I can never make sense of Taurus!!!!

So my ex and I have been in contact per usual, I was at his house one day last month when I told him that if he hooked up or met someone else to let me know, he seemed bothered by that, he put a wall (I could feel it) but he said ok he would. Then I was supposed to see him before he went home to NY but he had to work and couldn't. So we didn't speak for about 3 weeks except for the merry xmas msg he sent me. He then contacts me out of nowhere saying we need to talk and if I had been sleeping with anyone else. I said no. He kept asking and asking, and said he hadn't either. We had a long discussion about this. This was a thursday. He said he'd like to see me on Sunday and he later tells me he can't because he had to work. I know how important making money is to him so I told him ok and that I wish he would've let me know sooner in the day since I moved my day around for him. he didn't reply till the next day asking to see me but I fell asleep early so I didn't reply till Tuesday morning. and we saw each other again later that day. He calls and invites me out to eat, comes pick me up and chose a place for us (been so long since he did anything like that) and we have a nice dinner, we talk about different things/life/and changes he wants to make/etc and hes being super nice, like super fucking nice. He opens the door for me and then later drops me off at home, asks me if he can see me again later this week. (Im shook at this point) We then kiss, and I feel him hold it making it last, i kiss him again and I go inside.

I don't understand what just happened—?? How he is being so nice to me all of the sudden. He's always been responsive and sometimes he can be a bit of a jerk but he's generally a sweet guy. Just now he's being reaaally nice. What ? Can someone help me make sense of this?? And what do I do? Or say? Im all out of effort tbh. Its been 8mo since we broke up and I've done NC several times lol but somehow we always end up reconnecting, and I see him and fall right back in love. Like I think about him everyday but when I see him, I feel only love. Do you think he does too? He's had a rough year, and I've tried to stick by him even though its been difficult with him constantly pushing me away. I guess at this point, im unsure if theres actually hope and things are finally going to work out or if Im just seeing roses and rainbows where there isn't any. Also he's a taurus sun, cap moon and Im a scorpio sun libra moon if that helps

Honestly though, WHO CAN MAKE SENSE OF TAURUS— As a Scorp I feel I can read most people except for these confusing bulls.

from your story and as a huge guess (i'm sure taureans would be better to answer but i'm getting the ball rolling), he's afraid of you finding someone else so keeping you sweet and latched on to him. i'm not convinced this is any more than a strategy to keep all of his possessions close.

don't know the background - it sounds like he's trying - that is clear

if he's had a bad year - not sure with what - work ? finances ? - yes, they he would sort of push you away - it's hard for us to relax when the ducks are not lined up meaning - stability

Posted by jeane
from your story and as a huge guess (i'm sure taureans would be better to answer but i'm getting the ball rolling), he's afraid of you finding someone else so keeping you sweet and latched on to him. i'm not convinced this is any more than a strategy to keep all of his possessions close.

yes let the balls roll...

And trust me, Im sweet and latched!!! lol Im so hooked its unreal. Im worried it would be a strategy now

though :/

Posted by tctao
don't know the background - it sounds like he's trying - that is clear

if he's had a bad year - not sure with what - work ? finances ? - yes, they he would sort of push you away - it's hard for us to relax when the ducks are not lined up meaning - stability

Yea, both actually! Work and finances took a hard hit when we were together and he withdrew completely, broke up with me, then I think he had a Britney 2007 year, shaved head and all. He has told me previously and several times he loves me and misses me but when he disappears, not hearing from him made me want to be done with him.

But who am I kidding? I love the dude

Question is what the f is happening? I don't understand the way Taurus mind thinks

Posted by edgelord
don't sleep with him. give him time to show you with actions if he's back around or not. regardless of what he's saying.

yes, good point. good point. I won't cave in to sex! Wtf is going on, im sooo confused.

Im here again aren't I edgelord? 😄

Thats true, you think Im seeing roses and rainbows??

Also what does take your time mean?? On a Taurus level?

like why the need to take your time so extensively? Don't you feel that when you know, you just know??

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don't know the background - it sounds like he's trying - that is clear

if he's had a bad year - not sure with what - work ? finances ? - yes, they he would sort of push you away - it's hard for us to relax when the ducks are not lined up meaning - stability

Yea, both actually! Work and finances took a hard hit when we were together and he withdrew completely, broke up with me, then I think he had a Britney 2007 year, shaved head and all. He has told me previously and several times he loves me and misses me but when he disappears, not hearing from him made me want to be done with him.

But who am I kidding? I love the dude

Question is what the f is happening? I don't understand the way Taurus mind thinks

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he's probably just realizing how much you really do mean to him - especially if now if things are getting more stable again - not sure what the hell was up with the disappearing but you sound young - just take things slow

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don't know the background - it sounds like he's trying - that is clear

if he's had a bad year - not sure with what - work ? finances ? - yes, they he would sort of push you away - it's hard for us to relax when the ducks are not lined up meaning - stability

Yea, both actually! Work and finances took a hard hit when we were together and he withdrew completely, broke up with me, then I think he had a Britney 2007 year, shaved head and all. He has told me previously and several times he loves me and misses me but when he disappears, not hearing from him made me want to be done with him.

But who am I kidding? I love the dude

Question is what the f is happening? I don't understand the way Taurus mind thinks

he's probably just realizing how much you really do mean to him - especially if now if things are getting more stable again - not sure what the hell was up with the disappearing but you sound young - just take things slow

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Is that possible? Don't people just "know"? How can someone (usually guys) not realize when they have someone meaningful in front of him? You leave them and come back? I do plan to go slow, just feel unsure if Im wasting my time and I continue to be in the taurus trap haha

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don't know the background - it sounds like he's trying - that is clear

if he's had a bad year - not sure with what - work ? finances ? - yes, they he would sort of push you away - it's hard for us to relax when the ducks are not lined up meaning - stability

Yea, both actually! Work and finances took a hard hit when we were together and he withdrew completely, broke up with me, then I think he had a Britney 2007 year, shaved head and all. He has told me previously and several times he loves me and misses me but when he disappears, not hearing from him made me want to be done with him.

