Cancer Man & Capricorn Woman

Yeah, it's another one of those threads?

I met a Capricon woman on a blind date set up by my sister; who thought that we'd be a great couple/match. Neither of them knew that this wasn't the first time someone tried to set us up. The first time was in 2015. We have a mutual friend (a Scorpio woman) who really wanted me to get to know this Cap chick. The second time was in 2016 from a third person. By 2020, I thought "Come' on! if you're waiting for a sign or something, it won't get any clearer than that". What are the chances that 3 different unrelated people tell you.."You know what.. check this out man".. 3 times over 5 years?

Anyway... We did a Zoom coffee thing, and she's attractive and what not... but I'm honestly freaked out about how similar we both are. We talked way longer than we should have about our mutual love for forensics TV shows (Dexter, First 48, etc)... and then she went on about how she liked "randomness", not knowing that it's a cancer man pleasure and specialty (being random).

We talked a few times since and she just keeps surprising me. She's feminine yet strong. Hardworking in an effortless way. She almost never asks anything about me... I'm not sure what to make of that... I know she recently broke off an engagement, so I'm assuming that she wants to take it really slow, and I'm doing my work by keeping her stimulated in the conversation by being funny, intelligent, etc... but still, I'm not sure if she's being cautious or if she is just cold.

To be honest, my gut feeling is that she's "The One", and I feel that I'm already forced to grow in ways that I did not ever think off. It's all too interesting, and I don't mean like butterflies in your stomach. It feels interesting like something is happening within the space-time continuum. I'm getting smitten before knowing that she's into me, and that's not cancer man territory btw.

But before I completely overthink this, any success/happy stories out there?

Posted by Scheherazade

Don’t buy into the “we like the same things” energy.

Doesn’t mean y’all are supposed to be together. Just mean you both have similar taste.

Not to poke too many holes into your “the one” balloon but I also don’t really like that she wasn’t asking you about yourself more. Because that shows more interest than just talking about herself.

I've been meaning to ask, aren't you a Leo?

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Don’t buy into the “we like the same things” energy.

Doesn’t mean y’all are supposed to be together. Just mean you both have similar taste.

Not to poke too many holes into your “the one” balloon but I also don’t really like that she wasn’t asking you about yourself more. Because that shows more interest than just talking about herself.

I've been meaning to ask, aren't you a Leo?

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A few years ago, there was this Leo chick who had an alias that was similar to "Scheherazade". She has your exact profile picture. Afghani chick, miserably married to an Aqua.

Anyway. Coincidence, i guess.

Posted by PinsAndNeedles

Caution around newly broke-from-engagement singles. Don't be the rebound.

Good call. Didn't even think about that.

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Posted by Scheherazade

Don’t buy into the “we like the same things” energy.

Doesn’t mean y’all are supposed to be together. Just mean you both have similar taste.

Not to poke too many holes into your “the one” balloon but I also don’t really like that she wasn’t asking you about yourself more. Because that shows more interest than just talking about herself.

I have the same thoughts 👆🏻

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Really? I'm taking it as a sign of self-confidence for some reason. She also made an effort to make it clear that she wants to take this slow. Our conversations are pretty much led by me, who ordinarily wants to know everything about her, and habitually interrupted by fun side convo.

I'll keep an eye on it over the next few conversations.

"It's easy to be critical". That's lasered on my mind right now.

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Posted by Ripe

Yeah, it's another one of those threads?

I met a Capricon woman on a blind date set up by my sister; who thought that we'd be a great couple/match. Neither of them knew that this wasn't the first time someone tried to set us up. The first time was in 2015. We have a mutual friend (a Scorpio woman) who really wanted me to get to know this Cap chick. The second time was in 2016 from a third person. By 2020, I thought "Come' on! if you're waiting for a sign or something, it won't get any clearer than that". What are the chances that 3 different unrelated people tell you.."You know what.. check this out man".. 3 times over 5 years?

Anyway... We did a Zoom coffee thing, and she's attractive and what not... but I'm honestly freaked out about how similar we both are. We talked way longer than we should have about our mutual love for forensics TV shows (Dexter, First 48, etc)... and then she went on about how she liked "randomness", not knowing that it's a cancer man pleasure and specialty (being random).

