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Being In A Relationship With Or Dating a Social Media Whore...
Posted by slowdive80nah, the culture is out of step with normality.
Maybe I'm just a luddite and out of step with culture.
Nice to know DXP censored my subject line. God, what is wrong with saying social media wh--e?
Never will understand this website.
I understand when models and actors instagram and snapchat stuff. That is their job to connect with their fanbase.
But even then they will broadcast the most stupid garbage. "Look at my new nails!!" "Look at this beautiful cake!"
Dont get me wrong I enjoy when people put funny stuff on instagram like pranks or impressions of people.
But having a late night instagram broadcast about if you should or should not quit using your ex's netflix account is taking things too far.
Never will understand this website.
I understand when models and actors instagram and snapchat stuff. That is their job to connect with their fanbase.
But even then they will broadcast the most stupid garbage. "Look at my new nails!!" "Look at this beautiful cake!"
Dont get me wrong I enjoy when people put funny stuff on instagram like pranks or impressions of people.
But having a late night instagram broadcast about if you should or should not quit using your ex's netflix account is taking things too far.
I understand when he is answering work texts but texting all the time would show me how uninterested he is in me.
That’s disrespect.
Actually if you told her/him about how turned off you are by this behavior - what do they would say?
That’s disrespect.
Actually if you told her/him about how turned off you are by this behavior - what do they would say?
I hate generalizing, but this is just in my experience. Dating is hard enough for someone like me in their late 30's
It's hard meeting single, attractive 30 somethings with no kids for me. So I am kind of forced to date 27-29 year olds.
And what I have seen with this 27-29 year old age range is huge social media addiction. It turns me off so much that I completely rule out a relationship.
The other disappointing thing is when I meet someone close to my age, they end up being just as bad as the twentysomethings with instagramming and snapchatting everything.
For example I follow Tom Petty's daughter on instagram. Dont get me wrong she comes across as a very nice person. But she instagrams every little thing. Her in the shower, her eating.
I am trying not to judge because I know she is going through a hard time. But at the same time I find it disturbing she social mediaizes every part of her life and she is close to my age.
I think I'm going to be a eccentric recluse whose only companion is a dog if I keep meeting self-obsessed social media junkies
It's hard meeting single, attractive 30 somethings with no kids for me. So I am kind of forced to date 27-29 year olds.
And what I have seen with this 27-29 year old age range is huge social media addiction. It turns me off so much that I completely rule out a relationship.
The other disappointing thing is when I meet someone close to my age, they end up being just as bad as the twentysomethings with instagramming and snapchatting everything.
For example I follow Tom Petty's daughter on instagram. Dont get me wrong she comes across as a very nice person. But she instagrams every little thing. Her in the shower, her eating.
I am trying not to judge because I know she is going through a hard time. But at the same time I find it disturbing she social mediaizes every part of her life and she is close to my age.
I think I'm going to be a eccentric recluse whose only companion is a dog if I keep meeting self-obsessed social media junkies
I love how people complain about us thirty somethings dating twentysomethings.
Sure there is some in our age group who love younger people.
But then there is the rest of us where our people our age are taken, married, or single with kids.
I'm sorry but I am not interested in being a dad. I made a choice a long time ago about not having kids. And made sure to use very careful methods to ensure I dont have them.
So you are left with twentysomethings. I am just dealing the hand I am dealt with at this point.
I dont mean disrespect to people in their 20's but it is a huge disconnect for someone in their late 30's.
I keep up on current music so I share that in common. But say I do meet someone in their 20's who is intellectually mature for their age. They usually still have the emotional maturity of someone in their 20's.
So it ends up not working out. Or they are just obsessed with putting themselves on social media.😉
Sure there is some in our age group who love younger people.
But then there is the rest of us where our people our age are taken, married, or single with kids.
I'm sorry but I am not interested in being a dad. I made a choice a long time ago about not having kids. And made sure to use very careful methods to ensure I dont have them.
So you are left with twentysomethings. I am just dealing the hand I am dealt with at this point.
