urbansophisticate
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Dating a Workaholic
My boyfriend owns his own business and has a hard time finding employees he can rely on so he works a lot...sometimes all day and all night with 2 short periods of napping in between
It doesn't really bother me, I like my space and I always find good uses of my spare time like cleaning, painting my nails, playing with the dog, cooking, etc
The only time I get upset is if he tries to work over a holiday or can't make time for a vacation
That shit will not fly , especially when we have kids.
It doesn't really bother me, I like my space and I always find good uses of my spare time like cleaning, painting my nails, playing with the dog, cooking, etc
The only time I get upset is if he tries to work over a holiday or can't make time for a vacation
That shit will not fly , especially when we have kids.
My BF works a lot. I like my space so it's cool. We still make time for each other. I'm busy too working , going to the gym, Chillen with my friends, spending time with my dog etc.
I am dating a Cappy from Austin, TX (I live in San Antonio...GO SPURS GO!). Cappy and I both hold a full time position; he also goes to "night school" for a certificate of completion in A/C heating, etc (will come in handy since I own a home); any whooooo, I also work out at the gym four days a week; so we meet only on Saturdays. He's off on Mondays/Tuesdays and Mondays are manic Mondays for me (at work) and home since I have a 10 year old I help w/homework, etc., and Cappy has to "study". I, too, love my solitude and love this "schedule". Cappy "hinted" he may find a job in San Antonio after graduation in May 😉 Then he told me he has a friend who may help him get a job after graduation and will be making pretty good monies a little further from San Antonio/Austin and I CANNOT hold Cappy from a good paying job (we'll cross that bridge when we get there) as Cappy is going to be 52 (Dec) and it will be hard for a man that age to find a job, interview, etc. as he lacks the "experience". Sighhhhhhhhhh!!! 😐 And they refer to Pisceans as "selfish"! NOT!! 😡
Cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by urbansophisticatei'd rather he not work far away that's all.
Give your experience or take on it
How did you cope?
Did it become the demise of the relationship?
if he worked he works at home and that's good for me.
it's COLD if he is working all the time and he never spends time with you.
might as well be alone and just leave, and work yourself to the bone.
the coldness of the weather is all I can take.
Posted by AriesLoveIt's an attempt to engage in a online conversation. *sighs
Is he really a workaholic or are you trying to tell yourself that to feel better about him not wanting to spend time with you?
But even so workaholics make time for a person of interest.
My guy owns a business, definitely a workaholic and perfectionist, but we still speak daily and hang out on the weekends. But I'd rather him be a workaholic than a jobless bum. So you will never ever hear me complain. I like my space in a relationship, I need time to miss someone a little. I wouldn't want to see someone every day, every 2 days and so on.
Please stop fishing. How did my post lead you to assume someone isn't spending time with me?
lol
it's like this....
COLD cold collllllddddddd....
am I in a relationship or am I by myself??
sooooo coooooold.
it's like this....
COLD cold collllllddddddd....
am I in a relationship or am I by myself??
sooooo coooooold.
Posted by Capri-sunI avoided men who work in the military or any where that takes the far.
I'm a workaholic. I enjoy my space. I still make time for loved ones. So for me it isn't an issue. Some guys want me to be all up under them or them all up under me, that just tells me we're incompatible.
lol
Posted by Capri-sunPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Capri-sunI avoided men who work in the military or any where that takes the far.
I'm a workaholic. I enjoy my space. I still make time for loved ones. So for me it isn't an issue. Some guys want me to be all up under them or them all up under me, that just tells me we're incompatible.
lol
That's understandable. I'm the same way
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really??
you said you enjoy your space though.
I got opposite from your post.
Speaking from the 'workaholic' point of view-
Something's gotta give eventually...
Balancing the needs and wants of a SO can be hard, and sometimes money doesn't equal happiness.
Something's gotta give eventually...
Balancing the needs and wants of a SO can be hard, and sometimes money doesn't equal happiness.
Posted by Capri-sunPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Capri-sunPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Capri-sunI avoided men who work in the military or any where that takes the far.
I'm a workaholic. I enjoy my space. I still make time for loved ones. So for me it isn't an issue. Some guys want me to be all up under them or them all up under me, that just tells me we're incompatible.
lol
That's understandable. I'm the same way
really??
you said you enjoy your space though.
I got opposite from your post.
Here's some examples.
Some women like their guy to come sit with them during lunch at my job. A guy that likes me said he would come sit on my job basically to let others know we're together, to spend time with me, or whatever his reason...I cringed on the inside because stuff like that does nothing for me personally.
I don't have to or like to talk/text whatever everyday, makes me feel smothered and my life really isn't that eventful that I have something to talk about everyday.
Some days I enjoy going to work just to get away (take a break) from my home life.
Sometimes (even when I was married) I'd sit in my car in the driveway before going inside after work just to have some alone time. I'd go grocery shopping just to have space.
Idk I just don't like being with someone all the time.
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whoa?? really?? I can't WAIT to get home to my warm adobe.
and sit in your car? my god lady, you must have hated to be with your ex. *smh*
Posted by wagtailI know right??
Speaking from the 'workaholic' point of view-
Something's gotta give eventually...
Balancing the needs and wants of a SO can be hard, and sometimes money doesn't equal happiness.
two cold peeps .........I don't know how they do it.
edit - this is what I envision...
brrrrrrr....
it's cold .....someone....please WARM me up...
nope..i can't warm up ...cause there's no one around here! waaahhhh....
ice man dies in ice.