We talked a few times since and she just keeps surprising me. She's feminine yet strong. Hardworking in an effortless way. She almost never asks anything about me... I'm not sure what to make of that... I know she recently broke off an engagement, so I'm assuming that she wants to take it really slow, and I'm doing my work by keeping her stimulated in the conversation by being funny, intelligent, etc... but still, I'm not sure if she's being cautious or if she is just cold.

To be honest, my gut feeling is that she's "The One", and I feel that I'm already forced to grow in ways that I did not ever think off. It's all too interesting, and I don't mean like butterflies in your stomach. It feels interesting like something is happening within the space-time continuum. I'm getting smitten before knowing that she's into me, and that's not cancer man territory btw.

But before I completely overthink this, any success/happy stories out there?

I don’t know of any Cap women with Cancer men, they are mostly with Pisces men. BUT.... my boss (a while back), was cheating on her Pisces husband and one of the guys was a Cancer man... and she went absolutely gaga for him.

She was usually a very controlled woman, shy and giggly about sexual/emotional stuff but not about starting affairs...🥴🤷🏻‍♀️

But, back to you; I think these are all great signs. Your sister and your Scorpio friend... both people that know you well and know her well - were objectively identifying all the similarities between you two without being emotionally fogged/involved. I think that is very telling and very promising.

I usually detest dates or getting set up. Not sure if that is how you feel as well, or why you are barely meeting her now, after being told of the same girl before?

BUT... it is also VERY promising that you two hit it off and naturally flowed!

From what I remembered about my boss, she loved how affectionate he was, how caring, demonstrative, protective of her... those things were golden to her. She was very independent and you need to dig a bit to get to her soft, mushy side... very romantic. Or, maybe SHE wasn’t romantic, but, loved men (and friends like me) that were more expressive about their emotions and vulnerabilities.... even though, it was very difficult for her to express.

I don’t know... I say keep contact with your Cap and keep flowing with her. I’m sure the bond will only strengthen with time!!



Sounds exciting 👏🏻

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I think I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing. I'll just see if she'd like to develop any "depth" organically. I'll keep this up for about 3 months, I think. I would probably start sending her flowers 6-8 weeks from now, and at the end of the 3 months, I'd force some clarity. Whether she would like to be friends or if she would like to start something...

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What are the other placements? Moon, Merc, Venus, Mars..

Sun------------Cancer------------Capricorn

Moon--------- Sagittarius--------Leo

Mercury------- Leo----------------Capricorn

Venus----------Cancer------------Sagittarius

Mars-----------Scorpio-----------Capricorn

Jupiter---------Capricorn---------Virgo

Saturn---------Scorpio------------Aquarius

Uranus--------Sagittarius---------Capricorn

Neptune------Sagittarius---------Capricorn

Pluto----------Libra---------------Scorpio

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Yeah, it's another one of those threads?

I met a Capricon woman on a blind date set up by my sister; who thought that we'd be a great couple/match. Neither of them knew that this wasn't the first time someone tried to set us up. The first time was in 2015. We have a mutual friend (a Scorpio woman) who really wanted me to get to know this Cap chick. The second time was in 2016 from a third person. By 2020, I thought "Come' on! if you're waiting for a sign or something, it won't get any clearer than that". What are the chances that 3 different unrelated people tell you.."You know what.. check this out man".. 3 times over 5 years?

Anyway... We did a Zoom coffee thing, and she's attractive and what not... but I'm honestly freaked out about how similar we both are. We talked way longer than we should have about our mutual love for forensics TV shows (Dexter, First 48, etc)... and then she went on about how she liked "randomness", not knowing that it's a cancer man pleasure and specialty (being random).

We talked a few times since and she just keeps surprising me. She's feminine yet strong. Hardworking in an effortless way. She almost never asks anything about me... I'm not sure what to make of that... I know she recently broke off an engagement, so I'm assuming that she wants to take it really slow, and I'm doing my work by keeping her stimulated in the conversation by being funny, intelligent, etc... but still, I'm not sure if she's being cautious or if she is just cold.

