It's Time

For so long I have been posting on here about my damaged relationship.

I have really annoyed people with the same old saga.

I have had my difficulties with seeing things for what they are and it's becuase I really didn't want to admit to myself that things are failing and have been for along time.

The relationship is bad there is no doubt at all.

I have my issues where I should of put my children first on occasions and I also, shouldn't of done certain things within my relationship.

I am exhausted as a person who has been trying for so long to fix things however I have damaged myself in doing so.

Yes gem has all her problems and issues as well.

I thought we could sort this out considering the connection and love for eachother is real.

But it can't as heartbroken as I am I may have to walk away now.

Gem tells me one moment that she doesn't know if we can sort it or if she really wants to hot & cold) and then the next she said I need a night out with you because I missing that I want to sort things out with you.

I know people have told me to date other but I am not interested I need to work on myself becuase I gave so much I am weak.

Things have been very strange gem is not so commincative anymore she's not so loving in person or as excited to see me.

It is rare when we are close that she will cuddle or anything.

I haven't had relations with her for 2 weeks now and she has seemed okay about it yes we have had a few bickers in between.

I really don't want to let go I wanted a fresh start for us but I don't know how to becuase you both have to want to put effort in and try.

Just dont know what to do to make her realise that I am serious in wanting for us to work.

Posted by ImperfectStorm

I don’t know your whole story I haven’t followed your posts but I was kind of in the same boat with my sons dad/my ex of over 10+ years, I was the one that wanted to fix things even though he was the one that broke them. It took me a few years to understand that just because 2 people love each other does not mean that they are healthy together. Both people can be good people but bring out the worst in each other. Relationships are kind of like recipes.. each person is a separate ingredient but when they mix together they create a whole new entity.. the relationship itself. Sometimes you can mix two of the best ingredients together and the end result still tastes like shit.. the ingredients just don’t go together and you reach a point where you stop trying to force it and accept things for what they are. It’s a process.. the longer that you fight it the more painful that it will be for you. Just trust the process of letting go.

Letting go but how do I do this she isn't really bothered in seeing me right now or engaging in much emotions or physical things.

But tells me she loves me and wants us to work and wants to sort us out and then the next day she does not.

2 weeks ago I picked her up from town after we haven't spoken or see eachother for a week as she went on holiday without me the one we was supposed to go on together but we didn't.

Anyway I picked her up we spoke all night she told me how much I mean to her and she loves me it was proper real.

I had intercorse with her 5 times and she told me during it when I finished that she wasn't on the pill or Any protection that without fail she always takes she said sha has not been on it for 5 days and said I am so sorry I didn't tell you I forgot and then said but you can do it anyway if you want give it to me. Yet tells me a few days after she's not sure we will work or if she wants us to.

Its time... for what

Posted by LadyNeptune

Its time... for what

To walk away its not right on so many levels.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Its time... for what

To walk away its not right on so many levels.

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Nothing says walk away like continuing to fuck, talk to and talk about the person.

This is what I mean when I say you can't be honest with yourself.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Its time... for what

To walk away its not right on so many levels.

Nothing says walk away like continuing to fuck, talk to and talk about the person.

This is what I mean when I say you can't be honest with yourself.

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In what way though because I have held my hands up for my wrong doings.

I just come here for advice when I feel like shit and I need help.

She has said to me she doesnt even know herself if she wants me or not.

I said why am I still here you don't even want me here and she said I didn't say I didn't want you here I said well I will leave you don't even know if you want me or not.

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2 weeks ago I picked her up from town after we haven't spoken or see eachother for a week as she went on holiday without me the one we was supposed to go on together but we didn't.

Anyway I picked her up we spoke all night she told me how much I mean to her and she loves me it was proper real.

I had intercorse with her 5 times and she told me during it when I finished that she wasn't on the pill or Any protection that without fail she always takes she said sha has not been on it for 5 days and said I am so sorry I didn't tell you I forgot and then said but you can do it anyway if you want give it to me. Yet tells me a few days after she's not sure we will work or if she wants us to.

Please don’t bring a child into this mess. Y’all are not in a stable place. Don’t be selfish and have a kid with each other in an effort to be permanently bound. Stop fucking her… you’re not going to get your head right until you stop fucking her. Sex distorts your perception of reality and keeps you bound to someone emotionally. You’re only hurting yourself. DO NOT bring a baby into this unstable relationship.

