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Posted by ImpulsvThank you.
Dad chose to come back
Why dsd is telling her, her man don't give a treatrunk n not worth it
Posted by DonJohnI'm gonna buy you a reading comprehension book. My mom filed and my dad chose to come back to make it work.Posted by Impulsv
Dad chose to come back
Why dsd is telling her, her man don't give a treatrunk n not worth it
like i said, the difference is she ended it.
her mom stayed until he came back.
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Posted by DonJohnThat's the only common sense conclusion you can come to when you get married a day after your divorce is final...Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnPosted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnPosted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnYou're really not a good reader, are you—Posted by mzmeePosted by ImpulsvI'm gonna expound on why I mentioned our upbringing. My parents marriage lasted until My father passed. Speaking to my father about life and relationships and gender roles I appreciate. I get it.
You make no sense dj
So she should just stay n take being cheated on
Over n over n over.
I was actually willing to work it out. Ok, he cheated. Let's talk about figure this out and keep going. I don't wanna play the blame game. Let's be adults who genuinely love each other sit down and sort this out. I was willing to do that.
My dad told me, being angry and not giving a fuck are two different extremes. I get he was angry even if I don't understand why but ok, those are his feelings and I can't tell him how to feel, I'll show him he has no reason to feel that way. The blatant disrespect, disregard for our son, he wasn't angry, he didn't give a fuck. One thing my dad did tell me, him and my mom was in a rough patch a few times. She filed for divorce and he was staying with another woman. He said that woke him up and He tore ass back to his wife to make things better. He admitted it, he was angry that didn't mean he didn't give a fuck. He said to me if you feel you can't take the disrespect and how he's treating you over some shit he's supposed to let go, file. For your own sanity. That should be his hint to either shit or get off the pot. If that don't wake his ass up, I'm sorry baby, he doesn't care.
My dad was right..
what your dad and your mom through is VERY typical of a marriage.
Your dad cheated and stayed with another woman.
They ended up working it out and stayed the course till the end.
you ended it.
that's the difference.
are you talking about your dad and mom?
" One thing my dad did tell me, him and my mom was in a rough patch a few times. She filed for divorce and he was staying with another woman. He said that woke him up and He tore ass back to his wife to make things better."
Now read that to yourself. Out loud this time so you can hear the words I typed.
lol tell me where i was wrong then
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Your dad cheated and stayed with another woman.
They ended up working it out and stayed the course till the end.
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After she showed my dad she wasn't taking his shit, she filed. He went back and made it right.
Even when it was bad, my mom said he never turned his back on his kids, he was there period. Him being with another woman was bad enough, he didn't run salt in the wounds and do more disrespectful shit. They talked it out, he cut the other chick out of his life and they moved forward.
My story was completely different. He didnt try to work shit out. He left. Came back and faked loved and left again. Selling lies and planning a second wedding.
I told him when he's ready to make it right, I'm here, I'm not going anywhere, im your wife. He didn't feel the same.
i find it harder to believe now after you accusing me of not being able to read when i paraphrased what you wrote exactly to the point that you had to write more details you didn't reveal before to justify yourself.
well now you wrote more details you didn't reveal before.
interesting.
hey if he was planning another wedding. before the divorce...... sorry, but i find that hard to believe.click to expand
Posted by SavantofOneThis is something my dad would say.Posted by DonJohnIt's called, rationalization - one of the core human drives. It's about comforting oneself, to maintain sanity.Posted by ImpulsvPosted by DonJohnUgh I think he pulled the plug when he moved in to another woman's house prior to divorce!!!Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnI don't know if you've been following my posts. I was actually willing to work it out. You're right, I pulled the plug because HE didn't care. It wasn't a knee jerk reaction, him moving out when he was caught was the knee jerk reaction. It took me some time to even finally come to the conclusion that this wasn't what he really wanted. I mean, it shows. See—Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.
men lie. women lie. facts don't lie. the only fact here is you filed the papers. you can make up lies to support your side as much as you like.
i judge by action and action only.
You are the one that pulled the plug. I care not anything else. You are trying to say you are the righteous one blah blah. it's only natural.
at the end of the day, when rubber meets the road, you are the one that ended the marriage by filing those papers.
you loved him less than he loved you. regardless of what you say, he wasn't the one that snuffed out the heartbeat of your marriage. you did.
He loved her less by disrespecting her rather than attempt to work things out!
if it was over, he would've filed divorce papers then. but he didn't.
i don't always buy the woman's side of the story. the first thing after she files the papers is that she wants to create a story that puts her at the absolute righteous one.
it's a woman's coping mechanism.
HOWEVER even if that is true, i still don't believe in divorce. Maybe it could've been worked out. However we will never know since OP pulled the plug.