But who am I kidding? I love the dude

Question is what the f is happening? I don't understand the way Taurus mind thinks

he's probably just realizing how much you really do mean to him - especially if now if things are getting more stable again - not sure what the hell was up with the disappearing but you sound young - just take things slow

Is that possible? Don't people just "know"? How can someone (usually guys) not realize when they have someone meaningful in front of him? You leave them and come back? I do plan to go slow, just feel unsure if Im wasting my time and I continue to be in the taurus trap haha

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my - you are young lol - yes they do that cause their heads are thick or something lol - and that is the question isn't it - a question even he may not be able to answer if he's not in touch with his emotions

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don't know the background - it sounds like he's trying - that is clear

if he's had a bad year - not sure with what - work ? finances ? - yes, they he would sort of push you away - it's hard for us to relax when the ducks are not lined up meaning - stability

Yea, both actually! Work and finances took a hard hit when we were together and he withdrew completely, broke up with me, then I think he had a Britney 2007 year, shaved head and all. He has told me previously and several times he loves me and misses me but when he disappears, not hearing from him made me want to be done with him.

But who am I kidding? I love the dude

Question is what the f is happening? I don't understand the way Taurus mind thinks

he's probably just realizing how much you really do mean to him - especially if now if things are getting more stable again - not sure what the hell was up with the disappearing but you sound young - just take things slow

Is that possible? Don't people just "know"? How can someone (usually guys) not realize when they have someone meaningful in front of him? You leave them and come back? I do plan to go slow, just feel unsure if Im wasting my time and I continue to be in the taurus trap haha

my - you are young lol - yes they do that cause their heads are thick or something lol - and that is the question isn't it - a question even he may not be able to answer if he's not in touch with his emotions

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ya, I guess Im kind of young or maybe just illiterate in love and taurean language. also Im 28, is that young? Not toooo much, Im just a lost Scorpio

Also men make no sense

In some capacity?

Also I’m a bit naive, how are my doors open?

I do agree that it was none of my business to ask him but for me, I had to let him know that I want to know if he meets/bangs someone else. I’m a monogamous person and would not feel comfortable being with him while he is with someone else, at that point I would definitely leave and never turn back.

He asked me too, same thing?

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In some capacity?

Also I’m a bit naive, how are my doors open?

I do agree that it was none of my business to ask him but for me, I had to let him know that I want to know if he meets/bangs someone else. I’m a monogamous person and would not feel comfortable being with him while he is with someone else, at that point I would definitely leave and never turn back.

He asked me too, same thing?

Have you discussed this with him?

You want to know if he has sex with anyone else but have you told him why you would want to know this?

No, I don’t think most people just ‘know’ things. They often think they ‘know’ things such as ‘the one’ or ‘love’ but how many times have you thought you just ‘know’ something only for days or years later to discover that you didn’t ‘know’ at all and we’re, in fact, rather wrong because you blindly thought you ‘knew’!

The famous Scorpio intuition can be too heavily relied on and unless there’s a heavy dose of logic and reasoning to accompany and balance the intuition then quite often the intuition results in a well of emotional waffle, a pair of rose tinted glasses, and wails of ‘but I just know’ when really, you don’t know.

If you knew, and if he knew, then you’d both be together or at least would have had a direct conversation about how you both feel and whether being together again (I don’t know why you broke up) could work.

Frankly, I wondered if he was being nice to you because he wanted sex from you before he left again. Chancing his arm but fine if it didn’t happen.

I think with Taurus, and men in general, a more logic and reasoned approach is better. Love and/or good sex is not enough to sustain a relationship. You both seem to live far away from each other. Have you considered how this might work? Would you both be happy being together but actually not seeing each other much due to distance or work or anything else? That often doesn’t work for Taurus. They want a relationship in body, not just words.

I’d consider the practicalities first and then have a conversation with him to put your side across. If you can’t hold an honest conversation with him because you’re too afraid to step out from your comfort zone then how is it going to work out being with someone for the rest of your life (about the next 40 years!) if you can’t be open and honest with them?

Think deeply but reasonably about what you want and then be bold. What’s the worst that can happen? He says no. So what? Then you can move on and find someone else to build a life with.

don't have sex until yall are officially together. otherwise he may sleep with u and be out.

Posted by wildflower
So my ex and I have been in contact per usual, I was at his house one day last month when I told him that if he hooked up or met someone else to let me know, he seemed bothered by that, he put a wall (I could feel it) but he said ok he would.

Wow, controlling scorpio strikes again.

Considering he's a Taurus, I think when you said "If you hook up with someone, let me know", I think that might have hurt him a bit. Maybe he assumed that hooking up with other people was out of the question. But when you told him that, he may have felt like you don't see it as a big deal if one of you hooks up with someone else because he sees it as a big deal.

Also, Tauruses don't usually jump right into adventures. They like to take their sweet time testing the waters, making it escalate slowly. They look for a long-term partner, so it's understandable that they want to take it slow.

If you want the same thing, show him your undying loyalty and faithfulness, because that's what Tauruses want. Loyalty. Faithfulness. Stability. Security.

But if eternal loyalty is not your style , don't fake it just to make him like you.

Be honest. Tauruses value honesty.

I know you love adventures, Scorp, but if you're chasing after a Taurus, be ready for a long-term commitment.

And be patient. Let things slowly escalate.

