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Would men leave a woman if she doesn’t want kids?
No point in being together with a big difference like that.
Posted by LethalFantasia
Should have been discussed as soon as things got serious imo! I feel like he could leave. I mean, the topic of kids is really, really huge. Marriage itself is like huge. Your mind could change about wanting kids as well, so can his.
Just communicate with him, I guess. Openly and honestly x
Wishing you good vibez ~
The plan is to get married before the kids stage so he can’t leave me easily if I still don’t want kids in the future 😂😂
Posted by Black-Mamba
Does his mom know?
I swear i would hate to have you as a daughter in law
His mom doesn’t want us to have one any time soon. His step-mom on the other hand keeps praying for my birth control to fail 😱😱
A friend didn’t want kids and got married to a guy who wanted heaps.
He married her all while secretly hoping he would change her mind. And he did.
The deal was she would give him the kids he wanted if he was the stay at home parent - and that is what worked for them and they are quite happy with their family now.
He married her all while secretly hoping he would change her mind. And he did.
The deal was she would give him the kids he wanted if he was the stay at home parent - and that is what worked for them and they are quite happy with their family now.
Posted by wagtail
A friend didn’t want kids and got married to a guy who wanted heaps.
He married her all while secretly hoping he would change her mind. And he did.
The deal was she would give him the kids he wanted if he was the stay at home parent - and that is what worked for them and they are quite happy with their family now.
I’ve sort of started negotiations too 😂😂 Like he’s gonna have to buy me liposuction, a breast lift, and a vaginal rejuvenation afterwards.
Posted by Dreamyboy
For a while, I didn’t want kids. That day changed when my friend had his very first daughter and he let me hold her in my arms. I was probably 26 and the kind of feeling I felt made me tear up and he also teared up to see my emotional reaction. We’re both not the type to do that, but yea, definitely would be a dealbreaker for me because my friends and family actively have me involved with their kids and I fully love it.
#PiscesSunThings
Posted by tiziani
I'd have a kid with a woman who's ready and cross whatever bridge after that when we come to it.
I don't feel like it's something to have a deep talk about because there's only:
1. before you're a parent
2. after you become one.
Best of luck to you both.
Great post!!! I agree wholeheartedly!!
Posted by WhorpioPosted by wagtail
A friend didn’t want kids and got married to a guy who wanted heaps.
He married her all while secretly hoping he would change her mind. And he did.
The deal was she would give him the kids he wanted if he was the stay at home parent - and that is what worked for them and they are quite happy with their family now.
I’ve sort of started negotiations too 😂😂 Like he’s gonna have to buy me liposuction, a breast lift, and a vaginal rejuvenation afterwards.click to expand
I use to say the same. lol
Posted by STILLPosted by WhorpioPosted by wagtail
A friend didn’t want kids and got married to a guy who wanted heaps.
He married her all while secretly hoping he would change her mind. And he did.
The deal was she would give him the kids he wanted if he was the stay at home parent - and that is what worked for them and they are quite happy with their family now.
I’ve sort of started negotiations too 😂😂 Like he’s gonna have to buy me liposuction, a breast lift, and a vaginal rejuvenation afterwards.
I use to say the same. lolclick to expand
Use to? What changed?
Posted by WhorpioPosted by STILLPosted by WhorpioPosted by wagtail
A friend didn’t want kids and got married to a guy who wanted heaps.
He married her all while secretly hoping he would change her mind. And he did.
The deal was she would give him the kids he wanted if he was the stay at home parent - and that is what worked for them and they are quite happy with their family now.
I’ve sort of started negotiations too 😂😂 Like he’s gonna have to buy me liposuction, a breast lift, and a vaginal rejuvenation afterwards.
I use to say the same. lol
Use to? What changed?click to expand
I'm not as superficial anyone. If I don't like the change in my body after birth, I will consider it.
I am 23 too, and I once thought the same way when I was younger. My advice to you is don't do something you will regret like a hysterectomy. The future is unpredictable, so stop thinking about how your unborn child will turn out to be.
