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Posted by lisabethur8my man gave me the SMACK DOWN. love it.
the other day I was talking to my man about how funeral costs and if you're poor, how they do it, ect.
and my man was saying, what does it matter what other people do with their funeral and if they're poor. Only women NEED to think and know what other people do.
it's like women, are the "OTHER" and want to know and are curious. Just mind your own business.
i'm like. hm.
you're right. we all NEED to know this shit. Even those online articles are mostly women.
he told me that women CARE about this shit.
Posted by lisabethur8btw you gave us some smack down. lolPosted by blessyouPosted by lisabethur8oh my fucking god. i dont give a fuck who's the breadwinner.. you ever heard of the poor man's thinking? If you got money, you shouldn't be worried about if your future partner has money, stop acting broke and act like you've earned a paycheck before. These girls need to start acting like ladies.. These bitches out here will really suck and fuck anything for nothing. Like, these bitches is so slow nowadays, can't even start a conversation with em.. there's always a catch. anyways.. i'm done.Posted by blessyouwell you would either find a woman who will complement you with an extra income, maybe she will be the breadwinner.
The fact that there's a thread talking about the pockets of men, only lets men know what y'all minds are on.. Just don't get mad when they act funny because they already what y'all was on. I ain't getting married or cuffed. Nothing. I'm good. This'll be the last time I speak on women in general. I'm done after this, you know? So.. yeah.
OR you will be the main provider.
both are good, it all depends on your needs and priorities and what you both love.
at least now you know what some of us ladies are and what we like.
there are men here too who like women who are into careers so that's awesome as well.
I actally agree with you. hm interesting.click to expand
heeehee.
but like the articles who are all women writing.
it's just a FEMALE thing, guys.
it's just a FEMALE thing, guys.
@blessyou,
thanks for bringing up that "poor man's thinking" it's a good article to read this afternoon.
http://knowledgesource.com.au/rich-thinking-vs-poor-thinking/
Have you ever wondered why some people have the natural ability to easily ATTRACT and accumulate WEALTH, while others constantly struggle and never get anywhere?
Why some people do and others don’t has fascinated me all my life, as have the underlying consciousness dynamics of RICH’ thinking and ‘poor’ thinking about success, money and ABUNDANCE.
In my quest to uncover the reasons, I’ve read many books (Kiyosaki, etc etc etc) and have been an avid observer of people – the SUCCESSFUL and not so successful.
The two groups of people have distinctly different mindsets, belief systems, and approaches to life and living. It’s as though they see the world through two very different sets of colored glasses.
The GOOD NEWS is that you can change your mindset, with concerted and consistent focus and application.
Let’s examine the key signs that differentiate both groups. In the process, let’s take it a step further and I’d also like to offer some practical action steps you can take to change the way you think, what you do, and the results you achieve.
There are 5 specific steps that I’ve identified that can drive you to rich thinking. I’m going to cover three today and send you the next two tomorrow.
Here we go…
BE VERY CLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT
~ VERSUS ~
DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
When you have a ‘RICH’ mindset, you have grand ‘VISION’ and see with crystal clarity what you want to achieve, and believe you will achieve it with all your heart. It starts at the ideas phase, you then nurture it, develop it, ‘feel’ it as if it’s happening ‘now’, and live and breathe it, until it becomes your reality.
You get excited about it and your passion and natural enthusiasm is so infectious it rubs off on others and enables them to see your vision too, and they get swept-up in your EXCITEMENT.
Conversely, with a ‘poor’ mentality you may not be clear, or even more sadly, you don’t know what you want. You’ve succumbed to the conditioning about stereotypes and boxes you ‘should’ fit into that you’ve been fed throughout your life. This has blurred your connection with going for and achieving the best in your life.
You may entertain some dreams, but either you lack confidence in yourself, fear failure, or are concerned about what family and friends may say, or that they may shoot down or ridicule what you want to do – the “tall poppy syndrome”.
SUCCESS TIP – It’s the saddest thing to wander through life not knowing what you want. So, take the time to GET CLEAR and define what you want. Get visual and graphic about it by using a picture or vision board to compile your ‘mind movie’ about your dream life.
HAVE ‘POSITIVE BELIEFS’ AROUND MONEY, WEALTH AND ABUNDANCE
~ VERSUS ~
”
thanks for bringing up that "poor man's thinking" it's a good article to read this afternoon.
http://knowledgesource.com.au/rich-thinking-vs-poor-thinking/
Have you ever wondered why some people have the natural ability to easily ATTRACT and accumulate WEALTH, while others constantly struggle and never get anywhere?
Why some people do and others don’t has fascinated me all my life, as have the underlying consciousness dynamics of RICH’ thinking and ‘poor’ thinking about success, money and ABUNDANCE.
