@pooface222
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Faithful B*stard OR Unfaithful Lover & Friend??
Choosing Between Faithfulness and Emotional Connection in Relationships
Many women prioritize emotional connection and feeling loved over fidelity, but some value faithfulness even without deep intimacy. The choice depends on personal values and what matters most in a relationship. Understanding your boundaries and how you would handle each situation helps in making informed decisions about love and loyalty.
Is the unfaithful guy emotionally & physically unfaithful or both ?
Well, I had the first one and after a few years I hated his guts. (There were other issues too)
But the thought of the man I love touching another woman kills me. I don't know if I could handle it.
I would choose B although I would probably come to hate him after a few years as well. At least I could have day to day happiness.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Neither.No man who cheats on you is making you feel "loved and cared for".
No man who's selfish and controlling truly loves or respects you.
True but she said u can't say neither lol
Posted by SofiaV87
Is the unfaithful guy emotionally & physically unfaithful or both ?
Hi x
I'd say Emotionally.
Sometimes emotional can become physical unfaithfulness sadly. But for this post let's just say Emotional..
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Neither.No man who cheats on you is making you feel "loved and cared for".
No man who's selfish and controlling truly loves or respects you.
Hi you are totally right.
BUT..maybe I should have explained that the second guy is one who just likes people male & female but with females he can give off the Wrong Impression that he fancies the women he's talking to so..The flirting starts.
I did say you HAD to choose one. But you are entitled to your opinion ?
lol I'm a guy and I disapprove of these options. —?
Posted by ParisianCappy
i respond if you tell me why you choosed that username
Hi x
I SO NEED to Change my damn username!
But I don't know how to.
People keep asking. It was just something silly at the time.
So what's your response to my post then? ?
Posted by Stinger408scorp
lol I'm a guy and I disapprove of these options. —?
Fair enough. I was just wondering because I have read posts in the past where people love and stay with their partner because everything else about them is amazing but they cheat.
No worries..
Posted by Koniuchaa
I'm dying alone and you can't stop me ?
Don't understand what you mean.
Do you mean you would choose Neither? ? Even though I said that answer is not an option?
Okey dokey ?
Posted by Stinger408scorp
lol I'm a guy and I disapprove of these options. —?Fair enough. I was just wondering because I have read posts in the past where people love and stay with their partner because everything else about them is amazing but they cheat.
No worries..
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But to answer your questions most females would choose both because a lot of females love drama and they like fixing broken things if you you know what I mean.
Prefer to be with a guy who treats you like shit by belittling you on a daily basis, (I don't mean violent or alcoholic or any addiction), controlling you, wanting everything his way, not yours and is selfish, and you discover you actually have very little in common with him,BUT is Faithful to you!
My mailman is faithful to me, but doesn't i won't hesitate to letting a dog loose on him if i had one if his bitchass put me down because of all of my EZ-Pass violations. FUCK YOU JERRY I DON'T NEED YOUR SASS
You are not allowed to say 'I'd choose Neither'. The question is if you HAD to choose!
?
Why do you women do this yourselves?
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? It's only a question..
Posted by Stinger408scorp
lol I'm a guy and I disapprove of these options. —?How diplomatic of you.
+1
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— ty and cheers ? just speaking my mind ?
Posted by Stinger408scorp
lol I'm a guy and I disapprove of these options. —?Fair enough. I was just wondering because I have read posts in the past where people love and stay with their partner because everything else about them is amazing but they cheat.
No worries..
But to answer your questions most females would choose both because a lot of females love drama and they like fixing broken things if you you know what I mean.
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Thank you x
I know exactly what you mean.
Pooface
You had some mature issue before.
When it became immature?0
I choose death
If these are my only two options then I prefer to be alone.
Both are disrespectful.
But with option 2, there are people who work that out in an honest way -- some people don't find monogamy to be right for them, or there are big differences with needs, so the people work out an arrangement where another person or more outside their relationship is okay -- no deception/cheating. That isn't always possible, of course, but if you respect your partner, then you'll try to find an honest way to deal with the desire to be with others. It might break up the relationship, but at least you were respectful and didn't lie/cheat.
