Ownard
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Tips on being a good boyfriend?
Posted by Koni
I’d say communicate often, especially about anything that is bothering you. And be understanding
Thanks you, I am a very open person regardless and like to deal with things directly regardless. This is the one area where I am quite confident in as I know how to communicate concerns in a kind and gentle but effective way.
Posted by Ownard
Hey guys,
I have just entered my first relationship and I am loving it so far. However, I still feel like I am struggling to fit into the role of being a boyfriend. Do you guys and girls have any tips for me that could prove helpful?
-Ownard
Too easy:
1. Open doors for her
2. When at the movie theater feed her popcorn
3. Wear COLOGNE
4. Brush your teeth/gum/breath mints, etc.
5. Hold her hand when walking
6. Watch your "cussing" around her
7. DON'T talk about introducing her to your family (too early right now; EVEN for Thanksgiving; wait until YOU are invited)
8. DON'T talk about the future (you don't have a crystal ball)
9. DON'T get upset in front of her (if you talk about problems at work/home/family, etc) she needs to see the "nice part of you" (this includes being KIND to waiters/waitresses, etc)
10. DON'T fight with her in public (go indoors {home} for that)
11. If she tells you she's going out w/her BFF (EVEN if you HATE her) tell her to have a good time
12. IF she asks you for money; don't offer it to her; help her find other solutions
13. Watch her (and your) drinking; does she (you) get plastered and act out of character?
14. Take her OUT once a week or biweekly (other days you can say we can "chill" at home)
15. Make sure there is give and take (if she pays for pizza for dinner you will do the same next payday, etc)
*16. Be OBSERVANT (meaning, use all your five senses) stay alert to what she says (non verbal communication, too)
17. WEAR condoms and make sure SHE is also on the pill/IUD, etc.
* I know you're YOUNG and instead of reading this take time to contemplate you will IMMEDIATELY write back to me. What I mean by this is: for example, you go to a park and she sees a baby and she likes what she sees tells its mother, "He's cute!" you'll know she's KIND (no, not that you're ready to be a father and then you'll write to us again here at DXP). Another example, if you go window shopping and she points to an item and says, "Look! I like that!" DON"T assume she wants you to buy it for her (you're just observing her taste in jewelry, etc).
Too tired now, gotta go back to work. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by Ownard
Hey guys,
I have just entered my first relationship and I am loving it so far. However, I still feel like I am struggling to fit into the role of being a boyfriend. Do you guys and girls have any tips for me that could prove helpful?
-Ownard
Too easy:
1. Open doors for her
2. When at the movie theater feed her popcorn
3. Wear COLOGNE
4. Brush your teeth/gum/breath mints, etc.
5. Hold her hand when walking
6. Watch your "cussing" around her
7. DON'T talk about introducing her to your family (too early right now; EVEN for Thanksgiving; wait until YOU are invited)
8. DON'T talk about the future (you don't have a crystal ball)
9. DON'T get upset in front of her (if you talk about problems at work/home/family, etc) she need to see the "nice part of you"
10. DON'T fight with her in public (go indoors {home} for that)
11. If she tells you she's going out w/her BFF (EVEN if you HATE her) tell her to have a good time
12. IF she asks you for money; don't offer it to her; help her find other solutions
13. Watch her (and your) drinking; does she (you) get plastered and act out of character?
14. Take her OUT once a week or biweekly (other days you can say we can "chill" at home)
15. Make sure there is give and take (if she pays for pizza for dinner you will do the same next payday, etc)
*16. Be OBSERVANT (meaning, use all your five senses) stay alert to what she says (non verbal communication, too)
17. WEAR condoms and make sure SHE is also on the pill/IUD, etc.
* I know you're YOUNG and instead of reading this take time to contemplate you will IMMEDIATELY write back to me. What I mean by this is: for example, you go to a park and she sees a baby and she likes what she sees tells its mother, "He's cute!" you'll know she's KIND (no, not that you're ready to be a father and then you'll write to us again here at DXP). Another example, if you go window shopping and she points to an item and says, "Look! I like that!" DON"T assume she wants you to buy it for her (you're just observing her taste in jewelry, etc).