The keyword is think. You said "I think I don't want kids". That doesn't sound concrete enough to me. If you were serious, you would have said "I don't want kid". I hope you come to a conclusion.
The keyword is think. You said "I think I don't want kids". That doesn't sound concrete enough to me. If you were serious, you would have said "I don't want kid". I hope you come to a conclusion.
Posted by MacDaddyInfinite
LMAO OP, stop trying to pretend that the reason you don't want kids is altruistic. You know it's cause you're a Thottitarius.
Who are you kidding.
Um I’ve known some moms who still hoe’d it up to make rent. So I could pull the Thotiana thing off with or without a child.
I just don’t want to spend $ 10k on something that’s gonna pee, shit, and barf on me the first couple years of its life and keep me awake all night those first few years.
I remember when I got sick when I was younger my mom would stay up late with me, and I just don’t wanna live that kinda life. Now that I no longer trap I have found myself becoming addicted to sleep 😴 and I get so mad if it gets interrupted.
Posted by Whorpio
I don’t think I want kids. I may be only 23, but I don’t think I’d want them in the future either. They cost around $ 10,000/year, which is money I’d rather give to charity. Plus I’ve seen enough Dr. Phil to know they go crazy once they hit their teen years, and I ain’t tryna be murdered by my own spawn.
I asked my boyfriend if he would leave me for not wanting kids because he wants one, and he said it ain’t a deal breaker. But I took it further and asked if he would sign off on a hysterectomy for me (since women need their spouses approval for that 🙄🙄) and he said it would make him very sad but if I really want one he would.
So now sometimes I wonder. What are the outcomes when one partner wants kids and the other doesn’t?
Baby! Have I forgotten to tell you that if man want a kid you don’t want...he can always have it with somebody else who want it.
As long as he had sex with her thinking of you...that’s no big deal...
Big deal is that he will have to pay child support but you can forge his earning and get away with that like rich people do. Give to a charity.
Write off. Work the system. Make sure he doesn’t spend too much time with a little shit. If he is a regular Gem man he would just write a check to a little rascal and hope that lil ‘Jonny’ will deliver nice speech at his funeral.
What else men need kids for?
Sorry this subject was less important than roller skaters while you were growing us LDR from me. Not really sorry but I had to say some shit...
Love ya! ❤️
Posted by STILLPosted by WhorpioPosted by STILLPosted by Whorpio
I’ve sort of started negotiations too 😂😂 Like he’s gonna have to buy me liposuction, a breast lift, and a vaginal rejuvenation afterwards.
I use to say the same. lol
Use to? What changed?
I'm not as superficial anymore. If I don't like the change in my body after birth, I will consider it.click to expand
Interesting.
With the life style I lived before I met my bf, I met several married dads who would say negative things about their wives bodies and compare them to mine, so it’s sorta left me with this strong fear that if I have a kid my future husband will do the same thing those men did 😕 That fear literally haunts me 😭😭
Posted by Gemitati
Baby! Have I forgotten to tell you that if man want a kid you don’t want...he can always have it with somebody else who want it.
As long as he had sex with her thinking of you...that’s no big deal...
Big deal is that he will have to pay child support but you can forge his earning and get away with that like rich people do. Give to a charity.
Write off. Work the system. Make sure he doesn’t spend too much time with a little shit. If he is a regular Gem man he would just write a check to a little rascal and hope that lil ‘Jonny’ will deliver nice speech at his funeral.
What else men need kids for?
Sorry this subject was less important than roller skaters while you were growing us LDR from me. Not really sorry but I had to say some shit...
Love ya! ❤️
If you were stripper, your name would be Sunshine because you brighten days ☀️☀️
Posted by WhorpioPosted by STILLPosted by WhorpioPosted by STILLPosted by Whorpio
I’ve sort of started negotiations too 😂😂 Like he’s gonna have to buy me liposuction, a breast lift, and a vaginal rejuvenation afterwards.
I use to say the same. lol
Use to? What changed?
I'm not as superficial anymore. If I don't like the change in my body after birth, I will consider it.
