My Taurus husband cheating on me

Hello, A good friend of mine told me to log on here to get some insight on the astrological side. Some facts:

My husband and I met in high school, we were together and then broke up and got back together, I got pregnant at 18 and he decided he wanted to always be around his child everyday and that we were going to be a family. We got married when our child turned 2. We have been married now for over a decade and I thought we were happy. We have had hiccups and honestly while we are great friends, I do feel that we are very different romantically but nothing our marriage can't fix to me. I found out he has been seeing a woman for 3 years so I suppose it is not just an affair. I have read some text messages to her and they are really really involved. He asks her opinion a lot about life matters, work matters, and from the looks of it, they started a secret business together! They even have a realtor to purchase property! I am really into signs and everything I have read, it states Taurus's are loyal and won't cheat but of course here we are. I know we can't lump all Taurus' in one big group but I am very surprised that it seems like he has a real relationship with this woman. It is not just sex from what I see and honestly also from what I have read they have the same love languages. My husband and I hardly have sex, and awhile ago in an argument he told me had checked out years ago but that to me is anger talking and we do have three beautiful children and he is such a great father, he still attends family gatherings and takes us on family vacations and I feel like our history is so rich since we have been at this since high school, we are nearing 40!

My cousin tells me, he settled for me because of the children and that's what Taurus' do, he's obligated to me and if he has been with this woman for 3 years and counting, its not a fling but I just don't believe that! I guess here I am seeking any Taurus' advice and if you think this 3-year relationship is real or not and how should I proceed. I have not told him I know.

it might be glib to respond with this but



you deserve better.

Posted by blackphvse

Damn girl, I am so sorry to hear that. You got a lot of strength keeping that to yourself. I'd divorce him immediately, but that's just me.

Thank you blackphvse. It is very hard, but I think that is me trying to make sense of it all before I bring it to our marital table.

Posted by jeane

it might be glib to respond with this but



you deserve better.

That gave me some laughter today Jeane. Thank you! Throw the whole man away literally lol. It's so hard as I truly believed my bull was solid.

He's invested more with this women than he has with you. what he has with you sounds more like maintaining obligations.

Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain.

You know that saying "they never leave their wives" I don't think that's true here, he's making her his wife.

Your friend sent you here to face the truth.

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by blackphvse

Damn girl, I am so sorry to hear that. You got a lot of strength keeping that to yourself. I'd divorce him immediately, but that's just me.

Thank you blackphvse. It is very hard, but I think that is me trying to make sense of it all before I bring it to our marital table.

I can understand that. I'm Gemini too, we like to find reasoning in things. I'm sorry you are going through this 😢

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he probably has his venus in Gemini lol

Posted by cake

I'm sorry to hear that.

⭕ He said that he checked out long ago.

-Did you fight a lot and were they resolved? Was it over something petty or serious?

⭕ You're asking whether his r/s for 3 years is real or not and how you should proceed

-Only he can tell you that but definitely they have established some form of bond and since he's in a bad place with you, anything she offers is golden. Keep that in mind. On top of that midlife crisis hits around that time. What's bothering him maybe both internal and externally rooted.

-I wouldn't discuss it with him until you decide on what to do first. You have a few options:

A. Dismiss everything and believe it's a lie

B. Let it play out, see if he tells you

C. Let it play out and hope it ends

D. Tell him and collaborate on how to mend the r/s

E. Tell him and request some time off from each other

F. Tell him and end it, focus on how to raise the children

G. Tell him and end it, let him fix the damage

H. Don't tell him and just end it

-I would choose the option that would be less damaging and more long term benefits for everyone. What type of reality can you live with? There's the pain now, the pain when you hear it from him and the pain that comes after depending on how you both choose to deal with the situation.

I hope that you have support or you find it. I wish you clarity and strength.

Thank you Cake. Well, we always have butt heads, I have told him throughout the years that I need to do more than what we have done. I get bored very easily and he seems to be okay with a daily routine and that has always bothered me to the point I guess my other person comes out and lashes out. I won't lie, I have said some harsh things out of anger and have told him things and while there is no excuse, I have always said them out of anger or boredom. I also am not a very sexual person and he wants to do it often. I am ok with talking all night and he wants to have sex and maybe talk. He used to complain about sex years ago but that had stopped even before their 3 years, maybe 5-6 years ago he stopped complaining and we would have sex ever so often. When we were in high school, we got along great, then we broke things off and I do sometimes feel that my first pregnancy maybe made him stay. He was very serious about being able to be around his child every single day. To me though, I guess that was neither here nor there because he chose to marry me. We have had fun and I feel that we are good friends.

Thank you for writing those options down, I am going to take a look and see which one works best for me.

Thank you again Cake.

Posted by blackphvse

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by blackphvse

Damn girl, I am so sorry to hear that. You got a lot of strength keeping that to yourself. I'd divorce him immediately, but that's just me.

Thank you blackphvse. It is very hard, but I think that is me trying to make sense of it all before I bring it to our marital table.

I can understand that. I'm Gemini too, we like to find reasoning in things. I'm sorry you are going through this 😢

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I really am trying to find the reasoning and everything in between. Thank you for your thoughts.

Posted by poeticseraphim

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

they started a secret business together! They even have a realtor to purchase property!

He is planning to leave you.

I would prepare yourself.

Get a lawyer.

Present the evidence ..build yourself up.

Im really sorry.

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Thank you poeticseraphim for your advice

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Posted by jeane

it might be glib to respond with this but



you deserve better.

That gave me some laughter today Jeane. Thank you! Throw the whole man away literally lol. It's so hard as I truly believed my bull was solid.