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Posted by alexa566
If you want the same thing, show him your undying loyalty and faithfulness, because that's what Tauruses want. Loyalty. Faithfulness. Stability. Security.

But if eternal loyalty is not your style , don't fake it just to make him like you.

Be honest. Tauruses value honesty.

Great points. Especially the honesty, I can't stress that one enough.

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I'm surprised how I don't have any Taurus placements in my birth chart, because I can really relate to most of the values of Tauruses. The honesty, loyalty, faithfulness, security, long-term commitment, etc. I've always had those morals.

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Posted by wildflower
In some capacity?

Also I’m a bit naive, how are my doors open?

I do agree that it was none of my business to ask him but for me, I had to let him know that I want to know if he meets/bangs someone else. I’m a monogamous person and would not feel comfortable being with him while he is with someone else, at that point I would definitely leave and never turn back.

He asked me too, same thing?

Have you discussed this with him?

You want to know if he has sex with anyone else but have you told him why you would want to know this?

No, I don’t think most people just ‘know’ things. They often think they ‘know’ things such as ‘the one’ or ‘love’ but how many times have you thought you just ‘know’ something only for days or years later to discover that you didn’t ‘know’ at all and we’re, in fact, rather wrong because you blindly thought you ‘knew’!

The famous Scorpio intuition can be too heavily relied on and unless there’s a heavy dose of logic and reasoning to accompany and balance the intuition then quite often the intuition results in a well of emotional waffle, a pair of rose tinted glasses, and wails of ‘but I just know’ when really, you don’t know.

If you knew, and if he knew, then you’d both be together or at least would have had a direct conversation about how you both feel and whether being together again (I don’t know why you broke up) could work.

Frankly, I wondered if he was being nice to you because he wanted sex from you before he left again. Chancing his arm but fine if it didn’t happen.

I think with Taurus, and men in general, a more logic and reasoned approach is better. Love and/or good sex is not enough to sustain a relationship. You both seem to live far away from each other. Have you considered how this might work? Would you both be happy being together but actually not seeing each other much due to distance or work or anything else? That often doesn’t work for Taurus. They want a relationship in body, not just words.

I’d consider the practicalities first and then have a conversation with him to put your side across. If you can’t hold an honest conversation with him because you’re too afraid to step out from your comfort zone then how is it going to work out being with someone for the rest of your life (about the next 40 years!) if you can’t be open and honest with them?

Think deeply but reasonably about what you want and then be bold. What’s the worst that can happen? He says no. So what? Then you can move on and find someone else to build a life with.

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Thanks for the insight!

When I first brought it up to him, he seemed taken aback but he didn't ask why or for more information so I assumed he was sleeping with other people. Fast forward to now after the holidays and after our dinner, since he was asking me and I, him, I did tell him why I asked and did tell him that I am not cool with him sleeping with other people while with me.

I am able to talk about things with him but hate bringing up the past or I hate to dampen the mood. Thats really it, I don't like to create problems out of nothing. He's very honest too, so sometimes I know that if I ask something I have to be prepared for an honest answer.

We live in the same city actually, so distance isn't a problem. I guess we're both in stages of our life where we need to get other aspects settled first. Im not in a rush and I have told him how I felt about him and how much being with him has changed me. He, on his own, told me he loved me and missed me and how he is trying to get himself to a better place.

The only thing I hate about this is not hearing from him sometimes.. when I don't, I feel that he has forgotten me and I do not matter. My own insecurities perhaps

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Posted by wildflower
In some capacity?

Also I’m a bit naive, how are my doors open?

I do agree that it was none of my business to ask him but for me, I had to let him know that I want to know if he meets/bangs someone else. I’m a monogamous person and would not feel comfortable being with him while he is with someone else, at that point I would definitely leave and never turn back.

He asked me too, same thing?

What I mean is I can't be sure from what you've said whether he wants a serious relationship or not but it seems he doesn't want you with someone else.

By "doors open" I mean you seem willing to communicate whenever he wants, meet up with him when he wants, etc. He might think you're not going anywhere so you'll just be waiting next time he wants to get in touch.

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Thats true! I am always here and have told him that lol

I couldn't leave him by himself when he was going through a hard time, now he's getting better, coming around more.

Posted by Delilahoney
I don't see how he's acting in a way that's concerning if it's the norm for you guys to not speak for a while. I'm a taurus female so it might be different, but I've often had to cancel plans due to work or school, and I always appreciate when the other person can be understanding. it sounds like your question made him paranoid, and it seems like he still likes you. Just a busy person. I have moon in libra too so I imagine I'm a more clingy taurus than he is, with his moon in cap.

Yea! I've noticed when I come from an understanding point of view his reaction is better towards me and he is more considerate. I have my moon in libra too so I love having company and being next to him. I guess there's nothing wrong, essentially, he's just so hard for me to read. Idk when his distance is for him to replenish, need of space or if its because he is done with me if that makes sense.

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Posted by wildflower
So my ex and I have been in contact per usual, I was at his house one day last month when I told him that if he hooked up or met someone else to let me know, he seemed bothered by that, he put a wall (I could feel it) but he said ok he would.

Wow, controlling scorpio strikes again.

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lol

how is me telling him that if he sleeps with someone else to let me know controlling?

I don't want his penis in my vagina after juicing other vaginas. Its my body, I have every right to draw the line.

He's free to be the man he wants to be, go where he wants go and be with who he wants to be with.

I just don't want to be wondering if he's banging other women, potentially putting my sexual health at risk and my heart honestly, if he wants to bang other people.. he can. Just without me in the picture

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So my ex and I have been in contact per usual, I was at his house one day last month when I told him that if he hooked up or met someone else to let me know, he seemed bothered by that, he put a wall (I could feel it) but he said ok he would.

