Happy Birthday to Me!

Another trip around the sun.

I have mixed feelings about my birthday

I actually have a twin sister and she hates celebrating our birthday. I don’t usually get any acknowledgment from her till maybe the end of day. She doesn’t like me all that much and this is how she punishes me. We’re not very close but I try to find fulfillment in other areas. It’s been like this for decades. I’ve tried to resolve things, atone, even beg her for love but she closed off to me.

It does hurt seeing her be so excited to celebrate other’s birthdays meanwhile I get silence.

I don’t have many day to day friends. So no one reached out to me on my birthday. I don’t have social media so no automatic birthday messages.

I would love a surprise birthday party one year or even to be surprised with something idk.

I spend a lot of time alone but I’m looking into friend groups with like minded hobbies. So I don’t have to be alone all the time.

I guess I write this as a reminder to myself and others life is what you make of it. Not all of us will have people around us to celebrate us but that doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate yourself.

So as I take myself out today and ask for a table for one, I’m thankful to be alive and I have me.

Are you 40 yet? Cus that's the age everybody celebrates before hitting mid age level and especially before being over the hill. After 40 you have no more friends you will be all alone from that moment on sadly. It was that way with me too but um yeah happy birthday.

I’m 43 🎊🎁👑☀️🎈

Happy Birthday!!!

I do hope you spend this year putting effort into building the life you love! and the change will be measurable for 44. You are unique and you bring so much value to people around you.

idk why i feel compelled to say this or if it applies, it was just what I was thinking about right before I saw your post, and I'll use this thread to process my thoughts too.

Sometimes we block the right people because negative self believes cause us to make choices that limit us.

I was thinking about how I need to spend less time with a friend, because, her perception of herself and value is very small, she gained weight or she didn't have kids... her perception of herself is just so limited to how she compares herself to the "society standards". And I know how she see's me is also limited, and correlated to the value systems she applies to herself. And I just don't want to spend my time with people who have such a restricted view of the world and how it works. I need more a abundant energy around me.

🎉Happy birthday 🎉 DMV

Hope it’s wonderful for you!

💜✨♐️

Happy Birthday to one of my fav sun signs! 😘🥳🎉 Now get off this site and enjoy your day. Hope all your wishes come true, the legitimate ones only. 😝

Happy Birthday!!! Yes, please go out and celebrate you even if there is nobody to celebrate with you! I can so relate as I don’t have anyone to celebrate with me either. My birthday consisted of a few immediate family members wishing me a happy birthday and that was it. No celebration, no going out for dinner etc. I kinda wish I would have taken myself out. So please do that as it is a day you should feel special. You’re so worth it! ❤️

Posted by yourMother
Happy birthday sweetheart. I hope you have a beautiful and peaceful day. It sounds like you are making a promise to yourself to build a new vision for next year and that sounds like an impactful moment. If anyone can create their vision into reality it is a Sagittarius. Always seeking deeper knowledge always growing expanding learning. You will have no problem finding fellow travellers once you dedicate yourself to this. Once you know it is your vision. What you want for yourself.

I’m so sorry to hear about your sister. I don’t know anything about you, but believing she’s ‘punishing’ you and mentioning you have sought to ‘atone’ sounds like a tumultuous situation. Often more difficult ruptures require a huge amount of effort that’s all I can say. You can expect bigger problems to require bigger solutions, and if she reaches out to you always you can know you are in her thoughts at least. If she doesn’t enjoy celebrating birthdays that points to some kind of trauma, which you seem to share if you’re isolating yourself is anything to go by. Trauma can make people bad friends, unreliable siblings, difficult lovers, etc etc. it usually takes a real concerted effort to move past. More effort than many have in them to make. The best advice I can give is to see your obstacle not as her but as her trauma. Experiment with a generous interpretation. Let it pull you out of hiding, whether it’s real or not. I’ve never felt like pride matters with family. They know too much anyway. They are too permanent. Whatever you dedicate yourself to, a new mindset is necessary for your new year ahead. Sagittarians are not meant to be locked in anywhere, least of all inside themselves.

You’re right.

There is probably some unresolved trauma on her part.

In our early 20s I threw her a surprise party. She found out and refused to attend.

We have an older sister and you would swear that they are the twins.

Really. This is HER loss.

She is the one who is really punishing herself

Posted by Astrobyn
Happy Birthday!!!