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i'm sorry you're going through this. i think you both found yourself entangled in each others lives young and both trying to make the best of the situation. you with him, him with another woman.

ultimately there is better out there. i know you have kids and that has to be a huge deciding factor in what you do in the future, i just think for a man who has checked out - emotionally, physically, financially - there is very little gain (and likely little success) in trying to change his mind.

bluntly the marriage was done years ago and you've been living as roommates/co-parents since. you say that you are good friends but would you treat a good friend like this?

Posted by Astrobyn

He's invested more with this women than he has with you. what he has with you sounds more like maintaining obligations.

Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain.

You know that saying "they never leave their wives" I don't think that's true here, he's making her his wife.

Your friend sent you here to face the truth.

Thank you Astrobyn. Yes and I can take all of the raw aspects of it. so again thank you!

"maintaining obligations" that is something of kind of what my friend said. I mentioned to her our family vacations, family gatherings, even friends when they hosted couple nights, he attends with no problem. He even posts me on social media outlets. To me, I thought that was letting our friends and family know that what we have is solid. Yes our home life isn't peaches and all cream but to publicly display with outings, outlets, etc showed me something at least. Hope that we were ok. That we are ok.

"Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain" I would think our family is building with our 3 children but maybe my reality is not accurate

"Making her his wife"- That is wow. We have 3 children and history. I thought Taurus' were rooted in being slow and no to change. That is a huge change!

What do you think Astrobyn? Thank you for the truth bombs.

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Posted by blackphvse

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by blackphvse

Damn girl, I am so sorry to hear that. You got a lot of strength keeping that to yourself. I'd divorce him immediately, but that's just me.

Thank you blackphvse. It is very hard, but I think that is me trying to make sense of it all before I bring it to our marital table.

I can understand that. I'm Gemini too, we like to find reasoning in things. I'm sorry you are going through this 😢

he probably has his venus in Gemini lol

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Hello Librasetting777, I just googled how to find venus and did a chart on him and he does have Venus in Gemini. What does that mean exactly?

1st...Im sorry that you're going thru this...I cant imagine how you must feel and especially after reading texts etc and finding out about his secret life. If he's that involved with her especially emotionally....it's not a fling.

2nd...A lot of guys settle when it comes to kids...child support takes a big chunk of people's income...not saying they shouldn't take of their kids ..they absolutely should but I'm gonna say it...guys get put thru the ringer more when it comes down to it... so they stay, they get married etc etc.not only to see their kids everyday but also to not be put thru the financial strain....it's another reason why they don't leave if they became unhappy years later ...mostly likely when their kids are grown and they don't have to take the hit financially.

I'm not gonna try to convince you one way or the other...it's completely up to you on what to do here... astrology or no astrology. All I'll suggest is put the kids first...your feelings matter but theirs matter more.

Again...I'm sorry you're going thru this 🫂❤️

Posted by jeane

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by jeane

it might be glib to respond with this but



you deserve better.

That gave me some laughter today Jeane. Thank you! Throw the whole man away literally lol. It's so hard as I truly believed my bull was solid.

i'm sorry you're going through this. i think you both found yourself entangled in each others lives young and both trying to make the best of the situation. you with him, him with another woman.

ultimately there is better out there. i know you have kids and that has to be a huge deciding factor in what you do in the future, i just think for a man who has checked out - emotionally, physically, financially - there is very little gain (and likely little success) in trying to change his mind.

bluntly the marriage was done years ago and you've been living as roommates/co-parents since. you say that you are good friends but would you treat a good friend like this?

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Thank you Jeane. This is a very hard pill to swallow. Maybe I lived in a fairytale. I do know that things have not been easy but I always thought that was par for the course. He still does his husband duties and I always think we are ok.

"bluntly the marriage was done years ago and you've been living as roommates/co-parents since" thank you for the bluntness..that is something to look at and really process. Ever so often, we do engage in physical intimacy so I really thought something different. I guess my lense is fogged because he still does everything like our family gatherings, outings with kids, family vacations before COVID, and even proclaiming me on social media outlets knowing I love to share our relationship with our friends and family. He always makes it a point to post me on special occasions which to me always says "we are OK"

Thank you Jeane again, this is exavtly what I need to read and get my thoughts out.

Posted by LostinmyMind11

1st...Im sorry that you're going thru this...I cant imagine how you must feel and especially after reading texts etc and finding out about his secret life. If he's that involved with her especially emotionally....it's not a fling.

2nd...A lot of guys settle when it comes to kids...child support takes a big chunk of people's income...not saying they shouldn't take of their kids ..they absolutely should but I'm gonna say it...guys get put thru the ringer more when it comes down to it... so they stay, they get married etc etc.not only to see their kids everyday but also to not be put thru the financial strain....it's another reason why they don't leave if they became unhappy years later ...mostly likely when their kids are grown and they don't have to take the hit financially.

I'm not gonna try to convince you one way or the other...it's completely up to you on what to do here... astrology or no astrology. All I'll suggest is put the kids first...your feelings matter but theirs matter more.

Again...I'm sorry you're going thru this 🫂❤️

Thank you LostinmyMind11 for this insight. Yes our children mean the world to me so I am definitely taking them into consideration first and foremost as well as me. It definitely is a lot to process but I am already happy to be here talking to you all. I love truths and perspectives. Thank you again.

Posted by poeticseraphim

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by poeticseraphim

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

they started a secret business together! They even have a realtor to purchase property!

He is planning to leave you.

I would prepare yourself.

Get a lawyer.

Present the evidence ..build yourself up.

Im really sorry.

Thank you poeticseraphim for your advice

Im glad it was useful.

Im really sorry this happened.

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Very much! 🙂

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Posted by Librasetting777

Posted by blackphvse

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by blackphvse

Damn girl, I am so sorry to hear that. You got a lot of strength keeping that to yourself. I'd divorce him immediately, but that's just me.

Thank you blackphvse. It is very hard, but I think that is me trying to make sense of it all before I bring it to our marital table.

