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What Does a Virgo Man Not Opening Messages Mean
A Virgo man not opening messages may indicate he is taking time to process his feelings or is experiencing personal issues. It does not necessarily mean disinterest. Consider giving him space and avoiding further messages to see if he reaches out. His response pattern suggests he may need time to reflect.
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How many messages have you written to him (guestimation?) and were these personal or related to work topics since you are in the same profession.
How many messages have you written to him (guestimation?) and were these personal or related to work topics since you are in the same profession.
thank you 💙🌊🙏 occasional messages about me and my life in general, profession included. The last he had seen is an old built in wardrobe and a 3d image of how the new one would look like with a message. Since then I sent something about my day and a song for the mood. He hasn't opened yet. For the first time 🤷♀️
What does every single way except physical mean? Like, what happened?
The right answer is not to write again.
oh we talked so much and had great connection and never saw each other again. I sent occasional DMs, he opened them in a short period of time, answered twice and for the first time 3 days ago he didn't open, and still hasn't. Why? 🤷♀️
I agree, won't be sending anything anymore.
He is a Virgo.
Could you elaborate because I don't know what that means.
Why do you think he would be interested in your life and moods....?
It sounds like you were spamming him and he had enough of it.
How many messages have you written to him (guestimation?) and were these personal or related to work topics since you are in the same profession.
thank you 💙🌊🙏 occasional messages about me and my life in general, profession included. The last he had seen is an old built in wardrobe and a 3d image of how the new one would look like with a message. Since then I sent something about my day and a song for the mood. He hasn't opened yet. For the first time 🤷♀️
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He opens them but only responded to 3. So how many did you send?
If it was like 5/6 messages then no worries.
But if its like 10/20+ yikes! he's not feeling it. Fade to black.
The answer is he is mutable and changes according to the situation and his own willingness to put one foot In the door.
It's an early faze and something you'll have to get use to at the beginning. Right now your in casual stages and until there is something more to evaluate that is where it is going to be.
Speculation tells me you have not given a full green light on the situation.
Why do you think he would be interested in your life and moods....?
It sounds like you were spamming him and he had enough of it.
opening it in a short period of time. He could have muted/blocked/ignored. But it's only one option. You could be right. We shall see I guess 🤷♀️
He is a Virgo.
Could you elaborate because I don't know what that means.
It could be anything but you'll never know because he might not even answer you at all. If a Virgo isn't interested in you 💯, you are way too available, he'll disappear without a trace and as if you didn't exist.
Virgos can be assholes.
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yeah i guess time will tell
How many messages have you written to him (guestimation?) and were these personal or related to work topics since you are in the same profession.
thank you 💙🌊🙏 occasional messages about me and my life in general, profession included. The last he had seen is an old built in wardrobe and a 3d image of how the new one would look like with a message. Since then I sent something about my day and a song for the mood. He hasn't opened yet. For the first time 🤷♀️
He opens them but only responded to 3. So how many did you send?
If it was like 5/6 messages then no worries.
But if its like 10/20+ yikes! he's not feeling it. Fade to black.
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i am definitely in the yikes category so i'll stop and see if something happens. That seems like the only optiob
Why do women think both parties have such a strong "connection" and it's someone who they don't know and ends up leaving them on read?? 🤔 🧐
Anyways. That's how a Virgo is- they are always busy and actually like a women to show interest.
If they like you enough, they will chase. But if they are on the fence about you, you need to do the pursuing.
They have others on stand by who are fwb, so their sexual needs are usually fulfilled- especially if he's handsome and charming, like a popular Virgo.
Also, is he's like this it will take a while to get close to him. I find earth signs in general slow to get into relationships, until they've explored all their open legs- oops! I mean options 😄
Virgo is the known bachelor of the zodiac. They are known to be the "get in line and wait, cause I'm busy" types
So you basically need to "get in where you fit in" until they like you more. Once they like you, they make time for you.
The answer is he is mutable and changes according to the situation and his own willingness to put one foot In the door.
It's an early faze and something you'll have to get use to at the beginning. Right now your in casual stages and until there is something more to evaluate that is where it is going to be.
Speculation tells me you have not given a full green light on the situation.
i can't go any greener and in harmony with my character and you are right - no one has any obligations to another so 🤷♀️ i think he saw the project I did and was like eww this bitch is an extremely lower league i can't be bothered
The answer is he is mutable and changes according to the situation and his own willingness to put one foot In the door.
