HELP! I'm madly in love with a Pisces man

Right so I'm a 17 year old Leo sun/Cancer moon/Pisces rising girl and I've found myself in love with a Pisces man who's in his early 20s (we do performing arts together but he does an advanced version of the same course I'm doing so we see eachother rarely- like once a week) I've known him since last september/october and I have felt gravitated towards him ever since I first saw him. We are merely aquaintances but we have shared some "moments" where I felt like he perhaps has an interest in me. We've shared many lingering glances at each other (including a "creep-off" staring competition with our faces close to each other- where I had to pull away or I might have kissed him there in front of everyone) and some little jokes but nothing besides that. We are hardly together alone and when we are he does tend to linger a little (one case would be when I arrive before everyone else he'll arrive and pop his head through the door, ask where his teacher is, ill respond that they went somewhere else or I dont know and then he'll stay by the door, looking around the obviously empty room for about 30 seconds as if he was trying to find something then he'll leave)

I need serious help, since I have no clue how to handle this sitiation and I feel as though he only sees me as this young'un who he can share some laughs with occasionally. I've no idea what these encounters signify and how i should behave towards him now. I want persue him and flirt like the leo that I am. But I dont want to scare him away with my forwardness. Are there any ways to spark a conversation with him that would allow him to open up and want to get to know me? Are we even compatible? How do I use my body language to interest him? What are Pisces men attracted to?

But most importantly, how and when do I make my feelings known to him so that it my be reciprocated? It could very well be his final year doing the course and I really want to have a serious thing with him before its too late.

Well to start with: you're already someone he likes so no need to change your body language. 🙂
hm..
now you need to think of "casual" ways to get in contact.
And this is where we thank the stars for social media. 😆

okay.
So does he have a facebook? Maybe you could look for your school and find him through there.
or just say: "Oh I made a group on facebook just for this class, is it ok if I add you so you can be a part of it too?" >>
you can just make a very quick one. And ask some other friends if you want to so it seems "less obvious" in the public eye.

>o>

and then once you have him there , there's a chat thingy.
obviously.

And,
if he doesn't have facebook, we can think of other things.

I have him on facebook and ive tried talking to him but he seems very unresponsive, with one worded messages. And im terrified of messaging him again only to recieve the same detachment as previously mentioned since ill take it as rejection.

I dont know whether i ought to just walk up to him and start a conversation with him or just stick to the eye contact flirting. Because all i wanna do is go all sensual and stare at him deeply into his eyes and whisper something similar to "your eyes are fascinating" or say something in french. But then the shy, anxious cancer inside me is internally screaming and thinking that its a bad idea £

What's the legal age of consent in your state/area?

If it's 18 than he may be intentionally keeping his distance. *points at the one word responses on fb.

He can't get in trouble by eye fucking you and it probably won't go any further than that...

Im from england so the age of consent is 16. And I have dated an older guy before and we lasted for over 2 years so im experienced in that sector. And I look a few years older so its not that I look like a child either ;3

In that case make your move. What are you waiting for?

As a Pisces I can say we tend to be more passive when it comes to putting ourselves out there.

So do your Leo self and strike up a conversation with him. Maybe it leads to more. Maybe not. Either way you have a short window of time before he's out of reach (gone from the class?).

But obsessing over him is not healthy and a huge waste of your time imo.

Thank you for the advise and I'll try to tone down the internal craziness (and I'm in the first year of the course whilst he's doing degree level in the same college. It could be that it's his final year or he might be staying. But knowing my luck it'll probably be the former) ‚

I would really like to make the first move but I don't know how to do that in a way that he'll respond to it well. And how can I tell that he's interested?

Do the flirting, be interested. Probably the best option.

As a young Pisces male I can tell I prefer being pursued more than doing it myself. It's important to feel like I can trust the one I'm talking with, before going for them. what I think is that Pisces men can be shy and afraid to get hurt, which is why they're often not the ones to take steps first.
I'm basing most of this on myself and the Pisces stereotype though - remember that these people can be very, very different, so it's hard to give advice on.

You might have confidence already, while he may feel like he has something to lose if he does go for you..
So do the flirting, be interested. Probably the best option. Good luck 🙂

And just talk to him, don't have expectations !