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I haven't had sex with her for 2 weeks and I don't even feel like it at all and I am not intending on sleeping with her either.

Posted by Wizardz

You don't want advice you want emotional support when she leaves you out cold and then you get back with her again

You're using dxp as a way to stop you reaching an emotional place where change might be forced to happen. So it's not helping

He's not even aware of it. He just likes power plays and is crushed that they don't work on Geminis lol

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2 weeks ago I picked her up from town after we haven't spoken or see eachother for a week as she went on holiday without me the one we was supposed to go on together but we didn't.

Anyway I picked her up we spoke all night she told me how much I mean to her and she loves me it was proper real.

I had intercorse with her 5 times and she told me during it when I finished that she wasn't on the pill or Any protection that without fail she always takes she said sha has not been on it for 5 days and said I am so sorry I didn't tell you I forgot and then said but you can do it anyway if you want give it to me. Yet tells me a few days after she's not sure we will work or if she wants us to.

Please don’t bring a child into this mess. Y’all are not in a stable place. Don’t be selfish and have a kid with each other in an effort to be permanently bound. Stop fucking her… you’re not going to get your head right until you stop fucking her. Sex distorts your perception of reality and keeps you bound to someone emotionally. You’re only hurting yourself. DO NOT bring a baby into this unstable relationship.

I haven't had sex with her for 2 weeks and I don't even feel like it at all and I am not intending on sleeping with her either.

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Until she calls lol

Op you want help on how to change her. You can’t we can’t

It is what it is she’s not that into you.

I’ve had to come to that realization in one of my relationships.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Its time... for what

To walk away its not right on so many levels.

Nothing says walk away like continuing to fuck, talk to and talk about the person.

This is what I mean when I say you can't be honest with yourself.

In what way though because I have held my hands up for my wrong doings.

I just come here for advice when I feel like shit and I need help.

She has said to me she doesnt even know herself if she wants me or not.

I said why am I still here you don't even want me here and she said I didn't say I didn't want you here I said well I will leave you don't even know if you want me or not.

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I literally don't care.

Posted by Wizardz

You don't want advice you want emotional support when she leaves you out cold and then you get back with her again

You're using dxp as a way to stop you reaching an emotional place where change might be forced to happen. So it's not helping

What can I do either to make this better or the best outcome.

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Wizardz

You don't want advice you want emotional support when she leaves you out cold and then you get back with her again

You're using dxp as a way to stop you reaching an emotional place where change might be forced to happen. So it's not helping

He's not even aware of it. He just likes power plays and is crushed that they don't work on Geminis lol

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I don't want power plays honestly I either want all in or leave.

Posted by Truemara

Op you want help on how to change her. You can’t we can’t

It is what it is she’s not that into you.

I’ve had to come to that realization in one of my relationships.

I don't think it's me I thinks it's everything that had happened in the relationship and she move past it.

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Posted by Wizardz

You don't want advice you want emotional support when she leaves you out cold and then you get back with her again

You're using dxp as a way to stop you reaching an emotional place where change might be forced to happen. So it's not helping

He's not even aware of it. He just likes power plays and is crushed that they don't work on Geminis lol

I don't want power plays honestly I either want all in or leave.

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No you don't want to leave, which is why you stay. Which is also fine. But things will never go your way with a Gemini because your too concerned about having things done your way and on your time schedule.

And doing tit for tat and weighing the things she does to you and counting them against her and the relationship.- This is the wrong way to handle a Gemini.

I'm just talking about the relationship dynamic, not her crap personality of not being able to accept your kids.

What you see in her I have no clue. Your kids are gonna be like Cinderella, dealing with her in their lives, but as long as your happy, of course 🙂

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Posted by Wizardz

You don't want advice you want emotional support when she leaves you out cold and then you get back with her again

You're using dxp as a way to stop you reaching an emotional place where change might be forced to happen. So it's not helping

He's not even aware of it. He just likes power plays and is crushed that they don't work on Geminis lol

I don't want power plays honestly I either want all in or leave.

No you don't want to leave, which is why you stay. Which is also fine. But things will never go your way with a Gemini because your too concerned about having things done your way and on your time schedule.

And doing tit for tat and weighing the things she does to you and counting them against her and the relationship.- This is the wrong way to handle a Gemini.

I'm just talking about the relationship dynamic, not her crap personality of not being able to accept your kids.

