Why have alot of ppl fallen for this...when did this become the norm. No one wants to commit but expect relationship actions from u.
what is a situationships?
What exactly is a situationship—?
Its when you are dating, and your doing relationship stuff for ppl who cant make up there mind if they want to commit then u find yourself in a situation. ..situationships i see alot of this going on its not right @gennie
oh, @lovely77, fuck that shit. Maybe I'm just old and old fashioned.
Posted by BG2Thats how I feel, if my toothbrush has a home in your bathroom or vise versa, relationship.
A friend of mine had to go through that crap for a year and a half. She and he did everything that would qualify as relationship stuff, but he never wanted to use the label.
They didn't date or sleep with other people, met each other's family and close friends, gone on trips together. Spent half of their time at his place, she had basically moved in there.
They fought over and over and over again about the fact that they were indeed in a relationship, simply not stating it as such.
Ultimately, she walked away.
People can try to avoid labels as much as they want, but when the proof is right there is front of them, yet they contest it, that's just stupidity.
Posted by GennieRight i agree lolPosted by BG2Thats how I feel, if my toothbrush has a home in your bathroom or vise versa, relationship.
A friend of mine had to go through that crap for a year and a half. She and he did everything that would qualify as relationship stuff, but he never wanted to use the label.
They didn't date or sleep with other people, met each other's family and close friends, gone on trips together. Spent half of their time at his place, she had basically moved in there.
They fought over and over and over again about the fact that they were indeed in a relationship, simply not stating it as such.
Ultimately, she walked away.
People can try to avoid labels as much as they want, but when the proof is right there is front of them, yet they contest it, that's just stupidity.click to expand
Posted by GennieI agree me too like im too grown tell u we either is or noy
oh, @lovely77, fuck that shit. Maybe I'm just old and old fashioned.
Is ppl afraid of the title? Is a title even necessary? @bg2
Posted by BG2Did he ever explain why he was against saying they were in a relationship?
A friend of mine had to go through that crap for a year and a half. She and he did everything that would qualify as relationship stuff, but he never wanted to use the label.
They didn't date or sleep with other people, met each other's family and close friends, gone on trips together. Spent half of their time at his place, she had basically moved in there.
They fought over and over and over again about the fact that they were indeed in a relationship, simply not stating it as such.
Ultimately, she walked away.
People can try to avoid labels as much as they want, but when the proof is right there is front of them, yet they contest it, that's just stupidity.
So true went through the same thing for almost a year he doesn't like labels. I believe without one you really can't be mad if they end up leaving you for another because that's going to be their excuse "we are not a couple"
Meant to quote @BG2
Posted by lovely77Ever since women started thinking that a relationship is the answer to all their problens the moment they even think of jumping a guy. I just can't take commitmentholics seriously.
Why have alot of ppl fallen for this...when did this become the norm. No one wants to commit but expect relationship actions from u.
Posted by BG2In my opinion, that seems insensitive. It seemed like a big enough deal to matter to him. But I have nothing else to add, only that I posed the question and was met with a dismissive tone, and I can't imagine why he wouldn't want to open up if he was approached with similar tones.Posted by LillyPetalHe did. Previous girlfriend cheated on him.Posted by BG2Did he ever explain why he was against saying they were in a relationship?
A friend of mine had to go through that crap for a year and a half. She and he did everything that would qualify as relationship stuff, but he never wanted to use the label.
They didn't date or sleep with other people, met each other's family and close friends, gone on trips together. Spent half of their time at his place, she had basically moved in there.
They fought over and over and over again about the fact that they were indeed in a relationship, simply not stating it as such.
Ultimately, she walked away.
People can try to avoid labels as much as they want, but when the proof is right there is front of them, yet they contest it, that's just stupidity.
Moot point, imo.
if you don't want a relationship, don't behave as though in one.click to expand
Posted by LillyPetalActually, the only thing he seemed to do "wrong" (from what you've shared) is NOT label the relationship. What happened to women screaming "action speak louder than words!"Posted by BG2Did he ever explain why he was against saying they were in a relationship?
A friend of mine had to go through that crap for a year and a half. She and he did everything that would qualify as relationship stuff, but he never wanted to use the label.
They didn't date or sleep with other people, met each other's family and close friends, gone on trips together. Spent half of their time at his place, she had basically moved in there.
