up against manslaughter charge?
Two at least, and one assault. Seeing the actual photos of the scene, we are really surprised one of the 3 survived. But the investigator wants to ensure she faces jail time, and is now looking to charge her with everything he can.
Plus texting while driving is like negligence.
Did she hit them and drive off? Like hit and run?
I’m in a hatchback and I have a 30 min commute to and from work on the highway and everyone in a big 4wd is texting. They are in a big vehicle so don’t care about their negligence.
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Posted by nikkistarPosted by tiziani
That is disappointing that her immediate priority is to cover her own ass.
That is what has me the most baffled. It was her upmost priority.click to expand

Posted by Arielle83Posted by nikkistarPosted by Arielle83
She’s up against manslaughter charge?
Two at least, and one assault. Seeing the actual photos of the scene, we are really surprised one of the 3 survived. But the investigator wants to ensure she faces jail time, and is now looking to charge her with everything he can.
Plus texting while driving is like negligence.
Did she hit them and drive off? Like hit and run?
I’m in a hatchback and I have a 30 min commute to and from work on the highway and everyone in a big 4wd is texting. They are in a big vehicle so don’t care about their negligence.
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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
When you say investigator is it the police? Will they be able to get her phone records?
It’s a terrible situation, I hope your boyfriend and his family get justice.

Posted by Arielle83Posted by nikkistarPosted by Arielle83Posted by nikkistarPosted by Arielle83
She’s up against manslaughter charge?
Two at least, and one assault. Seeing the actual photos of the scene, we are really surprised one of the 3 survived. But the investigator wants to ensure she faces jail time, and is now looking to charge her with everything he can.
Plus texting while driving is like negligence.
Did she hit them and drive off? Like hit and run?
I’m in a hatchback and I have a 30 min commute to and from work on the highway and everyone in a big 4wd is texting. They are in a big vehicle so don’t care about their negligence.
No, she couldn't drive off.
Here is an image of the scene of the accident.![]()
Did anyone say anything when she got out of her car?click to expand

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
I am not speaking angrily or hatefully when I say this:
They should throw the book at her. She needs to be punished and sued and fined for not only killing but hiding her assets. I hope her license and vehicle were taken away
Heck, they should take away her grandkid
Also, very sorry for your losses
It is unhealthy for you to check her social media—she is a waste of your energy, let the lawyer and detective take care of it for you
Forgiveness is about releasing the bad energy grudge anger hatred, it’s not for the perpetrator’s benefit at all. Forgiveness is not like saying ‘oh I forgive you, this all cool’
It’s so that you release negative energy so that it doesn’t take over your life and make you sick
You just all need to go through the stages of grief at your own paces
Have faith that God or karma and the law will give her what she deserves
It is not necessary to have empathy for a selfish brat, but eventually you must let her go and move on for your own sanity

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischargePosted by nikkistarPosted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
I am not speaking angrily or hatefully when I say this:
They should throw the book at her. She needs to be punished and sued and fined for not only killing but hiding her assets. I hope her license and vehicle were taken away
Heck, they should take away her grandkid
Also, very sorry for your losses
It is unhealthy for you to check her social media—she is a waste of your energy, let the lawyer and detective take care of it for you
Forgiveness is about releasing the bad energy grudge anger hatred, it’s not for the perpetrator’s benefit at all. Forgiveness is not like saying ‘oh I forgive you, this all cool’
It’s so that you release negative energy so that it doesn’t take over your life and make you sick
You just all need to go through the stages of grief at your own paces
Have faith that God or karma and the law will give her what she deserves
It is not necessary to have empathy for a selfish brat, but eventually you must let her go and move on for your own sanity
I'd like to believe that eventually I will, but I don't know if I will be able to stop obsessively trying to dig up information on her until I see her punished for it all.
I would like to believe that, if there was some sort of remorse from her, in any way, I would be more prone to doing so.
But I can't let it go yet, not til I see her punished in some way. Not til I see her arrested and having to face the family she tore apart.
I have learned that many people are selfish and thus do not feel remorse
You might have to be prepared that she may not feel remorse (maybe in the future she will after punishment)
So you moving on (at your own pace in the future) cannot be dependent on her feeling remorse
This is the lady who put her grandchild in danger and hid her assets cuz she cares more about her money than about the people she killed
Also, the stages of grief/forgiveness obviously take time
Don’t let it take over your life
And I know what you mean about digging up information—you will make yourself sick that wayclick to expand