I dont mean disrespect to people in their 20's but it is a huge disconnect for someone in their late 30's.
I keep up on current music so I share that in common. But say I do meet someone in their 20's who is intellectually mature for their age. They usually still have the emotional maturity of someone in their 20's.
So it ends up not working out. Or they are just obsessed with putting themselves on social media.😉
I agree with older people. They dont do their due diligence on posted articles. You need to fact check everything you read. Even if it's something that is sympathetic to your beliefs.
Because some people do not have their facts straight and that can blow up in your face if you use their information in a debate.
"Alternatively, I notice that even more so... young folk obsessively need their smart phones and apps because they grew up with it in their face since age 9. A generation that is dependent on these platforms... it will not be good because they are the most detached from the outside world."
This very much scares me. I see teenagers and early 20's people who cant hold a conversation amongst themselves without snapchatting it.
Same thing with older late 20's-30's crowd. I saw a group of them having dinner and they werent even talking to each other and were on their phones for 30 minutes straight.
Why bother going out with people if you're just going to be on your phone all the time?
Seriously someone could offer me a time machine and I would have no hesitation to returning to the late 80's. An era with no facebook, twitter, instagram or snapchat and cell phones without texting capability. Which would be the dark ages for people born in the late 90's and 2000's.
Because some people do not have their facts straight and that can blow up in your face if you use their information in a debate.
"Alternatively, I notice that even more so... young folk obsessively need their smart phones and apps because they grew up with it in their face since age 9. A generation that is dependent on these platforms... it will not be good because they are the most detached from the outside world."
This very much scares me. I see teenagers and early 20's people who cant hold a conversation amongst themselves without snapchatting it.
Same thing with older late 20's-30's crowd. I saw a group of them having dinner and they werent even talking to each other and were on their phones for 30 minutes straight.
Why bother going out with people if you're just going to be on your phone all the time?
Seriously someone could offer me a time machine and I would have no hesitation to returning to the late 80's. An era with no facebook, twitter, instagram or snapchat and cell phones without texting capability. Which would be the dark ages for people born in the late 90's and 2000's.
Posted by slowdive80Don't take this the wrong way, but maybe you're boring?
I know Im getting ancient when social media becomes a huge pet peeve of mine. I find it disturbing when people use snapchat and instagram every minute of every hour.
It drives me nuts. Dont get me wrong, I have no issue with someone I'm dating using it moderately. And that they leave me out of it.
But when they cant go two minutes without snapchatting or instagraming something, I find that a huge turnoff.
I realize I am of the 80's generation and my complaints may fall on deaf ears. Hell, even some people my age are instagram/snapchat addicts.
Whatever happened to being in the moment with someone? Or just enjoying each other's company?
Maybe I'm just a luddite and out of step with culture.
Am I the only one who finds social media whoring to be a deal breaker when dating someone?
If I'm on my phone and there's people around, im.bored.
Born 1981
@Dmv - That is a fair point. But here's the thing. When i am hanging out with someone, I dont talk about myself. I usually talk about topics the other person has interest in, ask questions about stuff going on in their life, listening and i joke around.
I've called out a girl I was on a date on for being bored in a joking way. She was literally snapchatting every couple of minutes. She was doing that at the beginning of the conversation.
Its been a couple of years since this date, so I have to jog my memory. I think I said something to the effect of "So my talking is an effective new version of Nyquil Good to know, I'm gonna be rich as hekk
She tried to excuse her behavior and say she wasnt bored. She really enjoyed using instagram and snapchat. I blatantly told her "look, you are not gonna hurt my feelings if you say you are bored. Some people just dont connect. It's no big deal, Im not upset. It's cool"
She tried to make excuses saying everyone she knows texts, or instagrams while out with someone. I asked her what the general age of the people she knows.
She said 25 which is her age. I told her that most people my age dont spend a lot of time on the phone during a date unless like you said DMV they are bored.
She seemed genuinely shocked by that which scared me further. And that really hit home that I didnt want a second date with her.