Posted by Capri-sun🙂Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Capri-sunPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Capri-sunPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Capri-sunI avoided men who work in the military or any where that takes the far.
I'm a workaholic. I enjoy my space. I still make time for loved ones. So for me it isn't an issue. Some guys want me to be all up under them or them all up under me, that just tells me we're incompatible.
lol
That's understandable. I'm the same way
really??
you said you enjoy your space though.
I got opposite from your post.
Here's some examples.
Some women like their guy to come sit with them during lunch at my job. A guy that likes me said he would come sit on my job basically to let others know we're together, to spend time with me, or whatever his reason...I cringed on the inside because stuff like that does nothing for me personally.
I don't have to or like to talk/text whatever everyday, makes me feel smothered and my life really isn't that eventful that I have something to talk about everyday.
Some days I enjoy going to work just to get away (take a break) from my home life.
Sometimes (even when I was married) I'd sit in my car in the driveway before going inside after work just to have some alone time. I'd go grocery shopping just to have space.
Idk I just don't like being with someone all the time.
whoa?? really?? I can't WAIT to get home to my warm adobe.
and sit in your car? my god lady, you must have hated to be with your ex. *smh*
He's an ass, that's neither here or there.
We worked together too, even when we didn't I still felt this way.
I definitely didn't have what you describe as not being able to wait to get home. Hopefully one day I will experience such a feeling.
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well it's good you are not with him.
it IS better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you miserable.
Posted by lisabethur8I'm not sure who you're referring to there 😕Posted by wagtailI know right??
Speaking from the 'workaholic' point of view-
Something's gotta give eventually...
Balancing the needs and wants of a SO can be hard, and sometimes money doesn't equal happiness.
two cold peeps .........I don't know how they do it.click to expand
I work 70hour weeks because I want to, if I had a partner who couldn't handle that I'd choose my job over my Love life...FOR NEOW.
But if they phrase it carefully I can be coaxed to spend more time at home or with them.
99% of the home life while living with the Ex would be spent extricating myself from meaningless small talk and they had hurt feels.
So it's a personal choice, the situation can be too unbalanced sometimes and I'd rather be as fair as possible to my loved ones- so no romantic entanglements until I'm outta tha Rat Race 😆
Posted by urbansophisticateAlso as a workaholic, it was great for both of us.
Give your experience or take on it
How did you cope?
Did it become the demise of the relationship?
Posted by wagtailwell you aren't with anyone right now...... so i would too put myself into work all the time.Posted by lisabethur8I'm not sure who you're referring to there 😕Posted by wagtailI know right??
Speaking from the 'workaholic' point of view-
Something's gotta give eventually...
Balancing the needs and wants of a SO can be hard, and sometimes money doesn't equal happiness.
two cold peeps .........I don't know how they do it.
I work 70hour weeks because I want to, if I had a partner who couldn't handle that I'd choose my job over my Love life...FOR NEOW.
But if they phrase it carefully I can be coaxed to spend more time at home or with them.
99% of the home life while living with the Ex would be spent extricating myself from meaningless small talk and they had hurt feels.
So it's a personal choice, the situation can be too unbalanced sometimes and I'd rather be as fair as possible to my loved ones- so no romantic entanglements until I'm outta tha Rat Race 😆click to expand
but yeah. lol until you're out of the rat race.
romance has to have some TIME together.
i notice a lot of people here are single on this site.
except for yupvirgo, hare, and a few others. *whew* i feel weird otherwise.
romance has to have some TIME together.
i notice a lot of people here are single on this site.
except for yupvirgo, hare, and a few others. *whew* i feel weird otherwise.
I am a work-a-holic.
My husband is very supportive. I am entertaining a job that entails occassional travel to Qatar and Kuwait. I said, you gotta call me every day. He says when you are on travel you rarely call or answer. I'm like damn, he's right. What a good guy. He said he wishes he could do it. So happy he encourages me as well. My sweet Virgo babe.
My husband is very supportive. I am entertaining a job that entails occassional travel to Qatar and Kuwait. I said, you gotta call me every day. He says when you are on travel you rarely call or answer. I'm like damn, he's right. What a good guy. He said he wishes he could do it. So happy he encourages me as well. My sweet Virgo babe.
Posted by Capri-sunPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Capri-sunPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Capri-sunI avoided men who work in the military or any where that takes the far.
I'm a workaholic. I enjoy my space. I still make time for loved ones. So for me it isn't an issue. Some guys want me to be all up under them or them all up under me, that just tells me we're incompatible.
lol
That's understandable. I'm the same way
really??
you said you enjoy your space though.
I got opposite from your post.
Here's some examples.
Some women like their guy to come sit with them during lunch at my job. A guy that likes me said he would come sit on my job basically to let others know we're together, to spend time with me, or whatever his reason...I cringed on the inside because stuff like that does nothing for me personally.
I don't have to or like to talk/text whatever everyday, makes me feel smothered and my life really isn't that eventful that I have something to talk about everyday.
Some days I enjoy going to work just to get away (take a break) from my home life.
Sometimes (even when I was married) I'd sit in my car in the driveway before going inside after work just to have some alone time. I'd go grocery shopping just to have space.
Idk I just don't like being with someone all the time.
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Totally get the space thing. I would let my significant other eat lunch with me here & there at my job but definitely not all the time. I would feel smothered .. Haven't been married before but the scenario u mentioned sounds like something I would do hahaha I like my alone time
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