Baby momma drama... How would u handle it?

How to deal with Baby Momma Drama?

Drama as far as what? What is said baby mamma doing that's considered drama like? If she dorsnt direct anything to me, I dont deal with it. I'll tell the man how he can better manage his situation if asked tho.

Posted by mzmee
Drama as far as what? What is said baby mamma doing that's considered drama like? If she dorsnt direct anything to me, I dont deal with it. I'll tell the man how he can better manage his situation if asked tho.

Drama as in trying to keep him away from his kid because he's in a new relationship. Since he and I have made our relationship official, she has been making comments to him about me, such as "oh that's the bitch u with now... Blah, blah, blah." Well of course he handles that and doesn't tolerate her disrespecting. Well the specific incident I'm speaking of is his sons bday party. Every year he has a bday party for his son and always invites and invitation to his baby momma and her family to come. Of course they never do. Well yesterday we had the party and guess who showed up knowing I would be there. Well the bell rings and he's busy so I get the door. I let her in and ignored the stank look and rude comment because I did not want to act up in front of his family. So I let that slide. Anyway... as the party goes on, I see that everything I'm doing such as setting out the food, fixing the decorations as the kids knock them over and whatever else, she has a problem with it. Again... I ignored it and kept it moving. Well at the end of the party, as everyone was leaving, I noticed her in the kitchen with my bf and he has this pissed off look on his face. So I called him over and just gave him something to do to get away from her before they started arguing in front the guest. Well after all was said and done, I asked him what happened in the kitchen and he told me his Baby momma threatened to not let him see his son tomorrow for Father's Day or any day after that unless he starts sleeping with her again. Of course he told her no and her response was either leave that bitch or wait until the judge says u can see ur son!

@LadyTate

Tell him to fight it with the courts. Look up fathers rights lawyers and get in her ass.

Did you talk to him about the things she said? If so, what did he say about addressing it? You cant change people but some Shit needs to be nipped in the bud.

Ive dealt with a baby momma situation before. I was always civil to her. She tried the slick remarks but I laughed it off. She came at me sideways one time and I kindly told her dont direct any drama my way, im not here for it. If she couldnt get alo g for the sake of this baby and act like an adult, dont speak to me at all.

Didmt have a problem after that.

Ok thanks for the advice people and i always had skepticism on this matter. I tried it twice.....90 percent of the time you will deal with the mother of the kids heard really foul fucked up stories like this one all because of new changes. And a new person involved.

So take it to court and gather evidence on her too.

Oh you could get pregnant and squash all problems so you must consider to adapt then.

Or break up...

Well yeah people change for reasons so being with some one who has kids is a learning experience to one's that doesnt.

If she's still in love with him, that's baby mommas issue. But it does sound like prior to you two being official, they were still having sex.

I will accept and compromise but if they ever cheat I'm out no questions. Except did you sleep with her recently?

Did you fail to pay child support at all, and how much you owe is very important too.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Ok thanks for the advice people and i always had skepticism on this matter. I tried it twice.....90 percent of the time you will deal with the mother of the kids heard really foul fucked up stories like this one all because of new changes. And a new person involved.

So take it to court and gather evidence on her too.

Oh you could get pregnant and squash all problems so you must consider to adapt then.

Or break up...

No most of the time they recently broke up with the mother or is still sleeping with the mother. But OP is the girlfriend not the wife so she will only hurt him going to court bringing up evidence.

And getting pregnant is the dumbest idea right now.

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No more babies.

Let him handle her.

Tread lightly.

Posted by AriesLove

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Ok thanks for the advice people and i always had skepticism on this matter. I tried it twice.....90 percent of the time you will deal with the mother of the kids heard really foul fucked up stories like this one all because of new changes. And a new person involved.

So take it to court and gather evidence on her too.

Oh you could get pregnant and squash all problems so you must consider to adapt then.

Or break up...

No most of the time they recently broke up with the mother or is still sleeping with the mother. But OP is the girlfriend not the wife so she will only hurt him going to court bringing up evidence.