I was approached by a couple who were in a situation of one partner having a very low sex drive that probably wouldn't change and they were okay with that, so the partner with a higher drive was given the okay by them to seek sex outside of their relationship, as long as the person was trustworthy, healthy, etc. I turned it down, but I respected the honesty both of them had -- it wasn't just one of them approaching me behind the other person's back, or lying to me that their partner was okay with that.
Posted by Deedee86
Well, I had the first one and after a few years I hated his guts. (There were other issues too)But the thought of the man I love touching another woman kills me. I don't know if I could handle it.
I would choose B although I would probably come to hate him after a few years as well. At least I could have day to day happiness.
Hi Deedee86 ?
I was wondering if someone would say Exactly what you just did. I feel the same.
I could probably handle the unfaithful much more easily than being regularly belittled. When you are belittled if affects your confidence in yourself as a Person i believe.
However if he has actually Slept with another woman that would be game over tbh!
Whereas if a guy was making me feel amazing and we connected I could probably use that to question why he would want to throw away what we have for someone else he's flirting with.
Therefore it would only knock my confidence in the relationship with him, NOT in myself as a person.
But that's me.
I just think that infidelity is easier to deal with than being treated like sh*t by a controlling but faithful guy.
Posted by Stinger408scorp
lol I'm a guy and I disapprove of these options. —?Fair enough. I was just wondering because I have read posts in the past where people love and stay with their partner because everything else about them is amazing but they cheat.
No worries..
But to answer your questions most females would choose both because a lot of females love drama and they like fixing broken things if you you know what I mean.
Hahaha.
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lol ?
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Neither.No man who cheats on you is making you feel "loved and cared for".
No man who's selfish and controlling truly loves or respects you.
Hi..
just reread your post. I like your second opinion about a selfish man etc. Totally right there!
I have actually been with Both types of men. In fact I am currently married to the selfish faithful type.
Hence why I am asking the question ☺
Posted by pooface222
Hi ?I am interested to hear from Women mainly and my question is if you HAD to choose one of these types of relationships, would you..
Prefer to be with a guy who treats you like shit by belittling you on a daily basis, (I don't mean violent or alcoholic or any addiction), controlling you, wanting everything his way, not yours and is selfish, and you discover you actually have very little in common with him,BUT is Faithful to you!
OR
Prefer to be with a guy who who have an amazing connection with; you are or are like soul mates, and have so much in common and to talk about and he makes you feel like a goddess and very loved and cared for..BUT he is Unfaithful - including JUST Emotionally.
I'd like to know which relationship you would prefer and Why!
And also how would you deal with the type of relationship you have chosen??
Bear In Mind you would be in Love with these guys and with them for a While before the Bad treatment or Unfaithfulness rears it's ugly head!
Dumping these type of men is the Easy option Obviously!
But I'd just like to know your thoughts.
You are not allowed to say 'I'd choose Neither'. The question is if you HAD to choose!
?
I don't think a guy who's faithful to you would belittle you on a daily basis. A man behaving like that is most often cheating on his wife with another woman.
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Hmm. .interesting. What if he was a control freak with an obsession with order therefore belittles your methods of doing things because his way is better? And then snaps at you and sulks when you won't take his 'help'
Just asking..☺
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Neither.No man who cheats on you is making you feel "loved and cared for".
No man who's selfish and controlling truly loves or respects you.
Hi you are totally right.
BUT..maybe I should have explained that the second guy is one who just likes people male & female but with females he can give off the Wrong Impression that he fancies the women he's talking to so..The flirting starts.
I did say you HAD to choose one. But you are entitled to your opinion ?
Does the flirting result in an emotional affair or penetration?
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Hmm..let's say emotional. That can hurt more as its easier to hide, and therefore harder to detect. And a woman can become paranoid that her man is a little too close to another woman, 3rd with no Penetration.
Penetration is game over for Sure!
Oops I meant *even with no penetration. Not 3rd!
Posted by DMV
I choose death
Lol! ! ??
Posted by Gemitati
PoofaceYou had some mature issue before.
