What it takes for a Virgo to be pushed too far ... agree or disagree my virgo's ? (Page 2)

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So it's the opposite in your case? I don't know but i've had moments when i didn't wanna discuss things too and avoid them.. but not in that relationship.. click to expand

I think as a Libra, we have a tendency to put on a smile even when we're not doing great, and fake it til we make it (in terms of happiness) sometimes. That's the biggest issue with Libras in communication in relationships, I think.

With Virgos, I feel like sometimes they just don't want to express their vulnerabilities, or deeper emotions. So while Virgos are able to pinpoint/identify problems as well as anyone, the only time my Virgo ex would talk about problems in the relationship is if she was certain she was not at fault.


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Sorry I am trying to understand why my virgo guy would say we need to talk about our situation and at any given opportunity not bring it up. Interesting what you said here...“the only time my Virgo ex would talk about problems in the relationship is if she was certain she was not at fault” so in other words a Virgo may not want to talk about feelings/ situation because he was the one who is/ has caused this pain in himself and me? If it’s talked about feelings are brought back to the surface this way If it’s not talked about he can just push down his feelings? click to expandclick to expand

Not pushing them down. He's probably working on himself, bettering his mindset. A person can't do that when they have a love interest on their mind. I've tried, but it just doesn't happen well. We virgos have lots of problems just like all the other signs and just people in general, but we strive, to some extent, to try and improve on these "problems" we come across in life, especially in relationships. If something comes up in a relationship that you see as a problem and express it to your virgo, they may seem like they disregard it, but that butter will nag at them. They'll be up at night evaluating themself and deciding on whether or not they need to work on themself for the relationship's sake, or if they should just give up on it. Overthinking will most likely take it's toll over the situatio.
I see it as one of those critical "things" a virgo has to understand and overcome in life. Otherwise they could just vanish one day leaving the other person wondering why. You may have said something you thought was low grade conflict fuel, but to them that butter was jet fuel, and it ate at him until he decided that leaving the relationship was best for both people. We virgos don't want to waste your time, money, or feelings if we aren't meant to be, so we end butter without a second thought. We could give you the treetrunking moon wrapped in a bow, and all we'd silently want in return is some appreciation like a thanks, I love you, a hug, or a cuddle date. click to expand

He pursued me for 3 months after his wife of 25yrs lost her 2 yr battle with cancer. I have know them for 24yrs and there had always been a connection/ chemistry between us. I pushed him away and was hesitant to start anything with him as I thought it was too soon and he wasn’t ready but he kept insisting he was. We dated and fell so fast and hard into love, he told me after 1 week that he loved me, but after 7 months he realized I was right and he wasn’t ready for a relationship and that he needed time to find himself. I only asked him to keep the lines of communication open. Is/ was that wrong of me? click to expandclick to expand

Yea, you don't have to regurgitate all that over and over. I got it. Sounds like you did what you thought right... And now you're expecting him to still love you for how you handled it. You're wondering if you treetrunked up... Well, you probably won't listen, but for real!!! Just stop giving a chocolate chip filled fudge about the situation and go on with life!! Feel your pain, adapt, and move on with life, positively. Don't get hung up on this guy because ge has issues to sort out. I get it... You care for him, you want to know if he's doing all right, but at the end of it all, he is ghosting you, not validating you, so just step back a bit from it and chill out. Go destress, treat, yourself, and move on... Just get off the idea of you and this guy. If he comes back, he comes back, and hopefully he doesn't pull that crap on you again. If he doesn't come back, and blames it on you not maintaining contact with him while he ghosts you... treetrunk him anyway click to expand

Wow...ouch!! Yes, I did/ am doing what I think is right! No he won’t love me because of how I handled it, he’ll love me because he loves me. And I know he loves me but is torn and struggling with grief, guilt, pain and depression. How is he ghosting me if he messages me and replies to my messages. He isn’t able to validate me cause he’s trying to figure himself out but he still tells me he loves me. So my regurgitating it over and over no you didn’t get it. But thank you! You are right I am and need to continue to do for myself and live my life even if in the end that means with him as only my friend. I will not have him come back as anything more till he is 100% sure he is ready! click to expand

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