@FFS
8 Years
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Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
What does real life consist of?
I work alot- 80 hours a week, so at home I basically do the 3 S's 😆
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80's a week—? The 3s. Sex Sex Sex?
Depends the relationship.
Elaborate
Depending how long the relationship is, if you have children, or if you are married. The longer the relationship the more forgiving I become. I like the idea of monogamy but I doubt it is possible.
In a new relationship it will be a total no no.
This was a really good answer but I still think it leaves the possibility for the guy to just cheat again, since you forgave him once. I couldn't be as forgiving as you.
Yes that is true but I think from there the relationship will definitely change and maybe move to an open relationship or something like that.
I have being cheated once with my ex and I tried to forgive him but in the end I couldn’t because it was a turn off and I was just not attracted to him anymore. So until I am in that situation I wouldn’t know for sure, but I know that things are never black and white.
They're pretty black or white for me lol I leave the door wide open for them to walk out. They can test the boundaries all they want. Once they step over the line, though.................I will help them out! 😆
Why do you always seem to be taking notes when her and I talk— 😄
...When you talk
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I meant when we get together, lol I think you know what I meant lol
Nope.
"...And that's that"
And I'll be the best ex you ever had-- what else is there? lol
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Love your confidence and the cigarette to back it up
It’s easy for me to say no. But if I had 10+ years invested, kids, a mortgage etc...idk. I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I get there.
Pisces sun Aries Moon
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
You make some valid points. Yes, people usually cheat because of some sort of problem in the relationship. So, why not just be mature and address the issue? Why be deceitful about it? If you need to sample other flavors as you stated, then why not just stay single?
"The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset."
Are you saying that the person that was stepped out on doesn't have a right to be upset?
Emotions don't work like that. Nor is it a case of being right of being upset. It's something that just is.
All I'm looking for is why it is so upsetting and the most likely answer is that it is because of the ego. We feel devalued by cheating, if we leave the lying part out for now. I find it interesting to figure out why it triggers such strong and baosulte responses. Logically speaking cheating can have nothing to do with the person that gets cheated on.
"All I'm looking for is why it is so upsetting and the most likely answer is that it is because of the ego."
>But chances are the person is upset because they thought the two of you established a thing called "trust." The person is upset cause they are blindsided.
Yes, that would be completly appropriate if it had been established at some point. If it is something said person just assumed and was never talked about, it would be on them and not the person who cheated.
It's unfair to blame someone for a break of trust if it was never established that it would be a break of trust.
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Absolutely agree.
Can they work their way back into your heart?
They already have my heart. That’s why the betrayal is so devastating
If you forgive them the first time, then they pretty much have a free for all to worm themselves back into your life. They faced no consequences before, they won't when it happens again.
Nope, not anymore
What changed
Me I guess, I am more confident than before and because once a cheater always a cheater.
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Glad you found your confidence 🤜 Don't ever accept a cheater.
It depends. I’m fixed so i never want to leave but when it comes to cheating I’m usually out that door. Now i do understand people make mistakes and people do change and i believe in second chances just depends really.
It’s easy for me to say no. But if I had 10+ years invested, kids, a mortgage etc...idk. I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I get there.
Pisces sun Aries Moon
Fair enough
Can they work their way back into your heart?
They already have my heart. That’s why the betrayal is so devastating
True
If you forgive them the first time, then they pretty much have a free for all to worm themselves back into your life. They faced no consequences before, they won't when it happens again.
This is true. I don't have kids, but I would imagine it would be like letting a kid get away with something the first time around.
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
What does real life consist of?
I work alot- 80 hours a week, so at home I basically do the 3 S's 😆
80's a week—? The 3s. Sex Sex Sex?
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Scorpio moon confirmed! 😆
Yes I work a lot and no not all of my downtime is sex related . I just chill or travel. That's not what the 3's stand for but my meaning would have been different anyways so you're definition will do 🙂
It depends. I’m fixed so i never want to leave but when it comes to cheating I’m usually out that door. Now i do understand people make mistakes and people do change and i believe in second chances just depends really.
Leo sun (pride) aries moon 🤔 . You are primarily fixed?
If you forgive them the first time, then they pretty much have a free for all to worm themselves back into your life. They faced no consequences before, they won't when it happens again.
This is true. I don't have kids, but I would imagine it would be like letting a kid get away with something the first time around.