It's an early faze and something you'll have to get use to at the beginning. Right now your in casual stages and until there is something more to evaluate that is where it is going to be.
Speculation tells me you have not given a full green light on the situation.
i can't go any greener and in harmony with my character and you are right - no one has any obligations to another so 🤷♀️ i think he saw the project I did and was like eww this bitch is an extremely lower league i can't be bothered
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Lol I hate to tell you but sometimes the most obvious things fly over a virgos head and dont recognize it till years later.
The answer is he is mutable and changes according to the situation and his own willingness to put one foot In the door.
It's an early faze and something you'll have to get use to at the beginning. Right now your in casual stages and until there is something more to evaluate that is where it is going to be.
Speculation tells me you have not given a full green light on the situation.
i can't go any greener and in harmony with my character and you are right - no one has any obligations to another so 🤷♀️ i think he saw the project I did and was like eww this bitch is an extremely lower league i can't be bothered
Lol I hate to tell you but sometimes the most obvious things fly over a virgos head and dont recognize it till years later.
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Cest la vie I guess 🤦♀️
Why do women think both parties have such a strong "connection" and it's someone who they don't know and ends up leaving them on read?? 🤔 🧐
Anyways. That's how a Virgo is- they are always busy and actually like a women to show interest.
If they like you enough, they will chase. But if they are on the fence about you, you need to do the pursuing.
They have others on stand by who are fwb, so their sexual needs are usually fulfilled- especially if he's handsome and charming, like a popular Virgo.
Also, is he's like this it will take a while to get close to him. I find earth signs in general slow to get into relationships, until they've explored all their open legs- oops! I mean options 😄
Virgo is the known bachelor of the zodiac. They are known to be the "get in line and wait, cause I'm busy" types
So you basically need to "get in where you fit in" until they like you more. Once they like you, they make time for you.
yes i agree i am one tiny drop in a sea of options. But why stop. This is what intrigued me. Maybe it is the mutable nature. Wouldn't know because i am very much cardinal
Why do women think both parties have such a strong "connection" and it's someone who they don't know and ends up leaving them on read?? 🤔 🧐
Anyways. That's how a Virgo is- they are always busy and actually like a women to show interest.
If they like you enough, they will chase. But if they are on the fence about you, you need to do the pursuing.
They have others on stand by who are fwb, so their sexual needs are usually fulfilled- especially if he's handsome and charming, like a popular Virgo.
Also, is he's like this it will take a while to get close to him. I find earth signs in general slow to get into relationships, until they've explored all their open legs- oops! I mean options 😄
Virgo is the known bachelor of the zodiac. They are known to be the "get in line and wait, cause I'm busy" types
So you basically need to "get in where you fit in" until they like you more. Once they like you, they make time for you.
yes i agree i am one tiny drop in a sea of options. But why stop. This is what intrigued me. Maybe it is the mutable nature. Wouldn't know because i am very much cardinal
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Oh! You definitely don’t have to!! Lol. Virgos are great as an option. The ones who are faithful are great when they settle on one person.
It’s the not knowing and waiting while they decide that was too frustrating for me. lol
They like being pursued so you’re golden as a cardinal.
They really have great qualities if you can get through the initial hazing 🤪🥴
I politely bowed out 😅😅
Just try not to be bothered if they don’t get back to you in a reasonable amount of time.
Once they get to know you, you can tear into their ass about it. They love a good crazy emotional chick.
I didn’t perform well in the emotional area.
They are usually calm as a cucumber and so polite when you’re crazy. So you have nothing to worry about 😄
He is not your friend! You've met once professionally and that was 4 years ago. He replied twice to your messages and then never again. He's been ignoring your messages for years.
What does it matter if he clicks on your message or not? Maybe he clicks to delete it or to extinguish the notification, not to read it. Are you seriously hanging onto the hope that he wants your messages because he didn't block you yet? Maybe he was trying to be professional, unlike you?
Rejoice though, you are not the only one deluded here. Those who scream "virgo!" are as deluded as you are.
How many messages have you written to him (guestimation?) and were these personal or related to work topics since you are in the same profession.
thank you 💙🌊🙏 occasional messages about me and my life in general, profession included. The last he had seen is an old built in wardrobe and a 3d image of how the new one would look like with a message. Since then I sent something about my day and a song for the mood. He hasn't opened yet. For the first time 🤷♀️
He opens them but only responded to 3. So how many did you send?
