How do you interpret

something like this?

you haven't seen each other for months but when you do, fights go on forever (your fault btw) like twice you've even fought like 10 hours straight. every single day for a whole week you're fighting. things even got physical. you're always just trying to hurt each other. you get kicked out and you tell her: "go see someone else. I wanna be alone."

you hang up whenever she calls.

she's like wtf but she obeys.

their pics come out then you block her on FB and you text long, pisces moon paragraphs and angrily ask: "why are you seeing someone else?! even if i ordered you to do it, you wouldn't if you really loved me." then you obsessively ask her every day: "is he sleeping there? does he stay there?" the texts are all just begging not to have sex, I love yous, how can you do this to me blah blah. "how can he have all those tattoos? if he's any decent, then how come he's single at his age?" lmfao.

she's like wtf again coz you both have tattoos and are the same age. she tells you: "I have to block you on my phone now coz my boyfriend doesn't like me talking to you." and you're like: "why are you so submissive to this guy?'"

she doesn't really call nor text you anymore no matter what you say. you stalk her FB through your cousins then one day you saw posts of her buying new kitchenware and some post saying: "we're making fried chicken." 🍗🍗

apparently, this was the last straw for you.

you go to her apartment uninvited, claiming you're jealous and demanding she ends it with the guy she's seeing and again she obeys. then you say this: "you're my safety. I'd rather who loves me. " (this is from another language but this is the best I can translate). but wtf does that mean? did all the fighting make her look "unsafe" for a while?

then you're back to making plans about taking her to your family for vacation and discussing your bank accounts together.

what do you think of this behavior?

Posted by WarAngel

Y'all are toxic.

ikr they're terrible together

I couldn’t read it sorry,

2 words

Inner peace



What a beautiful thing

Posted by Wizardz

He's a narcissist and it's co-dependent and she's enabling his crazy behaviour and someone's going to get hurt

how is she enabling it?

I can't see it 😕

Posted by Tsunamy

Wait so are they back together now?

yes

Posted by Tsunamy

I think she's doing great. I would have fucked him the time he showed up uninvited. Water moons really know how to bring out the toxic in me.

honestly this isn't really my friend, I'm actually talking about me lol

but you're so right. he came over, closed the door and wasted no time. never thought I'd have that much sex in one day. now I don't even think I'm human anymore 👽

WoW ... you really are a masochist, Virgo

🥴

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

Posted by Sagoxa

Been in one like this. I'm thankful I got out lol 😆

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Why would you stay? 🥴

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Sagoxa

Been in one like this. I'm thankful I got out lol 😆

Like

Why would you stay? 🥴

Trauma bonding.

It is difficult to recognize and form a healthy relationship if all youve known throughout your life is chaos. Human likes familiarity. She's familiar with this type of rollercoaster relationship hence she chose this one instead of the secured one.

I'm glad for my saturn return really. It brings self awareness.

Now everytime I'm about to enter a relationship I always ask myself, am I in love or am I in trauma?

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then how come he thinks of me as 'safety?'

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Sagoxa

Been in one like this. I'm thankful I got out lol 😆

Like

Why would you stay? 🥴

Trauma bonding.

It is difficult to recognize and form a healthy relationship if all youve known throughout your life is chaos. Human likes familiarity. She's familiar with this type of rollercoaster relationship hence she chose this one instead of the secured one.

I'm glad for my saturn return really. It brings self awareness.

Now everytime I'm about to enter a relationship I always ask myself, am I in love or am I in trauma?

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Yes learned behaviour and all that but evenso there has to be a limit/cut off point ...

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Sagoxa

Been in one like this. I'm thankful I got out lol 😆

Like

Why would you stay? 🥴

Trauma bonding.

It is difficult to recognize and form a healthy relationship if all youve known throughout your life is chaos. Human likes familiarity. She's familiar with this type of rollercoaster relationship hence she chose this one instead of the secured one.

I'm glad for my saturn return really. It brings self awareness.

Now everytime I'm about to enter a relationship I always ask myself, am I in love or am I in trauma?

then how come he thinks of me as 'safety?'

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Knowing other details you provided in previous threads, it translates to:

-I don’t love you

-I’m in for the assets and money your family provides

-I’m possessive of your wealth, which I consider mines, and won’t allow some other thug to steal it from me

-You seem brainwashed enough to do whatever I want, so you will tolerate my future cheating, taking advantage of you, milking you dry, putting you aside like a used puppet and taking you back when you seem to wake up

You’re just allowing him to carry on with his screwed up dysfunctional behaviour ....

really difficult to decipher this mess, can't tell which POV I'm supposed to adopt, you're way too indirect, not just in writing probably.