In my quest to uncover the reasons, I’ve read many books (Kiyosaki, etc etc etc) and have been an avid observer of people – the SUCCESSFUL and not so successful.
The two groups of people have distinctly different mindsets, belief systems, and approaches to life and living. It’s as though they see the world through two very different sets of colored glasses.
The GOOD NEWS is that you can change your mindset, with concerted and consistent focus and application.
Let’s examine the key signs that differentiate both groups. In the process, let’s take it a step further and I’d also like to offer some practical action steps you can take to change the way you think, what you do, and the results you achieve.
There are 5 specific steps that I’ve identified that can drive you to rich thinking. I’m going to cover three today and send you the next two tomorrow.
Here we go…
BE VERY CLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT
~ VERSUS ~
DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
When you have a ‘RICH’ mindset, you have grand ‘VISION’ and see with crystal clarity what you want to achieve, and believe you will achieve it with all your heart. It starts at the ideas phase, you then nurture it, develop it, ‘feel’ it as if it’s happening ‘now’, and live and breathe it, until it becomes your reality.
You get excited about it and your passion and natural enthusiasm is so infectious it rubs off on others and enables them to see your vision too, and they get swept-up in your EXCITEMENT.
Conversely, with a ‘poor’ mentality you may not be clear, or even more sadly, you don’t know what you want. You’ve succumbed to the conditioning about stereotypes and boxes you ‘should’ fit into that you’ve been fed throughout your life. This has blurred your connection with going for and achieving the best in your life.
You may entertain some dreams, but either you lack confidence in yourself, fear failure, or are concerned about what family and friends may say, or that they may shoot down or ridicule what you want to do – the “tall poppy syndrome”.
SUCCESS TIP – It’s the saddest thing to wander through life not knowing what you want. So, take the time to GET CLEAR and define what you want. Get visual and graphic about it by using a picture or vision board to compile your ‘mind movie’ about your dream life.
HAVE ‘POSITIVE BELIEFS’ AROUND MONEY, WEALTH AND ABUNDANCE
~ VERSUS ~
”
I wonder if that realy works for people, buying programs to change your mindset.
Posted by blackphasePosted by lisabethur8Like I forgot.. thanks for the reminder again..Posted by blackphasePosted by lisabethur8Go through what? I just answered your question... My fkn bad.Posted by blackphasegirl do we have to go through this again—
I want whatever makes him happy.. bottom line. I am okay with my man working anywhere. The fact that he is working and contributing is enough for me.. but what's most important is his happiness in what he is doing.
There is nothing wrong with being a truck driver, post man or delivery boy.. unless you are just a money hungry female who doesn't want to take care of herself and would prefer to rely on a man to do it all for her.
it's almost lunch time so ...
anyway you were complaining about your libra/sag moon guy who has a cigarette habit.
damn!!!!!
and hell yeah i'm earth dominant so I need security!!!!
you damn right I want a man who PROVIDES. it's the TRUTH and I LOVE IT.
you?? you'll be sitting around complaining about your cigarette habit guy who can't contribute.
I smoke as well.. I don't know what you are getting at. I can't answer a question without you trying to dig up my history..
And my boyfriend works and does contribute.. why do you keep trying to dig up shit like you know my life? LOL
You remember one comment from when my fella had broke his collar bone and was off work for months and we were strapped for cash.. not that I should have to explain any of that to you, but you're so damn dense and it didn't seem to sink in the last 10 times I said it.
I provide for myself, relying on a man is fkn selfish. I want my man to respect me not view me as a lazy piece of shit.
well just pointing out that you did complain and was annoyed by his habit and asking for money.click to expand
you're welcome.
you should be HAPPY you are an alpha woman. your libra man is lucky to have you and you are there for him.
I was right...
I DID hear cats fighting...
I DID hear cats fighting...
Posted by starloverIt's like when there are two cats in heat fighting outside your window at midnight in the summer, no?Posted by QuantumYes
I was right...
I DID hear cats fighting...
So did I
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Posted by Arielle83Right? And who the fuck cares what her man likes!?! I'm not after her dude. I'm just looking to answer a question on a forum. SMHPosted by LadyNeptuneYes if you make it clear you can support yourself it's seen as offensive.Posted by lisabethur8OF COURSE you make my response about you. Even though your op was asking other women about their preferences. Jfc
back for a short bit.
Posted by LadyNeptunelol
As long as he's employed and passionate about what he does I'm not tripping. I make my own money and am not looking at a man to pay my bills, so how much he's banking each month doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things.
I'm focused on my own career that it would benifit me to have a partner who is the same.
my man makes good money.
and he's not interested in career women.
good for you that you attract men who are into career women.
Damn career women!click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8I don't know sheet about you. But that just proves my point, it's all about you...isn't it?
@ladyneptune, I call bullshit because everyone knows i'm a stay at home and you strategically place in,
I mean shit. look at this.... so blatant.
