Purpleaqua01
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Tell him to get a babysitter. So not right for a first date!
I don’t think it’s appropriate
How old is the baby?
my mind wouldn't immediately jump to it being manipulative but more that he doesn't show very good judgment.
Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShine
How old is the baby?
4 smhclick to expand
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShine
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.click to expand
Especially with him and his son being jet lag would seem to make it uneasy to present your best self for a first date. If a lady took me up on this type of situation I would definitely walk all over her and not put her in a top tier category after only a week or two of introducing myself. Ugh major flags but hey if your that desperate best of luck.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShine
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.click to expand
Wow I wish I would’ve thought to say that.
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
Posted by FadedAriPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShine
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Especially with him and his son being jet lag would seem to make it uneasy to present your best self for a first date. If a lady took me up on this type of situation I would definitely walk all over her and not put her in a top tier category after only a week or two of introducing myself. Ugh major flags but hey if your that desperate best of luck.click to expand
That’s honestly how it feels & looks. I agree. But it was sprung up on me, it was like first pick him up from the airport, now he’s with his son, now his son is coming with us? & it is kind of manipulative. I just don’t want to be rude. He’s very sweet. But I already told him I have a zoom call so I won’t be able to pick him up. But I think I’m also going to come up with an excuse for tonight as well. I’m going to tell him to look after his son and make a time for me & him.
Posted by saggurl88
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
And you're going on a first date with him straight from the airport with his kid? This seems a little rushed IMO
Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShine
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Wow I wish I would’ve thought to say that.click to expand
You still can ... tell him you’ve rethought and it doesn’t feel right
I take issue with people putting their kids last
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShine
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Wow I wish I would’ve thought to say that.
You still can ... tell him you’ve rethought and it doesn’t feel right
I take issue with people putting their kids lastclick to expand
Ok that’s a good one. Thank you !
Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.click to expand
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShine
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Wow I wish I would’ve thought to say that.
You still can ... tell him you’ve rethought and it doesn’t feel right
I take issue with people putting their kids lastclick to expand
Dick first, kid last! lol
Most men think like this Hahaha
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆click to expand
He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lol
Posted by saggurl88
And you're going on a first date with him straight from the airport with his kid? This seems a little rushed IMO
Some men do this so they can get the cat sooner. I’m woke now lol. There’s no way he’s serious about me trying to bring his son on a first date. & if he is serious than that would mean I’d have to teach him how to be in a relationship & I don’t have the energy for that rn.
Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lolclick to expand
One post at a time! lol I don't multi task well when being told what to do 😛
Hmmm, 22 with a baby. He seems young and inexperienced, You're older correct? I would tell him that it seems like he has his hands full and to plan a proper date once he's settled at home.
I'm still wondering how he toted a kid around on a business trip- seems pretty far fetched to me.
Now he wants lunch and a a ride home. Does he even have a car seat for the kid to go in your car?
I’m about to be a true Aquarian rn. 👻 I was really fighting it lol
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShine
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Wow I wish I would’ve thought to say that.
You still can ... tell him you’ve rethought and it doesn’t feel right
I take issue with people putting their kids last
Dick first, kid last! lol
Most men think like this Hahahaclick to expand
Gross
Luckily my ex didn’t ....
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lol
One post at a time! lol I don't multi task well when being told what to do 😛
Hmmm, 22 with a baby. He seems young and inexperienced, You're older correct? I would tell him that it seems like he has his hands full and to plan a proper date once he's settled at home.
I'm still wondering how he toted a kid around on a business trip- seems pretty far fetched to me.
Now he wants lunch and a a ride home. Does he even have a car seat for the kid to go in your car?click to expand
I don’t have kids so do they need a car seat at 4 years old? I’ve never even dated anyone with a kid before. But he has 2 houses 1 out here & 1 in his home town. So I’m guessing the child’s mother had his kid now he’s taking him back to where we are
Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by FadedAriPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Purpleaqua01Posted by MyStarsShine
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Especially with him and his son being jet lag would seem to make it uneasy to present your best self for a first date. If a lady took me up on this type of situation I would definitely walk all over her and not put her in a top tier category after only a week or two of introducing myself. Ugh major flags but hey if your that desperate best of luck.
