Suspicious of peoples intentions

If someone who you regularly feuded with randomly had a change of heart and started being cordial with you, would you be suspicious of their intentions? Or do you just assume there’s been a breakthrough in your acquaintanceship?

I feel like years ago when I found myself in this similar situation I assumed they changed their mind about me, but after cumulative experience over the years I’m suspicious 👀

Is this what it means to be a Scorpio?

Posted by Scheherazade

It’s good you have the Scorpio to balance out the ever naive Sag Moon.

I‘ve usually been burned.

Posted by tiziani

Depends if the feud was a good one, or if it was just all-out, black-out petty rage (I've done plenty of both).

If it's the first, then usually both people can acknowledge they fundamentally have something the other respects or envies. Those are the best feuds, even when they are over.

But I'm a non-Scorpio who will never know what it's like to be a Scorpio.

Haha you are far too sharp for this place tiz 🤠

Posted by tiziani

Depends if the feud was a good one, or if it was just all-out, black-out petty rage (I've done plenty of both).

If it's the first, then usually both people can acknowledge they fundamentally have something the other respects or envies. Those are the best feuds, even when they are over.

But I'm a non-Scorpio who will never know what it's like to be a Scorpio.

Posted by Fanta

I go for it, while maintaining some caution internally, because I know when I do it, it means I still would like to try to get along with whoever the person is, so I'm giving it another go. I'm aware that some people might have shady intentions, hence the small amount of caution.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by WhorpioHow do you know the difference between the two, if intentions got lost somewhere in translation or you’re just not good at picking up on tone?

I've paid attention to their interests. Not saying I've judged it right every time, but usually when I saw we have common ground it's the former. If you have any way to observe them while you're not in the picture, I'd just look at what they're into when they're in the company of other people.

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Posted by HearttofTopazz

Both.

I’d be suspicious for a while, also remembering that people can grow past certain behaviors, so I’m willing to look past stuff. I would want the same from someone else. I am a Scorpio. Lol

Posted by Scheherazade

Still working on that one lol

Posted by Scheherazade

Posted by WhorpioI would be interested in eating popsicles with you and discussing why it’s so hard to find true blue friends. And then we can do a popsicle cheers and promise to be best friends forever

I would totally be down. Sag Moon Buddies!

I think it’s hard for women to be truly intimate with each other. Since they are set up to be competitive. It’s hard to know when people are being genuine or just trying to keep peace or get some advantage.

But you are very funny and I enjoyed getting to know you more the other night. Nothing but respect!

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And I enjoyed getting to know you too ☺️ You’re very mellow and I like that you go with the flow.

LittleStar, will you accept this friendship rose?

But isn't that the spice of life here today gone tomorrow. Nobody can really "know" anyone else let alone guess their true intentions. I mean we are talking about creatures whose whole sense of reality is ran by essentially a tiny pea sized sense of survival and self-preservation. Hell I'd venture to say we barely know ourselves and what we really want.

Posted by Whorpio

If someone who you regularly feuded with randomly had a change of heart and started being cordial with you, would you be suspicious of their intentions? Or do you just assume there’s been a breakthrough in your acquaintanceship?

I feel like years ago when I found myself in this similar situation I assumed they changed their mind about me, but after cumulative experience over the years I’m suspicious 👀

Is this what it means to be a Scorpio?

Prolly be cordial back but not trying to go out of my way to do the most here. I have plenty of ride or die friends not looking to spend time and energy on a frenemy.

Posted by Fanta

Question:

Those of you who are worried that the other person has ill intentions and plans to screw you, it is because that's what you'd do? Is it because someone has done that to you in the past?

I'm not up to anything JFC

Posted by _Dazed

I'm not up to anything JFC

Excellent news!

Maybe I should be a writer for Alex Jones since I’m pretty good at imagining up conspiracy theories 👀

Posted by _Dazed

I'm not up to anything JFC

Why you you still be in contact with them if you argued with them a lot?

I think it would depend on who started the argument and if you would be able to continue dealing with the person if they are the ones always starting trouble with you.

Sometimes it’s easier to leave things where they are, instead of trying to amend them, if they’ve caused you a lot of grief in your past.

But I let go of people fairly easy, when I can’t find middle ground. I’m always choosing my own peace of mind because it’s too important for me.

Posted by nikkistar

Do people really have the time and patience to "regularly feud" with one another? Serious question.

Posted by saggurl88

Why you you still be in contact with them if you argued with them a lot?

I think it would depend on who started the argument and if you would be able to continue dealing with the person if they are the ones always starting trouble with you.

Sometimes it’s easier to leave things where they are, instead of trying to amend them, if they’ve caused you a lot of grief in your past.

But I let go of people fairly easy, when I can’t find middle ground. I’m always choosing my own peace of mind because it’s too important for me.

This!

Posted by Snakes_N_Ladders

Trusting but also don't give them any angles for taking advantage or whatever.

This. 100%

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Posted by sweetpea2977

Do people really have the time and patience to "regularly feud" with one another? Serious question.