You seem to be enjoying this situation, but is that the type of relationship you're giong to be doing forever? You're going to entertain his cuck complex forever?

This isn't healthy in the long term, especially for him. But if it's just for the sex, then have fun

Yikes.

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Sagoxa

Been in one like this. I'm thankful I got out lol 😆

Like

Why would you stay? 🥴

Trauma bonding.

It is difficult to recognize and form a healthy relationship if all youve known throughout your life is chaos. Human likes familiarity. She's familiar with this type of rollercoaster relationship hence she chose this one instead of the secured one.

I'm glad for my saturn return really. It brings self awareness.

Now everytime I'm about to enter a relationship I always ask myself, am I in love or am I in trauma?

Yes learned behaviour and all that but evenso there has to be a limit/cut off point ...

It will be difficult without self awareness though.. even if she gets out she'll only fall in love with men who trauma bonds her again. It's a never ending cycle 🤪

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And a desire to want to of course but yes it can be difficult to break patterns...

Been there, done that🥴

Posted by hydorah

really difficult to decipher this mess, can't tell which POV I'm supposed to adopt, you're way too indirect, not just in writing probably.

You seem to be enjoying this situation, but is that the type of relationship you're giong to be doing forever? You're going to entertain his cuck complex forever?

This isn't healthy in the long term, especially for him. But if it's just for the sex, then have fun

no, I'm not always very direct.

most times I'm exhausting this way.

but I seriously thought about how impractical the whole thing is for me multiple times recently. everybody's telling me to go the other direction but I'm just too attached at the moment.

Posted by MyStarsShine

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

Her last sentence gave it away she’s trolling.

At least for me the alien emoji made it pretty clear. I wouldn’t even be alarmed, if she is in an abusive relationship, she thrives off the toxicity and she thrives off of getting attention from strangers online.

Posted by Raminz

Posted by MyStarsShine

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

People are making it seem like he’s a bad guy. My friend was in a similar situation where this Virgo would try to get him angry. She would get turned on to see him angry. He kindly excused himself from the situation and now offers validation in exchange for Starbucks gift cards. Clean living.

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Huh—

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by hydorah

really difficult to decipher this mess, can't tell which POV I'm supposed to adopt, you're way too indirect, not just in writing probably.

You seem to be enjoying this situation, but is that the type of relationship you're giong to be doing forever? You're going to entertain his cuck complex forever?

This isn't healthy in the long term, especially for him. But if it's just for the sex, then have fun

no, I'm not always very direct.

most times I'm exhausting this way.

but I seriously thought about how impractical the whole thing is for me multiple times recently. everybody's telling me to go the other direction but I'm just too attached at the moment.

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If you're attached, maybe you should think of how you could improve his life rather than play perverse games.

It's an advice we can all apply to ourselves, even me

Posted by malloryor

Posted by MyStarsShine

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

Her last sentence gave it away she’s trolling.

At least for me the alien emoji made it pretty clear. I wouldn’t even be alarmed, if she is in an abusive relationship, she thrives off the toxicity and she thrives off of getting attention from strangers online.

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Sometimes I think some members are mythomaniac, and that often includes the OP, but it doesn't matter, I answer as if it was real anyway

Posted by hydorah

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by hydorah

really difficult to decipher this mess, can't tell which POV I'm supposed to adopt, you're way too indirect, not just in writing probably.

You seem to be enjoying this situation, but is that the type of relationship you're giong to be doing forever? You're going to entertain his cuck complex forever?

This isn't healthy in the long term, especially for him. But if it's just for the sex, then have fun

no, I'm not always very direct.

most times I'm exhausting this way.

but I seriously thought about how impractical the whole thing is for me multiple times recently. everybody's telling me to go the other direction but I'm just too attached at the moment.

If you're attached, maybe you should think of how you could improve his life rather than play perverse games.

It's an advice we can all apply to ourselves, even me

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he started this mess tbh

but yeah I didn't do any better

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Sagoxa

Been in one like this. I'm thankful I got out lol 😆

Like

Why would you stay? 🥴

Trauma bonding.