To be honest, my gut feeling is that she's "The One", and I feel that I'm already forced to grow in ways that I did not ever think off. It's all too interesting, and I don't mean like butterflies in your stomach. It feels interesting like something is happening within the space-time continuum. I'm getting smitten before knowing that she's into me, and that's not cancer man territory btw.

But before I completely overthink this, any success/happy stories out there?

I don’t know of any Cap women with Cancer men, they are mostly with Pisces men. BUT.... my boss (a while back), was cheating on her Pisces husband and one of the guys was a Cancer man... and she went absolutely gaga for him.

She was usually a very controlled woman, shy and giggly about sexual/emotional stuff but not about starting affairs...🥴🤷🏻‍♀️

But, back to you; I think these are all great signs. Your sister and your Scorpio friend... both people that know you well and know her well - were objectively identifying all the similarities between you two without being emotionally fogged/involved. I think that is very telling and very promising.

I usually detest dates or getting set up. Not sure if that is how you feel as well, or why you are barely meeting her now, after being told of the same girl before?

BUT... it is also VERY promising that you two hit it off and naturally flowed!

From what I remembered about my boss, she loved how affectionate he was, how caring, demonstrative, protective of her... those things were golden to her. She was very independent and you need to dig a bit to get to her soft, mushy side... very romantic. Or, maybe SHE wasn’t romantic, but, loved men (and friends like me) that were more expressive about their emotions and vulnerabilities.... even though, it was very difficult for her to express.

I don’t know... I say keep contact with your Cap and keep flowing with her. I’m sure the bond will only strengthen with time!!



Sounds exciting 👏🏻

I think I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing. I'll just see if she'd like to develop any "depth" organically. I'll keep this up for about 3 months, I think. I would probably start sending her flowers 6-8 weeks from now, and at the end of the 3 months, I'd force some clarity. Whether she would like to be friends or if she would like to start something...

Ahhhh.... well, organically means; don’t plan anything. So don’t plan your flowers and what you will do, when. Because you might set yourself up for HUGE disappointment if she isn’t on the same page.

Remember; she just broke off an engagement - so, who knows what her state of mind is and how she feels emotionally. If broken, she might sabotage anything that is good right now. So, protect yourself.

Let go of too many expectations. Just enjoy the present moment, that you connected well with her and keep it THERE.

You said you took most of the initiative, so... allow her to express herself and also make some moves. She is CARDINAL like you. If she is interested, she will definitely take lead and make stuff happen between you two. So, sit back and see if she makes any moves. It’s the best way to find out if she is also interested in getting to know you more and you also become more appealing to her because she will make efforts in trying to attain you/ get to know you. Cardinals like to take action.

Your inaction will help you find out a lot without having to sacrifice too much of yourself.

I just read that she’s a fiery capricorn.

Normally inaction would only cause me to also be inactive. I tend to mirror, so as long as there is expressed interest, I would continue. Also, forcing me to consider where we stand only pushes me away. It takes 6 months or so to finally say, yes, to commitment even though my actions have shown commitment from the start. Unless someone needs to hear it vs see it, I’d recommend against forcing anything if the commitment is already there. I have Sag and Aqua influences with my Cap placements being in 12H.

Of course since this is a Cap with Fire placements, they’re probably going to respond to inaction differently and probably chase after what they want disregarding the sudden lack of interest shown.

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It's not about forcing a commitment...

At the moment, we're at this friend zone, just to give ourselves time. It just happens that I am much better at figuring out the jist of things than she is and there are a few things that I just won't talk about while we're in this "friend zone". Topics about the future, the past, baggage, insecurities, ambitions, etc. It would be unfair to me to open myself and be vulnerable in front of someone who is technically just checking things out. That's fine with me, for now.

Eventually, I think that would be exhausting for me. Its either she would like to explore and evaluate the topics that would lead to a relationship with me, or not.

It's kind of like "Are we past the situationship and into "some" relationship?", if yes, then yeah.. i'll allow myself to talk about that stuff that may lead to "exclusiveness". That's how i'm thinking about it

I can give you ANY specific advice on Cappy girls, as I'm in a relationship with one for a long time.