Too tired now, gotta go back to work. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Thank you very much for being frank and upfront with me. I'm asking here because I am quite confused and she's not much help since it's her first serious relationship aswell.
I'm already following the basic ones such like hygeine, holding her hand and being a gentleman around her.
When it comes to talking about the future, she usually intiates those conversations and then asks my opinion. Usually I just give my honest opinion at that point but it's usually more vague than a definite.
Other than that, thanks for your frank comment as this is the kind of thing I'm looking for
Posted by OwnardPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by Ownard
Hey guys,
I have just entered my first relationship and I am loving it so far. However, I still feel like I am struggling to fit into the role of being a boyfriend. Do you guys and girls have any tips for me that could prove helpful?
-Ownard
Too easy:
1. Open doors for her
2. When at the movie theater feed her popcorn
3. Wear COLOGNE
4. Brush your teeth/gum/breath mints, etc.
5. Hold her hand when walking
6. Watch your "cussing" around her
7. DON'T talk about introducing her to your family (too early right now; EVEN for Thanksgiving; wait until YOU are invited)
8. DON'T talk about the future (you don't have a crystal ball)
9. DON'T get upset in front of her (if you talk about problems at work/home/family, etc) she need to see the "nice part of you"
10. DON'T fight with her in public (go indoors {home} for that)
11. If she tells you she's going out w/her BFF (EVEN if you HATE her) tell her to have a good time
12. IF she asks you for money; don't offer it to her; help her find other solutions
13. Watch her (and your) drinking; does she (you) get plastered and act out of character?
14. Take her OUT once a week or biweekly (other days you can say we can "chill" at home)
15. Make sure there is give and take (if she pays for pizza for dinner you will do the same next payday, etc)
*16. Be OBSERVANT (meaning, use all your five senses) stay alert to what she says (non verbal communication, too)
17. WEAR condoms and make sure SHE is also on the pill/IUD, etc.
* I know you're YOUNG and instead of reading this take time to contemplate you will IMMEDIATELY write back to me. What I mean by this is: for example, you go to a park and she sees a baby and she likes what she sees tells its mother, "He's cute!" you'll know she's KIND (no, not that you're ready to be a father and then you'll write to us again here at DXP). Another example, if you go window shopping and she points to an item and says, "Look! I like that!" DON"T assume she wants you to buy it for her (you're just observing her taste in jewelry, etc).
Too tired now, gotta go back to work. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Thank you very much for being frank and upfront with me. I'm asking here because I am quite confused and she's not much help since it's her first serious relationship aswell.
I'm already following the basic ones such like hygeine, holding her hand and being a gentleman around her.
When it comes to talking about the future, she usually intiates those conversations and then asks my opinion. Usually I just give my honest opinion at that point but it's usually more vague than a definite.
Other than that, thanks for your frank comment as this is the kind of thing I'm looking forclick to expand
YW (I knew you could take care of the rest).
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: You can TELL this is what I am looking for, too (in a man).
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by OwnardPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by Ownard
Hey guys,
I have just entered my first relationship and I am loving it so far. However, I still feel like I am struggling to fit into the role of being a boyfriend. Do you guys and girls have any tips for me that could prove helpful?
-Ownard
Too easy:
1. Open doors for her
2. When at the movie theater feed her popcorn
3. Wear COLOGNE
4. Brush your teeth/gum/breath mints, etc.
5. Hold her hand when walking
6. Watch your "cussing" around her
7. DON'T talk about introducing her to your family (too early right now; EVEN for Thanksgiving; wait until YOU are invited)
8. DON'T talk about the future (you don't have a crystal ball)
9. DON'T get upset in front of her (if you talk about problems at work/home/family, etc) she need to see the "nice part of you"