And getting pregnant is the dumbest idea right now.

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I wanted to stay open minded and have options, haha. I won't get pregnant if this was going on like this or continue this with the fact I'm never going to be worthy enough. But nowadays people have 2 different baby mommas or daddies. Or simply don't want anymore kids either. I met alot online like this. And I heard about men liking woman with kids too. So idk.

But what you are saying is one work it out or drop it.

At least get joint custody or visitatiin rights. She cant keep him away from his child if hes not a threat to the child. The courts will frown upon that. Remember, OP and her new beau just recently became official so he may have just recently broken it off, hence her saying sleeping with again. Please believe if he was still sleeping with him currently it probably wouldnt be an issue. There are some women who love being side chicks.

If her ass is still in love, thats an issue she has to figure out on her own. @LadyTate if she doesnt come at you directly, brush it off and keep it moving. Let him know to fight for his children, even if he has to go thru the courts. In the same token, let his ass know you'll ride with him thru the bullshit as long as he aint bullshitting you.

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Posted by mzmee
Drama as far as what? What is said baby mamma doing that's considered drama like? If she dorsnt direct anything to me, I dont deal with it. I'll tell the man how he can better manage his situation if asked tho.

Drama as in trying to keep him away from his kid because he's in a new relationship. Since he and I have made our relationship official, she has been making comments to him about me, such as "oh that's the bitch u with now... Blah, blah, blah." Well of course he handles that and doesn't tolerate her disrespecting. Well the specific incident I'm speaking of is his sons bday party. Every year he has a bday party for his son and always invites and invitation to his baby momma and her family to come. Of course they never do. Well yesterday we had the party and guess who showed up knowing I would be there. Well the bell rings and he's busy so I get the door. I let her in and ignored the stank look and rude comment because I did not want to act up in front of his family. So I let that slide. Anyway... as the party goes on, I see that everything I'm doing such as setting out the food, fixing the decorations as the kids knock them over and whatever else, she has a problem with it. Again... I ignored it and kept it moving. Well at the end of the party, as everyone was leaving, I noticed her in the kitchen with my bf and he has this pissed off look on his face. So I called him over and just gave him something to do to get away from her before they started arguing in front the guest. Well after all was said and done, I asked him what happened in the kitchen and he told me his Baby momma threatened to not let him see his son tomorrow for Father's Day or any day after that unless he starts sleeping with her again. Of course he told her no and her response was either leave that bitch or wait until the judge says u can see ur son!

I'm sorry but it seems as though he has or had been sleeping with her recently for her to make that remark. Something seems very off. My ex had 2 baby mamas and we got along great. I even went to his sons basketball games while we were dating and before we got married while the baby mama was there. I only had 2 incidents I can remember and it was over him not paying one daycare money and the other because he picked his child up without permission.

But for someone to talk about sleeping together that raises some red flags.

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Aries is right w this . Something is sketchy about that situation and threat his bm made.

Im the baby mama w the crazy baby daddy so I've been through it . He has to be consistent and know when to draw the line . If she's threatening to tak

@BetaBanana were you still having sex with him? Did he act crazy after you cut him off? Or was he acring crazy because you were still dealing with him on the side?

Posted by mzmee
At least get joint custody or visitatiin rights. She cant keep him away from his child if hes not a threat to the child. The courts will frown upon that. Remember, OP and her new beau just recently became official so he may have just recently broken it off, hence her saying sleeping with again. Please believe if he was still sleeping with him currently it probably wouldnt be an issue. There are some women who love being side chicks.

If her ass is still in love, thats an issue she has to figure out on her own. @LadyTate if she doesnt come at you directly, brush it off and keep it moving. Let him know to fight for his children, even if he has to go thru the courts. In the same token, let his ass know you'll ride with him thru the bullshit as long as he aint bullshitting you.