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Posted by DonJohnI didn't have to reveal much because I said a lot in my former threads. He never came back to work anything out.Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnI'm gonna buy you a reading comprehension book. My mom filed and my dad chose to come back to make it work.Posted by Impulsv
Dad chose to come back
Why dsd is telling her, her man don't give a treatrunk n not worth it
like i said, the difference is she ended it.
her mom stayed until he came back.
where was i wrong?
are you still running with your bullheaded stupidity?
where was i wrong?
"Your dad cheated and stayed with another woman.
They ended up working it out and stayed the course till the end.
The difference is you went through with the divorce."
refute any of the 3 lines as facts you provided.
lol now i can see why he left. you're half retarded and stubborn on top of that. oh also willing to make up more details to justify the stupidity in the end.
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My dad went back before a court date was even set. I'm the flip, my husband actively participated in the divorce proceedings.
Read. That's all.
And no I didn't expound on a lot of things done. I revealed enough to show you why I cAme to the conclusion that he doesn't give a fuck. You never addressed the other post I made. Why—
My dad also said this---->>>>If that don't wake his ass up, I'm sorry baby, he doesn't care.
Posted by tizianiWhile I mostly agree with your assessment, there's a premise that I'm at odds with. The part about being a pain in the neck to each other when times are good. I can only go by my personal experience, but to me this boils down to one thing...immaturity...either because one party acts like a drama queen(or king) or a there's a failure to see beyond one's own point of view. I believe the latter is most cases. The reason people are a pain in the neck in good times is a failure to compromise in order to make the relationship work. Truthfully most people go into them not prepared to change some of their core beliefs especially when it comes down to control of ones personal space. For example, being a pain in the neck may simply be about one wanting to spend more time with the other and the other isn't on the same page only to then come around when the other person isn't ready. Is the other person needy or the other aloof? Who knows. But these things can be worked on. One of the main purposes of relationships is to teach us to grow beyond our personal self.Posted by DivaCanLeoPosted by tizianiI don't get this quote so you don't help your mate or husband when they're down? That's it's purposefully done to keep them down.
I read the thread without replying for days because I wouldn't know what to say other than from my point of view.
I wouldn't choose to be in a relationship just because someone was there for me when I'm down. It's a fallacy to believe that your true friends or supporters show themselves when you're down. That's just easier to believe because negative feelings tend to be more memorable, so it's hard to forget who showed you a helping hand and who didn't when you're all messed up, vulnerable with no place to hide.
But no one ever talks about the risk associated with that: some people need you to be down before they are ever there for you, and they (whether consciously or not) live to keep you in that position. It's their reason for being. They'll hug you with comfort until you've lost your wings and dependent on them.
What I believe IS true is that people's real spirit shows under pressure. High points in relationships can be just as much pressure for some people as low points. You've been at a lot where you found out your partner bailed under the pressure of your parents illness, I've been in relationships where I found out the pressure of things going well, with no arguments just revealed the side of my partner that just had to screw something up for the sake of an argument and attention.
Remember how people treat you when you're doing well. That's just as revealing, and unfortunately it's easier to forget.
All that to say: take it with perspective in time. It's normal to feel hurt, betrayed. I wouldn't want to see the other person happy in their new life, if I was in your position. I guess that makes me immature. But how you choose to let these crappy times define your outlook or worldview is up to you, and your choice. I'll die before I ever turn jaded to relationships.
Really? So what are you supposed to do watch them suffer?
I'm there for people I care about when they're down. That's no reason to be in a committed relationship with each other. That's all I'm saying. It doesn't mean enough to me if we're a pain in the neck to each other when things are going well. I've been with people who always need a new "crisis" every week just to feel like we have a relationship (drama queens).
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Posted by mzmee
I'll show him he has no reason to feel that way.
One thing my dad did tell me, him and my mom was in a rough patch a few times. She filed for divorce and he was staying with another woman. He said that woke him up and He tore ass back to his wife to make things better.
He said to me if you feel you can't take the disrespect and how he's treating you over some shit he's supposed to let go, file. For your own sanity. That should be his hint to either shit or get off the pot. If that don't wake his ass up, I'm sorry baby, he doesn't care.
My dad was right..
So, in other words ..... the only reason you filed for divorce was to try and manipulate him because you felt that he had no business feeling the way he does.
The fact that he was/is such a crap person, and treats his own son wrong is irrelevant to you, and was NOT the basis on which you filed.
You only filed because you wanted to maneuver him, twist him into playing your way.
So, you never even wanted to end it with him ...... you'd rather be celebrating honor with a man like this.