Cancer sun, Virgo moon, Cancer Ascendant.

It's a real trial most of the time. Capricorn women have a real dark, negative side you have to keep pulling out of the abyss on a daily basis.

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Posted by Logger

I can give you ANY specific advice on Cappy girls, as I'm in a relationship with one for a long time.

Cancer sun, Virgo moon, Cancer Ascendant.

It's a real trial most of the time. Capricorn women have a real dark, negative side you have to keep pulling out of the abyss on a daily basis.

Sounds depressing and heavy. Does she have water placements? 😅

I prefer to keep it light, soft...peaceful, and positive. I can’t deal with negativity / Debbie downers. In fact, I run from that stuff. Can’t stand conflict.

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There are extenuating circumstances for the heaviness. Cancer moon, Cancer ascendant, Mercury Capricorn

I hear you on the negativity - it's so frustrating at times...and the cynicism.

I'm at the point in my life where I despise conflict as well.

The positives are - she's conservative with money, except when it comes to clothes.

Posted by Logger

I can give you ANY specific advice on Cappy girls, as I'm in a relationship with one for a long time.

Cancer sun, Virgo moon, Cancer Ascendant.

It's a real trial most of the time. Capricorn women have a real dark, negative side you have to keep pulling out of the abyss on a daily basis.

How long have you two been together? And why are you still in that relationship if it's been so challenging?

Posted by LoggerCapricorn women have a real dark, negative side you have to keep pulling out of the abyss on a daily basis.

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I like their brand of darkness. It's cute. But I can't handle people being critical all the time.

Posted by Ripe

Yeah, it's another one of those threads?

I met a Capricon woman on a blind date set up by my sister; who thought that we'd be a great couple/match. Neither of them knew that this wasn't the first time someone tried to set us up. The first time was in 2015. We have a mutual friend (a Scorpio woman) who really wanted me to get to know this Cap chick. The second time was in 2016 from a third person. By 2020, I thought "Come' on! if you're waiting for a sign or something, it won't get any clearer than that". What are the chances that 3 different unrelated people tell you.."You know what.. check this out man".. 3 times over 5 years?

Anyway... We did a Zoom coffee thing, and she's attractive and what not... but I'm honestly freaked out about how similar we both are. We talked way longer than we should have about our mutual love for forensics TV shows (Dexter, First 48, etc)... and then she went on about how she liked "randomness", not knowing that it's a cancer man pleasure and specialty (being random).

We talked a few times since and she just keeps surprising me. She's feminine yet strong. Hardworking in an effortless way. She almost never asks anything about me... I'm not sure what to make of that... I know she recently broke off an engagement, so I'm assuming that she wants to take it really slow, and I'm doing my work by keeping her stimulated in the conversation by being funny, intelligent, etc... but still, I'm not sure if she's being cautious or if she is just cold.

To be honest, my gut feeling is that she's "The One", and I feel that I'm already forced to grow in ways that I did not ever think off. It's all too interesting, and I don't mean like butterflies in your stomach. It feels interesting like something is happening within the space-time continuum. I'm getting smitten before knowing that she's into me, and that's not cancer man territory btw.

But before I completely overthink this, any success/happy stories out there?

Grab her it's a great story for the grandkids. What're your birth dates?

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Posted by Logger

I can give you ANY specific advice on Cappy girls, as I'm in a relationship with one for a long time.

Cancer sun, Virgo moon, Cancer Ascendant.

It's a real trial most of the time. Capricorn women have a real dark, negative side you have to keep pulling out of the abyss on a daily basis.

How long have you two been together? And why are you still in that relationship if it's been so challenging?

Posted by LoggerCapricorn women have a real dark, negative side you have to keep pulling out of the abyss on a daily basis.

I like their brand of darkness. It's cute. But I can't handle people being critical all the time.

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A LONG time. Longest relationship of my life. I stick with commitments.

There is nothing easy in life, when it comes to relationships. She isn't particularly critical. That's not an issue.

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I can give you ANY specific advice on Cappy girls, as I'm in a relationship with one for a long time.

Cancer sun, Virgo moon, Cancer Ascendant.