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True
Some women turn a blind eye and choose to live a lie
Self deception at its worst
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
What does real life consist of?
I work alot- 80 hours a week, so at home I basically do the 3 S's 😆
80's a week—? The 3s. Sex Sex Sex?
Scorpio moon confirmed! 😆
Yes I work a lot and no not all of my downtime is sex related . I just chill or travel. That's not what the 3's stand for but my meaning would have been different anyways so you're definition will do 🙂
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LMFAO. Why do you work so much? Where do you live?
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
You make some valid points. Yes, people usually cheat because of some sort of problem in the relationship. So, why not just be mature and address the issue? Why be deceitful about it? If you need to sample other flavors as you stated, then why not just stay single?
"The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset."
Are you saying that the person that was stepped out on doesn't have a right to be upset?
Emotions don't work like that. Nor is it a case of being right of being upset. It's something that just is.
All I'm looking for is why it is so upsetting and the most likely answer is that it is because of the ego. We feel devalued by cheating, if we leave the lying part out for now. I find it interesting to figure out why it triggers such strong and baosulte responses. Logically speaking cheating can have nothing to do with the person that gets cheated on.
"All I'm looking for is why it is so upsetting and the most likely answer is that it is because of the ego."
>But chances are the person is upset because they thought the two of you established a thing called "trust." The person is upset cause they are blindsided.
Yes, that would be completly appropriate if it had been established at some point. If it is something said person just assumed and was never talked about, it would be on them and not the person who cheated.
It's unfair to blame someone for a break of trust if it was never established that it would be a break of trust.
Absolutely agree.
My weird stance on those things my be due to my retrograde Venus if that helps your data acquisition.
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I don't have it so I've never researched it. What have you learned about it?
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
What does real life consist of?
I work alot- 80 hours a week, so at home I basically do the 3 S's 😆
80's a week—? The 3s. Sex Sex Sex?
Scorpio moon confirmed! 😆
Yes I work a lot and no not all of my downtime is sex related . I just chill or travel. That's not what the 3's stand for but my meaning would have been different anyways so you're definition will do 🙂
LMFAO. Why do you work so much? Where do you live?
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California- Where $ 100,000 annually is considered ‘Low Income’ In Parts Of Bay Area
It depends. I’m fixed so i never want to leave but when it comes to cheating I’m usually out that door. Now i do understand people make mistakes and people do change and i believe in second chances just depends really.
Leo sun (pride) aries moon 🤔 . You are primarily fixed?
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I was with a Pisces when i was in high school and eventually got engaged. He cheated on never once in the relationship with his ex gf and i forgave him. Then later on when he’s in the military i find out he’s back to his old ways and now there’s multiple girls involved. Sad that i took him back the first time but and on some degree i do think once a cheater always a cheater.
Now if he had cheated on me that one time and it was a huge mistake to him and he would never do that again, well if that were true i would of married him. Buttttt he’s a typical cheater.
I think forgiving someone or not comes from WHY they cheated in the first place.
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
What does real life consist of?
I work alot- 80 hours a week, so at home I basically do the 3 S's 😆
80's a week—? The 3s. Sex Sex Sex?
Scorpio moon confirmed! 😆
Yes I work a lot and no not all of my downtime is sex related . I just chill or travel. That's not what the 3's stand for but my meaning would have been different anyways so you're definition will do 🙂
LMFAO. Why do you work so much? Where do you live?
California- Where $ 100,000 annually is considered ‘Low Income’ In Parts Of Bay Area
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Oh good Lord. Don't they have the highest cost of living in the US? I'm in Mass and its pretty expensive, but not as expensive as Cali.
@shakedown why did you leave 😭 😢
It depends. I’m fixed so i never want to leave but when it comes to cheating I’m usually out that door. Now i do understand people make mistakes and people do change and i believe in second chances just depends really.
Leo sun (pride) aries moon 🤔 . You are primarily fixed?
I was with a Pisces when i was in high school and eventually got engaged. He cheated on never once in the relationship with his ex gf and i forgave him. Then later on when he’s in the military i find out he’s back to his old ways and now there’s multiple girls involved. Sad that i took him back the first time but and on some degree i do think once a cheater always a cheater.
Now if he had cheated on me that one time and it was a huge mistake to him and he would never do that again, well if that were true i would of married him. Buttttt he’s a typical cheater.
I think forgiving someone or not comes from WHY they cheated in the first place.
