Serious help with a Taurus guy

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I am going to try to keep it short. I like this Taurus guy, but I am unsure if he likes me. I believe he does, but I don't know. If he does not like me, I am ready to move on. So okay... I met him at work. When I immediately saw him (the first day I began working at the job), I was drawn to him. I could not stopped looking at him. However, I did not have romantic feelings for him. I just found him interested. But when I looked at him he would not look at me, so I stopped. Figuring I was making him uncomfortable. However, my second week at work, I notice he began looking at me. In fact, he would pace back and forth while looking at me to get my attention. And the following weeks he got even more intense with me. Following me around, staring at me, standing super closed to me, being super clumsy around me, fixing his hair, being super shy and never saying a word to me etc. In the mist of it, I began to develop feelings for him. Feelings I have develop for no guy before. I always play it smart when it comes to men. But with him, I found myself falling super fast. And I did not like that, therefore I did not acted on my feelings for him. So now we are at the present. After I could no longer hide my feelings for him. And I felt he was sending cues that he did not like me anymore,acting cold towards me (I found out later that Taurus men run hot and cold). Which led to me telling him I like him two weeks ago. And I explained to him the reason I did not tell him I like him. All he said after I told him I like him, he does not have a girlfriend. But he never directly said he likes me. But now he smiles at me more, talks to me more but never asked for my number or go on a date. And also he has been super flirty with another girl, e.g. hugging her, while still staring at me. He continues to follow me around, hover over me, being attentive to my needs, smiling at me, playing attention to who I am talking to. And sometimes ignoring me or pretending I don't exist by not looking at me, but then look at me when I move. What do you think, should I move on? Or asked him directly if he likes me? Or ask him about the girl? I don't know. But I am frustrated! And confused. I have experience a Taurus male before but he did not act like this. And he liked me. Also I have a Mars in Scorpio.
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Posted by Nefertari
I think you can develop friendship with the Taurus first if you are really into him. They are about security like JohntheBaptist said.

It's impt to gain his trust first. All the flirting, staring and interest would not matter if you are not someone he can rely on and trust.

Can try, but know they will be very slow.
I read about how slow Tauruses are, they take forever to make up there minds.
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Posted by Nefertari
I agree a Taurus will never mix business with pleasure, but they will continue with people as friends and in the workplace, refer to everyone as colleagues. But if he is dropping signs that strong, staring and hovering, chances are high.

Would you guys be in the same workplace or job post forever?
No I am going back to school next year. . As much as, I want to get all romantic or go on a date with him. I rather take it slow with him, be friends. I do want to say since I made the post, he has been talking to me, lately.
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I agree a Taurus will never mix business with pleasure, but they will continue with people as friends and in the workplace, refer to everyone as colleagues. But if he is dropping signs that strong, staring and hovering, chances are high.

Would you guys be in the same workplace or job post forever?
No I am going back to school next year. . As much as, I want to get all romantic or go on a date with him. I rather take it slow with him, be friends. I do want to say since I made the post, he has been talking to me, lately.


So why create this post— What exactly to you want from him?? You don't want a romantic connection it seems as you are going back to school so is it just "attention seeking"? Smh!
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Huh! I am far from an " attention seeker", but okay. Anyway, what do I want, to get to know him. Of course, I want to date him. I stated I like him. But I was unsure about how he felt about me. Because he would get so shy around me and be unable to say anything. But I believe he likes me but some of his action confused me, which was stated in my post. So I was seeking advice from other Taurus about if his action equals him liking me.

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Huh! I am far from an " attention seeker", but okay. Anyway, what do I want, to get to know him. Of course, I want to date him. I stated I like him. But I was unsure about how he felt about me. Because he would get so shy around me and be unable to say anything. But I believe he likes me but some of his action confused me, which was stated in my post. So I was seeking advice from other Taurus about if his action equals him liking me.


In the first post, there are soooooo many signs that he likes you!! Have confidence. But I can only say most Taurus take time to commit.

I've seen gf who became quite tired emotionally cos they are not sure he's there. Hard to explain, but you'd know what I mean when you involve with one.

But the signs point that he is interested in you. Pretty sure about that. Anyone wants to back up here?

But I wouldn't want to jump into a relationship immediately. Take time to consider things.

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Huh! I am far from an " attention seeker", but okay. Anyway, what do I want, to get to know him. Of course, I want to date him. I stated I like him. But I was unsure about how he felt about me. Because he would get so shy around me and be unable to say anything. But I believe he likes me but some of his action confused me, which was stated in my post. So I was seeking advice from other Taurus about if his action equals him liking me.


