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Best way to approach this man?
Posted by TheRabbitAny particular reason?
Don't.
I was just thinking would a direct approach be good? Or more subtle?
I am nervous about that Scorpio thing! haha
I am nervous about that Scorpio thing! haha
Posted by UnwordingHELL NO! hahahaha
Is this the "creepy/intense" scorp?
Maybe i'll do nothing. I'm just trying to see if I did... what would be best. lol
Just be true to yourself. Also never hide the truth.
Be a warm sunshine type of vibe, I feel Scorpio tends to feed off the positive warmt energy, until they drain all your warmth and leave you cold when they grow bored.
Good luck.
Be a warm sunshine type of vibe, I feel Scorpio tends to feed off the positive warmt energy, until they drain all your warmth and leave you cold when they grow bored.
Good luck.
Posted by LittleStarInteresting. He has tried to date me before. Then once I try to step it up, he slides wayyyyyy back to a point of disinterest. Then we dont talk for like two months. Then he reaches out, we hangout for 3 months...he starts making comments like "why dont you just date me"...etc etc. I move forward..... he then moves all the way back. Its weird.
Yeah... I think as soon as you have it in your head that you want to get him the faster you will drive him away.
Just be yourself and focus on your life and well being and if he wants to be a part of your life, he will make himself known.
So now I just cant decide to approach it once and for all.... what the avenue I would take would be if I did... or to just leave it be.
Just thinking out loud on this.
Just push him over and rape him lol
Posted by greengemini_Haha. Ive only dated one Cap, he was great. Never a Taurus! hmmmm?!
Chick you need a taurus or a cap. So you guys can be judgemental together. With all that Virgo you got.
Posted by heliumfiascoI have not had a Scorpio act the way you describe. It's always been high drama even when in "stealth mode."Posted by LittleStar
Yeah... I think as soon as you have it in your head that you want to get him the faster you will drive him away.
Just be yourself and focus on your life and well being and if he wants to be a part of your life, he will make himself known.
Interesting. He has tried to date me before. Then once I try to step it up, he slides wayyyyyy back to a point of disinterest. Then we dont talk for like two months. Then he reaches out, we hangout for 3 months...he starts making comments like "why dont you just date me"...etc etc. I move forward..... he then moves all the way back. Its weird.
So now I just cant decide to approach it once and for all.... what the avenue I would take would be if I did... or to just leave it be.
Just thinking out loud on this.click to expand
If you rejected him, this may be the cat and mouse game whereas he is killing you softly. I don't know what you said or how you rejected him but I would rewind and analyze that occurrence very carefully and minutely from what you think his perspective may have been.
Secondly, you may be percieved as playing games or insincere. Within the periods of time that he is not contacting you or when he finally reaches out, you show no concern or questioning of what's going on. And, it seems that you don't reach out at all, minus your one attempt to which you say he pulls way back. You state, "waaayyy" back. What constitutes such emphasis? Ignoring your phone calls?
Keep in mind he may have other women he is pursuing or that are pursuing him... past, present, and/or future. So, he may have distractions to entertain because, and besides, you may be the least viable and appear to be the least interested.
These men are very discerning and contemplative... whether right or wrong in their assessment or judgement, there's much to be said for their mental and emotional efforts.
Hmm, I have the same Sun and Venus. Nothing else.
I don't like when people chase me, because it's too easy. lol
I don't like when people chase me, because it's too easy. lol
Okay... so I intended to just be kind of casual with this post- meaning I just wanted to know about the placements and if you should be direct or not. Ive tried to pull away from elaborate relationship posts cause I yawn at them at this point.
HOWEVER!!!!! hahah since ya'll mentioned it.
We tried to date when we were 18 and again last Summer. I was a trainwreck and NOT ready to date. He was a sweetheart but kind of coldly detached from me. Which is fine. I deserved it. I went about my life.
