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Just to update you I have just got back from hers she asked me round for tea and I said ok.
We was led in bed and she was cuddling into me and then I looked at the time and said I better go as I'm getting tired and I know you are as well.
Then when I got up from the bed she said to me you can stay you know.
I replied no I can't and I said are you going to see me out and she said yes of course.
Walked down stairs and would not let go of me and then I was driving home and nearly back at my place and she text saying (thank you for a good night together and I miss you already so this, going back to basics seems to be working) what she doesn't understand is that it's actually doing the opposite for me to be honest it's making me pull more away from her.
Earlier on in the night she was led on her bed on her phone and I was stood in the door way she was pushing her ass up and down on the bed trying to make out she wanted sex trying to turn me on not going to lie I had to look away or she may of turnt me on 😅 and then she looked behind and smiled and smirking at me.
SMH So you're not done lol
At least learn to play the game then.
Take notes of you sticking to your ground and not giving in as being what works and what turns her on.
All it boils down to is you not acting out of desperation and being needy and she starts acting normal, like a typical female.
Hopefully you can be comfortable doing more of this.
So today since this morning she has been in a terrible mood and said she doesn't know why she's just having one of them days, anyway we decided to meet up after work with our children.
When I got to her house she was ready to go on a walk together like we agreed yet she wouldn't greet me properly so I went up to her smiled and gave her a kiss.
She was still in this terrible mood she said I tried to ring you but you missed the call and I did as I was driving to hers.
I said sorry I was driving to yours she said I was going to say i picked up my little girl from nursery/playschool and the worker came out and said your daughter has been saying she doesn't want to play with one of the kids and saying she doesn't want to be her friends etc as kids do sometimes.
She said it was embarrassing to hear that and I haven't brought up my children to be like that.
She then said its because our children argue between eachother and that is where she's getting it from and I said yeah they do from time to time but that is kids she could be picking it up anywhere.
She was in a right mood so I said come on let's go back I can tell you don't want to go on this walk etc.
So we did and I went home and she stayed at hers in a piss didn't even say goodbye to me properly.
I got home and I rang her and I said I understand how you must of felt hearing that and I am not interested in an argument with you.
I suggest that we keep the girls apart for now until they appreciate seeing eachother and letting eachother play together and be nice to eachother.
She said thank you for supporting me yet still didn't want to talk.
So i left it an hour and text her saying Look it's about dealing with the problem together and coming up with a solution, not fighting eachother.
I understand you have woken up in a shit mood and your feeling the way you are today we all have day's like that I get it best thing to do is go have a bath and some time alone once the kids are in bed and relax I get it listen I love you it's okay and I'm here when you want to talk xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.
So I left it until tonight as didn't hear anything from her yet she was on facebook and I spoke to her on the phone I tried to be calm and talk to her yet she said I don't want to talk over the phone can we text as I don't want my oldest to hear and I said I havent really spoken to you though and it would be good to.
She said to me I am going to cut you off and I said I don't want to argue just talk and she cut me off. I text her saying wow thanks for that and she text saying you wouldn't listen so I cut you off and then I text to say what so it's okay to treat me like that isit ? . She said I just want to focus on my girls. So I put back Okay. And that has been the end of it at the moment.
So the little girl is establishing her own boundaries of not liking someone at daycare and your girlfriend blames you and your kids?
And you called and said sorry and agreed to keep your children away from hers.
So you're gonna go over there without your kids, but hang around her and hers?
Is this what you've typed out? Kids will be kids and they need to learn problem solving techniques just like adults.
"She didn't greet you properly or say goodbye to you properly?" lol -Yet you could clearly see she was in a mood- It's not about you right now, she was clearly distracted with her kid. If the situation was the other way around, would you remember niceties or be distracted? Parents usually put their children first.
The whole seeing her on Facebook but not talking to you is needy. She said she was in a bad mood. She said she can text, gave you the reason as to why it was more convenient, but that wasn't good enough.
You should've just said,
"I'd rather hear your voice, so call me when you're free"- NOT NEEDY
"I haven't really spoken to you though, and it would be good to"- NEEDY AND DISREGARDING WHAT'S GOING ON WITH HER.
Can you see the difference in wording?
You guys take fake breaks every 5 minutes (I'm exaggerating if you can't tell) when neither of you get your way and when both of you are being demanding of the other person time.
Neither of you seem to realize that the other person doesn't HAVE to do anything. It's about them wanting to do it.
When she offers the olive branch, take it if you want to chat or offer another alternative for a later date. It's pretty simple. Things don't have to be so "My way or the highway, if not I will try to guilt trip you"
I'm sure she knows what you're doing, which is why she "broke up" with you again, because that's what bugs you.
You guys like staying in this childs game of tit for tat.
It will be more of a relationship when you can compromise and please each other instead of being so selfish.
You two need to do the same exercises that your children are doing, in order to learn to get along better.
I hate this there is nothing I like about it being like this I am not trying to guilt trip her or have it my way this is why I text her saying I understand that it must be hard to hear about her daughter and also came up with an alternative to help for now it isn't my fault that she can't get her head out her ass she was in a right piss I feel like I am banging my head against the wall she wanted to take it slow between us where we don't stay together on the nights at the moment and we have been yet she's need in this mood all day and pretty much puts the blame on my kids not just that I know it's not just about me but there is no need to treat me in that way if I done that to her she'd be proper pissed off to the max.
I'm not sure what she's talking about. You two have been doing this for 2 years right? What's "taking it slow"?
The spending the night thing seems more about her creating space and boundaries because you have none and invade hers. So she's treating you like a child.
If she's in a pissy mood, let her be. It's not your job to fix. Let her come to you if she needs you. Instead of you offering so many solutions to things that aren't in your control anyways.
What happened at the childs school being blamed on your kids is crazy. You should've said you didn't think it had anything to do with it and kept it short about kids being kids and it's part of the getting along and problem solving.
You have older kids. You've been a parent long enough to know kids work out problems and forget about them way easier than adults ever could.
Yes I do know this about kids however her response to me saying its just kids etc is no its not just kids blah blah its come from all the kids arguing etc she's copying them .
How many kids does she have?
