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"You don't quit your job. Unless you already have another one"
Not at all.
No.
However, I will say that if I become attracted to someone else in any sense, then I know it is time I reevaluated my relationship. I tunnel vision on one person, so if that stops, that means I am unhappy.
However, I will say that if I become attracted to someone else in any sense, then I know it is time I reevaluated my relationship. I tunnel vision on one person, so if that stops, that means I am unhappy.
Posted by nikkistar
No.
However, I will say that if I become attracted to someone else in any sense, then I know it is time I reevaluated my relationship. I tunnel vision on one person, so if that stops, that means I am unhappy.
I agree with you 100% in if someone can "sway" my interest then I need to reevaluate...when I'm into someone I'm into them 1000% . I'm unhappy if I get a wandering eye...
Side note: the reason it was brought up was because I wanted to go to a restaurant and he said "the last time I went there, insert ex girlfriends name, broke up with me" and I said "over dinner? That's cold" and he then kinda briefly told me the story and then said "even though she didnt admit it I knew there was someone else 'you dint quit your job, unless you have another one lined up'"...he was right about her having someone else btw, and she was knocked up with other guys kid
I have a curse of longevity, I stay until I have no other choice...you either leave me or I have someone else pique my intenterst or start to entertain the thought of someone else. Taurus curse?
These are people are weak and selfish. this is a prime example of how we live in a culture that perpetuates a cycle of people doing damage to other people, to create people that then go on to damage other people.
Posted by -sierra-
nah i don't attribute it to codependency as most people on here say
though that's probably part of it in most cases
just reeks of emotional insincerity to me
...and that is a huge dealbreaker for me
I dont think its codependency either. Even tho I am codependent. It definitely has more so to do with security...in both aspects - Job wise and relationship wise
So romantic partners are like jobs? Great metaphor!
Posted by aquarius09
So romantic partners are like jobs? Great metaphor!
If you don’t loke this one there is another one. You don’t go to buy new shoes barefoot! Lol
Posted by -sierra-
i've quit jobs without having backup all the time
I do that too!! Just gotta save greatly for rainy days.
I don’t understand how people put up with bullshit a moment longer until they secure another person. I will just cuss the person off and bounce. Not waiting one more minutes.
Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09
So romantic partners are like jobs? Great metaphor!
my libra ex once told me it's more like relocation to a new house
lol venusiansclick to expand
You mentioned that in the last thread. Should’ve walked out his red flag ass at that very moment.
Posted by halalbae
I dont like men enough to deal with more than one at the time
LOL! For real! +10000. Dealing with one at one time is enough.
Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09Posted by -sierra-
i've quit jobs without having backup all the time
I do that too!! Just gotta save greatly for rainy days.
I don’t understand how people put up with bullshit a moment longer until they secure another person. I will just cuss the person off and bounce. Not waiting one more minutes.
me too!
some say it's endurance/loyalty/martyrdom
but that's bullshit.. know what it is?
insincerity
that's the truth of what it is
coz why the fvck do i have an immediate replacement?
venusians are stepford smilersclick to expand
They can excuse it however they want but they’re crippled in my eyes because they can’t survive without a person next to them posing as their crutch.
Maybe this relates more to men. Can I get some more mail perspectives?
Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09
So romantic partners are like jobs? Great metaphor!
my libra ex once told me it's more like relocation to a new house
lol venusians
You mentioned that in the last thread. Should’ve walked out his red flag ass at that very moment.
i don't believe in the "loyalty" of people
who have safety nets for their safety nets
you may be loyal in the physical sense but inside is absolute hoe
in fact, i'd even say these are people who've
never really been loyal in the actual sense of the word
nobody's ever really had these people exclusively..
at least not where it mattered
ha venusiansclick to expand
I will say the X who cheated on him who made him have this kind of realization was an Aquarius...
Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09
So romantic partners are like jobs? Great metaphor!
my libra ex once told me it's more like relocation to a new house
lol venusians
You mentioned that in the last thread. Should’ve walked out his red flag ass at that very moment.
i don't believe in the "loyalty" of people
who have safety nets for their safety nets
you may be loyal in the physical sense but inside is absolute hoe
in fact, i'd even say these are people who've
never really been loyal in the actual sense of the word
nobody's ever really had these people exclusively..
at least not where it mattered
ha venusiansclick to expand
This is an interesting post. So, people like me and you are up-in-arms about not wanting a person like this for a partner. So how do you identify that your current love interest isn’t a serial monogamist?😏
Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09
So romantic partners are like jobs? Great metaphor!
my libra ex once told me it's more like relocation to a new house
lol venusians
You mentioned that in the last thread. Should’ve walked out his red flag ass at that very moment.
i don't believe in the "loyalty" of people
who have safety nets for their safety nets
you may be loyal in the physical sense but inside is absolute hoe
in fact, i'd even say these are people who've
never really been loyal in the actual sense of the word
nobody's ever really had these people exclusively..
at least not where it mattered
ha venusians
This is an interesting post. So, people like me and you are up-in-arms about not wanting a person like this for a partner. So how do you identify that your current love interest isn’t a serial monogamist?😏
some people reek of it
by that i mean they're not really interested in people
yet they go out into this world throwing themselves around
asking themselves and sometimes the boards:
"how come i can't find someone decent?"
i'm probably gonna make a thread related to thatclick to expand
On the contrary, they show a lil bit too much interest too soon. It’s too much, too soon. Starts to feel like a fairytale.