" I make my own money and am not looking at a man to pay my bills, so how much he's banking each month doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things.
I'm focused on my own career that it would benifit me to have a partner who is the same."
so right atcha honey!!! and i'm telling the truth, guys walk away when they know I ain't into careers. they want a career woman!!! Money money money!!
I answered the question, nothing more. You should ask youself why are you so bothered by it? Seems pretty clear...
Posted by cheekyfaeriewe already discussed about how you divorced your pisces ex husband because he had too many hobbies and didn't contribute.Posted by LadyNeptuneI didn't know you were a stay at home person either and my answer would have been very similar to Lady Neptune's. I make my own money so, as long as dude isn't a freeloader, I like that he's doing something he's happy with. Just answering your question.Posted by lisabethur8I don't know sheet about you. But that just proves my point, it's all about you...isn't it?
@ladyneptune, I call bullshit because everyone knows i'm a stay at home and you strategically place in,
I mean shit. look at this.... so blatant.
" I make my own money and am not looking at a man to pay my bills, so how much he's banking each month doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things.
I'm focused on my own career that it would benifit me to have a partner who is the same."
so right atcha honey!!! and i'm telling the truth, guys walk away when they know I ain't into careers. they want a career woman!!! Money money money!!
I answered the question, nothing more. You should ask youself why are you so bothered by it? Seems pretty clear...
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Posted by dominoesso much truth to this.Posted by Arielle83Then the job does matter. They need to be able to provide for themselves before they can even provide for someone else.Posted by dominoesYes, but you're only going to be chilling with men like that if you're hanging at the welfare office.Posted by Arielle83I dunno, it's a mix of both. If your man couldn't provide, and was a lazy slump, regardless if you love him or not, that is going to cause significant strain on the relationship. You'll have to ask yourself are you married to a man or are you merely adopting a child?
the job shouldn't fucking matter if you love the person.
I'm talking about a dude with a job and perspective.
The job he has shouldn't really matter in the grand scheme of things.
This thread is like a hierarchy of male careers. Who deserves the respect.
Fucking good will hunting bullshit.
Oh he's blue collar why date him kinda bull?
My Venus in Virgo sees opportunity everywhere. I don't see this as static.
You wouldn't have a child with a committed burger flipper.click to expand
women on this forum aren't truthful that they won't be with a burger flipper.
it's like my sister's sister in law, SINGLE and ALONE ...and she's a career woman too!!! and makes good money and has property (she sold it) so she has MONEY. And honestly, she keeps saying since my sister's wedding that she's gonna go for a burger flipper.
she's still single.
and honestly she's NOT ugly either. so WHY—
you see what I mean? yet she claims she is gonna date a mcdonald's guy.
gimme a break.
she's SUCCESSFUL and has education.
EVERYTHING a woman could ask for....
you see what I mean? yet she claims she is gonna date a mcdonald's guy.
gimme a break.
she's SUCCESSFUL and has education.
EVERYTHING a woman could ask for....
professional, career women will NEVER date DOWN.
burger flipper is OUT of the question.
A truck driver? Right. Are you serious?? do you see profressional career women going for truck drivers or butchers?
yet so many in here are like, any job that will make HIM happy.
is that right?? then why are you all single? can you not see this irony?
burger flipper is OUT of the question.
A truck driver? Right. Are you serious?? do you see profressional career women going for truck drivers or butchers?
yet so many in here are like, any job that will make HIM happy.
is that right?? then why are you all single? can you not see this irony?
Posted by lisabethur8Hatred over traditional? Wtf dude. Where. When. How are you getting all of that from a comment I made.
it's like the alpha women VERSUS the beta women.
edit- reading the comments this morning, i'm just telling the truth.
the men don't BUG me when they know I am not a career woman.
so there are men out there that LOVE career women.
that's Awesome for them.
more for you ladies.
jesus Christ!!!!
it's like you're projecting your own HATRED over women who DESIRE and love being TRADITIONAL.
if you weren't threatened by it, then why even say shit like what LadyNeptune said?
This is not a competition. This is a personal choice that has nothing to do with you whatsoever.
Posted by LeoAquaRulerif you wanna be a butcher, go for it.
I have already made my mind up. I am never getting married or having children. One of the main reasons is because of all the speculation surrounding the mans career and attitude towards making money etc. I fucking hate it. Imma do me and do what the fuck i wanna do.. fuck your relationship.
there are women out there that will appreciate you.
don't worry about these high reaching women with careers who look down on men with decent jobs.
Posted by blackphasePosted by lisabethur8Why do you keep doing this to everyone?Posted by cheekyfaeriewe already discussed about how you divorced your pisces ex husband because he had too many hobbies and didn't contribute.Posted by LadyNeptuneI didn't know you were a stay at home person either and my answer would have been very similar to Lady Neptune's. I make my own money so, as long as dude isn't a freeloader, I like that he's doing something he's happy with. Just answering your question.Posted by lisabethur8I don't know sheet about you. But that just proves my point, it's all about you...isn't it?