10. DON'T fight with her in public (go indoors {home} for that)
11. If she tells you she's going out w/her BFF (EVEN if you HATE her) tell her to have a good time
12. IF she asks you for money; don't offer it to her; help her find other solutions
13. Watch her (and your) drinking; does she (you) get plastered and act out of character?
14. Take her OUT once a week or biweekly (other days you can say we can "chill" at home)
15. Make sure there is give and take (if she pays for pizza for dinner you will do the same next payday, etc)
*16. Be OBSERVANT (meaning, use all your five senses) stay alert to what she says (non verbal communication, too)
17. WEAR condoms and make sure SHE is also on the pill/IUD, etc.
* I know you're YOUNG and instead of reading this take time to contemplate you will IMMEDIATELY write back to me. What I mean by this is: for example, you go to a park and she sees a baby and she likes what she sees tells its mother, "He's cute!" you'll know she's KIND (no, not that you're ready to be a father and then you'll write to us again here at DXP). Another example, if you go window shopping and she points to an item and says, "Look! I like that!" DON"T assume she wants you to buy it for her (you're just observing her taste in jewelry, etc).
Too tired now, gotta go back to work. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Thank you very much for being frank and upfront with me. I'm asking here because I am quite confused and she's not much help since it's her first serious relationship aswell.
I'm already following the basic ones such like hygeine, holding her hand and being a gentleman around her.
When it comes to talking about the future, she usually intiates those conversations and then asks my opinion. Usually I just give my honest opinion at that point but it's usually more vague than a definite.
Other than that, thanks for your frank comment as this is the kind of thing I'm looking for
YW (I knew you could take care of the rest).
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: You can TELL this is what I am looking for, too (in a man).click to expand
I did have a sneaking suspicion 😂
Just be you. Don't pretend to be something you're not. Following some types of "rules". Treat her how you want to be treated and be a decent human being.
Posted by Arielle83
Don’t be suspicious or play games to keep your pride.
Let people be who they are.
Don’t put them on a pedestal.
Keep your hobbies and friends and personal time.
Don’t let someone dictate your decisions.
If it’s too much bs and drama, things rarely evolve
Honestly, I hate the thought of playing games with each other. If that happened then I would deal with it immediately.
If I'm honest, we've spent a lot of time together very early in this relationship that it's making me a bit concerned because neither of us are keeping our hobbies and friends right now. I'll definitely be reclaiming a couple of my evenings a week so I can enjoy my calligraphy again as that has kinda fell to the wayside a bit.
Posted by OwnardPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by OwnardPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by Ownard
Hey guys,
I have just entered my first relationship and I am loving it so far. However, I still feel like I am struggling to fit into the role of being a boyfriend. Do you guys and girls have any tips for me that could prove helpful?
-Ownard
Too easy:
1. Open doors for her
2. When at the movie theater feed her popcorn
3. Wear COLOGNE
4. Brush your teeth/gum/breath mints, etc.
5. Hold her hand when walking
6. Watch your "cussing" around her
7. DON'T talk about introducing her to your family (too early right now; EVEN for Thanksgiving; wait until YOU are invited)
8. DON'T talk about the future (you don't have a crystal ball)
9. DON'T get upset in front of her (if you talk about problems at work/home/family, etc) she need to see the "nice part of you"
10. DON'T fight with her in public (go indoors {home} for that)
11. If she tells you she's going out w/her BFF (EVEN if you HATE her) tell her to have a good time
12. IF she asks you for money; don't offer it to her; help her find other solutions
13. Watch her (and your) drinking; does she (you) get plastered and act out of character?
14. Take her OUT once a week or biweekly (other days you can say we can "chill" at home)
15. Make sure there is give and take (if she pays for pizza for dinner you will do the same next payday, etc)
*16. Be OBSERVANT (meaning, use all your five senses) stay alert to what she says (non verbal communication, too)
17. WEAR condoms and make sure SHE is also on the pill/IUD, etc.
* I know you're YOUNG and instead of reading this take time to contemplate you will IMMEDIATELY write back to me. What I mean by this is: for example, you go to a park and she sees a baby and she likes what she sees tells its mother, "He's cute!" you'll know she's KIND (no, not that you're ready to be a father and then you'll write to us again here at DXP). Another example, if you go window shopping and she points to an item and says, "Look! I like that!" DON"T assume she wants you to buy it for her (you're just observing her taste in jewelry, etc).
Too tired now, gotta go back to work. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Thank you very much for being frank and upfront with me. I'm asking here because I am quite confused and she's not much help since it's her first serious relationship aswell.
