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How to tell a kids your not thier father.
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Your their father regardless of DNA, that changes nothing. They will be emotional and probably a little hurt, but that hurt isn't on you, just be there and help them through it. Kids are much more resilient than most give them credit for. If they have a curiousnees to meet him, do it with them, it will show them that no matter what your daddy, always have been, and always will be.
I think that you even talking about it and showing you care about telling them the truth speaks volumes to your personal character and the type of father you. Amen, the world needs more of you.
I'm a mom of 2 kids, I think your doing the right thing.
I think that you even talking about it and showing you care about telling them the truth speaks volumes to your personal character and the type of father you. Amen, the world needs more of you.
I'm a mom of 2 kids, I think your doing the right thing.
Posted by FknNerdWhat was that for—
Ditch the kids and go see your virgo man so he can beat you again ivirgo. Maybe he can beat the mommy issues out of you.
Is there something you know and no one else does?
Are you paying child support?
Posted by FknNerdIm a guy....and Why would i date myself.
Ditch the kids and go see your virgo man so he can beat you again ivirgo. Maybe he can beat the mommy issues out of you.
Be serious for this moment.
Posted by FknNerdDoes he have a history of story telling?Posted by GemitatiPosted by FknNerdWhat was that for—
Ditch the kids and go see your virgo man so he can beat you again ivirgo. Maybe he can beat the mommy issues out of you.
Is there something you know and no one else does?
Id buy his book if he ever wrote one?
Oh shit, are you ivirgo too?click to expand
Posted by GemitatiYes $ 1,400 amonth it was less but after time me and my ex agreed on a fair amount together in court.
Are you paying child support?
Posted by GemitatiPosted by FknNerdWhat was that for—
Ditch the kids and go see your virgo man so he can beat you again ivirgo. Maybe he can beat the mommy issues out of you.click to expand
Is there something you know and no one else does?
Posted by EmotionalAriesThank you so much i feel a little braver everyday
Your their father regardless of DNA, that changes nothing. They will be emotional and probably a little hurt, but that hurt isn't on you, just be there and help them through it. Kids are much more resilient than most give them credit for. If they have a curiousnees to meet him, do it with them, it will show them that no matter what your daddy, always have been, and always will be.
I think that you even talking about it and showing you care about telling them the truth speaks volumes to your personal character and the type of father you. Amen, the world needs more of you.
I'm a mom of 2 kids, I think your doing the right thing.
Posted by GemitatiExactlyPosted by FknNerdWhat was that for—
Ditch the kids and go see your virgo man so he can beat you again ivirgo. Maybe he can beat the mommy issues out of you.
Is there something you know and no one else does?click to expand
Posted by SentimentalCrabbyI just told them i loved them with all my heart in my daddy voice.
Tell them in a Dark Vader voice
i enjoy reading it just like other times
real or not, i wouldn't tell them if i love them. maybe wait till they are 18+
real or not, i wouldn't tell them if i love them. maybe wait till they are 18+
14 years and she is still breaking my heart... Everybody told me she was bad news, but i didn't listen because i believed in love and everything thst it stood for. Heart break after heary break i tried to be good boyfriend, i had my points where i exploded but deep down inside i could never hurt her.
Only beutiful thing that came out of all that disaster were my babies. Two sets of little hands, two sets of little toes and head full of baby hair. I fell in love and the man i am today is because of them.
Only beutiful thing that came out of all that disaster were my babies. Two sets of little hands, two sets of little toes and head full of baby hair. I fell in love and the man i am today is because of them.
Posted by iCloud9I want too but right now my stomach turns, i feel anxious and angry all the time. Its like i want to tell them right now. Then when hear there voice on the other end of the phone say " hello daddy.
i enjoy reading it just like other times
real or not, i wouldn't tell them if i love them. maybe wait till they are 18+
I can't do it.
if this is real, idk... the real farther also has his rights to visit his daughters. it may be too much for the girls to handle at this age though
Posted by SentimentalCrabbyPosted by FirefighterWith the deep voice? Loving them in a "deeper" level —?Posted by SentimentalCrabbyI just told them i loved them with all my heart in my daddy voice.