What you see in her I have no clue. Your kids are gonna be like Cinderella, dealing with her in their lives, but as long as your happy, of course 🙂

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Yes I get that since that she has been accepting lately but I am not going to much into deth atm with my children so how do I handle it with her gem then ??

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Posted by Wizardz

You don't want advice you want emotional support when she leaves you out cold and then you get back with her again

You're using dxp as a way to stop you reaching an emotional place where change might be forced to happen. So it's not helping

What can I do either to make this better or the best outcome.

Stop coming here like a needy child asking what you should do when it's YOUR relationship and everyone has told you over and over that it's not going anywhere but then you say "but I love her"

What should anyone say/ you don't want advice or you would have taken it by now

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Taken it and given up ?

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Posted by Wizardz

You don't want advice you want emotional support when she leaves you out cold and then you get back with her again

You're using dxp as a way to stop you reaching an emotional place where change might be forced to happen. So it's not helping

What can I do either to make this better or the best outcome.

Stop coming here like a needy child asking what you should do when it's YOUR relationship and everyone has told you over and over that it's not going anywhere but then you say "but I love her"

What should anyone say/ you don't want advice or you would have taken it by now

Taken it and given up ?

YOU decide

You make threads on dxp and people spout their random opinion and you somehow believe the answer to all your troubles is hidden in here? No one has ever met you IRL and they definitely haven't met your girlfriend. Think/feel for yourself and decide for yourself. There's only so much asking for opinions you can do before it becomes avoidance of making your own decision

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I understand I just want advice on what can work.

Posted by saggurl88But things will never go your way with a Gemini because your too concerned about having things done your way and on your time schedule.

And doing tit for tat and weighing the things she does to you and counting them against her and the relationship.- This is the wrong way to handle a Gemini.

all of this is on point

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Posted by Wizardz

You don't want advice you want emotional support when she leaves you out cold and then you get back with her again

You're using dxp as a way to stop you reaching an emotional place where change might be forced to happen. So it's not helping

He's not even aware of it. He just likes power plays and is crushed that they don't work on Geminis lol

I don't want power plays honestly I either want all in or leave.

No you don't want to leave, which is why you stay. Which is also fine. But things will never go your way with a Gemini because your too concerned about having things done your way and on your time schedule.

And doing tit for tat and weighing the things she does to you and counting them against her and the relationship.- This is the wrong way to handle a Gemini.



*What you see in her I have no clue*.

4/5 rounds of sex per night

and now he is sexually addicted and confusing it with love.

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@Ganon_1 I chose to ignore that cause most sags are sexually motivated, but it has to do with loving the person. It's just not sex.

He could probably have the same sex with someone else and not catch any feeling at all. There's a complexity to our madness 😅

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Posted by Wizardz

You don't want advice you want emotional support when she leaves you out cold and then you get back with her again

You're using dxp as a way to stop you reaching an emotional place where change might be forced to happen. So it's not helping

He's not even aware of it. He just likes power plays and is crushed that they don't work on Geminis lol

I don't want power plays honestly I either want all in or leave.

No you don't want to leave, which is why you stay. Which is also fine. But things will never go your way with a Gemini because your too concerned about having things done your way and on your time schedule.

And doing tit for tat and weighing the things she does to you and counting them against her and the relationship.- This is the wrong way to handle a Gemini.

I'm just talking about the relationship dynamic, not her crap personality of not being able to accept your kids.

What you see in her I have no clue. Your kids are gonna be like Cinderella, dealing with her in their lives, but as long as your happy, of course 🙂

Yes I get that since that she has been accepting lately but I am not going to much into deth atm with my children so how do I handle it with her gem then ??

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Honestly there really isn't much advice to offer because you fall back into the same person that you are as soon as the tables start to turn in your favor when something small works, then it's back to the bullshit, which is why you keep having problems.

When you can care more about her well being then your own selfish needs and just sit back and reciprocate. Things will get better. But you only reciprocate and call out bad behavior with her, and this is part of the problem. Geminis want reciprocation and love without rules on how they are supposed to do it. You don't have the patience to wait for her to do things her way. You're very rigid and only will accept love the way you think is fit. You aren't adaptable to her style of it.

Like I said before, you being the insecure one is what is ruining things.

You are blind to her feelings for you and how she interacts with you. You guys have been in a relationship for 2 years, only seeing each other, and yet you need her to validate a title, your feelings, future plans, where you will be in the next 20 years, etc etc. (I'm over exaggerating to prove a point) It's like a never ending buzzkill on the adventure and fun.