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischargePosted by nikkistarPosted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
I am not speaking angrily or hatefully when I say this:
They should throw the book at her. She needs to be punished and sued and fined for not only killing but hiding her assets. I hope her license and vehicle were taken away
Heck, they should take away her grandkid
Also, very sorry for your losses
It is unhealthy for you to check her social media—she is a waste of your energy, let the lawyer and detective take care of it for you
Forgiveness is about releasing the bad energy grudge anger hatred, it’s not for the perpetrator’s benefit at all. Forgiveness is not like saying ‘oh I forgive you, this all cool’
It’s so that you release negative energy so that it doesn’t take over your life and make you sick
You just all need to go through the stages of grief at your own paces
Have faith that God or karma and the law will give her what she deserves
It is not necessary to have empathy for a selfish brat, but eventually you must let her go and move on for your own sanity
I'd like to believe that eventually I will, but I don't know if I will be able to stop obsessively trying to dig up information on her until I see her punished for it all.
I would like to believe that, if there was some sort of remorse from her, in any way, I would be more prone to doing so.
But I can't let it go yet, not til I see her punished in some way. Not til I see her arrested and having to face the family she tore apart.
I have learned that many people are selfish and thus do not feel remorse
You might have to be prepared that she may not feel remorse (maybe in the future she will after punishment)
So you moving on (at your own pace in the future) cannot be dependent on her feeling remorse
This is the lady who put her grandchild in danger and hid her assets cuz she cares more about her money than about the people she killed
Also, the stages of grief/forgiveness obviously take time
Don’t let it take over your life
And I know what you mean about digging up information—you will make yourself sick that wayclick to expand

Posted by heliumfiasco
Oh my god. Where is the car?!?! That is horrific.


Posted by NemDeux
if this is going to court or any sort of official legal proceeding and you´re involved in some way shape or form (joint plaintiff etc)- take this off the internet.
you are not the only person who can do internet research. and dig up info.
she too has lawyers, and apparently good ones. who can figure things out.
this should not be exposed like this. it is confidential and might hurt the case.

Posted by NemDeuxPosted by nikkistarPosted by NemDeux
if this is going to court or any sort of official legal proceeding and you´re involved in some way shape or form (joint plaintiff etc)- take this off the internet.
you are not the only person who can do internet research. and dig up info.
she too has lawyers, and apparently good ones. who can figure things out.
this should not be exposed like this. it is confidential and might hurt the case.
I am not listed in the court papers at all. They don't even have my real legal name listed in the obituary.
I can hide, very well.
you´re on the obituary...
why jeopardize it?
take it down for your own good and out of respect for your fam.click to expand

Posted by Apis
Did you get the message I sent you about GIS?

Posted by NemDeuxPosted by nikkistarPosted by NemDeuxPosted by nikkistarPosted by NemDeux
if this is going to court or any sort of official legal proceeding and you´re involved in some way shape or form (joint plaintiff etc)- take this off the internet.
you are not the only person who can do internet research. and dig up info.
she too has lawyers, and apparently good ones. who can figure things out.
this should not be exposed like this. it is confidential and might hurt the case.
I am not listed in the court papers at all. They don't even have my real legal name listed in the obituary.
I can hide, very well.
you´re on the obituary...
why jeopardize it?
take it down for your own good and out of respect for your fam.
Thanks for your concern, but given I will continue not to list names, nor have my real legal name anywhere close to the documents, I can and will process this information on my own terms.
You are entitled to say what you want, but I am also entitled to process this the way I want for myself.
I know fully well, what can and cannot be used in the court of law.
there are also civil courts ....but suit yourself.
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Posted by brianafay
I’ve tried to put myself in your shoes and think if this were my loved ones...and bottom line for me is what she did can never be righted ...there is no “revenge” that would suffice. There is no redemption in my mind. Even her being prosecuted to the fullest does very little, if anything, to ease my pain.
So if I were to give you advice on forgiving her it would only be for your own wellness, not because she deserves it. She has already caused you all enough pain and suffering ...would be a great weight off your hearts if you were able to let the anger towards her go and move on, using your energy to honor your loved ones instead.
...and I think you will get there with time. It’s certainly not going to happen over night. And maybe for you, seeing justice being served (or what you deem as satisfactory given the situation) will help you get to that point.
It’s easy for other people on the outside looking in to give advice like that from the comfort of their homes being so removed from the situation.
You’re the one who has to live this everyday, so you deal with it however you need to

Posted by nikkistarPosted by brianafay
I’ve tried to put myself in your shoes and think if this were my loved ones...and bottom line for me is what she did can never be righted ...there is no “revenge” that would suffice. There is no redemption in my mind. Even her being prosecuted to the fullest does very little, if anything, to ease my pain.
So if I were to give you advice on forgiving her it would only be for your own wellness, not because she deserves it. She has already caused you all enough pain and suffering ...would be a great weight off your hearts if you were able to let the anger towards her go and move on, using your energy to honor your loved ones instead.
...and I think you will get there with time. It’s certainly not going to happen over night. And maybe for you, seeing justice being served (or what you deem as satisfactory given the situation) will help you get to that point.
It’s easy for other people on the outside looking in to give advice like that from the comfort of their homes being so removed from the situation.
You’re the one who has to live this everyday, so you deal with it however you need to
Thanks babe.
I am glad we are friends. And I often forget, how well you know me at times.click to expand
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She may have been advised not to, im assuming she has an attorney. She's "claiming" to not remember so they may have told her not to admit guilt. Sucks balls but she may never apologize or anything. But I agree, she should have a proxy express condolences.