If it was like 5/6 messages then no worries.
But if its like 10/20+ yikes! he's not feeling it. Fade to black.
i am definitely in the yikes category so i'll stop and see if something happens. That seems like the only optiob
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Better for your pride and ego at least.
Thing is I know you said you guys clicked when you met. But as someone who very easily can chat with/connect with people... it is the most important part of my job, sometimes its not as genuine as you might have felt.
He has your deets, he knows how to get in contact with you. Men tend to go after what they want, aggressively.
Why do women think both parties have such a strong "connection" and it's someone who they don't know and ends up leaving them on read?? 🤔 🧐
I don't get it either. But I am low key jealous about people who fall in love at first sight or look into his eyes and think yeah lets start picking out baby names. This feels right.
I am not built that way at all. Even when he says all the right things, shows up for years, proves to me with his actions I am still mentally one foot in one foot out.
Why do women think both parties have such a strong "connection" and it's someone who they don't know and ends up leaving them on read?? 🤔 🧐
I don't get it either. But I am low key jealous about people who fall in love at first sight or look into his eyes and think yeah lets start picking out baby names. This feels right.
I am not built that way at all. Even when he says all the right things, shows up for years, proves to me with his actions I am still mentally one foot in one foot out.
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I don’t mind the love at first sight thing if they keep that same energy.
My mind changes quickly to one foot in/one foot out once their behavior changes.
It tells me all that I need to know 🤣🤣
Why do women think both parties have such a strong "connection" and it's someone who they don't know and ends up leaving them on read?? 🤔 🧐
I don't get it either. But I am low key jealous about people who fall in love at first sight or look into his eyes and think yeah lets start picking out baby names. This feels right.
I am not built that way at all. Even when he says all the right things, shows up for years, proves to me with his actions I am still mentally one foot in one foot out.
I don’t mind the love at first sight thing if they keep that same energy.
My mind changes quickly to one foot in/one foot out once their behavior changes.
It tells me all that I need to know 🤣🤣
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I mind it lol. That shit scares me. I will and have ghosted so quickly when someone comes on too strong.
What are we? In 7th grade? Send him a grownup message. "Hi, I'm really interested in getting to know you better. Wondered if you felt the same."
Or you could go back to reading tea leaves.
Why do women think both parties have such a strong "connection" and it's someone who they don't know and ends up leaving them on read?? 🤔 🧐
I don't get it either. But I am low key jealous about people who fall in love at first sight or look into his eyes and think yeah lets start picking out baby names. This feels right.
I am not built that way at all. Even when he says all the right things, shows up for years, proves to me with his actions I am still mentally one foot in one foot out.
I don’t mind the love at first sight thing if they keep that same energy.
My mind changes quickly to one foot in/one foot out once their behavior changes.
It tells me all that I need to know 🤣🤣
I mind it lol. That shit scares me. I will and have ghosted so quickly when someone comes on too strong.
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
If I’m attracted to then it’s flattering and I love it.
If not 👩🦯🏃♀️💨💨💨 👻
Why do women think both parties have such a strong "connection" and it's someone who they don't know and ends up leaving them on read?? 🤔 🧐
I don't get it either. But I am low key jealous about people who fall in love at first sight or look into his eyes and think yeah lets start picking out baby names. This feels right.
I am not built that way at all. Even when he says all the right things, shows up for years, proves to me with his actions I am still mentally one foot in one foot out.
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"perks" of being a Pisces Venus 🤦♀️💜🧜🏼♀️
How do you know that you clicked in every single way?
Most people stay agreeable and put their best foot forward in public spaces
You saw him 4 years ago and haven't seen him since and you've been writing to him constantly since then but he doesn't respond..
Mmm I think he's just playing hard to get. I would send more messages, like ten a day, to show him how much you care
There was this user who had a strategy.
Text 3 times and then wait. The person will respond
Idk if it worked for her but I always wanted to try it.
4 years is a long long time. Did you meet during these 4 years? I had a similar situation, but vice versa: I met a guy once (we used to work for the same company, but never were colleagues, he was in the city I lived at that time (popular european capital) and asked for recommendations). We met for drinks and since then during 3 years he was constantly texting me, including something how he would marry me (after 1 evening! not even a date). He is Pisces with Pisces venus.