I'm already following the basic ones such like hygeine, holding her hand and being a gentleman around her.
When it comes to talking about the future, she usually intiates those conversations and then asks my opinion. Usually I just give my honest opinion at that point but it's usually more vague than a definite.
Other than that, thanks for your frank comment as this is the kind of thing I'm looking for
YW (I knew you could take care of the rest).
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: You can TELL this is what I am looking for, too (in a man).
I did have a sneaking suspicion 😂
click to expand
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by LostinmyMind11
Just be you. Don't pretend to be something you're not. Following some types of "rules". Treat her how you want to be treated and be a decent human being.
I try as hard as possible to be authentic to myself in every interaction I have. As for treating her the way I want to be treated, I am treating her with the intimacy I would want which I think she may be having some difficulty adjusting to.
In all honesty- take advise from here very selectively. If you spent much time here or read threads you will see many are broken and really don't know how to have healthy relationships.
Not trying to be jaded just saying dxp isn't the best place to get relationship advise.
Not trying to be jaded just saying dxp isn't the best place to get relationship advise.
Happy for you and hope things go well for you 🙂
Don't take advice from DXP cat ladies. One is already trying to here.
Like jag said, most people on here suck at relationships and can't sustain anything long term. So advice from them should more than likely be ignored. If they can't maintain something, how the fuck can the advise on something they perpetually fail at?
Don't worry so much about what you should or shouldn't do. And relax and enjoy yourself.
Like jag said, most people on here suck at relationships and can't sustain anything long term. So advice from them should more than likely be ignored. If they can't maintain something, how the fuck can the advise on something they perpetually fail at?
Don't worry so much about what you should or shouldn't do. And relax and enjoy yourself.
Posted by OwnardPosted by LostinmyMind11
Just be you. Don't pretend to be something you're not. Following some types of "rules". Treat her how you want to be treated and be a decent human being.
I try as hard as possible to be authentic to myself in every interaction I have. As for treating her the way I want to be treated, I am treating her with the intimacy I would want which I think she may be having some difficulty adjusting to.click to expand
What's her sign or chart?
Posted by justagirl
In all honesty- take advise from here very selectively. If you spent much time here or read threads you will see many are broken and really don't know how to have healthy relationships.
Not trying to be jaded just saying dxp isn't the best place to get relationship advise.
Being completely honest, I knew the risks of asking this question here. I knew I would get a greater pool of answers here so I can looking for a lot that I can choose from rather than just a couple opinions
Posted by nikkistar
Don't take advice from DXP cat ladies. One is already trying to here.
Like jag said, most people on here suck at relationships and can't sustain anything long term. So advice from them should more than likely be ignored. If they can't maintain something, how the fuck can the advise on something they perpetually fail at?
Don't worry so much about what you should or shouldn't do. And relax and enjoy yourself.
Yeah, I am taking this advice with a lot of salt because I know there are people like that on this website.
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by OwnardPosted by LostinmyMind11
Just be you. Don't pretend to be something you're not. Following some types of "rules". Treat her how you want to be treated and be a decent human being.
I try as hard as possible to be authentic to myself in every interaction I have. As for treating her the way I want to be treated, I am treating her with the intimacy I would want which I think she may be having some difficulty adjusting to.
What's her sign or chart?click to expand
She's a Capricorn, don't know the rest of her chart
Posted by RooSagicorn
Be you. Listen to her & show you care. Enjoy yourselves. It’s your first relationship, don’t worry so much about the do’s And don’ts. It either feels right or it doesn’t. You seem pretty conscientious. Just go with your gut.
You know also vague is okay when you’re just figuring things out. You don’t have to know all the answers. You figure them out together!
Thanks, I've just been really confused because our relationship came about in a bitmof a whirlwind so I may just need some time to process what's happened. As it stands, even if I don't need this advice it is helpful to hear that I may be on the right track
Posted by Gobby
Fuck all the biased 'advice', in this thread, and just be yourself. Either you're compatible or incompatible.
If you need people to point out things that your parents should have instilled in you, such as basic manners and consideration, you're already a lost cause.
Lastly, always remember that being the 'perfect boyfriend' doesn't guarantee anything. People are just as unpredictable as life itself.