Tell them in a Dark Vader voiceclick to expand
Stop it... Im father who is about break his daughters heart just because its the right thing to do
Nahhhhhhh! DONT TELL THOSE KIDS! understand what I'm saying... for the sake of the kids let them live the rest of their teenage years without having to worry about one more thing that will KILL THEIR SELF ESTEEM... they will no longer have an indentity... you can wait until they are out of high school for this. if you LOVE them. DONT DO IT!
You adults need to come up with a plan... daddy is the long lost uncle and ex boyfriend is the daddy until they 18 fuck that.
You adults need to come up with a plan... daddy is the long lost uncle and ex boyfriend is the daddy until they 18 fuck that.
Posted by iCloud9He been trying to get in contact for 14years now.
if this is real, idk... the real farther also has his rights to visit his daughters. it may be too much for the girls to handle at this age though
But if he gets them i loose them. All i 'll have are my memories. He's the biological im not.
So much bullshit.
Posted by Firefighterit's not the girls fault. your anxiety and anger shouldn't be directed towards them. their mother is retarded. how sad but you should do what's best for the girls. do what love (not hate) tells youPosted by iCloud9I want too but right now my stomach turns, i feel anxious and angry all the time. Its like i want to tell them right now. Then when hear there voice on the other end of the phone say " hello daddy.
i enjoy reading it just like other times
real or not, i wouldn't tell them if i love them. maybe wait till they are 18+
I can't do it.click to expand
Posted by SPUNKYTAURUSThats how i felt but my wife and my mother in law want me to do the right thing. My found out who real father was later in life.
Nahhhhhhh! DONT TELL THOSE KIDS! understand what I'm saying... for the sake of the kids let them live the rest of their teenage years without having to worry about one more thing that will KILL THEIR SELF ESTEEM... they will no longer have an indentity... you can wait until they are out of high school for this. if you LOVE them. DONT DO IT!
Posted by FirefighterHow would you have felt knowing that while you were a child? With all the issues like peer pressure and the psychological issues kids have today, why add to that when you can avoid it? This is the prime times of their teenage years. DONT DO IT.Posted by SPUNKYTAURUSThats how i felt but my wife and my mother in law want me to do the right thing. My found out who real father was later in life.
Nahhhhhhh! DONT TELL THOSE KIDS! understand what I'm saying... for the sake of the kids let them live the rest of their teenage years without having to worry about one more thing that will KILL THEIR SELF ESTEEM... they will no longer have an indentity... you can wait until they are out of high school for this. if you LOVE them. DONT DO IT!click to expand
Posted by SPUNKYTAURUSBut wht about their real father. Im gonna have look them in their eyes 1 day and tell them i knew who he was and just kept it from them. Not only will they pissed at their mother, what if they turn their back on me too that sh@ would kill me.Posted by FirefighterHow would you have felt knowing that while you were a child? With all the issues like peer pressure and the psychological issues kids have today, why add to that when you can avoid it? This is the prime times of their teenage years. DONT DO IT.Posted by SPUNKYTAURUSThats how i felt but my wife and my mother in law want me to do the right thing. My found out who real father was later in life.
Nahhhhhhh! DONT TELL THOSE KIDS! understand what I'm saying... for the sake of the kids let them live the rest of their teenage years without having to worry about one more thing that will KILL THEIR SELF ESTEEM... they will no longer have an indentity... you can wait until they are out of high school for this. if you LOVE them. DONT DO IT!click to expand
I don't understand why its your responsibility to reveal this information to them.
Idk, but I would leave their mom to do it.
Idk, but I would leave their mom to do it.