Your dad wasn't right .... he was talking about your ex needing to show honor. And it's actually YOU who failed at it, because if your little trick would have worked, you'd still have him, even to the expense of your son who was being mistreated by him. That doesn't matter to you.
all of the things you claimed this guy has done ... and you're still in here crying about not having him.
Oh no ... you're dad was way wrong, he assumed you wanted to do the right thing.
Posted by SavantofOneThat's how it felt.Posted by mzmeeNobody knows the details of the situation better than the person living it. I understand the DJ perspective, because you took the action, but many men will "push" a woman to make the decision for them. I can relate to him possibly doing that. It's a strange, psychologically twisted, way of thinking about things, but I unfortunately understand it.
My dad also said this---->>>>If that don't wake his ass up, I'm sorry baby, he doesn't care.
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My dad told me
"sometimes Peaches you gotta force our hand, light a match under his ass. You've shown him you're willing to stay and work it out. Going thru all these changes for him. People can only take so much. Look at you baby, i dont even see that spark in your eyes anymore. Youre one of my most patient ones Peaches. Youve been patient. If he doesn't budge, he wasn't trying to come back. That's some shit we gotta accept."
This is text messages I keep of my conversations with my dad.
Posted by P-AngelI filed because I couldn't take the shit. I knew he didn't care. My dad was telling me the difference with being angry and not giving a fuck. I filed because he didn't give a fuck anymore. That was what I'm trying to get thru to DJ, he didn't give a fuck. He's saying I should've stayed and I loved him less because i filed. That was the whole nature of this post. Lol.Posted by mzmee
I'll show him he has no reason to feel that way.
One thing my dad did tell me, him and my mom was in a rough patch a few times. She filed for divorce and he was staying with another woman. He said that woke him up and He tore ass back to his wife to make things better.
He said to me if you feel you can't take the disrespect and how he's treating you over some shit he's supposed to let go, file. For your own sanity. That should be his hint to either shit or get off the pot. If that don't wake his ass up, I'm sorry baby, he doesn't care.
My dad was right..
So, in other words ..... the only reason you filed for divorce was to try and manipulate him because you felt that he had no business feeling the way he does.
The fact that he was/is such a crap person, and treats his own son wrong is irrelevant to you, and was NOT the basis on which you filed.
You only filed because you wanted to maneuver him, twist him into playing your way.
So, you never even wanted to end it with him ...... you'd rather be celebrating honor with a man like this.
Your dad wasn't right .... he was talking about your ex needing to show honor. And it's actually YOU who failed at it, because if your little trick would have worked, you'd still have him, even to the expense of your son who was being mistreated by him. That doesn't matter to you.
all of the things you claimed this guy has done ... and you're still in here crying about not having him.
Oh no ... you're dad was way wrong, he assumed you wanted to do the right thing.
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Posted by DonJohnYour parent's dysfunctional relationship makes you unfit to talk about situations like this, especially since your views on them are so fucked up from that dysfunction.Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.click to expand
Gtfo of here with your shrimp dick syndrome. Your "advice" is useless, as always.
Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnI don't know if you've been following my posts. I was actually willing to work it out. You're right, I pulled the plug because HE didn't care. It wasn't a knee jerk reaction, him moving out when he was caught was the knee jerk reaction. It took me some time to even finally come to the conclusion that this wasn't what he really wanted. I mean, it shows. See—Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.
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You don't owe shrimp dick any answers, dear.
Posted by DonJohnDon't say SHIT ELSE about my father fuck boy!!!
regardless, my points stand. your dad's words don't mean a thing either. people live in denial all the time. there are cheaters that condemn infidelity and closet homosexual that condemn gays. it's a psychological reflex of their own insecurity. your dad is insecure about what he did that he couldn't stand another man doing that to his daughter.
we have to stick with the facts.
all these are irrefutable facts.
you dad cheated and stayed with another woman.
then your parents worked it out and stayed the course.
i don't need anything else.
the point is at the end of the day, cheating and even leaving for a brief time is not the end of the marriage. it does not have to be the end of a relationship.
in your case, what's done is already done. you made it the end and it became the end.
you are STILL the one that pulled the plug.
he may have hurt it and bruised it.
you snuffed it out.
Posted by mzmeeThis is real man advice here.Posted by SavantofOneThat's how it felt.Posted by mzmeeNobody knows the details of the situation better than the person living it. I understand the DJ perspective, because you took the action, but many men will "push" a woman to make the decision for them. I can relate to him possibly doing that. It's a strange, psychologically twisted, way of thinking about things, but I unfortunately understand it.
My dad also said this---->>>>If that don't wake his ass up, I'm sorry baby, he doesn't care.
