1 bad decision has possibly costed me a happy future! (Page 3)

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#iblockhoes
@LadyTate
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How long have you been doing this?

How long was he married?

How long has he been divorced?
Talking to him almost a year. He's never been married. I was the only one ever married but divorced after 5yrs then I was in an almost 10yr relationship before meeting him.
A year. I'm sorry but you are going to have to show another side. If he's been equating you to sex for a year. What else does he know about you?
He knows a lot about me. We may have started off as FWB but thru that time, we've had deep conversations and were able to learn more about each other.
So why do you need to know how he feels. Men aren't like women, just go by his actions. I'm telling you Caps do not express their feelings as long as they want to be around you and make time for you. It's good. But like I said they take their time. They need a wholesome woman who got her stuff together.
If I wast my time on him he will have ruined it for all caps! Lol. But seriously. I do love him and I'm willing to try to wait this out and see what happens. I just need to get over my fear of wasting my time.
We don't like wasting our time either
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Well hopefully he gets the ball rolling soon! I'll have grey hairs waiting for him to decided it sounds like
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#iblockhoes
@LadyTate
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Posted by ElleDuMonde
Whew...no need to call 911 😛

Btw, I totally get your dramatic title now...that's funny...lol

He is
Cap sun
Gem moon
Sag merc
Sag venus
Leo mars

You both have the sag merc...so you can talk forever and finish sentences. But you both have issue expressing yourself clearly.

He has the moon opposite venus going on just like you do....in a few days you will not feel this passionately about this....and then a few days later...you will again.

He will do the same...you just have to sync that up so you are on the same page.

Your mars and his is delightful....yours is one of service and his is one to be served....lol

Overall....good stuff for a quick snapshot.

You need to relax....find something to keep you distracted and busy....and just go with the flow....jump off the ride when you see fit...he will understand...don't jump off....and see if it goes somewhere. There are no guarantees with either of you....you can be both as jittery...scaring the crap out of each other when one says commitment! The other will giggle and run...and you will take turns doing so until it just doesn't matter anymore...and you are like a permanent cherry blossom in the front yard.

Relax! Relax! One more time....Relax. 🙂
Lol... Sounds good to hear. And I totally get the Mars thingy. I like to serve and he likes to be served. Absolutely true. I have to catch myself at times. I want to cater to him as if we are in a relationship.
That's why they do so well with Virgos. Virgo women will cater to their every need.
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Thanks for that tidbit. I'll be sure to keep every Biggo man or woman away from him. I'm not taking no chances. Lol
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#iblockhoes
@LadyTate
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Posted by Foreverloveme
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Oh and I want to throw this out there. The other day we were talking and sex was brought up and yes (in my weak flesh moment) told him I wanted to have sex one last time. First he was all for it then he said we could hold off on having sex. I didn't push the issue, I replied with a "that's fine with me!" Even tho it wasn't!
Lol. He's trying to give you what you asked for.

It's funny to me because people will be like oh we can ___

Then when we start acting that way it's an issue.

One guy said we can't be friends because he still has feeling & doesn't want to see me with any one else or talk about anyone else because I'm suppose to be his.

Ok so I stopped talking to him. Now it's oh I still want to be friends why don't you ever call me ���'
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I had a weak moment. And I'm the one who stopped the sex in the first place so I couldn't be made. I had to accept it and move on.
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@LadyTate
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I really wish I was better at reading between the lines when it comes to relationships. Talking about all this has me rethinking conversations and comments and wondering if maybe I miss read his actions.
Stahp! 😛

No need. Go to sleep....start all over new tomorrow.
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I'm up all night working, lol. And I'm so full of questions now.
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My response was cut off. That was his exact response. I guess when he added the "I don't want that to happen to u" I took that as his way of saying he wanted more from me. But again. Like I stated earlier. I like straight forward answers. I don't like to play the guessing game.
He hit her real good too. Probably why she went all crazy on him.

I didn't get the chance to read through all the pages, but I think what you did by letting him know that you're catching feelings was the right thing to do and cutting it off. FWB usually end up this way ( it's why I don't have them) where someone catches feelings for the other.

You have to be completely upfront on what you want from him amd where this relationship goes, if he wants more he will make it happen through his actions. He may even tell you that he wants the same... if you don't hear back from him or putting in any effort to be with you, then there is your answer.

But I will tell you, actions speak louder than words bcuz men will tell you things to make you feel special just so they can keep you around for their benefit.
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@LadyTate
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@justagirl

My response was cut off. That was his exact response. I guess when he added the "I don't want that to happen to u" I took that as his way of saying he wanted more from me. But again. Like I stated earlier. I like straight forward answers. I don't like to play the guessing game.
He hit her real good too. Probably why she went all crazy on him.

I didn't get the chance to read through all the pages, but I think what you did by letting him know that you're catching feelings was the right thing to do and cutting it off. FWB usually end up this way ( it's why I don't have them) where someone catches feelings for the other.

You have to be completely upfront on what you want from him amd where this relationship goes, if he wants more he will make it happen through his actions. He may even tell you that he wants the same... if you don't hear back from him or putting in any effort to be with you, then there is your answer.

But I will tell you, actions speak louder than words bcuz men will tell you things to make you feel special just so they can keep you around for their benefit.
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I went crazy for him WAY BEFORE that conversations. Lol. I guess if I look at his actions they are that of a man who's interested in u but I need words. If u want me say that. I'm not good at reading between the lines. I'm more black and white then anything. If u invite me to dinner, I'll think it's just because ur hungry. Not because u want to spend time with me (using this as a figure of speak, I'm not that damn sense. Lol).