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"I think forgiving someone or not comes from WHY they cheated in the first place. "
> Give me an example that would warrant forgiveness
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
You make some valid points. Yes, people usually cheat because of some sort of problem in the relationship. So, why not just be mature and address the issue? Why be deceitful about it? If you need to sample other flavors as you stated, then why not just stay single?
"The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset."
Are you saying that the person that was stepped out on doesn't have a right to be upset?
Emotions don't work like that. Nor is it a case of being right of being upset. It's something that just is.
All I'm looking for is why it is so upsetting and the most likely answer is that it is because of the ego. We feel devalued by cheating, if we leave the lying part out for now. I find it interesting to figure out why it triggers such strong and baosulte responses. Logically speaking cheating can have nothing to do with the person that gets cheated on.
"All I'm looking for is why it is so upsetting and the most likely answer is that it is because of the ego."
>But chances are the person is upset because they thought the two of you established a thing called "trust." The person is upset cause they are blindsided.
Yes, that would be completly appropriate if it had been established at some point. If it is something said person just assumed and was never talked about, it would be on them and not the person who cheated.
It's unfair to blame someone for a break of trust if it was never established that it would be a break of trust.
Absolutely agree.
My weird stance on those things my be due to my retrograde Venus if that helps your data acquisition.
I don't have it so I've never researched it. What have you learned about it?
Doomed to fail in love.
Independent.
Very different opinions about love and relationship from those "normal" views.
Annnd a lot of other shitty stuff.
It probably the shittiest planet to have as retrograde. It's also the most rare.
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Has the research proven true?
no, but i expect to be forgiven. women cheat for different reasons than men. we don't love those other women. in fact, we can't wait to come back home, shower, and chill with you.
cheating for women and cheating for men, isnt that really apples and oranges?
women cheat bc they are not satisfied and someone is giving them plenty of pleasing emotions.
men cheat despite being completely satisfied bc it beats jerking off.
(GC06 i would never cheat on you)
Imma leave this alone.
Pussy cat.
You'll leave that alone bc it's too truthful, but ugly to look at, OR completely inaccurate and distasteful OR....?
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Nah. Imma leave all of that alone.
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
Do you have threesomes with them? Why do you end up with mostly bisexual women?
Since I never made it into a relationship, no but it has been offered to me multiple times so far.
I don't know why. Might be a general vibe for I also have been approach by some homosexual men who asked if I'd like to have sex with them.
Why would you need to be in a relationship to have sex as a threesome? Do you hold out for sex until you are in one? I know Cap Venus is traditional, but I wasn't thinking THAT traditional. I understand cultures vary.
No, I just wasn't interested in it the majority of the times.
The other cases were simply traps where the women wanted to see how I react to that.
In general I wouldn't have a threesome with persons I don't know or have feelings for in some form. I think that would be the main obstacle.
I understand this completely. I used to tell my ex, the only way I would ever have a threesome is if I didn't love him anymore 🙂
I agree with the reasons to cheat too, they were very "curiosity" related lol
I could have threesomes while still loving that person.
I would just need to know, like and have some feelings for the third person.
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Oh wow. I would never be able to do this. I would be too jealous! I would lie and say it was ok if it was really something you would want to do-if you pressured me, then I would hate you after lol I don't share very well 😢
I guess it can be an advantage to you getting bi woman.
no, but i expect to be forgiven. women cheat for different reasons than men. we don't love those other women. in fact, we can't wait to come back home, shower, and chill with you.
cheating for women and cheating for men, isnt that really apples and oranges?
women cheat bc they are not satisfied and someone is giving them plenty of pleasing emotions.
men cheat despite being completely satisfied bc it beats jerking off.
(GC06 i would never cheat on you)
I can see this. Makes sense. If you had enough money, I would allow it and fuck the pool boy 🙂
No, your not fucking anything but me. Listen, it's not like I'm going to do it again, but you cant just leave me bc I make mistakes. You stay with me bc I can change for the better
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Pay me what you owe me!!! I'm taking half and will still be using the pool and pool boy!! 😆
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
What does real life consist of?
I work alot- 80 hours a week, so at home I basically do the 3 S's 😆
80's a week—? The 3s. Sex Sex Sex?
Scorpio moon confirmed! 😆
Yes I work a lot and no not all of my downtime is sex related . I just chill or travel. That's not what the 3's stand for but my meaning would have been different anyways so you're definition will do 🙂
LMFAO. Why do you work so much? Where do you live?