It's too much responsibility on her shoulders.

I've said before that you don't go with the flow well and you don't stake your claim well either. There has been enough time where you could've just bypassed her games and idle chatter and claimed what was yours, but instead you cry and complain about it because you need her validation of words, even though it's been just the two of you since "forever" ago.

So you two both stay in the grey areas of your relationship, because you rely on her to make your choices.

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Posted by Wizardz

You don't want advice you want emotional support when she leaves you out cold and then you get back with her again

You're using dxp as a way to stop you reaching an emotional place where change might be forced to happen. So it's not helping

He's not even aware of it. He just likes power plays and is crushed that they don't work on Geminis lol

I don't want power plays honestly I either want all in or leave.

No you don't want to leave, which is why you stay. Which is also fine. But things will never go your way with a Gemini because your too concerned about having things done your way and on your time schedule.

And doing tit for tat and weighing the things she does to you and counting them against her and the relationship.- This is the wrong way to handle a Gemini.

I'm just talking about the relationship dynamic, not her crap personality of not being able to accept your kids.

What you see in her I have no clue. Your kids are gonna be like Cinderella, dealing with her in their lives, but as long as your happy, of course 🙂

Yes I get that since that she has been accepting lately but I am not going to much into deth atm with my children so how do I handle it with her gem then ??

Honestly there really isn't much advice to offer because you fall back into the same person that you are as soon as the tables start to turn in your favor when something small works, then it's back to the bullshit, which is why you keep having problems.

When you can care more about her well being then your own selfish needs and just sit back and reciprocate. Things will get better. But you only reciprocate and call out bad behavior with her, and this is part of the problem. Geminis want reciprocation and love without rules on how they are supposed to do it. You don't have the patience to wait for her to do things her way. You're very rigid and only will accept love the way you think is fit. You aren't adaptable to her style of it.

Like I said before, you being the insecure one is what is ruining things.

You are blind to her feelings for you and how she interacts with you. You guys have been in a relationship for 2 years, only seeing each other, and yet you need her to validate a title, your feelings, future plans, where you will be in the next 20 years, etc etc. (I'm over exaggerating to prove a point) It's like a never ending buzzkill on the adventure and fun.

It's too much responsibility on her shoulders.

I've said before that you don't go with the flow well and you don't stake your claim well either. There has been enough time where you could've just bypassed her games and idle chatter and claimed what was yours, but instead you cry and complain about it because you need her validation of words, even though it's been just the two of you since "forever" ago.

So you two both stay in the grey areas of your relationship, because you rely on her to make your choices.

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To be honest with you there has been a lot of pressure on both of our shoulders in the relationship she was demanding at the start of my ex not be around my family.

No I also, did not go with the flow well demanding things from her when it all started to go wrong is when we stopped enjoying eachother and started to demand things and worry when we should of been going with the flow.

We was both was wanting to settle down so badly that we couldn't handle the intestacy of the relationship.

To much pressure not enough enjoyment.

She told me she's to hurt to carry on in the relationship of things I have said but she also, said hurtful things to me about me being a peace of shit that means nothing to her and that she cannot bond with my kids because they look like there mother etc point is we both have said things that we haven't meant yet she cant see this I tried to explaing my love goes deeper past these things said but it does not really matter anymore we led together this morning and spoken and agreed that we are going our sperate ways and then we got up as she has training and I said I am going to leave I hope you have a lovely day and I hope the girls have a lovely day at their dad's today. She said can I have a cuddle and I said okay so she sqweed me hard and was both upset and I left thats the end.

Posted by MrNobody

So is that time he finally got realised?

To bad, less drama to read.

Yeah thats it...

Here's some advice which goes against probably everything that you're feeling and thinking, but at this point what you're thinking and feeling doesn't work for the results you're seeking. Try this... Get a hobby!!! You've been sitting on a shelf doing the same crap week in and week out. Go walk a chip trail you've never been on and take pictures. Take your children out for ice cream or video games or to the beach or something. Live.... Do whenever you want to do as long as it doesn't involve contacting her. Join a gym. Your relationship is depressing because you're too focused on it. Laws of attraction. Be what you want in a partner instead of what you are receiving from Gem girl. I have a bias for Geminis, but buddy, you're not thinking this through. Same actions. Same questions. Same results. Change your focus bro... Your energy sucks. I can feel it through the words. Happiness in your life is your responsibility. NOT HERS!!! So if you're a walking ball of negative energy, how can you attract positivity. Opposites attract my bumm. Be the light for Gem girl to see on the hill. Be a new energy. New vibe. New you... In life we attract. Nothing else works. Your topics case and point. I'm just trying to help you because you don't have to figure her out to attract her. She was once attracted to you without all this zodiac sign stuff... Seriously...

