Help me with the Virgo- ness!!

I’ve hung out with this Virgo twice, he literally has told me over and over and over again how beautiful I am and that he always wants me to stay with him and never leave blah blah blah. When we get intimate, it’s pretty hot. And we’ve never been real focused on sex but after spending time together and talking, it just happens. When we finally end up hooking up, he finishes pretty quickly, and I didn’t at all. No big deal, didn’t care, i was just glad that it happened at all! I stay there afterward, we talk, watch tv and cuddle and fall asleep. While We were both leaving he told me to come over again anytime that I’m free this week. So we make plans for Thursday. About an hour later, while he’s at work, he sends me a message along the lines of saying he’s anxious and depressed and “I know last night didn’t exactly go well :-/ don’t feel obligated to come over Thursday, we can just see a movie sometime”. Uhhhhh..... so I give him a chance to elaborate and he said that after us hooking up, I could opt out of being involved sexually and we could just hang out as friends. SoOoOoO what the hell is up with that? Obviously I wouldn’t keep talking or being interested to hang out

Lol.

That fact that you dont care about your orgasm makes me so sad. You could.be having the best orgasms of your life but your just fine with lackluster penetration lol just as long as it happens. Care more about your needs.

Even he wants you to have more concern for your needs.

He knows the sexual connection was terrible and is being honest about it.

He doesnt want you to settle.

He doesnt even want to settle his own self.

He cares more about his sexual needs getting met than you do.

Thata a plot twist

This makes me feel some type of way that one of my kind (I'm a Virgo) that couldn't deliver and lay down that pipe properly for you. You deserve a multitude of orgasms, like DMV said lol.

This Virguy clearly cares about you and your needs and he was being hyper-critical of himself and his subpar performance. He's doubting himself now, afraid that you won't want to continue things with him based off of that one time experience. You just gotta reassure him that it is okay, and if you both want to continue communicate each others needs and wants.

Yeah...he's embarrassed and being critical of himself. (Even though he still could have taken care of you in other ways ...). He's just stuck in his head and needs reassurance. Let's hope if you continue...he makes up for it the next time...

Posted by LostinmyMind11

Yeah...he's embarrassed and being critical of himself. (Even though he still could have taken care of you in other ways ...). He's just stuck in his head and needs reassurance. Let's hope if you continue...he makes up for it the next time...

Yeah, we tried stuff after but I think he was too in his head to really be there. I also think he’s a lot less experience than I am

Posted by DMV

Lol.

That fact that you dont care about your orgasm makes me so sad. You could.be having the best orgasms of your life but your just fine with lackluster penetration lol just as long as it happens. Care more about your needs.

Even he wants you to have more concern for your needs.

He knows the sexual connection was terrible and is being honest about it.

He doesnt want you to settle.

He doesnt even want to settle his own self.

He cares more about his sexual needs getting met than you do.

Thata a plot twist

I mean it was good up until it was done -__- It feels like he’s a lot less experienced than myself. He’s Virgo sun AND moon, so idk. I could tell he was bothered by it since. I’m uh hoping for next time, maybe he should jerk off while I’m gone. Like a lot. Hell, the dude got a boner from us just sitting on the couch and talking the first time we hung out. NOTHING sexual at all going on hahaha

Posted by smol_asian

This makes me feel some type of way that one of my kind (I'm a Virgo) that couldn't deliver and lay down that pipe properly for you. You deserve a multitude of orgasms, like DMV said lol.

This Virguy clearly cares about you and your needs and he was being hyper-critical of himself and his subpar performance. He's doubting himself now, afraid that you won't want to continue things with him based off of that one time experience. You just gotta reassure him that it is okay, and if you both want to continue communicate each others needs and wants.

He’s a Virgo sun AND moon, so I know he was being hard on himself, like overly. I told him that we can always try for next time and that it’s hard for me to cum sometimes. I was just more surprised by the response to the whole thing because he’s always telling me to stay with him and asks me to come over every single day. I get you’re hurt but cmon

Hmmm virgo moon men have terrible insecurities.

This may be a never ending sign of you always having to pump him up.

Posted by DMV

Hmmm virgo moon men have terrible insecurities.

This may be a never ending sign of you always having to pump him up.