I didnt tell him about the comments because I didn't want to put more stress on him. I think she is still in love with him and is mad that he chose me. He will def fight for his child, I just hate that she's using the child as a pawn

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Ok thanks for the advice people and i always had skepticism on this matter. I tried it twice.....90 percent of the time you will deal with the mother of the kids heard really foul fucked up stories like this one all because of new changes. And a new person involved.

So take it to court and gather evidence on her too.

Oh you could get pregnant and squash all problems so you must consider to adapt then.

Or break up...

No most of the time they recently broke up with the mother or is still sleeping with the mother. But OP is the girlfriend not the wife so she will only hurt him going to court bringing up evidence.

And getting pregnant is the dumbest idea right now.

I wanted to stay open minded and have options, haha. I won't get pregnant if this was going on like this or continue this with the fact I'm never going to be worthy enough. But nowadays people have 2 different baby mommas or daddies. Or simply don't want anymore kids either. I met alot online like this. And I heard about men liking woman with kids too. So idk.

But what you are saying is one work it out or drop it.

TBH this situation I wouldn't even want to be in. I don't like drama like this, and more than likely OP will be lied to, talked about, and put last to keep peace between him, his baby mama and kids. He needs to get this situation under control first.

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not the best situation IK! And I don't think he'd cheat with her but u never know

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Well what if the side chick does get pregnant know you have other issues when you knew it was bad and still fresh baby momma issues.


So yeah nevermind don't get pregnant.

What?!

Posted by palehorse
I would move out of the projects.

Next time use a condom.

Ignorance at its best...

In some states, recording someones conversation without their knowledge is against the law and not admissible in court, so check your state laws first. OP if I were you I would not deal with her at all. I would advice my boyfriend to keep all conversations with her to text or email only for the purpose of using it as evidence should he need to go to court. Does he have a visitation schedule set up now through the courts or is this something that they've worked out on their own? If I were him I would consistently, on a regular schedule (say every other weekend, at least) be trying to see my child. Get a notebook & document everything starting with her not allowing him to see his child for Fathers Day unless.... The best thing to do is paint a picture for the courts through documentation of everything. Every time he sees his child & for how long, every time he attempts to see his child & she denies access, save all receipts of everything he buys for the child outside of child support etc. As for you, don't engage her in conversation at all. That's only going to throw gas on the fire. You are a support for your boyfriend not a go between middle man for the two of them. I was once accused of being a bitter baby momma, still being "in love" with my daughters dad LOL it was the farthest thing from the truth. Than again I wasn't black mailing him into sleeping with me either lol every situation is different of course but in my experience these are the best things that the both of you should do right now.

Posted by RiverLee
In some states, recording someones conversation without their knowledge is against the law and not admissible in court, so check your state laws first. OP if I were you I would not deal with her at all. I would advice my boyfriend to keep all conversations with her to text or email only for the purpose of using it as evidence should he need to go to court. Does he have a visitation schedule set up now through the courts or is this something that they've worked out on their own? If I were him I would consistently, on a regular schedule (say every other weekend, at least) be trying to see my child. Get a notebook & document everything starting with her not allowing him to see his child for Fathers Day unless.... The best thing to do is paint a picture for the courts through documentation of everything. Every time he sees his child & for how long, every time he attempts to see his child & she denies access, save all receipts of everything he buys for the child outside of child support etc. As for you, don't engage her in conversation at all. That's only going to throw gas on the fire. You are a support for your boyfriend not a go between middle man for the two of them. I was once accused of being a bitter baby momma, still being "in love" with my daughters dad LOL it was the farthest thing from the truth. Than again I wasn't black mailing him into sleeping with me either lol every situation is different of course but in my experience these are the best things that the both of you should do right now.