Wow, controlling scorpio strikes again.

lol

how is me telling him that if he sleeps with someone else to let me know controlling?

I don't want his penis in my vagina after juicing other vaginas. Its my body, I have every right to draw the line.

He's free to be the man he wants to be, go where he wants go and be with who he wants to be with.

I just don't want to be wondering if he's banging other women, potentially putting my sexual health at risk and my heart honestly, if he wants to bang other people.. he can. Just without me in the picture

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Because he is not your boyfriend. He doesn't owe you that information. You overstep by demanding it.

Posted by alexa566
Considering he's a Taurus, I think when you said "If you hook up with someone, let me know", I think that might have hurt him a bit. Maybe he assumed that hooking up with other people was out of the question. But when you told him that, he may have felt like you don't see it as a big deal if one of you hooks up with someone else because he sees it as a big deal.

Also, Tauruses don't usually jump right into adventures. They like to take their sweet time testing the waters, making it escalate slowly. They look for a long-term partner, so it's understandable that they want to take it slow.

If you want the same thing, show him your undying loyalty and faithfulness, because that's what Tauruses want. Loyalty. Faithfulness. Stability. Security.

But if eternal loyalty is not your style , don't fake it just to make him like you.

Be honest. Tauruses value honesty.

I know you love adventures, Scorp, but if you're chasing after a Taurus, be ready for a long-term commitment.

And be patient. Let things slowly escalate.

thank you, those are great points...

how long is too long though?? lol this is what I don't get.

But really, Im in no rush. I talk to him when I do and feel happy, peace, safe.

I love that..

To be quite frank, I used to be into an aqua... for 6 years! He's great but he was so flighty, but I was loyal, and stuck around and then it just didn't work out but I feel that I wasted 6 yrs!!!

I think that is what makes me so hesitant to wait for someone.. and yall say taurus takes forever— omggggggggg longer than aqua—?

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So my ex and I have been in contact per usual, I was at his house one day last month when I told him that if he hooked up or met someone else to let me know, he seemed bothered by that, he put a wall (I could feel it) but he said ok he would.

Wow, controlling scorpio strikes again.

lol

how is me telling him that if he sleeps with someone else to let me know controlling?

I don't want his penis in my vagina after juicing other vaginas. Its my body, I have every right to draw the line.

He's free to be the man he wants to be, go where he wants go and be with who he wants to be with.

I just don't want to be wondering if he's banging other women, potentially putting my sexual health at risk and my heart honestly, if he wants to bang other people.. he can. Just without me in the picture

Because he is not your boyfriend. He doesn't owe you that information. You overstep by demanding it.

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hmm, thats an interesting perspective. I wasn't trying to control him, just ask for clarity. And in the event that he wants to hook up with other people, he can. Just let me know and I'll leave him alone lol, I dont think thats a terrible thought.

so i am guessing right to think that he broke up with you?

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so i am guessing right to think that he broke up with you?

what why?

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so i am guessing right to think that he broke up with you?

what why?

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I don't understand - why did he break up with you?

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So my ex and I have been in contact per usual, I was at his house one day last month when I told him that if he hooked up or met someone else to let me know, he seemed bothered by that, he put a wall (I could feel it) but he said ok he would.

Wow, controlling scorpio strikes again.

lol

how is me telling him that if he sleeps with someone else to let me know controlling?

I don't want his penis in my vagina after juicing other vaginas. Its my body, I have every right to draw the line.

He's free to be the man he wants to be, go where he wants go and be with who he wants to be with.

I just don't want to be wondering if he's banging other women, potentially putting my sexual health at risk and my heart honestly, if he wants to bang other people.. he can. Just without me in the picture

Because he is not your boyfriend. He doesn't owe you that information. You overstep by demanding it.

hmm, thats an interesting perspective. I wasn't trying to control him, just ask for clarity. And in the event that he wants to hook up with other people, he can. Just let me know and I'll leave him alone lol, I dont think thats a terrible thought.

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‘Controlling Scorpio strikes again’ was tongue in cheek cause everyone on this site talks about how scorps are controlling af.

Fucking an ex never ends well tho

ohhh yea, he broke up with me. Said it was because hes not in a good place right now and he needed to get himself there first :/

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So my ex and I have been in contact per usual, I was at his house one day last month when I told him that if he hooked up or met someone else to let me know, he seemed bothered by that, he put a wall (I could feel it) but he said ok he would.

Wow, controlling scorpio strikes again.

lol

how is me telling him that if he sleeps with someone else to let me know controlling?

I don't want his penis in my vagina after juicing other vaginas. Its my body, I have every right to draw the line.

He's free to be the man he wants to be, go where he wants go and be with who he wants to be with.

I just don't want to be wondering if he's banging other women, potentially putting my sexual health at risk and my heart honestly, if he wants to bang other people.. he can. Just without me in the picture

Because he is not your boyfriend. He doesn't owe you that information. You overstep by demanding it.

hmm, thats an interesting perspective. I wasn't trying to control him, just ask for clarity. And in the event that he wants to hook up with other people, he can. Just let me know and I'll leave him alone lol, I dont think thats a terrible thought.

‘Controlling Scorpio strikes again’ was tongue in cheek cause everyone on this site talks about how scorps are controlling af.

Fucking an ex never ends well tho

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ohhh, see, thats what I mean... it doesn't end well, does it? argh 😭 I wish I could fast forward to see what happens and if all this is worth it lol

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Posted by alexa566
Considering he's a Taurus, I think when you said "If you hook up with someone, let me know", I think that might have hurt him a bit. Maybe he assumed that hooking up with other people was out of the question. But when you told him that, he may have felt like you don't see it as a big deal if one of you hooks up with someone else because he sees it as a big deal.

