sags how do you show interest?

you have so many friends and you are always on the move. your life seems to revolve around friends. then how do you show interest and what do you do when interested in someone? what signs do you give.

what is your idea of romance?

I try not to show interest, it usually scares them away.

Posted by puhleeze
you have so many friends and you are always on the move. your life seems to revolve around friends. then how do you show interest and what do you do when interested in someone? what signs do you give.

when im interested, I spend time and money on said person. I definitely tell them verbally how I feel about them and I back it up.

its a good sign when I want to be seen in public with you. Pet names are a good indicator 2.

my idea of romance is very cheesy fabio type shit. Sex is not romance to me. Romance is where intimacy is cultivated. Not sex.

I love the cheesiest of cheese. There is no possible way to over cheese me in the romance dept.

Posted by Wynter
I try not to show interest, it usually scares them away.

what? but if you are interested why do you want them to go away?

Posted by DwellingOnMove
on the original question:

I have had all the different reactions.

Being hesitant and wait.

Show friendship.

Show friendship to everybody so he has the chance to checkk his own feeling. So that he is curious how am I when I'm in love.

Asking rightous. (first time in a letter)

Asking for help and wait for him finding an excuse to meet again.

some may say random. some may say proper to conditions.

hmm these all sound like indirect approaches. strangely i have also seen sags who have been committed and only into their SOs all the time. totally un-sag like

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Posted by Wynter
I try not to show interest, it usually scares them away.

what? but if you are interested why do you want them to go away?

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i can relate to what Wynter is saying. Sag is a masculine sun sign. So as women, we can sometimes be more manly than out counterparts.

at least for me, this is what ive encountered. only with feminine sign sun/venus men

Posted by puhleeze

Posted by DwellingOnMove
on the original question:

I have had all the different reactions.

Being hesitant and wait.

Show friendship.

Show friendship to everybody so he has the chance to checkk his own feeling. So that he is curious how am I when I'm in love.

Asking rightous. (first time in a letter)

Asking for help and wait for him finding an excuse to meet again.

some may say random. some may say proper to conditions.

hmm these all sound like indirect approaches. strangely i have also seen sags who have been committed and only into their SOs all the time. totally un-sag like

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SIDE EYE

By acting interested in everything but them usually.

It's a good thing I'm not single.

I wonder if that's my Leo moon now the more I see how other Sagis do things.

Too much pride to put myself in such a vulnerable position (rejection prevention) or simply a need for complete adoration from my suitor...idk?

I definitely need complete adoration. Moon in 5th house

Posted by DMV
I definitely need complete adoration. Moon in 5th house

Don't you feel like if you have to do the pursuing it makes you feel like... :\ not worth it

Posted by brianafay

Posted by DMV
I definitely need complete adoration. Moon in 5th house

Don't you feel like if you have to do the pursuing it makes you feel like... :\ not worth it

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As a Venus in cap, I cant chase anyone. I cant pursue. Definitely with my 5h moon, nope no way. Said person becomes a joke, so not worth my time. Plus, I dont feel good about myself. I feel cheap when im quite top notch.

Yep, Venus in Cap too. ..

It's a good thing everyone else doesn't have the same complexes because we'd all be alone forever haha

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Posted by brianafay

Posted by DMV
I definitely need complete adoration. Moon in 5th house

Don't you feel like if you have to do the pursuing it makes you feel like... :\ not worth it

As a Venus in cap, I cant chase anyone. I cant pursue. Definitely with my 5h moon, nope no way. Said person becomes a joke, so not worth my time. Plus, I dont feel good about myself. I feel cheap when im quite top notch.

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*nods* Venus in Cap here too.

signs i'm interested:

I smile to you - a lot! I am told to have a smile that lights the whole room, but this time it's fixated on you

I laugh, talk louder, show how smart I am, listen to you (I am not a great listener so this is big deal!)

If I never met you before, I won't flirt and compliment - those things will just scare me off, so I don't do that or like that, but I will engage you in a conversation about history/politics/economy/pets, I will pay attention if we are in a group that you don' feel neglected.

If I know you - oh... I will compliment you, flirt (no sexual insinuations), smile even more if possible, and you will get the picture 😉

I will answer your calls, text back asap, share my random thoughts - treat you like my inner circle

If I don't like you I will AVOID you all the time.
Sag sun/venus in cap/aqua mars female

Posted by shysaggirl
signs i'm interested:

I smile to you - a lot! I am told to have a smile that lights the whole room, but this time it's fixated on you

I laugh, talk louder, show how smart I am, listen to you (I am not a great listener so this is big deal!)

If I never met you before, I won't flirt and compliment - those things will just scare me off, so I don't do that or like that, but I will engage you in a conversation about history/politics/economy/pets, I will pay attention if we are in a group that you don' feel neglected.