I can understand that. I'm Gemini too, we like to find reasoning in things. I'm sorry you are going through this 😢

he probably has his venus in Gemini lol

Hello Librasetting777, I just googled how to find venus and did a chart on him and he does have Venus in Gemini. What does that mean exactly?

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their notorious for cheating aka having two relationship at once.

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by jeane

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by jeane

it might be glib to respond with this but



you deserve better.

That gave me some laughter today Jeane. Thank you! Throw the whole man away literally lol. It's so hard as I truly believed my bull was solid.

i'm sorry you're going through this. i think you both found yourself entangled in each others lives young and both trying to make the best of the situation. you with him, him with another woman.

ultimately there is better out there. i know you have kids and that has to be a huge deciding factor in what you do in the future, i just think for a man who has checked out - emotionally, physically, financially - there is very little gain (and likely little success) in trying to change his mind.

bluntly the marriage was done years ago and you've been living as roommates/co-parents since. you say that you are good friends but would you treat a good friend like this?

Thank you Jeane. This is a very hard pill to swallow. Maybe I lived in a fairytale. I do know that things have not been easy but I always thought that was par for the course. He still does his husband duties and I always think we are ok.

"bluntly the marriage was done years ago and you've been living as roommates/co-parents since" thank you for the bluntness..that is something to look at and really process. Ever so often, we do engage in physical intimacy so I really thought something different. I guess my lense is fogged because he still does everything like our family gatherings, outings with kids, family vacations before COVID, and even proclaiming me on social media outlets knowing I love to share our relationship with our friends and family. He always makes it a point to post me on special occasions which to me always says "we are OK"

Thank you Jeane again, this is exavtly what I need to read and get my thoughts out.

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i think you have to decide if that is the price to pay to stay in the marriage. it might not be the choice most of us make but if you think well, i'm not interested in the sex and he fulfils his fatherly and husband duties for appearances sake, that is ok for me then maybe it's about coming to an agreement with him. maybe you are ok with his bit on the side as long as whatever he is doing continues as you seem to be happy with that kind of arrangement.

not for me to judge. it's a situation that may work for you.

Posted by blackphvse

Posted by Librasetting777

Posted by blackphvse

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by blackphvse

Damn girl, I am so sorry to hear that. You got a lot of strength keeping that to yourself. I'd divorce him immediately, but that's just me.

Thank you blackphvse. It is very hard, but I think that is me trying to make sense of it all before I bring it to our marital table.

I can understand that. I'm Gemini too, we like to find reasoning in things. I'm sorry you are going through this 😢

he probably has his venus in Gemini lol

I've dated Gemini Venus' before. They can be loyal.

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only that you know of!! I've dated one to many times lol matter of fact I'm dating one now 😂 same combo Taurus sun Gemini venus lol.

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

1st...Im sorry that you're going thru this...I cant imagine how you must feel and especially after reading texts etc and finding out about his secret life. If he's that involved with her especially emotionally....it's not a fling.

2nd...A lot of guys settle when it comes to kids...child support takes a big chunk of people's income...not saying they shouldn't take of their kids ..they absolutely should but I'm gonna say it...guys get put thru the ringer more when it comes down to it... so they stay, they get married etc etc.not only to see their kids everyday but also to not be put thru the financial strain....it's another reason why they don't leave if they became unhappy years later ...mostly likely when their kids are grown and they don't have to take the hit financially.

I'm not gonna try to convince you one way or the other...it's completely up to you on what to do here... astrology or no astrology. All I'll suggest is put the kids first...your feelings matter but theirs matter more.

Again...I'm sorry you're going thru this 🫂❤️

Thank you LostinmyMind11 for this insight. Yes our children mean the world to me so I am definitely taking them into consideration first and foremost as well as me. It definitely is a lot to process but I am already happy to be here talking to you all. I love truths and perspectives. Thank you again.

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You're welcome.

I don't condone the cheating and do think he should of discussed things with you and broke it off first and I do think he cares about you...you're the mother of his kids and the fact he still does family things and vacations etc...shows to me at least...that he wants his kids to experience family life/dynamic...some of it is probably to keep up appearances too...I'm not gonna rule that out.

I think on some level you know that he checked out a while ago....you could feel it.. us women know but we try to ignore it or convince ourselves it's wrong because we just don't want to believe it. It is a lot to process but you're not alone even if you feel like it....find a good support system if you can...people that won't try to convince you one way or the other because of bias or bitterness because they've been burned in the past etc...that's not gonna help and whatever you do...don't use the kids as leverage, don't involve them...they have to know you both will be there for them no matter what...just try to keep everything between you and him as much as possible. Kids already have it tough with everything going on...not saying you would...but just throwing it out there again.

I do wish you the best of luck here in trying to figure it all out....it's not a easy situation to navigate. ❤️

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Posted by Astrobyn

He's invested more with this women than he has with you. what he has with you sounds more like maintaining obligations.

Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain.

You know that saying "they never leave their wives" I don't think that's true here, he's making her his wife.

Your friend sent you here to face the truth.

Thank you Astrobyn. Yes and I can take all of the raw aspects of it. so again thank you!

"maintaining obligations" that is something of kind of what my friend said. I mentioned to her our family vacations, family gatherings, even friends when they hosted couple nights, he attends with no problem. He even posts me on social media outlets. To me, I thought that was letting our friends and family know that what we have is solid. Yes our home life isn't peaches and all cream but to publicly display with outings, outlets, etc showed me something at least. Hope that we were ok. That we are ok.

"Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain" I would think our family is building with our 3 children but maybe my reality is not accurate

"Making her his wife"- That is wow. We have 3 children and history. I thought Taurus' were rooted in being slow and no to change. That is a huge change!

What do you think Astrobyn? Thank you for the truth bombs.