You have 3 right?
How are the kids arguing and fighting so much when their parents are there? Do you guys discipline your kids or what?click to expand
Yes I do have 3 she has 2, and we are there always disciplining them when needed.
When the are all together sometimes on the nights the argue or one won't play with the other and we have to step in and sort it out. But that hasn't really happened for a while now tbh with you.
Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Just to update you I have just got back from hers she asked me round for tea and I said ok.
We was led in bed and she was cuddling into me and then I looked at the time and said I better go as I'm getting tired and I know you are as well.
Then when I got up from the bed she said to me you can stay you know.
I replied no I can't and I said are you going to see me out and she said yes of course.
Walked down stairs and would not let go of me and then I was driving home and nearly back at my place and she text saying (thank you for a good night together and I miss you already so this, going back to basics seems to be working) what she doesn't understand is that it's actually doing the opposite for me to be honest it's making me pull more away from her.
Earlier on in the night she was led on her bed on her phone and I was stood in the door way she was pushing her ass up and down on the bed trying to make out she wanted sex trying to turn me on not going to lie I had to look away or she may of turnt me on 😅 and then she looked behind and smiled and smirking at me.
SMH So you're not done lol
At least learn to play the game then.
Take notes of you sticking to your ground and not giving in as being what works and what turns her on.
All it boils down to is you not acting out of desperation and being needy and she starts acting normal, like a typical female.
Hopefully you can be comfortable doing more of this.
So today since this morning she has been in a terrible mood and said she doesn't know why she's just having one of them days, anyway we decided to meet up after work with our children.
When I got to her house she was ready to go on a walk together like we agreed yet she wouldn't greet me properly so I went up to her smiled and gave her a kiss.
She was still in this terrible mood she said I tried to ring you but you missed the call and I did as I was driving to hers.
I said sorry I was driving to yours she said I was going to say i picked up my little girl from nursery/playschool and the worker came out and said your daughter has been saying she doesn't want to play with one of the kids and saying she doesn't want to be her friends etc as kids do sometimes.
She said it was embarrassing to hear that and I haven't brought up my children to be like that.
She then said its because our children argue between eachother and that is where she's getting it from and I said yeah they do from time to time but that is kids she could be picking it up anywhere.
She was in a right mood so I said come on let's go back I can tell you don't want to go on this walk etc.
So we did and I went home and she stayed at hers in a piss didn't even say goodbye to me properly.
I got home and I rang her and I said I understand how you must of felt hearing that and I am not interested in an argument with you.
I suggest that we keep the girls apart for now until they appreciate seeing eachother and letting eachother play together and be nice to eachother.
She said thank you for supporting me yet still didn't want to talk.
So i left it an hour and text her saying Look it's about dealing with the problem together and coming up with a solution, not fighting eachother.
I understand you have woken up in a shit mood and your feeling the way you are today we all have day's like that I get it best thing to do is go have a bath and some time alone once the kids are in bed and relax I get it listen I love you it's okay and I'm here when you want to talk xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.
So I left it until tonight as didn't hear anything from her yet she was on facebook and I spoke to her on the phone I tried to be calm and talk to her yet she said I don't want to talk over the phone can we text as I don't want my oldest to hear and I said I havent really spoken to you though and it would be good to.
She said to me I am going to cut you off and I said I don't want to argue just talk and she cut me off. I text her saying wow thanks for that and she text saying you wouldn't listen so I cut you off and then I text to say what so it's okay to treat me like that isit ? . She said I just want to focus on my girls. So I put back Okay. And that has been the end of it at the moment.
So the little girl is establishing her own boundaries of not liking someone at daycare and your girlfriend blames you and your kids?
And you called and said sorry and agreed to keep your children away from hers.
So you're gonna go over there without your kids, but hang around her and hers?
Is this what you've typed out? Kids will be kids and they need to learn problem solving techniques just like adults.
"She didn't greet you properly or say goodbye to you properly?" lol -Yet you could clearly see she was in a mood- It's not about you right now, she was clearly distracted with her kid. If the situation was the other way around, would you remember niceties or be distracted? Parents usually put their children first.
The whole seeing her on Facebook but not talking to you is needy. She said she was in a bad mood. She said she can text, gave you the reason as to why it was more convenient, but that wasn't good enough.
You should've just said,
"I'd rather hear your voice, so call me when you're free"- NOT NEEDY
"I haven't really spoken to you though, and it would be good to"- NEEDY AND DISREGARDING WHAT'S GOING ON WITH HER.
Can you see the difference in wording?
You guys take fake breaks every 5 minutes (I'm exaggerating if you can't tell) when neither of you get your way and when both of you are being demanding of the other person time.
Neither of you seem to realize that the other person doesn't HAVE to do anything. It's about them wanting to do it.
When she offers the olive branch, take it if you want to chat or offer another alternative for a later date. It's pretty simple. Things don't have to be so "My way or the highway, if not I will try to guilt trip you"
I'm sure she knows what you're doing, which is why she "broke up" with you again, because that's what bugs you.
You guys like staying in this childs game of tit for tat.
It will be more of a relationship when you can compromise and please each other instead of being so selfish.
You two need to do the same exercises that your children are doing, in order to learn to get along better.
Also, I have been calm and listened to how she has been unhappy lately yet she is really making it hard yes I could word things better but all I really want is to get rid of this mess once and for all and sort it out its really draining.
She's gonna endlessly complain lol She knows you're there to wipe her ass if she needs it. You give no resistance to anything at all, which in turns most likely annoys her.
I'm kindof waiting on her request for you to not bring your kids to her place at all and just leave them with their mom when you come around.
When you say knows I'm there to wipe her ass what because I tried to come up with a solution if I turnt around and said its noting to do with the kids arguing it would of turnt into another argument she would of said oh you don't support me or have my back etc.click to expand
It's nice that you try and come up with solutions, it's not that. She didn't ask for one. She was frustrated at what happened with her kid, vented to you and mentioned she thought it had to do with your kids (which is bullshit, IMO)
Then you wanted to come up with a solution to an issue that she was just venting and "talking out of the side of her ass" about.