Interesting.
With the life style I lived before I met my bf, I met several married dads who would say negative things about their wives bodies and compare them to mine, so it’s sorta left me with this strong fear that if I have a kid my future husband will do the same thing those men did 😕 That fear literally haunts me 😭😭click to expand
Never been in that life style , but I get it. Believe me!
Posted by WhorpioPosted by Gemitati
Baby! Have I forgotten to tell you that if man want a kid you don’t want...he can always have it with somebody else who want it.
As long as he had sex with her thinking of you...that’s no big deal...
Big deal is that he will have to pay child support but you can forge his earning and get away with that like rich people do. Give to a charity.
Write off. Work the system. Make sure he doesn’t spend too much time with a little shit. If he is a regular Gem man he would just write a check to a little rascal and hope that lil ‘Jonny’ will deliver nice speech at his funeral.
What else men need kids for?
Sorry this subject was less important than roller skaters while you were growing us LDR from me. Not really sorry but I had to say some shit...
Love ya! ❤️
If you were stripper, your name would be Sunshine because you brighten days ☀️☀️click to expand
According to my Aries...name would be Lady Destroyer...but he loves fucking with me. 🙈
Posted by Gemitati
@STILL
WHY would anyone believe you and do you really care? Pfffffff
Lol Yes. Pffffff you!
Maybe I'll banter with you tomorrow. 😕😪
Posted by STILLPosted by Gemitati
@STILL
WHY would anyone believe you and do you really care? Pfffffff
Lol Yes. Pffffff you!
Maybe I'll banter with you tomorrow. 😕😪click to expand
I am up to it...now. But hit me tomorrow...I’ll have few push-ups and lots of alcohol...you’ve been warned!
Lmao
Posted by Arielle83
My godmother told her husband she wanted a career and travel at age 22.
He wanted a family.
He still wanted to marry her at 25.
12 years later they divorced because he got controlling and resentful because she still didn’t want kids.
She’s living life in Quebec and been jet setting all over the world.
Retiring early too. Bought her own house.
He remarried some weird chick in Kingston, Ontario who couldnt have kids anyways.
Think she counts how many times she chews her food.
Aha! So there is merit to my theory that people would be richer and more successful in life without kids 🤔🤔
Yeah I could sorta see my bf getting over controlling instead of out right leaving me. Or just making me less of a priority in his life.
Posted by WhorpioPosted by Arielle83
My godmother told her husband she wanted a career and travel at age 22.
He wanted a family.
He still wanted to marry her at 25.
12 years later they divorced because he got controlling and resentful because she still didn’t want kids.
She’s living life in Quebec and been jet setting all over the world.
Retiring early too. Bought her own house.
He remarried some weird chick in Kingston, Ontario who couldnt have kids anyways.
Think she counts how many times she chews her food.
Aha! So there is merit to my theory that people would be richer and more successful in life without kids 🤔🤔
Yeah I could sorta see my bf getting over controlling instead of out right leaving me. Or just making me less of a priority in his life.click to expand
Is he going to be a mother? 🤦♀️
Posted by WhorpioPosted by Arielle83
My godmother told her husband she wanted a career and travel at age 22.
He wanted a family.
He still wanted to marry her at 25.
12 years later they divorced because he got controlling and resentful because she still didn’t want kids.
She’s living life in Quebec and been jet setting all over the world.
Retiring early too. Bought her own house.
He remarried some weird chick in Kingston, Ontario who couldnt have kids anyways.
Think she counts how many times she chews her food.
Aha! So there is merit to my theory that people would be richer and more successful in life without kids 🤔🤔
Yeah I could sorta see my bf getting over controlling instead of out right leaving me. Or just making me less of a priority in his life.click to expand
I love my nieces and nephews who I call my kiddos. The spur of the moment jet setting with care free of the money saved is great. Always said I never wanted kids but when I get 40 surely will settle down.