Also, Tauruses don't usually jump right into adventures. They like to take their sweet time testing the waters, making it escalate slowly. They look for a long-term partner, so it's understandable that they want to take it slow.

If you want the same thing, show him your undying loyalty and faithfulness, because that's what Tauruses want. Loyalty. Faithfulness. Stability. Security.

But if eternal loyalty is not your style , don't fake it just to make him like you.

Be honest. Tauruses value honesty.

I know you love adventures, Scorp, but if you're chasing after a Taurus, be ready for a long-term commitment.

And be patient. Let things slowly escalate.

thank you, those are great points...

how long is too long though?? lol this is what I don't get.

But really, Im in no rush. I talk to him when I do and feel happy, peace, safe.

I love that..

To be quite frank, I used to be into an aqua... for 6 years! He's great but he was so flighty, but I was loyal, and stuck around and then it just didn't work out but I feel that I wasted 6 yrs!!!

I think that is what makes me so hesitant to wait for someone.. and yall say taurus takes forever— omggggggggg longer than aqua—?

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Not necessarily longer than aqua. Honestly, I think if Aqua makes you wait so long, it probably means they aren't sure if they want to be with you, or aren't sure in what way they see you. Aquas aren't really the type who will commit, they are kinda obsessed with freedom.

Tauruses just need time to feel secure and to be convinced that you are in it for the long haul. But once they really believe that you are there to stay, they will give themselves fully, and commit 100% .

You do need to be patient with a Taurus, but if he is interested, you should be able to notice the relationship moving forward, slow as it may be.

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ohhh yea, he broke up with me. Said it was because hes not in a good place right now and he needed to get himself there first :/

I can only speak for myself but if an ex had used that reason on me, I wouldn't be seeing them anymore. Maybe yeah be friends, depending on the friendship before the relationship but there would be no kissing, no hugging. He drew a line in the sand and God knows I wouldn't cross it even if it kills me.

I wonder about that I'm not in a good place right now line. I don't know but if you really wanted to be with someone, you wouldn't let them go would you? Even if life was shit.

I always imagine that despite how hard life could get, if the relationship mattered, you would do everything to hang on to it. That he hasnt would give me pause that perhaps if he really felt strongly, he wouldnt cut you loose.

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ohhh yea, he broke up with me. Said it was because hes not in a good place right now and he needed to get himself there first :/

I can only speak for myself but if an ex had used that reason on me, I wouldn't be seeing them anymore. Maybe yeah be friends, depending on the friendship before the relationship but there would be no kissing, no hugging. He drew a line in the sand and God knows I wouldn't cross it even if it kills me.

I wonder about that I'm not in a good place right now line. I don't know but if you really wanted to be with someone, you wouldn't let them go would you? Even if life was shit.

I always imagine that despite how hard life could get, if the relationship mattered, you would do everything to hang on to it. That he hasnt would give me pause that perhaps if he really felt strongly, he wouldnt cut you loose.

Yeah, bit wishy washy isn't it. Like if he'd given a specific reason such as an issue with a family member, uncertainty about living arrangements that's one thing. Maybe he was trying to let her down easy but now he wants to come back as he's found nobody better?

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I don't know how much to believe that line. I think men do find themselves caught at times. They want to feel comfortable and confident in their life before embarking on a long term relationship but then you hear stories where they would drop everything for the right woman.

I know in my own relationship I was faced with this situation. Well, when I decided to take him at his word that we should be put on hold and stopped behaving like a girlfriend, then within days, the situation wasn't as bad as he initially felt.

Maybe he had to take a moment, maybe he was really overwhelmed by everything but whatever it was, none of that mattered when he saw me walking away.

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Considering he's a Taurus, I think when you said "If you hook up with someone, let me know", I think that might have hurt him a bit. Maybe he assumed that hooking up with other people was out of the question. But when you told him that, he may have felt like you don't see it as a big deal if one of you hooks up with someone else because he sees it as a big deal.

Also, Tauruses don't usually jump right into adventures. They like to take their sweet time testing the waters, making it escalate slowly. They look for a long-term partner, so it's understandable that they want to take it slow.

If you want the same thing, show him your undying loyalty and faithfulness, because that's what Tauruses want. Loyalty. Faithfulness. Stability. Security.

But if eternal loyalty is not your style , don't fake it just to make him like you.

Be honest. Tauruses value honesty.

I know you love adventures, Scorp, but if you're chasing after a Taurus, be ready for a long-term commitment.

And be patient. Let things slowly escalate.

thank you, those are great points...

how long is too long though?? lol this is what I don't get.

But really, Im in no rush. I talk to him when I do and feel happy, peace, safe.

I love that..

To be quite frank, I used to be into an aqua... for 6 years! He's great but he was so flighty, but I was loyal, and stuck around and then it just didn't work out but I feel that I wasted 6 yrs!!!

I think that is what makes me so hesitant to wait for someone.. and yall say taurus takes forever— omggggggggg longer than aqua—?

Not necessarily longer than aqua. Honestly, I think if Aqua makes you wait so long, it probably means they aren't sure if they want to be with you, or aren't sure in what way they see you. Aquas aren't really the type who will commit, they are kinda obsessed with freedom.

Tauruses just need time to feel secure and to be convinced that you are in it for the long haul. But once they really believe that you are there to stay, they will give themselves fully, and commit 100% .

You do need to be patient with a Taurus, but if he is interested, you should be able to notice the relationship moving forward, slow as it may be.

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Yea, I can see that... I guess its confusing because we are broken up, so its like do you want me in your life or not— I can understand when they are hesitant before being a couple but we already had committed to each other so I find it odd to go in reverse but its kinda working for me actually so idk. I think he loves me... Idk I just do. He has said it before but idk... I feel like he does. His eyes tell me and his patience in return with me. It would just be easier for me to be together so I wouldn't have to feel unsure. Maybe security on my part too?