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All signs are capable of all things; the point is to use astrology as a guide or a tool.

If you use Taurus Sun influences as a base, you can direct your facts through that lens. But we all have more than just our sun sign energy influencing us, in different areas and different directions.

He’s maintaining what he built with you, but he’s not building on that anymore. And this has been a very slow change for him, happening over 3 years. Sounds like he’s built a lot of security and comfort there.

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Posted by blackphvse

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Posted by blackphvse

Damn girl, I am so sorry to hear that. You got a lot of strength keeping that to yourself. I'd divorce him immediately, but that's just me.

Thank you blackphvse. It is very hard, but I think that is me trying to make sense of it all before I bring it to our marital table.

I can understand that. I'm Gemini too, we like to find reasoning in things. I'm sorry you are going through this 😢

he probably has his venus in Gemini lol

Hello Librasetting777, I just googled how to find venus and did a chart on him and he does have Venus in Gemini. What does that mean exactly?

their notorious for cheating aka having two relationship at once.

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oh wow!

Posted by jeane

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by jeane

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by jeane

it might be glib to respond with this but



you deserve better.

That gave me some laughter today Jeane. Thank you! Throw the whole man away literally lol. It's so hard as I truly believed my bull was solid.

i'm sorry you're going through this. i think you both found yourself entangled in each others lives young and both trying to make the best of the situation. you with him, him with another woman.

ultimately there is better out there. i know you have kids and that has to be a huge deciding factor in what you do in the future, i just think for a man who has checked out - emotionally, physically, financially - there is very little gain (and likely little success) in trying to change his mind.

bluntly the marriage was done years ago and you've been living as roommates/co-parents since. you say that you are good friends but would you treat a good friend like this?

Thank you Jeane. This is a very hard pill to swallow. Maybe I lived in a fairytale. I do know that things have not been easy but I always thought that was par for the course. He still does his husband duties and I always think we are ok.

"bluntly the marriage was done years ago and you've been living as roommates/co-parents since" thank you for the bluntness..that is something to look at and really process. Ever so often, we do engage in physical intimacy so I really thought something different. I guess my lense is fogged because he still does everything like our family gatherings, outings with kids, family vacations before COVID, and even proclaiming me on social media outlets knowing I love to share our relationship with our friends and family. He always makes it a point to post me on special occasions which to me always says "we are OK"

Thank you Jeane again, this is exavtly what I need to read and get my thoughts out.

i think you have to decide if that is the price to pay to stay in the marriage. it might not be the choice most of us make but if you think well, i'm not interested in the sex and he fulfils his fatherly and husband duties for appearances sake, that is ok for me then maybe it's about coming to an agreement with him. maybe you are ok with his bit on the side as long as whatever he is doing continues as you seem to be happy with that kind of arrangement.

not for me to judge. it's a situation that may work for you.

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Thank you Jeane! That is definitely not the relationship I wanted. I thought that fulfilling his father and husband duties he was all in with me. I don't want it to be settling type of thing. It is hard for me to wrap my head around that. Thank you so much.

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Posted by cake

I'm sorry to hear that.

⭕ He said that he checked out long ago.

-Did you fight a lot and were they resolved? Was it over something petty or serious?

⭕ You're asking whether his r/s for 3 years is real or not and how you should proceed

-Only he can tell you that but definitely they have established some form of bond and since he's in a bad place with you, anything she offers is golden. Keep that in mind. On top of that midlife crisis hits around that time. What's bothering him maybe both internal and externally rooted.

-I wouldn't discuss it with him until you decide on what to do first. You have a few options:

A. Dismiss everything and believe it's a lie

B. Let it play out, see if he tells you

C. Let it play out and hope it ends

D. Tell him and collaborate on how to mend the r/s

E. Tell him and request some time off from each other

F. Tell him and end it, focus on how to raise the children

G. Tell him and end it, let him fix the damage

H. Don't tell him and just end it

-I would choose the option that would be less damaging and more long term benefits for everyone. What type of reality can you live with? There's the pain now, the pain when you hear it from him and the pain that comes after depending on how you both choose to deal with the situation.

I hope that you have support or you find it. I wish you clarity and strength.

Thank you Cake. Well, we always have butt heads, I have told him throughout the years that I need to do more than what we have done. I get bored very easily and he seems to be okay with a daily routine and that has always bothered me to the point I guess my other person comes out and lashes out. I won't lie, I have said some harsh things out of anger and have told him things and while there is no excuse, I have always said them out of anger or boredom. I also am not a very sexual person and he wants to do it often. I am ok with talking all night and he wants to have sex and maybe talk. He used to complain about sex years ago but that had stopped even before their 3 years, maybe 5-6 years ago he stopped complaining and we would have sex ever so often. When we were in high school, we got along great, then we broke things off and I do sometimes feel that my first pregnancy maybe made him stay. He was very serious about being able to be around his child every single day. To me though, I guess that was neither here nor there because he chose to marry me. We have had fun and I feel that we are good friends.

Thank you for writing those options down, I am going to take a look and see which one works best for me.

Thank you again Cake.

I think you have to figure out what you want. It sounds like an unhealthy cycle where you trigger each other for some reason. The differences is a challenge but it shouldn't make it impossible to find compromise or to give respect for each other.

You get annoyed with what he does or wants, he resents your reaction. He ignores what you want and you resent him for it. It's a cycle.

Personally, i'd wonder if we can both move forward without anyone holding a grudge.

In this situation, I definitely do feel you both have work to do and you have to see and appreciate each other's effort.

All the best!

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Thank you so much Cake.

Posted by LostinmyMind11

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

1st...Im sorry that you're going thru this...I cant imagine how you must feel and especially after reading texts etc and finding out about his secret life. If he's that involved with her especially emotionally....it's not a fling.