That’s honestly how it feels & looks. I agree. But it was sprung up on me, it was like first pick him up from the airport, now he’s with his son, now his son is coming with us? & it is kind of manipulative. I just don’t want to be rude. He’s very sweet. But I already told him I have a zoom call so I won’t be able to pick him up. But I think I’m also going to come up with an excuse for tonight as well. I’m going to tell him to look after his son and make a time for me & him.click to expand
It’s not rude standing up for yourself and setting boundaries. If he’s doing things like this now I can only imagine after the honeymoon stage in 3 to 4 months. You are making the correct choice so far in this circumstance.
Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lol
One post at a time! lol I don't multi task well when being told what to do 😛
Hmmm, 22 with a baby. He seems young and inexperienced, You're older correct? I would tell him that it seems like he has his hands full and to plan a proper date once he's settled at home.
I'm still wondering how he toted a kid around on a business trip- seems pretty far fetched to me.
Now he wants lunch and a a ride home. Does he even have a car seat for the kid to go in your car?
I don’t have kids so do they need a car seat at 4 years old? I’ve never even dated anyone with a kid before. But he has 2 houses 1 out here & 1 in his home town. So I’m guessing the child’s mother had his kid now he’s taking him back to where we areclick to expand
Yes they do need a car seat
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lol
One post at a time! lol I don't multi task well when being told what to do 😛
Hmmm, 22 with a baby. He seems young and inexperienced, You're older correct? I would tell him that it seems like he has his hands full and to plan a proper date once he's settled at home.
I'm still wondering how he toted a kid around on a business trip- seems pretty far fetched to me.
Now he wants lunch and a a ride home. Does he even have a car seat for the kid to go in your car?click to expand
All valid points you brought up about the kid and business trip. The 22 year old suitor that owns 2 houses can get an Uber..... uummkay
Is this the Leo/Aries moon guy you talked of before?
Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by saggurl88
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lol
One post at a time! lol I don't multi task well when being told what to do 😛
Hmmm, 22 with a baby. He seems young and inexperienced, You're older correct? I would tell him that it seems like he has his hands full and to plan a proper date once he's settled at home.
I'm still wondering how he toted a kid around on a business trip- seems pretty far fetched to me.
Now he wants lunch and a a ride home. Does he even have a car seat for the kid to go in your car?
I don’t have kids so do they need a car seat at 4 years old? I’ve never even dated anyone with a kid before. But he has 2 houses 1 out here & 1 in his home town. So I’m guessing the child’s mother had his kid now he’s taking him back to where we areclick to expand
He has 2 houses at 22 but wants a ride from the airport lol
I thought you said the kid was 4 months. I don't know about 4 year olds, depends on the size of the kid.
Does he want a date or an uber driver? I is Confucius
Posted by LadyNeptune
Does he want a date or an uber driver? I is Confucius
He’s basically just anxious to see me. I feel really bad. He bought me flowers. He says he has a gift for me. But idk something just doesn’t feel right about this 😔 it sucks I really liked him. This is why I don’t ppl with no air placements he doesn’t have any sense just all feelings !!!! Lmaoooo & I have 0 water placements. But I do have a Leo moon so there’s that lol
Posted by stardustmop
Put the Aqua placements on the line please. This isn’t even a proper date. This is giving someone a ride home from the airport with a meal in between. How well can you get to know each other with a 4 year old in tow? Their attention span is about 5-10 minutes. Let me tell you, 4 year olds have the audacity. I took my 4 year old niece on a hike and she insisted on being on my back uphill and then had the nerve to ask me why I was sweating. You don’t want to meet any 4 year olds.
I’m curious to see if he will step up if you cancel.