California- Where $ 100,000 annually is considered ‘Low Income’ In Parts Of Bay Area
Oh good Lord. Don't they have the highest cost of living in the US? I'm in Mass and its pretty expensive, but not as expensive as Cali.
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I don’t know. I think NY and California are neck and neck. They say people stay in relationships longer then they have to here because of the income lol.
That’s the reason why I work so much. I had to once I split from the ex.
@shakedown why did you leave 😭 😢
I'm at the beach. The signal keeps going in and out.
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You went without me?
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
What does real life consist of?
I work alot- 80 hours a week, so at home I basically do the 3 S's 😆
80's a week—? The 3s. Sex Sex Sex?
Scorpio moon confirmed! 😆
Yes I work a lot and no not all of my downtime is sex related . I just chill or travel. That's not what the 3's stand for but my meaning would have been different anyways so you're definition will do 🙂
LMFAO. Why do you work so much? Where do you live?
California- Where $ 100,000 annually is considered ‘Low Income’ In Parts Of Bay Area
Oh good Lord. Don't they have the highest cost of living in the US? I'm in Mass and its pretty expensive, but not as expensive as Cali.
I don’t know. I think NY and California are neck and neck. They say people stay in relationships longer then they have to here because of the income lol.
That’s the reason why I work so much. I had to once I split from the ex.
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You ever think about moving? Are you originally from Cali?
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
Do you have threesomes with them? Why do you end up with mostly bisexual women?
Since I never made it into a relationship, no but it has been offered to me multiple times so far.
I don't know why. Might be a general vibe for I also have been approach by some homosexual men who asked if I'd like to have sex with them.
Why would you need to be in a relationship to have sex as a threesome? Do you hold out for sex until you are in one? I know Cap Venus is traditional, but I wasn't thinking THAT traditional. I understand cultures vary.
No, I just wasn't interested in it the majority of the times.
The other cases were simply traps where the women wanted to see how I react to that.
In general I wouldn't have a threesome with persons I don't know or have feelings for in some form. I think that would be the main obstacle.
I understand this completely. I used to tell my ex, the only way I would ever have a threesome is if I didn't love him anymore 🙂
I agree with the reasons to cheat too, they were very "curiosity" related lol
I could have threesomes while still loving that person.
I would just need to know, like and have some feelings for the third person.
Oh wow. I would never be able to do this. I would be too jealous! I would lie and say it was ok if it was really something you would want to do-if you pressured me, then I would hate you after lol I don't share very well 😢
I guess it can be an advantage to you getting bi woman.
And here I was thinking that you were a Sag......
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Lol. You already know I’m too possessive. I can be open minded but not when it comes to sex and sharing.
OMG to hear the noises and shyt she would make while my man is doing the same things to her that he does to me, will get both of them killed lol.
It would just have to be a fantasy the you can fulfill without me knowing 🙈🙊
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
What does real life consist of?
I work alot- 80 hours a week, so at home I basically do the 3 S's 😆
80's a week—? The 3s. Sex Sex Sex?
Scorpio moon confirmed! 😆
Yes I work a lot and no not all of my downtime is sex related . I just chill or travel. That's not what the 3's stand for but my meaning would have been different anyways so you're definition will do 🙂
LMFAO. Why do you work so much? Where do you live?
California- Where $ 100,000 annually is considered ‘Low Income’ In Parts Of Bay Area
Oh good Lord. Don't they have the highest cost of living in the US? I'm in Mass and its pretty expensive, but not as expensive as Cali.
I don’t know. I think NY and California are neck and neck. They say people stay in relationships longer then they have to here because of the income lol.
That’s the reason why I work so much. I had to once I split from the ex.
You ever think about moving? Are you originally from Cali?
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I have a twin brother on the east coast. I’ve thought about it but just haven’t pulled the trigger. I will probably end up moving as a senior citizen or something lol.
I can move to the Caribbean once I get a set pension and automatic deposit lol
Slightly unrelated.
But can a cheater be neutralised if you stop caring about the eventuality of them cheating on you? Because think about it. What would be the incentive for most if you were to deprive them of the thrill of getting caught?
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
What does real life consist of?
I work alot- 80 hours a week, so at home I basically do the 3 S's 😆
80's a week—? The 3s. Sex Sex Sex?