2nd...A lot of guys settle when it comes to kids...child support takes a big chunk of people's income...not saying they shouldn't take of their kids ..they absolutely should but I'm gonna say it...guys get put thru the ringer more when it comes down to it... so they stay, they get married etc etc.not only to see their kids everyday but also to not be put thru the financial strain....it's another reason why they don't leave if they became unhappy years later ...mostly likely when their kids are grown and they don't have to take the hit financially.

I'm not gonna try to convince you one way or the other...it's completely up to you on what to do here... astrology or no astrology. All I'll suggest is put the kids first...your feelings matter but theirs matter more.

Again...I'm sorry you're going thru this 🫂❤️

Thank you LostinmyMind11 for this insight. Yes our children mean the world to me so I am definitely taking them into consideration first and foremost as well as me. It definitely is a lot to process but I am already happy to be here talking to you all. I love truths and perspectives. Thank you again.

You're welcome.

I don't condone the cheating and do think he should of discussed things with you and broke it off first and I do think he cares about you...you're the mother of his kids and the fact he still does family things and vacations etc...shows to me at least...that he wants his kids to experience family life/dynamic...some of it is probably to keep up appearances too...I'm not gonna rule that out.

I think on some level you know that he checked out a while ago....you could feel it.. us women know but we try to ignore it or convince ourselves it's wrong because we just don't want to believe it. It is a lot to process but you're not alone even if you feel like it....find a good support system if you can...people that won't try to convince you one way or the other because of bias or bitterness because they've been burned in the past etc...that's not gonna help and whatever you do...don't use the kids as leverage, don't involve them...they have to know you both will be there for them no matter what...just try to keep everything between you and him as much as possible. Kids already have it tough with everything going on...not saying you would...but just throwing it out there again.

I do wish you the best of luck here in trying to figure it all out....it's not a easy situation to navigate. ❤️

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I will say, you are right, but I did think the checking out will pass or wasn't real, because he still acted, the family gatherings, outings, even date nights sometimes, social media outlet posts. I felt that if it really was a checkout, he wouldn't do those things.

Thank you again.

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He's invested more with this women than he has with you. what he has with you sounds more like maintaining obligations.

Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain.

You know that saying "they never leave their wives" I don't think that's true here, he's making her his wife.

Your friend sent you here to face the truth.

Thank you Astrobyn. Yes and I can take all of the raw aspects of it. so again thank you!

"maintaining obligations" that is something of kind of what my friend said. I mentioned to her our family vacations, family gatherings, even friends when they hosted couple nights, he attends with no problem. He even posts me on social media outlets. To me, I thought that was letting our friends and family know that what we have is solid. Yes our home life isn't peaches and all cream but to publicly display with outings, outlets, etc showed me something at least. Hope that we were ok. That we are ok.

"Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain" I would think our family is building with our 3 children but maybe my reality is not accurate

"Making her his wife"- That is wow. We have 3 children and history. I thought Taurus' were rooted in being slow and no to change. That is a huge change!

What do you think Astrobyn? Thank you for the truth bombs.

All signs are capable of all things; the point is to use astrology as a guide or a tool.

If you use Taurus Sun influences as a base, you can direct your facts through that lens. But we all have more than just our sun sign energy influencing us, in different areas and different directions.

He’s maintaining what he built with you, but he’s not building on that anymore. And this has been a very slow change for him, happening over 3 years. Sounds like he’s built a lot of security and comfort there.

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Thank you again Astrobyn. There is definitely a lot of security and comfort with us. I really let him live as he sees fit and I do my role as his wife. I thought we really ok because of the years. Thank you again.

Thank you again, everyone. This is really helping me, as I didn't think writing out my thoughts and getting perspectives would make me feel an ounce better but it does so thank you to everyone that has spent their time replying to me.

I think I am having a hard time wrapping my head around the family gatherings, sometimes date nights we used to have, social media recognition (even now), our anniversary was in January and he publicly acknowledged it. Valentine's day he acknowledged online. Family vacations. If he thought we were truly just co-parents and roommates, why the above especially with the public acknowledgments.

Thank you again everyone.

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Damn girl, I am so sorry to hear that. You got a lot of strength keeping that to yourself. I'd divorce him immediately, but that's just me.

Thank you blackphvse. It is very hard, but I think that is me trying to make sense of it all before I bring it to our marital table.

I can understand that. I'm Gemini too, we like to find reasoning in things. I'm sorry you are going through this 😢

he probably has his venus in Gemini lol

I've dated Gemini Venus' before. They can be loyal.

only that you know of!! I've dated one to many times lol matter of fact I'm dating one now 😂 same combo Taurus sun Gemini venus lol.

Lame!! I been crushin hard on a dude for a long ass time and he has Gem Venus 😭

But I dated a Gem Venus in the past.. and I honestly don't think he cheated. But, I'll never really know I guess.

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honestly I think they can be It depends tho, like for me I have venus libra 7th house and mars sagittarius 9th house. Venus libra got the girl to come to me, mars sagittarius will win the girl and keep her to stay. Lol I said it basic as possible but I think you'll understand. Basically my natal chart plays out cuz I have Saturn in libra 7th house too and I met my gf at work lol.basically I let her have her freedom and not come off as codependent

I’m sorry to hear this Darling, very sad he can lie like this to you. There’s something so disgusting about that. But thank god you found out so you can plan accordingly. Get your affairs in order and prosper. I would actually ghost him, file for divorce and never explain yourself to him. He’s doesn’t deserve your honesty.

You should talk with your husband.

He found whatever support he wasn't getting from you, in another woman. He could still cherish his family life, but likes this girl as well

He's starting a business and looking at property. He seems to be trying to get up and go, but you've also pointed out that he wants to be in his childrens lives everyday- which means he's being fulfilled with both of you.

It's not so simple.