Posted by FirefighterNah... they'll be older to understand. You did it to "protect" them... that's what parents do. You adults (the three of you involved) need to come up with a solution to keep this for awhile... then you explain why you felt it was best. You tell them now and you will regret it.. I promise you. You're thinking everything is gone out the window, but you've been there since day one come on now... don't make rash decisions. Y'all get together and make this work... don't do this, it's gonna create issues for them. Unless you plan on taking them to therapy.Posted by SPUNKYTAURUSBut wht about their real father. Im gonna have look them in their eyes 1 day and tell them i knew who he was and just kept it from them. Not only will they pissed at their mother, what if they turn their back on me too that sh@ would kill me.Posted by FirefighterHow would you have felt knowing that while you were a child? With all the issues like peer pressure and the psychological issues kids have today, why add to that when you can avoid it? This is the prime times of their teenage years. DONT DO IT.Posted by SPUNKYTAURUSThats how i felt but my wife and my mother in law want me to do the right thing. My found out who real father was later in life.
Nahhhhhhh! DONT TELL THOSE KIDS! understand what I'm saying... for the sake of the kids let them live the rest of their teenage years without having to worry about one more thing that will KILL THEIR SELF ESTEEM... they will no longer have an indentity... you can wait until they are out of high school for this. if you LOVE them. DONT DO IT!click to expand
None of you are thinking of what will happen to the mental state of these kids once they know. Please reconsider.
Posted by EmotionalAriesTHIS 100% .
Your their father regardless of DNA, that changes nothing. They will be emotional and probably a little hurt, but that hurt isn't on you, just be there and help them through it. Kids are much more resilient than most give them credit for. If they have a curiousnees to meet him, do it with them, it will show them that no matter what your daddy, always have been, and always will be.
I think that you even talking about it and showing you care about telling them the truth speaks volumes to your personal character and the type of father you. Amen, the world needs more of you.
I'm a mom of 2 kids, I think your doing the right thing.
@firefighter
Also, that cap woman is an asshole. "I had to man up and walk away from the woman I loved."...that hit me. I've experienced those kinds of moments as well and I have to say you're so amazing.
You raised those girls, ...you are their father.
The DNA test is biological.
Those test results don't change the fact that you were there,
and he wasn't.
Their mother was dishonest,
you're honest.
And hard-working.
Be proud.
Posted by lnana04She won't. She was upset and still is 4 months after the results. She even feels that me paying child suppor is my responsibility. For those 2 little girls to have wht they need i dnt mind. She is just very selfish always been.
I don't understand why its your responsibility to reveal this information to them.
Idk, but I would leave their mom to do it.
Posted by FirefighterHm....I wonder if the government gives you some sort of money back if you were tricked into paying child support.Posted by GemitatiYes $ 1,400 amonth it was less but after time me and my ex agreed on a fair amount together in court.
Are you paying child support?click to expand
Not saying you'd do it but,
it does sound like that kind of thing is possible to sue someone for.
Posted by SalamanderCandyI doubt it fathers always get screwed by the system. The only plus is my girls love me unconditionally. Thats only remburstment i needPosted by FirefighterHm....I wonder if the government gives you some sort of money back if you were tricked into paying child support.Posted by GemitatiYes $ 1,400 amonth it was less but after time me and my ex agreed on a fair amount together in court.
Are you paying child support?
Not saying you'd do it but,
it does sound like that kind of thing is possible to sue someone for.click to expand
Posted by FirefighterPosted by lnana04She won't. She was upset and still is 4 months after the results. She even feels that me paying child suppor is my responsibility. For those 2 little girls to have wht they need i dnt mind. She is just very selfish always been.
I don't understand why its your responsibility to reveal this information to them.
Idk, but I would leave their mom to do it.click to expand
I'd look into suing the mom just because of her attitude.
And save the girls somehow, even if the mom uses them against you. "Oohh you're taking money from me then you're taking money from them!" blabla. < that'd still be bs because you could still give support them outside of what the court tells you.
I have a lot of questions of how court would see this with a good lawyer, tbh.
If the girls have been put under your name all these years,
Legally, that would make you their father right?
So maybe you sue the mom and somehow get the children under your custody
Not saying there's a big chance with the custody but,
it doesn't seem impossible.
I was raised in a similar situation and let me just say, the truth always comes out, better to control that and tell them versus someone else doing it for you. You're their dad and they are old enough to understand and then love you even more for sticking with them.