Here's some advice which goes against probably everything that you're feeling and thinking, but at this point what you're thinking and feeling doesn't work for the results you're seeking. Try this... Get a hobby!!! You've been sitting on a shelf doing the same crap week in and week out. Go walk a chip trail you've never been on and take pictures. Take your children out for ice cream or video games or to the beach or something. Live.... Do whenever you want to do as long as it doesn't involve contacting her. Join a gym. Your relationship is depressing because you're too focused on it. Laws of attraction. Be what you want in a partner instead of what you are receiving from Gem girl. I have a bias for Geminis, but buddy, you're not thinking this through. Same actions. Same questions. Same results. Change your focus bro... Your energy sucks. I can feel it through the words. Happiness in your life is your responsibility. NOT HERS!!! So if you're a walking ball of negative energy, how can you attract positivity. Opposites attract my bumm. Be the light for Gem girl to see on the hill. Be a new energy. New vibe. New you... In life we attract. Nothing else works. Your topics case and point. I'm just trying to help you because you don't have to figure her out to attract her. She was once attracted to you without all this zodiac sign stuff... Seriously...

Posted by GemCurioThe1

Here's some advice which goes against probably everything that you're feeling and thinking, but at this point what you're thinking and feeling doesn't work for the results you're seeking. Try this... Get a hobby!!! You've been sitting on a shelf doing the same crap week in and week out. Go walk a chip trail you've never been on and take pictures. Take your children out for ice cream or video games or to the beach or something. Live.... Do whenever you want to do as long as it doesn't involve contacting her. Join a gym. Your relationship is depressing because you're too focused on it. Laws of attraction. Be what you want in a partner instead of what you are receiving from Gem girl. I have a bias for Geminis, but buddy, you're not thinking this through. Same actions. Same questions. Same results. Change your focus bro... Your energy sucks. I can feel it through the words. Happiness in your life is your responsibility. NOT HERS!!! So if you're a walking ball of negative energy, how can you attract positivity. Opposites attract my bumm. Be the light for Gem girl to see on the hill. Be a new energy. New vibe. New you... In life we attract. Nothing else works. Your topics case and point. I'm just trying to help you because you don't have to figure her out to attract her. She was once attracted to you without all this zodiac sign stuff... Seriously...

Yeah I already know this I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk on Thursday she said yeah and I am planning on taking the kids out somewhere on the weekend.

I am going to see if she would like to go do a zipline together next weekend should be good.

She has told me she doesn't want to be in the relationship right now but wants to be friends and hang out and see if it can change so be can build everything back up again.

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Posted by GemCurioThe1

Here's some advice which goes against probably everything that you're feeling and thinking, but at this point what you're thinking and feeling doesn't work for the results you're seeking. Try this... Get a hobby!!! You've been sitting on a shelf doing the same crap week in and week out. Go walk a chip trail you've never been on and take pictures. Take your children out for ice cream or video games or to the beach or something. Live.... Do whenever you want to do as long as it doesn't involve contacting her. Join a gym. Your relationship is depressing because you're too focused on it. Laws of attraction. Be what you want in a partner instead of what you are receiving from Gem girl. I have a bias for Geminis, but buddy, you're not thinking this through. Same actions. Same questions. Same results. Change your focus bro... Your energy sucks. I can feel it through the words. Happiness in your life is your responsibility. NOT HERS!!! So if you're a walking ball of negative energy, how can you attract positivity. Opposites attract my bumm. Be the light for Gem girl to see on the hill. Be a new energy. New vibe. New you... In life we attract. Nothing else works. Your topics case and point. I'm just trying to help you because you don't have to figure her out to attract her. She was once attracted to you without all this zodiac sign stuff... Seriously...

Yeah I already know this I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk on Thursday she said yeah and I am planning on taking the kids out somewhere on the weekend.

I am going to see if she would like to go do a zipline together next weekend should be good.

She has told me she doesn't want to be in the relationship right now but wants to be friends and hang out and see if it can change so be can build everything back up again.

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I think y'all talking to somebody who is real slow.

