@Libra4rmTX
5 Years500+ Posts
Moving in together
a long while because
mystery and space is healthy.
When you are fast to move in together
and be together 24/7 it can be too much
and just kill the spark. I'd allow a year or so
to pass first unless you two are perfectly matched;
as in communication is healthy, both see eye to eye,
fights are very rare and there is a twin level connection.
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I'm considering never, or only if we have kids. If we're good, why change it? And if we're not, is moving in really the solution (to any problem)?
Of course she'll be chasing change, women always do; always have to fix things that aren't broken. but really, as a species, i think we should stop moving in together and stop having kids 'just cuz'. Live your best life.
Didn't take me long at all. But I feel more like I took in a hoarder. It doesn't feel like nothing serious on both our ends. We both just wanted to get even with her ex cancer boyfriend. Sound childish?....eee maybe.
I'm considering never, or only if we have kids. If we're good, why change it? And if we're not, is moving in really the solution (to any problem)?
Of course she'll be chasing change, women always do; always have to fix things that aren't broken. but really, as a species, i think we should stop moving in together and stop having kids 'just cuz'. Live your best life.
Man!!!!!!!!!!! I cant say shit except mmmmaaann cuz you hit the nail on the head. For me at least
The only two I’ve lived with I ended up marrying. First one was was about 6 months, but we were engaged already ( way too soon!). Second one we moved in at a year and a half.
How long is a piece of string?
Depends on who cuts it
I'm considering never, or only if we have kids. If we're good, why change it? And if we're not, is moving in really the solution (to any problem)?
Of course she'll be chasing change, women always do; always have to fix things that aren't broken. but really, as a species, i think we should stop moving in together and stop having kids 'just cuz'. Live your best life.
right* exactly*
I love this
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Fellas, how long would you be serious with a lady before considering this—
The one you was about to break up with?
How long is a piece of string?
Depends on who cuts it
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Nurse in a hospital. What’s left is what’s left…
Fellas, how long would you be serious with a lady before considering this—
The one you was about to break up with?
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Lol I need to know why you do me like this?? And this is a general question ma'am
Is there an actual formula?
Ehhh not really lol
How long is a piece of string?
Depends on who cuts it
Nurse in a hospital. What’s left is what’s left…
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Lol well thanks for that
How long is a piece of string?
Depends on who cuts it
There, you've answered your own question - it depends.
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True but I wasnt looking for an answer or solution. Just an opinion for philosophical reasons
Fellas, how long would you be serious with a lady before considering this—
The one you was about to break up with?
Lol I need to know why you do me like this?? And this is a general question ma'am
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Because you full of shit!
First you announcing about your upcoming break up. Then you get off on me for asking how it went and I meant ‘how is break up went’…WTF? You MADE IT PUBLIC…not me
Now you announced you won’t reply to me and you just did…
I am not DOING YOU any different than everybody since 2006! Can’t stand weak men! That’s MY problem. ✌️
Fellas, how long would you be serious with a lady before considering this—
The one you was about to break up with?
Lol I need to know why you do me like this?? And this is a general question ma'am
Because you full of shit!
First you announcing about your upcoming break up. Then you get off on me for asking how it went and I meant ‘how is break up went’…WTF? You MADE IT PUBLIC…not me
Now you announced you won’t reply to me and you just did…
I am not DOING YOU any different than everybody since 2006! Can’t stand weak men! That’s MY problem. ✌️
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Lol ok ma'am
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
a long while because
mystery and space is healthy.
When you are fast to move in together
and be together 24/7 it can be too much
and just kill the spark. I'd allow a year or so
to pass first unless you two are perfectly matched;
as in communication is healthy, both see eye to eye,
fights are very rare and there is a twin level connection.
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Ha!
This right here.
Is there an actual formula?
Right? How dumb is this question?
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
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I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
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Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
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Like, am I supposed to weep because you don't think my man is fine? k
He's not for you, he is for me.
We are attracted to different things, obviously. And I am good with that.
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
Like, am I supposed to weep because you don't think my man is fine? k
He's not for you, he is for me.
We are attracted to different things, obviously. And I am good with that.