You should have common sense to know that anything her kid does to another kid at daycare has nothing to do with yours. Unless it's something like biting.
But the kid not wanting to play with another kid? That's a normal part of child development.
Now if the kid pushed or punched, and your kids taught her, I would understand where the Gemini was coming from.
You listen almost too intently to her every whim. You can't differentiate when she's just "talking to talk", like Geminis do.
You could NOT call her for 1 hour out of 24 and she could say "You never call me", so in turn you call her every hour and wonder why they will be ignored by her.
You go above and beyond for her. It's unnecessary and it's draining for you.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Just to update you I have just got back from hers she asked me round for tea and I said ok.
We was led in bed and she was cuddling into me and then I looked at the time and said I better go as I'm getting tired and I know you are as well.
Then when I got up from the bed she said to me you can stay you know.
I replied no I can't and I said are you going to see me out and she said yes of course.
Walked down stairs and would not let go of me and then I was driving home and nearly back at my place and she text saying (thank you for a good night together and I miss you already so this, going back to basics seems to be working) what she doesn't understand is that it's actually doing the opposite for me to be honest it's making me pull more away from her.
Earlier on in the night she was led on her bed on her phone and I was stood in the door way she was pushing her ass up and down on the bed trying to make out she wanted sex trying to turn me on not going to lie I had to look away or she may of turnt me on 😅 and then she looked behind and smiled and smirking at me.
SMH So you're not done lol
At least learn to play the game then.
Take notes of you sticking to your ground and not giving in as being what works and what turns her on.
All it boils down to is you not acting out of desperation and being needy and she starts acting normal, like a typical female.
Hopefully you can be comfortable doing more of this.
So today since this morning she has been in a terrible mood and said she doesn't know why she's just having one of them days, anyway we decided to meet up after work with our children.
When I got to her house she was ready to go on a walk together like we agreed yet she wouldn't greet me properly so I went up to her smiled and gave her a kiss.
She was still in this terrible mood she said I tried to ring you but you missed the call and I did as I was driving to hers.
I said sorry I was driving to yours she said I was going to say i picked up my little girl from nursery/playschool and the worker came out and said your daughter has been saying she doesn't want to play with one of the kids and saying she doesn't want to be her friends etc as kids do sometimes.
She said it was embarrassing to hear that and I haven't brought up my children to be like that.
She then said its because our children argue between eachother and that is where she's getting it from and I said yeah they do from time to time but that is kids she could be picking it up anywhere.
She was in a right mood so I said come on let's go back I can tell you don't want to go on this walk etc.
So we did and I went home and she stayed at hers in a piss didn't even say goodbye to me properly.
I got home and I rang her and I said I understand how you must of felt hearing that and I am not interested in an argument with you.
I suggest that we keep the girls apart for now until they appreciate seeing eachother and letting eachother play together and be nice to eachother.
She said thank you for supporting me yet still didn't want to talk.
So i left it an hour and text her saying Look it's about dealing with the problem together and coming up with a solution, not fighting eachother.
I understand you have woken up in a shit mood and your feeling the way you are today we all have day's like that I get it best thing to do is go have a bath and some time alone once the kids are in bed and relax I get it listen I love you it's okay and I'm here when you want to talk xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.
So I left it until tonight as didn't hear anything from her yet she was on facebook and I spoke to her on the phone I tried to be calm and talk to her yet she said I don't want to talk over the phone can we text as I don't want my oldest to hear and I said I havent really spoken to you though and it would be good to.
She said to me I am going to cut you off and I said I don't want to argue just talk and she cut me off. I text her saying wow thanks for that and she text saying you wouldn't listen so I cut you off and then I text to say what so it's okay to treat me like that isit ? . She said I just want to focus on my girls. So I put back Okay. And that has been the end of it at the moment.
So the little girl is establishing her own boundaries of not liking someone at daycare and your girlfriend blames you and your kids?
And you called and said sorry and agreed to keep your children away from hers.
So you're gonna go over there without your kids, but hang around her and hers?
Is this what you've typed out? Kids will be kids and they need to learn problem solving techniques just like adults.
"She didn't greet you properly or say goodbye to you properly?" lol -Yet you could clearly see she was in a mood- It's not about you right now, she was clearly distracted with her kid. If the situation was the other way around, would you remember niceties or be distracted? Parents usually put their children first.
The whole seeing her on Facebook but not talking to you is needy. She said she was in a bad mood. She said she can text, gave you the reason as to why it was more convenient, but that wasn't good enough.
You should've just said,
"I'd rather hear your voice, so call me when you're free"- NOT NEEDY
"I haven't really spoken to you though, and it would be good to"- NEEDY AND DISREGARDING WHAT'S GOING ON WITH HER.
Can you see the difference in wording?
You guys take fake breaks every 5 minutes (I'm exaggerating if you can't tell) when neither of you get your way and when both of you are being demanding of the other person time.
Neither of you seem to realize that the other person doesn't HAVE to do anything. It's about them wanting to do it.
When she offers the olive branch, take it if you want to chat or offer another alternative for a later date. It's pretty simple. Things don't have to be so "My way or the highway, if not I will try to guilt trip you"
I'm sure she knows what you're doing, which is why she "broke up" with you again, because that's what bugs you.
You guys like staying in this childs game of tit for tat.
It will be more of a relationship when you can compromise and please each other instead of being so selfish.
You two need to do the same exercises that your children are doing, in order to learn to get along better.
Also, I have been calm and listened to how she has been unhappy lately yet she is really making it hard yes I could word things better but all I really want is to get rid of this mess once and for all and sort it out its really draining.
She's gonna endlessly complain lol She knows you're there to wipe her ass if she needs it. You give no resistance to anything at all, which in turns most likely annoys her.
I'm kindof waiting on her request for you to not bring your kids to her place at all and just leave them with their mom when you come around.
When you say knows I'm there to wipe her ass what because I tried to come up with a solution if I turnt around and said its noting to do with the kids arguing it would of turnt into another argument she would of said oh you don't support me or have my back etc.
It's nice that you try and come up with solutions, it's not that. She didn't ask for one. She was frustrated at what happened with her kid, vented to you and mentioned she thought it had to do with your kids (which is bullshit, IMO)
Then you wanted to come up with a solution to an issue that she was just venting and "talking out of the side of her ass" about.