I was thinking the same thing, it’s showing already. I gotta pump myself up let alone someone else!

Posted by MizzzzM

Posted by smol_asian

This makes me feel some type of way that one of my kind (I'm a Virgo) that couldn't deliver and lay down that pipe properly for you. You deserve a multitude of orgasms, like DMV said lol.

This Virguy clearly cares about you and your needs and he was being hyper-critical of himself and his subpar performance. He's doubting himself now, afraid that you won't want to continue things with him based off of that one time experience. You just gotta reassure him that it is okay, and if you both want to continue communicate each others needs and wants.

He’s a Virgo sun AND moon, so I know he was being hard on himself, like overly. I told him that we can always try for next time and that it’s hard for me to cum sometimes. I was just more surprised by the response to the whole thing because he’s always telling me to stay with him and asks me to come over every single day. I get you’re hurt but cmon

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Double the neurotic/nervous energy! We Virgos like to do thing where we put out our worst traits to see how you respond to it. In this case, if you like this guy keep on seeing him! His doubts will eventually go away once he sees that you're coming thru. Lmao he's just a little emotionally dense!

Posted by s_i_e_r_r_a

what's your sun sign?

I’ll just give you the run down of us both

Him

Sun - Virgo

Moon - Virgo

Mercury - Leo

Venus - Leo

Mars - libra

Rising - pisces

Me

Sun - Gemini

Moon - cancer

Mercury - Gemini

Venus - Aries

Mars - Leo

Rising - Scorpio

Posted by PinsNNeedles

It's a guy thing, I've seen this before. Some guys really do care about your orgasm and feel horrible for not being able to take you at the end of Pound Town. This isn't exclusive to Virgos- This is litterally just a guy thing that guys feel hard on themselves about. If he really didn't care, most guys like that would just walk away and never come back to that subject. They'll act like nothing bad happened. Just go easy on him and love him patiently. Some guys care about your sex life because that's an intimate moment with you and they want you with them on the same level. There's numerous of situations where women express themselves as not having their needs met in bed. Maybe now you don't mind not having yourself finished but over time it can become a seed where it can grow to be problem where you might start to think he really doesn't care... A guy that does care doesn't want to see that happen. You're happy that it happened - share that with him and persuade him. When he really wants to make you orgasm, just let him do his thing and work magic on you. It's like a mission for a guy to make his girl come. It makes them happy.

I definitely agree with you! I’m glad he said something about it I just wish he wasn’t trying to push me away in the process. I assured him it was okay and I still enjoyed myself

Posted by smol_asian

Posted by MizzzzM

Posted by smol_asian

This makes me feel some type of way that one of my kind (I'm a Virgo) that couldn't deliver and lay down that pipe properly for you. You deserve a multitude of orgasms, like DMV said lol.

This Virguy clearly cares about you and your needs and he was being hyper-critical of himself and his subpar performance. He's doubting himself now, afraid that you won't want to continue things with him based off of that one time experience. You just gotta reassure him that it is okay, and if you both want to continue communicate each others needs and wants.

He’s a Virgo sun AND moon, so I know he was being hard on himself, like overly. I told him that we can always try for next time and that it’s hard for me to cum sometimes. I was just more surprised by the response to the whole thing because he’s always telling me to stay with him and asks me to come over every single day. I get you’re hurt but cmon

Double the neurotic/nervous energy! We Virgos like to do thing where we put out our worst traits to see how you respond to it. In this case, if you like this guy keep on seeing him! His doubts will eventually go away once he sees that you're coming thru. Lmao he's just a little emotionally dense!

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Yessss, exactly! Well he’s definitely shown some of his true colors right off the bat. He was saying how he’s depressed and anxious all the time and I’m guessing the sexual encounter really made him in his head. Because when it’s not sexual, we have a great time. Hell, it was a good time regardless! I’d just like it to happen a little longer next time 😉

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Posted by smol_asian

Posted by MizzzzM

Posted by smol_asian

This makes me feel some type of way that one of my kind (I'm a Virgo) that couldn't deliver and lay down that pipe properly for you. You deserve a multitude of orgasms, like DMV said lol.

This Virguy clearly cares about you and your needs and he was being hyper-critical of himself and his subpar performance. He's doubting himself now, afraid that you won't want to continue things with him based off of that one time experience. You just gotta reassure him that it is okay, and if you both want to continue communicate each others needs and wants.