Posted by halalbae
No I quit with a job when it makes me unhappy, even before I have another. And to be entirely honest I dont like men enough to deal with more than one at the time
+1
My last two jobs I quit and took a month off before looking for another one. My inner peace is more important and no company owns me
However I am guilty of jumping into something with my current relationship.. it over lapped my last but it wasn't intentional.. sorta
I agree with what everybody's saying however just for my own experience and what I've experienced with others and it's seen in other people's relationships friends families ex-lovers. They always seem to have something lined up, I don't think I've ever seen anybody leave something and just be single. Maybe it's just where I'm from more acceptable
Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09Posted by -sierra-Posted by aquarius09
So romantic partners are like jobs? Great metaphor!
my libra ex once told me it's more like relocation to a new house
lol venusians
You mentioned that in the last thread. Should’ve walked out his red flag ass at that very moment.
i don't believe in the "loyalty" of people
who have safety nets for their safety nets
you may be loyal in the physical sense but inside is absolute hoe
in fact, i'd even say these are people who've
never really been loyal in the actual sense of the word
nobody's ever really had these people exclusively..
at least not where it mattered
ha venusians
This is an interesting post. So, people like me and you are up-in-arms about not wanting a person like this for a partner. So how do you identify that your current love interest isn’t a serial monogamist?😏
some people reek of it
by that i mean they're not really interested in people
yet they go out into this world throwing themselves around
asking themselves and sometimes the boards:
"how come i can't find someone decent?"
i'm probably gonna make a thread related to that
On the contrary, they show a lil bit too much interest too soon. It’s too much, too soon. Starts to feel like a fairytale.
that's just a showclick to expand
I’m not talking about their intentions. I’m speaking about signs they would show to a third person to pay heed to.
Posted by halalbaePosted by YodiPosted by halalbae
No I quit with a job when it makes me unhappy, even before I have another. And to be entirely honest I dont like men enough to deal with more than one at the time
+1
My last two jobs I quit and took a month off before looking for another one. My inner peace is more important.
Exactly. And in a relationship their lack of self control would completely turn me off. The people who stay with them usually are the type of partners who police their SO because they are scared they are going to do the same to them. I can absolutely not live in constant fear like that 😭click to expand
Lol so true and I'm gulty of this.. It turns you into a nagging crazy witch 😅 it's plain unnecessary and stressful
Posted by DeadInside
this rules is for work, not for human ? wtf ?
Lol but it happens everyday.. it's called cheating. Whether it be emotional or physical
am self employed
Posted by halalbaePosted by YodiPosted by halalbaePosted by YodiPosted by halalbae
No I quit with a job when it makes me unhappy, even before I have another. And to be entirely honest I dont like men enough to deal with more than one at the time
+1
My last two jobs I quit and took a month off before looking for another one. My inner peace is more important.
Exactly. And in a relationship their lack of self control would completely turn me off. The people who stay with them usually are the type of partners who police their SO because they are scared they are going to do the same to them. I can absolutely not live in constant fear like that 😭
Lol so true and I'm gulty of this.. It turns you into a nagging crazy witch 😅 it's plain unnecessary and stressful
For real. Aint nothing cute about compromising for people after betrayal and violation of loyaltyclick to expand
I know.. smh sadly I've been on both sides of that coin. I've taken a cheater back then couldn't trust him again and I've been the cheater before
Jobs aren’t people tho
I’ve used a new job offer to try and play my existing job into offering me more. Where is your ceiling really? Show me how much you need me.
Posted by YodiPosted by LadyNeptune
Jobs aren’t people tho
But people are jobs 🤫click to expand
They don’t call it a blowjob for nothing 😉
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by YodiPosted by LadyNeptune
Jobs aren’t people tho
But people are jobs 🤫
They don’t call it a blowjob for nothing 😉click to expand
Hahaaaaa!
🤝🏿
That's a negative for me.
Don't understand this desperate need to ALWAYS be in a relationship. This probably feels more important for people who are venus dominant?
This sounds absolutely nuts you know that right?? I don't think anyone with this mentality should actually date. Idk where to start here so I'll read these comments lol...
BS analogy. People need jobs to survive. Nobody *needs* to be in a romantic relationship.
Nope. If you’re tired of the relationship you’re in then just leave. It’s the right and respectable thing to do.
for a job this works...for a relationship, hell no! if i can get over a relationship and move on that fast then my love for the first person wasnt real....i dont get into relationships unless theyre real
Posted by Sagicorn
Only weak people do that. If you can't be on your own then you're simply too weak. Yeah there are situations where one might jump relationships but if that's a constant pattern and they stay in relationships just to not be alone then it's a weak personality.
So true even a Libra is in agreement.
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