Are you financially set to be a single parent? Are you waiting on him to buy with this chick so it can be included in the divorce?

Are your kids old enough not to have one parent around, if you live in separate households. Daycare is like a second mortgage. But divorced people find ways around this when their marriage is done.

You should have a talk with him. Does the girl even know he's married with a family. He clearly has a lot of time on his hands, away from you, to be able to carryon a 3 year relationship without you around.

This is a tough situation and I'm sorry to hear it. There aren't too many relationships that last this long nowadays.

I know a Taurus man who cheats on his wife all the time, she knows about it, but he will never leave and neither will she. It's a mixed race marriage and he cheats with women of his race. They don't even have kids. They've been together about 14 years and he says he loves her to death but just likes cheating. He's not obvious bout it, but he does get caught and ends his affairs. He's had tons of affairs with women he works with. He's just a womanizer.

He started a business and is buying property with her. This is not some flighty affair. He's investing his time, affection, and BOTH OF YOUR money in her. She's his secret family. If he doesn't already have kids with her he soon will.

Divorce him and take him for all he's worth. Feel zero remorse. Because he certainly hasn't felt remorse over the last few years in taking money from his kids and investing it into this other woman. Don't tell him you plan to divorce either so he has the chance to hide money from you. Go directly to a divorce lawyer and get professional help with what is the best way to proceed.

Also I'm sorry astrology lied to you. I've seen the common theme of Taurus men having multiple relationships, side chicks, secret families. Not all, but enough to notice that its a repeating pattern with this sign.

Sorry to hear that.

Taurus men are not as loyal as the astrology advertises as them.

They have inner conflict between responsibility and passion.

They always tend to marry for stability, structure, responsibilities and IMAGE.

Taurus is a very materialistic sign.

They’re also hedonistic and lustful.

So they creep and lie and live double lives

But they have the ability to hide behind VENUS the planet of love...yawn

They don’t see a problem with living a double life either

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Posted by Astrobyn

He's invested more with this women than he has with you. what he has with you sounds more like maintaining obligations.

Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain.

You know that saying "they never leave their wives" I don't think that's true here, he's making her his wife.

Your friend sent you here to face the truth.

Thank you Astrobyn. Yes and I can take all of the raw aspects of it. so again thank you!

"maintaining obligations" that is something of kind of what my friend said. I mentioned to her our family vacations, family gatherings, even friends when they hosted couple nights, he attends with no problem. He even posts me on social media outlets. To me, I thought that was letting our friends and family know that what we have is solid. Yes our home life isn't peaches and all cream but to publicly display with outings, outlets, etc showed me something at least. Hope that we were ok. That we are ok.

"Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain" I would think our family is building with our 3 children but maybe my reality is not accurate

"Making her his wife"- That is wow. We have 3 children and history. I thought Taurus' were rooted in being slow and no to change. That is a huge change!

What do you think Astrobyn? Thank you for the truth bombs.

All signs are capable of all things; the point is to use astrology as a guide or a tool.

If you use Taurus Sun influences as a base, you can direct your facts through that lens. But we all have more than just our sun sign energy influencing us, in different areas and different directions.

He’s maintaining what he built with you, but he’s not building on that anymore. And this has been a very slow change for him, happening over 3 years. Sounds like he’s built a lot of security and comfort there.

Thank you again Astrobyn. There is definitely a lot of security and comfort with us. I really let him live as he sees fit and I do my role as his wife. I thought we really ok because of the years. Thank you again.

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This is their perfect life. Which has him hooked n won’t leave, he does as he wishes and all he has to do is play his role. He won’t leave until tho other one starts looking secure enough. Seems that’s what’s occurring with them purchasing a home. Best advice is to lawyer up before he starts moving money.

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You should talk with your husband.

He found whatever support he wasn't getting from you, in another woman. He could still cherish his family life, but likes this girl as well

He's starting a business and looking at property. He seems to be trying to get up and go, but you've also pointed out that he wants to be in his childrens lives everyday- which means he's being fulfilled with both of you.

It's not so simple.

Are you financially set to be a single parent? Are you waiting on him to buy with this chick so it can be included in the divorce?

Are your kids old enough not to have one parent around, if you live in separate households. Daycare is like a second mortgage. But divorced people find ways around this when their marriage is done.

You should have a talk with him. Does the girl even know he's married with a family. He clearly has a lot of time on his hands, away from you, to be able to carryon a 3 year relationship without you around.

This is a tough situation and I'm sorry to hear it. There aren't too many relationships that last this long nowadays.

He has to support her in her accustomed life style .

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Posted by saggurl88

You should talk with your husband.

He found whatever support he wasn't getting from you, in another woman. He could still cherish his family life, but likes this girl as well

He's starting a business and looking at property. He seems to be trying to get up and go, but you've also pointed out that he wants to be in his childrens lives everyday- which means he's being fulfilled with both of you.

It's not so simple.

Are you financially set to be a single parent? Are you waiting on him to buy with this chick so it can be included in the divorce?

Are your kids old enough not to have one parent around, if you live in separate households. Daycare is like a second mortgage. But divorced people find ways around this when their marriage is done.

You should have a talk with him. Does the girl even know he's married with a family. He clearly has a lot of time on his hands, away from you, to be able to carryon a 3 year relationship without you around.

This is a tough situation and I'm sorry to hear it. There aren't too many relationships that last this long nowadays.

He has to support her in her accustomed life style .

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That depends on if she's been working the whole marriage or not.

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You should talk with your husband.

He found whatever support he wasn't getting from you, in another woman. He could still cherish his family life, but likes this girl as well

He's starting a business and looking at property. He seems to be trying to get up and go, but you've also pointed out that he wants to be in his childrens lives everyday- which means he's being fulfilled with both of you.

It's not so simple.