They fought over and over and over again about the fact that they were indeed in a relationship, simply not stating it as such.
Ultimately, she walked away.
People can try to avoid labels as much as they want, but when the proof is right there is front of them, yet they contest it, that's just stupidity.click to expand
Posted by jessbtwinBy saying you're a couple means a man is less likely to leave?
So true went through the same thing for almost a year he doesn't like labels. I believe without one you really can't be mad if they end up leaving you for another because that's going to be their excuse "we are not a couple"
Posted by LillyPetalI believe by him saying your a couple it means he chose you for a relationship as if there's no label he can act like if you're a couple have options open and if he finds someone else just leave without any explanation.Posted by jessbtwinBy saying you're a couple means a man is less likely to leave?
So true went through the same thing for almost a year he doesn't like labels. I believe without one you really can't be mad if they end up leaving you for another because that's going to be their excuse "we are not a couple"click to expand
Posted by jessbtwinThis is all too exhausting. There are too many assumptions and conclusions being made and jumped to. Why not simply communicate with him? Why think he has bad intentions? In the same breath a woman dumps a good man because he wouldn't use "girlfriend," women put the same significance on FB status updates. "He didn't update his FB with pictures of our dinner last night! He didn't write something on my wall for Valentine's! He didn't like my posts!"Posted by LillyPetalI believe by him saying your a couple it means he chose you for a relationship as if there's no label he can act like if you're a couple have options open and if he finds someone else just leave without any explanation.Posted by jessbtwinBy saying you're a couple means a man is less likely to leave?
So true went through the same thing for almost a year he doesn't like labels. I believe without one you really can't be mad if they end up leaving you for another because that's going to be their excuse "we are not a couple"click to expand
What is this?? It's draining and it's negative. How can a functional relationship possibly flourish? This conversation is not for me because I just don't get it, honestly.
Posted by lovely77HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Its when you are dating, and your doing relationship stuff for ppl who cant make up there mind if they want to commit then u find yourself in a situation. ..situationships i see alot of this going on its not right @gennie
oh man
it's true
Posted by lovely77really?Posted by GennieRight i agree lolPosted by BG2Thats how I feel, if my toothbrush has a home in your bathroom or vise versa, relationship.
A friend of mine had to go through that crap for a year and a half. She and he did everything that would qualify as relationship stuff, but he never wanted to use the label.
They didn't date or sleep with other people, met each other's family and close friends, gone on trips together. Spent half of their time at his place, she had basically moved in there.
They fought over and over and over again about the fact that they were indeed in a relationship, simply not stating it as such.
Ultimately, she walked away.
People can try to avoid labels as much as they want, but when the proof is right there is front of them, yet they contest it, that's just stupidity.click to expand
i have a toothbrush at a dudes house,
lol
hahahah 'situationship' I am still laughing so hard.
That's so good.
I'm stealing it.
That's so good.
I'm stealing it.
I agree with the above. I dated someone for about 2 years, we never put a label on it. I never pushed it because I figured that we were doing all the relationship things so it wasn't important to me. I had been in a not so great marriage for 8 years so labels didn't really mean that much to me. Then he started seeing one else and me at the same time. When I found out and confronted him on it he said that I had no right to be upset because we weren't in a relationship. Looking back I see know that he did that on purpose, not labeling the relationship, so he could do what ever he wanted and if I questioned it he could use the your not my girlfriend thing.
My boyfriend now, told me on our first date that he wanted to see only me and see where we would go and within a month and a half asked me officially to be his girlfriend. We live together now. I don't really ever see myself getting married again but I do want a ring as a show of commitment. I think that the label and even the ring are the outward way to show that your words are lining up with your actions.
My boyfriend now, told me on our first date that he wanted to see only me and see where we would go and within a month and a half asked me officially to be his girlfriend. We live together now. I don't really ever see myself getting married again but I do want a ring as a show of commitment. I think that the label and even the ring are the outward way to show that your words are lining up with your actions.
Posted by sugerbearDid the first tell you he only wanted to date you? If not, then your situation is not the same as the previous poster's story where the man was committed in his actions.