The audacity 😂😂😂 I’m dead. I’m pretty good with kids. But I mean the first date? I asked the universe/god for someone new & this is what I get lololol I mean he is everything I asked for, sending flowers, romantic, kind, attentive. But why so young fml
Posted by Hypnotoad
Imagine you're 4 and you only get to see your dad on the weekends and he goes and gets a baby sitter so he can get some kitty, or worse takes you on the date lol.
Great way to remember your Dad growing up hey? 😬
He could at least wait till the child is with his mum before he focuses on his love life 😐
Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by LadyNeptune
Does he want a date or an uber driver? I is Confucius
He’s basically just anxious to see me. I feel really bad. He bought me flowers. He says he has a gift for me. But idk something just doesn’t feel right about this 😔 it sucks I really liked him. This is why I don’t ppl with no air placements he doesn’t have any sense just all feelings !!!! Lmaoooo & I have 0 water placements. But I do have a Leo moon so there’s that lolclick to expand
If he's anxious to see you and likes you so much wouldn't he also be anxious to make a good impression?
Some of the darkest times in any persons life is circling the airport for pickup ijs. Not the sexy heart eyes filled first date you tell your grandkids about.
I don't know, I wouldn't do it. If it was me I wouldn't want someone to bring his baby on our first meeting. That seems very odd. So he brought the baby with him on a business trip? Who does that?? And when he has meetings who takes care of the child? Where's the mother and why she allowed him to take the child "on a trip"??
One thing that strikes, very odd and not in a good way. Not manipulative but dangerous in a way.
One thing that strikes, very odd and not in a good way. Not manipulative but dangerous in a way.
Y’all are right I snapped out of it. I’m going on another date tn with someone older 🤣 sorry baby Leo 😢 lol
Posted by Purpleaqua01
Y’all are right I snapped out of it. I’m going on another date tn with someone older 🤣 sorry baby Leo 😢 lol
It’s not his age but weird ways of trying to arrange a first date. TBH he sounds like a fraud. A lot of suspect behavior.
There’s no romance in this relationship if you continue. He’s looking for a mother for his kid. Tell him you’re busy and when he’s free for a as Real date, let you know the details.
Wtf let’s hope they don’t kidnap you or some scam. This wierd as fuck for a complete stranger to even ask u to pick them up. Let alone with ex.
This doesn't sound like a date though, it sounds like he wants to grab some food after the flight and he'll have his son with him. It might not be as serious as you think but a regular part of his life and how he will be when you guys (if you guys) go to the next level in your relationship. This is just a part of his life and you're catching a glimpse of it. I'd just casually bring up that I'm looking forward to our first date and dressing up. lol .
Posted by pisceanloves
I don't know, I wouldn't do it. If it was me I wouldn't want someone to bring his baby on our first meeting. That seems very odd. So he brought the baby with him on a business trip? Who does that?? And when he has meetings who takes care of the child? Where's the mother and why she allowed him to take the child "on a trip"??
One thing that strikes, very odd and not in a good way. Not manipulative but dangerous in a way.
Perhaps he has sole or majority custody and his job is flexible to allow him to have his kid at work. Or provide child care on site. Keeping your kid close is kinda sweet. That’s not really so much of a red flag IMO.
But I agree with you. I wouldn’t do it.
Imagine how miserable that toddler is after a long flight then add on meeting dads lady friend. Disaster in the making.
I feel sorry for the child, having a child for a father
I wish people wouldn’t do that...
I wish people wouldn’t do that...
Personally I think 18 is way too young to have a kid. I think I’m about ready now 20 years later… a young adult raising children without worldly knowledge and life experience is tough and potentially damaging. Especially seeing he’s not with the kids mom and the constant push/pull.
It sounds like he wants you to get in where you fit in. It’s cool he’s sweet and attentive, you sound like my aqua with her rebound. But don’t settle. He has some growing up to do and you are past that. Not to mention the love bombing will stop and you will start psychoanalysis and rational deduction(I see it already starting) … and you will regret it down the line.