Then in February he starts reaching out. Like "You dont call, text me anymore. whats up?" (He knows damn well why.) We start hanging out as friends again. I tell him about my dating issues blah blah. He constantly tells me jokingly "just date me"...etc. I start to realize he's a really good guy, I start kind of getting feelings more than friends. We start hanging out like twice a week. Then one night we go out for drinks.... we're flirty. I text him that night "We've been doing this back and forth shit for like 18 years.... we gonna date or what?" He replies "Can you please ask me this tomorrow...its late, im stressed. Just please.".... I feel rejected... I tell him in the morning "sorry for making shit awkward!" He says it's all good. We hangout twice more after that seemingly fine. I try to show more interest, flirt more when we hangout. I think he kind of attempts to address what happened but seems hesitant, so I dont push it. Then he kind of becomes snappy with me. Starts dodging my hangouts. So last week I say more or less "It looks like something happened here. Im not sure what, so you know where to find me" Nothing.
So I see where I made a mistake.... but IDK how to fix it or approach it now. Or if I even should.
HOWEVER!!!!! hahah since ya'll mentioned it.
We tried to date when we were 18 and again last Summer. I was a trainwreck and NOT ready to date. He was a sweetheart but kind of coldly detached from me. Which is fine. I deserved it. I went about my life.
Then in February he starts reaching out. Like "You dont call, text me anymore. whats up?" (He knows damn well why.) We start hanging out as friends again. I tell him about my dating issues blah blah. He constantly tells me jokingly "just date me"...etc. I start to realize he's a really good guy, I start kind of getting feelings more than friends. We start hanging out like twice a week. Then one night we go out for drinks.... we're flirty. I text him that night "We've been doing this back and forth shit for like 18 years.... we gonna date or what?" He replies "Can you please ask me this tomorrow...its late, im stressed. Just please.".... I feel rejected... I tell him in the morning "sorry for making shit awkward!" He says it's all good. We hangout twice more after that seemingly fine. I try to show more interest, flirt more when we hangout. I think he kind of attempts to address what happened but seems hesitant, so I dont push it. Then he kind of becomes snappy with me. Starts dodging my hangouts. So last week I say more or less "It looks like something happened here. Im not sure what, so you know where to find me" Nothing.
So I see where I made a mistake.... but IDK how to fix it or approach it now. Or if I even should.
Posted by greengemini_lmao ;p
Chick you need a taurus or a cap. So you guys can be judgemental together. With all that Virgo you got.
thats good.
I think you can tell there is a strong energy there with Scorpios! very strong! But they are confusing as hell and you dont know how to navigate it! is it positive? is it negative? is it both simultaneously?..... this scorpio does like me... he is cautious of me.... very cautious of me. Which could put a stop on the whole damn thing. haha To proceed or not....
Posted by heliumfiascoIf a Scorpio is flip-flopping like this it's not a good sign.Posted by LittleStar
Yeah... I think as soon as you have it in your head that you want to get him the faster you will drive him away.
Just be yourself and focus on your life and well being and if he wants to be a part of your life, he will make himself known.
Interesting. He has tried to date me before. Then once I try to step it up, he slides wayyyyyy back to a point of disinterest. Then we dont talk for like two months. Then he reaches out, we hangout for 3 months...he starts making comments like "why dont you just date me"...etc etc. I move forward..... he then moves all the way back. Its weird.
So now I just cant decide to approach it once and for all.... what the avenue I would take would be if I did... or to just leave it be.
Just thinking out loud on this. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
One thing I don't get it, you know him for more than a decade and you guys still don't get each other? And why would he say things to lead you on and then back off? That doesn't sound promising to me
I have few scorp guy friends and I'm sure if I were to show little interest, they will chase me hard and focus will be on me. They won't pull back. Your friend is confusing. Not saying this to hurt you but it feels off to me.
I moved away for 13 years.... we only reconnected last Summer. He found me online... so not exactly.... we ran in the same group back in the day.
You don't approach aries moon, aries moon approaches you 😉
Posted by TheRabbit
Don't.
Hmph. I have to co-sign on this.
Yeah. Maybe a lot of you are right and I should leave it alone. It’s just so confusing. When we are together the chemistry is intense. You can cut the tension with a knife. But it’s like we’re both terrified. It’s stalled. He also won’t communicate with me about how he feels until weeks/ months later.
Our perceptions of events are always way off. He claims I left him high and dry when we were younger. I remember it the opposite and feeling the same way.
He gets possessive when we are out. It’s like we’re a couple. But it seems like we’re always a couple steps off from each other.
To put the situation into an analogy.....
He makes a comment to open a door, I decide to step in the door and have a seat... but he is hesitant to sit down immediately next to me, so I feel uncomfortable and leave.... he gets passive aggressive about me leaving.... And repeat.