I replied to some of the texts, because for me he was kind of part of my former social circle, but when he started to share how his day was and offering to spend vacation together, I stopped opening his texts. It was so out of blue and weird.
I think the best move is to stop texting him and let him to text you first. Virgo can do it!
What are we? In 7th grade? Send him a grownup message. "Hi, I'm really interested in getting to know you better. Wondered if you felt the same."
How do you know he's not interested in 3d pictures of her wardrobe?
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it's not my wardrobe. It's a renovation I did for a client.
First of all, hello to all viewers, readers & reply-ers.
To be clear from the start, I am not interested in comments related to my sanity or insanity of the given situation. I am looking for insight and future steps. So all of you interested in sharing your opinions that are not related to it, please find another topic for your mental and emotional venting.
I have met a man 3-4 years ago who is a big name in the profession to whom we both belong. We clicked that evening and never saw each other again. When I mean clicked I mean in every single way except physically. I have been writing to him since then. He replied twice, but always sees my messages, opening them quickly after receiving them.
Two days ago the situation changed. He hasn't opened them.
So, basically I want to know what might have happened, and what to do next. My only answer is to not write again.
He is a Virgo, if that means anything.
Once again thank you for finding the will and time to help me with this one.
Xoxoxo
I'm sorry to be harsh, but you are stalking him. Leave him alone. This magical connection you perceive is very clearly one-sided. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but if what you're doing is rational to you, then blunt and them some is needed.
If someone is interested, they generally make it known somehow, and no, a few opened messages out idk how you many you've sent does not denote interest.
Is this dude wealthy or a celebrity or something? You mentioned him being a big name which is why I'm asking This is just all very irrational.
In short, leave him alone and don't pull a jodi arias.
So, basically I want to know what might have happened...
He is a Virgo
You've answered your own question.
While quite reliable for a mutable sign, when caught up in their own thing they can become distant in an effort to either deal with it effectively or reduce the possibility of becoming overwhelmed. That or he simply is no longer interested given he only replied twice over a 3-4 year period--not sure how often you've written him. Based on his response and time frame I would leave it.
Is this a LDR, or are you simply penpals?
What does every single way except physical mean? Like, what happened?
The right answer is not to write again.
oh we talked so much and had great connection and never saw each other again. I sent occasional DMs, he opened them in a short period of time, answered twice and for the first time 3 days ago he didn't open, and still hasn't. Why? 🤷♀️
I agree, won't be sending anything anymore.
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Does he ever initiate contact?
So, basically I want to know what might have happened...
He is a Virgo
You've answered your own question.
While quite reliable for a mutable sign, when caught up in their own thing they can become distant in an effort to either deal with it effectively or reduce the possibility of becoming overwhelmed. That or he simply is no longer interested given he only replied twice over a 3-4 year period--not sure how often you've written him. Based on his response and time frame I would leave it.
Is this a LDR, or are you simply penpals?
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we met once, talked all evening and he put his hand on my knee. The day after he sat next to me in the congress hall. That's all the contact we had in real life.
Okay, so the connection you're writing about reads as one sided imo and I believe you may be reading too much into his responses (e.g hand on knee, opening and responding to a few messages). If you were at a professional event, it is not uncommon for a Virgo to be quite social, engaging and even charming, borderline flirty depending on what other specs he has going on in his chart (e.g. namely Leo or Leeb). If you are stimulating enough, you will have and keep his attention---for the evening. This will be short lived however, as it's not necessarily enough to maintain their interest.
When you say you clicked, you are presuming he felt the same way and you shouldn't. Again, social, engaging and even charming mutable sign =/= feeling the same connection you are feeling. Unless he has stated genuine interest, and trust me with a Virgo you will definitely know---or at least that has always been my experience with them---then I would air on the side of "he simply finds me interesting enough to respond". This is why I asked if he ever initiates contact.
Thank you all for your replies and insight. I can't explain why, but I think that he likes me.
You saw him 4 years ago and haven't seen him since and you've been writing to him constantly since then but he doesn't respond..
Mmm I think he's just playing hard to get. I would send more messages, like ten a day, to show him how much you care
LOL
Another situation that comes to mind, considering that he is someone with power in their professional field, is that he probably didn’t block her, because the “me too” movement happened and he got scared. He had to open her messages over the years, to make sure that she wasn’t accusing him of inappropriate behaviour or whatever happened between them 4 years ago. Maybe he feels safe now.