It's a real trial most of the time. Capricorn women have a real dark, negative side you have to keep pulling out of the abyss on a daily basis.

How long have you two been together? And why are you still in that relationship if it's been so challenging?

Posted by LoggerCapricorn women have a real dark, negative side you have to keep pulling out of the abyss on a daily basis.

I like their brand of darkness. It's cute. But I can't handle people being critical all the time.

A LONG time. Longest relationship of my life. I stick with commitments.

There is nothing easy in life, when it comes to relationships. She isn't particularly critical. That's not an issue.

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Who do you have to keep "pulling from the abyss"? You or her?

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Posted by Ripe

Yeah, it's another one of those threads?

I met a Capricon woman on a blind date set up by my sister; who thought that we'd be a great couple/match. Neither of them knew that this wasn't the first time someone tried to set us up. The first time was in 2015. We have a mutual friend (a Scorpio woman) who really wanted me to get to know this Cap chick. The second time was in 2016 from a third person. By 2020, I thought "Come' on! if you're waiting for a sign or something, it won't get any clearer than that". What are the chances that 3 different unrelated people tell you.."You know what.. check this out man".. 3 times over 5 years?

Anyway... We did a Zoom coffee thing, and she's attractive and what not... but I'm honestly freaked out about how similar we both are. We talked way longer than we should have about our mutual love for forensics TV shows (Dexter, First 48, etc)... and then she went on about how she liked "randomness", not knowing that it's a cancer man pleasure and specialty (being random).

We talked a few times since and she just keeps surprising me. She's feminine yet strong. Hardworking in an effortless way. She almost never asks anything about me... I'm not sure what to make of that... I know she recently broke off an engagement, so I'm assuming that she wants to take it really slow, and I'm doing my work by keeping her stimulated in the conversation by being funny, intelligent, etc... but still, I'm not sure if she's being cautious or if she is just cold.

To be honest, my gut feeling is that she's "The One", and I feel that I'm already forced to grow in ways that I did not ever think off. It's all too interesting, and I don't mean like butterflies in your stomach. It feels interesting like something is happening within the space-time continuum. I'm getting smitten before knowing that she's into me, and that's not cancer man territory btw.

But before I completely overthink this, any success/happy stories out there?

I don’t know of any Cap women with Cancer men, they are mostly with Pisces men. BUT.... my boss (a while back), was cheating on her Pisces husband and one of the guys was a Cancer man... and she went absolutely gaga for him.

She was usually a very controlled woman, shy and giggly about sexual/emotional stuff but not about starting affairs...🥴🤷🏻‍♀️

But, back to you; I think these are all great signs. Your sister and your Scorpio friend... both people that know you well and know her well - were objectively identifying all the similarities between you two without being emotionally fogged/involved. I think that is very telling and very promising.

I usually detest dates or getting set up. Not sure if that is how you feel as well, or why you are barely meeting her now, after being told of the same girl before?

BUT... it is also VERY promising that you two hit it off and naturally flowed!

From what I remembered about my boss, she loved how affectionate he was, how caring, demonstrative, protective of her... those things were golden to her. She was very independent and you need to dig a bit to get to her soft, mushy side... very romantic. Or, maybe SHE wasn’t romantic, but, loved men (and friends like me) that were more expressive about their emotions and vulnerabilities.... even though, it was very difficult for her to express.

I don’t know... I say keep contact with your Cap and keep flowing with her. I’m sure the bond will only strengthen with time!!



Sounds exciting 👏🏻

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How do you know so much about your boss?

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I can give you ANY specific advice on Cappy girls, as I'm in a relationship with one for a long time.

Cancer sun, Virgo moon, Cancer Ascendant.

It's a real trial most of the time. Capricorn women have a real dark, negative side you have to keep pulling out of the abyss on a daily basis.

How long have you two been together? And why are you still in that relationship if it's been so challenging?

Posted by LoggerCapricorn women have a real dark, negative side you have to keep pulling out of the abyss on a daily basis.

I like their brand of darkness. It's cute. But I can't handle people being critical all the time.

A LONG time. Longest relationship of my life. I stick with commitments.

There is nothing easy in life, when it comes to relationships. She isn't particularly critical. That's not an issue.