Good luck!
Thanks, I appreciate your upfront and direct comment.
A relationship is brand new territory for me so I feel lost. I know the basics about being a gentleman so I'm good on that front, I'm just looking for general advice that I can apply whenever I need to
Posted by Dreamyboy
1. Don’t be afraid of redwings
2. Buy her a butt plug (the fuzzy ones are cute)
3. When she sends you to the store to buy something, don’t call her and say “what does it look like”
4. Chivalry isn’t dead
5. If she eats your food, eat something back
You’re golden after this
Haha, quality advice right here 😂
Posted by OwnardPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by OwnardPosted by LostinmyMind11
Just be you. Don't pretend to be something you're not. Following some types of "rules". Treat her how you want to be treated and be a decent human being.
I try as hard as possible to be authentic to myself in every interaction I have. As for treating her the way I want to be treated, I am treating her with the intimacy I would want which I think she may be having some difficulty adjusting to.
What's her sign or chart?
She's a Capricorn, don't know the rest of her chartclick to expand
I don't know much about caps but they are a cautious bunch...so it maybe a little awkward for her but she'll get use to it. Just keep doing what your doing 😊
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by OwnardPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by OwnardPosted by LostinmyMind11
Just be you. Don't pretend to be something you're not. Following some types of "rules". Treat her how you want to be treated and be a decent human being.
I try as hard as possible to be authentic to myself in every interaction I have. As for treating her the way I want to be treated, I am treating her with the intimacy I would want which I think she may be having some difficulty adjusting to.
What's her sign or chart?
She's a Capricorn, don't know the rest of her chart
I don't know much about caps but they are a cautious bunch...so it maybe a little awkward for her but she'll get use to it. Just keep doing what your doing 😊click to expand
Yeah, that might be the case, the problem might actually be with her and not me. That might actually be the case since I'm the type of person who internalises things. She may just be still trying to get used to me.
Posted by RooSagicornPosted by OwnardPosted by RooSagicorn
Be you. Listen to her & show you care. Enjoy yourselves. It’s your first relationship, don’t worry so much about the do’s And don’ts. It either feels right or it doesn’t. You seem pretty conscientious. Just go with your gut.
You know also vague is okay when you’re just figuring things out. You don’t have to know all the answers. You figure them out together!
Thanks, I've just been really confused because our relationship came about in a bitmof a whirlwind so I may just need some time to process what's happened. As it stands, even if I don't need this advice it is helpful to hear that I may be on the right track
Why are you confused?
Also do make time for your own hobbies and friends. Otherwise, life gets a bit chaotic and can end up in burnout. Sometimes a whirlwind is amazing but you just can’t sustain your regular life in that. So you need to figure out the balance. My best & most serious relationships started that way though!click to expand
This is my first relationship so I'm really not used to this whole concept. That's why I'm confused.
The balance miss something I care about so I'm taking a weekend away to sort my thoughts out and figure out the balance I want to achieve.
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by Ownard
Hey guys,
I have just entered my first relationship and I am loving it so far. However, I still feel like I am struggling to fit into the role of being a boyfriend. Do you guys and girls have any tips for me that could prove helpful?
-Ownard
Too easy:
1. Open doors for her
2. When at the movie theater feed her popcorn
3. Wear COLOGNE
4. Brush your teeth/gum/breath mints, etc.
5. Hold her hand when walking
6. Watch your "cussing" around her
7. DON'T talk about introducing her to your family (too early right now; EVEN for Thanksgiving; wait until YOU are invited)
8. DON'T talk about the future (you don't have a crystal ball)
9. DON'T get upset in front of her (if you talk about problems at work/home/family, etc) she needs to see the "nice part of you" (this includes being KIND to waiters/waitresses, etc)