I do hope you spend this year putting effort into building the life you love! and the change will be measurable for 44. You are unique and you bring so much value to people around you.

idk why i feel compelled to say this or if it applies, it was just what I was thinking about right before I saw your post, and I'll use this thread to process my thoughts too.

Sometimes we block the right people because negative self believes cause us to make choices that limit us.

I was thinking about how I need to spend less time with a friend, because, her perception of herself and value is very small, she gained weight or she didn't have kids... her perception of herself is just so limited to how she compares herself to the "society standards". And I know how she see's me is also limited, and correlated to the value systems she applies to herself. And I just don't want to spend my time with people who have such a restricted view of the world and how it works. I need more a abundant energy around me.

Agreed.

Scarcity mindset is contagious.

I prefer to be around dreamers with action plans

Off to pickup up my wedding cake sampler.

If ima eat cake, it’s gonna be good

Aw that sucks about your twin sister. Why doesn't she like to celebrate it when it's her bday too?

Anyway Happy Birthday!🎂🎈 Celebrate it and spoil yourself with things you want and enjoy. Hope you have a fabulous day!🥳🥂

Posted by yourMother

Posted by DMV

Posted by yourMother
Happy birthday sweetheart. I hope you have a beautiful and peaceful day. It sounds like you are making a promise to yourself to build a new vision for next year and that sounds like an impactful moment. If anyone can create their vision into reality it is a Sagittarius. Always seeking deeper knowledge always growing expanding learning. You will have no problem finding fellow travellers once you dedicate yourself to this. Once you know it is your vision. What you want for yourself.
I’m so sorry to hear about your sister. I don’t know anything about you, but believing she’s ‘punishing’ you and mentioning you have sought to ‘atone’ sounds like a tumultuous situation. Often more difficult ruptures require a huge amount of effort that’s all I can say. You can expect bigger problems to require bigger solutions, and if she reaches out to you always you can know you are in her thoughts at least. If she doesn’t enjoy celebrating birthdays that points to some kind of trauma, which you seem to share if you’re isolating yourself is anything to go by. Trauma can make people bad friends, unreliable siblings, difficult lovers, etc etc. it usually takes a real concerted effort to move past. More effort than many have in them to make. The best advice I can give is to see your obstacle not as her but as her trauma. Experiment with a generous interpretation. Let it pull you out of hiding, whether it’s real or not. I’ve never felt like pride matters with family. They know too much anyway. They are too permanent. Whatever you dedicate yourself to, a new mindset is necessary for your new year ahead. Sagittarians are not meant to be locked in anywhere, least of all inside themselves.
I hope you enjoy a beautiful spiritual reset at this your moment to celebrate yourself. You are here. You’ve survived it’s true. And you’ve got your eye on your prize. You are exactly right, “life is what you make it”. You are already empowered with this knowledge. You have everything you need. Today you create your new world and the universe will conspire to help you 💜✨ enjoy your day saggi! Optimism! Onward! Xx

You’re right.
There is probably some unresolved trauma on her part.
In our early 20s I threw her a surprise party. She found out and refused to attend.
We have an older sister and you would swear that they are the twins.
Really. This is HER loss.
She is the one who is really punishing herself


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I think we’re speaking different languages. Oh well.

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We weren’t.

Posted by DMV
Another trip around the sun.

I have mixed feelings about my birthday

I actually have a twin sister and she hates celebrating our birthday. I don’t usually get any acknowledgment from her till maybe the end of day. She doesn’t like me all that much and this is how she punishes me. We’re not very close but I try to find fulfillment in other areas. It’s been like this for decades. I’ve tried to resolve things, atone, even beg her for love but she closed off to me.

It does hurt seeing her be so excited to celebrate other’s birthdays meanwhile I get silence.

I don’t have many day to day friends. So no one reached out to me on my birthday. I don’t have social media so no automatic birthday messages.

I would love a surprise birthday party one year or even to be surprised with something idk.

I spend a lot of time alone but I’m looking into friend groups with like minded hobbies. So I don’t have to be alone all the time.

I guess I write this as a reminder to myself and others life is what you make of it. Not all of us will have people around us to celebrate us but that doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate yourself.

So as I take myself out today and ask for a table for one, I’m thankful to be alive and I have me.

Happy Birthday! My Fellow Sag sister.

If you need someone to talk to, I am here.

Happy Birthday DMV!! Make it a great one anyway, and do your favorite things ❤️. Enjoy that cake! 🎂 🎈🎉🙃

Happy birthday beautiful lady!

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