You should have common sense to know that anything her kid does to another kid at daycare has nothing to do with yours. Unless it's something like biting.
But the kid not wanting to play with another kid? That's a normal part of child development.
Now if the kid pushed or punched, and your kids taught her, I would understand where the Gemini was coming from.
You listen almost too intently to her every whim. You can't differentiate when she's just "talking to talk", like Geminis do.
You could NOT call her for 1 hour out of 24 and she could say "You never call me", so in turn you call her every hour and wonder why they will be ignored by her.
You go above and beyond for her. It's unnecessary and it's draining for you.click to expand
Yeah I understand what your saying and I do agree.
So in other words leave her to contact me as well rather than draining myself all the time.
Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Just to update you I have just got back from hers she asked me round for tea and I said ok.
We was led in bed and she was cuddling into me and then I looked at the time and said I better go as I'm getting tired and I know you are as well.
Then when I got up from the bed she said to me you can stay you know.
I replied no I can't and I said are you going to see me out and she said yes of course.
Walked down stairs and would not let go of me and then I was driving home and nearly back at my place and she text saying (thank you for a good night together and I miss you already so this, going back to basics seems to be working) what she doesn't understand is that it's actually doing the opposite for me to be honest it's making me pull more away from her.
Earlier on in the night she was led on her bed on her phone and I was stood in the door way she was pushing her ass up and down on the bed trying to make out she wanted sex trying to turn me on not going to lie I had to look away or she may of turnt me on 😅 and then she looked behind and smiled and smirking at me.
SMH So you're not done lol
At least learn to play the game then.
Take notes of you sticking to your ground and not giving in as being what works and what turns her on.
All it boils down to is you not acting out of desperation and being needy and she starts acting normal, like a typical female.
Hopefully you can be comfortable doing more of this.
So today since this morning she has been in a terrible mood and said she doesn't know why she's just having one of them days, anyway we decided to meet up after work with our children.
When I got to her house she was ready to go on a walk together like we agreed yet she wouldn't greet me properly so I went up to her smiled and gave her a kiss.
She was still in this terrible mood she said I tried to ring you but you missed the call and I did as I was driving to hers.
I said sorry I was driving to yours she said I was going to say i picked up my little girl from nursery/playschool and the worker came out and said your daughter has been saying she doesn't want to play with one of the kids and saying she doesn't want to be her friends etc as kids do sometimes.
She said it was embarrassing to hear that and I haven't brought up my children to be like that.
She then said its because our children argue between eachother and that is where she's getting it from and I said yeah they do from time to time but that is kids she could be picking it up anywhere.
She was in a right mood so I said come on let's go back I can tell you don't want to go on this walk etc.
So we did and I went home and she stayed at hers in a piss didn't even say goodbye to me properly.
I got home and I rang her and I said I understand how you must of felt hearing that and I am not interested in an argument with you.
I suggest that we keep the girls apart for now until they appreciate seeing eachother and letting eachother play together and be nice to eachother.
She said thank you for supporting me yet still didn't want to talk.
So i left it an hour and text her saying Look it's about dealing with the problem together and coming up with a solution, not fighting eachother.
I understand you have woken up in a shit mood and your feeling the way you are today we all have day's like that I get it best thing to do is go have a bath and some time alone once the kids are in bed and relax I get it listen I love you it's okay and I'm here when you want to talk xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.
So I left it until tonight as didn't hear anything from her yet she was on facebook and I spoke to her on the phone I tried to be calm and talk to her yet she said I don't want to talk over the phone can we text as I don't want my oldest to hear and I said I havent really spoken to you though and it would be good to.
She said to me I am going to cut you off and I said I don't want to argue just talk and she cut me off. I text her saying wow thanks for that and she text saying you wouldn't listen so I cut you off and then I text to say what so it's okay to treat me like that isit ? . She said I just want to focus on my girls. So I put back Okay. And that has been the end of it at the moment.
So the little girl is establishing her own boundaries of not liking someone at daycare and your girlfriend blames you and your kids?
And you called and said sorry and agreed to keep your children away from hers.
So you're gonna go over there without your kids, but hang around her and hers?
Is this what you've typed out? Kids will be kids and they need to learn problem solving techniques just like adults.
"She didn't greet you properly or say goodbye to you properly?" lol -Yet you could clearly see she was in a mood- It's not about you right now, she was clearly distracted with her kid. If the situation was the other way around, would you remember niceties or be distracted? Parents usually put their children first.
The whole seeing her on Facebook but not talking to you is needy. She said she was in a bad mood. She said she can text, gave you the reason as to why it was more convenient, but that wasn't good enough.
You should've just said,
"I'd rather hear your voice, so call me when you're free"- NOT NEEDY
"I haven't really spoken to you though, and it would be good to"- NEEDY AND DISREGARDING WHAT'S GOING ON WITH HER.
Can you see the difference in wording?
You guys take fake breaks every 5 minutes (I'm exaggerating if you can't tell) when neither of you get your way and when both of you are being demanding of the other person time.
Neither of you seem to realize that the other person doesn't HAVE to do anything. It's about them wanting to do it.
When she offers the olive branch, take it if you want to chat or offer another alternative for a later date. It's pretty simple. Things don't have to be so "My way or the highway, if not I will try to guilt trip you"
I'm sure she knows what you're doing, which is why she "broke up" with you again, because that's what bugs you.
You guys like staying in this childs game of tit for tat.
It will be more of a relationship when you can compromise and please each other instead of being so selfish.
You two need to do the same exercises that your children are doing, in order to learn to get along better.
Also, I have been calm and listened to how she has been unhappy lately yet she is really making it hard yes I could word things better but all I really want is to get rid of this mess once and for all and sort it out its really draining.
She's gonna endlessly complain lol She knows you're there to wipe her ass if she needs it. You give no resistance to anything at all, which in turns most likely annoys her.
I'm kindof waiting on her request for you to not bring your kids to her place at all and just leave them with their mom when you come around.