@ladyneptune, I call bullshit because everyone knows i'm a stay at home and you strategically place in,
I mean shit. look at this.... so blatant.
" I make my own money and am not looking at a man to pay my bills, so how much he's banking each month doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things.
I'm focused on my own career that it would benifit me to have a partner who is the same."
so right atcha honey!!! and i'm telling the truth, guys walk away when they know I ain't into careers. they want a career woman!!! Money money money!!
I answered the question, nothing more. You should ask youself why are you so bothered by it? Seems pretty clear...
You asked a damn question.. we all answered without bringing our personal lives into the matter, and everyone that didn't support freeloading off their husband or boyfriend got a nasty remark from you digging up their history..
You need a hobby with all this free time that you have..click to expand
this IS my hobby. just like you're HERE too. so be quiet and stop being a hypocrite.
i'm glad I brought this up, because it is what women think and want out of a man...
so you see how women are—
career women will NEVER marry down.
so you see how women are—
career women will NEVER marry down.
Posted by blackphaseI have every right just like you to say what I want to say.Posted by lisabethur8Not single and I chose what would make him happy too.
professional, career women will NEVER date DOWN.
burger flipper is OUT of the question.
A truck driver? Right. Are you serious?? do you see profressional career women going for truck drivers or butchers?
yet so many in here are like, any job that will make HIM happy.
is that right?? then why are you all single? can you not see this irony?
Why did you even start this thread? Just to see how many people would support your laziness?
You just put down or found flaw in basically everyone who is not in your cushy living arrangement.
And you are NOT a career woman.. so I don't think you can speak for all of them. I hold a professional position and I have no problem dating down in terms of profession or income, thanks. It's not all about money for all of us.. As you have already said.. we are all different. No need to try to find fault within the relationships of everyone who is not in support of how you feel.click to expand
you just accused me of getting a HOBBY. well lady this is my hobby.
and you know what? you're NOT happy I can tell.
Posted by blackphasePosted by lisabethur8Once again.. you are not and have NEVER been a career woman.. Pipe down.
i'm glad I brought this up, because it is what women think and want out of a man...
so you see how women are—
career women will NEVER marry down.
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*rolls eyes*
Okey dokey.
Posted by LeoAquaRulerPosted by lisabethur8It's cool if they appreciate it but i don't give two monkeys.. i ain't looking for relationship or anything like that and for the women with careers looking down they don't even know shit anyway. I know what true success is, i have seen it with my own eyes. I just wana do what i do. The only reason i am doing something similar to butchers is to work on my finances. It's only because this job is close to home meaning the expenses for travel and other things are cut meaning more money to invest plus i only work two days a week and i already got a bigger monthly pay check than pushing paper. As i am offered more days to work or even full time work then that means the majority of my pay check will be going towards investments.Posted by LeoAquaRulerif you wanna be a butcher, go for it.
I have already made my mind up. I am never getting married or having children. One of the main reasons is because of all the speculation surrounding the mans career and attitude towards making money etc. I fucking hate it. Imma do me and do what the fuck i wanna do.. fuck your relationship.
there are women out there that will appreciate you.
don't worry about these high reaching women with careers who look down on men with decent jobs.click to expand
if you were my brother i'm happy you don't care what other women think. the woman that deserves you will love you even if you are a butcher.
Posted by blackphaseyou were the one putting me down. jesus Christ.Posted by lisabethur8Never said you didn't have a right.. You are the one arguing with any of us who do not agree with you.. And you can't accuse someone of getting a hobby.. ? :/Posted by blackphaseI have every right just like you to say what I want to say.Posted by lisabethur8Not single and I chose what would make him happy too.
professional, career women will NEVER date DOWN.
burger flipper is OUT of the question.
A truck driver? Right. Are you serious?? do you see profressional career women going for truck drivers or butchers?
yet so many in here are like, any job that will make HIM happy.
is that right?? then why are you all single? can you not see this irony?
Why did you even start this thread? Just to see how many people would support your laziness?
You just put down or found flaw in basically everyone who is not in your cushy living arrangement.
And you are NOT a career woman.. so I don't think you can speak for all of them. I hold a professional position and I have no problem dating down in terms of profession or income, thanks. It's not all about money for all of us.. As you have already said.. we are all different. No need to try to find fault within the relationships of everyone who is not in support of how you feel.
you just accused me of getting a HOBBY. well lady this is my hobby.
and you know what? you're NOT happy I can tell.