It is difficult to recognize and form a healthy relationship if all youve known throughout your life is chaos. Human likes familiarity. She's familiar with this type of rollercoaster relationship hence she chose this one instead of the secured one.

I'm glad for my saturn return really. It brings self awareness.

Now everytime I'm about to enter a relationship I always ask myself, am I in love or am I in trauma?

then how come he thinks of me as 'safety?'

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i don't know the background but if there has been abuse and violence in this relationship, this comment makes me want to give you a hug.

don't go back to or stay in a violent situation. ever. please believe me when i say that. there is no amount of love or sex that will ever make that the right choice.

Posted by hydorah

Posted by malloryor

Posted by MyStarsShine

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

Her last sentence gave it away she’s trolling.

At least for me the alien emoji made it pretty clear. I wouldn’t even be alarmed, if she is in an abusive relationship, she thrives off the toxicity and she thrives off of getting attention from strangers online.

Sometimes I think some members are mythomaniac, and that often includes the OP, but it doesn't matter, I answer as if it was real anyway

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Oh no, they for sure are. The thing is, I don’t get why? Like who gives af if a bunch of internet strangers believe you? We don’t know you, we can’t validate you in any meaningful way, we can’t come rescue you, we can’t expose the person you “claim” is harming you...so why lie? Why exaggerate?

It’s really kinda pathetic.

It sounds like you guys don't need to be together and are very incompatible.

Virgos giving life to the toxic drama smh. I don't know how ya'll do this and really think it's a healthy type of love.

Posted by malloryor

Posted by hydorah

Posted by malloryor

Posted by MyStarsShine

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

Her last sentence gave it away she’s trolling.

At least for me the alien emoji made it pretty clear. I wouldn’t even be alarmed, if she is in an abusive relationship, she thrives off the toxicity and she thrives off of getting attention from strangers online.

Sometimes I think some members are mythomaniac, and that often includes the OP, but it doesn't matter, I answer as if it was real anyway

Oh no, they for sure are. The thing is, I don’t get why? Like who gives af if a bunch of internet strangers believe you? We don’t know you, we can’t validate you in any meaningful way, we can’t come rescue you, we can’t expose the person you “claim” is harming you...so why lie? Why exaggerate?

It’s really kinda pathetic.

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Oh come on, this is why we come here and they provide us with entertainement

Sounds exhausting.

I know you wanted to prove your hater aunt wrong. But is it really worth it?

Posted by hydorah

Posted by malloryor

Posted by hydorah

Posted by malloryor

Posted by MyStarsShine

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

Her last sentence gave it away she’s trolling.

At least for me the alien emoji made it pretty clear. I wouldn’t even be alarmed, if she is in an abusive relationship, she thrives off the toxicity and she thrives off of getting attention from strangers online.

Sometimes I think some members are mythomaniac, and that often includes the OP, but it doesn't matter, I answer as if it was real anyway

Oh no, they for sure are. The thing is, I don’t get why? Like who gives af if a bunch of internet strangers believe you? We don’t know you, we can’t validate you in any meaningful way, we can’t come rescue you, we can’t expose the person you “claim” is harming you...so why lie? Why exaggerate?

It’s really kinda pathetic.

Oh come on, this is why we come here and they provide us with entertainement

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I’m sorry, I never found the antics of trolls funny. For one, to be a good troll, you can’t rat on yourself like OP did. Two, it shouldn’t be obvious you’re trolling.

What

Posted by malloryor

Posted by MyStarsShine

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

Her last sentence gave it away she’s trolling.

At least for me the alien emoji made it pretty clear. I wouldn’t even be alarmed, if she is in an abusive relationship, she thrives off the toxicity and she thrives off of getting attention from strangers online.

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I think she may be telling the truth and I’m thinking the Alien emoji represented the Other Worldly sex 😀

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by malloryor

Posted by MyStarsShine

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

Her last sentence gave it away she’s trolling.

At least for me the alien emoji made it pretty clear. I wouldn’t even be alarmed, if she is in an abusive relationship, she thrives off the toxicity and she thrives off of getting attention from strangers online.

I think she may be telling the truth and I’m thinking the Alien emoji represented the Other Worldly sex 😀

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Yeah. But she mocks herself in the beginning by saying “yeah they’re super toxic,” then admits it’s “her” and then dismisses all of the explosive claims she made by saying they had otherworldly sex.