My dad told me
"sometimes Peaches you gotta force our hand, light a match under his ass. You've shown him you're willing to stay and work it out. Going thru all these changes for him. People can only take so much. Look at you baby, i dont even see that spark in your eyes anymore. Youre one of my most patient ones Peaches. Youve been patient. If he doesn't budge, he wasn't trying to come back. That's some shit we gotta accept."
This is text messages I keep of my conversations with my dad.
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Posted by mzmee
That was what I'm trying to get thru to DJ, he didn't give a fuck. He's saying I should've stayed and I loved him less because i filed. That was the whole nature of this post. Lol.
That's not what I gathered from what DJ is saying.
He's saying that if you're going to continue to put your energy into this man .. then why fucking file for divorce?
He doesn't give a fuck about you ... so what kind of nonsense is this where you're in here trying to prove your worth based off of an asswipe ex?
What difference does it make (when) he got remarried? But, apparently every move he makes and every word he says makes a difference to you .. regardless of how much he doesn't give a shit about you, or his child.
So, you're still involved with the drama. For the fact that he didn't file means he wasn't ready to end the nonsense ... whereas because you did file (for manipulation purposes to continue playing this head game the two of you obviously enjoy), and so the only logical conclusion for you filing (since it wasn't done for principals or having integrity), then it has to be because you cared less than he does in the effort of continuing the relation.
I realize this flies over your head, for if you were able to actually get it ... then you would have.
Point is, I asked my dad if he was mad or did he not care anymore. He told me the difference. That's all. Me filing wasn't a manipulation tool.
@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
Posted by DonJohnSays the moron who chases 17 year old girls and knocks them up- the failed PUA loser who's laughed at in the PUA community.
people have no clue what it takes for a marriage to work these days. they are completely lost.
Bitch please, sit the fuck down. Nobody takes you seriously and you give no credible advice except self serving bs.
You are probably one of THE most "lost" users on this forum. You really have no room to talk.
Posted by DonJohnAt least I'm my real self on here, asshat. Not some shrimp dick loser trying to portray himself as some all mighty player and ladies man. You're far from that.Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by DonJohnYour parent's dysfunctional relationship makes you unfit to talk about situations like this, especially since your views on them are so fucked up from that dysfunction.Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.
Gtfo of here with your shrimp dick syndrome. Your "advice" is useless, as always.
you're upset because you're forever alone. i understand. i can read the anger in your posts. it's sad.
my parents have a great relationship. always said that. not the best parents. doesn't mean they didn't love each other.
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But go ahead, continue the lame shit digs at my independence from relationships and my lack of fucks to give about dating. At least I'm not your sad ass who targets the unwilling and naive because that's all you can get, honey buns.
Now shoo.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamI saw some shrimps...that size of a lobster! So don't boost his ego! LolPosted by DonJohnYour parent's dysfunctional relationship makes you unfit to talk about situations like this, especially since your views on them are so fucked up from that dysfunction.Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.
Gtfo of here with your shrimp dick syndrome. Your "advice" is useless, as always.
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@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
I already touch on it, numerous times.
Why the fuck do you even care?
You want to sit here and submerge yourself into the emotional torture of a fucking ex .....
I mean seriously ... are you retarded?
Posted by P-AngelYeah, I'm retarded. You and I was just helmet shopping last week...Posted by mzmee
@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
I already touch on it, numerous times.
Why the fuck do you even care?
You want to sit here and submerge yourself into the emotional torture of a fucking ex .....
I mean seriously ... are you retarded?
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Do you understand the purpose of when people ask questions, you answer them? If you can read, you'll see they asked me what I did to make him go away, this was my answer.
Yall some fucking dummies. Soul less dummies.
Posted by mzmee
@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
By you saying that ^^^^ proves that I've been right this whole time.
You just want to wallow in your misery and have as many people as possible to validate and enable you.
You haven't grown one fucking bit, you're still in the throes of the drama as if it all happened yesterday ... when it was months ago, going on a year.
Your only interest here is for people to attack him and his character because you don't have the maturity or integrity to step the fuck away and let this pass.
so the fuck what what date he got remarried. so the fuck what what he said or did when you two were still married.
But, all of that does matter to you ... because you won't let go .. you try desperately to cling on to as much emotional torment as you possibly can.
And THAT ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is the reason why you're not wanted. Because no man wants to have to lug around your emotional baggage.
What part of that is so hard to comprehend?
Do yourself a favor and find something worthwhile to occupy yourself .. because this barfing up your failure only retards you. As we see here as proof.
Posted by mzmeeBecause they talking to talk.
Point is, I asked my dad if he was mad or did he not care anymore. He told me the difference. That's all. Me filing wasn't a manipulation tool.
@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
However I would never say it but I have to!