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ohhh yea, he broke up with me. Said it was because hes not in a good place right now and he needed to get himself there first :/

I can only speak for myself but if an ex had used that reason on me, I wouldn't be seeing them anymore. Maybe yeah be friends, depending on the friendship before the relationship but there would be no kissing, no hugging. He drew a line in the sand and God knows I wouldn't cross it even if it kills me.

I wonder about that I'm not in a good place right now line. I don't know but if you really wanted to be with someone, you wouldn't let them go would you? Even if life was shit.

I always imagine that despite how hard life could get, if the relationship mattered, you would do everything to hang on to it. That he hasnt would give me pause that perhaps if he really felt strongly, he wouldnt cut you loose.

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I can agree with you on that sentiment, I felt like that to when we broke up. Like if you wanted to be with me YOU JUST WOULD BE WITH ME! But I guess to him its different, he said he was broke, he felt he didn't have anything to offer me and that he couldn't take care of me. Relationships take energy and time and he felt he couldn't give me what I deserved. He got really depressed, sometimes I would see him and he changed so much. I could feel his sadness, it made me so sad. Im an empath, I would go home after seeing him and cried, releasing what I think was his pain, I knew it wasn't my pain. At times, I feel that when we were together, I could've been more understanding and more patient. I had a feeling he was depressed but after he lost a job, he just pushed me away and withdrew completely. I didn't realize work would make him feel this way... I've never had that experience.

But I did have the experience of depression and I struggled with it for most of my life so after we broke up, he admitted it to me that he was depressed, I felt I couldn't leave his side. I would never want him to feel alone or feel half as bad as I felt when I was severely depressed. But there is light at the end of the tunnel and after alot of healing, Im much better and stable now. Thats why he told me he's not in a good place right now, he said he needed to pick himself up and I agreed. I knew what it was like, I had been there, in a dark and lonely, sad place. I told him I'd be support for him and I loved him, I wasn't going to pressure him for a relationship for now because I'd rather that happen naturally and once he's better again. So I'm sticking by him as he gets better. And he has been... When I saw him for dinner after he got back from xmas, I noticed he was different.. A bit more put together, a bit healthier. We've been in contact alot and he has been interviewing for some jobs and we're hoping all goes good.

Sometimes I get impatient I think, Im scared to be hurt/played/betrayed. I guess I shouldn't assume the worst always. What changed now is that we had a long conversation where we talked about our childhoods and he explained why making money (alot of money) was so important to him and everything made sense to me. It clicked. But at times I wonder... is my heart at risk here? I guess love is always a risk

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ohhh yea, he broke up with me. Said it was because hes not in a good place right now and he needed to get himself there first :/

I can only speak for myself but if an ex had used that reason on me, I wouldn't be seeing them anymore. Maybe yeah be friends, depending on the friendship before the relationship but there would be no kissing, no hugging. He drew a line in the sand and God knows I wouldn't cross it even if it kills me.

I wonder about that I'm not in a good place right now line. I don't know but if you really wanted to be with someone, you wouldn't let them go would you? Even if life was shit.

I always imagine that despite how hard life could get, if the relationship mattered, you would do everything to hang on to it. That he hasnt would give me pause that perhaps if he really felt strongly, he wouldnt cut you loose.

Yeah, bit wishy washy isn't it. Like if he'd given a specific reason such as an issue with a family member, uncertainty about living arrangements that's one thing. Maybe he was trying to let her down easy but now he wants to come back as he's found nobody better?

I don't know how much to believe that line. I think men do find themselves caught at times. They want to feel comfortable and confident in their life before embarking on a long term relationship but then you hear stories where they would drop everything for the right woman.

I know in my own relationship I was faced with this situation. Well, when I decided to take him at his word that we should be put on hold and stopped behaving like a girlfriend, then within days, the situation wasn't as bad as he initially felt.

Maybe he had to take a moment, maybe he was really overwhelmed by everything but whatever it was, none of that mattered when he saw me walking away.

Yep, well you shouldn't put more into the relationship than the other person is willing to. Don't make them a priority when they make you an option and all that. Applies to all signs.

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Much truth to this!!!!!

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ohhh yea, he broke up with me. Said it was because hes not in a good place right now and he needed to get himself there first :/

I can only speak for myself but if an ex had used that reason on me, I wouldn't be seeing them anymore. Maybe yeah be friends, depending on the friendship before the relationship but there would be no kissing, no hugging. He drew a line in the sand and God knows I wouldn't cross it even if it kills me.

I wonder about that I'm not in a good place right now line. I don't know but if you really wanted to be with someone, you wouldn't let them go would you? Even if life was shit.

I always imagine that despite how hard life could get, if the relationship mattered, you would do everything to hang on to it. That he hasnt would give me pause that perhaps if he really felt strongly, he wouldnt cut you loose.

I can agree with you on that sentiment, I felt like that to when we broke up. Like if you wanted to be with me YOU JUST WOULD BE WITH ME! But I guess to him its different, he said he was broke, he felt he didn't have anything to offer me and that he couldn't take care of me. Relationships take energy and time and he felt he couldn't give me what I deserved. He got really depressed, sometimes I would see him and he changed so much. I could feel his sadness, it made me so sad. Im an empath, I would go home after seeing him and cried, releasing what I think was his pain, I knew it wasn't my pain. At times, I feel that when we were together, I could've been more understanding and more patient. I had a feeling he was depressed but after he lost a job, he just pushed me away and withdrew completely. I didn't realize work would make him feel this way... I've never had that experience.