In the first post, there are soooooo many signs that he likes you!! Have confidence. But I can only say most Taurus take time to commit.

I've seen gf who became quite tired emotionally cos they are not sure he's there. Hard to explain, but you'd know what I mean when you involve with one.

But the signs point that he is interested in you. Pretty sure about that. Anyone wants to back up here?

But I wouldn't want to jump into a relationship immediately. Take time to consider things.

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thank you for the kind words. I will take them in to consideration. I know he likes me but it is up to him, like you said to "commit." Sometimes he is frustrating even in a platonic relationship. Tauruses!

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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Stick with friendship. It is quite rare for a Taurus to date a fellow work colleague as their work is their security and their security they will not risk...
I just wanted to add to this.... I dated lol (was/is friends) with a Taurus man that was my colleague. We worked in the same small building 3 years while dating(hanging) heavily during that time. He noticed me when I started and He asked me out(hang) several times before I actually couldn't avoid the question anymore. Eventually, I found a better opportunity, resigned and we continued to date (hang). His work is certainly his security as he has over 2 decades vested with his job. It took us over a year to become sexually intimate even with hanging out 2-3 times a week. I never got the title of gf but I did land a spot in the friend zone lol.
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Stick with friendship. It is quite rare for a Taurus to date a fellow work colleague as their work is their security and their security they will not risk...
I just wanted to add to this.... I dated lol (was/is friends) with a Taurus man that was my colleague. We worked in the same small building 3 years while dating(hanging) heavily during that time. He noticed me when I started and He asked me out(hang) several times before I actually couldn't avoid the question anymore. Eventually, I found a better opportunity, resigned and we continued to date (hang). His work is certainly his security as he has over 2 decades vested with his job. It took us over a year to become sexually intimate even with hanging out 2-3 times a week. I never got the title of gf but I did land a spot in the friend zone lol.

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They gotta keep up the harem image...

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Stick with friendship. It is quite rare for a Taurus to date a fellow work colleague as their work is their security and their security they will not risk...
I just wanted to add to this.... I dated lol (was/is friends) with a Taurus man that was my colleague. We worked in the same small building 3 years while dating(hanging) heavily during that time. He noticed me when I started and He asked me out(hang) several times before I actually couldn't avoid the question anymore. Eventually, I found a better opportunity, resigned and we continued to date (hang). His work is certainly his security as he has over 2 decades vested with his job. It took us over a year to become sexually intimate even with hanging out 2-3 times a week. I never got the title of gf but I did land a spot in the friend zone lol.


You sound like a "fwb" who then got "friend zoned"... You should not have slept with him without the gf title...
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I agree, I should not have .
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Stick with friendship. It is quite rare for a Taurus to date a fellow work colleague as their work is their security and their security they will not risk...
I just wanted to add to this.... I dated lol (was/is friends) with a Taurus man that was my colleague. We worked in the same small building 3 years while dating(hanging) heavily during that time. He noticed me when I started and He asked me out(hang) several times before I actually couldn't avoid the question anymore. Eventually, I found a better opportunity, resigned and we continued to date (hang). His work is certainly his security as he has over 2 decades vested with his job. It took us over a year to become sexually intimate even with hanging out 2-3 times a week. I never got the title of gf but I did land a spot in the friend zone lol.



They gotta keep up the harem image...


FACT... It's just an "image" but half of these men are so docile when you meet them.. It's so strange to hear these girls getting caught out by the most docile sign on the planet...
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The sad part about my situation, is I am an adult woman who knew better.
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Stick with friendship. It is quite rare for a Taurus to date a fellow work colleague as their work is their security and their security they will not risk...
I just wanted to add to this.... I dated lol (was/is friends) with a Taurus man that was my colleague. We worked in the same small building 3 years while dating(hanging) heavily during that time. He noticed me when I started and He asked me out(hang) several times before I actually couldn't avoid the question anymore. Eventually, I found a better opportunity, resigned and we continued to date (hang). His work is certainly his security as he has over 2 decades vested with his job. It took us over a year to become sexually intimate even with hanging out 2-3 times a week. I never got the title of gf but I did land a spot in the friend zone lol.



They gotta keep up the harem image...