Scorpio moon confirmed! 😆
Yes I work a lot and no not all of my downtime is sex related . I just chill or travel. That's not what the 3's stand for but my meaning would have been different anyways so you're definition will do 🙂
LMFAO. Why do you work so much? Where do you live?
California- Where $ 100,000 annually is considered ‘Low Income’ In Parts Of Bay Area
Oh good Lord. Don't they have the highest cost of living in the US? I'm in Mass and its pretty expensive, but not as expensive as Cali.
I don’t know. I think NY and California are neck and neck. They say people stay in relationships longer then they have to here because of the income lol.
That’s the reason why I work so much. I had to once I split from the ex.
You ever think about moving? Are you originally from Cali?
I have a twin brother on the east coast. I’ve thought about it but just haven’t pulled the trigger. I will probably end up moving as a senior citizen or something lol.
I can move to the Caribbean once I get a set pension and automatic deposit lol
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Where on the east coast?
It depends. I’m fixed so i never want to leave but when it comes to cheating I’m usually out that door. Now i do understand people make mistakes and people do change and i believe in second chances just depends really.
Leo sun (pride) aries moon 🤔 . You are primarily fixed?
I was with a Pisces when i was in high school and eventually got engaged. He cheated on never once in the relationship with his ex gf and i forgave him. Then later on when he’s in the military i find out he’s back to his old ways and now there’s multiple girls involved. Sad that i took him back the first time but and on some degree i do think once a cheater always a cheater.
Now if he had cheated on me that one time and it was a huge mistake to him and he would never do that again, well if that were true i would of married him. Buttttt he’s a typical cheater.
I think forgiving someone or not comes from WHY they cheated in the first place.
"I think forgiving someone or not comes from WHY they cheated in the first place. "
> Give me an example that would warrant forgiveness
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Idk like what if they cheated and regretted it? I mean i won’t take them back right away but it’s a possibility. But I’ve been with guys who cheat and they don’t give a rats ass if they caught or not. Yea BYE
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
Do you have threesomes with them? Why do you end up with mostly bisexual women?
Since I never made it into a relationship, no but it has been offered to me multiple times so far.
I don't know why. Might be a general vibe for I also have been approach by some homosexual men who asked if I'd like to have sex with them.
Why would you need to be in a relationship to have sex as a threesome? Do you hold out for sex until you are in one? I know Cap Venus is traditional, but I wasn't thinking THAT traditional. I understand cultures vary.
No, I just wasn't interested in it the majority of the times.
The other cases were simply traps where the women wanted to see how I react to that.
In general I wouldn't have a threesome with persons I don't know or have feelings for in some form. I think that would be the main obstacle.
I understand this completely. I used to tell my ex, the only way I would ever have a threesome is if I didn't love him anymore 🙂
I agree with the reasons to cheat too, they were very "curiosity" related lol
I could have threesomes while still loving that person.
I would just need to know, like and have some feelings for the third person.
Oh wow. I would never be able to do this. I would be too jealous! I would lie and say it was ok if it was really something you would want to do-if you pressured me, then I would hate you after lol I don't share very well 😢
I guess it can be an advantage to you getting bi woman.
And here I was thinking that you were a Sag......
Lol. You already know I’m too possessive. I can be open minded but not when it comes to sex and sharing.
OMG to hear the noises and shyt she would make while my man is doing the same things to her that he does to me, will get both of them killed lol.
It would just have to be a fantasy the you can fulfill without me knowing 🙈🙊
Why would if affect you so much?
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Because you just said it yourself. You would have to have feelings for the other person to do it.
I thought about it and would be able to go to a brothel and watch you have a threesome. But the girls would have to be strangers to you and I know you probably wouldn’t go down on them or kiss them. Lol. I would be able to watch then, but not participate.
True story- Me and my Ex Gemini went to a nudist resort. He was only allowed to get his eggplant sucked. He couldn’t kiss or have sex with anyone. I told him that if someone wanted to do that to be, it would need to be fine for him too. Lol
Long story short, we had sex in front of other people but didn’t participate in outside relations at all. It did bring us closer cause he knew I wasn’t influenced by the ideas of cheating, even openly.
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
What does real life consist of?
I work alot- 80 hours a week, so at home I basically do the 3 S's 😆
80's a week—? The 3s. Sex Sex Sex?
Scorpio moon confirmed! 😆
Yes I work a lot and no not all of my downtime is sex related . I just chill or travel. That's not what the 3's stand for but my meaning would have been different anyways so you're definition will do 🙂
LMFAO. Why do you work so much? Where do you live?