I agree with the above. I dated someone for about 2 years, we never put a label on it. I never pushed it because I figured that we were doing all the relationship things so it wasn't important to me. I had been in a not so great marriage for 8 years so labels didn't really mean that much to me. Then he started seeing one else and me at the same time. When I found out and confronted him on it he said that I had no right to be upset because we weren't in a relationship. Looking back I see know that he did that on purpose, not labeling the relationship, so he could do what ever he wanted and if I questioned it he could use the your not my girlfriend thing.
My boyfriend now, told me on our first date that he wanted to see only me and see where we would go and within a month and a half asked me officially to be his girlfriend. We live together now. I don't really ever see myself getting married again but I do want a ring as a show of commitment. I think that the label and even the ring are the outward way to show that your words are lining up with your actions.
The first who have cheated anyway, and he would have had another excuse. When there is a will, there is a way.
@BG2 Apology accepted, my friend. I appreciate it. I'm not sure what piece was missing, perhaps time, perhaps patience and less pressure, perhaps therapy. I believe that almost all things can be bettered with open communication. Since a title was so important to her, it was important that they found common ground somewhere. I don't know. ž I don't think labels solve problems or guarantee fidelity. If a man goes as far as to step out on his woman, I don't think he's concerned with the numerous excuses he can reach for.
Yes the first one said he only want to date me. But never put the GF/BF label on it so used that in the end as why I had no right to be upset or question it. In all honesty before all that happened labels were not important to me. It was the same as her's met his friend/family, I was with him 4 to 5 days a week. And yes I agree with you on the cheating part, I think no matter what he would have come up with an excuse.
Posted by sugerbearI agree with you I was talking to a guy for about a year he said he didn't like labels. He acted like he wanted a relationship with me we only kissed nothing more than that people thought we were a couple he would go hot and cold. I always thought he had a girlfriend or a few others he was talking to. I finally had enough because I felt that eventually some other female was going to get his attention. Short enough I saw this female talking to him felt like if I asked him about her he would give the "you're not my girlfriend so you can't be mad" I ended the whole thing because he notice I was upset about him talking to the female he asked what was wrong so I told him "I can't be mad at you because you are nothing to me you're not my boyfriend and I'm not your girlfriend" maybe I was to blunt but I saved myself from him giving me the harsh answer instead.
I agree with the above. I dated someone for about 2 years, we never put a label on it. I never pushed it because I figured that we were doing all the relationship things so it wasn't important to me. I had been in a not so great marriage for 8 years so labels didn't really mean that much to me. Then he started seeing one else and me at the same time. When I found out and confronted him on it he said that I had no right to be upset because we weren't in a relationship. Looking back I see know that he did that on purpose, not labeling the relationship, so he could do what ever he wanted and if I questioned it he could use the your not my girlfriend thing.
My boyfriend now, told me on our first date that he wanted to see only me and see where we would go and within a month and a half asked me officially to be his girlfriend. We live together now. I don't really ever see myself getting married again but I do want a ring as a show of commitment. I think that the label and even the ring are the outward way to show that your words are lining up with your actions.
Posted by BG2What's got yours?Posted by enfant_terribleAnd what got your panties in a bunch?Posted by lovely77Ever since women started thinking that a relationship is the answer to all their problens the moment they even think of jumping a guy. I just can't take commitmentholics seriously.
Why have alot of ppl fallen for this...when did this become the norm. No one wants to commit but expect relationship actions from u.
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Cute how a little reality check makes them self-destruct.
It's either girlfriend/fiancé/wife. If I'm not one of those "titles" then I can do what I want and see who I want and I will do exactly what I please and with whomever I choose. Women are always encouraged to settle and take whatever crumbs a man is offering just to have a man in their life. Well I'm so happy I had a father that taught me better and showed me by example how a man who cares for a woman treats her and it's darn sure not with some "its complicated & situationship" mess.
There's nothing complicated about a man, women make the man complicated when she tries to push what she wants onto him when it's something he doesn't want. If women would stop doing that they would save themselves a lot of drama and heartbreak. Also a man is only going to do what he is allowed to do, so don't get upset when you want more from him yet you're settling for less.
There's nothing complicated about a man, women make the man complicated when she tries to push what she wants onto him when it's something he doesn't want. If women would stop doing that they would save themselves a lot of drama and heartbreak. Also a man is only going to do what he is allowed to do, so don't get upset when you want more from him yet you're settling for less.