I learned to braid and press hair 2 years ago just so i could always do their hair for the first day of school and now thats our thing.
Posted by SalamanderCandyI wish! But no one can prove she had lied to him knowingly. She might...just might made an honest mistake. Unless someone else paid child support - then it's a fraud. Otherwise - nothing will happen in his favor. $ 1400— Damn!!!Posted by FirefighterHm....I wonder if the government gives you some sort of money back if you were tricked into paying child support.Posted by GemitatiYes $ 1,400 amonth it was less but after time me and my ex agreed on a fair amount together in court.
Are you paying child support?
Not saying you'd do it but,
it does sound like that kind of thing is possible to sue someone for.click to expand
Asduming this is not a troll post...
You are their father, DNA notwithstanding, since you took up the mantle of involvement in raising those children.
The "bio dad" is a deadbeat, and apparently the same with bio mom.
Kids are smarter than many give them credit, and I agree with EmotionalAries post up the thread.
You are their father, DNA notwithstanding, since you took up the mantle of involvement in raising those children.
The "bio dad" is a deadbeat, and apparently the same with bio mom.
Kids are smarter than many give them credit, and I agree with EmotionalAries post up the thread.
Posted by Gemitati#ThatMomentYoureWillingtobecomealawyerjustbecauseofthismansthread. ‹CONSIDERING IT.Posted by SalamanderCandyI wish! But no one can prove she had lied to him knowingly. She might...just might made an honest mistake. Unless someone else paid child support - then it's a fraud. Otherwise - nothing will happen in his favor. $ 1400— Damn!!!Posted by FirefighterHm....I wonder if the government gives you some sort of money back if you were tricked into paying child support.Posted by GemitatiYes $ 1,400 amonth it was less but after time me and my ex agreed on a fair amount together in court.
Are you paying child support?
Not saying you'd do it but,
it does sound like that kind of thing is possible to sue someone for.click to expand
idk...that's why I said really good lawyer. xD
Her "honest mistake" cost him about a yearly 12k tf.
If a guy that made a fraudulent university could become president....
there HAS to be some sort of loophole for this guy.
Even if we don't see it. Just like most of us didn't see who would've won in 2016. x_x
Blindsighted.
Anyway!
@Firefighter said that she still thinks he should be paying child support..
maybe he can have a conversation with her,
while he secretly records it.
That has got to be some sort of proof- it's not everything, but it's something.
Also if i tell them i still might loose them. My ex is vindictive and self centered. She did it to him. She'll do it to me.
She said she never believed he was the father. She called him a drug addict. And dead beat with other kids he dosent take care of. Which turned out to be true. But she mafe the choice to spread her legs. I was always a good guy.
She said she never believed he was the father. She called him a drug addict. And dead beat with other kids he dosent take care of. Which turned out to be true. But she mafe the choice to spread her legs. I was always a good guy.
Posted by SalamanderCandyIt'll take his blood and nerves and brains and can destroy his sanity!Posted by Gemitati#ThatMomentYoureWillingtobecomealawyerjustbecauseofthismansthread. ‹CONSIDERING IT.Posted by SalamanderCandyI wish! But no one can prove she had lied to him knowingly. She might...just might made an honest mistake. Unless someone else paid child support - then it's a fraud. Otherwise - nothing will happen in his favor. $ 1400— Damn!!!Posted by FirefighterHm....I wonder if the government gives you some sort of money back if you were tricked into paying child support.Posted by GemitatiYes $ 1,400 amonth it was less but after time me and my ex agreed on a fair amount together in court.
Are you paying child support?
Not saying you'd do it but,
it does sound like that kind of thing is possible to sue someone for.
idk...that's why I said really good lawyer. xD
Her "honest mistake" cost him about a yearly 12k tf.
If a guy that made a fraudulent university could become president....
there HAS to be some sort of loophole for this guy.
Even if we don't see it. Just like most of us didn't see who would've won in 2016. x_x
Blindsighted.
Anyway!
@Firefighter said that she still thinks he should be paying child support..
maybe he can have a conversation with her,
while he secretly records it.