10. DON'T fight with her in public (go indoors {home} for that)
11. If she tells you she's going out w/her BFF (EVEN if you HATE her) tell her to have a good time
12. IF she asks you for money; don't offer it to her; help her find other solutions
13. Watch her (and your) drinking; does she (you) get plastered and act out of character?
14. Take her OUT once a week or biweekly (other days you can say we can "chill" at home)
15. Make sure there is give and take (if she pays for pizza for dinner you will do the same next payday, etc)
*16. Be OBSERVANT (meaning, use all your five senses) stay alert to what she says (non verbal communication, too)
17. WEAR condoms and make sure SHE is also on the pill/IUD, etc.
* I know you're YOUNG and instead of reading this take time to contemplate you will IMMEDIATELY write back to me. What I mean by this is: for example, you go to a park and she sees a baby and she likes what she sees tells its mother, "He's cute!" you'll know she's KIND (no, not that you're ready to be a father and then you'll write to us again here at DXP). Another example, if you go window shopping and she points to an item and says, "Look! I like that!" DON"T assume she wants you to buy it for her (you're just observing her taste in jewelry, etc).
Too tired now, gotta go back to work. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Eva!
Which tree you fell off?
He wants to be a boyfriend.
You just made him an impotent!!!
Lmao...gee...woman! Talk about cruelty against man...
Posted by Ownard
Hey guys,
I have just entered my first relationship and I am loving it so far. However, I still feel like I am struggling to fit into the role of being a boyfriend. Do you guys and girls have any tips for me that could prove helpful?
-Ownard
Hon! Make her laugh and be sexy!
That’s it! Everything will be forgiven.
Posted by RooSagicornPosted by OwnardPosted by RooSagicornPosted by OwnardPosted by RooSagicorn
Be you. Listen to her & show you care. Enjoy yourselves. It’s your first relationship, don’t worry so much about the do’s And don’ts. It either feels right or it doesn’t. You seem pretty conscientious. Just go with your gut.
You know also vague is okay when you’re just figuring things out. You don’t have to know all the answers. You figure them out together!
Thanks, I've just been really confused because our relationship came about in a bitmof a whirlwind so I may just need some time to process what's happened. As it stands, even if I don't need this advice it is helpful to hear that I may be on the right track
Why are you confused?
Also do make time for your own hobbies and friends. Otherwise, life gets a bit chaotic and can end up in burnout. Sometimes a whirlwind is amazing but you just can’t sustain your regular life in that. So you need to figure out the balance. My best & most serious relationships started that way though!
This is my first relationship so I'm really not used to this whole concept. That's why I'm confused.
The balance miss something I care about so I'm taking a weekend away to sort my thoughts out and figure out the balance I want to achieve.
Good luck🙂 a relationship should add value to your life not take away. I think that is an important thing to remember. Anyway I wish you all the best.click to expand
Thankyou, I will keep this in mind for the future
Posted by GemitatiPosted by Ownard
Hey guys,
I have just entered my first relationship and I am loving it so far. However, I still feel like I am struggling to fit into the role of being a boyfriend. Do you guys and girls have any tips for me that could prove helpful?
-Ownard
Hon! Make her laugh and be sexy!
That’s it! Everything will be forgiven.click to expand
I've been doing a lot of that and we've only been going out for a couple of weeks
Posted by OwnardPosted by GemitatiPosted by Ownard
Hey guys,
I have just entered my first relationship and I am loving it so far. However, I still feel like I am struggling to fit into the role of being a boyfriend. Do you guys and girls have any tips for me that could prove helpful?
-Ownard
Hon! Make her laugh and be sexy!
That’s it! Everything will be forgiven.
I've been doing a lot of that and we've only been going out for a couple of weeksclick to expand
👌
Posted by justagirl
In all honesty- take advise from here very selectively. If you spent much time here or read threads you will see many are broken and really don't know how to have healthy relationships.
Not trying to be jaded just saying dxp isn't the best place to get relationship advise.
I was just thinking...who is advising?
People who have no idea because they never HAD healthy relashionships! Lmao
Posted by GemitatiPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by Ownard
Hey guys,
I have just entered my first relationship and I am loving it so far. However, I still feel like I am struggling to fit into the role of being a boyfriend. Do you guys and girls have any tips for me that could prove helpful?