Nothing thru the courts but childsupporrt BUT it will happen soon. Most of their conversations are thru text or email because of where he works. He doesn't always have cell service. He can't keep a steady schedule with seeing the baby but she knows that everyone he is home from work, he wants him and he always gives her the dates he'll be home at least a month in advance. I'm starting to document everything now. Yesterday after all the chasing to try to get his son b/f church, she shows up at the house WITHOUT the baby asking for money to go buy him a new pair of shoes. All my B/F could do was walk in the house and not say anything. He was Livid! So I kindly asked her to please leave and shut the garage door. Later after I made him feel better, I went to the mall and grabbed the baby a pair of shoes (which we knew he didn't need) and deopped it to her house. On my way back home... She was texting him but as soon as I walked in the house, he showed me the text messages so I wouldn't think anything is going on between them. As far as not being the go between... That's going to be kind of hard because I'm not about to play with the disrespect. I'm not going to allow her to keep making sexual comments to the man I'm with. I'll have to pray about that part. Long and hard.

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Posted by mzmee
Drama as far as what? What is said baby mamma doing that's considered drama like? If she dorsnt direct anything to me, I dont deal with it. I'll tell the man how he can better manage his situation if asked tho.

Drama as in trying to keep him away from his kid because he's in a new relationship. Since he and I have made our relationship official, she has been making comments to him about me, such as "oh that's the bitch u with now... Blah, blah, blah." Well of course he handles that and doesn't tolerate her disrespecting. Well the specific incident I'm speaking of is his sons bday party. Every year he has a bday party for his son and always invites and invitation to his baby momma and her family to come. Of course they never do. Well yesterday we had the party and guess who showed up knowing I would be there. Well the bell rings and he's busy so I get the door. I let her in and ignored the stank look and rude comment because I did not want to act up in front of his family. So I let that slide. Anyway... as the party goes on, I see that everything I'm doing such as setting out the food, fixing the decorations as the kids knock them over and whatever else, she has a problem with it. Again... I ignored it and kept it moving. Well at the end of the party, as everyone was leaving, I noticed her in the kitchen with my bf and he has this pissed off look on his face. So I called him over and just gave him something to do to get away from her before they started arguing in front the guest. Well after all was said and done, I asked him what happened in the kitchen and he told me his Baby momma threatened to not let him see his son tomorrow for Father's Day or any day after that unless he starts sleeping with her again. Of course he told her no and her response was either leave that bitch or wait until the judge says u can see ur son!

wait, she really asked him to start sleeping with her again or else she won't let him see the child? LOL really LOL

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Really! And because he refused, she did not let him see his son on Fathers Day.

Yikes I'm sorry to hear that. That's messed up and not sure you can do anything it's like you're in the middle of lava waiting to spew out.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Yikes I'm sorry to hear that. That's messed up and not sure you can do anything it's like you're in the middle of lava waiting to spew out.

Ikr... All I want to do is make sure he doesn't blow up and lose his cool. It's sad when u see a man who is really trying to do for and be there for his child and the mother uses the baby as a bargaining chip. He has a great relationship with his other son and me and his other baby momma get along well.

That's still drama ultimately it's all you now. Good Luck.

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Posted by LadyTate
Nothing thru the courts but childsupporrt BUT it will happen soon. Most of their conversations are thru text or email because of where he works. He doesn't always have cell service. He can't keep a steady schedule with seeing the baby but she knows that everyone he is home from work, he wants him and he always gives her the dates he'll be home at least a month in advance. I'm starting to document everything now. Yesterday after all the chasing to try to get his son b/f church, she shows up at the house WITHOUT the baby asking for money to go buy him a new pair of shoes. All my B/F could do was walk in the house and not say anything. He was Livid! So I kindly asked her to please leave and shut the garage door. Later after I made him feel better, I went to the mall and grabbed the baby a pair of shoes (which we knew he didn't need) and deopped it to her house. On my way back home... She was texting him but as soon as I walked in the house, he showed me the text messages so I wouldn't think anything is going on between them. As far as not being the go between... That's going to be kind of hard because I'm not about to play with the disrespect. I'm not going to allow her to keep making sexual comments to the man I'm with. I'll have to pray about that part. Long and hard.

Stop getting involved and let him handle this himself.

the shoes were not your responsibility...making him feel better is not your responsibility.....documenting is not your responsibility.

It's his.

Stay out of it.