It sounds like he wants you to get in where you fit in. It’s cool he’s sweet and attentive, you sound like my aqua with her rebound. But don’t settle. He has some growing up to do and you are past that. Not to mention the love bombing will stop and you will start psychoanalysis and rational deduction(I see it already starting) … and you will regret it down the line.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanloves
I don't know, I wouldn't do it. If it was me I wouldn't want someone to bring his baby on our first meeting. That seems very odd. So he brought the baby with him on a business trip? Who does that?? And when he has meetings who takes care of the child? Where's the mother and why she allowed him to take the child "on a trip"??
One thing that strikes, very odd and not in a good way. Not manipulative but dangerous in a way.
Perhaps he has sole or majority custody and his job is flexible to allow him to have his kid at work. Or provide child care on site. Keeping your kid close is kinda sweet. That’s not really so much of a red flag IMO.
But I agree with you. I wouldn’t do it.
Imagine how miserable that toddler is after a long flight then add on meeting dads lady friend. Disaster in the making.click to expand
I have yet to heard companies offer that kind of accommodation.
Added they don't seem to know each other at all and the father bringing his child along the way with strangers is considered as child endangerment to me.
He works in the music industry. Basically for himself. & yes he’s super involved with his child . I respect that actually. When I’m otp with him he’s cooking for him, I mean like a whole meal like he can really cook! But yes I told him about being girls around his son, he claims I’m the only one. I hope me & him can be friends one day cause he’s just 2 young for me.
Posted by hellosaggy
Personally I think 18 is way too young to have a kid. I think I’m about ready now 20 years later… a young adult raising children without worldly knowledge and life experience is tough and potentially damaging. Especially seeing he’s not with the kids mom and the constant push/pull.
It sounds like he wants you to get in where you fit in. It’s cool he’s sweet and attentive, you sound like my aqua with her rebound. But don’t settle. He has some growing up to do and you are past that. Not to mention the love bombing will stop and you will start psychoanalysis and rational deduction(I see it already starting) … and you will regret it down the line.
I’ve basically now been forcing him to slow down. I’m nit really answering his calls unless it’s what I want to do. I won’t settle. But when it comes to being romantic he’s got it down lol . That’s what I really crave rn. He doesn’t remind me of… anyone I’ve ever dealt with. He literally sends me roses everyday.
This wasn't a "date". It was a ride home from the airport.
"Normal"? no. Laziness and poor judgement at its best.
"Normal"? no. Laziness and poor judgement at its best.
Posted by stardustmop
... I took my 4 year old niece on a hike and she insisted on being on my back uphill and then had the nerve to ask me why I was sweating....
LOL. Gold.
Posted by Purpleaqua01Posted by hellosaggy
Personally I think 18 is way too young to have a kid. I think I’m about ready now 20 years later… a young adult raising children without worldly knowledge and life experience is tough and potentially damaging. Especially seeing he’s not with the kids mom and the constant push/pull.
It sounds like he wants you to get in where you fit in. It’s cool he’s sweet and attentive, you sound like my aqua with her rebound. But don’t settle. He has some growing up to do and you are past that. Not to mention the love bombing will stop and you will start psychoanalysis and rational deduction(I see it already starting) … and you will regret it down the line.
I’ve basically now been forcing him to slow down. I’m nit really answering his calls unless it’s what I want to do. I won’t settle. But when it comes to being romantic he’s got it down lol . That’s what I really crave rn. He doesn’t remind me of… anyone I’ve ever dealt with. He literally sends me roses everyday.click to expand
Roses every day?
Wow he is very keen 😍
Posted by littledreamerzPosted by Hypnotoad
Imagine you're 4 and you only get to see your dad on the weekends and he goes and gets a baby sitter so he can get some kitty, or worse takes you on the date lol.
"Parent of the year" dad right there /sclick to expand
I think he’s still figuring things out. He’s a great dad. I’ve actually never seen a man love being a dad so much. But he kind of treats his son like a best friend. If you know what I mean. But he has his son rn & prob doesn’t trust anyone else to watch him, he’s not from here only lives here for work like myself.
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