Posted by jessbtwinThis is why some ppl choice a situationships because they can walk away with no attachment in a way because they dont have the title. Ur rightPosted by LillyPetalI believe by him saying your a couple it means he chose you for a relationship as if there's no label he can act like if you're a couple have options open and if he finds someone else just leave without any explanation.Posted by jessbtwinBy saying you're a couple means a man is less likely to leave?
So true went through the same thing for almost a year he doesn't like labels. I believe without one you really can't be mad if they end up leaving you for another because that's going to be their excuse "we are not a couple"click to expand
Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteGirl this some new age stuff and im seeing alot of ppl in this or can relate. Me my best friend was like how u break up with a situation.
hahahah 'situationship' I am still laughing so hard.
That's so good.
I'm stealing it.
Posted by sugerbearDamn thats cold, i see alot ppl doing this its like having ur whole milk and the cow this has got to stop. And some ppl dont even know they invovled in a situationship.
I agree with the above. I dated someone for about 2 years, we never put a label on it. I never pushed it because I figured that we were doing all the relationship things so it wasn't important to me. I had been in a not so great marriage for 8 years so labels didn't really mean that much to me. Then he started seeing one else and me at the same time. When I found out and confronted him on it he said that I had no right to be upset because we weren't in a relationship. Looking back I see know that he did that on purpose, not labeling the relationship, so he could do what ever he wanted and if I questioned it he could use the your not my girlfriend thing.
My boyfriend now, told me on our first date that he wanted to see only me and see where we would go and within a month and a half asked me officially to be his girlfriend. We live together now. I don't really ever see myself getting married again but I do want a ring as a show of commitment. I think that the label and even the ring are the outward way to show that your words are lining up with your actions.
Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteLol i saw this youtube video and it said if u do these things yall in a relationship lol.Posted by lovely77really?Posted by GennieRight i agree lolPosted by BG2Thats how I feel, if my toothbrush has a home in your bathroom or vise versa, relationship.
A friend of mine had to go through that crap for a year and a half. She and he did everything that would qualify as relationship stuff, but he never wanted to use the label.
They didn't date or sleep with other people, met each other's family and close friends, gone on trips together. Spent half of their time at his place, she had basically moved in there.
They fought over and over and over again about the fact that they were indeed in a relationship, simply not stating it as such.
Ultimately, she walked away.
People can try to avoid labels as much as they want, but when the proof is right there is front of them, yet they contest it, that's just stupidity.
i have a toothbrush at a dudes house,
lolclick to expand
Posted by lovely77Thats hilarious, yah I got a toothbrush and some earplugs and my morning tea at his flat.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteLol i saw this youtube video and it said if u do these things yall in a relationship lol.Posted by lovely77really?Posted by GennieRight i agree lolPosted by BG2Thats how I feel, if my toothbrush has a home in your bathroom or vise versa, relationship.
A friend of mine had to go through that crap for a year and a half. She and he did everything that would qualify as relationship stuff, but he never wanted to use the label.
They didn't date or sleep with other people, met each other's family and close friends, gone on trips together. Spent half of their time at his place, she had basically moved in there.
They fought over and over and over again about the fact that they were indeed in a relationship, simply not stating it as such.
Ultimately, she walked away.
People can try to avoid labels as much as they want, but when the proof is right there is front of them, yet they contest it, that's just stupidity.
i have a toothbrush at a dudes house,
lolclick to expand
ooh I got a bf n I didn't even know. 😄
It must be because people distant themselves from their families. They have little support and they don't have to report to family members who are feeling bad all along.
In the previous centuries a woman could live without a man for a long time. But only bceause she was busy enough with family stuff. Not only that made them busy but also they got big support if a marriage swindler appeared and disappeared.
In the previous centuries a woman could live without a man for a long time. But only bceause she was busy enough with family stuff. Not only that made them busy but also they got big support if a marriage swindler appeared and disappeared.
Posted by 2Moonas long as they are "considerable, signifacnt, and important situations"....
What is a situationship?!
5:20
Lol
but is that not a title too?
Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteWell my toothbrush is picky, it doesn't like getting a bathroom at just any place, and it doesn't like sitting in a spot where another toothbrush has been. My toothbrush is self aware.Posted by lovely77really?Posted by GennieRight i agree lolPosted by BG2Thats how I feel, if my toothbrush has a home in your bathroom or vise versa, relationship.