Right well I messed up. I was gonna use social media to my advantage and say hi in a unique way (a reference to a nerdy thing since he into that) and I then proceeded to screenshot it to send to a friend then tell her that I finally got the courage to say hi. I then instead of sending it to my friend I sent it to him with the message "I went all pokemon on his ass" which was intended to be for the friend. And I panicked and sent him a few messages with sorrys (since when you delete a message ito can't be deleted on their end only on yours). Luckily he hasn't seen it (this happened last night) and i sent a message to sorta explained myself. It's been over 24 hours and he hasn't seen it so hopefully things won't be awkward in the morning when I see him in class T_T

Geez I'm a clumsy mess when I have a crush on someone

As a pisces man I will say that he most likely will not be the one to make the first move, we love to be admired, no but not worshipped, the key would be to let him know you like him, maybe by walking up to him and initiating the convorsation, he will greatly find that alluring and be more than willing to try n get a few laughs out of you and make you smile, we pisces are very aware of what others see when they look at us so it's sometimes hard for us to show our interest in someone because we feel that the little tiny things that's go unnoticed are enough because to us, they were huge and unmistakable. We enjoy "the hunt" so to say so don't throw yourself at him because if it's too easy we will humor you and enjoy the flirtatious behavior but we won't see it much further, it's kinda hard to respect someone kissing your ass.... right? I'd say just walk up n start a little chat with him and let him know your interested without fully throwing it out there and when it's time, with a smile walk away and be sure to look back as you distanced yourself a bit and give him a big cute smile, that will leave him thinking of you driving him crazy till next time you see eachother, and possibly next time he will come initiate the convo with you, it's that simple, confidence is key, we love nothing more than a woman who is sure of herself. 🙂 good luck, I hope it goes well for you and him.

I just wanted to add that the goal here isn't to get him, the goal is to get him to start seeking you, at least for me, I don't really just agree to see someone who is after me, I have to work for it, it's got to be someone I am trying to get, so it's a game of patience, you have to get him to allow you into his shell but at the same time make him feel you like him, but you could do without aswell... so you must resist your urges to message him in between classes, at least until he begins to try and get your attention, maybe even try n make him a bit jealous, if he feels as though you possibly might not be an option soon it may make him kick into gear, this is what works for me anyways. Good luck. 🙂

Right so I've taken your advice @MattPiFish and I've stepped away slight and just started to get to know him. We've only talked online one other time and it was quite successful. We just talked about our interests got to know each other and we hung out once outside of class and never seemed to run out of things to talk about. Im glad that it's going so well so far. I'm gonna take it each day as it comes and get some pisces "go with the flow" attitude as well Š. He's often described me as "energetic" which I hope is a compliment.

Overall: so far so good

lol .... you must be easy.


the guy only looked at you ... I'll bet it wouldn't take much for your panties to fall down .. he probably only has to sneeze in your direction

People who think with their dicks/vaginas are what is retarding our species growth in evolution.

You know nothing about him, except how long he stands in a doorway ... and you come here all dramatic and shit proclaiming mad love.



You sound like a child. Adults actually take their time, and put in effort to find out if a person is worth them and their love. YOU?


the guy just has to stand in a doorway, or just be in the same school as you ..... and you can't even manage to have a grip on yourself.

Posted by risesafterall

...... don't have expectations !

Everything she has said is riddled with expectation. In fact, he hasn't done anything except linger in a doorway, and look at her in a staring contest .... and she comes here to describe to us how she can't even regard him the same because of how she expects him to view her.

She said, "now" .... as if just because she has little feelings, that he has "now" changed.


lol ...... that's what separates the adults from the children.

Posted by Jesska

..... and how i should behave towards him now.

there's no "now" .. because he hasn't changed the parameters of your relation.

so that means you've developed expectations of him to perform in ways to make you feel better, so that you may know how to reciprocate feelings to him that he has never insinuated were there.

"energetic" I would only use this term if I felt someone was a little too overexcited about me, calm it a little..chill! Your only 17 you will have lots of attractions to lots of other men as the years go by, just carry on getting to know him and keep your options open as well, I bet he does the same, if things are meant to happen they will, don't forget a relationship is only at the point its at in reality, not in your head, when he commits to you officially then you can get excited about your future, not before..ok not trying to be judgmental, just trying to help you not get too overwhelmed with your young feelings, been there..done that x

Posted by Jesska
Right so I've taken your advice @MattPiFish and I've stepped away slight and just started to get to know him. We've only talked online one other time and it was quite successful. We just talked about our interests got to know each other and we hung out once outside of class and never seemed to run out of things to talk about. Im glad that it's going so well so far. I'm gonna take it each day as it comes and get some pisces "go with the flow" attitude as well Š. He's often described me as "energetic" which I hope is a compliment.

Overall: so far so good

don't friendzone yourself OP