That has got to be some sort of proof- it's not everything, but it's something.
click to expand
PYing AFTER the test would be simply wrong! He could spend these money on girls by himself bypassing her hands!
And it sshouldnr be a hard thing to do...
But greedy conaving beech will probably destroy his relationships with girls out of spite! Its a mess he should had take care of long time ago. But what's done is done!
Unfortunately...
Posted by goatSome people just born this way. Nothing is sacred to them. Poor heartless idiot!Posted by SentimentalCrabbyPosted by FirefighterWith the deep voice? Loving them in a "deeper" level —?Posted by SentimentalCrabbyI just told them i loved them with all my heart in my daddy voice.
Tell them in a Dark Vader voice
You're stupid
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She doesn't know it'll bite her sooner or later. Well...
Posted by GemitatiYou're right about him just saving that lawyer money for something he wants instead.Posted by SalamanderCandyIt'll take his blood and nerves and brains and can destroy his sanity!Posted by Gemitati#ThatMomentYoureWillingtobecomealawyerjustbecauseofthismansthread. ‹CONSIDERING IT.Posted by SalamanderCandyI wish! But no one can prove she had lied to him knowingly. She might...just might made an honest mistake. Unless someone else paid child support - then it's a fraud. Otherwise - nothing will happen in his favor. $ 1400— Damn!!!Posted by FirefighterHm....I wonder if the government gives you some sort of money back if you were tricked into paying child support.Posted by GemitatiYes $ 1,400 amonth it was less but after time me and my ex agreed on a fair amount together in court.
Are you paying child support?
Not saying you'd do it but,
it does sound like that kind of thing is possible to sue someone for.
idk...that's why I said really good lawyer. xD
Her "honest mistake" cost him about a yearly 12k tf.
If a guy that made a fraudulent university could become president....
there HAS to be some sort of loophole for this guy.
Even if we don't see it. Just like most of us didn't see who would've won in 2016. x_x
Blindsighted.
Anyway!
@Firefighter said that she still thinks he should be paying child support..
maybe he can have a conversation with her,
while he secretly records it.
That has got to be some sort of proof- it's not everything, but it's something.
PYing AFTER the test would be simply wrong! He could spend these money on girls by himself bypassing her hands!
And it sshouldnr be a hard thing to do...
But greedy conaving beech will probably destroy his relationships with girls out of spite! Its a mess he should had take care of long time ago. But what's done is done!
Unfortunately...click to expand
But it's still always good to have some sort of proof in case things go down again.
We both have good points :p`
Although if she does decide to go crazy and "ruin his life" with his relationships,
he could always record that too. And he'll have the messages as part of the proof.
Posted by Firefighter-Sigh-...I must say you're a very sweet person.Posted by SalamanderCandyI doubt it fathers always get screwed by the system. The only plus is my girls love me unconditionally. Thats only remburstment i needPosted by FirefighterHm....I wonder if the government gives you some sort of money back if you were tricked into paying child support.Posted by GemitatiYes $ 1,400 amonth it was less but after time me and my ex agreed on a fair amount together in court.
Are you paying child support?
Not saying you'd do it but,
it does sound like that kind of thing is possible to sue someone for.click to expand
You said their mom still thinks you should pay child support, yeah?
Maybe you could have another one of those "usual" conversations,
and secretly record it.
Even if in court you think you wouldn't have much chance, at least you'd have something.
Also,
those kids love you.
Even if they get hurt and say harsh and horrible things in the spur of the moment,
we must understand that it's their human reaction and that they have a right to feel pain too.
Their pain isn't taken away just because an adult in their life (even if they're caring) would rather keep them safe forever.
They might have to go through a stage, but you're their daddy.
I am sorry you had to go through this. But..DNA is nothing compared to those who have been there for you.
Posted by TaurusinTexasYour right but their mother made comments saying if say somthing " i must never wanta see them again
I was raised in a similar situation and let me just say, the truth always comes out, better to control that and tell them versus someone else doing it for you. You're their dad and they are old enough to understand and then love you even more for sticking with them.