When it became immature?0
I don't understand your post.
I am just asking a question based on opposite types of men in relationships. I find it interesting as I have dated both types.
Posted by CopperDove
Both are disrespectful.But with option 2, there are people who work that out in an honest way -- some people don't find monogamy to be right for them, or there are big differences with needs, so the people work out an arrangement where another person or more outside their relationship is okay -- no deception/cheating. That isn't always possible, of course, but if you respect your partner, then you'll try to find an honest way to deal with the desire to be with others. It might break up the relationship, but at least you were respectful and didn't lie/cheat.
I was approached by a couple who were in a situation of one partner having a very low sex drive that probably wouldn't change and they were okay with that, so the partner with a higher drive was given the okay by them to seek sex outside of their relationship, as long as the person was trustworthy, healthy, etc. I turned it down, but I respected the honesty both of them had -- it wasn't just one of them approaching me behind the other person's back, or lying to me that their partner was okay with that.
Hi thank you.
I understand that totally. Also some people are naturally flirtatious and cause attraction to start outside of the relationship and it all depends on whether your partner takes it further. And 5he reasons why.
Or if the outside woman has no respect for relationship and decides to go for that man anyway.
The man would need to be careful if he is naturally flirty. And to realise what he is losing if he actually cheats.
Posted by CopperDove
Both are disrespectful.But with option 2, there are people who work that out in an honest way -- some people don't find monogamy to be right for them, or there are big differences with needs, so the people work out an arrangement where another person or more outside their relationship is okay -- no deception/cheating. That isn't always possible, of course, but if you respect your partner, then you'll try to find an honest way to deal with the desire to be with others. It might break up the relationship, but at least you were respectful and didn't lie/cheat.
I was approached by a couple who were in a situation of one partner having a very low sex drive that probably wouldn't change and they were okay with that, so the partner with a higher drive was given the okay by them to seek sex outside of their relationship, as long as the person was trustworthy, healthy, etc. I turned it down, but I respected the honesty both of them had -- it wasn't just one of them approaching me behind the other person's back, or lying to me that their partner was okay with that.
Hi thank you.
I understand that totally. Also some people are naturally flirtatious and cause attraction to start outside of the relationship and it all depends on whether your partner takes it further. And 5he reasons why.
Or if the outside woman has no respect for relationship and decides to go for that man anyway.
The man would need to be careful if he is naturally flirty. And to realise what he is losing if he actually cheats.
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You're welcome. 🙂 Exactly. I agree.
Posted by Koniuchaa
Omg so I totally thought it was Poop Mcpoop face that started this thread?
LOL! Yes it's a bit strange that there are two of us with similar usernames!
I need to change mine.
Do.you know how I can change my username Without having to shut down my current one and start again?
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Neither.No man who cheats on you is making you feel "loved and cared for".
No man who's selfish and controlling truly loves or respects you.
Totally.
If those are my choices, livin' it up the single life is still the best option...
Ain't in no hurry for a man 😆
Posted by SofiaV87
Is the unfaithful guy emotionally & physically unfaithful or both ?Hi x
I'd say Emotionally.
Sometimes emotional can become physical unfaithfulness sadly. But for this post let's just say Emotional..
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I'll take the emotionally unfaithful lover/friend over the faithful Bastid, of course, if I had to choose lol
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Neither.No man who cheats on you is making you feel "loved and cared for".
No man who's selfish and controlling truly loves or respects you.
True but she said u can't say neither lol
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
eff your rule, I still say neither.click to expand
Lol
Posted by SofiaV87
Is the unfaithful guy emotionally & physically unfaithful or both ?Hi x
I'd say Emotionally.
Sometimes emotional can become physical unfaithfulness sadly. But for this post let's just say Emotional..
I'll take the emotionally unfaithful lover/friend over the faithful Bastid, of course, if I had to choose lol
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Lol x thanks for responding. It's an interesting one isn't it!
I'd choose the same. I'd find the emotional infidelity easier to deal with if my day to day life was happy, rather than being with a controlling, selfish, but faithful bastard x
Posted by SofiaV87
Is the unfaithful guy emotionally & physically unfaithful or both ?Hi x
I'd say Emotionally.