I just wish I could communicate better with him. But sometimes that just doesn’t happen.
Thanks for the input you lovely folks! 😘
Our perceptions of events are always way off. He claims I left him high and dry when we were younger. I remember it the opposite and feeling the same way.
He gets possessive when we are out. It’s like we’re a couple. But it seems like we’re always a couple steps off from each other.
To put the situation into an analogy.....
He makes a comment to open a door, I decide to step in the door and have a seat... but he is hesitant to sit down immediately next to me, so I feel uncomfortable and leave.... he gets passive aggressive about me leaving.... And repeat.
I just wish I could communicate better with him. But sometimes that just doesn’t happen.
Thanks for the input you lovely folks! 😘
Posted by heliumfiasco
What would theoretically be a good way to approach a man with this chart....?
Scorpio Sun
Aries Moon
Scorpio Merc
Sag Venus
Cap Mars
that's quite the chart there
Posted by TauroooPosted by heliumfiascothat's quite the chart there click to expand
What would theoretically be a good way to approach a man with this chart....?
Scorpio Sun
Aries Moon
Scorpio Merc
Sag Venus
Cap Marsclick to expand
Is it? I wish I knew better how to understand how placements interact with one another when looking at a complete chart.
I feel like all his placements scream as shole lmao and hoe. Also he has "chaser" placements. Just look good af and pretend he doesn't exist but like lock eyes somehow lmao and then go about your life...if this makes sense.
Posted by heliumfiascoPosted by TauroooPosted by heliumfiasco
What would theoretically be a good way to approach a man with this chart....?
Scorpio Sun
Aries Moon
Scorpio Merc
Sag Venus
Cap Mars
that's quite the chart there click to expand
Is it? I wish I knew better how to understand how placements interact with one another when looking at a complete chart. click to expandclick to expand
use this webste it'll help a lot. link below
http://astro.cafeastrology.com/natal.php
You seem to have a thing for challenging Scorp men---or maybe it's the same Scorp dude being recycled. Maybe it's time to get off the rollercoaster?
Anyway, with this dude direct is probably the best approach*. Elly pretty much captured it:
Anyway, with this dude direct is probably the best approach*. Elly pretty much captured it:
Posted by Ellygant*if direct isn't really your style , walk away now. No use in starting something you can't maintain otherwise he'll turn the tables.
‘Are we gonna date now or nah?’
Anything less than an enthusiastic yes and he’ll end up just being a mess. If he gives a flippant answer, then go against your libra niceties and stop talking to him till he gives you a yes or a no.
If he says no or he’s not sure, when he comes back around in a few months asking for a shot, say ‘That’s nice. But I’m not sure you’re serious. Take another month to see how you feel and we’ll talk then.’
All this assuming, you want to take a real run at things. I know you’ve written about struggling with commitment and consistency within yourself before. If that’s still something you struggle with the best this advice will be about useless. You have to be certain when dealing with fixed signs.
Posted by PhoenixRisingI took your guy's advice and I feel better about it. I asked him directly and he said he doesn't have those feelings and would like to be friends. Which was good because for several months he was confusing me. Telling me we should date etc, but I guess just joking. At least I know and can move forward. Usually I would allow this type of thing to fester and bother me. I feel good about being frank and also handling the rejection well. It shows me the work ive been doing on myself has been working!
You seem to have a thing for challenging Scorp men---or maybe it's the same Scorp dude being recycled. Maybe it's time to get off the rollercoaster?
Anyway, with this dude direct is probably the best approach*. Elly pretty much captured it:Posted by Ellygant
‘Are we gonna date now or nah?’
Anything less than an enthusiastic yes and he’ll end up just being a mess. If he gives a flippant answer, then go against your libra niceties and stop talking to him till he gives you a yes or a no.
If he says no or he’s not sure, when he comes back around in a few months asking for a shot, say ‘That’s nice. But I’m not sure you’re serious. Take another month to see how you feel and we’ll talk then.’
All this assuming, you want to take a real run at things. I know you’ve written about struggling with commitment and consistency within yourself before. If that’s still something you struggle with the best this advice will be about useless. You have to be certain when dealing with fixed signs.
*if direct isn't really your style , walk away now. No use in starting something you can't maintain otherwise he'll turn the tables. click to expandclick to expand
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