Posted by SalamanderCandyOhhh...women who are about to be stripped out of feee money can be vicious!Posted by GemitatiYou're right about him just saving that lawyer money for something he wants instead.Posted by SalamanderCandyIt'll take his blood and nerves and brains and can destroy his sanity!Posted by Gemitati#ThatMomentYoureWillingtobecomealawyerjustbecauseofthismansthread. ‹CONSIDERING IT.Posted by SalamanderCandyI wish! But no one can prove she had lied to him knowingly. She might...just might made an honest mistake. Unless someone else paid child support - then it's a fraud. Otherwise - nothing will happen in his favor. $ 1400— Damn!!!Posted by FirefighterHm....I wonder if the government gives you some sort of money back if you were tricked into paying child support.Posted by GemitatiYes $ 1,400 amonth it was less but after time me and my ex agreed on a fair amount together in court.
Are you paying child support?
Not saying you'd do it but,
it does sound like that kind of thing is possible to sue someone for.
idk...that's why I said really good lawyer. xD
Her "honest mistake" cost him about a yearly 12k tf.
If a guy that made a fraudulent university could become president....
there HAS to be some sort of loophole for this guy.
Even if we don't see it. Just like most of us didn't see who would've won in 2016. x_x
Blindsighted.
Anyway!
@Firefighter said that she still thinks he should be paying child support..
maybe he can have a conversation with her,
while he secretly records it.
That has got to be some sort of proof- it's not everything, but it's something.
PYing AFTER the test would be simply wrong! He could spend these money on girls by himself bypassing her hands!
And it sshouldnr be a hard thing to do...
But greedy conaving beech will probably destroy his relationships with girls out of spite! Its a mess he should had take care of long time ago. But what's done is done!
Unfortunately...
But it's still always good to have some sort of proof in case things go down again.
We both have good points :p`
Although if she does decide to go crazy and "ruin his life" with his relationships,
he could always record that too. And he'll have the messages as part of the proof.
click to expand
She would be able to poison those kids minds in no time!
Between having recording some, delivering to anlawyers, waiting for lawyers to lift fat asses to DO something about it...enough time for her to tell the girls 'your daddy doesn't love you because he doesn't want to help mommy to raise you...' and try to win them back AFTER - could be a rough game!!! Urghhhh...
Posted by SalamanderCandyPosted by Gemitati#ThatMomentYoureWillingtobecomealawyerjustbecauseofthismansthread. ‹CONSIDERING IT.Posted by SalamanderCandyI wish! But no one can prove she had lied to him knowingly. She might...just might made an honest mistake. Unless someone else paid child support - then it's a fraud. Otherwise - nothing will happen in his favor. $ 1400— Damn!!!Posted by FirefighterHm....I wonder if the government gives you some sort of money back if you were tricked into paying child support.Posted by GemitatiYes $ 1,400 amonth it was less but after time me and my ex agreed on a fair amount together in court.
Are you paying child support?
Not saying you'd do it but,
it does sound like that kind of thing is possible to sue someone for.
idk...that's why I said really good lawyer. xD
Her "honest mistake" cost him about a yearly 12k tf.
If a guy that made a fraudulent university could become president....
there HAS to be some sort of loophole for this guy.
Even if we don't see it. Just like most of us didn't see who would've won in 2016. x_x
Blindsighted.
Anyway!
@Firefighter said that she still thinks he should be paying child support..
maybe he can have a conversation with her,
while he secretly records it.
That has got to be some sort of proof- it's not everything, but it's something.
click to expand
Honestly im not even thinking about child support i got 2 girks coming over Saturday to spend time with daddy and i feel like Sh@ about everything.
I may just not pick them up for awhile longer
I havent pick them up past 3 weekends with some lame a## excuses and summer time is basically over and this saturday i cant avoid it because they go to school Monday. And my daughter has been sending me pictures of a hair do she likes and she wants me try to do her hair.
My other daughter keeps saying she wants me to watch somthing called "Descendents 2" its Disney movie. She said she hasnt seen it and is waiting to watch it only with me.