FACT... It's just an "image" but half of these men are so docile when you meet them.. It's so strange to hear these girls getting caught out by the most docile sign on the planet...
The sad part about my situation, is I am an adult woman who knew better.
I know a lot of Leos in the same situation. They give too quickly. Sorry to have to say that... They are very quick...
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Out of curiosity, what is considered too quickly?
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Ah, interesting. Well, I do have a passive aggressive side to me. I want to be wanted and not feel like I'm being chosen because of need or last result(damn leo pride lol). At any rate, I made it very clear what I wanted, we discussed it a few times and the end result was, he simply didn't want the same thing I wanted, from me. Unfortunately, this happens all the time when we put ourselves out there and become interested in people.

I was initially only pointing out, that as much as I know his job has been a constant in his life for years and very very important to his stability, that he took a risk on dating(hanging) out with someone who worked with him.



You Taurus are very interesting people...really makes me want to study human behavior lol!

I love being a Leo but the level of crypticness(is that a word lol) and the chillness is admirable!

For the OP - I'd say enjoy the friendship, it can be very fun. Live your life, observe him closely, be open, honest, strategic in your efforts to discuss issues, have NO expectations/hope of a relationship and embrace PATIENCE.
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Ah, interesting. Well, I do have a passive aggressive side to me. I want to be wanted and not feel like I'm being chosen because of need or last result(damn leo pride lol). At any rate, I made it very clear what I wanted, we discussed it a few times and the end result was, he simply didn't want the same thing I wanted, from me. Unfortunately, this happens all the time when we put ourselves out there and become interested in people.

I was initially only pointing out, that as much as I know his job has been a constant in his life for years and very very important to his stability, that he took a risk on dating(hanging) out with someone who worked with him.



You Taurus are very interesting people...really makes me want to study human behavior lol!

I love being a Leo but the level of crypticness(is that a word lol) and the chillness is admirable!

For the OP - I'd say enjoy the friendship, it can be very fun. Live your life, observe him closely, be open, honest, strategic in your efforts to discuss issues, have NO expectations/hope of a relationship and embrace PATIENCE.
I am sorry about what happen with you and your Taurus guy/friend. I will take the last part in consideration. And yes I am studying him closely, there is no other way with me. I honestly don't know where the relationship is going with him. It lies on his side and not mines. I told him I like him, it's up to him what he wants to do about it. But thanks.
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Ah, interesting. Well, I do have a passive aggressive side to me. I want to be wanted and not feel like I'm being chosen because of need or last result(damn leo pride lol). At any rate, I made it very clear what I wanted, we discussed it a few times and the end result was, he simply didn't want the same thing I wanted, from me. Unfortunately, this happens all the time when we put ourselves out there and become interested in people.

I was initially only pointing out, that as much as I know his job has been a constant in his life for years and very very important to his stability, that he took a risk on dating(hanging) out with someone who worked with him.



You Taurus are very interesting people...really makes me want to study human behavior lol!

I love being a Leo but the level of crypticness(is that a word lol) and the chillness is admirable!

For the OP - I'd say enjoy the friendship, it can be very fun. Live your life, observe him closely, be open, honest, strategic in your efforts to discuss issues, have NO expectations/hope of a relationship and embrace PATIENCE.
Nice one.

I just want to say if you got friend zoned, maybe it's also better for you to consider other options. If you are just a girl in his harem, and he knows he's got you around his fingers, he will just play you with minimum effort until someone better comes along. Not good.

Better to look out for someone who can respects you and treats you the way you should be treated.

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Update: Me and the Taurus are no longer friends or etc. I told him I am done with him. We are no longer talking, etc. The short story is he is a player (Venus in Gemini). No detail needed. Simply a player. He just wanted attention. I learned my lesson. I will never get involve with a male Taurus romantically or as friends, especially ones who has a Gemini in his birth chart. This whole experience left a bad taste in my mouth.
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Stick with friendship. It is quite rare for a Taurus to date a fellow work colleague as their work is their security and their security they will not risk...
I just wanted to add to this.... I dated lol (was/is friends) with a Taurus man that was my colleague. We worked in the same small building 3 years while dating(hanging) heavily during that time. He noticed me when I started and He asked me out(hang) several times before I actually couldn't avoid the question anymore. Eventually, I found a better opportunity, resigned and we continued to date (hang). His work is certainly his security as he has over 2 decades vested with his job. It took us over a year to become sexually intimate even with hanging out 2-3 times a week. I never got the title of gf but I did land a spot in the friend zone lol.



They gotta keep up the harem image...


FACT... It's just an "image" but half of these men are so docile when you meet them.. It's so strange to hear these girls getting caught out by the most docile sign on the planet...
The sad part about my situation, is I am an adult woman who knew better.
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@Leogurl, be gentle on yourself.