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No shit! You are a designer of a beautiful things and you like flimsy boyz? Something doesn’t add up unless handsome man dumped you and you sworn to…yourself (because nobody else cares) that you will NEVER date man prettier than you and you went and picked whatever…
How close am I?
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
Like, am I supposed to weep because you don't think my man is fine? k
He's not for you, he is for me.
We are attracted to different things, obviously. And I am good with that.
No shit! You are a designer of a beautiful things and you like flimsy boyz? Something doesn’t add up unless handsome man dumped you and you sworn to…yourself (because nobody else cares) that you will NEVER date man prettier than you and you went and picked whatever…
How close am I?
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Keep fantasying about my life. You are big mad and it shows.
I've always been frank that I am punching well above my weight. He is WAY too fine to be with my ass, and yet...
Is there an actual formula?
@kachi_cake
take time. no rushing
enjoy the [mystery] and the [space],
both help to refuel any relationship ~
& take time to know them slowly while living apart or spending the night.
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Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
Like, am I supposed to weep because you don't think my man is fine? k
He's not for you, he is for me.
We are attracted to different things, obviously. And I am good with that.
No shit! You are a designer of a beautiful things and you like flimsy boyz? Something doesn’t add up unless handsome man dumped you and you sworn to…yourself (because nobody else cares) that you will NEVER date man prettier than you and you went and picked whatever…
How close am I?
Keep fantasying about my life. You are big mad and it shows.
I've always been frank that I am punching well above my weight. He is WAY too fine to be with my ass, and yet...
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YOU are mad! You make no sense ‘big mad’ and ‘punching well above your weight?’ WTF does THAT means?
Too fine? With THOSE hair? Just accept you’ve grabbed whatever you could…
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
Like, am I supposed to weep because you don't think my man is fine? k
He's not for you, he is for me.
We are attracted to different things, obviously. And I am good with that.
No shit! You are a designer of a beautiful things and you like flimsy boyz? Something doesn’t add up unless handsome man dumped you and you sworn to…yourself (because nobody else cares) that you will NEVER date man prettier than you and you went and picked whatever…
How close am I?
Keep fantasying about my life. You are big mad and it shows.
I've always been frank that I am punching well above my weight. He is WAY too fine to be with my ass, and yet...
YOU are mad! You make no sense ‘big mad’ and ‘punching well above your weight?’ WTF does THAT means?
Too fine? With THOSE hair? Just accept you’ve grabbed whatever you could…
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The bitter divorcee talking smack on my relationship is too funny. You do look mad af.
I'm not responsible for you wasting your life, don't be angry I still have my youth. That's a you problem not a me problem.
Ok I'm sorry for derailing the thread 😄 no more engaging with crazy
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
Like, am I supposed to weep because you don't think my man is fine? k
He's not for you, he is for me.
We are attracted to different things, obviously. And I am good with that.
No shit! You are a designer of a beautiful things and you like flimsy boyz? Something doesn’t add up unless handsome man dumped you and you sworn to…yourself (because nobody else cares) that you will NEVER date man prettier than you and you went and picked whatever…
How close am I?
Keep fantasying about my life. You are big mad and it shows.
I've always been frank that I am punching well above my weight. He is WAY too fine to be with my ass, and yet...
YOU are mad! You make no sense ‘big mad’ and ‘punching well above your weight?’ WTF does THAT means?
Too fine? With THOSE hair? Just accept you’ve grabbed whatever you could…
The bitter divorcee talking smack on my relationship is too funny. You do look mad af.
I'm not responsible for you wasting your life, don't be angry I still have my youth. That's a you problem not a me problem.
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Youth? 😂😂😂🤔😂😂😂
Your youth was stolen by someone who didn’t want you in your better years…Youth! 🤦♀️
Your are delusional! I wouldn’t want your noodle man at MY age! But you settled. How sad for ‘young’ people to settle. SAD!
Ok I'm sorry for derailing the thread 😄 no more engaging with crazy
Trust me she do this on all my threads lol I just ignore her. She'll go away eventually....hopefully? Lol
Ok I'm sorry for derailing the thread 😄 no more engaging with crazy
Trust me she do this on all my threads lol I just ignore her. She'll go away eventually....hopefully? Lol
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I think its just her personality? I usually find her quite harmless and laughable...