When you say knows I'm there to wipe her ass what because I tried to come up with a solution if I turnt around and said its noting to do with the kids arguing it would of turnt into another argument she would of said oh you don't support me or have my back etc.
It's nice that you try and come up with solutions, it's not that. She didn't ask for one. She was frustrated at what happened with her kid, vented to you and mentioned she thought it had to do with your kids (which is bullshit, IMO)
Then you wanted to come up with a solution to an issue that she was just venting and "talking out of the side of her ass" about.
You should have common sense to know that anything her kid does to another kid at daycare has nothing to do with yours. Unless it's something like biting.
But the kid not wanting to play with another kid? That's a normal part of child development.
Now if the kid pushed or punched, and your kids taught her, I would understand where the Gemini was coming from.
You listen almost too intently to her every whim. You can't differentiate when she's just "talking to talk", like Geminis do.
You could NOT call her for 1 hour out of 24 and she could say "You never call me", so in turn you call her every hour and wonder why they will be ignored by her.
You go above and beyond for her. It's unnecessary and it's draining for you.
Yeah I understand what your saying and I do agree.
So in other words leave her to contact me as well rather than draining myself all the time.click to expand
Every one has said it's about balance, but you get too antsy and can't handle not being in control of how she treats you. You have to give her some room to see the type of relationship that it will grow into.
She could've just as easily complained and you listened and said "I'm sorry that happened babe" and left it at that.
Less is more when dealing with women
Then if she had a problem with what you said, she would've bitched about it and then you could've went into problem solving mode.
But instead you noticed she didn't greet you properly, you got into your feelings because she got into hers, and you acted accordingly.
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.click to expand
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.click to expand
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.click to expand
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏click to expand
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.click to expand
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
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She is saying to me now she needs my support on this and saying she needs to focus on her child who is behaving like this as she starts school this September.
So she is saying we will have to come after.
Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
She is saying to me now she needs my support on this and saying she needs to focus on her child who is behaving like this as she starts school this September.
So she is saying we will have to come after.click to expand
4 months from now? lol
Tell her she has your support and give her the space she’s pretending to want.
You guys will be doing this again in a few weeks.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
She is saying to me now she needs my support on this and saying she needs to focus on her child who is behaving like this as she starts school this September.
So she is saying we will have to come after.
4 months from now? lol
Tell her she has your support and give her the space she’s pretending to want.
You guys will be doing this again in a few weeks.click to expand
4 months from now what ?
Also, I did tell her I support her.
Do you think she is pretending to want the space and why is she doing this.
Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
She is saying to me now she needs my support on this and saying she needs to focus on her child who is behaving like this as she starts school this September.
So she is saying we will have to come after.
4 months from now? lol
Tell her she has your support and give her the space she’s pretending to want.
You guys will be doing this again in a few weeks.
4 months from now what ?
Also, I did tell her I support her.
Do you think she is pretending to want the space and why is she doing this.click to expand
Please go back a couple of threads, and refer back to the advice that we suggested to you. This is becoming repetitive.
Posted by Easha23000usPosted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
She is saying to me now she needs my support on this and saying she needs to focus on her child who is behaving like this as she starts school this September.
So she is saying we will have to come after.
4 months from now? lol
Tell her she has your support and give her the space she’s pretending to want.
You guys will be doing this again in a few weeks.
4 months from now what ?
Also, I did tell her I support her.
Do you think she is pretending to want the space and why is she doing this.
Please go back a couple of threads, and refer back to the advice that we suggested to you. This is becoming repetitive.click to expand
I guess I just let her call the shots at the moment due to her wanting this space and to sort her child out etc right now she isn't thinking about us and she isn't hearing me or wanting to.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
Why is the narrator talking like a little girl or is she on prozac?click to expand
The video? I don’t know lol.
But she has some good points.
Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
She is saying to me now she needs my support on this and saying she needs to focus on her child who is behaving like this as she starts school this September.
So she is saying we will have to come after.
4 months from now? lol
Tell her she has your support and give her the space she’s pretending to want.
You guys will be doing this again in a few weeks.
4 months from now what ?
Also, I did tell her I support her.
Do you think she is pretending to want the space and why is she doing this.click to expand
I read what you wrote. Is she asking for a break from you until September when school starts ?
That’s 4 months away.
You should ask her why she’s doing this. She can’t seem to make up her mind about you, but claims she loves you.
Ask her directly with that short sentence and get your answer.
Don’t ask her that sentence with your feelings attached about how she’s making you feel.
She just seems annoyed, IMO
So start agreeing to give her what she wants when she acts cold like this. Do the same and say “You’re right, I think it’s a good idea”
She’s not gonna do anything except call you tomorrow 🙄
This is just how a Gemini is. Call her bluff and when she comes back a day or so later, move forward and leave what she said behind you.
GO WITH THE FLOW and be more indifferent/nonchalant.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
She is saying to me now she needs my support on this and saying she needs to focus on her child who is behaving like this as she starts school this September.
So she is saying we will have to come after.
4 months from now? lol
Tell her she has your support and give her the space she’s pretending to want.
You guys will be doing this again in a few weeks.
4 months from now what ?
Also, I did tell her I support her.
Do you think she is pretending to want the space and why is she doing this.
I read what you wrote. Is she asking for a break from you until September when school starts ?
That’s 4 months away.
You should ask her why she’s doing this. She can’t seem to make up her mind about you, but claims she loves you.
Ask her directly with that short sentence and get your answer.
Don’t ask her that sentence with your feelings attached about how she’s making you feel.
She just seems annoyed, IMO
So start agreeing to give her what she wants when she acts cold like this. Do the same and say “You’re right, I think it’s a good idea”
She’s not gonna do anything except call you tomorrow 🙄
This is just how a Gemini is. Call her bluff and when she comes back a day or so later, move forward and leave what she said behind you.
GO WITH THE FLOW and be more indifferent/nonchalant.click to expand
So you think I should just bluntly say are you asking for a break until September? Also, should I ask her why she can't make up her mind about me yet claims she loves me or leave that part out.
Posted by Ganon_1Posted by Centaur12Posted by Easha23000usPosted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
She is saying to me now she needs my support on this and saying she needs to focus on her child who is behaving like this as she starts school this September.