I agree with P-Angel. If you keep chasing him why divorced?
Though you probably didn't know what post divorce feels...
Posted by DonJohnSo these people also stopped dealing with their kids too? And came back like one big happy family.
people have no clue what it takes for a marriage to work these days. they are completely lost. they either have no example of how a marriage lasted or they have been so deeply brainwashed by the liberal media enabled by their liberal media washed parents.
it's a mental illness.
every single old marriage i know on a personal level has infidelity issues. my parents lived apart for 7 god damn years. not seeing each other. no LD calls cus $ . no trips to see each other cus $ . no emails. just snail mail. 7 damn years. ROFL. it worked out.
another old couple i know has a dude constantly leaving a week at a time whenever he gets upset. he stopped in his old age but when he was younger he'd get upset and just leave. but always came back.
another old couple, the husband frequents massage parlors still till this day. he's over 60.
you can sit on a high horse and judge them...... but i'll tell you something. They are all happy. they have peace of mind.
you can try to rationalize your singledom until you are blue in the fact.
the fact is there were many before you and many that will come after you that made a marriage work. if you filed the papers. you gave up. it's as simple as that.
Posted by GemitatiPosted by mzmeeBecause they talking to talk.
Point is, I asked my dad if he was mad or did he not care anymore. He told me the difference. That's all. Me filing wasn't a manipulation tool.
@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
However I would never say it but I have to!
I agree with P-Angel. If you keep chasing him why divorced?
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Didn't chase him. Before I filed, I did tell him I'm willing to work on us. I feel like a damn tape recorder. Once he showed me in so many ways he didn't care, I filed.
It's over, yep. That still doesn't mean I'm not entitled to be hurt by it.
I don't get mad at the other comments, they son know me from a hill of beans. But the comment about my father did hurt. He's deceased. I got over it quick so its whatever.
Posted by mzmeePosted by P-AngelYeah, I'm retarded. You and I was just helmet shopping last week...Posted by mzmee
@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
I already touch on it, numerous times.
Why the fuck do you even care?
You want to sit here and submerge yourself into the emotional torture of a fucking ex .....
I mean seriously ... are you retarded?
Do you understand the purpose of when people ask questions, you answer them? If you can read, you'll see they asked me what I did to make him go away, this was my answer.
Yall some fucking dummies. Soul less dummies.
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And you're the emotional booger stuck to the bottom of your own shoe that won't let you step away, to help your own goddam self.
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That still doesn't mean I'm not entitled to be hurt by it.
Oh, it's way beyond that ... you've got the pain on a pedestal, praising it, honoring it.
we're talking going on a year ago that these injuries happened ... and you're presenting yourself as if it was yesterday.
Obviously ..... you like the misery, you like it or you wouldn't be in here creating a romance for it.
Posted by mzmeePosted by GemitatiPosted by mzmeeBecause they talking to talk.
Point is, I asked my dad if he was mad or did he not care anymore. He told me the difference. That's all. Me filing wasn't a manipulation tool.
@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
However I would never say it but I have to!
I agree with P-Angel. If you keep chasing him why divorced?
Though you probably didn't know what post divorce feels...
Didn't chase him. Before I filed, I did tell him I'm willing to work on us. I feel like a damn tape recorder. Once he showed me in so many ways he didn't care, I filed.
It's over, yep. That still doesn't mean I'm not entitled to be hurt by it.
I don't get mad at the other comments, they dont know me from a hill of beans. But the comment about my father did hurt. He's deceased. I got over it quick so its whatever.
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Posted by mzmeeOf course you are entitled to feel hurt.....you have a child with the blokePosted by GemitatiPosted by mzmeeBecause they talking to talk.
Point is, I asked my dad if he was mad or did he not care anymore. He told me the difference. That's all. Me filing wasn't a manipulation tool.
@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
However I would never say it but I have to!
I agree with P-Angel. If you keep chasing him why divorced?
Though you probably didn't know what post divorce feels...
Didn't chase him. Before I filed, I did tell him I'm willing to work on us. I feel like a damn tape recorder. Once he showed me in so many ways he didn't care, I filed.
It's over, yep. That still doesn't mean I'm not entitled to be hurt by it.
I don't get mad at the other comments, they son know me from a hill of beans. But the comment about my father did hurt. He's deceased. I got over it quick so its whatever.
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Anyone that hasn't experienced this dynamic is clueless to it and their opinion is therefore invalid. Anyone with a modicum of intelligence would realize this. When you have a child with someone, it creates a life long bond.
Posted by mzmeeYep! Only lowest life of a human can call someone's parents or child nasty names!Posted by GemitatiPosted by mzmeeBecause they talking to talk.