-Ownard
Too easy:
1. Open doors for her
2. When at the movie theater feed her popcorn
3. Wear COLOGNE
4. Brush your teeth/gum/breath mints, etc.
5. Hold her hand when walking
6. Watch your "cussing" around her
7. DON'T talk about introducing her to your family (too early right now; EVEN for Thanksgiving; wait until YOU are invited)
8. DON'T talk about the future (you don't have a crystal ball)
9. DON'T get upset in front of her (if you talk about problems at work/home/family, etc) she needs to see the "nice part of you" (this includes being KIND to waiters/waitresses, etc)
10. DON'T fight with her in public (go indoors {home} for that)
11. If she tells you she's going out w/her BFF (EVEN if you HATE her) tell her to have a good time
12. IF she asks you for money; don't offer it to her; help her find other solutions
13. Watch her (and your) drinking; does she (you) get plastered and act out of character?
14. Take her OUT once a week or biweekly (other days you can say we can "chill" at home)
15. Make sure there is give and take (if she pays for pizza for dinner you will do the same next payday, etc)
*16. Be OBSERVANT (meaning, use all your five senses) stay alert to what she says (non verbal communication, too)
17. WEAR condoms and make sure SHE is also on the pill/IUD, etc.
* I know you're YOUNG and instead of reading this take time to contemplate you will IMMEDIATELY write back to me. What I mean by this is: for example, you go to a park and she sees a baby and she likes what she sees tells its mother, "He's cute!" you'll know she's KIND (no, not that you're ready to be a father and then you'll write to us again here at DXP). Another example, if you go window shopping and she points to an item and says, "Look! I like that!" DON"T assume she wants you to buy it for her (you're just observing her taste in jewelry, etc).
Too tired now, gotta go back to work. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Eva!
Which tree you fell off?
He wants to be a boyfriend.
You just made him an impotent!!!
Lmao...gee...woman! Talk about cruelty against man...click to expand
Fuck off cunt.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Throw out all these suggestions and, idk, ask YOUR GF what she wants and needs from you.
No two people are alike.
No two people are alike.
Posted by Koni
I’d say communicate often, especially about anything that is bothering you. And be understanding
No
Be mysterious. Don't communicate too much or you'll be just another one of her girlfriends. Don't let her know what you're thinking. Be present but keep her guessing. Get to know a Scorpio Mercury and take lessons lol
Posted by Dreamyboy
How old are you two btw? I think I might’ve given you some dangerous advice lol I just started actually reading your thread. What’s your sign btw
A solid one to really push compatibility is you being yourself. Don’t lie about who you are because if you pretend to do a lot of things, you’ll really start slipping up. Unless you’re aiming to change for the better then have at it. If you both have to pretend and do things because “it’s the way”, eventually true colors will show and you’ll both resent eachother.
We're 18 & 17. We're young and I want to have my first relationship be a great one. I am making a lot of life changes right now to make my life better.
Aw
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by GemitatiPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by Ownard
Hey guys,
I have just entered my first relationship and I am loving it so far. However, I still feel like I am struggling to fit into the role of being a boyfriend. Do you guys and girls have any tips for me that could prove helpful?
-Ownard
Too easy:
1. Open doors for her
2. When at the movie theater feed her popcorn
3. Wear COLOGNE
4. Brush your teeth/gum/breath mints, etc.
5. Hold her hand when walking
6. Watch your "cussing" around her
7. DON'T talk about introducing her to your family (too early right now; EVEN for Thanksgiving; wait until YOU are invited)
8. DON'T talk about the future (you don't have a crystal ball)
9. DON'T get upset in front of her (if you talk about problems at work/home/family, etc) she needs to see the "nice part of you" (this includes being KIND to waiters/waitresses, etc)
10. DON'T fight with her in public (go indoors {home} for that)
11. If she tells you she's going out w/her BFF (EVEN if you HATE her) tell her to have a good time
12. IF she asks you for money; don't offer it to her; help her find other solutions
13. Watch her (and your) drinking; does she (you) get plastered and act out of character?
14. Take her OUT once a week or biweekly (other days you can say we can "chill" at home)
15. Make sure there is give and take (if she pays for pizza for dinner you will do the same next payday, etc)
*16. Be OBSERVANT (meaning, use all your five senses) stay alert to what she says (non verbal communication, too)
17. WEAR condoms and make sure SHE is also on the pill/IUD, etc.
* I know you're YOUNG and instead of reading this take time to contemplate you will IMMEDIATELY write back to me. What I mean by this is: for example, you go to a park and she sees a baby and she likes what she sees tells its mother, "He's cute!" you'll know she's KIND (no, not that you're ready to be a father and then you'll write to us again here at DXP). Another example, if you go window shopping and she points to an item and says, "Look! I like that!" DON"T assume she wants you to buy it for her (you're just observing her taste in jewelry, etc).