Posted by Whorpio I remember when I got sick when I was younger my mom would stay up late with me, and I just don’t wanna live that kinda life. Now that I no longer trap I have found myself becoming addicted to sleep 😴 and I get so mad if it gets interrupted.
If that's the case... then i guess you don't have to worry about your boyfriend leaving you - cause as soon as he gets really sick (could also be an accident or in need of a surgery - where he'll be kinda dependent of someone during the recovery period - even more than a child getting sick) - you're bound to leave him or throw him out. That being said and while taking in consideration your voiced concerns - bluntly put, maybe you should ask yourself this instead: "Should i still be in a relationship - if I'm so selfish that i can't deal with anyone that could interfere with the level of comfort i got used to?!" 🤔
With or without a child - stuff like that it's bound to happen (multiple times even). It's just a matter of time. Also, the older you get - the higher the chances - for age specific health issues (even higher if you lived an unhealthy life style - which involves smoking, alcohol, junk food and so on...). More often than not - the after effects of stress seems to take almost everyone by surprise. Either way... the Pros of getting old are optional (reaping what you sow in your younger days) - but the Cons are mandatory (some can delay its effects by living a healthy life - but nobody can stop old age from happening... followed by death ofc). It's the way of life.
Also, girls in their early 20's are usually far more immature at their age compared to older generations (our parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, great-great-grandparent and so on...)
Posted by Jammerwheels
I want kids so it probably would be a dealbreaker if she didn’t want to have any at all,but I would wait for her if she is just not ready.
Maybe I’m just not ready.
My cousin got this woman in her 30’s pregnant and she became so beautiful. Maybe I’ll wait til my 30’s.
Posted by LibraSupremePosted by Whorpio
Aha! So there is merit to my theory that people would be richer and more successful in life without kids 🤔🤔
Yeah I could sorta see my bf getting over controlling instead of out right leaving me. Or just making me less of a priority in his life.
I love my nieces and nephews who I call my kiddos. The spur of the moment jet setting with care free of the money saved is great. Always said I never wanted kids but when I get 40 surely will settle down.click to expand
I’ve always wanted to be the aunt that one-up’s a child’s parents when it comes to giving gifts 😂😂
Posted by Phantom_LimboPosted by WhorpioPosted by Jammerwheels
I want kids so it probably would be a dealbreaker if she didn’t want to have any at all,but I would wait for her if she is just not ready.
Maybe I’m just not ready.
My cousin got this woman in her 30’s pregnant and she became so beautiful. Maybe I’ll wait til my 30’s.
You're worried about being beautiful or not? You're talking about whether to bring another human being into existence.click to expand
Not everyone has the same priorities 🤷♀️
Posted by nevesIf that's the case... then i guess you don't have to worry about your boyfriend leaving you - cause as soon as he gets really sick (could also be an accident or in need of a surgery - where he'll be kinda dependent of someone during the recovery period - even more than a child getting sick) - you're bound to leave him or throw him out. That being said and while taking in consideration your voiced concerns - bluntly put, maybe you should ask yourself this instead: "Should i still be in a relationship - if I'm so selfish that i can't deal with anyone that could interfere with the level of comfort i got used to?!" 🤔
With or without a child - stuff like that it's bound to happen (multiple times even). It's just a matter of time. Also, the older you get - the higher the chances - for age specific health issues (even higher if you lived an unhealthy life style - which involves smoking, alcohol, junk food and so on...). More often than not - the after effects of stress seems to take almost everyone by surprise. Either way... the Pros of getting old are optional (reaping what you sow in your younger days) - but the Cons are mandatory (some can delay its effects by living a healthy life - but nobody can stop old age from happening... followed by death ofc). It's the way of life.
I have nursed my boyfriend late into the night when he’s been sick. I feel like that’s different than a kid, because it’s someone I’m in love with. How do I know I’d love my kid the same way?
Posted by ScorpioDeeDee
I never wanted kids when I was your age. The thought horrified me. I was at a baby shower in for my cousin and specifically stated that to my grandmother. I got pregnant (on birth control) the next month. I didn't even discover I was pregnant until 20 weeks along. In the beginning I considered adoption even to the point of speaking with a couple.