But I did have the experience of depression and I struggled with it for most of my life so after we broke up, he admitted it to me that he was depressed, I felt I couldn't leave his side. I would never want him to feel alone or feel half as bad as I felt when I was severely depressed. But there is light at the end of the tunnel and after alot of healing, Im much better and stable now. Thats why he told me he's not in a good place right now, he said he needed to pick himself up and I agreed. I knew what it was like, I had been there, in a dark and lonely, sad place. I told him I'd be support for him and I loved him, I wasn't going to pressure him for a relationship for now because I'd rather that happen naturally and once he's better again. So I'm sticking by him as he gets better. And he has been... When I saw him for dinner after he got back from xmas, I noticed he was different.. A bit more put together, a bit healthier. We've been in contact alot and he has been interviewing for some jobs and we're hoping all goes good.

Sometimes I get impatient I think, Im scared to be hurt/played/betrayed. I guess I shouldn't assume the worst always. What changed now is that we had a long conversation where we talked about our childhoods and he explained why making money (alot of money) was so important to him and everything made sense to me. It clicked. But at times I wonder... is my heart at risk here? I guess love is always a risk

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yes, i understand your point of view. i guess i just wouldn't play it the same way. perhaps you have more patience or you are willing to invest more.

i suppose in my thinking is that i inspire strength when i show it. he has to reach my level to be with me, i will not join him to dawdle in the mud. if he needs time to get himself together, then take the time and catch up with me later because i am not stopping for someone who doesn't want to be with me.

but ultimately you have to do what you feel is best for you. there are many different ways to skin a cat. 🙂

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ohhh yea, he broke up with me. Said it was because hes not in a good place right now and he needed to get himself there first :/

I can only speak for myself but if an ex had used that reason on me, I wouldn't be seeing them anymore. Maybe yeah be friends, depending on the friendship before the relationship but there would be no kissing, no hugging. He drew a line in the sand and God knows I wouldn't cross it even if it kills me.

I wonder about that I'm not in a good place right now line. I don't know but if you really wanted to be with someone, you wouldn't let them go would you? Even if life was shit.

I always imagine that despite how hard life could get, if the relationship mattered, you would do everything to hang on to it. That he hasnt would give me pause that perhaps if he really felt strongly, he wouldnt cut you loose.

I can agree with you on that sentiment, I felt like that to when we broke up. Like if you wanted to be with me YOU JUST WOULD BE WITH ME! But I guess to him its different, he said he was broke, he felt he didn't have anything to offer me and that he couldn't take care of me. Relationships take energy and time and he felt he couldn't give me what I deserved. He got really depressed, sometimes I would see him and he changed so much. I could feel his sadness, it made me so sad. Im an empath, I would go home after seeing him and cried, releasing what I think was his pain, I knew it wasn't my pain. At times, I feel that when we were together, I could've been more understanding and more patient. I had a feeling he was depressed but after he lost a job, he just pushed me away and withdrew completely. I didn't realize work would make him feel this way... I've never had that experience.

But I did have the experience of depression and I struggled with it for most of my life so after we broke up, he admitted it to me that he was depressed, I felt I couldn't leave his side. I would never want him to feel alone or feel half as bad as I felt when I was severely depressed. But there is light at the end of the tunnel and after alot of healing, Im much better and stable now. Thats why he told me he's not in a good place right now, he said he needed to pick himself up and I agreed. I knew what it was like, I had been there, in a dark and lonely, sad place. I told him I'd be support for him and I loved him, I wasn't going to pressure him for a relationship for now because I'd rather that happen naturally and once he's better again. So I'm sticking by him as he gets better. And he has been... When I saw him for dinner after he got back from xmas, I noticed he was different.. A bit more put together, a bit healthier. We've been in contact alot and he has been interviewing for some jobs and we're hoping all goes good.

Sometimes I get impatient I think, Im scared to be hurt/played/betrayed. I guess I shouldn't assume the worst always. What changed now is that we had a long conversation where we talked about our childhoods and he explained why making money (alot of money) was so important to him and everything made sense to me. It clicked. But at times I wonder... is my heart at risk here? I guess love is always a risk

yes, i understand your point of view. i guess i just wouldn't play it the same way. perhaps you have more patience or you are willing to invest more.

i suppose in my thinking is that i inspire strength when i show it. he has to reach my level to be with me, i will not join him to dawdle in the mud. if he needs time to get himself together, then take the time and catch up with me later because i am not stopping for someone who doesn't want to be with me.

but ultimately you have to do what you feel is best for you. there are many different ways to skin a cat. 🙂

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hmmm, i really like that...

"i suppose in my thinking is that i inspire strength when i show it. he has to reach my level to be with me, i will not join him to dawdle in the mud. if he needs time to get himself together, then take the time and catch up with me later because i am not stopping for someone who doesn't want to be with me."

thats definitely the approach I look to take, I think it is very respectful and dignified. I just get wrapped up in my emotions at times haha I plan to stick by him without being his crutch. Also typically when I break up with someone, I am done. they are OUT. No looking back. So for me to continue with him, even post break up, is still being with him.. if that makes sense. whats your sun/moon?

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ohhh yea, he broke up with me. Said it was because hes not in a good place right now and he needed to get himself there first :/

I can only speak for myself but if an ex had used that reason on me, I wouldn't be seeing them anymore. Maybe yeah be friends, depending on the friendship before the relationship but there would be no kissing, no hugging. He drew a line in the sand and God knows I wouldn't cross it even if it kills me.

I wonder about that I'm not in a good place right now line. I don't know but if you really wanted to be with someone, you wouldn't let them go would you? Even if life was shit.

I always imagine that despite how hard life could get, if the relationship mattered, you would do everything to hang on to it. That he hasnt would give me pause that perhaps if he really felt strongly, he wouldnt cut you loose.