Posted by FirefighterYou need to take back your power, she's using fear to control you. Get a good lawyer - my friend, who also went thru this, won custody of his kids because of this very reason and that was in Texas a very mother favored state and they also are not his biological kids, you have rights here.Posted by TaurusinTexasYour right but their mother made comments saying if say somthing " i must never wanta see them again
I was raised in a similar situation and let me just say, the truth always comes out, better to control that and tell them versus someone else doing it for you. You're their dad and they are old enough to understand and then love you even more for sticking with them.click to expand
Also its her secret not yours, start reminding her of that.
If you were my dad, DNA wouldn't matter to me. You'd still be my dad.
A lot of it also depends on how you tell them.
They're gonna take in what you feel about it too- kids are perceptive.
So you're doing very well in delaying it while you come to terms with it yourself.
Hm...what if you try telling them a story first?
In a far away land called 'The Big Napple',
there lived 3 kittens (2 makes it too obvious).
Every day, the kitten's dad would hunt for them.
All of them knew that they loved each other very much.
One day, the dad finds out that biologically, those kittens are not his daughters. They got switched in the kitten hospital and he was very confused.
Dada kitten didn't know what to feel.
But he did know that,
he never regretted a moment he spent with his three daughters.
It was clearer to him that fatherhood, is a bond.
You can do something else of that nature or change the story all you want/don't want.
Up to you ♥
I send you my compassion from Texas.
A lot of it also depends on how you tell them.
They're gonna take in what you feel about it too- kids are perceptive.
So you're doing very well in delaying it while you come to terms with it yourself.
Hm...what if you try telling them a story first?
In a far away land called 'The Big Napple',
there lived 3 kittens (2 makes it too obvious).
Every day, the kitten's dad would hunt for them.
All of them knew that they loved each other very much.
One day, the dad finds out that biologically, those kittens are not his daughters. They got switched in the kitten hospital and he was very confused.
Dada kitten didn't know what to feel.
But he did know that,
he never regretted a moment he spent with his three daughters.
It was clearer to him that fatherhood, is a bond.
You can do something else of that nature or change the story all you want/don't want.
Up to you ♥
I send you my compassion from Texas.
Only advice I got is to give them 12 inches and not 6. It'll help.
Posted by goatI would suggest you look at FireFighter's previous posts. Considering most people know what he is about.Posted by SentimentalCrabbyDudes being serious. It's a serious matter. You're dumbPosted by goatYou're stupid for not knowing what a joke is. Of course you wouldn't see it as a way cheer up someone.Posted by SentimentalCrabbyPosted by FirefighterWith the deep voice? Loving them in a "deeper" level —?Posted by SentimentalCrabbyI just told them i loved them with all my heart in my daddy voice.
Tell them in a Dark Vader voice
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How come there aren’t any post about Virgo women on here? I can’t decide what’s going on. So there’s this girl I know, and she lives with her boyfriend, she’s also going on holiday with her boyfriend.
We’ve been spending time together, and it’s been g
Im hoping to get help to understand and grow with my son , i'm having a really hard time relating and understanding him. to make it simple I feel like I'm doing everything wrong in his eyes and I don't think he likes me.
I wanna know what I should foc
I'm currently in love with a Virgo man who is 10 years older than me. Our current chemistry is very good: he feels comfortable talking about anything to me, tells me his life story, caring for me, protecting me, buying me cake, sharing with me about his w
I have 2 Virgos currently interested in me. But I don't know what they're texting style is. Both act the same. Randomly text and when I respond, usually right away, they end up responding either hours later or the next day.
Both seem to like leaving me
Hello there! Been a while started a new topic here on my beloved Virgo!!! ;)
So this Virgo man's been overly sweet with me from few weeks now! Just in a friendly way I feel. Because he doesn't pick on me, he doesn't criticise me, he calls me super, a
this thread will be full of insights on the virgos motives and intentions behind some of their actions.
so @ non virgos, save your "facts" for later. questions are welcome though
@ virgos share yours too, state your other placements, whether you're
we know everything
Hey everyone
Needing opinions on virgo men. Ive been dating/getting to know a virgo man for about a month now. We've only been on one date due to our busy schedules. We talk every day all day though. So recently the sex topic has come up. We are still
Do virgo men pull away when they start to love someone else?