So she is saying we will have to come after.
4 months from now? lol
Tell her she has your support and give her the space she’s pretending to want.
You guys will be doing this again in a few weeks.
4 months from now what ?
Also, I did tell her I support her.
Do you think she is pretending to want the space and why is she doing this.
Please go back a couple of threads, and refer back to the advice that we suggested to you. This is becoming repetitive.
I guess I just let her call the shots at the moment due to her wanting this space and to sort her child out etc right now she isn't thinking about us and she isn't hearing me or wanting to.
Seriously youngman, you need to stop this pathetic behaviour. She's not the problem here , YOU are!
YOU are allowing her to treat you like her doormat on demand. This weak behaviour is very offputting.
You're asking for advice, here's mine: Man up! Stop moaning and whining. Either you accept this dynamic (being her bitch and secretly getting off on it) or you break up with her.
Go back to where you dropped your balls, pick them up, tuck them in safely and never lose sight of them again!
Sorry for being harsh😫 You were cuddled enough around here. People have been extremely patient with you (I applaud them cause...dude!) to no avail.
Signed, a loving Sag sisterclick to expand
I agree with you I need to be more harsh.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
She is saying to me now she needs my support on this and saying she needs to focus on her child who is behaving like this as she starts school this September.
So she is saying we will have to come after.
4 months from now? lol
Tell her she has your support and give her the space she’s pretending to want.
You guys will be doing this again in a few weeks.
4 months from now what ?
Also, I did tell her I support her.
Do you think she is pretending to want the space and why is she doing this.
I read what you wrote. Is she asking for a break from you until September when school starts ?
That’s 4 months away.
You should ask her why she’s doing this. She can’t seem to make up her mind about you, but claims she loves you.
Ask her directly with that short sentence and get your answer.
Don’t ask her that sentence with your feelings attached about how she’s making you feel.
She just seems annoyed, IMO
So start agreeing to give her what she wants when she acts cold like this. Do the same and say “You’re right, I think it’s a good idea”
She’s not gonna do anything except call you tomorrow 🙄
This is just how a Gemini is. Call her bluff and when she comes back a day or so later, move forward and leave what she said behind you.
GO WITH THE FLOW and be more indifferent/nonchalant.click to expand
She has just asked me round for tea do I go ?
No. You say,
"I'm tired of your games and I'm tired of being disrespected. Sure, I've made mistakes but every time I've tried to correct them, it has not been enough for you. At this point, I don't know what you want from me and I don't think YOU know what you want from me. I need a break. Don't contact me until I contact you."
And fucking do it.
"I'm tired of your games and I'm tired of being disrespected. Sure, I've made mistakes but every time I've tried to correct them, it has not been enough for you. At this point, I don't know what you want from me and I don't think YOU know what you want from me. I need a break. Don't contact me until I contact you."
And fucking do it.
Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
She is saying to me now she needs my support on this and saying she needs to focus on her child who is behaving like this as she starts school this September.
So she is saying we will have to come after.
4 months from now? lol
Tell her she has your support and give her the space she’s pretending to want.
You guys will be doing this again in a few weeks.
4 months from now what ?
Also, I did tell her I support her.
Do you think she is pretending to want the space and why is she doing this.
I read what you wrote. Is she asking for a break from you until September when school starts ?
That’s 4 months away.
You should ask her why she’s doing this. She can’t seem to make up her mind about you, but claims she loves you.
Ask her directly with that short sentence and get your answer.
Don’t ask her that sentence with your feelings attached about how she’s making you feel.
She just seems annoyed, IMO
So start agreeing to give her what she wants when she acts cold like this. Do the same and say “You’re right, I think it’s a good idea”
She’s not gonna do anything except call you tomorrow 🙄
This is just how a Gemini is. Call her bluff and when she comes back a day or so later, move forward and leave what she said behind you.
GO WITH THE FLOW and be more indifferent/nonchalant.
So you think I should just bluntly say are you asking for a break until September? Also, should I ask her why she can't make up her mind about me yet claims she loves me or leave that part out.click to expand
Ask her “why are you doing this?” (basically everything that she’s doing) See what she says and then ask the question about school to clarify if you want.
You should ask but not in that way.
What you wrote has the same theme like always- what she’s doing to you. It’s a needy statement- I’m taking what you wrote literally.
Be direct and just say “You need to make up your mind about me, I tired of you going back and forth, while telling me you love me. Figure out if you want to be with me or not”- sounds direct and strong, not needy and whiney
You should practice making statements and rearranging the wording of your texts/messages/speech. I’m not sure how you can learn to do that.
I’m so direct I had to learn to speak like you do and put more emotion in my words. So it can be done with some work.
If she flips it and asks why you’re being mean, then tell her the same thing she told you- you have to be more direct with her now.
Because you seriously do.
Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
Some times it's easier said than done when emotions are high on both sided.
Learn to control yours and have more impulse control. Having emotions are fine, but you have no impulse control whatsoever.
@Centaur12
Me saying all this to you- Are you gonna pick up the computer and throw it across the room? No, you DGAF cause I'm a stranger. These are the emotions you need to tap into when your emotions are "High"
Take some time out for yourself, try and think a little more logically.
Yeah I understand stand that but how do I approach her now we are supposed to be going out together this weekend yet this is all happening I feel like breaking down I don't even know where we stand as a couple etc I am confused to fuck.
You act like you’re never going to see her again.
I promise you that you will lol
Have faith.
She will call once she doesn’t hear from you.
She remembers you have plans too
And you pay 💰 😏
Do I contact her first though because we have left on bad terms usually one of us says good morning etc or do I leave it.
Switch up and surprise her and don’t reach out first.
She’s going to reach out.
Oh I came across this too.
She is saying to me now she needs my support on this and saying she needs to focus on her child who is behaving like this as she starts school this September.
So she is saying we will have to come after.
4 months from now? lol
Tell her she has your support and give her the space she’s pretending to want.
You guys will be doing this again in a few weeks.
4 months from now what ?
Also, I did tell her I support her.
Do you think she is pretending to want the space and why is she doing this.
I read what you wrote. Is she asking for a break from you until September when school starts ?