Sometimes emotional can become physical unfaithfulness sadly. But for this post let's just say Emotional..
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Then B is the obvious choice however... the
connection would be diminished knowing that it
isn't just with me, but everyone.
Kind of cheapens the relationship, so it wouldn't
be authentic and it wouldn't last.
Why?
Posted by pooface222
Hi ?I am interested to hear from Women mainly and my question is if you HAD to choose one of these types of relationships, would you..
Prefer to be with a guy who treats you like shit by belittling you on a daily basis, (I don't mean violent or alcoholic or any addiction), controlling you, wanting everything his way, not yours and is selfish, and you discover you actually have very little in common with him,BUT is Faithful to you!
OR
Prefer to be with a guy who who have an amazing connection with; you are or are like soul mates, and have so much in common and to talk about and he makes you feel like a goddess and very loved and cared for..BUT he is Unfaithful - including JUST Emotionally.
I'd like to know which relationship you would prefer and Why!
And also how would you deal with the type of relationship you have chosen??
Bear In Mind you would be in Love with these guys and with them for a While before the Bad treatment or Unfaithfulness rears it's ugly head!
Dumping these type of men is the Easy option Obviously!
But I'd just like to know your thoughts.
You are not allowed to say 'I'd choose Neither'. The question is if you HAD to choose!
?
I don't think a guy who's faithful to you would belittle you on a daily basis. A man behaving like that is most often cheating on his wife with another woman.
Hmm. .interesting. What if he was a control freak with an obsession with order therefore belittles your methods of doing things because his way is better? And then snaps at you and sulks when you won't take his 'help'
Just asking..☺
Well, that is different. In that case you know the reason behind his behaviour...his obsession with doing things in an orderly way.
The kind of belittling I had in mind was where he suddenly starts making disparaging remarks about your body or intellect. He is regularly insulting you in the company of friends.
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I can take the bastard. I can handle bastards, but I can't handle unfaithfulness.
Posted by Koniuchaa
Omg so I totally thought it was Poop Mcpoop face that started this thread?
LOL! Yes it's a bit strange that there are two of us with similar usernames!
I need to change mine.
Do.you know how I can change my username Without having to shut down my current one and start again?
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You may be able to create a new, separate
account without closing this one, but like Koni
said... you can't change the name.
Not that I know of anyway. :/
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
What you're asking is for women to choose between arsenic and cyanide.Both scenarios are extremely toxic and not good for you.
So eff your rule, I still say neither.
+1
Neither
Prefer to be with a guy who treats you like shit by belittling you on a daily basis, (I don't mean violent or alcoholic or any addiction), controlling you, wanting everything his way, not yours and is selfish, and you discover you actually have very little in common with him,BUT is Faithful to you!
My mailman is faithful to me, but doesn't i won't hesitate to letting a dog loose on him if i had one if his bitchass put me down because of all of my EZ-Pass violations. FUCK YOU JERRY I DON'T NEED YOUR SASS
You are not allowed to say 'I'd choose Neither'. The question is if you HAD to choose!
?
Why do you women do this yourselves?
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Yeah, I don't know why women do this to themselves either. Since I'm prohibited from saying "neither", I have to abstain from voting on this entirely.
Posted by sagsagsag
I'd pick the first guy... but wait a minute...Is the first guy verbally and physicay abusive as well? If yes, then I choose none ?
The first guy is not physically abusive. He would be a massive control freak who wants everything done his way, and belittles the way you do things to the point that he won't accept you the way you are.
Posted by TheLibraMudra
"Prefer to be with a guy who treats you like butter by belittling you on a daily basis, (I don't mean violent or alcoholic or any addiction), controlling you, wanting everything his way, not yours and is selfish, and you discover you actually have very little in common with him,BUT is Faithful to you!"Oh that sounds just like my Scorpio ex. I can't stand unfaithfulness. Seriously drives me insane. I'll take the bellend. I know how to butter those scorp biscuits to get what I want. I'll plan my escape for breaking up much better this time lol
If I chose the amazing connection guy, I'd end up hating him and being very bitter.