If I know you - oh... I will compliment you, flirt (no sexual insinuations), smile even more if possible, and you will get the picture 😉

I will answer your calls, text back asap, share my random thoughts - treat you like my inner circle

If I don't like you I will AVOID you all the time.
Sag sun/venus in cap/aqua mars female

yuppers. Especially the part about communicating quickly. And the smiling big part. All dem smiles is for you.

thats one of the clearest indicators that I moved on, im smiling at someone else.

I'm responsive but in a subtle way and lure them in with intrigue (typical Venus in Scorp approach :-)

Posted by DwellingOnMove
confused querent... disappeared?

no. i feel i still have no clue as to how a sag acts when interested. like i dont see the sag ever saying anything personal and not sure if it is because of lack of interest or just that sags cannot make personal comments? and by personal i mean flirtatious or those suggesting a like.

How about you tell a little about yourself? Your chart for example. Could it be that we as mutable sign react differently to different vibes?

What about the simplest explanation "he is not interested"? Einstein told, "Keep it simple".

If you are not SO, then ... whatever.

We can talk all days and nights about Sagittarius. Still we cannot make that man send signals that you want and are capable of understanding.

If you want to know if he/she is interested make a move. *shrugs*

Posted by aquavita8
Also... behind that show and "Glamour" of sag woman lies a heart of a little girl. If we get hurt we smile a lot. We cover up. We laugh. If we like u and u offend us by error or somehow we may start smiling a lot and laughing it up. We wont cry in front of you. Yes sags are not very personal bingo. We sort of suffer of personality dementia characteristics externally not internally hahahah

TRUE!

Oh yeah for God's sake don't just be upfront and show interest to the Sag ...you wouldn't want to seem "available"

my how I've misdirected you

*eye roll*

I'm always the one to initiate when I'm interested. I won't pursue, but I will throw them the ball and make sure they catch it. Before I make a bold move I will try to pay them special attention. I'll physically be in their presence as much as possible, try to make them laugh and laugh to their every joke. If we're somewhat close, I might invite them over and prepare their favorite meal. Usually this doesn't do the trick, I end up doing it with all my friends.. So I will eventually straight up tell them (or show them!) I want them 🙂 I used to hold back a lot with the feminine sign men because I come on too strong and they freak out. Now I just don't go for them anymore, like DMV pointed out, I feel too masculine around them.. I often wear the pants but with them it's like I grow a dick too 😢

My idea of romance.. hmm. I love romantic gestures but I'm not very romantic myself. Or rather, I am, but it is really hard for me to show it and allow myself to be vulnerable. I would love it if they remembered something I casually mentioned I've always wanted to do, set it up and surprised me. It can be something action packed, even better.

I love gifts too, but only if they are useful and clever. Maybe a picnic somewhere you can see the stars by the water, food and wine, candles, laughing and dancing, then making love there in the nature.. Perfect! 🙂 I love people who are willing to dance. It doesn't matter if they can't, just that they are willing to let themselves enjoy it. To me it's so romantic and sexy to dance with the one you adore.

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Posted by Wynter
I try not to show interest, it usually scares them away.

what? but if you are interested why do you want them to go away?

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I don't want them to go away.

But after I show interest, they usually go away.

@DwellingOnMove: i am virgo sun. the back story is i have known this sag guy since many years yet we have been out of touch for years in between being in touch. somehow we randomly get back in touch but i never see him make any personal comments. but even on his social media i dont see him making any personal comments to anyone. i just got curious as i used to have a crush on him and any form of contact from him used to make me happy. but years later i am thinking what is he thinking. how will one ever know if he is interested in them? we did okay being out of touch for years. but i remember how he used to make me feel when i initially met him and think if we continue to stay in touch will i start feeling same way again and what if this time again we end up not communicating for years? he never makes any personal comments but makes brief comments with very very subtle personal touch (virgo picks that up hahaha) thats where my OP that how do sags express interest. fyi.. why did u hide your posts, they had some good info. virgos might not say much but they are absorbing everything they see (and read lol).

Posted by shysaggirl
signs i'm interested:

I smile to you - a lot! I am told to have a smile that lights the whole room, but this time it's fixated on you

I laugh, talk louder, show how smart I am, listen to you (I am not a great listener so this is big deal!)

If I never met you before, I won't flirt and compliment - those things will just scare me off, so I don't do that or like that, but I will engage you in a conversation about history/politics/economy/pets, I will pay attention if we are in a group that you don' feel neglected.

If I know you - oh... I will compliment you, flirt (no sexual insinuations), smile even more if possible, and you will get the picture 😉

I will answer your calls, text back asap, share my random thoughts - treat you like my inner circle

If I don't like you I will AVOID you all the time.
Sag sun/venus in cap/aqua mars female

will you initiate contact? the sag i know does, but just can't tell his feelings.