I thought that would be it after the date was over cause she is a beautiful girl and I assumed she had so many dudes chasing her that she wouldnt be interested anymore.
I got crushed on that. She texted and called a few more times but I didnt answer. It may have been rude on my end but I didnt feel we had enough in common for even a friendship.
Also DMV, a conversation is 50-50. A person can only do so much in terms of carrying it. The other person has to be interesting too. I'm not only going to prove something to a girl just because she is pretty. She has to show me she is interesting to talk with too.
I'll take a cute girl with a good personality any day of the week over a model looking one who is arrogant for a relationship.
I've called out a girl I was on a date on for being bored in a joking way. She was literally snapchatting every couple of minutes. She was doing that at the beginning of the conversation.
Its been a couple of years since this date, so I have to jog my memory. I think I said something to the effect of "So my talking is an effective new version of Nyquil Good to know, I'm gonna be rich as hekk
She tried to excuse her behavior and say she wasnt bored. She really enjoyed using instagram and snapchat. I blatantly told her "look, you are not gonna hurt my feelings if you say you are bored. Some people just dont connect. It's no big deal, Im not upset. It's cool"
She tried to make excuses saying everyone she knows texts, or instagrams while out with someone. I asked her what the general age of the people she knows.
She said 25 which is her age. I told her that most people my age dont spend a lot of time on the phone during a date unless like you said DMV they are bored.
She seemed genuinely shocked by that which scared me further. And that really hit home that I didnt want a second date with her.
I thought that would be it after the date was over cause she is a beautiful girl and I assumed she had so many dudes chasing her that she wouldnt be interested anymore.
I got crushed on that. She texted and called a few more times but I didnt answer. It may have been rude on my end but I didnt feel we had enough in common for even a friendship.
Also DMV, a conversation is 50-50. A person can only do so much in terms of carrying it. The other person has to be interesting too. I'm not only going to prove something to a girl just because she is pretty. She has to show me she is interesting to talk with too.
I'll take a cute girl with a good personality any day of the week over a model looking one who is arrogant for a relationship.
Posted by slowdive80The irony.
IFor example I follow Tom Petty's daughter on instagram. Dont get me wrong she comes across as a very nice person. But she instagrams every little thing. Her in the shower, her eating.
I am trying not to judge because I know she is going through a hard time. But at the same time I find it disturbing she social mediaizes every part of her life and she is close to my age.
I can see your hate being legit if you scorned all social media but hello! Your her freaking follower.
/dead
I remember, sitting with my bestfriend and her wife at dinner. We decided on Sushi.
Behind them, was a young couple. As we ate, I watched them, and the ENTIRE time, I think they said 2-3 words to one another. The remaining of the time, they both had their phones out, reading things. I watched them both take pictures of their sushi, and post it as well.
I thought to myself in that moment, that it must be horrendous to date in this day and age. There is no personal connecting, and everything is as if people are dating remotely. It seems sad, and detached.
Which makes me appreciate my boyfriend all the more. By all intents and purposes, he should be a social media queen, at the age of 26. But he cares not, for any of it, and it is nice.
Behind them, was a young couple. As we ate, I watched them, and the ENTIRE time, I think they said 2-3 words to one another. The remaining of the time, they both had their phones out, reading things. I watched them both take pictures of their sushi, and post it as well.
I thought to myself in that moment, that it must be horrendous to date in this day and age. There is no personal connecting, and everything is as if people are dating remotely. It seems sad, and detached.
Which makes me appreciate my boyfriend all the more. By all intents and purposes, he should be a social media queen, at the age of 26. But he cares not, for any of it, and it is nice.
Posted by slowdive80Naw fuck that shit. The ones hating are just hating cause they aren't fine enough to get that young 20s stamina dick. Keep doing you!
I love how people complain about us thirty somethings dating twentysomethings.
Sure there is some in our age group who love younger people.
But then there is the rest of us where our people our age are taken, married, or single with kids.
I'm sorry but I am not interested in being a dad. I made a choice a long time ago about not having kids. And made sure to use very careful methods to ensure I dont have them.