That’s 4 months away.
You should ask her why she’s doing this. She can’t seem to make up her mind about you, but claims she loves you.
Ask her directly with that short sentence and get your answer.
Don’t ask her that sentence with your feelings attached about how she’s making you feel.
She just seems annoyed, IMO
So start agreeing to give her what she wants when she acts cold like this. Do the same and say “You’re right, I think it’s a good idea”
She’s not gonna do anything except call you tomorrow 🙄
This is just how a Gemini is. Call her bluff and when she comes back a day or so later, move forward and leave what she said behind you.
GO WITH THE FLOW and be more indifferent/nonchalant.
She has just asked me round for tea do I go ?click to expand
As you can see she didn’t mean what she said.
Maybe go and chat in person AGAIN, while being direct and with a backbone. Get a little irritated and blunt.
Be direct and try and leave out the “Why are you doing this to me, I can’t handle the pain, you hurt my feelings so bad” stuff. Get your questions answered without the neediness.
But it’s a good time to clear the air in person, since this has been brought up again.
Posted by geminiflyby
No. You say,
"I'm tired of your games and I'm tired of being disrespected. Sure, I've made mistakes but every time I've tried to correct them, it has not been enough for you. At this point, I don't know what you want from me and I don't think YOU know what you want from me. I need a break. Don't contact me until I contact you."
And fucking do it.
You really think this will work? 🧐🤔
All she’ll do is call back again and want to meet him in person to talk anyways.
I really think that will work. But it will work only if he doesn't give in to her trying to get back in touch with him.
It will go one of two ways, either they will split (which means they can move on with their lives) or it will be a HUGE wakeup call to the Gemini to start taking their relationship seriously and really work to make things better. He has to be prepared to lose her to win her.
It will go one of two ways, either they will split (which means they can move on with their lives) or it will be a HUGE wakeup call to the Gemini to start taking their relationship seriously and really work to make things better. He has to be prepared to lose her to win her.
She's acting like nothings happened and I am ignoring it as well and being blunt.
So I have just got back from hers and I called her out on her bullshit again.
I said your telling me you don't know what you want yet in another breath your saying I would of ended it with you if I didn't want you I love you.
Yet she is turning around and saying to me I am in the middle.
I said I want answers right now here is how it is these are the cards on the table you either want me now or you dont want me and I will walk and she said your forcing me to make a decision I said no I am sick to death of you playing games with me I'm done with it.
So you call me up to your place and then don't want me to stay the night again because you want to take it slow with eachother etc blah blah.
I said I am done with this shit you either want me or you don't make the decision right now and she said right now because your forcing me rather than us take it slow she said I need to find myself again I can't make a decision so it's going to be made for me that means she loves me but doesn't want to break up with me is what she's said but I anit sitting around here waiting on her.
So I said I am telling you now I will walk out this door and that is it right ? And she said for tonight yes . Like wtf 😅.
I said your telling me you don't know what you want yet in another breath your saying I would of ended it with you if I didn't want you I love you.
Yet she is turning around and saying to me I am in the middle.
I said I want answers right now here is how it is these are the cards on the table you either want me now or you dont want me and I will walk and she said your forcing me to make a decision I said no I am sick to death of you playing games with me I'm done with it.
So you call me up to your place and then don't want me to stay the night again because you want to take it slow with eachother etc blah blah.
I said I am done with this shit you either want me or you don't make the decision right now and she said right now because your forcing me rather than us take it slow she said I need to find myself again I can't make a decision so it's going to be made for me that means she loves me but doesn't want to break up with me is what she's said but I anit sitting around here waiting on her.
So I said I am telling you now I will walk out this door and that is it right ? And she said for tonight yes . Like wtf 😅.
This is what I got from her.
Look i do love you, i ain't stringing you along. I cant choice from the 2 cards you out on the table cos i am wanting to make us work. I totally understand you want thing's to progress now but in order for me to connect back with you I need to start fresh. If you cant wait it and to see where things go, whether we work things out or not then you are free to leave, i can not help you otherwise. I can not be forced to make things progress quicker as that would be setting us up to fail. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Look i do love you, i ain't stringing you along. I cant choice from the 2 cards you out on the table cos i am wanting to make us work. I totally understand you want thing's to progress now but in order for me to connect back with you I need to start fresh. If you cant wait it and to see where things go, whether we work things out or not then you are free to leave, i can not help you otherwise. I can not be forced to make things progress quicker as that would be setting us up to fail. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Boom! you gotta break the dynamic. Now leave her be. If she tries to get in touch then tell her you want her to "find herself" and I mean leave her the fuck be! Tell her YOU need time because you do. Wait it out. At the very least a month and at the most for 3. Because if not, you are going to be right back where you were and creating the longest documented thread on DXP and we will all want to kill you.
That's why I think the time away will be good for him as well as her. He's lovesick and taking this non-stop freaking abuse from her. Once he finds out that he can live without her and no long has to eat the ration of shit she serves him every day, maybe he will see his life is actually better without her.
Sag - concentrate on your life and your kids right now. Let that be enough. Clear your head and stop running back to her every time she crooks her finger.
Sag - concentrate on your life and your kids right now. Let that be enough. Clear your head and stop running back to her every time she crooks her finger.
Lord, I hope not.....because after this - I got nuthin'
Posted by Centaur12
So I have just got back from hers and I called her out on her bullshit again.
I said your telling me you don't know what you want yet in another breath your saying I would of ended it with you if I didn't want you I love you.
Yet she is turning around and saying to me I am in the middle.
I said I want answers right now here is how it is these are the cards on the table you either want me now or you dont want me and I will walk and she said your forcing me to make a decision I said no I am sick to death of you playing games with me I'm done with it.
So you call me up to your place and then don't want me to stay the night again because you want to take it slow with eachother etc blah blah.
I said I am done with this shit you either want me or you don't make the decision right now and she said right now because your forcing me rather than us take it slow she said I need to find myself again I can't make a decision so it's going to be made for me that means she loves me but doesn't want to break up with me is what she's said but I anit sitting around here waiting on her.
So I said I am telling you now I will walk out this door and that is it right ? And she said for tonight yes . Like wtf 😅.