Are you financially set to be a single parent? Are you waiting on him to buy with this chick so it can be included in the divorce?

Are your kids old enough not to have one parent around, if you live in separate households. Daycare is like a second mortgage. But divorced people find ways around this when their marriage is done.

You should have a talk with him. Does the girl even know he's married with a family. He clearly has a lot of time on his hands, away from you, to be able to carryon a 3 year relationship without you around.

This is a tough situation and I'm sorry to hear it. There aren't too many relationships that last this long nowadays.

He has to support her in her accustomed life style .

That depends on if she's been working the whole marriage or not.

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The worst thing she could do is put her head In The sand. She needs to talk to an attorney before he moves money she’s entitled to. Doesn’t need to move forward or him know about it. She can decide later but we will be informed legally. I’m sure he’s doing it

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Damn girl, I am so sorry to hear that. You got a lot of strength keeping that to yourself. I'd divorce him immediately, but that's just me.

Thank you blackphvse. It is very hard, but I think that is me trying to make sense of it all before I bring it to our marital table.

I can understand that. I'm Gemini too, we like to find reasoning in things. I'm sorry you are going through this 😢

he probably has his venus in Gemini lol

I've dated Gemini Venus' before. They can be loyal.

only that you know of!! I've dated one to many times lol matter of fact I'm dating one now 😂 same combo Taurus sun Gemini venus lol.

Lame!! I been crushin hard on a dude for a long ass time and he has Gem Venus 😭

But I dated a Gem Venus in the past.. and I honestly don't think he cheated. But, I'll never really know I guess.

honestly I think they can be It depends tho, like for me I have venus libra 7th house and mars sagittarius 9th house. Venus libra got the girl to come to me, mars sagittarius will win the girl and keep her to stay. Lol I said it basic as possible but I think you'll understand. Basically my natal chart plays out cuz I have Saturn in libra 7th house too and I met my gf at work lol.basically I let her have her freedom and not come off as codependent

Sounds like your Mars and Venus are a secret weapon. Hahaha

Watch out for this one ladies! Lol

Both the dudes I spoke of with Gem Venus are Leo Suns (which in theory tend to be loyal) so fingies crossed. Lol

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omg the who's your daddy combo lol I guarentee it 😆. Not necessarily a bad thing lol

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You should talk with your husband.

He found whatever support he wasn't getting from you, in another woman. He could still cherish his family life, but likes this girl as well

He's starting a business and looking at property. He seems to be trying to get up and go, but you've also pointed out that he wants to be in his childrens lives everyday- which means he's being fulfilled with both of you.

It's not so simple.

Are you financially set to be a single parent? Are you waiting on him to buy with this chick so it can be included in the divorce?

Are your kids old enough not to have one parent around, if you live in separate households. Daycare is like a second mortgage. But divorced people find ways around this when their marriage is done.

You should have a talk with him. Does the girl even know he's married with a family. He clearly has a lot of time on his hands, away from you, to be able to carryon a 3 year relationship without you around.

This is a tough situation and I'm sorry to hear it. There aren't too many relationships that last this long nowadays.

He has to support her in her accustomed life style .

That depends on if she's been working the whole marriage or not.

The worst thing she could do is put her hand I. The sand. She needs to talk to an attorney before he moves money she’s entitled to. Doesn’t need to move forward or him know about it. She can decide later but we will be informed legally. I’m sure he’s doing it

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Who said to put her head in the sand? I didn't say anything about staying or going.

Tauruses are lustful and prone to cheat if they can get away with it.

I also know from experience that they have no problem remaining in a marriage without love as long as it arranges them and gives them more comfort than being single.

You should gather evidence about his affair while you can, and ask for legal advice because he might make a legal move first.

Also: I don't know what kind of "friend" would advise anybody to take advice on here, LMAO

What is his moon sign, venus and mars sign?

Also he is with you because of kids. I have a taurus mother. Taureans are nothing if not present and loving as a parent. In your case, the romance has burned out. You need to leave. I am so sorry thats what you are going through. He most likely sees you as the mother of his kids and not his wife. Thats not right

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You should talk with your husband.

He found whatever support he wasn't getting from you, in another woman. He could still cherish his family life, but likes this girl as well

He's starting a business and looking at property. He seems to be trying to get up and go, but you've also pointed out that he wants to be in his childrens lives everyday- which means he's being fulfilled with both of you.

It's not so simple.

Are you financially set to be a single parent? Are you waiting on him to buy with this chick so it can be included in the divorce?

Are your kids old enough not to have one parent around, if you live in separate households. Daycare is like a second mortgage. But divorced people find ways around this when their marriage is done.

You should have a talk with him. Does the girl even know he's married with a family. He clearly has a lot of time on his hands, away from you, to be able to carryon a 3 year relationship without you around.

This is a tough situation and I'm sorry to hear it. There aren't too many relationships that last this long nowadays.

He has to support her in her accustomed life style .

That depends on if she's been working the whole marriage or not.

The worst thing she could do is put her hand I. The sand. She needs to talk to an attorney before he moves money she’s entitled to. Doesn’t need to move forward or him know about it. She can decide later but we will be informed legally. I’m sure he’s doing it

Who said to put her head in the sand? I didn't say anything about staying or going.

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Nobody is saying it I AM SaYING IT!

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it might be glib to respond with this but



you deserve better.

This x100. He doesn't care for you anymore. Time to leave his ass and find someone who will. I'm a Taurus male btw.

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Posted by saggurl88

You should talk with your husband.

He found whatever support he wasn't getting from you, in another woman. He could still cherish his family life, but likes this girl as well

He's starting a business and looking at property. He seems to be trying to get up and go, but you've also pointed out that he wants to be in his childrens lives everyday- which means he's being fulfilled with both of you.

It's not so simple.