Edot: "he put his hand on my knee and said to stay. I can't write about details and wouldn't want to compromise him or myself.." Ahem...
Thank you all for your replies and insight. I can't explain why, but I think that he likes me.
at this point, you gotta be trolling.
No I am not trolling, it's just the way I feel 🤷♀️ can't blame myself for that. Maybe it's a Pisces Venus thing 🧜🏼♀️💜
Even if he does like you, what's the point of spending 4 years sending him emails of your wardrobe refurbishments?
showing him my work 🤷♀️
No I am not trolling, it's just the way I feel 🤷♀️ can't blame myself for that. Maybe it's a Pisces Venus thing 🧜🏼♀️💜
If you're lonely or something, like not getting enough contact with people, try meetup or some other groups out there. Maybe I'm just a jackass and this is all it took for you to fall head over heels and persist for four years despite the lack of reciprocity; the romantic in me almost applauds that. I don't know. I wish you a happy resolution no matter what
Even if he does like you, what's the point of spending 4 years sending him emails of your wardrobe refurbishments?
showing him my work 🤷♀️
Why don't you write
Hi Bob, I know this sounds strange but ever since I met you that night back at ... I have found myself thinking about you and I wondered if you'd be interested in getting to know each other better? Maybe we can arrange to have dinner together some time? If you're not interested then that's fine and I understand but I felt we shared a connection and would like to explore it further, if you're willing
Best wishes,
Crazy Stalker Lady
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yes I even own a cat so I like the name you gave me.
No I am not trolling, it's just the way I feel 🤷♀️ can't blame myself for that. Maybe it's a Pisces Venus thing 🧜🏼♀️💜
If you're lonely or something, like not getting enough contact with people, try meetup or some other groups out there. Maybe I'm just a jackass and this is all it took for you to fall head over heels and persist for four years despite the lack of reciprocity; the romantic in me almost applauds that. I don't know. I wish you a happy resolution no matter what
"If you're lonely or something, like not getting enough contact with people, try meetup or some other groups out there"
Oh the irony of this statement on dxp 😂
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So true, but honestly I don't even look at DXP like it's social media. It's more like a 2005 time warp where forums were the thing and I love it.
He is a Virgo.
She said it all. Virgos are well known to be cold, so...
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I don't know how precise the natal chart is without time of birth but according to it he has Libra Moon and Venus, Virgo Sun and Mercury
haha I like you, cool gif
The right answer is not to write again.
I mean worked for you
😅🤣
Who are you referring to? 🧐 yourself ignored in my dms? Lol
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🥶🤭
You saw him 4 years ago and haven't seen him since and you've been writing to him constantly since then but he doesn't respond..
Mmm I think he's just playing hard to get. I would send more messages, like ten a day, to show him how much you care
You’re such an a $ $ hole 😂😂😂
Funny one though!
I’m too prideful to even double text, if my message is ignored. I can’t even imagine sending multiple text to someone that occasionally replies, but to each his own 🤷🏽♀️
You saw him 4 years ago and haven't seen him since and you've been writing to him constantly since then but he doesn't respond..
Mmm I think he's just playing hard to get. I would send more messages, like ten a day, to show him how much you care
You’re such an a $ $ hole 😂😂😂
Funny one though!
I’m too prideful to even double text, if my message is ignored. I can’t even imagine sending multiple text to someone that occasionally replies, but to each his own 🤷🏽♀️
Lol well what hope is there for someone who has to pre-empt their thread by saying "I'm not interested in your comments about my lack of sanity"
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Bc she looked into her 🔮 and could foresee/foretell the future 😂🤭
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First of all, hello to all viewers, readers & reply-ers.
To be clear from the start, I am not interested in comments related to my sanity or insanity of the given situation. I am looking for insight and future steps. So all of you interested in sharing your opinions that are not related to it, please find another topic for your mental and emotional venting.
I have met a man 3-4 years ago who is a big name in the profession to whom we both belong. We clicked that evening and never saw each other again. When I mean clicked I mean in every single way except physically. I have been writing to him since then. He replied twice, but always sees my messages, opening them quickly after receiving them.
Two days ago the situation changed. He hasn't opened them.
So, basically I want to know what might have happened, and what to do next. My only answer is to not write again.
He is a Virgo, if that means anything.
Once again thank you for finding the will and time to help me with this one.
Xoxoxo