Who do you have to keep "pulling from the abyss"? You or her?

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Cappy lady is extremely pessimistic about things, and has a dark, cynical side. To a large degree, from a career and financial perspective, there's no justification for this.

There's some things in her personal life that have been rough for her, but she gets obsessive about it.

If I look at her chart and read her placements, it's perfectly clear.

I've skimmed over the comments.

I just wanted to talk about her not asking about you much. This could be a red flag, but you need to spend more time with talking to her.

- she could be ready for a relationship, but is just being cautious

- does she talk a lot about herself?

- does she let you talk a lot about yourself? and is she listening? is she remembering? is she engaged?

Seems like you need a larger sample size in terms of your interaction. She should be sharing a little about herself (real stuff) and caring about the real stuff about you.

You need to get to know her more before you really think she's "The One". It's OK to have hope and dream ahead, but if this negatively impacts how you behave with her, you may turn her off and/or scare her. Try not to put her on a pedestal. Put her and yourself at the same level. It's hard to do when we are really into someone. I also understand that it seems like the Universe wanted you two to meet. But sometimes the Universe wants two people to meet for other reasons, it's not always to live happily ever after. Sometimes its to learn...to have fun...or both.

If I told you that I met a woman who isn't asking about me...is cautious...and just broke of an engagement...I'm confident that you'd pick up on the engagement thing as an issue. You admitted that you didn't even consider the recent engagement being an issue. This suggests that you may be a bit blinded by thoughts of "The One", which is understandable. I've been there.

I'm just saying there is a chance she's not ready yet. The fact that she agreed to go on a date with you suggests that she wants to try. If she's not ready, the more you push, the farther she will go away.

But you need more information.

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I've skimmed over the comments.

I just wanted to talk about her not asking about you much. This could be a red flag, but you need to spend more time with talking to her.

- she could be ready for a relationship, but is just being cautious

- does she talk a lot about herself?

- does she let you talk a lot about yourself? and is she listening? is she remembering? is she engaged?

Seems like you need a larger sample size in terms of your interaction. She should be sharing a little about herself (real stuff) and caring about the real stuff about you.

You need to get to know her more before you really think she's "The One". It's OK to have hope and dream ahead, but if this negatively impacts how you behave with her, you may turn her off and/or scare her. Try not to put her on a pedestal. Put her and yourself at the same level. It's hard to do when we are really into someone. I also understand that it seems like the Universe wanted you two to meet. But sometimes the Universe wants two people to meet for other reasons, it's not always to live happily ever after. Sometimes its to learn...to have fun...or both.

If I told you that I met a woman who isn't asking about me...is cautious...and just broke of an engagement...I'm confident that you'd pick up on the engagement thing as an issue. You admitted that you didn't even consider the recent engagement being an issue. This suggests that you may be a bit blinded by thoughts of "The One", which is understandable. I've been there.

I'm just saying there is a chance she's not ready yet. The fact that she agreed to go on a date with you suggests that she wants to try. If she's not ready, the more you push, the farther she will go away.

But you need more information.

Thank you for your post. I really appreciate it.

She recently broke off an engagement. I wouldn't invest emotionally here. She has a bit of baggage she needs to work through before she's ready for anything serious.

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She recently broke off an engagement. I wouldn't invest emotionally here. She has a bit of baggage she needs to work through before she's ready for anything serious.

I'm thinking of asking her about that. Its fair game, right?

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Posted by LadyNeptune

She recently broke off an engagement. I wouldn't invest emotionally here. She has a bit of baggage she needs to work through before she's ready for anything serious.

I'm thinking of asking her about that. Its fair game, right?

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Meh keep it light for now. Your still getting to know her. Unless your ready to talk about your ex's or get serious with her, cross that bridge when you come to it.

Cause atm its some zoom calls, nothing more nothing less.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

She recently broke off an engagement. I wouldn't invest emotionally here. She has a bit of baggage she needs to work through before she's ready for anything serious.

I'm thinking of asking her about that. Its fair game, right?

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As long as you ask gently. If you ask too many questions at once, it might come off as intrusive. Cap women are very private and like to open up when we are ready.