Troll moves, get people invested, just to then dismiss all the crazy like it’s nothing.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Sagoxa

Been in one like this. I'm thankful I got out lol 😆

Like

Why would you stay? 🥴

Trauma bonding.

It is difficult to recognize and form a healthy relationship if all youve known throughout your life is chaos. Human likes familiarity. She's familiar with this type of rollercoaster relationship hence she chose this one instead of the secured one.

I'm glad for my saturn return really. It brings self awareness.

Now everytime I'm about to enter a relationship I always ask myself, am I in love or am I in trauma?

then how come he thinks of me as 'safety?'

i don't know the background but if there has been abuse and violence in this relationship, this comment makes me want to give you a hug.

don't go back to or stay in a violent situation. ever. please believe me when i say that. there is no amount of love or sex that will ever make that the right choice.

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thanks but honestly I was the one who physically retaliated when I found something on his phone (I've never done this before until I started to get this really bad feeling) and I caught something on his phone the 2nd time again which then started all the fights and the resentment.. then I was even more enraged when he felt like he can set the terms with me and have the nerve to say I should see someone else after what HE DID

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by jeane

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Sagoxa

Been in one like this. I'm thankful I got out lol 😆

Like

Why would you stay? 🥴

Trauma bonding.

It is difficult to recognize and form a healthy relationship if all youve known throughout your life is chaos. Human likes familiarity. She's familiar with this type of rollercoaster relationship hence she chose this one instead of the secured one.

I'm glad for my saturn return really. It brings self awareness.

Now everytime I'm about to enter a relationship I always ask myself, am I in love or am I in trauma?

then how come he thinks of me as 'safety?'

i don't know the background but if there has been abuse and violence in this relationship, this comment makes me want to give you a hug.

don't go back to or stay in a violent situation. ever. please believe me when i say that. there is no amount of love or sex that will ever make that the right choice.

thanks but honestly I was the one who physically retaliated when I found something on his phone (I've never done this before until I started to get this really bad feeling) and I caught something on his phone the 2nd time again which then started all the fights and the resentment.. then I was even more enraged when he felt like he can set the terms with me and have the nerve to say I should see someone else after what HE DID

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i hope you've managed to get a handle on that. never resort to that. walk away. have a smoke. go for a run. punch a punching bag. scream into a pillow. it's so easy to have that as your go to reaction and when you do it once, it's easy to allow yourself to do it again.

nothing good comes from it. if you stick with him or you don't. you'll take it to the next relationship and should you ever have kids, they will witness it. vow to yourself, your future relationship and any future children that that's not the person you are.

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Posted by malloryor

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by malloryor

Posted by MyStarsShine

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

Her last sentence gave it away she’s trolling.

At least for me the alien emoji made it pretty clear. I wouldn’t even be alarmed, if she is in an abusive relationship, she thrives off the toxicity and she thrives off of getting attention from strangers online.

I think she may be telling the truth and I’m thinking the Alien emoji represented the Other Worldly sex 😀

Yeah. But she mocks herself in the beginning by saying “yeah they’re super toxic,” then admits it’s “her” and then dismisses all of the explosive claims she made by saying they had otherworldly sex.

Troll moves, get people invested, just to then dismiss all the crazy like it’s nothing.

Sierra (her past username) isn't a troll. She is just excruciatingly honest even when it doesn't paint her in a positive light. I like the ugly honesty. It's refreshing. Too many people purposely omit ugly details which doesn't give us a full picture.

She knows this is toxic and doesn't really know how to stop the cycle. Some of us have been there. To some it may seem like easy answers to solve but real life isn't that easy.

-signed 12th house Venus

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Yeah, I think we’ve all been there. But at what point does it become a broken record? What’s the point in asking for advice if you don’t actually implement said advice? If this is something she knows is toxic, and she’s struggling to break away from it, but continues to seek help without applying action, when does it just become a cry for attention with no intention of actually changing and doing better?

It just feels incredibly enabling at this point to continue to entertain such toxic behavior without accountability.

Posted by KimboSlice

@malloryor your intuition isn’t playing tricks on you

The aspiring fanfic blogger behind this account even pretended to be another person until they were called out by people who are no longer active. Even her current supposed astro placements don’t add up on any calculator.

I think most people who want to believe the histrionics are slow or snorting copium.

Idk. Apparently other posters claim she’s credible and just being honest. But after awhile, it’s just a broken record. Either you acknowledge something is unhealthy and seek help, and apply those steps to move into a healthier space, or shut up and embrace the toxicity. You can’t keep asking for help but not taking accountability and applying it to your life.