Point is, I asked my dad if he was mad or did he not care anymore. He told me the difference. That's all. Me filing wasn't a manipulation tool.
@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
However I would never say it but I have to!
I agree with P-Angel. If you keep chasing him why divorced?
Though you probably didn't know what post divorce feels...
Didn't chase him. Before I filed, I did tell him I'm willing to work on us. I feel like a damn tape recorder. Once he showed me in so many ways he didn't care, I filed.
It's over, yep. That still doesn't mean I'm not entitled to be hurt by it.
I don't get mad at the other comments, they son know me from a hill of beans. But the comment about my father did hurt. He's deceased. I got over it quick so its whatever.
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Especially when they were told people deseased!
It tells me a lot about grown up man in forums! No one to bang. Sexually frustrated and too cheap or broke to order in! Or ashamed of impotency...
Posted by mzmee
Yes, I can admit, I'm all over the place even tho I pulled the plug. Its very obvious I needed to. Does that mean I shouldn't be sad, angry, hurt— When did you become God?
And this anger is different from if he had not got immediately married after the divorce. This is the anger that he was the cheater, he did wrong, and yet he has everything. He did not have to pay for his actions. That hurts more, that feels so unfair.
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@tiziani I appreciate this post.
I've noticed when I needed him most, he wasn't there, not talking about good times either. Before we married, we did everything together. We were inseparable. I come from a traditional upbringing. Southern parents. The same for him.(I'll expound on that later) When we were a part, he told me his every move and vice versa. He did everything he needed to do to make that trust stuck. I paid it back tenfold. Yeah we had arguments, talked it out, laughed it off and was on the next.
After marriage was when it changed. When I had my high points, the first person I wanted to know was my husband. He wasn't so enthused. I'm the celebratory type, so when he's accomplish something, I made a big deal of it. He told me no one ever made him feel this special and that's what he always loved about me.
I'm not gonna draw this out. At the end of the day, he said it was my ex, that passed years before we caught up, that made him angry. In his words, I didn't praise him but I had nothing bad to say about him either. When we talked about past relationships, he was surprised I didn't have many. He had a lot of experience of fuckery in that department. And he had a lot of bad things to say about his exes, rightfully so. Each of them had babies on him, he took care of them and found they weren't his. 3 times. He went thru a lot. The last instance, we were together when we found out about his daughter not being his.
I'll stop now.
It does not feel like he went through a lot he thought they were his kids cos that was a possibility for him. Which means he was careless about making girls pregnant?
Posted by mzmeeYou know you can block there arrogant animals? Don't let them upset you.Posted by mzmeePosted by GemitatiPosted by mzmeeBecause they talking to talk.
Point is, I asked my dad if he was mad or did he not care anymore. He told me the difference. That's all. Me filing wasn't a manipulation tool.
@P-Angel and @DonJohn, why won't you all answer the other points in my thread?
About how he was angry about a deceased ex and me moving away?? Cause that's his reasoning behind him leaving. Why won't you all touch that subject?
However I would never say it but I have to!
I agree with P-Angel. If you keep chasing him why divorced?
Though you probably didn't know what post divorce feels...
Didn't chase him. Before I filed, I did tell him I'm willing to work on us. I feel like a damn tape recorder. Once he showed me in so many ways he didn't care, I filed.
It's over, yep. That still doesn't mean I'm not entitled to be hurt by it.
I don't get mad at the other comments, they dont know me from a hill of beans. But the comment about my father did hurt. He's deceased. I got over it quick so its whatever.
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They will never post their issues because Internet will freeze forever! Lpl
just wanted 2say im sorry. it wasnt u it was me. had I been who u all needed me 2b in the first place u would have never had to do what you had to do& a lot of things would b different.
This was sent to me at 5:42 today.
This was sent to me at 5:42 today.
he disrespected your deceased farther?? i'd take the temporary insanity defense and gut him like a fish, slowly
Posted by iCloud9Very slowly...
he disrespected your deceased farther?? i'd take the temporary insanity defense and gut him like a fish, slowly
Posted by ScorpioTruthWhy are you even trying to beat sense into senile? LolPosted by DonJohnYou're absolutely right that people have no idea what it takes for marriage to work these days. Infidelity certainly doesn't help.
people have no clue what it takes for a marriage to work these days. they are completely lost. they either have no example of how a marriage lasted or they have been so deeply brainwashed by the liberal media enabled by their liberal media washed parents.
it's a mental illness.
every single old marriage i know on a personal level has infidelity issues. my parents lived apart for 7 god damn years. not seeing each other. no LD calls cus $ . no trips to see each other cus $ . no emails. just snail mail. 7 damn years. ROFL. it worked out.
another old couple i know has a dude constantly leaving a week at a time whenever he gets upset. he stopped in his old age but when he was younger he'd get upset and just leave. but always came back.
another old couple, the husband frequents massage parlors still till this day. he's over 60.
you can sit on a high horse and judge them...... but i'll tell you something. They are all happy. they have peace
the fact is there were many before you and many that will come after you that made a marriage work. if you filed the papers. you gave up. it's as simple as that.