California- Where $ 100,000 annually is considered ‘Low Income’ In Parts Of Bay Area
Oh good Lord. Don't they have the highest cost of living in the US? I'm in Mass and its pretty expensive, but not as expensive as Cali.
I don’t know. I think NY and California are neck and neck. They say people stay in relationships longer then they have to here because of the income lol.
That’s the reason why I work so much. I had to once I split from the ex.
You ever think about moving? Are you originally from Cali?
I have a twin brother on the east coast. I’ve thought about it but just haven’t pulled the trigger. I will probably end up moving as a senior citizen or something lol.
I can move to the Caribbean once I get a set pension and automatic deposit lol
Where on the east coast?
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New Jersey, he originally lived in Philly.
It depends. I’m fixed so i never want to leave but when it comes to cheating I’m usually out that door. Now i do understand people make mistakes and people do change and i believe in second chances just depends really.
Leo sun (pride) aries moon 🤔 . You are primarily fixed?
I was with a Pisces when i was in high school and eventually got engaged. He cheated on never once in the relationship with his ex gf and i forgave him. Then later on when he’s in the military i find out he’s back to his old ways and now there’s multiple girls involved. Sad that i took him back the first time but and on some degree i do think once a cheater always a cheater.
Now if he had cheated on me that one time and it was a huge mistake to him and he would never do that again, well if that were true i would of married him. Buttttt he’s a typical cheater.
I think forgiving someone or not comes from WHY they cheated in the first place.
"I think forgiving someone or not comes from WHY they cheated in the first place. "
> Give me an example that would warrant forgiveness
Idk like what if they cheated and regretted it? I mean i won’t take them back right away but it’s a possibility. But I’ve been with guys who cheat and they don’t give a rats ass if they caught or not. Yea BYE
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No judgment here. I respect your ability to forgive. I can probably learn a thing or two from you.
@shakedown why did you leave 😭 😢
I'm at the beach. The signal keeps going in and out.
You went without me?
You were working 😢.
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Alright, alright, alright. No need for the puppy dog eyes. Did you have a good day?
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
Do you have threesomes with them? Why do you end up with mostly bisexual women?
Since I never made it into a relationship, no but it has been offered to me multiple times so far.
I don't know why. Might be a general vibe for I also have been approach by some homosexual men who asked if I'd like to have sex with them.
Why would you need to be in a relationship to have sex as a threesome? Do you hold out for sex until you are in one? I know Cap Venus is traditional, but I wasn't thinking THAT traditional. I understand cultures vary.
No, I just wasn't interested in it the majority of the times.
The other cases were simply traps where the women wanted to see how I react to that.
In general I wouldn't have a threesome with persons I don't know or have feelings for in some form. I think that would be the main obstacle.
I understand this completely. I used to tell my ex, the only way I would ever have a threesome is if I didn't love him anymore 🙂
I agree with the reasons to cheat too, they were very "curiosity" related lol
I could have threesomes while still loving that person.
I would just need to know, like and have some feelings for the third person.
Oh wow. I would never be able to do this. I would be too jealous! I would lie and say it was ok if it was really something you would want to do-if you pressured me, then I would hate you after lol I don't share very well 😢
I guess it can be an advantage to you getting bi woman.
And here I was thinking that you were a Sag......
Lol. You already know I’m too possessive. I can be open minded but not when it comes to sex and sharing.
OMG to hear the noises and shyt she would make while my man is doing the same things to her that he does to me, will get both of them killed lol.
It would just have to be a fantasy the you can fulfill without me knowing 🙈🙊
Why would if affect you so much?
Because you just said it yourself. You would have to have feelings for the other person to do it.
I thought about it and would be able to go to a brothel and watch you have a threesome. But the girls would have to be strangers to you and I know you probably wouldn’t go down on them or kiss them. Lol. I would be able to watch then, but not participate.
True story- Me and my Ex Gemini went to a nudist resort. He was only allowed to get his eggplant sucked. He couldn’t kiss or have sex with anyone. I told him that if someone wanted to do that to be, it would need to be fine for him too. Lol
Long story short, we had sex in front of other people but didn’t participate in outside relations at all. It did bring us closer cause he knew I wasn’t influenced by the ideas of cheating, even openly.
Okay, but it's not like you lose anything. Quite the opposite. It adds something to it.