Am dealing with a cold distant Virgo after being the Cerner of his attention, I asked him alot until he got pissed of and told me ya am talking to someone else and it's 4 girls not one.
Well? Why is it that pisces intelligence is a joke to virgos?
I think I bitched away a Virgo should I apologize and ask for a do over or is all hope lost thanks!
I was with a Virgo man and we both had feelings for each other but then we agreed to be just friends and he had set his limits.
But even so sometimes we keep talking everyday and we both work in the same company so it's bit hard maintain distance and i
HELP! I'm falling in love with a Virgo man who is already in a committed longterm relationship with an Aquarius woman. We met through our work. I'm confused as to whether he really likes me or just being nice to me. We work together but mine is more work
I know it said give Virgos time and space, how long do they need to sort out their feelings?
It's been a week and 2 days now and no word from my Virgo friend.
Everyone says give him "time and once he has chilled out and processed his thoughts he wi
Was dating a Virgo very seriously last year. Then he dumped me bc things were moving too fast. We were long distance then. I understood and took my time away from him. I moved a lot closer to him (from 8 hours to 8 minutes) and we linked back up. Everythi
I tried my hardest...I really did to try to be patient with this Virgo man, but he's testing my nerves and trying my life with all of his stupid ass games.
So, I decided to ask him what were we and he answered:
"I don't know. I really don't know. I'
Yes I know the topic is cliche' we all should know this by now, but I just wanted to share my story about my Virgo. It's only going on two months but I've finally got some break through lol.
In the beginning I was so frustrated because for the life of
Hi there, I have been around Virgo men almost all my life, raised with 1, dated 2. I generally feel like I understand Virgos well but an ex boyfriend has me perplexed. Broke up 1 1/2 yrs ago, reconnected strictly as friends. He said some nasty things abou
So, those who know of, experienced or currently in with a Pisces/Virgo pairing - What are your thoughts, experiences and stories?
In my case the guy I am interested in is a Pisces Sun/ Capricorn moon and I'm a Virgo Sun/Taurus Moon.
It's hiccup again, just in summary, I'm a Pisces man and I have married to a Virgin woman about 5yrs now. I really love this woman, but I have experienced some heartaches and frustrations because of her heartless and cruel behavior ( time after time) whic
13 years later im still in my twin girls lives and proud to be. But on my way to pick them up last year may i see a car parked across from my ex girl drive way, i pull in with-out second thought and i honk the horn 1 time so my girls can come running out.
It takes them a minute too come out. As i sit waiting the guy parked in the car walks and stands by his car door. I honk again nobody comes out. Then i walk up to the door knock on the door nobody answers, im heated now because i drove 45minutes to get here for no reason. I call my ex like what the hell" where are you with my baby girls. She said in her text "is there a guy parked outside her house. I said yes as i starred at his direction. She tried to explain he was craxy ex so she would drop the girls off to my house. Now be it, its none of my business who she F**ks because she means nothing to me anymore. But my kids live here and of hes a threat i got to end this now. So i approach him to let him know to not come around her house with B.S only because of my kids or else it will end bad for him.
I walk up to him and told him "whts the problem why are stalking my kids house" he then says i dnt want any trouble i just want see my kids. He said he has twin girls that he hasn't seen in over 12 years....
With all the b.s in my life i swear i didnt need here that.
Now fast foward present date, had DNA Test that confirms daddy is not daddy and it took me few months to heal my broken heart.
My wife feels its the right thing to tell the girls now then later. Also This man has been searching for his kids and it explains why my ex always bounced around from city to city and leaving good jobs for bad ones. She was just desperate to hide her lie and shame from everybody.
Now im trying to figure out how do i as a daddy do the right thing.
Do i keep the lie like my ex.
Or do i break my babies heart and tell the truth.
P.s they love me to death i been there since day 1. Im not going to stop being there and i won't cut off child support. I lovr them too much to do that.