I can agree with you on that sentiment, I felt like that to when we broke up. Like if you wanted to be with me YOU JUST WOULD BE WITH ME! But I guess to him its different, he said he was broke, he felt he didn't have anything to offer me and that he couldn't take care of me. Relationships take energy and time and he felt he couldn't give me what I deserved. He got really depressed, sometimes I would see him and he changed so much. I could feel his sadness, it made me so sad. Im an empath, I would go home after seeing him and cried, releasing what I think was his pain, I knew it wasn't my pain. At times, I feel that when we were together, I could've been more understanding and more patient. I had a feeling he was depressed but after he lost a job, he just pushed me away and withdrew completely. I didn't realize work would make him feel this way... I've never had that experience.

But I did have the experience of depression and I struggled with it for most of my life so after we broke up, he admitted it to me that he was depressed, I felt I couldn't leave his side. I would never want him to feel alone or feel half as bad as I felt when I was severely depressed. But there is light at the end of the tunnel and after alot of healing, Im much better and stable now. Thats why he told me he's not in a good place right now, he said he needed to pick himself up and I agreed. I knew what it was like, I had been there, in a dark and lonely, sad place. I told him I'd be support for him and I loved him, I wasn't going to pressure him for a relationship for now because I'd rather that happen naturally and once he's better again. So I'm sticking by him as he gets better. And he has been... When I saw him for dinner after he got back from xmas, I noticed he was different.. A bit more put together, a bit healthier. We've been in contact alot and he has been interviewing for some jobs and we're hoping all goes good.

Sometimes I get impatient I think, Im scared to be hurt/played/betrayed. I guess I shouldn't assume the worst always. What changed now is that we had a long conversation where we talked about our childhoods and he explained why making money (alot of money) was so important to him and everything made sense to me. It clicked. But at times I wonder... is my heart at risk here? I guess love is always a risk

yes, i understand your point of view. i guess i just wouldn't play it the same way. perhaps you have more patience or you are willing to invest more.

i suppose in my thinking is that i inspire strength when i show it. he has to reach my level to be with me, i will not join him to dawdle in the mud. if he needs time to get himself together, then take the time and catch up with me later because i am not stopping for someone who doesn't want to be with me.

but ultimately you have to do what you feel is best for you. there are many different ways to skin a cat. 🙂

hmmm, i really like that...

"i suppose in my thinking is that i inspire strength when i show it. he has to reach my level to be with me, i will not join him to dawdle in the mud. if he needs time to get himself together, then take the time and catch up with me later because i am not stopping for someone who doesn't want to be with me."

thats definitely the approach I look to take, I think it is very respectful and dignified. I just get wrapped up in my emotions at times haha I plan to stick by him without being his crutch. Also typically when I break up with someone, I am done. they are OUT. No looking back. So for me to continue with him, even post break up, is still being with him.. if that makes sense. whats your sun/moon?

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i'm libra sun with sag moon, scorp venus.

it's different if we are a couple. if we're together, i would walk through fire and be trapped under ice with him but once you're out, i'm out.

yeah, it does make sense which is why, to me, it doesn't make any sense!

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Considering he's a Taurus, I think when you said "If you hook up with someone, let me know", I think that might have hurt him a bit. Maybe he assumed that hooking up with other people was out of the question. But when you told him that, he may have felt like you don't see it as a big deal if one of you hooks up with someone else because he sees it as a big deal.

Also, Tauruses don't usually jump right into adventures. They like to take their sweet time testing the waters, making it escalate slowly. They look for a long-term partner, so it's understandable that they want to take it slow.

If you want the same thing, show him your undying loyalty and faithfulness, because that's what Tauruses want. Loyalty. Faithfulness. Stability. Security.

But if eternal loyalty is not your style , don't fake it just to make him like you.

Be honest. Tauruses value honesty.

I know you love adventures, Scorp, but if you're chasing after a Taurus, be ready for a long-term commitment.

And be patient. Let things slowly escalate.

thank you, those are great points...

how long is too long though?? lol this is what I don't get.

But really, Im in no rush. I talk to him when I do and feel happy, peace, safe.

I love that..

To be quite frank, I used to be into an aqua... for 6 years! He's great but he was so flighty, but I was loyal, and stuck around and then it just didn't work out but I feel that I wasted 6 yrs!!!

I think that is what makes me so hesitant to wait for someone.. and yall say taurus takes forever— omggggggggg longer than aqua—?

Not necessarily longer than aqua. Honestly, I think if Aqua makes you wait so long, it probably means they aren't sure if they want to be with you, or aren't sure in what way they see you. Aquas aren't really the type who will commit, they are kinda obsessed with freedom.

Tauruses just need time to feel secure and to be convinced that you are in it for the long haul. But once they really believe that you are there to stay, they will give themselves fully, and commit 100% .

You do need to be patient with a Taurus, but if he is interested, you should be able to notice the relationship moving forward, slow as it may be.

Yea, I can see that... I guess its confusing because we are broken up, so its like do you want me in your life or not— I can understand when they are hesitant before being a couple but we already had committed to each other so I find it odd to go in reverse but its kinda working for me actually so idk. I think he loves me... Idk I just do. He has said it before but idk... I feel like he does. His eyes tell me and his patience in return with me. It would just be easier for me to be together so I wouldn't have to feel unsure. Maybe security on my part too?

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Tauruses also really appreciate directness instead of the "try-to-guess-how-i'm-feeling" game.

Try to openly ask him if he's interested in you and if he wants to be with you, and what's preventing him from being with you right now.

Tell him what you just told me, that it makes you feel unsure and that you're receiving mixed signals.

It may not be easy to get him to open up about his feelings, but make him feel safe to talk about it, and he will open up.