This may have been the very reason why he didn't want to make things official so quickly. You are trying to pacify the situation which only delays the inevitable....which is her throwing an epic fit. He picked her. He needs to deal with her.

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Yea... Like I said, I'll pray about it. It's not in me to allow someone to blatantly disrespect me and that's what she's doing. as far as the shoes... He and I talked and decided that it would be best if I picked them up and dropped them to her moms simply because had he gone she would've either tried to sleep with him (yes he would've walked away with a thought of doing it) or he would've ended up in jail for putting his hands on her. The documenting... Yes I'm doing it because the way he works, I'll be the one handling it for him anyway. Even prior to us making it official, I was helping him make sure his kids had everything they needed while he was at work. He didn't want to make thing officially so quickly because he was scared he would mess up our friendship if things didn't workout. She's already thrown an epic fit... At the party when she gave him an ultimatum to seeing his son! She's taken the child away from him already, that's the worst

Posted by LadyTate
How to deal with Baby Momma Drama?

Don't ever date men w kids. Plenty of men without kids.

Imo, you must like all this drama. Why put up with this if you dont have 2.

Theres like a million men in the world.

I get that you want to assert yourself as the GF, but id rather argue with my sig other between thai or chinese food than some lame baby mama

Your speech sounds ghetto ... you could start with growing come class.

You are being told by him that she wants to sleep with him .... while she isn't acting like a scorned woman, nor a woman who wants to stake claim. A woman who means to take him, is going to act like it.

Making snide comments to you isn't indicative of the behaviors for a woman wanting to win a man over from another woman.

It's quite obvious that since you are being fed information by him that isn't being supported with actions ... that he's the drama queen, looking to cause something between you. Because the real truth here is, in where every person with practical sensibilities has already said or alluded to - it's his job to take care of this problem.

But, instead of taking care of it ... he's perpetuating it, telling you things to make you feel threatened by her. A real man would protect his woman, and not let her feel threatened by the possibility of another woman. He has put the thought in your mind and heart that you need to fight for him. He's likely telling her things about you, in attempts to get her to fight for him. And the evidence is present enough in your testimony.

Mostly though ... you appear to be thriving on it. When faced with having to decide whether you should use some integrity and take the high road .... your words instead describe how you are refusing to back down. You've even thought up excuses as to why you should continue to participate in this.


The poor kid. My hope is that somebody is there to help the child ... someone who's mind and heart is focused on the best interest of the child. From the sounds of it, your focus is on getting yourself pumped and riled so you can go squash her as proof that you're the victor.

What should have happened was .....



since she and her family were coming, and if you knew that your presence was going to cause a rift .. then you should have left, and let the family have the day with their son.

It would have spoke volumes about your character being honorable

Word. The baby daddy is the biggest lame out there.

He is the issue.

Posted by Impulsv

But her wanting her him is red flag enough to not want to deal

I would tend to agree with that, if that were the case. It doesnt' appear to be the case to me.

It sounds like an angle a man would take, mainly because a man is only thinking in terms of fucking.

A woman isn't going to offer sex as a means to get a man away from another. That's free kitty for him, that's not threatening ... there's free pussy any/every where. A woman isn't going to use that angle.

A woman is going to make the other women believe that he loves her. It's through losing the man's love to another woman that is going to make her feel threatened.

So, my point is ... because the usage of words to OP as conveyed by the bf, to say, "she wants my dick" isn't what she would say to get to the other woman. If this woman was trying to get her man away, she would be telling her that ....


... he loves her.

she wouldn't be saying, "I have pussy"


so, in my mind, that means, it's the bf who is telling OP that the ex wants sex .. and not the ex saying it


People are going to behave like humans.

@P-Angel, honestly, that was one of the first things I thought: "Why would he tell her the ex said that to him? Isn't he concerned that would hurt OP?" I agree with you that the man would want to protect the woman from emotional hurt brought on by another.