Hi thank you for your post.
I have found it very difficult to deal with selfish & controlling men. I'm a Capricorn so it may be because I like a challenge and won't back down, because I want to try and make selfish, controlling men be more adaptable. Sadly that never worked, both with my Aries husband and with my Scorpio ex too.
I too HATE to be cheated on! No one wants to be cheated on. But - if my daily life consisted of being accepted rather than bossed around and controlled, being able to be myself and be loved for who I am, but the Amazing Connection guy was or had a tendency towards emotional infidelity, I would go for him because my day to day would be happy.
Strangely I find infidelity easier to deal with than having the daily stress of dealing with an egotistical control freak who's attitude us 'My Way or the Highway.'
Thanks for your feedback though. I totally get where you are coming from. I just wish I knew how to deal with men like your ex etc. But I don't. I just find it too exhausting!
Posted by TheLibraMudra
"Prefer to be with a guy who treats you like butter by belittling you on a daily basis, (I don't mean violent or alcoholic or any addiction), controlling you, wanting everything his way, not yours and is selfish, and you discover you actually have very little in common with him,BUT is Faithful to you!"Oh that sounds just like my Scorpio ex. I can't stand unfaithfulness. Seriously drives me insane. I'll take the bellend. I know how to butter those scorp biscuits to get what I want. I'll plan my escape for breaking up much better this time lol
If I chose the amazing connection guy, I'd end up hating him and being very bitter.
Hi thank you for your post.
I have found it very difficult to deal with selfish & controlling men. I'm a Capricorn so it may be because I like a challenge and won't back down, because I want to try and make selfish, controlling men be more adaptable. Sadly that never worked, both with my Aries husband and with my Scorpio ex too.
I too HATE to be cheated on! No one wants to be cheated on. But - if my daily life consisted of being accepted rather than bossed around and controlled, being able to be myself and be loved for who I am, but the Amazing Connection guy was or had a tendency towards emotional infidelity, I would go for him because my day to day would be happy.
Strangely I find infidelity easier to deal with than having the daily stress of dealing with an egotistical control freak who's attitude us 'My Way or the Highway.'
Thanks for your feedback though. I totally get where you are coming from. I just wish I knew how to deal with men like your ex etc. But I don't. I just find it too exhausting!
Yea I see what you mean.
When there's cheating, I turn into a terrible person lol. Just downward spiral, vengeful, paranoid, crazy lady until I just disappear. If you say you're mine, fuck everyone else.
I'm not forgiving at all with it. Emotionally, physically, whatever.
I know how to deal with the dick bc we tried to keep it together for my kid. Yea, it was exhausting and I obviously left. But there's a part of me that is controlling as well. I'm not an easy person to be with.
But luckily this isn't real life lmao.
Real life is splendid right now.
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Really? Lucky you ? So what's making your life so splendid?
Faithful B*stard then I will kill him
I LOVE your response! !
I've had moments where I have felt just like that. In a really bad argument I have said to a faithful bastard 'Drop Dead!' ?
Posted by pooface222
Hi ?I am interested to hear from Women mainly and my question is if you HAD to choose one of these types of relationships, would you..
Prefer to be with a guy who treats you like shit by belittling you on a daily basis, (I don't mean violent or alcoholic or any addiction), controlling you, wanting everything his way, not yours and is selfish, and you discover you actually have very little in common with him,BUT is Faithful to you!
OR
Prefer to be with a guy who who have an amazing connection with; you are or are like soul mates, and have so much in common and to talk about and he makes you feel like a goddess and very loved and cared for..BUT he is Unfaithful - including JUST Emotionally.
I'd like to know which relationship you would prefer and Why!
And also how would you deal with the type of relationship you have chosen??
Bear In Mind you would be in Love with these guys and with them for a While before the Bad treatment or Unfaithfulness rears it's ugly head!
Dumping these type of men is the Easy option Obviously!
But I'd just like to know your thoughts.
You are not allowed to say 'I'd choose Neither'. The question is if you HAD to choose!