It can be easy to assume that's not the case, esp. if that's not one's proclivity, but you'd be very surprised.

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I know how one can easily be pulled into arguments but either way, it becomes very toxic. One of the parties need to learn how to disengage, walk away or completely ignore. This can be an exhausting cycle to say the least.

Posted by peachy06

Usually I'm always suspicious of anyone who try to talk to me, so...

way I see it

you can be friends now

then fight them next week

gotta live up to mutable sag energy

Posted by virgoOPPP

way I see it

you can be friends now

then fight them next week

gotta live up to mutable sag energy

To some degree, yes. I blame my Scorpio rising 🤣

But really, people change, grow and as life experiences happen, hopefully folks grow and change from them. How someone was a year ago, 5 years ago, 10 etc it’s not how they are today. I have found it’s unfair/naive to judge someone based on how they may have been years ago. Perception also grows and changes as time goes by as well.

My advise is be hopefully optimistic yet not naive enough to repeat the same pattens in the past.

Posted by Whorpio

If someone who you regularly feuded with randomly had a change of heart and started being cordial with you, would you be suspicious of their intentions? Or do you just assume there’s been a breakthrough in your acquaintanceship?

I feel like years ago when I found myself in this similar situation I assumed they changed their mind about me, but after cumulative experience over the years I’m suspicious 👀

Is this what it means to be a Scorpio?

As a Scorpio, you know you’re intuition is the real gift over your ego. Your intuition is so powerful! (But, your ego wants all the credit).

Maybe I can suggest this mediation mantra, “I am in control of my ego. It's not in control of me,” say it and write it daily. As a Leo, I do this myself.

This will help your ego shrivel and give your intuition the room it needs to spread out and grow like underground roots of a lavender bush once the weed’s been plucked out and can no longer siphon the water and nutrients away from the area. Remember, weeds have faster appetites, and have much more resilience than plants do.

Clear your mind of everything. If issues pester, commit to revisiting and handling these issues once you handle “this.” Now do your best to ease your mind, at least momentarily. Once it’s settled, ‘feel’ everything you know to be true about this person based off their energy field. Include in their energy where you two left off. Then, *quickly* ask yourself a single question, “Can I trust them?” The correct answer is your gut’s first response.

*Resist letting your ego edit your gut’s response.* (As a scorpio, you’re already well aware to resist the Righteousness fallacy and not to assume just because people express nice sentiments that they’re well meaning, or even capable of following through on their word. Also as a scorpio, what's worse than someone who misrepresents themselves?)

Your “gut” is slang for your intuition. Your intuition is a database of every experience you’ve ever had with other people, catalogued. It records every minor twitch, crack in someone’s voice, linger in eye contact, lack of, if they’re rushing the moment finished, etc. To resist your intuition is to insult your own intelligence. To insult your intelligence is to suffer a set back in your self-esteem. Your intuition, as well as feeling out positive vibrations should align.

And lastly, can the relationship help you grow; you know what's right for you. Some people might conjure up stories, calling you "small" for "not meeting her half way." Other people don't necessarily know better. If the friendship is not right for you, that's your course of action.

Be investigative. Always consider what someone gets out of doing from something or associating with their tribe. Peeling back layers comes naturally to you. It's an asset that keeps your mind stimulated. It helps you figure out who they really are and what they really value. Sometimes, people don't know themselves why they do things (you might actually figure them out better than they actually know themselves!). If you've noticed them, it's because they're part of one of your environments. If they're in your environment, its a safeguard for you to know why they choose to exist there.

Posted by Whorpio

If someone who you regularly feuded with randomly had a change of heart and started being cordial with you, would you be suspicious of their intentions? Or do you just assume there’s been a breakthrough in your acquaintanceship?

I feel like years ago when I found myself in this similar situation I assumed they changed their mind about me, but after cumulative experience over the years I’m suspicious 👀

Is this what it means to be a Scorpio?

I will be suspicious but pretend im not suspicious and welcome him/her. 🙂 Meanwhile preparing some kind of payback plan in hand just in care the person proven to have an evil agenda. 🙂

Posted by thinktankpisces232

Posted by Whorpio

If someone who you regularly feuded with randomly had a change of heart and started being cordial with you, would you be suspicious of their intentions? Or do you just assume there’s been a breakthrough in your acquaintanceship?

I feel like years ago when I found myself in this similar situation I assumed they changed their mind about me, but after cumulative experience over the years I’m suspicious 👀

Is this what it means to be a Scorpio?

I will be suspicious but pretend im not suspicious and welcome him/her. 🙂 Meanwhile preparing some kind of payback plan in hand just in care the person proven to have an evil agenda. 🙂

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So if those person actually evil and reveal themself it would be like :

Those person : Ha, actually, what i said about you are a lie and now im gonna do this evil thing so you'll regret it !

Me : Ow, is that so huh ? 🙂 how surprising 🙂 i know theres a chance you would have evil plan behind your sudden kindness 🙂 and that is why i prepare this ! so if you do that i will do this which will make you regret even even more 🙂