As for a woman using sex as a way to threaten another woman, I have watched trash TV, and if those "reality shows are indicative of what goes on in real life (as they so often are, heh), then the women on those shows very often threaten sex. The idea, I'm presuming, is to make the other woman feel as though the man desires her physically, and if he desires her physically it means he's invested in her emotionally, or she can eventually "trick" him into investing in her emotionlly.

Anyway, this entire situation is extremely stressful, but I don't think it should be something you should have to tackle on your own, OP. I think that both you and your boyfriend need to work together on this one in the sense that you should discuss your concerns with him and he should tell you how he will make the situation better.

I don't know how long you two have been together, but know that there is no shame in doing what is right for you in the long run.

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Yikes I'm sorry to hear that. That's messed up and not sure you can do anything it's like you're in the middle of lava waiting to spew out.

Ikr... All I want to do is make sure he doesn't blow up and lose his cool. It's sad when u see a man who is really trying to do for and be there for his child and the mother uses the baby as a bargaining chip. He has a great relationship with his other son and me and his other baby momma get along well.

JFC he has two baby Mommas?

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Hell no

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Posted by mzmee
Drama as far as what? What is said baby mamma doing that's considered drama like? If she dorsnt direct anything to me, I dont deal with it. I'll tell the man how he can better manage his situation if asked tho.

Drama as in trying to keep him away from his kid because he's in a new relationship. Since he and I have made our relationship official, she has been making comments to him about me, such as "oh that's the bitch u with now... Blah, blah, blah." Well of course he handles that and doesn't tolerate her disrespecting. Well the specific incident I'm speaking of is his sons bday party. Every year he has a bday party for his son and always invites and invitation to his baby momma and her family to come. Of course they never do. Well yesterday we had the party and guess who showed up knowing I would be there. Well the bell rings and he's busy so I get the door. I let her in and ignored the stank look and rude comment because I did not want to act up in front of his family. So I let that slide. Anyway... as the party goes on, I see that everything I'm doing such as setting out the food, fixing the decorations as the kids knock them over and whatever else, she has a problem with it. Again... I ignored it and kept it moving. Well at the end of the party, as everyone was leaving, I noticed her in the kitchen with my bf and he has this pissed off look on his face. So I called him over and just gave him something to do to get away from her before they started arguing in front the guest. Well after all was said and done, I asked him what happened in the kitchen and he told me his Baby momma threatened to not let him see his son tomorrow for Father's Day or any day after that unless he starts sleeping with her again. Of course he told her no and her response was either leave that bitch or wait until the judge says u can see ur son!

She can't do that there are crusty right imposed already by the court if not I suggest he follows through

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When he put himself on Childsupport, he didn't address custody. They do have the "joint custody" because he's on the BC but b/c she's domacilary parent, he can't just go take the kid when he wants.

Posted by DMV
Imo, you must like all this drama. Why put up with this if you dont have 2.

Theres like a million men in the world.

I get that you want to assert yourself as the GF, but id rather argue with my sig other between thai or chinese food than some lame baby mama

He and I aren't arguing with each other over her. And yes there are plenty of men out there without kids but their not him. And as far as liking the drama... Girl bye! How was I supposed to know the bitch was stupid?

Posted by P-Angel

What should have happened was .....



since she and her family were coming, and if you knew that your presence was going to cause a rift .. then you should have left, and let the family have the day with their son.

It would have spoke volumes about your character being honorable

Bitch go sit ur holly'er than tho as the fuck down in a fucking corner facing a fucking wall u dumb bitch. Is that classy enough for u? Don't come for me questioning my character based of a ducking paragraph. As I stated before. I did not know the notch would have an issue otherwise I would've removes myself. As far as him... Just shut the fuck up!

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Posted by Impulsv

But her wanting her him is red flag enough to not want to deal

I would tend to agree with that, if that were the case. It doesnt' appear to be the case to me.

It sounds like an angle a man would take, mainly because a man is only thinking in terms of fucking.

A woman isn't going to offer sex as a means to get a man away from another. That's free kitty for him, that's not threatening ... there's free pussy any/every where. A woman isn't going to use that angle.