Why do you find it so threatening if your SO has feelings for someone else?
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Because I’m selfish and only want him to love me like I love him. If he has deep feelings for me, then why would those feelings extend to someone else. It would make them seem false. I’m very all or nothing, so if you love me, then it can only be me. (As far as a partner).
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
Do you have threesomes with them? Why do you end up with mostly bisexual women?
Since I never made it into a relationship, no but it has been offered to me multiple times so far.
I don't know why. Might be a general vibe for I also have been approach by some homosexual men who asked if I'd like to have sex with them.
Why would you need to be in a relationship to have sex as a threesome? Do you hold out for sex until you are in one? I know Cap Venus is traditional, but I wasn't thinking THAT traditional. I understand cultures vary.
No, I just wasn't interested in it the majority of the times.
The other cases were simply traps where the women wanted to see how I react to that.
In general I wouldn't have a threesome with persons I don't know or have feelings for in some form. I think that would be the main obstacle.
I understand this completely. I used to tell my ex, the only way I would ever have a threesome is if I didn't love him anymore 🙂
I agree with the reasons to cheat too, they were very "curiosity" related lol
I could have threesomes while still loving that person.
I would just need to know, like and have some feelings for the third person.
Oh wow. I would never be able to do this. I would be too jealous! I would lie and say it was ok if it was really something you would want to do-if you pressured me, then I would hate you after lol I don't share very well 😢
I guess it can be an advantage to you getting bi woman.
And here I was thinking that you were a Sag......
Lol. You already know I’m too possessive. I can be open minded but not when it comes to sex and sharing.
OMG to hear the noises and shyt she would make while my man is doing the same things to her that he does to me, will get both of them killed lol.
It would just have to be a fantasy the you can fulfill without me knowing 🙈🙊
Why would if affect you so much?
Because you just said it yourself. You would have to have feelings for the other person to do it.
I thought about it and would be able to go to a brothel and watch you have a threesome. But the girls would have to be strangers to you and I know you probably wouldn’t go down on them or kiss them. Lol. I would be able to watch then, but not participate.
True story- Me and my Ex Gemini went to a nudist resort. He was only allowed to get his eggplant sucked. He couldn’t kiss or have sex with anyone. I told him that if someone wanted to do that to be, it would need to be fine for him too. Lol
Long story short, we had sex in front of other people but didn’t participate in outside relations at all. It did bring us closer cause he knew I wasn’t influenced by the ideas of cheating, even openly.
Okay, but it's not like you lose anything. Quite the opposite. It adds something to it.
Why do you find it so threatening if your SO has feelings for someone else?
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Sorry to quote you again. But what would this add to the relationship? You can include it in the other post. I just didn’t revise it Incase you had already seen it.
It depends. I’m fixed so i never want to leave but when it comes to cheating I’m usually out that door. Now i do understand people make mistakes and people do change and i believe in second chances just depends really.
Leo sun (pride) aries moon 🤔 . You are primarily fixed?
I was with a Pisces when i was in high school and eventually got engaged. He cheated on never once in the relationship with his ex gf and i forgave him. Then later on when he’s in the military i find out he’s back to his old ways and now there’s multiple girls involved. Sad that i took him back the first time but and on some degree i do think once a cheater always a cheater.
Now if he had cheated on me that one time and it was a huge mistake to him and he would never do that again, well if that were true i would of married him. Buttttt he’s a typical cheater.
I think forgiving someone or not comes from WHY they cheated in the first place.
"I think forgiving someone or not comes from WHY they cheated in the first place. "
> Give me an example that would warrant forgiveness
Idk like what if they cheated and regretted it? I mean i won’t take them back right away but it’s a possibility. But I’ve been with guys who cheat and they don’t give a rats ass if they caught or not. Yea BYE
No judgment here. I respect your ability to forgive. I can probably learn a thing or two from you.
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You have to learn the difference between bad people who do bad things and good people who do bad things. I’m a leo so i don’t care about outside sources i care about what’s in your heart. And not one person on this earth is perfect so I’m not going to pretend like i don’t understand.
no, but i expect to be forgiven. women cheat for different reasons than men. we don't love those other women. in fact, we can't wait to come back home, shower, and chill with you.
cheating for women and cheating for men, isnt that really apples and oranges?
women cheat bc they are not satisfied and someone is giving them plenty of pleasing emotions.
men cheat despite being completely satisfied bc it beats jerking off.