Posted by jeane

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by jeane

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Sagoxa

Been in one like this. I'm thankful I got out lol 😆

Like

Why would you stay? 🥴

Trauma bonding.

It is difficult to recognize and form a healthy relationship if all youve known throughout your life is chaos. Human likes familiarity. She's familiar with this type of rollercoaster relationship hence she chose this one instead of the secured one.

I'm glad for my saturn return really. It brings self awareness.

Now everytime I'm about to enter a relationship I always ask myself, am I in love or am I in trauma?

then how come he thinks of me as 'safety?'

i don't know the background but if there has been abuse and violence in this relationship, this comment makes me want to give you a hug.

don't go back to or stay in a violent situation. ever. please believe me when i say that. there is no amount of love or sex that will ever make that the right choice.

thanks but honestly I was the one who physically retaliated when I found something on his phone (I've never done this before until I started to get this really bad feeling) and I caught something on his phone the 2nd time again which then started all the fights and the resentment.. then I was even more enraged when he felt like he can set the terms with me and have the nerve to say I should see someone else after what HE DID

i hope you've managed to get a handle on that. never resort to that. walk away. have a smoke. go for a run. punch a punching bag. scream into a pillow. it's so easy to have that as your go to reaction and when you do it once, it's easy to allow yourself to do it again.

nothing good comes from it. if you stick with him or you don't. you'll take it to the next relationship and should you ever have kids, they will witness it. vow to yourself, your future relationship and any future children that that's not the person you are.

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I know there's no excuse to get physical. but I don't regret it and wish I've done worse. I forgave twice and was willing to talk things out still even if 3rd or 4th coz I was so attached. but I do spend more time at the gym now. what he did felt to me beyond a physical blow- how I thought I was living at peace that turned out to be delusion.

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Posted by KimboSlice

@malloryor your intuition isn’t playing tricks on you

The aspiring fanfic blogger behind this account even pretended to be another person until they were called out by people who are no longer active. Even her current supposed astro placements don’t add up on any calculator.

I think most people who want to believe the histrionics are slow or snorting copium.

Idk. Apparently other posters claim she’s credible and just being honest. But after awhile, it’s just a broken record. Either you acknowledge something is unhealthy and seek help, and apply those steps to move into a healthier space, or shut up and embrace the toxicity. You can’t keep asking for help but not taking accountability and applying it to your life.

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I wanna vent and whine.

to be fair, I did start out trolling with this account but they were silly stories that were obviously stupid but I'm not crying wolf this time. I wasn't even online for some time, only recently. coz I thought I was finally living the static monotony I've always dreamed off until I found out about this. and I'm more histrionic in real life than I am online coz in fact I barely bother people here. just a harmless, annoying fly.

as you've said before, we Virgos have malleable morality. without clear instructions, anything goes. my personal belief systems and my choices might not even always align.

I know it's wrong and impractical but I can't stop.

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Posted by jeane

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by jeane

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Sagoxa

Been in one like this. I'm thankful I got out lol 😆

Like

Why would you stay? 🥴

Trauma bonding.

It is difficult to recognize and form a healthy relationship if all youve known throughout your life is chaos. Human likes familiarity. She's familiar with this type of rollercoaster relationship hence she chose this one instead of the secured one.

I'm glad for my saturn return really. It brings self awareness.

Now everytime I'm about to enter a relationship I always ask myself, am I in love or am I in trauma?

then how come he thinks of me as 'safety?'

i don't know the background but if there has been abuse and violence in this relationship, this comment makes me want to give you a hug.

don't go back to or stay in a violent situation. ever. please believe me when i say that. there is no amount of love or sex that will ever make that the right choice.

thanks but honestly I was the one who physically retaliated when I found something on his phone (I've never done this before until I started to get this really bad feeling) and I caught something on his phone the 2nd time again which then started all the fights and the resentment.. then I was even more enraged when he felt like he can set the terms with me and have the nerve to say I should see someone else after what HE DID

i hope you've managed to get a handle on that. never resort to that. walk away. have a smoke. go for a run. punch a punching bag. scream into a pillow. it's so easy to have that as your go to reaction and when you do it once, it's easy to allow yourself to do it again.

nothing good comes from it. if you stick with him or you don't. you'll take it to the next relationship and should you ever have kids, they will witness it. vow to yourself, your future relationship and any future children that that's not the person you are.