A friend of mine had to go through that crap for a year and a half. She and he did everything that would qualify as relationship stuff, but he never wanted to use the label.
They didn't date or sleep with other people, met each other's family and close friends, gone on trips together. Spent half of their time at his place, she had basically moved in there.
They fought over and over and over again about the fact that they were indeed in a relationship, simply not stating it as such.
Ultimately, she walked away.
People can try to avoid labels as much as they want, but when the proof is right there is front of them, yet they contest it, that's just stupidity.
i have a toothbrush at a dudes house,
lolclick to expand
Posted by GennieHAHAHAHPosted by CancerLeoDynamiteWell my toothbrush is picky, it doesn't like getting a bathroom at just any place, and it doesn't like sitting in a spot where another toothbrush has been. My toothbrush is self aware.Posted by lovely77really?Posted by GennieRight i agree lolPosted by BG2Thats how I feel, if my toothbrush has a home in your bathroom or vise versa, relationship.
A friend of mine had to go through that crap for a year and a half. She and he did everything that would qualify as relationship stuff, but he never wanted to use the label.
They didn't date or sleep with other people, met each other's family and close friends, gone on trips together. Spent half of their time at his place, she had basically moved in there.
They fought over and over and over again about the fact that they were indeed in a relationship, simply not stating it as such.
Ultimately, she walked away.
People can try to avoid labels as much as they want, but when the proof is right there is front of them, yet they contest it, that's just stupidity.
i have a toothbrush at a dudes house,
lolclick to expand
fair enough.
Well he got me this pretty cool black tooth brush, and a little plastic bag to keep it in, and a spot on his shelf to keep it.
Also my morning tea, and recently welded together a chair for me. He was all excited to show me the chair he 'built forme'
never the less I feel like he would be unimpressed to find out we were bf/gf due to these actions hahaha
I won't tell him if you don't ^ :p
Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
I won't tell him if you don't ^ :p
I promise to delay the inevitable flood of knowledge until you bring him up to scratch, if that's what you want.
If you're in a situationships and want the other person to acknowledge you and they won't then it's time to find someone else who will
Because this is what happens when you raise a couple of generations who have TOO many options at all times. It's seeped into dating. So people want all the perks without the commitment because SOMETHING ELSE could be out there that's BIGGER AND BETTER OMGZ BETTER NOT SETTLE ON ONE PERSON!!
It also doesn't help that people have been raised to be emotionally fucked up. Scared of feelings, scared of reality (risk of getting hurt, experiencing something with high emotion because of the "risk" involved), so everything has to be "feel good."
There's also the high "self absorbed" factor that many have been raised to have. All that child worship and now you have these brats dating and all they think about is themselves and in turn they fuck over people around them. No consideration toward anyone else whatsoever.
So they frolick through dating, using others' attention to stroke that ego, considering everyone temporary because something "better" will come around, so they toss others aside like a commodity.
It also doesn't help that people have been raised to be emotionally fucked up. Scared of feelings, scared of reality (risk of getting hurt, experiencing something with high emotion because of the "risk" involved), so everything has to be "feel good."
There's also the high "self absorbed" factor that many have been raised to have. All that child worship and now you have these brats dating and all they think about is themselves and in turn they fuck over people around them. No consideration toward anyone else whatsoever.
So they frolick through dating, using others' attention to stroke that ego, considering everyone temporary because something "better" will come around, so they toss others aside like a commodity.
Posted by jessbtwinOn instagram, there's an account called "overheardla." Nothing but quotes of random shit heard throughout LA.
So true went through the same thing for almost a year he doesn't like labels. I believe without one you really can't be mad if they end up leaving you for another because that's going to be their excuse "we are not a couple"
This one came to mind when I read your post, as well as the OP. It sums up a lot of guys in dating, currently.
When I went to find that one, this was the most recent that also probably applies-
People have been raised mindless, emotionless drones.
Posted by GennieHave people never heard of travel toothbrushes?? I'm amused she mentions leaving her toothbrush at a casual dude's house, but it's like WHY? You're doing it wrong haha. Keep a travel one in your purse and voila, problem solved.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteWell my toothbrush is picky, it doesn't like getting a bathroom at just any place, and it doesn't like sitting in a spot where another toothbrush has been. My toothbrush is self aware.Posted by lovely77really?Posted by GennieRight i agree lolPosted by BG2Thats how I feel, if my toothbrush has a home in your bathroom or vise versa, relationship.