So you are left with twentysomethings. I am just dealing the hand I am dealt with at this point.
I dont mean disrespect to people in their 20's but it is a huge disconnect for someone in their late 30's.
I keep up on current music so I share that in common. But say I do meet someone in their 20's who is intellectually mature for their age. They usually still have the emotional maturity of someone in their 20's.
So it ends up not working out. Or they are just obsessed with putting themselves on social media.😉
@LadyNeptune
First off, I never said there was anything wrong with looking at instagram or snapchat themselves. What I am talking about in this thread is people using it in their day to day life in a excessive way. So I am not being a hypocrite.
I look at instagram and twitter for entertainment but I dont participate in it in terms of posting things. The people I follow are funny and post funny things which is the only reason I look at instagram is for a laugh when im at break on work
For the record, I started following Annakim Petty's instagram after her dad had passed. I didnt know she even had an instagram until her dad died and news articles were linking her page.
I am a huge fan of her dad Tom. And wanted to convey my condolences to her which is why I followed her.
She posts pretty cool stuff on her instagram usually. Its the instagram stories where she videos every little thing like eating something, getting her hair done that I find a little strange.
But thats her business not mine, but I find it a little weird is all
First off, I never said there was anything wrong with looking at instagram or snapchat themselves. What I am talking about in this thread is people using it in their day to day life in a excessive way. So I am not being a hypocrite.
I look at instagram and twitter for entertainment but I dont participate in it in terms of posting things. The people I follow are funny and post funny things which is the only reason I look at instagram is for a laugh when im at break on work
For the record, I started following Annakim Petty's instagram after her dad had passed. I didnt know she even had an instagram until her dad died and news articles were linking her page.
I am a huge fan of her dad Tom. And wanted to convey my condolences to her which is why I followed her.
She posts pretty cool stuff on her instagram usually. Its the instagram stories where she videos every little thing like eating something, getting her hair done that I find a little strange.
But thats her business not mine, but I find it a little weird is all
Posted by slowdive80Shrug. Different strokes for different folks.
@LadyNeptune
First off, I never said there was anything wrong with looking at instagram or snapchat themselves. What I am talking about in this thread is people using it in their day to day life in a excessive way. So I am not being a hypocrite.
I look at instagram and twitter for entertainment but I dont participate in it in terms of posting things. The people I follow are funny and post funny things which is the only reason I look at instagram is for a laugh when im at break on work
For the record, I started following Annakim Petty's instagram after her dad had passed. I didnt know she even had an instagram until her dad died and news articles were linking her page.
I am a huge fan of her dad Tom. And wanted to convey my condolences to her which is why I followed her.
She posts pretty cool stuff on her instagram usually. Its the instagram stories where she videos every little thing like eating something, getting her hair done that I find a little strange.
But thats her business not mine, but I find it a little weird is all
Your not in a relationship with her (nor will you ever be) so I don't get why your bitching. Just stay creeping as a fan does.
Kinda hyprocrity of you to say its cool for you to partake for 'entertainment purposes' but not cool for her to provide said entertainment.
Posted by tizianiLmaooooo wtf
I used to be heavy into browsing Instagram, then opened up to @Nikkistar about it on the off chance. Just one day thought, what the hell...can't hurt. Imma hit PM.
Now Im off the IG for good.
I'll never tell my wife that our marriage survived thanks to Nikki (it'd probably just open old wounds while she asks me if Nikkistar is "another one of your IG whores") but it's like we're reliving our honeymoon period all over again. Thanks Nikkistar.
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It drives me nuts. Dont get me wrong, I have no issue with someone I'm dating using it moderately. And that they leave me out of it.
But when they cant go two minutes without snapchatting or instagraming something, I find that a huge turnoff.
I realize I am of the 80's generation and my complaints may fall on deaf ears. Hell, even some people my age are instagram/snapchat addicts.
Whatever happened to being in the moment with someone? Or just enjoying each other's company?
Maybe I'm just a luddite and out of step with culture.
Am I the only one who finds social media whoring to be a deal breaker when dating someone?