A woman is going to make the other women believe that he loves her. It's through losing the man's love to another woman that is going to make her feel threatened.

So, my point is ... because the usage of words to OP as conveyed by the bf, to say, "she wants my dick" isn't what she would say to get to the other woman. If this woman was trying to get her man away, she would be telling her that ....


... he loves her.

she wouldn't be saying, "I have pussy"


so, in my mind, that means, it's the bf who is telling OP that the ex wants sex .. and not the ex saying it


People are going to behave like humans.

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Again... Stfu and sit ur ass the duck down! She told him she wanted to duck him, she also texted him the same thing.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Yikes I'm sorry to hear that. That's messed up and not sure you can do anything it's like you're in the middle of lava waiting to spew out.

Ikr... All I want to do is make sure he doesn't blow up and lose his cool. It's sad when u see a man who is really trying to do for and be there for his child and the mother uses the baby as a bargaining chip. He has a great relationship with his other son and me and his other baby momma get along well.

JFC he has two baby Mommas?

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Yes... He has one from a previous relationship he was in for over 10yrs.

Posted by LillyPetal
@P-Angel, honestly, that was one of the first things I thought: "Why would he tell her the ex said that to him? Isn't he concerned that would hurt OP?" I agree with you that the man would want to protect the woman from emotional hurt brought on by another.

As for a woman using sex as a way to threaten another woman, I have watched trash TV, and if those "reality shows are indicative of what goes on in real life (as they so often are, heh), then the women on those shows very often threaten sex. The idea, I'm presuming, is to make the other woman feel as though the man desires her physically, and if he desires her physically it means he's invested in her emotionally, or she can eventually "trick" him into investing in her emotionlly.

Anyway, this entire situation is extremely stressful, but I don't think it should be something you should have to tackle on your own, OP. I think that both you and your boyfriend need to work together on this one in the sense that you should discuss your concerns with him and he should tell you how he will make the situation better.

I don't know how long you two have been together, but know that there is no shame in doing what is right for you in the long run.

H told me because we don't keep secrets. What would've hurt me was to find out later that this was going on and he hid it from me. We haven't been dating too long but we've been friends for about a year and I am in love with this man. This is something we're working on together.

I just can't stand when ppl comment out there ass like P-Angel. So not come at me as if ur better then me and damn sure don't try to put me down. I speak the way I speak because J choose to. Not because I don't know better. I can post my degrees and certifications but ur not worth me proving shit to.

Posted by ElleDuMonde
I promise you that you are lovey dovey now and you are all about helping him....but your libra venus is in the other room quietly writing all this shit down and will be ready to keep score.

If you do not detach from the responsibility of this you will resent him later......and nothing good will come out of it.

You are being controlling and you aren't even realising it.

This is not your problem and by him not handling it...eventually he will look "less than" in your eyes.

I'm trying... I've been praying about it and I'm really going to try to stay out of it. I talked to his mother earlier and she said to just wade it out, he'll nip it in the bud soon.

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@P-Angel, honestly, that was one of the first things I thought: "Why would he tell her the ex said that to him? Isn't he concerned that would hurt OP?" I agree with you that the man would want to protect the woman from emotional hurt brought on by another.

As for a woman using sex as a way to threaten another woman, I have watched trash TV, and if those "reality shows are indicative of what goes on in real life (as they so often are, heh), then the women on those shows very often threaten sex. The idea, I'm presuming, is to make the other woman feel as though the man desires her physically, and if he desires her physically it means he's invested in her emotionally, or she can eventually "trick" him into investing in her emotionlly.

Anyway, this entire situation is extremely stressful, but I don't think it should be something you should have to tackle on your own, OP. I think that both you and your boyfriend need to work together on this one in the sense that you should discuss your concerns with him and he should tell you how he will make the situation better.

I don't know how long you two have been together, but know that there is no shame in doing what is right for you in the long run.