I am not happy that you can't be a big girl and allow people to have their own opinion without putting them down.. you are right.click to expand
Posted by cheekyfaerienope. why should I? just sayin' you are divorced a couple times or so, because they were not manly men and you took care of them. guess that didn't make you happy at all.Posted by lisabethur8So now you're mad at me too?Posted by cheekyfaeriewe already discussed about how you divorced your pisces ex husband because he had too many hobbies and didn't contribute.Posted by LadyNeptuneI didn't know you were a stay at home person either and my answer would have been very similar to Lady Neptune's. I make my own money so, as long as dude isn't a freeloader, I like that he's doing something he's happy with. Just answering your question.Posted by lisabethur8I don't know sheet about you. But that just proves my point, it's all about you...isn't it?
@ladyneptune, I call bullshit because everyone knows i'm a stay at home and you strategically place in,
I mean shit. look at this.... so blatant.
" I make my own money and am not looking at a man to pay my bills, so how much he's banking each month doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things.
I'm focused on my own career that it would benifit me to have a partner who is the same."
so right atcha honey!!! and i'm telling the truth, guys walk away when they know I ain't into careers. they want a career woman!!! Money money money!!
I answered the question, nothing more. You should ask youself why are you so bothered by it? Seems pretty clear...
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Posted by cheekyfaeriewell good for you.Posted by lisabethur8I have a fairly cooshy government job, the Boy's a bartender and I don't think less of him in any way.
i'm glad I brought this up, because it is what women think and want out of a man...
so you see how women are—
career women will NEVER marry down.
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Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by lisabethur8I was a stay at home wife and mum the first go around and a fat lotta good that did.Posted by cheekyfaerienope. why should I? just sayin' you are divorced a couple times or so, because they were not manly men and you took care of them. guess that didn't make you happy at all.Posted by lisabethur8So now you're mad at me too?Posted by cheekyfaeriewe already discussed about how you divorced your pisces ex husband because he had too many hobbies and didn't contribute.Posted by LadyNeptuneI didn't know you were a stay at home person either and my answer would have been very similar to Lady Neptune's. I make my own money so, as long as dude isn't a freeloader, I like that he's doing something he's happy with. Just answering your question.Posted by lisabethur8I don't know sheet about you. But that just proves my point, it's all about you...isn't it?
@ladyneptune, I call bullshit because everyone knows i'm a stay at home and you strategically place in,
I mean shit. look at this.... so blatant.
" I make my own money and am not looking at a man to pay my bills, so how much he's banking each month doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things.
I'm focused on my own career that it would benifit me to have a partner who is the same."
so right atcha honey!!! and i'm telling the truth, guys walk away when they know I ain't into careers. they want a career woman!!! Money money money!!
I answered the question, nothing more. You should ask youself why are you so bothered by it? Seems pretty clear...
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*shrug* you don't seem to be satisfied or happy with those types of men.
Posted by blackphasePosted by lisabethur8I did.. after I simply replied to the question you asked and you decided to be a child and dissect my relationship once again.. just as you did to others who posted in here that were not on the same page as you. Don't ask questions if you cannot handle people having their own opinion.. bottom line.Posted by blackphaseyou were the one putting me down. jesus Christ.Posted by lisabethur8Never said you didn't have a right.. You are the one arguing with any of us who do not agree with you.. And you can't accuse someone of getting a hobby.. ? :/Posted by blackphaseI have every right just like you to say what I want to say.Posted by lisabethur8Not single and I chose what would make him happy too.
professional, career women will NEVER date DOWN.
burger flipper is OUT of the question.
A truck driver? Right. Are you serious?? do you see profressional career women going for truck drivers or butchers?
yet so many in here are like, any job that will make HIM happy.
is that right?? then why are you all single? can you not see this irony?
Why did you even start this thread? Just to see how many people would support your laziness?
You just put down or found flaw in basically everyone who is not in your cushy living arrangement.
And you are NOT a career woman.. so I don't think you can speak for all of them. I hold a professional position and I have no problem dating down in terms of profession or income, thanks. It's not all about money for all of us.. As you have already said.. we are all different. No need to try to find fault within the relationships of everyone who is not in support of how you feel.
you just accused me of getting a HOBBY. well lady this is my hobby.
and you know what? you're NOT happy I can tell.
I am not happy that you can't be a big girl and allow people to have their own opinion without putting them down.. you are right.click to expand
weird. I just put a mirror up to you. you were the one getting upset. I just said, hey I wouldn't want to be in your place, getting pissed off at some guy who has a cigarette habit. and you get pissed off that he gets upset that he complains about giving you money when you ask.
yet you love him and want to make it work. allright. that's great.
Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by lisabethur8I'm not happy in any relationship where the balance of power is incredibly skewed, nor do I understand how other people can be, but I'm not going to berate them for it. Not sure why you got so touchy, but it was unnecessary and snowballed as a result. Maybe it's the limitatiPosted by cheekyfaeriePosted by lisabethur8I was a stay at home wife and mum the first go around and a fat lotta good that did.Posted by cheekyfaerienope. why should I? just sayin' you are divorced a couple times or so, because they were not manly men and you took care of them. guess that didn't make you happy at all.Posted by lisabethur8So now you're mad at me too?Posted by cheekyfaeriewe already discussed about how you divorced your pisces ex husband because he had too many hobbies and didn't contribute.Posted by LadyNeptuneI didn't know you were a stay at home person either and my answer would have been very similar to Lady Neptune's. I make my own money so, as long as dude isn't a freeloader, I like that he's doing something he's happy with. Just answering your question.Posted by lisabethur8I don't know sheet about you. But that just proves my point, it's all about you...isn't it?
@ladyneptune, I call bullshit because everyone knows i'm a stay at home and you strategically place in,
I mean shit. look at this.... so blatant.
" I make my own money and am not looking at a man to pay my bills, so how much he's banking each month doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things.
I'm focused on my own career that it would benifit me to have a partner who is the same."
so right atcha honey!!! and i'm telling the truth, guys walk away when they know I ain't into careers. they want a career woman!!! Money money money!!
I answered the question, nothing more. You should ask youself why are you so bothered by it? Seems pretty clear...
*shrug* you don't seem to be satisfied or happy with those types of men.click to expand
okey dokey. whatever makes you happy.
EDIT - i'm just saying...
a lot of you women are looking to marry UP.
not you @blackphase.
I actually appreciate you are much more forgiving and loving to your man.
if I had a brother who had problems not being aggressive in the working field, and was passive but still worked something, and at least he's trying, the woman who has him is well appreciated. Because that's NOT easy to be with a man who you have to provide.
EDIT - i'm just saying...
a lot of you women are looking to marry UP.
not you @blackphase.
I actually appreciate you are much more forgiving and loving to your man.
if I had a brother who had problems not being aggressive in the working field, and was passive but still worked something, and at least he's trying, the woman who has him is well appreciated. Because that's NOT easy to be with a man who you have to provide.
Posted by blackphaseyou just came in to WHITE KNIGHT people.Posted by lisabethur8You know nothing about my relationship.. and I don't think that's what this thread was about.. It's really getting on my nerves that you keep telling me about my own relationship!
yet you love him and want to make it work. allright. that's great.
I'll try to remember not to post in your threads anymore as you clearly do not just want our honest responses, only to pick apart anyone who does not share your opinion.click to expand
jeez
it's like 10 against one.
i'm always bombarded with women like you. it's the same ole' same ole' on dxp. never changes.
and you@ cheakyfaeirie,
you MARRIED those men who you had to PROVIDE for. And you still divorced them because you got sick of it that they were having hobbies on the side.
on one hand, it looks like your love is based on MONEY.
but then it's confusing...because why did you MARRY them in the first place. It doesn't make sense?
I mean you knew beforehand. if men were HONEST with you about how it is in the relationship BEFORE you got married this probably wouldn't happen.
you MARRIED those men who you had to PROVIDE for. And you still divorced them because you got sick of it that they were having hobbies on the side.
on one hand, it looks like your love is based on MONEY.
but then it's confusing...because why did you MARRY them in the first place. It doesn't make sense?
I mean you knew beforehand. if men were HONEST with you about how it is in the relationship BEFORE you got married this probably wouldn't happen.
Posted by blackphasePosted by lisabethur8It's only like this becasue you can't stick to the topic and you bring all of our personal shit into it. I have already tried to point this out to you.Posted by blackphaseyou just came in to WHITE KNIGHT people.Posted by lisabethur8You know nothing about my relationship.. and I don't think that's what this thread was about.. It's really getting on my nerves that you keep telling me about my own relationship!
yet you love him and want to make it work. allright. that's great.
I'll try to remember not to post in your threads anymore as you clearly do not just want our honest responses, only to pick apart anyone who does not share your opinion.
jeez
it's like 10 against one.
i'm always bombarded with women like you. it's the same ole' same ole' on dxp. never changes.click to expand
like you don't?? don't give me that baloney. I don't mind if people veer off, that's fine with me.
Posted by blackphasestatus IS important to me and my husband.Posted by lisabethur8You are right.. status does not matter to me. My importance is placed elsewhere.
okey dokey. whatever makes you happy.
EDIT - i'm just saying...
a lot of you women are looking to marry UP.
not you @blackphase.
I actually appreciate you are much more forgiving and loving to your man.
if I had a brother who had problems not being aggressive in the working field, and was passive but still worked something, and at least he's trying, the woman who has him is well appreciated. Because that's NOT easy to be with a man who you have to provide.click to expand
We love
see?? that's different if a man has a FAMILY restaurant flipping burgers.
not the guy who is hired minimum wage.
not the guy who is hired minimum wage.
a lot of young men who are starting out, not having a college education, they're gonna be reading this thinking, shit!!! career women don't want me.