(GC06 i would never cheat on you)
I can see this. Makes sense. If you had enough money, I would allow it and fuck the pool boy 🙂
No, your not fucking anything but me. Listen, it's not like I'm going to do it again, but you cant just leave me bc I make mistakes. You stay with me bc I can change for the better
Pay me what you owe me!!! I'm taking half and will still be using the pool and pool boy!! 😆
lol pay you what i owe you? taking half? using the pool boy?
you're making mistakes. isnt there a more satisfying punishment?
why i dont i dress up like you want me to; pool boy, life gaurd, firefighter, superhero, teddy bear....
you know what women should do to make them men forgive them?
fuck them with 12 inch dildo. done. saved all you bitches love lives.
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So the punishment you would want is to be fucced up the ass with a 12 inch dildo.
Well ok! If you insist lol. I would forgive you then 😂😂 I’ll even buy you a donut to sit on for after I’ve finished with you! 😝
In my heart (maybe) but I won’t tell them.
In my life? Hell no.
I have to go back to work. So I will answer/comment when I return. It was fun playing, as always! 🙃🙂
It depends. I’m fixed so i never want to leave but when it comes to cheating I’m usually out that door. Now i do understand people make mistakes and people do change and i believe in second chances just depends really.
Leo sun (pride) aries moon 🤔 . You are primarily fixed?
I was with a Pisces when i was in high school and eventually got engaged. He cheated on never once in the relationship with his ex gf and i forgave him. Then later on when he’s in the military i find out he’s back to his old ways and now there’s multiple girls involved. Sad that i took him back the first time but and on some degree i do think once a cheater always a cheater.
Now if he had cheated on me that one time and it was a huge mistake to him and he would never do that again, well if that were true i would of married him. Buttttt he’s a typical cheater.
I think forgiving someone or not comes from WHY they cheated in the first place.
"I think forgiving someone or not comes from WHY they cheated in the first place. "
> Give me an example that would warrant forgiveness
Idk like what if they cheated and regretted it? I mean i won’t take them back right away but it’s a possibility. But I’ve been with guys who cheat and they don’t give a rats ass if they caught or not. Yea BYE
No judgment here. I respect your ability to forgive. I can probably learn a thing or two from you.
You have to learn the difference between bad people who do bad things and good people who do bad things. I’m a leo so i don’t care about outside sources i care about what’s in your heart. And not one person on this earth is perfect so I’m not going to pretend like i don’t understand.
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You're right. I do have to learn that and a lot more. You not the first person to tell me that. I like your comments. There from the heart.
Tried it once already before. I really did try and at the time I couldn't trust. Attempted again years later with same guy, fucker cheated again lol so no more 2nd chances for this girl. You want to cheat, there is the door, don't let it hit your ass on the way out.
Aqua sun Sag moon.
Hell no.
I lose feelings real quick.
I have told this to my Libra since he cheated on his Leo.
no, but i expect to be forgiven. women cheat for different reasons than men. we don't love those other women. in fact, we can't wait to come back home, shower, and chill with you.
cheating for women and cheating for men, isnt that really apples and oranges?
women cheat bc they are not satisfied and someone is giving them plenty of pleasing emotions.
men cheat despite being completely satisfied bc it beats jerking off.
(GC06 i would never cheat on you)
I can see this. Makes sense. If you had enough money, I would allow it and fuck the pool boy 🙂
No, your not fucking anything but me. Listen, it's not like I'm going to do it again, but you cant just leave me bc I make mistakes. You stay with me bc I can change for the better
Pay me what you owe me!!! I'm taking half and will still be using the pool and pool boy!! 😆
lol pay you what i owe you? taking half? using the pool boy?
you're making mistakes. isnt there a more satisfying punishment?
why i dont i dress up like you want me to; pool boy, life gaurd, firefighter, superhero, teddy bear....
you know what women should do to make them men forgive them?
fuck them with 12 inch dildo. done. saved all you bitches love lives.
So the punishment you would want is to be fucced up the ass with a 12 inch dildo.
Well ok! If you insist lol. I would forgive you then 😂😂 I’ll even buy you a donut to sit on for after I’ve finished with you! 😝
what choice have i got if it means not ever having you be in my life, happy as can be, what if you mean more to me than you'll ever know, you know?
that's really awesome of you, and i'll sit on the donut before I give you a reason to sit on it
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😆 You're are too sweet!
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