Too tired now, gotta go back to work. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Eva!
Which tree you fell off?
He wants to be a boyfriend.
You just made him an impotent!!!
Lmao...gee...woman! Talk about cruelty against man...
Fuck off cunt.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Wait a minute...
Fuck off cunt...
Cyber hugs
Love
Eva
—?
👀👀👀
Posted by DreamyboyPosted by OwnardPosted by Dreamyboy
How old are you two btw? I think I might’ve given you some dangerous advice lol I just started actually reading your thread. What’s your sign btw
A solid one to really push compatibility is you being yourself. Don’t lie about who you are because if you pretend to do a lot of things, you’ll really start slipping up. Unless you’re aiming to change for the better then have at it. If you both have to pretend and do things because “it’s the way”, eventually true colors will show and you’ll both resent eachother.
We're 18 & 17. We're young and I want to have my first relationship be a great one. I am making a lot of life changes right now to make my life better.
Ahhhhh that is so exciting. I was about the same age as you when I got into a very big relationship the really changed me dramatically. It’s going to be tough because you’re both new, but it might be a blessing because you are both new! No one has been tainted and jaded or walled up. I hope you two succeed!click to expand
Thank you very much! I really appreciate your support. I'm hoping that this will be a really loving relationship as intimacy and affection in general are very important to me.
Posted by ValleysofNeptune
I don’t claim to be a good one lol, but I would say to pick your battles. There will inevitably be differences and disagreements between you guys, and you might need to put your foot down for yourself or even her over something, but other times you just need to suck it up and let something slide or do things you don’t want to. Just gotta figure what’s important enough
This is probably common sense and is true for all relationships with all people, but you said a relationship is new ground for you so I figured I’d throw that out there lol
Yeah, this is something I have been concerned about. I know that I can sometime get hung up on small things but I have been making an effort in all my personal interactions to be mindful of this.
and what's the "role" of a boyfriend? 😆 what's that suppose to mean?
Most young relationships start from obvious biological impulses, is a person you feel attraction to, maybe you get along maybe not, depends on those rose tinted glasses, and/or how long you know her, so you tell us.
what do you want from all that RS thing? your mindset is what's more important, and if you're doubting your own already.... 😕
Most young relationships start from obvious biological impulses, is a person you feel attraction to, maybe you get along maybe not, depends on those rose tinted glasses, and/or how long you know her, so you tell us.
what do you want from all that RS thing? your mindset is what's more important, and if you're doubting your own already.... 😕
Rule number 1.. make me happy
The end.
The end.
I think.. I think learning to be a very good Friend first would help.
Make time for porn.
Posted by Gobby
Fuck all the biased 'advice', in this thread, and just be yourself. Either you're compatible or incompatible.
If you need people to point out things that your parents should have instilled in you, such as basic manners and consideration, you're already a lost cause.
Lastly, always remember that being the 'perfect boyfriend' doesn't guarantee anything. People are just as unpredictable as life itself.
Good luck!
This ☝️
A relationship is always changing so you just have to ride the waves and don’t give up easily.
Posted by nanobot
Plz don't ask for advice here
Or else you will be in the capricorn forum before long
"Cap woman left me"
Thanks for morning laugh! I needed it! LMAO
Posted by Arielle83Posted by nikkistar
Don't take advice from DXP cat ladies. One is already trying to here.
Like jag said, most people on here suck at relationships and can't sustain anything long term. So advice from them should more than likely be ignored. If they can't maintain something, how the fuck can the advise on something they perpetually fail at?
Don't worry so much about what you should or shouldn't do. And relax and enjoy yourself.
I ain’t no catlady. That pussy came to me!click to expand
Lol not you
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