No one goes away here they just phoenix themselves a new handle
Ok I'm sorry for derailing the thread 😄 no more engaging with crazy
Mute function is working well these days, you don't see anything that other people have quoted with their posts. Really have no idea they exist.
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I don't have anyone muted. I just need to cut off the back and forth sooner especially when we get off topic.
Tbh the reason the first guy and I moved in was I just graduated from college and about to start my first career type job, and La Habra to Pasadena was a hellish drive. He worked in downtown LA & lived in Whittier, so we found a place much closer for both of us. Maybe we wouldn’t have married if everything hadn’t been so fast. Sometimes waiting is a good idea.
Tbh the reason the first guy and I moved in was I just graduated from college and about to start my first career type job, and La Habra to Pasadena was a hellish drive. He worked in downtown LA & lived in Whittier, so we found a place much closer for both of us. Maybe we wouldn’t have married if everything hadn’t been so fast. Sometimes waiting is a good idea.
Did you grow up in La Habra? I worked in Brea for like 11 years. Used to commute from Pomona to Pasadena and it was no Bueno. Not as bad as long beach to Sherman oaks, 405 killed my soul a bit.
Ok I'm sorry for derailing the thread 😄 no more engaging with crazy
Trust me she do this on all my threads lol I just ignore her. She'll go away eventually....hopefully? Lol
I think its just her personality? I usually find her quite harmless and laughable...
No one goes away here they are just phoenix themselves a new handle
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Are you nuts? I had never got a new account because I wanted to…but the rest - you right.🤔
Ok I'm sorry for derailing the thread 😄 no more engaging with crazy
Trust me she do this on all my threads lol I just ignore her. She'll go away eventually....hopefully? Lol
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Kleenex or handkerchief?
And while you wiping tears and snot I TOLD you I’ve been here since 2006…but you have poor reading comprehension. Aren’t you?
And your breaking up skills shit!
And me and LN are soul mates. She is just too…slow and heavy…and repeats same shit in every post but other than that she is just a sad spinster.
I am feeling sorry for her…between me and you. 🤪
You two are only dating, unless you commit to something that changes both your lives, like living together.
Don't drag if for too long...sitting on a fence is not a good look. Shit, or get off the pot.
Tbh the reason the first guy and I moved in was I just graduated from college and about to start my first career type job, and La Habra to Pasadena was a hellish drive. He worked in downtown LA & lived in Whittier, so we found a place much closer for both of us. Maybe we wouldn’t have married if everything hadn’t been so fast. Sometimes waiting is a good idea.
Did you grow up in La Habra? I worked in Brea for like 11 years. Used to commute from Pomona to Pasadena and it was no Bueno. Not as bad as long beach to Sherman oaks, 405 killed my soul a bit.
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I grew up in Huntington Beach, and then La Habra. Graduated from La Habra High School. Went to Cal State Fullerton & Cal Poly Pomona.
Drove from downtown LA to Whittier/city of Industry for awhile. It’s tough! Later i worked in Orange County because it was easier to find work close to wear I lived relatively. Lived in Garden Grove, worked near Long Beach Airport, Fountain Valley, Orange. There was always a plan of how far as you can see lol Mostly because I had kids then and needed to be able to get home quickly if necessary.
Tbh the reason the first guy and I moved in was I just graduated from college and about to start my first career type job, and La Habra to Pasadena was a hellish drive. He worked in downtown LA & lived in Whittier, so we found a place much closer for both of us. Maybe we wouldn’t have married if everything hadn’t been so fast. Sometimes waiting is a good idea.
Did you grow up in La Habra? I worked in Brea for like 11 years. Used to commute from Pomona to Pasadena and it was no Bueno. Not as bad as long beach to Sherman oaks, 405 killed my soul a bit.
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Omg on Long Beach to Sherman Oaks!! That’s crazy. My brother lives near Sherman Oaks and trying to drive from Orange County is a nightmare.
Tbh the reason the first guy and I moved in was I just graduated from college and about to start my first career type job, and La Habra to Pasadena was a hellish drive. He worked in downtown LA & lived in Whittier, so we found a place much closer for both of us. Maybe we wouldn’t have married if everything hadn’t been so fast. Sometimes waiting is a good idea.