A friend of mine had to go through that crap for a year and a half. She and he did everything that would qualify as relationship stuff, but he never wanted to use the label.
They didn't date or sleep with other people, met each other's family and close friends, gone on trips together. Spent half of their time at his place, she had basically moved in there.
They fought over and over and over again about the fact that they were indeed in a relationship, simply not stating it as such.
Ultimately, she walked away.
People can try to avoid labels as much as they want, but when the proof is right there is front of them, yet they contest it, that's just stupidity.
i have a toothbrush at a dudes house,
lolclick to expand
I even did that when I was with someone- if I knew I was staying over- brush, deodorant, toothbrush, and toothpaste- all travel size, kept in a makeup bag in my purse. Also comes in handy in other situations besides spending the night with a dude.
Seems strange to me to bring a toothbrush over to some dude you're casually fucking, and LEAVE I there. :/
Posted by WestsidekodakThis is the other problem too- nobody is growing up. We have a bunch of children running around, masquerading as adults.
I stopped that goofy stuff in high school when I realized my self worth.
Again, blame this on the coddled phenomenon that started with parenting in the baby boomer era. Nobody is growing the fuck up.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamRaised? Most people from same generation as my parents - used to get married in their twenties. And they got married by the book - "for better and worse..." where in many cases - they end-up sticking together even in a unhealthy marriage - where the worse parts (constant disagreements, daily fights - or simply put it - tons of emotional abuse) - were overwhelming the good parts (rare moments of happiness). Those were/are committed - that's for sure... committed to a life of misery - as if they were the only option for one another. It's also worth mentioning that - even though - there wasn't any physical abuse... so no scars could be seen on the surface - the inner scars related to emotional abuse were quite noticeable, literally...
People have been raised mindless, emotionless drones.
http://www.webmd.com/balance/stress-management/stress-management-effects-of-stress
http://livelovefruit.com/organs-in-the-body-affected-by-stress/
...and yet, that's something they ignored - and acknowledged "as normal" - as if everybody goes trough that - while walking through life. They simply... settled... and got used to enduring toxic behavior as if it's the norm - killing each-other from the inside out (again,literally...). Raised... yeah, their children - were raised to go through the same thing (nagged about it too... cause that's suppose to be the norm). Fortunately... times changed - and many of those children (as they used to be once - at least) - started realizing that - they don't have to live like that.... Thus, they might be looking for a better match - for someone - who's demons mingles better with their own (dance well together) - without causing any damage to each-other. This people were not raised this way... they raised themselves - though their own understanding of life and the way it's meant to be lived. Though, it's also true that - some people are to immature or to broken to handle commitment in a relationship - as it's the case with those you quoted above. I'm not defending those - i'm just saying: there's more sides to this... to this cautiousness - where people take their time (or at least enough time - to be sure they're right for each-other). I also agree that - it's fucked up to stick with someone you see as an alternative (good enough - till someone better comes along) - while deceiving them - into believing that their relationship is the real deal.
Posted by sagiluvSo true @sagiluv
Lol these days older people are afraid of ending up with the wrong person so they leave their options open so many look for open relationships not realizing they are not giving their current relationship 100% of their effort to make it the perfect one . One person always gets tired & walk away..
Posted by nevestl:dr.Posted by rockyroadicecreamRaised? Most people from same generation as my parents - used to get married in their twenties. And they got married by the book - "for better and worse..." where in many cases - they end-up sticking together even in a unhealthy marriage - where the worse parts (constant disagreements, daily fights - or simply put it - tons of emotional abuse) - were overwhelming the good parts (rare moments of happiness). Those were/are committed - that's for sure... committed to a life of misery - as if they were the only option for one another. It's also worth mentioning that - even though - there wasn't any physical abuse... so no scars could be seen on the surface - the inner scars related to emotional abuse were quite noticeable, literally...