I know there's no excuse to get physical. but I don't regret it and wish I've done worse. I forgave twice and was willing to talk things out still even if 3rd or 4th coz I was so attached. but I do spend more time at the gym now. what he did felt to me beyond a physical blow- how I thought I was living at peace that turned out to be delusion.

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bad things are going to happen. life is and can be shit sometimes. hitting someone else who has a right to physical autonomy and dignity is not an option no matter how bad you feel.

if you don't care about him, then care that you couldn't control yourself and that alone is a weakness. it's the same as a man who beats his partner senseless and then proclaims "she knows how to push my buttons". it's not on. there's nothing that excuses it.

you might explain it way that it wasn't that bad. no abuser starts off by seriously hurting someone else. it all begins with minor slights.

Posted by Raminz

Posted by MyStarsShine

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

People are making it seem like he’s a bad guy. My friend was in a similar situation where this Virgo would try to get him angry. She would get turned on to see him angry. He kindly excused himself from the situation and now offers validation in exchange for Starbucks gift cards. Clean living.

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he did tell me that I was the 'only person who ever taught him how to be angry.'

we're both terrible people but everything that's happened originated from something he did that felt personally degrading and extremely hurtful to me. I turned into a ball of hurt, resentment and pettiness. he messed up once which I forgave and only a day passed by when he did the same thing. that's why I decided to pettily replace him when I had the chance just as quickly as a day coz I won't stand for that humiliation. and the fact he ordered me to!

I wasn't turned on by the anger. in fact, i felt he had no right to be angry with me. how dare he be angry when he's the one in the wrong. he planted seeds of doubt in our relationship and created a lack of trust that will never really disappear.

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by jeane

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by jeane

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Sagoxa

Been in one like this. I'm thankful I got out lol 😆

Like

Why would you stay? 🥴

Trauma bonding.

It is difficult to recognize and form a healthy relationship if all youve known throughout your life is chaos. Human likes familiarity. She's familiar with this type of rollercoaster relationship hence she chose this one instead of the secured one.

I'm glad for my saturn return really. It brings self awareness.

Now everytime I'm about to enter a relationship I always ask myself, am I in love or am I in trauma?

then how come he thinks of me as 'safety?'

i don't know the background but if there has been abuse and violence in this relationship, this comment makes me want to give you a hug.

don't go back to or stay in a violent situation. ever. please believe me when i say that. there is no amount of love or sex that will ever make that the right choice.

thanks but honestly I was the one who physically retaliated when I found something on his phone (I've never done this before until I started to get this really bad feeling) and I caught something on his phone the 2nd time again which then started all the fights and the resentment.. then I was even more enraged when he felt like he can set the terms with me and have the nerve to say I should see someone else after what HE DID

i hope you've managed to get a handle on that. never resort to that. walk away. have a smoke. go for a run. punch a punching bag. scream into a pillow. it's so easy to have that as your go to reaction and when you do it once, it's easy to allow yourself to do it again.

nothing good comes from it. if you stick with him or you don't. you'll take it to the next relationship and should you ever have kids, they will witness it. vow to yourself, your future relationship and any future children that that's not the person you are.

I know there's no excuse to get physical. but I don't regret it and wish I've done worse. I forgave twice and was willing to talk things out still even if 3rd or 4th coz I was so attached. but I do spend more time at the gym now. what he did felt to me beyond a physical blow- how I thought I was living at peace that turned out to be delusion.

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And yet you still end up back with him....,

Posted by Tsunamy

These people don't get earth signs. Keep seeing him. Cap men aren't pussies. Slapping one sounds hot.

he did accept it though coz he admittedly knew what he did was wrong but he played victim with his cousins but guess that's just the fake social side of capricorn. he wants to look clean in front of his family.

I feel like attachment is strong on earth signs much like the lure of sex and money srsly.

we both kept talking about how the length of time we've been together was such a waste and how dating other people was such a waste of money as we're saying our farewells lol. also, sex was one of the final topics we've had before the breakup. but we're back together now and you know he said:

"How can you badmouth me to everyone who listens to you when at any point in time we might get back together?"

"Imagine if we're married. You might murder me."

I call mind game but I'm not leaving (unless ordered) nor is he. but even then, I'd always find a way to lure him back. he must like the pain as much as I do.