Posted by safire
My idea of romance.. hmm. I love romantic gestures but I'm not very romantic myself. Or rather, I am, but it is really hard for me to show it and allow myself to be vulnerable. I would love it if they remembered something I casually mentioned I've always wanted to do, set it up and surprised me. It can be something action packed, even better.

I love gifts too, but only if they are useful and clever. Maybe a picnic somewhere you can see the stars by the water, food and wine, candles, laughing and dancing, then making love there in the nature.. Perfect! 🙂 I love people who are willing to dance. It doesn't matter if they can't, just that they are willing to let themselves enjoy it. To me it's so romantic and sexy to dance with the one you adore.

i can relate this to the sag i know - not romantic but instant reaction/amazement when you remember or do something amazing (as per sag) even though it might be something simple that you do.

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Posted by puhleeze

Posted by Wynter
I try not to show interest, it usually scares them away.

what? but if you are interested why do you want them to go away?

I don't want them to go away.

But after I show interest, they usually go away.

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maybe that is just a guy thing..

Posted by DMV

Posted by shysaggirl
signs i'm interested:

I smile to you - a lot! I am told to have a smile that lights the whole room, but this time it's fixated on you

I laugh, talk louder, show how smart I am, listen to you (I am not a great listener so this is big deal!)

If I never met you before, I won't flirt and compliment - those things will just scare me off, so I don't do that or like that, but I will engage you in a conversation about history/politics/economy/pets, I will pay attention if we are in a group that you don' feel neglected.

If I know you - oh... I will compliment you, flirt (no sexual insinuations), smile even more if possible, and you will get the picture 😉

I will answer your calls, text back asap, share my random thoughts - treat you like my inner circle

If I don't like you I will AVOID you all the time.
Sag sun/venus in cap/aqua mars female

yuppers. Especially the part about communicating quickly. And the smiling big part. All dem smiles is for you.

thats one of the clearest indicators that I moved on, im smiling at someone else.

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haha i like the smile part but with hundreds of friends how to differentiate from a friendly smile?

Posted by brianafay
Oh yeah for God's sake don't just be upfront and show interest to the Sag ...you wouldn't want to seem "available"

my how I've misdirected you

*eye roll*

though in non-romantic ways sags are the most upfront haha

Posted by vesperlynd83
I'm responsive but in a subtle way and lure them in with intrigue (typical Venus in Scorp approach :-)

hmm yes so subtle that you might not catch it if not super alert.

Posted by aquavita8
Keep in mind most sags define the word brainless 🙂 as active their brains are. Read between the lines 😢.

a virgo is always reading between the line that is why we are such troubled souls hahaha.

Sag men are pretty clear when they are after someone or something. Theyre hunters.

Posted by puhleeze

Posted by vesperlynd83
I'm responsive but in a subtle way and lure them in with intrigue (typical Venus in Scorp approach :-)

hmm yes so subtle that you might not catch it if not super alert.

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Oh most definitely. So good eye contact is a must and the other party must be perceptive.

Do I initiate contact? Yes, but it depends.... it' friendly or neutral - like, this guy I'm getting to know right now. He's older, mature, I just know he's alpha male.... so i let him initiate 99% . i "initiated" texts, like 2 smileys.... that's it... because he sent songs and stuff and next day I wanted peace and not to be distracted, I sent a smile in the late afternoon so he knows i'm still alive and interested 😄 he got the message clear 🙂

but with others, the ones i liked or dated.... i was younger, and they were around my age, so they were not real "hunters". i would send a smile, or an article i know they are interested in, or say stuff - friendly stuff, not flirt. but if you asked me out once or twice , don't be surprised i call or text next time: do you want to have a cup of coffee??

so, you see...very discreet in showing interest, except for the smile - it really shows you the interest, it lights the whole room and it goes directly on you!

i do not initiate dates, plan dates, i just let the guy decide and hunt me 😄 or at least that's what he thinks he's doing.
I am truly a hunter - i prepare a trap, and you fall in it. I give you large space to move around, but it is still a trap. You have limited space, time and manouevrs but you believe you have all the "weapons" in your hands. No, you don't.
When I limit contact (which i do when i freak because i feel emotions that can hurt me in the long run) that's when guys realize that maybe, just maybe, they are not the hunters in the relationship.

Because I react like a man - i don't nag,i don't blow up your phone, i keep it light and cool - i do not mean to be cool, that's just me scared of emotional outbursts.

I like your posts saggirl. Especially smiles through text. The hunter has become the hunted.

you definitely know when my smiles are flirtacious. Im staring you down and smiling. I may start to even touch you gently.