Did you grow up in La Habra? I worked in Brea for like 11 years. Used to commute from Pomona to Pasadena and it was no Bueno. Not as bad as long beach to Sherman oaks, 405 killed my soul a bit.
Omg on Long Beach to Sherman Oaks!! That’s crazy. My brother lives near Sherman Oaks and trying to drive from Orange County is a nightmare.
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Yeah it is not good for the psyche at all. So grateful to work from home mostly these days.
You two are are only dating unless you commit to something that changes both your lives, like living together.
Don't drag if for too long...sitting on a fence is not a good look. Shit, or get off the pot.
No, sit on the toilet and look at memes and dxp.
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Couples who shit together, stay together
You two are are only dating unless you commit to something that changes both your lives, like living together.
Don't drag if for too long...sitting on a fence is not a good look. Shit, or get off the pot.
No, sit on the toilet and look at memes and dxp.
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...then cry on dxpnet for getting dumped...
I'd move in to their place, or somewhere new for the both of us, but would have my current home until I knew it was a forever thing. I'd only bring things I wouldn't care leaving also. I'd do this for a a few years before truly combining all my things with theirs. I like to consider the first few years a trial run for if this living together thing will work or not. During this trial run I will 100% have a place I can easily escape to if it doesn't work. And if it doesn't I can leave all my current stuff i had there, because all of it was simply for the trial run. So to break it down, I have my own place I technically live, but decide to life with another person somewhere else. It either works for life, or it doesn't. Bottom line I have somewhere to go if shit doesn't work, and nine of my important stuff will be there. In the case my important stuff is there, and I get fucked over 5 to 10 years later, I'd probably burn the entire place down. If things survive, they survive. If not, then they should have betrayed me.
You two are only dating, unless you commit to something that changes both your lives, like living together.
Don't drag if for too long...sitting on a fence is not a good look. Shit, or get off the pot.
Well yes & no. More time helps to see what is reality. I just had the experience of someone flipping after marriage.. however 2-3 years is good.
I'd say it's more of a feelings thing. Though for libra, I can see how it can be this sort of natural urge to couple. I'd say a year or more is ok but people stay in unhappy relationships for longer and moving in tends to accelerate unhappiness. So, what is the motive for moving in.. is the real question.
You two are only dating, unless you commit to something that changes both your lives, like living together.
Don't drag if for too long...sitting on a fence is not a good look. Shit, or get off the pot.
Well yes & no. More time helps to see what is reality. I just had the experience of someone flipping after marriage.. however 2-3 years is good.
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Two years max, or I'm gone. One year, if I'm confident it will work beautifully. It's not like getting married or signing a contract just yet. If one of us has a decent home already, what are we waiting for?
I'm not a pack-an-overnight-bag, texting and sexting type of woman. Such things diminish me...my relationships worked far better when we lived together.
You two are only dating, unless you commit to something that changes both your lives, like living together.
Don't drag if for too long...sitting on a fence is not a good look. Shit, or get off the pot.
Well yes & no. More time helps to see what is reality. I just had the experience of someone flipping after marriage.. however 2-3 years is good.
Two years max, or I'm gone. One year, if I'm confident it will work beautifully. It's not like getting married or signing a contract just yet. If one of us has a decent home already, what are we waiting for?
I'm not a pack-an-overnight-bag, texting and sexting type of woman. Such things diminish me...my relationships worked far better when we lived together.
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After a year, you pretty much can tell if there is a future or not. I don’t mind staying over, but really because I used to work around kids & wasn’t wanting to bring someone into my home unless it was a future type situation & good for all of us. Now kids are in their 20’s so it’s a different situation.. but I’m a little over dealing with the bullshit of dating at this point. 🤷♀️
A year is more than enough time to know how a person is if you’re not too stupid or blinded by sex and emotions and actually paying attention to the other person’s way of life (I.e. how they carry themselves, their actions vs. the things they say).
The problem though is people get blinded by sex and emotions to really pay attention; hence they learn things later.
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Fellas, how long would you be serious with a lady before considering this—