This thread is enough to turn men gay. Or celibate for the rest of their life, at best.
Bravo.
Bravo.
Posted by blackphasePosted by lisabethur8*shrug* sticks and stones. i'm just very happy. its hard for people to get, but even my sisters and my mother is happy for me.Posted by blackphasestatus IS important to me and my husband.Posted by lisabethur8You are right.. status does not matter to me. My importance is placed elsewhere.
okey dokey. whatever makes you happy.
EDIT - i'm just saying...
a lot of you women are looking to marry UP.
not you @blackphase.
I actually appreciate you are much more forgiving and loving to your man.
if I had a brother who had problems not being aggressive in the working field, and was passive but still worked something, and at least he's trying, the woman who has him is well appreciated. Because that's NOT easy to be with a man who you have to provide.
We love
Status and love are two completely different things.. And I'd say that it is not important to your husband as you do nothing.
You actually don't sound like you know what love is at all. Now I sort of feel bad for you..click to expand
Posted by Arielle83really? he could get benefits for his back injury to help supplement.Posted by dominoeshow am i superficial?
You're missing the point. He's getting an education.
You're a very superficial person.
my husband has a back injury where he can only work so much each week due to an accident...right now i work three jobs to supplement his income..
i also take care of him...
i don't care about the hierarchy of career because anyones job can fall through and they are left with nothing...
i am saying i don't care what job they have as long something is coming in.
you're the one who keeps telling me i should care if someone is flipping burgers....i don't care, money is coming in...click to expand
my sister's friends who are a couple, one is a guy who works construction and has a back injury and hasn't worked for 3 years, is getting supplement.
and maybe he does odd jobs here and there.
Posted by blackphaselol i was actually agreeing with dominoes.Posted by Arielle83I thought he meant OP? :/Posted by dominoeshow am i superficial?
You're missing the point. He's getting an education.
You're a very superficial person.
my husband has a back injury where he can only work so much each week due to an accident...right now i work three jobs to supplement his income..
i also take care of him...
i don't care about the hierarchy of career because anyones job can fall through and they are left with nothing...
i am saying i don't care what job they have as long something is coming in.
you're the one who keeps telling me i should care if someone is flipping burgers....i don't care, money is coming in...click to expand
men will feel depressed if they know they can't provide. that's why many won't go for a woman unless they have something.
Posted by blackphasePosted by lisabethur8Posted by blackphaseOf course you are and of course they are.. You don't have to lift a finger..Posted by lisabethur8*shrug* sticks and stones. i'm just very happy. its hard for people to get, but even my sisters and my mother is happy for me.Posted by blackphasestatus IS important to me and my husband.Posted by lisabethur8You are right.. status does not matter to me. My importance is placed elsewhere.
okey dokey. whatever makes you happy.
EDIT - i'm just saying...
a lot of you women are looking to marry UP.
not you @blackphase.
I actually appreciate you are much more forgiving and loving to your man.
if I had a brother who had problems not being aggressive in the working field, and was passive but still worked something, and at least he's trying, the woman who has him is well appreciated. Because that's NOT easy to be with a man who you have to provide.
We love
Status and love are two completely different things.. And I'd say that it is not important to your husband as you do nothing.
You actually don't sound like you know what love is at all. Now I sort of feel bad for you..
Lots of people are happy without having a guy who provides for them.. There's a lot more to a loving relationship than money and status..click to expand
gosh Okay. I can hear the bitterness from you. IF you're happy then you wouldn't be putting me down.
this is why i said what i said earlier. you don't sound happy.
so what if my man is a good provider. Sorry to burst your bubbles.
edit - although I didn't know that Arielle's man was physically not able.
no wonder she works so much to help him. makes sense why she was so upset.
so what if my man is a good provider. Sorry to burst your bubbles.
edit - although I didn't know that Arielle's man was physically not able.
no wonder she works so much to help him. makes sense why she was so upset.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by blackphasei don't know my post got cut off...merghh..Posted by Arielle83I thought he meant OP? :/Posted by dominoeshow am i superficial?
You're missing the point. He's getting an education.
You're a very superficial person.
my husband has a back injury where he can only work so much each week due to an accident...right now i work three jobs to supplement his income..
i also take care of him...
i don't care about the hierarchy of career because anyones job can fall through and they are left with nothing...
i am saying i don't care what job they have as long something is coming in.
you're the one who keeps telling me i should care if someone is flipping burgers....i don't care, money is coming in...