People have been raised mindless, emotionless drones.
http://www.webmd.com/balance/stress-management/stress-management-effects-of-stress
http://livelovefruit.com/organs-in-the-body-affected-by-stress/
...and yet, that's something they ignored - and acknowledged "as normal" - as if everybody goes trough that - while walking through life. They simply... settled... and got used to enduring toxic behavior as if it's the norm - killing each-other from the inside out (again,literally...). Raised... yeah, their children - were raised to go through the same thing (nagged about it too... cause that's suppose to be the norm). Fortunately... times changed - and many of those children (as they used to be once - at least) - started realizing that - they don't have to live like that.... Thus, they might be looking for a better match - for someone - who's demons mingles better with their own (dance well together) - without causing any damage to each-other. This people were not raised this way... they raised themselves - though their own understanding of life and the way it's meant to be lived. Though, it's also true that - some people are to immature or to broken to handle commitment in a relationship - as it's the case with those you quoted above. I'm not defending those - i'm just saying: there's more sides to this... to this cautiousness - where people take their time (or at least enough time - to be sure they're right for each-other). I also agree that - it's fucked up to stick with someone you see as an alternative (good enough - till someone better comes along) - while deceiving them - into believing that their relationship is the real deal.click to expand
You must not be familiar with all the propaganda from the 1940s+
It's just gotten worse.
Posted by WestsidekodakYeeah, It's pretty freaking sad when people cling to this high school mentality. It's like EVOLVE already. My brother's gf does this and it drives me nuts. It's like you're in your mid 20s now and STILL going on about high school, behaving as such, like it's the be all in life? Have some ambition and grow up. :/Posted by rockyroadicecreamCould be honestly. I have friends who still act like life is high school and you can waste away and waste people's time and resources. Ex's too. No thank you. I have my own ship to sail, i'm can't focus in two directions at once.Posted by WestsidekodakThis is the other problem too- nobody is growing up. We have a bunch of children running around, masquerading as adults.
I stopped that goofy stuff in high school when I realized my self worth.
Again, blame this on the coddled phenomenon that started with parenting in the baby boomer era. Nobody is growing the fuck up.click to expand
I've seen a few articles addressing this type of thing, usually "Millennial" based ones that note that parents basically just let their kids mooch with no expectation to actually turn into an adult. When they DO finally get out and about, they still have that mentality of just using people around them to get what they need/want, much like they did with their parents.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamWhat do you mean (be more specific)?Posted by nevestl:dr.Posted by rockyroadicecreamRaised? Most people from same generation as my parents - used to get married in their twenties. And they got married by the book - "for better and worse..." where in many cases - they end-up sticking together even in a unhealthy marriage - where the worse parts (constant disagreements, daily fights - or simply put it - tons of emotional abuse) - were overwhelming the good parts (rare moments of happiness). Those were/are committed - that's for sure... committed to a life of misery - as if they were the only option for one another. It's also worth mentioning that - even though - there wasn't any physical abuse... so no scars could be seen on the surface - the inner scars related to emotional abuse were quite noticeable, literally...
People have been raised mindless, emotionless drones.
http://www.webmd.com/balance/stress-management/stress-management-effects-of-stress
http://livelovefruit.com/organs-in-the-body-affected-by-stress/
...and yet, that's something they ignored - and acknowledged "as normal" - as if everybody goes trough that - while walking through life. They simply... settled... and got used to enduring toxic behavior as if it's the norm - killing each-other from the inside out (again,literally...). Raised... yeah, their children - were raised to go through the same thing (nagged about it too... cause that's suppose to be the norm). Fortunately... times changed - and many of those children (as they used to be once - at least) - started realizing that - they don't have to live like that.... Thus, they might be looking for a better match - for someone - who's demons mingles better with their own (dance well together) - without causing any damage to each-other. This people were not raised this way... they raised themselves - though their own understanding of life and the way it's meant to be lived. Though, it's also true that - some people are to immature or to broken to handle commitment in a relationship - as it's the case with those you quoted above. I'm not defending those - i'm just saying: there's more sides to this... to this cautiousness - where people take their time (or at least enough time - to be sure they're right for each-other). I also agree that - it's fucked up to stick with someone you see as an alternative (good enough - till someone better comes along) - while deceiving them - into believing that their relationship is the real deal.
You must not be familiar with all the propaganda from the 1940s+
It's just gotten worse.click to expand
Back in the day, people just called it what it was...Free Love.
Which, if thats your bag, go for it, but don't expect me to be your boo,bae,baby,dahling,hunny,cupcake, or any other bullshit.
Which, if thats your bag, go for it, but don't expect me to be your boo,bae,baby,dahling,hunny,cupcake, or any other bullshit.
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