Are you financially set to be a single parent? Are you waiting on him to buy with this chick so it can be included in the divorce?

Are your kids old enough not to have one parent around, if you live in separate households. Daycare is like a second mortgage. But divorced people find ways around this when their marriage is done.

You should have a talk with him. Does the girl even know he's married with a family. He clearly has a lot of time on his hands, away from you, to be able to carryon a 3 year relationship without you around.

This is a tough situation and I'm sorry to hear it. There aren't too many relationships that last this long nowadays.

He has to support her in her accustomed life style .

That depends on if she's been working the whole marriage or not.

The worst thing she could do is put her hand I. The sand. She needs to talk to an attorney before he moves money she’s entitled to. Doesn’t need to move forward or him know about it. She can decide later but we will be informed legally. I’m sure he’s doing it

Who said to put her head in the sand? I didn't say anything about staying or going.

Nobody is saying it I AM SaYING IT!

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I’m sorry to hear this Darling, very sad he can lie like this to you. There’s something so disgusting about that. But thank god you found out so you can plan accordingly. Get your affairs in order and prosper. I would actually ghost him, file for divorce and never explain yourself to him. He’s doesn’t deserve your honesty.

Thank you bkbella86. I am definitely wrapping my head around divorce.

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You should talk with your husband.

He found whatever support he wasn't getting from you, in another woman. He could still cherish his family life, but likes this girl as well

He's starting a business and looking at property. He seems to be trying to get up and go, but you've also pointed out that he wants to be in his childrens lives everyday- which means he's being fulfilled with both of you.

It's not so simple.

Are you financially set to be a single parent? Are you waiting on him to buy with this chick so it can be included in the divorce?

Are your kids old enough not to have one parent around, if you live in separate households. Daycare is like a second mortgage. But divorced people find ways around this when their marriage is done.

You should have a talk with him. Does the girl even know he's married with a family. He clearly has a lot of time on his hands, away from you, to be able to carryon a 3 year relationship without you around.

This is a tough situation and I'm sorry to hear it. There aren't too many relationships that last this long nowadays.

Thank you saggurl88. While I do have a job, I definitely would not be able to sustain life with just my income. I could do it, but it would definitely be paycheck to paycheck. He has always paid for everything financially as he feels that is what men are supposed to do. I used to have an issue with this but I have let him be him. About ten years ago, in one of our arguments, he said he would buy me my own house and I declined that again thinking its out of anger.

Thank you again.

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Thank you again, everyone. This is really helping me, as I didn't think writing out my thoughts and getting perspectives would make me feel an ounce better but it does so thank you to everyone that has spent their time replying to me.

I think I am having a hard time wrapping my head around the family gatherings, sometimes date nights we used to have, social media recognition (even now), our anniversary was in January and he publicly acknowledged it. Valentine's day he acknowledged online. Family vacations. If he thought we were truly just co-parents and roommates, why the above especially with the public acknowledgments.

Thank you again everyone.

That would hurt me so bad that he did all those things yet still cheated. He’s basically living a double life. That’s one thing I can’t tolerate is the lying and disloyalty ugh.

I really think some of his actions have to do with the sexual incompatibility. Not saying it’s your fault but Taurus love sex. At least in my experience. Almost as much as they love food....

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Thank you thatlibralife.

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Sorry to hear that.

Taurus men are not as loyal as the astrology advertises as them.

They have inner conflict between responsibility and passion.

They always tend to marry for stability, structure, responsibilities and IMAGE.

Taurus is a very materialistic sign.

They’re also hedonistic and lustful.

So they creep and lie and live double lives

But they have the ability to hide behind VENUS the planet of love...yawn

They don’t see a problem with living a double life either

Thank you DMV. A double life seems like a lot of work. Wanting me and wanting this woman is alot. But at this point, maybe he really doesn't want me, I just come with the kids. I wish he would have said so versus maybe his actions. I saw his actions as a rough patch and again him still doing all marital duties. Such a confusing time.

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Posted by saggurl88

You should talk with your husband.

He found whatever support he wasn't getting from you, in another woman. He could still cherish his family life, but likes this girl as well

He's starting a business and looking at property. He seems to be trying to get up and go, but you've also pointed out that he wants to be in his childrens lives everyday- which means he's being fulfilled with both of you.

It's not so simple.

Are you financially set to be a single parent? Are you waiting on him to buy with this chick so it can be included in the divorce?

Are your kids old enough not to have one parent around, if you live in separate households. Daycare is like a second mortgage. But divorced people find ways around this when their marriage is done.

You should have a talk with him. Does the girl even know he's married with a family. He clearly has a lot of time on his hands, away from you, to be able to carryon a 3 year relationship without you around.

This is a tough situation and I'm sorry to hear it. There aren't too many relationships that last this long nowadays.

Thank you saggurl88. While I do have a job, I definitely would not be able to sustain life with just my income. I could do it, but it would definitely be paycheck to paycheck. He has always paid for everything financially as he feels that is what men are supposed to do. I used to have an issue with this but I have let him be him. About ten years ago, in one of our arguments, he said he would buy me my own house and I declined that again thinking its out of anger.

Thank you again.

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It's gonna be a major life decision whichever way you choose it. But you know what's best for your family, whether it's easy or hard.

Good luck and I hope everything turns out ok with or without him 🙂

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Tauruses are lustful and prone to cheat if they can get away with it.

I also know from experience that they have no problem remaining in a marriage without love as long as it arranges them and gives them more comfort than being single.

You should gather evidence about his affair while you can, and ask for legal advice because he might make a legal move first.

Also: I don't know what kind of "friend" would advise anybody to take advice on here, LMAO

Thank you hydorah. "remaining in a marriage without love as long as it arranges them and gives them comfort than being single"-this is a lot to possibly take in. So I could possibly just be seen just as comfort ..this is alot