I'm over this status bullshit...
everyone grows through life...heck I'm probably going to change my career as soon as i get permanent residency. my husband might end up a house husband when we have babies. right now he's helping out with the accounting at a firm instead of lifting bricks.
you have to be flexible in todays economy...i also notice that, in australia, women here love the tradesmen...it's all about the tradesmen and the guys who work outdoors.
the pencil pushers etc. aren't the sexiest....maybe its got to do more with machismo down under.
which is why its all relative to where u are in the world.click to expand
I've watched those Australian films and stuff, and masterchef austraila. It does look like the men are tradesmen, ranchers too. Very manly men as well. environment makes a difference.
@blackphase, you and I just 'don't agree with the TYPE of men we should be with. The only reason I was on you was because I was confused why you put your man down, for asking for cigarettes.
it's like if you don't mind and if you were GIVING you wouldn't give two shits if you gave him money.
it's like if you don't mind and if you were GIVING you wouldn't give two shits if you gave him money.
Posted by blackphaseyou brought up status.Posted by dominoes??
@blackphase
No one is talking about status. You guys seem very narrow minded. :/
OP brought up status and said it was important.. No idea what that has to do with narrow mindedness?click to expand
I just said
I love that.
if the definition of status means traditional. then fine.
Posted by blackphasealso your scorpio moon and 8th house is REVENGING on me.Posted by lisabethur8What bubble are you bursting?
this is why i said what i said earlier. you don't sound happy.
so what if my man is a good provider. Sorry to burst your bubbles.
edit - although I didn't know that Arielle's man was physically not able.
no wonder she works so much to help him. makes sense why she was so upset.
And I am perfectly happy.. I thought this thread was ignorant and I simply answered your question. That has NOTHING to do with my relationship or my happiness.. You were the one who went searching for that information or tried to tell me how I must feel.click to expand
like you can't let go of the fact that I mentioned about what you said about your guy asking for MONEY for cigarettes
and how you got UPSET you had to ask him for MONEY and he was pissy about it.
so your scorpio moon is revenging on my ass about it.
jesus Christ. You'd be NASTY to live with. someone who stays with you would have to walk on EGGSHELLS cause you're gonna sting a rooney on them and be CRUEL.
Posted by blackphasePosted by dominoesThe only reason people are getting defensive is becasue many of us said we didn't care what our s/o did for a living as long as he was happy, and OP decided it was necessary to dig up anything she could remember about our relationships to point out the flaws. Basically trying to tell us that since we decided to date or marry down, we would not be happy. That's where the defensiveness is coming from.. And this stupid narrow minded gal had to spell it out for you.. Guess you couldn't just follow the thread and see that for yourself..Posted by Arielle83Posted by dominoesEverywhere I've written Ive said no one is static.Posted by Arielle83BECAUSE THE GUY YOU "LOVE" IS CURRENTLY A FLOP AND YOU FEEL THREATENED BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT CAREERS. YOU ASSOCIATE HIS CURRENT "STATUS" AS WHO HE IS. IN FACT, HE'S GETTING A FUCKING EDUCATION AND CAN'T MAINTAIN A FULL TIME JOB RELATED TO HIS FIELD.Posted by dominoeshow am i superficial?
You're missing the point. He's getting an education.
You're a very superficial person.
my husband has a back injury where he can only work so much each week due to an accident...right now i work three jobs to supplement his income..
i also take care of him...
i don't care about the hierarchy of career because anyones job can fall through and they are left with nothing...
i am saying i don't care what job they have as long something is coming in.
you're the one who keeps telling me i should care if someone is flipping burgers....i don't care, money is coming in...
Are you fucking kidding me?
I don't consider my husband a flop!
What the fuck are you on?!
I worship the man, I take care of him, I work for him so he can feel less stressed about his health issues.
WHERE THE FUCK DO YOU SEE THAT I FEEL INSECURE ABOUT ANYTHING?!
He isn't getting an education. He might go back to school part time when we have children because after I am going to be working full time while he stays home for school and babies.....this is his decision.
I am supporting him.
You have issues dude.
LOOK AT YOUR FUCKING REACTION TO A THREAD DISCUSSING A TOPIC YOU ARE EXTREMELY DEFENSIVE ABOUT.click to expand
but you got UPSET at your guy for cigar
for cigarettes and it's about MONEY.
this wouldn't happen if you both had money.
this wouldn't happen if you both had money.
Posted by blackphaselike I said:Posted by lisabethur8Because it's petty and people move on from petty shit like that. Well except for you I guess. And of course you are confused.. you are trying to figure out my entire relationship based off one post you half remember. If you are happy and doing well, why are you so concerned about the rest of us?
@blackphase, you and I just 'don't agree with the TYPE of men we should be with. The only reason I was on you was because I was confused why you put your man down, for asking for cigarettes.
it's like if you don't mind and if you were GIVING you wouldn't give two shits if you gave him money.
I vented.. My fkn bad. How did I know that you'd remember part of the story, get it all wrong and throw it in my face every opportunity you got?click to expand
for cigarettes and it's about MONEY.
this wouldn't happen if you both had money.
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