LMAO
You seriously gave her an ultimatum? 😆
Good luck. She knows just as much as we do, if not MORE, that you're full of shit.
You could've just asked and seen what the response was. Let her know what you felt about everything and laid that on the table.
Things always go back to you and things needing to be your way.
You're too selfish to get out of this situation and have a healthy relationship. She's gonna keep playing you.
But I till agree to call her bluff.
She will be texting and calling in a few anyways.
You wont even last 36 hours 😆
This what I sent back.
Let me get this right I am supposed to go on with you like everything is normal because you can't choose yet who's to say after I have made that connection back with you, you then turn around and break my heart because you decide you don't want to be with me after all. That is bang out on the person who loves you and knows what they want.
Let me get this right I am supposed to go on with you like everything is normal because you can't choose yet who's to say after I have made that connection back with you, you then turn around and break my heart because you decide you don't want to be with me after all. That is bang out on the person who loves you and knows what they want.
She put back - I have told you what i want to happen so its you forcing me to make a decision based on now.
I put back - so how long is going on for then.
She said - I don't know if you can't wait then move on .
I said I want to know of that is with you or on my own.
And she hasn't replied.
I put back - so how long is going on for then.
She said - I don't know if you can't wait then move on .
I said I want to know of that is with you or on my own.
And she hasn't replied.
Posted by Centaur12
This what I sent back.
Let me get this right I am supposed to go on with you like everything is normal because you can't choose yet who's to say after I have made that connection back with you, you then turn around and break my heart because you decide you don't want to be with me after all. That is bang out on the person who loves you and knows what they want.
You don't see how you're getting no where with your neediness? What was the point of sending this? Just to confirm that she didn't like the ultimatum and to confirm she wants you to wait it out?
She will probably say- yes that's right cause you are forcing me to make this decision smh
The point is, she knows you're going to wait- SHE'S CALLING YOUR BLUFF- And you were supposed to be calling hers.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
This what I sent back.
Let me get this right I am supposed to go on with you like everything is normal because you can't choose yet who's to say after I have made that connection back with you, you then turn around and break my heart because you decide you don't want to be with me after all. That is bang out on the person who loves you and knows what they want.
You don't see how you're getting no where with your neediness? What was the point of sending this? Just to confirm that she didn't like the ultimatum and to confirm she wants you to wait it out?
She will probably say- yes that's right cause you are forcing me to make this decision smh
The point is, she knows you're going to wait- SHE'S CALLING YOUR BLUFF- And you were supposed to be calling hers.click to expand
Where have I gone wrong though ?
Posted by Centaur12Posted by saggurl88Posted by Centaur12
This what I sent back.
Let me get this right I am supposed to go on with you like everything is normal because you can't choose yet who's to say after I have made that connection back with you, you then turn around and break my heart because you decide you don't want to be with me after all. That is bang out on the person who loves you and knows what they want.
You don't see how you're getting no where with your neediness? What was the point of sending this? Just to confirm that she didn't like the ultimatum and to confirm she wants you to wait it out?
She will probably say- yes that's right cause you are forcing me to make this decision smh
The point is, she knows you're going to wait- SHE'S CALLING YOUR BLUFF- And you were supposed to be calling hers.
Where have I gone wrong though ?click to expand
Dude, The same thing is just gonna keep happening to you.
You are too dramatic and take things to the extreme.
I'm not sure what else to say cause you can never just ask her a question and to get an answer.
It always has to be an answer catered to your terms. You always have to have the last say on things. You only want things your way.
"you then turn around and break my heart because you decide you don't want to be with me after all. That is bang out on the person who loves you "- About your feeling again, huh? Cause the ultimatum didn't work?
You should never say something that you aren't fully prepared to do.
She told you to feel free to move on- so do it.
Break up and take some space.
Sag - this chick has checked out. "She said - I don't know if you can't wait then move on ."
You. Have. To. Go.
You. Have. To. Go.
You thrive on the drama. Admit it.
Posted by geminiflybyPosted by saggurl88
You wont even last 36 hours 😆
He didn't even last 36 minutes.click to expand
You need to do some soul searching and work on your insecurities. She asks for one night to herself and you spiral, making it all about you and thinking the relationship is doomed. It isn't. She just needs time to herself. This is standard Gemini 101.
She's like a rubber band.
She retreats and then bounces back 2xs as strong.
But problem is, instead of giving her the space SHE IS BEGGING YOU FOR, you follow her... hound her... until she snaps.
Which is precisely why she wants to slow things down in the relationship. Maintaining your emotional neediness must be exhausting. I'm tired just reading about it.
She's like a rubber band.
She retreats and then bounces back 2xs as strong.
But problem is, instead of giving her the space SHE IS BEGGING YOU FOR, you follow her... hound her... until she snaps.
Which is precisely why she wants to slow things down in the relationship. Maintaining your emotional neediness must be exhausting. I'm tired just reading about it.
Since dxp did a double post I'll just add...
He's never going to leave her. The immense insecurity and neediness emanates of him in waves. She's gonna half to be the one to end it.
He's never going to leave her. The immense insecurity and neediness emanates of him in waves. She's gonna half to be the one to end it.
So I should just ignor her and fuck off here is a question for you all.
Do you think she wants to be with me or will ever want to.
Do you think she wants to be with me or will ever want to.
If I give her the space and leave her alone
Why is she telling me she loves me and when asked the question she says she wants to have a future together. Yet saying move on if I cannot wait.
What she wants is for you to listen to her when she says she needs the night to herself.
What she wants is for you not to blow up her phone or show up at her house like some cray stalker when she tells you why she is unavailable for a short period of time.
What she wants is for you not to take it personal when she asks for some alone time.
What she wants is to have a boyfriend who is an adult, not another child she needs to baby who is always crying for her titty.
Sort yourself out.
What she wants is for you not to blow up her phone or show up at her house like some cray stalker when she tells you why she is unavailable for a short period of time.
What she wants is for you not to take it personal when she asks for some alone time.
What she wants is to have a boyfriend who is an adult, not another child she needs to baby who is always crying for her titty.
Sort yourself out.
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