H told me because we don't keep secrets. What would've hurt me was to find out later that this was going on and he hid it from me. We haven't been dating too long but we've been friends for about a year and I am in love with this man. This is something we're working on together.

I just can't stand when ppl comment out there ass like P-Angel. So not come at me as if ur better then me and damn sure don't try to put me down. I speak the way I speak because J choose to. Not because I don't know better. I can post my degrees and certifications but ur not worth me proving shit to.

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But the question remains, how does knowing this help you? What can you do about it? What will you confide in your boyfriend and how will he work towards a solution that works for both your relationship with him and his relationship with his child? As long as you both genuinely have the child's best interest at heart, I don't doubt that you will find a solution.

Posted by LadyTate
How to deal with Baby Momma Drama?

You secretly get the crazy woman onto the Jerry Springer show for the ultimate confrontation, of course.

Silly person.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Yikes I'm sorry to hear that. That's messed up and not sure you can do anything it's like you're in the middle of lava waiting to spew out.

Ikr... All I want to do is make sure he doesn't blow up and lose his cool. It's sad when u see a man who is really trying to do for and be there for his child and the mother uses the baby as a bargaining chip. He has a great relationship with his other son and me and his other baby momma get along well.

JFC he has two baby Mommas?

Hell no

So yeah p angel was right again!

Ghetto

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So because he has two baby mommas, that makes him a bad person? Please go have a seat in that same corner with P-Angel! And ghetto...? Please... Don't act like u don't know anyone who has kids with more than one person. Ur dad probably has a few out there floating around!

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@P-Angel, honestly, that was one of the first things I thought: "Why would he tell her the ex said that to him? Isn't he concerned that would hurt OP?" I agree with you that the man would want to protect the woman from emotional hurt brought on by another.

As for a woman using sex as a way to threaten another woman, I have watched trash TV, and if those "reality shows are indicative of what goes on in real life (as they so often are, heh), then the women on those shows very often threaten sex. The idea, I'm presuming, is to make the other woman feel as though the man desires her physically, and if he desires her physically it means he's invested in her emotionally, or she can eventually "trick" him into investing in her emotionlly.

Anyway, this entire situation is extremely stressful, but I don't think it should be something you should have to tackle on your own, OP. I think that both you and your boyfriend need to work together on this one in the sense that you should discuss your concerns with him and he should tell you how he will make the situation better.

I don't know how long you two have been together, but know that there is no shame in doing what is right for you in the long run.

H told me because we don't keep secrets. What would've hurt me was to find out later that this was going on and he hid it from me. We haven't been dating too long but we've been friends for about a year and I am in love with this man. This is something we're working on together.

I just can't stand when ppl comment out there ass like P-Angel. So not come at me as if ur better then me and damn sure don't try to put me down. I speak the way I speak because J choose to. Not because I don't know better. I can post my degrees and certifications but ur not worth me proving shit to.

But the question remains, how does knowing this help you? What can you do about it? What will you confide in your boyfriend and how will he work towards a solution that works for both your relationship with him and his relationship with his child? As long as you both genuinely have the child's best interest at heart, I don't doubt that you will find a solution.

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What do u mean help me? U would rather not know? No ma'am... Tell me. I want to know everything that's going on. Don't his that from me because then I'll think u didn't want me to low because ur trying to sneak around.

LOL @ this Queen buying shoes for the kid

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goddam..... it looks like the blonde got her neck broken

Lol..I love Jerry..

I loved Jenny too.

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Posted by Impulsv
Having kids with seperate mother
I'd consider huge red flags !!
He don't stick around what make u think he will with u
Just saying®

But she's buying shoes!!

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What kind of shoes exactly? Though. Lol

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Posted by Impulsv
Having kids with seperate mother
I'd consider huge red flags !!
He don't stick around what make u think he will with u
Just saying®

But she's buying shoes!!

What kind of shoes exactly? Though. Lol

The shoes the baby daddy couldn't be bothered buying!

Red flag.

He's got mouths to feed and clothe.

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Priorities are alittle screwed.

We got to stick together for mankind. Bahaha.