And for the record, grandma probably stayed with cheating ass grandpa not because she was "happy" or "at peace". Most likely, granny stayed because women weren't working as much back then and were financially dependent on their husbands.
Nice try though. Lol you're the delusional one if you think that men should be allowed to slip and fall into some ass whenever they want to and we should be the only ones who are concerned with making the marriage work.
FOH.
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He doesn't know he is a freak!
He is sitting there fat old ugly dude in his briefs scratching his balls hating everyone who says love or woman or sex...
Why do you think he chosen Trump face for his Ava? Power! Money! Melanie!
Imagine him and P-Angel got sex (pass the bucket please) and got a kid!
That would be the one who would destroy the world!!!
Hope he is an impotent which I am sure he is! Lol
Posted by ScorpioTruthHe left after I found out. Did some other things that wasn't cool.
I'm assuming you filed for divorce after he cheated on you? Is that what he means by "had to do what you had to do"?
Things aren't always what they seem with a Scorpio. We put up a good front. Especially if there is a child involved, he HAS TO feel extreme guilt. You may not have seen it before today (before this text message) but I'm sure it's been eating away at him for some time.
Posted by SeraphlightPosted by mzmeeI'm sorry. Are you feeling any better now? {:-) ??Posted by ScorpioTruthHe left after I found out. Did some other things that wasn't cool.
I'm assuming you filed for divorce after he cheated on you? Is that what he means by "had to do what you had to do"?
Things aren't always what they seem with a Scorpio. We put up a good front. Especially if there is a child involved, he HAS TO feel extreme guilt. You may not have seen it before today (before this text message) but I'm sure it's been eating away at him for some time.
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Thank you babe. I feel much better. Venting helps. I appreciate yall
Posted by DivaCanLeoI didnt.Posted by mzmeeHow did you respond?
just wanted 2say im sorry. it wasnt u it was me. had I been who u all needed me 2b in the first place u would have never had to do what you had to do& a lot of things would b different.
This was sent to me at 5:42 today.
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Posted by DonJohnDeciding you no long want to spend your life tied to another's doesn't mean you no longer love them. I think that's a misconception on your part.
men lie. women lie. facts don't lie. the only fact here is you filed the papers. you can make up lies to support your side as much as you like.
i judge by action and action only.
You are the one that pulled the plug. I care not anything else. You are trying to say you are the righteous one blah blah. it's only natural.
at the end of the day, when rubber meets the road, you are the one that ended the marriage by filing those papers.
you loved him less than he loved you. regardless of what you say, he wasn't the one that snuffed out the heartbeat of your marriage. you did.
Nothing lasts forever.
Any guy or woman with a track record for cheating would be mad to get married
Why bother? The chances are, after the initial novelty of fidelity.....they will be off again to feed their habit, leaving behind their loved(?) one broken hearted
CheatIng on someone means you don't love them
Why bother? The chances are, after the initial novelty of fidelity.....they will be off again to feed their habit, leaving behind their loved(?) one broken hearted
CheatIng on someone means you don't love them
Posted by MagicMonaBut you are a brave woman Mona. People that cheat and think they will never get caught are cowardly and stupid. Watch the amount of married men that wait till their wives are pregnant and have babies and then go out and cheat because they aren't strong enough to go without for a while or they feel neglected ...
i'd rather handle my shit honestly and not fuck people over. be real and say that this is not working, we've reached the end. not go out, cheat, and disrespect my wife. this is not a woman i was just fucking and living with. this woman was once upon a time my friend. my sister. all in all she was MINE, and i loved her. vice versa. we may have to let each other go, and feelings may change, but respect never should. that's bullshit to not be able to handle shit honestly.
Men needing sex to feel better about themselves overshadows the love for their families .... Ugh
jfc rebounds are like the worst
Let alone marrying the rebound lmaooo I cant
He sounds insane.
The only thing dependable about his situation will be the misery in his house when he realizes he married his rebound.
RIP to him
Ahhh scorpios. The Ratchetness never stops
Let alone marrying the rebound lmaooo I cant
He sounds insane.
The only thing dependable about his situation will be the misery in his house when he realizes he married his rebound.
RIP to him
Ahhh scorpios. The Ratchetness never stops
Posted by AfternoonDelights22True
jfc rebounds are like the worst
Let alone marrying the rebound lmaooo I cant
He sounds insane.