?
ok but which one is rich? ka ching! lol. I think it'll be option a, because I am secure enough to know he's the asshole so if anything goes wrong I'll just kick his ass and set him straight but with option b, I can't detect emotional cheating and I can't put up with the feeling he's not mine and still love him.
i have a firecracker temper when it's triggered so it's simply impossible for me to remain in these types of situations. i'm laid back and sweet otherwise though lol
Posted by TheLibraMudra
"Prefer to be with a guy who treats you like butter by belittling you on a daily basis, (I don't mean violent or alcoholic or any addiction), controlling you, wanting everything his way, not yours and is selfish, and you discover you actually have very little in common with him,BUT is Faithful to you!"Oh that sounds just like my Scorpio ex. I can't stand unfaithfulness. Seriously drives me insane. I'll take the bellend. I know how to butter those scorp biscuits to get what I want. I'll plan my escape for breaking up much better this time lol
If I chose the amazing connection guy, I'd end up hating him and being very bitter.
Hi thank you for your post.
I have found it very difficult to deal with selfish & controlling men. I'm a Capricorn so it may be because I like a challenge and won't back down, because I want to try and make selfish, controlling men be more adaptable. Sadly that never worked, both with my Aries husband and with my Scorpio ex too.
I too HATE to be cheated on! No one wants to be cheated on. But - if my daily life consisted of being accepted rather than bossed around and controlled, being able to be myself and be loved for who I am, but the Amazing Connection guy was or had a tendency towards emotional infidelity, I would go for him because my day to day would be happy.
Strangely I find infidelity easier to deal with than having the daily stress of dealing with an egotistical control freak who's attitude us 'My Way or the Highway.'
Thanks for your feedback though. I totally get where you are coming from. I just wish I knew how to deal with men like your ex etc. But I don't. I just find it too exhausting!
Yea I see what you mean.
When there's cheating, I turn into a terrible person lol. Just downward spiral, vengeful, paranoid, crazy lady until I just disappear. If you say you're mine, fuck everyone else.
I'm not forgiving at all with it. Emotionally, physically, whatever.
I know how to deal with the dick bc we tried to keep it together for my kid. Yea, it was exhausting and I obviously left. But there's a part of me that is controlling as well. I'm not an easy person to be with.
But luckily this isn't real life lmao.
Real life is splendid right now.
Really? Lucky you ? So what's making your life so splendid?
Already in a nice little career helping families and medical staff but in school on track to become a pediatric nurse. happy, spoiled, active with sports child... Doing it all on my own. Going to get married soon to a Leo! Getting fit and it feels awesome. Just... Good stuff right now
Learned many hard lessons 🙂
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Wow! I envy you. I am married to a faithful b*star and the funny thing is, over the last 5 years of wanting to leave him, I have prayed that he would cheat on me! Why? Because for some unknown reason I find it very hard to leave relationships. UNLESS a guy cheats! Then he's Dumped!
I don't know why I'm like this. It's so weird!
I love that you sorted your life. Hope you are happy for many years to come ?
Hope you have an amazing wedding day and married life too ?
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Hi ?
I am interested to hear from Women mainly and my question is if you HAD to choose one of these types of relationships, would you..
Prefer to be with a guy who treats you like shit by belittling you on a daily basis, (I don't mean violent or alcoholic or any addiction), controlling you, wanting everything his way, not yours and is selfish, and you discover you actually have very little in common with him,BUT is Faithful to you!
OR
Prefer to be with a guy who who have an amazing connection with; you are or are like soul mates, and have so much in common and to talk about and he makes you feel like a goddess and very loved and cared for..BUT he is Unfaithful - including JUST Emotionally.
I'd like to know which relationship you would prefer and Why!
And also how would you deal with the type of relationship you have chosen??
Bear In Mind you would be in Love with these guys and with them for a While before the Bad treatment or Unfaithfulness rears it's ugly head!
Dumping these type of men is the Easy option Obviously!
But I'd just like to know your thoughts.
You are not allowed to say 'I'd choose Neither'. The question is if you HAD to choose!
?