I mean, on top of the topic discussion... He just feels dense or thick.

I'm watchful of dense people looking for romance advice, lol... Comprehension already on everday low, lol.

But, this is entertaining so Imma go through the post history...to laugh at the communication struggle of the threads.

The one where GemCurio tells him to get a hobby and he inserts the girlfrien, LOLOL

Posted by VenusAquarius

I think y'all talking to somebody who is real slow.

I mean, on top of the topic discussion... He just feels dense or thick.

I'm watchful of dense people looking for romance advice, lol... Comprehension already on everday low, lol.

But, this is entertaining so Imma go through the post history...to laugh at the communication struggle of the threads.

The one where GemCurio tells him to get a hobby and he inserts the girlfrien, LOLOL

I was honestly going to write that he meant to do this without the Gem, but decided against it....

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Posted by GemCurioThe1

Here's some advice which goes against probably everything that you're feeling and thinking, but at this point what you're thinking and feeling doesn't work for the results you're seeking. Try this... Get a hobby!!! You've been sitting on a shelf doing the same crap week in and week out. Go walk a chip trail you've never been on and take pictures. Take your children out for ice cream or video games or to the beach or something. Live.... Do whenever you want to do as long as it doesn't involve contacting her. Join a gym. Your relationship is depressing because you're too focused on it. Laws of attraction. Be what you want in a partner instead of what you are receiving from Gem girl. I have a bias for Geminis, but buddy, you're not thinking this through. Same actions. Same questions. Same results. Change your focus bro... Your energy sucks. I can feel it through the words. Happiness in your life is your responsibility. NOT HERS!!! So if you're a walking ball of negative energy, how can you attract positivity. Opposites attract my bumm. Be the light for Gem girl to see on the hill. Be a new energy. New vibe. New you... In life we attract. Nothing else works. Your topics case and point. I'm just trying to help you because you don't have to figure her out to attract her. She was once attracted to you without all this zodiac sign stuff... Seriously...

Yeah I already know this I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk on Thursday she said yeah and I am planning on taking the kids out somewhere on the weekend.

I am going to see if she would like to go do a zipline together next weekend should be good.

She has told me she doesn't want to be in the relationship right now but wants to be friends and hang out and see if it can change so be can build everything back up again.

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That's the problem... SHE... Doesn't need to do anything. SHE... Is good on her own and have been long before she met you. So there's the elephant hanging in the room... Why aren't you— YOU... Need to get hobbies. Not her. YOU... Need to gain a self-identity because YOU... Are defining yourself through her. And it's trash. I apologize but you don't know. It's not attractive. Do YOU... Or you'll be forced to later because your are codependent. Stop asking her if she wants to come unless she's already in your house with you. Seriously...

And lastly, Geminis are not slow. They know what they want and they know what they don't. Your codependent behavior is turning her off from the entire idea of being with you. You need your own life. Your own identity because she needs to develop again the desire to join the life you're living. It is what it is and it ain't what it ain't. You have to face the facts head on. She doesn't want someone who checks in with her concerning everything going on throughout the day. She has her own identity and life. You need your own dude.

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Posted by GemCurioThe1

Here's some advice which goes against probably everything that you're feeling and thinking, but at this point what you're thinking and feeling doesn't work for the results you're seeking. Try this... Get a hobby!!! You've been sitting on a shelf doing the same crap week in and week out. Go walk a chip trail you've never been on and take pictures. Take your children out for ice cream or video games or to the beach or something. Live.... Do whenever you want to do as long as it doesn't involve contacting her. Join a gym. Your relationship is depressing because you're too focused on it. Laws of attraction. Be what you want in a partner instead of what you are receiving from Gem girl. I have a bias for Geminis, but buddy, you're not thinking this through. Same actions. Same questions. Same results. Change your focus bro... Your energy sucks. I can feel it through the words. Happiness in your life is your responsibility. NOT HERS!!! So if you're a walking ball of negative energy, how can you attract positivity. Opposites attract my bumm. Be the light for Gem girl to see on the hill. Be a new energy. New vibe. New you... In life we attract. Nothing else works. Your topics case and point. I'm just trying to help you because you don't have to figure her out to attract her. She was once attracted to you without all this zodiac sign stuff... Seriously...

So I shouldn't include her into my everyday life and also I should go with the flow with her not ask her about everything.

I should make my own plans off of my own back and have my own hobbies make myself happy and get more interests and let her come to me is this what your saying.