Scorpio breakup, thoughts please?

So I posted recently about a girl who I’d been seeing and we were apart for a month while she sorted paperwork. I had to pick her up from the airport and we went to a restaurant and the theatre, then hotel but she seemed more interested in seeing her friends. I took Monday off work but she wasn’t interested, I said I’d taken Monday off because I thought I would be tired and asked what she was up to. I’d been giving her money, for hair, makeup etc, while she was away. Anyway the next day after she had seen her friend, I called her in the evening and asked if she still wanted to do something this week, and she said yes we can do that restaurant, and I asked if she was sure and asked if she sure as she didn’t seem that interested. She said yes she wouldn’t have suggested it otherwise. Anyway, one hour later, she wanted me to order her an Uber, which I did. Then today, she said she wanted a TV, and sent me a photo, I said that TV isn’t even HD. She said not to worry, she would buy it herself next week, then she said her mum would get it. I told her to wait and I would get her a better TV, so she said ok and one single X.

Then one hour later I called her and said I’d get a TV and bring it round, and she said I could get it delivered, and I said don’t you want to see me, and she said yeah bring it round if you don’t mind. And I said ok. Then I said I wanted to talk about the weekend, I said the theatre tickets were expensive and we were late, and I was a bit disappointed with the restaurant because we were late and I didn’t have chance to talk to her about anything. Then I said I know that she wanted to see her friends, but I said I’d taken Monday off the see her because I hadn’t seen her in a month, and I said I miss her but she’s here now (as in, we are in the same town now). She said I know. She said she was stressed. And I went on saying she talk to me about it, and she said no etc. and then I said I don’t want her to worry. Then I said this, which is very bad, I said I know you are looking for somewhere to live, and I am too, and it’s probably too early to ask but we could move in together if you want, and she said it’s too early. Then she said she’d call me back. 5 mins later, she sent a text saying don’t get the tv. I messaged saying I want to, I don’t expect anything in return.

Then I called her and asked if she wanted space, and she said that’s what it is, she said she needs space right now. I said If you want to talk about anything, then I want you to know I care about you. She hung up.

Then she sent these messages: “I don’t want it”, “Mom is getting me one already”, “Is all good [my name]”, “Nothing to worry about…”

Then I ignored it

Then thirty mins later she sent “Honestly is better if I have some time on my own. I’m sorry”, “It seems like a relationship that I’ve not planned and is a bit too much now emotional for me. I hope you understand.. take care”

My plan now is to not respond ever. I am tempted to ask if she wants to date casually but what the point. Please any advice. We’d been dating two months, but she we went on vacation and to a wedding together before the month apart, and she said she missed me, and video calls each day. Thoughts please? Is silence the best answer?

Or perhaps I should say “It’s fine, I didn’t want anything serious either, I just wanted to help out if you were stressed”

Or maybe I just give "ok" or "thumbs up"

I think I just need to heal. This is a good thing for me right? I can just move on now and she was a gold digger.

What a grimy bitch using you for money like that

So I just ignore her right?

Posted by AriesJo

So I just ignore her right?

I'd challenge her and hopefully she may or may not go on to treat others this way

Posted by perperuna

I would just say I am tired of being used for money, since that is what it looks like. And then never respond again.

Wait I love this, I will do it

Or ignore her? I can't decide

Posted by AriesJo

So I just ignore her right?

Yes.

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Posted by perperuna

I would just say I am tired of being used for money, since that is what it looks like. And then never respond again.

Wait I love this, I will do it

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Don't ignore her until you call her out....then ignore her

But she was pretending. Because we were together two months, and she had no money. She wanted to go to her friends wedding. I had no problem paying for things because at the wedding, her friends paid for everything, including hotel and drinks all week. when she stayed there for a month, she called me and said she missed me. I never said it first. She asked me if I missed her, and I said yes. So she only said she missed me because she wanted money, this is calling her out?

I'm 37, she's 28. Yes I think it started off about money. I told her I wasn't interested in a relationship. Maybe I thought it became something else, and I was wrong. Maybe she didn't give the impression something had changed. I knew she needed me to go to the wedding, it started off as me agreeing to buy my own ticket to the wedding, but after she asked me to buy hers, then a dress. I just thought afterwards, she said she missed me to get money and I thought things had developed, so yes I guess it's all my fault. Meeting her friends and family, I guess that changed it, she started using the word girlfriend and boyfriend, not me. But I did make a mistake. I didn't want it to be about money, it happened. I guess when she didn't like me she just asked for something and kept it going. Maybe it's for the best. I never wanted this, and at least now I know she never had feelings for me.

Thanks, this is really helping.

I kinda look at it this way, and I have to. If I hadn’t made a fuss on this one then it would have kept going, dishing out more money. Perhaps I made the fuss in the wrong direction but the end goal is still the best one.

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Posted by perperuna

I would just say I am tired of being used for money, since that is what it looks like. And then never respond again.

Wait I love this, I will do it

Don't ignore her until you call her out....then ignore her

Call her out on what? When she realized he is wanting more she said forget it and she doesn’t want a relationship.

If she was using him she would continue the charade and pretend to care for him. But she was frank and upfront...”I’m not looking for something emotional.”

Why do I feel like I’m in the twilight zone??

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On whatever he felt she did to him ... i.e. beign mercenary for example

This ho is a gold digger. I know other Scorpio women who like to dig gold as well. You need to leave her alone and get back your self respect. Aries men are not weak so stop acting as if you are. Let her go! Try to get some of your money back when you go. Take the tv.