He’s a Virgo sun AND moon, so I know he was being hard on himself, like overly. I told him that we can always try for next time and that it’s hard for me to cum sometimes. I was just more surprised by the response to the whole thing because he’s always telling me to stay with him and asks me to come over every single day. I get you’re hurt but cmon

Double the neurotic/nervous energy! We Virgos like to do thing where we put out our worst traits to see how you respond to it. In this case, if you like this guy keep on seeing him! His doubts will eventually go away once he sees that you're coming thru. Lmao he's just a little emotionally dense!

Yessss, exactly! Well he’s definitely shown some of his true colors right off the bat. He was saying how he’s depressed and anxious all the time and I’m guessing the sexual encounter really made him in his head. Because when it’s not sexual, we have a great time. Hell, it was a good time regardless! I’d just like it to happen a little longer next time 😉

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Yeah, it's easy to tell what a Virgo's intentions are haha. He truly likes and cares about you if he's beating himself up about this because he wants to lay down that pipe and make you happy! He will try his damn best. I think it's great that you're sticking around though and not put off by this.

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Posted by MizzzzM

Posted by smol_asian

This makes me feel some type of way that one of my kind (I'm a Virgo) that couldn't deliver and lay down that pipe properly for you. You deserve a multitude of orgasms, like DMV said lol.

This Virguy clearly cares about you and your needs and he was being hyper-critical of himself and his subpar performance. He's doubting himself now, afraid that you won't want to continue things with him based off of that one time experience. You just gotta reassure him that it is okay, and if you both want to continue communicate each others needs and wants.

He’s a Virgo sun AND moon, so I know he was being hard on himself, like overly. I told him that we can always try for next time and that it’s hard for me to cum sometimes. I was just more surprised by the response to the whole thing because he’s always telling me to stay with him and asks me to come over every single day. I get you’re hurt but cmon

Double the neurotic/nervous energy! We Virgos like to do thing where we put out our worst traits to see how you respond to it. In this case, if you like this guy keep on seeing him! His doubts will eventually go away once he sees that you're coming thru. Lmao he's just a little emotionally dense!

Yessss, exactly! Well he’s definitely shown some of his true colors right off the bat. He was saying how he’s depressed and anxious all the time and I’m guessing the sexual encounter really made him in his head. Because when it’s not sexual, we have a great time. Hell, it was a good time regardless! I’d just like it to happen a little longer next time 😉

Yeah, it's easy to tell what a Virgo's intentions are haha. He truly likes and cares about you if he's beating himself up about this because he wants to lay down that pipe and make you happy! He will try his damn best. I think it's great that you're sticking around though and not put off by this.

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Of course! We get along so well, if he did something truly shitty to me it would be different but sometimes it just takes a while to get to know each other’s bodies and what gets them off

Posted by PinsNNeedles

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Posted by PinsNNeedles

It's a guy thing, I've seen this before. Some guys really do care about your orgasm and feel horrible for not being able to take you at the end of Pound Town. This isn't exclusive to Virgos- This is litterally just a guy thing that guys feel hard on themselves about. If he really didn't care, most guys like that would just walk away and never come back to that subject. They'll act like nothing bad happened. Just go easy on him and love him patiently. Some guys care about your sex life because that's an intimate moment with you and they want you with them on the same level. There's numerous of situations where women express themselves as not having their needs met in bed. Maybe now you don't mind not having yourself finished but over time it can become a seed where it can grow to be problem where you might start to think he really doesn't care... A guy that does care doesn't want to see that happen. You're happy that it happened - share that with him and persuade him. When he really wants to make you orgasm, just let him do his thing and work magic on you. It's like a mission for a guy to make his girl come. It makes them happy.

I definitely agree with you! I’m glad he said something about it I just wish he wasn’t trying to push me away in the process. I assured him it was okay and I still enjoyed myself

That's good. That persuading him and being gentle to him should have him come around eventually and see you want to be there with him too. 😺

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My thoughts exactly! I’m supposed to go over Thursday and make dinner and such. Errr were supposed to make dinner together. Curious to see if he messages me with some insecure stuff between then or if I’ll hear anything