Fast forward 18 years and I have two kids and think I did a pretty good job (not perfect by any means). I can't imagine not having them.
Life will give you surprises. You may end up never having children or you may end up with 5.
I always appreciate your insights. Thank you DeeDee 🤗🤗
Posted by Phantom_LimboPosted by Whorpio
Not everyone has the same priorities 🤷♀️
You're young. Hopefully that changes, because no one is pretty with spit-up on their shirt after 4 days of no sleep. Children are hard work. They depend on their parents 100% . They have to be the top priority.click to expand
Yeah that’s another thing I’m worried about. Like what if I have a kid and no longer dedicate as much time to my future husband?
I think issa Scorpio thing to wanna devote ourselves to serving one person, and therefore don’t want anyone (not even a kid) interrupting that devotion 🤔🤔
Posted by WhorpioPosted by nevesIf that's the case... then i guess you don't have to worry about your boyfriend leaving you - cause as soon as he gets really sick (could also be an accident or in need of a surgery - where he'll be kinda dependent of someone during the recovery period - even more than a child getting sick) - you're bound to leave him or throw him out. That being said and while taking in consideration your voiced concerns - bluntly put, maybe you should ask yourself this instead: "Should i still be in a relationship - if I'm so selfish that i can't deal with anyone that could interfere with the level of comfort i got used to?!" 🤔
With or without a child - stuff like that it's bound to happen (multiple times even). It's just a matter of time. Also, the older you get - the higher the chances - for age specific health issues (even higher if you lived an unhealthy life style - which involves smoking, alcohol, junk food and so on...). More often than not - the after effects of stress seems to take almost everyone by surprise. Either way... the Pros of getting old are optional (reaping what you sow in your younger days) - but the Cons are mandatory (some can delay its effects by living a healthy life - but nobody can stop old age from happening... followed by death ofc). It's the way of life.
I have nursed my boyfriend late into the night when he’s been sick. I feel like that’s different than a kid, because it’s someone I’m in love with. How do I know I’d love my kid the same way?click to expand
It's what you said (how you portrayed yourself in that situation). Before you ever had a boyfriend - you probably never thought you'd ever do something like that for another and yet... 😏
Posted by neves
It's what you said (how you portrayed yourself in that situation). Before you ever had a boyfriend - you probably never thought you'd ever do something like that for another and yet... 😏
Yeah I always thought sick people were nasty! Being a germaphobe is actually one thing that closed me off to relationships.
Posted by Phantom_LimboPosted by Whorpio
Yeah that’s another thing I’m worried about. Like what if I have a kid and no longer dedicate as much time to my future husband?
I think issa Scorpio thing to wanna devote ourselves to serving one person, and therefore don’t want anyone (not even a kid) interrupting that devotion 🤔🤔
It's a valid fear. Relationships do change after people have kids. I think having kids can really strengthen an already strong relationship, though.click to expand
That’s what my bf said 😂😂 He said it would be beautiful to fall in love with each other again after we send our kid(s) off to college. You Gemini’s you...
Everything is easier with money tho. So stack your bills now so you have more options in the future.
And keep communicating with each other on this. It’s a huge life decision and your both allowed to change your mind about your current stance.
Having a kid fucks up your body, your hormones, your sleep. So while it may be something you both decide to do...you’ll be the one the little leech is dependent on for survival the first year +.
Kinda concerning your both not on the same page here. This is one of those big ones that’s make or break for a relationship.
And keep communicating with each other on this. It’s a huge life decision and your both allowed to change your mind about your current stance.
Having a kid fucks up your body, your hormones, your sleep. So while it may be something you both decide to do...you’ll be the one the little leech is dependent on for survival the first year +.
Kinda concerning your both not on the same page here. This is one of those big ones that’s make or break for a relationship.
Posted by Whorpio
I don’t think I want kids. I may be only 23, but I don’t think I’d want them in the future either. They cost around $ 10,000/year,
That figure is grossly underestimated, double it.
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