Why don't Virgos like people who are nice to them? Sometimes, I really feel bad for the drama you guys like and put up with. You deserve better.

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These people don't get earth signs. Keep seeing him. Cap men aren't pussies. Slapping one sounds hot.

he did accept it though coz he admittedly knew what he did was wrong but he played victim with his cousins but guess that's just the fake social side of capricorn. he wants to look clean in front of his family.

I feel like attachment is strong on earth signs much like the lure of sex and money srsly.

we both kept talking about how the length of time we've been together was such as waste and how dating other people was such a waste of money as were saying our farewells lol. also, sex was one of the final topics we've had before the breakup. but we're back together now and you know he said:

"How can you badmouth me to everyone who listens to you when at any point in time we might get back together?"

"Imagine if we're married. You might murder me."

I call mind game but I'm not leaving (unless ordered) nor is he. but even then, I'd always find a way to lure him back. he must like the pain as much as I do.

I know exactly what you mean. Capricorns care way too much about reputation and for what? That's a serious downside for me. Makes them look like they're playing games. It's not solid. Not big enough risk takers. That's why I prefer the other two earth signs. Virgos will not give af what anybody thinks lol they'll go after what they want at all costs.

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lol at some people shading Virgos for moral ambiguity lmfao and from someone even more mutable

yeah sure I see some side chick Virgos, even famous ones but how can you resist the lure of a broken man? Lol

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These people don't get earth signs. Keep seeing him. Cap men aren't pussies. Slapping one sounds hot.

he did accept it though coz he admittedly knew what he did was wrong but he played victim with his cousins but guess that's just the fake social side of capricorn. he wants to look clean in front of his family.

I feel like attachment is strong on earth signs much like the lure of sex and money srsly.

we both kept talking about how the length of time we've been together was such as waste and how dating other people was such a waste of money as were saying our farewells lol. also, sex was one of the final topics we've had before the breakup. but we're back together now and you know he said:

"How can you badmouth me to everyone who listens to you when at any point in time we might get back together?"

"Imagine if we're married. You might murder me."

I call mind game but I'm not leaving (unless ordered) nor is he. but even then, I'd always find a way to lure him back. he must like the pain as much as I do.

I know exactly what you mean. Capricorns care way too much about reputation and for what? That's a serious downside for me. Makes them look like they're playing games. It's not solid. Not big enough risk takers. That's why I prefer the other two earth signs. Virgos will not give af what anybody thinks lol they'll go after what they want at all costs.

lol at some people shading Virgos for moral ambiguity lmfao and from someone even more mutable

yeah sure I see some side chick Virgos, even famous ones but how can you resist the lure of a broken man? Lol

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This is the sad thing for sure. Side chick Virgos and Virgo men even letting women come back into their lives to ruin their current relationships. I just don't get it.

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Posted by MyStarsShine

....i remember reading there was domestic violence in the rship. Why would you go back to that?

People are making it seem like he’s a bad guy. My friend was in a similar situation where this Virgo would try to get him angry. She would get turned on to see him angry. He kindly excused himself from the situation and now offers validation in exchange for Starbucks gift cards. Clean living.

he did tell me that I was the 'only person who ever taught him how to be angry.'

we're both terrible people but everything that's happened originated from something he did that felt personally degrading and extremely hurtful to me. I turned into a ball of hurt, resentment and pettiness. he messed up once which I forgave and only a day passed by when he did the same thing. that's why I decided to pettily replace him when I had the chance just as quickly as a day coz I won't stand for that humiliation. and the fact he ordered me to!

I wasn't turned on by the anger. in fact, i felt he had no right to be angry with me. how dare he be angry when he's the one in the wrong. he planted seeds of doubt in our relationship and created a lack of trust that will never really disappear.

Your friend and her boyfriend has the same sun moon combo as Dodo Cheng and her ex.

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what happened to them?

Posted by Hypnotoad

You allways dating weird Pisces/Cap placements then wondering why they're like this...

those are my dominant sign energies besides virgo which is why I think I'm attracted

Bestie you already know what I’m going to say about this 😭

Posted by saggurl88

Why don't Virgos like people who are nice to them? Sometimes, I really feel bad for the drama you guys like and put up with. You deserve better.

When you are so numb sometimes you just want to feel. Anything tbh. Good or bad. And there is much more good than bad out there.

Also we attract and are attracted to headass ppl since our whole memo is “saving” 😁

"we're making fried chicken." 🍗🍗