The only thing dependable about his situation will be the misery in his house when he realizes he married his rebound.
RIP to him
Ahhh scorpios. The Ratchetness never stops
And then on top of that, the chances are his son is gonna think he is a twat......
What an idiot
Edit to add:
I read this in a Tony Parsons' book...based on a true story of his marriage. He had met the ideal woman, had a baby with her, adored them both, then one night slept with another woman and of course she found out (as if women don't know lol). He lost her and his family were torn apart. This is what his wife said to him after he had fucked it all up ~
"If you can do it once, you can do it a thousand times. That's the first law of fucking around. The unified theory of fucking around clearly states that if they do it once, they will do it again and again"
It's shocking to me how stupid most of you actually are.
this woman WANTS this man, she is so butthurt over not having him and she jumps on every word he says, and makes threads in his honor.
She didn't want to divorce him .. she wanted to change him.
so, that means that she doesn't care that he's a cheater .... what she cares about is having his attention.
You dumb ass people come in here and took everything she said completely out of context from what she is actually saying and you believe you are supporting a woman who has seen the light, and is doing what is in her best interest.
DJ is correct. If you're going to continue to play for his attention, then it was you who pulled the plug on the charade, not him. You should never have divorced him, since you obviously are pining away for him to value you.
In theory, she should divorce his ass ... but, that's not what her words describe. You people have your own agenda and aren't even comprehending what she is saying in here.
It's so difficult for me to interact with such dumbasses ......
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Arielle83I think you should tell ur future wife your views
Either way DJ good luck with the vows.
" hey when I step out, we work on it . 90 percent chance I will based on history of man kind "
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His sarcasm in where he meant the complete opposite of that was obvious .... but, people in here apparently have to pry their panties out of their butts to recognize it.
Apparently people don't actually get tongue-in-cheek .... and it has to be spelled out for them.
cats and dogs aren't actually falling from the sky when it's raining cats and dogs
His sardonic idioms flew over just about everyone's head. For the fact that she didn't leave him, nor divorce him due to his cheating, then the implication was made sarcastically that she belongs with the cheater.
Posted by Arielle83So she is the blokePosted by MagicMonaYeah so DJ never proposed.
i wish some people stop braying like asses because they dont know what they are talking about.
divorce doesnt mean i love you less. it means we can no longer be together, despite how i feel about you. it means i love you, but there are certain things i'm tired of and no longer want to tolerate. you dont care enough to stop them and respect my wishes. so what am i to do? be a doormat because i'm the woman and you're the man? adultery and you skipping out was not part of our marriage vows. we had an understanding before we even took that step that we would be exclusive.
if you know you aren't or can't be monogamous, don't even play those games. be real with yourself and me. go get what you want from the get go; don't make vows with me and then act like they meant nothing.
if that was too much for you, you did not have to propose. men propose -they initiate marriage. but why even bother when you know you can't keep it in your pants? call us crazy, but we dont want partners who put us at risk for STDS. we dont want to have to deal with your outside chicks and outside children. only a goddamn idiot would expect a person to stay and put up with that without tiring of it. unless we had an open marriage arrangement, that shit isn't flying.
little boys here dont understand that.
She did.
He bragged about it.
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Lol
Posted by DivaCanLeoPosted by P-Angelwhat utter nonsensePosted by ImpulsvPosted by Arielle83I think you should tell ur future wife your views
Either way DJ good luck with the vows.
" hey when I step out, we work on it . 90 percent chance I will based on history of man kind "
she can make an adult informed decision. hey you're in agreement it's cool
His sarcasm in where he meant the complete opposite of that was obvious .... but, people in here apparently have to pry their panties out of their butts to recognize it.
Apparently people don't actually get tongue-in-cheek .... and it has to be spelled out for them.
cats and dogs aren't actually falling from the sky when it's raining cats and dogs
His sardonic idioms flew over just about everyone's head. For the fact that she didn't leave him, nor divorce him due to his cheating, then the implication was made sarcastically that she belongs with the cheater.
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Yeah bullshit
That is what smoking too much shite does to people.....completely skewers perception.
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After she showed my dad she wasn't taking his shit, she filed. He went back and made it right.
Even when it was bad, my mom said he never turned his back on his kids, he was there period. Him being with another woman was bad enough, he didn't run salt in the wounds and do more disrespectful shit. They talked it out, he cut the other chick out of his life and they moved forward.
My story was completely different. He didnt try to work shit out. He left. Came back and faked loved and left again. Selling lies and planning a second wedding.
I told him when he's ready to make it right, I'm here, I'm not going anywhere, im your wife. He didn't feel the same.